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Ever been left waiting by the phone?
Speaker 1 (00:30):
It's the Fread Show. Hey Ross, good morning, welcome to
the show. How are you?
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Hey?
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Good morning? What's going on with this woman? Kelly?
Speaker 2 (00:37):
We got to know how you met, about any dates
you've been on, and then where things are now, because
you know, you think you're being ghosted, which is why
you've called waiting by the phone.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
So what's going on?
Speaker 4 (00:45):
Yeah, I don't know. It's a strange one. Yeah, we
I've met the shirl Kelly is she's cool. We you know,
we did the whole dating app thing and you know,
a message and like conversation was good, Like I thought
it was going well, and she did give me your
number and I figured you know, I asked, because you
know those massages to get lost and different, you know people,
(01:09):
and so I was like, all right, let's let's take
this off the app let's message.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
So she gave me your number. We talked a little bit.
Speaker 4 (01:15):
We you know, we're texting, and we were planning a
first date, and then just ghosted.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
So you never went on the date, like you guys
ever even met.
Speaker 4 (01:22):
No, but like we were planning it and everything the same. Fine,
And I mean I don't know, like if she wasn't interested,
why would she give me your number?
Speaker 5 (01:28):
You know?
Speaker 1 (01:29):
Interesting? Interesting?
Speaker 2 (01:31):
So you guys, Yeah, that is weird that you would
get to that point and then just the person would
just disappear. It's like, why why would they even bother
to communicate with you or write to your point, exchange
numbers or whatever. Why would you do that if you
have no intention of meeting somebody exactly.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
So I'm just kind of like, all.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Right, yeah, that's strange, and I would want to know
what happened too. So let's play a song. Come back
into the second ross. We'll call Kelly. You'll be on
the phone at the same time, and the hope is
that we can straighten this out and then set you
up on another date that we paid for.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
So good. Yeah, sure, hey, Ross, Yeah, all right, welcome back.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Let's call Kelly. You met on one of the dating apps.
You got her number on the app, you switched to text,
and you guys were planning a date, talking about where
to go and when, and then she disappeared and you
have not heard a word from her. Sense so you
have her number, but now she's ignoring you. I mean,
she shouldn't want to see you. Why did she give
you her number? That's weird exactly. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
And like I said, the conversation was cool, like there
was never I look back at all the text and everything.
Don't think I said anything wrong.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
So I start planning a date and did not go
on and it's strange. All right, let's call Kelly now,
good luck?
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Ross, Thanks?
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Hello, Hi, this is Kelly. Yeah, Hey Kelly, good morning.
My name is Fred. I'm calling from the Fred Show,
the Morning radio show. The whole crew is here, and
I have to tell you that we are on the
radio right now and I would need your permission to
continue with the call. Can which that for just a second?
Would you mind?
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Sorry?
Speaker 5 (02:55):
What is this about?
Speaker 2 (02:56):
I'll take that as a yes. So we're calling on
behalf of a dude name Ross. I guess you matched
with this guy on a dating app, and then you
exchange numbers and we're talking about a date. Do you
remember this whole process?
Speaker 3 (03:07):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (03:08):
Yeah, I do.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Okay, Well what happened because Ross reached out to us
and said that you guys, I guess matched, and we're
chatting and then he got your number and then you
were on text talking about a date, you were planning
a date, and then you disappeared. So you kind of
ghosted him before you ever met, it seems like, and
he's curious and we're all curious kind of as to
why what happened.
Speaker 5 (03:27):
Okay, Yeah, So basically, yeah, I mean he seemed like
a great guy to me, but after a.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Few days, I just I realized he's just a lot.
Speaker 5 (03:40):
Like there's no other way to put it.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
He's just too much for me. What does that mean?
How can you know that via text?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
Like I can see if you met someone and their
personality was over the top, or you know, you weren't vibing,
there was no in person chemistry, But how do you
know he's too much over text?
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Totally, totally.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
So yeah, so I I did give him my number
because you know, he you know, it's it's just much
easier to communicate.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Off the app.
Speaker 3 (04:07):
And I literally, like the first night after I gave
him my number, I looked at my phone and I
saw he was calling.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Me like around nine pm.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
And I was like, that's a little that's a little
bit much.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
Call which.
Speaker 5 (04:25):
Stranger, you know, Like I don't, so I answered, I
don't even know why. And he was like, you know, just.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
Calling this say good night, which okay, I I thought
was odd and I'm guessing about your laughs is also
using it's odd.
Speaker 5 (04:43):
Like it was odd for him to call.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Me in the first place, right, let alone at nine
pm just to say good night, and like at this
point we're still strangers.
Speaker 5 (04:51):
But you know, I let it go and I was like,
maybe he's just super excited for Saturday, like I'll chalk
it up to that.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
And so yeah, So but then he proceeded to call
me every single night to say good night.
Speaker 5 (05:04):
Until Friday, until the day before the date.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
I mean, he wanted to you had a good night,
you know, like he did, you know, he wanted to
nine o'clock phone call is so scary, especially from a
stranger like.
Speaker 5 (05:17):
Jury, and five nights in a row, like that's really extra.
So I honestly the fifth time I let it go
to voicemail and I blocked him because I was just like, oh.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
This is the foot we're getting.
Speaker 5 (05:31):
Off, you know, like this is not right.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
There's nobody in my life who wants me to have
that good of a night, like under any circumstances.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Five days in a row. I kind of love it.
And I only say that nightly phone call from someone
you've never.
Speaker 6 (05:42):
Met, well, it didn't go bad yet with the date
didn't happen. So my only thing is like I think
maybe he was excited, but also like we we don't
call enough anymore. I feel like in there first dating,
I don't think.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
We call enough. My husband who I married, You did.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Not call your husband who you're married to supposed to be? Yes, okay,
I wanted to be clear on which husband we were
talking about, the one that you're married to the day.
Speaker 6 (06:04):
Okay, yeah, you know you did.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
When did this happen? I have a married woman and
her husband.
Speaker 6 (06:11):
Still feel like when we first started dating, he did
not call, and I.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Didn't like that. If you would have called prior to
the day. I think that'd be actually kind of cute.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Okay, so it was too much communication for you too
early on? It was like, what did it feel like
a little clingy maybe?
Speaker 3 (06:23):
Or yeah, it felt like yeah over the top.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
Cleany, Yeah, let me bring Ross in because there should
be no surprise you that Ross is on the call.
He wanted to see if we were having a good morning.
So Ross, you get your phone number, and you just
think like, Okay, that's that's my cue to start calling,
because I think a lot of people in this day
and age, they want to even a text before they call,
before you call, even if you know them, like hey
(06:47):
you free can we chat? You know, because people are
busy or they don't like to talk on the phone
as much anymore.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
But you didn't do that.
Speaker 4 (06:54):
No, I mean, Dann, sorry, if I was interested.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
I mean, we've heard so much worse, like this is
not the worst thing. You could not have answered the phone, Kelly.
I suppose if you didn't want to talk to him,
you could have just let her go to voicemail and
maybe established a boundary that way. But the dude, it's
hard for me not to see his side because it
might have been too much. But but how many men
(07:17):
on the dating apps, myself included, have done too little.
Speaker 5 (07:21):
I mean that's fair, but like, I think.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
There's definitely a lot of middle ground between calling five
times in a row and not calling at all, Like
one one call would.
Speaker 5 (07:32):
Have been okay, this to be.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Like yes, I mean, I suppose Kelly, you could have said, hey,
you know, I'm not a phone talker or not answered
the phone. And I think after maybe a couple of
times of you not answering the phone, hopefully he would
have gotten it.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
It's not as though he was calling you.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
Over and over and over and over again like a
in a single setting until you picked up. You know,
he was calling you at the end of the day.
Like I understand why that's not for everybody, but I
mean we've heard so much work, you know.
Speaker 4 (08:00):
You know, you know, women always talk about all I
want a gentleman. I want someone, you know, I want
a man who's gonna who's gonna be.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Proactive and do more and make.
Speaker 4 (08:09):
And so I'm doing that, I'm calling and that's a
turn off. Then all right, cool, I'll find someone that
will like come.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
On, I just I mean, listen, like I I guess
I appreciate like the sentiment, but like being a gentleman
doesn't mean you call someone you just met late at
night multiple days in a row. You know, Like again,
one instance chat would have been fine, but like five
times is not cool for me, Like especially like you
don't know what it's like as a woman to just
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like receive calls from you know, it's just like it
instantly puts you in this like scary.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
I'll tell you what, Like I don't know what something. Yeah, yeah,
I'm scary, I think might. I mean, I'm not here
to tell you how to feel. But I've had people
before say, like when I get their phone number before
I meet him, Hey do you want to you want
to chat? And they're like, no, I'd rather wait till
we meet, like i'd rather or hey, I'm not going
to give you my number, like I'd rather just meet
and and and then if I'm comfortable with the date,
(09:05):
then I'll give you my number and then we can
go from there. I just think if this is something
that was important to you or you were bothered by it,
I think if you had said something to him like hey,
I'd rather not talk till the date or I'm not
a big phone talker, or let's just chat on Friday
or whatever, and then he keeps calling, Well, then he's
then I think he's he's gone, you know, he's broken
a boundary. But you didn't say that, so I think
(09:28):
it's hard for me to to not think maybe he's
just trying, which I feel like women do say all
the time, I wish the guy would try harder, except
in this case, you wish he hadn't tried hard, which
is kind of tough for a guy to know when
he's not supposed to try hard.
Speaker 3 (09:42):
I just didn't want to be I didn't want him
to misconstrue me as being rude, you know, and like
I wanted us to start off on the right foot
and like give him the benefit of the doubt. But
I also like, if I'm going to date someone, I
want them to like know without asking that calling somebody
five nights in a row when we're essentially strangers it's
(10:02):
too much.
Speaker 5 (10:03):
That should just be something that way, you should know.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
She didn't want to be concerned as rude, so you
just go.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
See come on, yeah, I see aspects of both sides here,
but look, I'll ask the question Kelly, do you want to,
you know, hit reset here? Maybe and and Ross won't
call you until the date. You guys can go on
the date and see if it works out. I mean,
I think I see where his intentions were, and I
also think I see why you were hoping he would
(10:29):
sort of get the drift. But do you want to
try or no?
Speaker 3 (10:34):
I think that we're too far gone at this point.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Too far gone. She want a man that don't talk
to her at all, and I understand, well, but he.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
Didn't talk enough. It's probably not going to be great.
So he needs to talk to right him ount but not.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Only talk when I talk to you.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
Yeah, understood, understood, Yeah I got him. Hey, Ross, look,
I don't think you're a bad guy. I think, you know,
maybe we got to read the room a little bit here,
but I can also see the mixed message, or I
can see why you were where you were thinking and
you were drying. And I'm sorry I didn't work out,
but I wish you guys both the best at luck