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September 1, 2023 32 mins

With Lil Sazon Packettt back for a second episode. The ladies break down what la vida like for a real-life Latina content creator in front of la camera.

They touch on inspiring others online through your own vulnerabilities, online hate and how you react to the negativity.

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Speaker 1 (00:03):
I'm Honey Germy. My parents are Dominican. I was born
and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and
I'm a body positive advocate.

Speaker 2 (00:10):
I'm Carolina bermudez Sonkawns, but I was born and raised
in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama, and a worker bee.

Speaker 3 (00:18):
This is life and spanglish. You guys, we are having
so much fun.

Speaker 2 (00:22):
We had just such an amazing conversation with Lil Sasolm Packet.

Speaker 3 (00:26):
That we had to keep her for an extra week.
So thank you so much for.

Speaker 4 (00:29):
Being of course, of course I enjoyed myself. I'm glad
to be here.

Speaker 2 (00:33):
So now we were discussing on the last episode because
we were talking like we hit so many things, your
your rise to now making.

Speaker 3 (00:40):
This your career. We talked about your family not following.

Speaker 2 (00:44):
Your family's footsteps, choosing a different career, and we were
talking about body positivity and I wanted to stop down
to let you know just how impactful it is. But
there was a day where, you know, and this is
the thing where I hear all the time people like,
oh well what girl, why are you worried or why
are you so you know, upset you're this, You're that,

(01:07):
you know, like when we talk about bodies, you know,
everybody has their own body. You have to be comfortable
in your own skin. And I think we all have
our own insecurities. And there was a day where I
was really like not feeling myself and I was just down,
like about everything, you know what I mean. And so
again I go to Instagram and you know, I'm just
scrolling through and then I see one of your videos

(01:29):
where you're talking about how we have to like love
the skin that we're in. We got this one life
and how you have completely embraced who you are and
what you are, And so I wanted to share that
with people because there are so many of us who
need to hear things like this. Yeah.

Speaker 5 (01:45):
Yeah, It's like I said, I really believe that this
world will do everything in its power to make you
feel like less than, whether it's comparing or invalidating sometimes
how you feel about yourself. You could sit there and
feel like I have this issue and someone's gonna be like, oh,
but you don't have this, or there's someone who has

(02:05):
it worse. It's like, can I just accept like how
I'm feeling right now, so that I can get through it.

Speaker 2 (02:10):
That's exactly it, because it doesn't mean that I'm ungrateful.
I recognize I'm breathing, I can see, I can touch,
I can feel all of these things.

Speaker 3 (02:17):
But there are days where you just kind of feel
like blah.

Speaker 2 (02:20):
About yourself, you know, and I think that like there
also is that other side of like almost toxic positivity.

Speaker 3 (02:26):
Yeah, don't allow you to just feel the feeling.

Speaker 6 (02:29):
Like you can't.

Speaker 5 (02:29):
You can't just be real with yourself and say like
today I just don't feel like it because someone else
has to come in and be like oh but again,
like again comparison, and.

Speaker 6 (02:37):
You notice that we don't do that when somebody is like.

Speaker 5 (02:40):
Happy, like if I want a PlayStation and someone's not
gonna be like, oh, well, there's other people out there
that have mansions like can I accept my happiness on
this PlayStation? So I feel like when you're down, people
love to almost invalidate, like how you're feeling in that moment.
And I'm a big believer. If this is how I feel,
I accept how I feel. It doesn't mean I'm going
to stay here, but I have to acknowledge it in
order to get through it.

Speaker 2 (02:59):
Yeah, So no, we are talking with Lil Sasolm packet
three t's at the end because you gotta follow her
on Instagram all social media. So I wanted to bring
you back because we had so many different questions that
we didn't get to get to last week, and one
of the first ones is do you have any favorite
creators that you follow or like, how do you how

(03:19):
do you come up with the things that you like
post on Insta and TikTok eighty HD trauma.

Speaker 5 (03:27):
No, honestly, I kid you not like I put on
the camera and I don't know what I'm going to
talk about. I don't plan them out. I don't sit
there and be like today I'm gonna talk about this.
I put roll and whatever blurts out, I'm like, okay,
I guess that's what.

Speaker 6 (03:40):
We're feeling like today. But I have some creators that
I really look up to.

Speaker 5 (03:44):
They're friends of mine. I have this friend his Instagram
handle is rich black Guy. He does stuff with his son.
He's just very like he's so everything is like a movie,
and I love the stuff that he does. I have
another creator named Barbosa people who just rant New York City.
I love and I follow creators that you can just
tell that they're just themselves. They're not they're trying to

(04:06):
be anything else, putting on a whole show. I can't
sit there and watch other creators Like I try to
do my best to.

Speaker 4 (04:13):
Post up and get off the internet.

Speaker 5 (04:15):
Oh really, I do, because since when it becomes a career,
sometimes you get so mentally drained in doing so that
you don't even want to do nothing with social media.
Because again, when you're an influencer, everything is social.

Speaker 2 (04:27):
It's true.

Speaker 6 (04:27):
So at some point it's like I need to unwind.

Speaker 5 (04:30):
I have to remember what it was like to be
outside when MySpace was a thing, and like you know,
back in the days when social media just started and
you didn't know what to do with it. Like I
have to bring myself back so that I'm not everything
doesn't become watching the likes and the views and getting
upsessed with the follows and the unfollows and the hate.

Speaker 4 (04:46):
It's just it can take over.

Speaker 2 (04:47):
That can be toxic too, Like when you don't get
the likes on the video, Oh yeah, did you brush
it off? Or are you like.

Speaker 5 (04:55):
There are I have to detach myself from my work
in a sense where it's just like if I put
it up, I have to be like, well, I like it,
because before I used to be like, this is gonna go.

Speaker 7 (05:03):
Viral, this is a hit. Expectations were too high, too high.

Speaker 5 (05:07):
Girl was like, again, those are the videos I get
the three likes my first viral video, I will never forget.
We got two million on YouTube. All I did was say, hey,
I say the word talk, and I didn't realize I
had an accent. I So to this day, I look
at that video and I'm like, I don't understand why
you got two million views.

Speaker 4 (05:25):
But I'm in my mail truck talking about talk.

Speaker 5 (05:29):
I didn't realize they say talk, it's talk, but I
say talk and I just posted it, didn't think anything
of it.

Speaker 4 (05:33):
Two million views.

Speaker 7 (05:34):
It really be like that. A lot of the viral
stuff I'm like, okay.

Speaker 2 (05:37):
No one kid a million views isles things, Yeah, that
can really pop off. So it's like, but by the way,
she said my Space, I feel like we would be
in your topic.

Speaker 5 (05:47):
I miss I missed the top e. But I know
this worl could not handle a topic. They could not
excuse me. I was five yesterday. What you mean I'm seven.

Speaker 2 (05:59):
I think that you are in my opinion, a trailblazer.
But what does it mean to you?

Speaker 5 (06:04):
To me, I felt, you know, I realized earlier on,
I felt like there were so many I don't think
that there's a lack of Latina representation. I think there's
a lack of pushing the Latina representation and them being
big faces. I think that a lot of them are
slept on and channels are not being pushed the way
that they need to. So for me to get some

(06:25):
kind of recognition, it means a lot. And that's why
I'm such a I'm a big believer of putting on people.
I'm not a gatekeeper. I'm very much If I believe
in you, I'll share your stuff because sharing is free,
don't cost nothing to just tag people.

Speaker 4 (06:38):
And I think there just needs to be more of that.

Speaker 5 (06:41):
I think a lot at times with the Latino community,
we have a tendency of glorifying struggle where it's like
I struggle, so you need to struggle, And I'm not
about that. I think there needs to be more of
us who are willing to extend a hand of like, hey,
I made it here, and if I see you're trying
and I believe in you, here like I'll put you
on or I'll give you an opportunity, because there there
are many of us, just we're not on these bigger platforms.

(07:03):
And I think it's because, of course, not only is
it kind of against us the industry to kind of
put us on, but there's not enough support amongst each other.

Speaker 6 (07:11):
There's more competition.

Speaker 4 (07:12):
So it means a lot.

Speaker 6 (07:13):
To me to just be having a space like that
that could do that.

Speaker 2 (07:16):
And your voice has an impact, you know, and a
lasting impact. So I think that that is something that
people need to remember. But now, what kind of advice
would you give your younger self.

Speaker 5 (07:27):
It's gonna be all right, I don't chose those boys,
I would say, younger me.

Speaker 4 (07:35):
It's funny.

Speaker 5 (07:35):
Younger me was more wanting to be a wife than
wanting to be like a business woman. Like I always
was more into relationships and stuff like that. And not
that that's a bad thing, but I feel like there
was a part of me that I was always pouring
into other people and not willing to give that to myself.

Speaker 3 (07:51):
But don't you think that that is the example. That's
the example that.

Speaker 2 (07:55):
I had from my mom.

Speaker 3 (07:56):
Oh yeah, my mom.

Speaker 2 (07:58):
Gave up her entire Life mentioned this on the podcast
because she was raising six kids. My mom had dreams.
My mom never got to realize those dreams. But it's
almost like in our community, not only is it expected,
but it's venerated. Yeah, that you gave it up because
of the kids, you know, and even for people who
don't have kids, you're still giving up something like it's

(08:18):
such a selfless thing.

Speaker 7 (08:21):
But I think it's we not doing that no more.

Speaker 1 (08:22):
Care.

Speaker 7 (08:23):
I am so sorry, we just do that no more.

Speaker 5 (08:26):
It's honestly, to me, it's almost like a false sense
of humility at some point, because it's almost like we
can't even accept help if we're struggling sometimes.

Speaker 4 (08:34):
Because we feel like, no, as a Latina, you have
to have it.

Speaker 5 (08:36):
You have to be able to hold down the fort
and hold on a job and hold on all the stuff.
And it's just like it's okay to say that you
need help. And again, like you said, it's completely venerated
to the point that people feel like amongst the Latino community,
we serve the man and the kids and everyone else
gets served first, and we last the scraps, and you know,
it's it's honorable, And I'm like, no, there has to
be a point where you're like, it's okay to pour

(08:58):
into myself too.

Speaker 2 (09:00):
Okay. So I have two stories for you. Number one,
when my brother had three older brothers. When my brothers
would come they were in college and like they were
way older than me. But my brothers would come home
from with their friends from the bar, and my mom
would be like, Mama, Mama, I'll go see that, but
I need it, you know. Like my mom would say,
and I was like ten eleven years old. She would
be like, get up, we're going to serve the guy.
The guys are coming home. And it's like, I'm sorry,

(09:21):
you know, man. But by the way, I don't.

Speaker 3 (09:24):
Blame my mother. I think it's a cultural right.

Speaker 2 (09:27):
And then just this past weekend, Mark and I, my
husband and I went to we got a house in
Fire Island. We invited friends and I cooked for twenty
three people.

Speaker 7 (09:37):
Oh I cook, Yeah, I did salad. I did my
same day or you started a day before this.

Speaker 3 (09:44):
Is like, I mean, I started prepping as soon as
I got.

Speaker 6 (09:46):
Their Okay, good man.

Speaker 2 (09:49):
Everything right. So we're serving everybody and my husband looks
at me and he's like, where's your food? And I said,
I know he I thought, that's it.

Speaker 6 (09:56):
Yeah, wow, yeah, you.

Speaker 2 (09:59):
Know, upset, and he goes, why didn't you say anything?
And I said two things. Number One, I was so busy,
I didn't even realize.

Speaker 7 (10:06):
You don't come. You're just so distracted.

Speaker 2 (10:09):
But there was no more chicken thighs, you know what.
And he felt horrible and he was like, no, we
are getting you food. But it's just like it's one
of those things where we're so conditioned to be that way.

Speaker 5 (10:21):
We're so conditioned to not look at ourselves or the
mentality of being a servant instead of serving.

Speaker 4 (10:25):
Like I'm a big believer.

Speaker 5 (10:26):
I'll serve and I'll you know, take care of my
family and all that stuff, but I'm not a servant
where you're not.

Speaker 6 (10:31):
Going to treat me like lessons or forget that I
need have needs to.

Speaker 4 (10:34):
I need to eat some of that that I'm making.

Speaker 2 (10:37):
And it was seriously, the compliments were off the chart.
You know, you have to take that time and make
that space for yourself.

Speaker 1 (10:45):
That's a fact. Now I want to talk to you
about other creators. I know a lot of people in
this building who went to school journalism. They do this,
they do that, but they don't want to create content
because of hair, makeup, background, own sound video. You're out
here just doing you like, talk to them, please, I

(11:06):
want you to talk to them because I'm not getting through.

Speaker 3 (11:08):
To them talking to me right now.

Speaker 4 (11:11):
You're overthinking it. You're overthinking it.

Speaker 5 (11:13):
Look at some of the stuff, like even when I
told you about how my video went viral and I
was like talk And even to this day, I'm like, I.

Speaker 6 (11:19):
Don't understand while that one viral and I'm in the video.

Speaker 5 (11:22):
You know you're overthinking it because at the end of
the day, whatever message that you want to get across
has to be said. It doesn't matter how you look
the makeup of so people just need to hear what
you have to say. And if you're too busy caught
up in your own head about it, doesn't look There
was a girl who got four million followers off a
period a per uh.

Speaker 6 (11:37):
Please don't sit there and overthink the process of.

Speaker 5 (11:40):
Being of whatever messages you want to do, just do it.
Put the camera on and again, if you love it
and you have a passionate about it, and you have
something positive.

Speaker 4 (11:47):
To say, just go for it.

Speaker 2 (11:48):
I love that.

Speaker 5 (11:49):
And like I said, don't get caught up on the likes,
because the one that you have your hair and makeup
all done may get the ten likes.

Speaker 2 (11:54):
And then the one where.

Speaker 5 (11:55):
You're busted out, you know, Noah's hair is coming out,
that might be the one that goes viral, and that's.

Speaker 2 (12:00):
The one that people will appreciate because they can relate
to it, like you know, that's that's where people find
like that common thread. We're gonna take a quick break
and then I want to hear about what's coming up
next for you. So after this we're going to discuss
future plea. Okay, we are back.

Speaker 3 (12:17):
With my girl, Rita Lilsa so packet you had that
you know.

Speaker 2 (12:21):
By the way, this isn't easy. A lot of people
think like, oh, doing a podcast, everybody can do a
pocket this this is not easy.

Speaker 1 (12:26):
You're talking about her being interviewed us hosting.

Speaker 2 (12:30):
You know what I mean, because it's not something that
you commonly do, you know, I mean, I don't know
if you if you nod, well.

Speaker 7 (12:35):
She's doing great.

Speaker 1 (12:36):
We're just having a conversation here, you know, vibes and
life and san English exactly.

Speaker 2 (12:43):
Now, I do want to ask if you have any
plans to do stand up in your future because you.

Speaker 3 (12:48):
Are so fun like it. It comes so naturally to you.

Speaker 4 (12:52):
I get asked that all the time. I get so
many people you should just stand up.

Speaker 2 (12:55):
I've had people.

Speaker 4 (12:56):
Tell me that they'll like, you know, have they have
a venue for me.

Speaker 5 (12:59):
But truth is, I'm gonna be one hundred percent with
you guys. I cannot handle Heckler's And so I don't
do stand up because I know it will take one
Stacy and Josephine in the comments and in the audience
for me to be like world Star. And so I'm
not delivered from Egypt yet. So for me, it's just
better if I did.

Speaker 6 (13:17):
Not and I'm behind the camera doing it because.

Speaker 4 (13:20):
People and people people.

Speaker 5 (13:23):
There's a part of me that's still the Bronx side
that I'm like, all right, let's we have to be professional.

Speaker 2 (13:29):
She took off the hoops shout out.

Speaker 1 (13:35):
She's one of my favorite comed She is amazing. She
loves coming up to power. She's dope.

Speaker 7 (13:42):
She's Dominican and Puerto Rican. She's both and she's from
New York too. She's dope.

Speaker 3 (13:46):
No, but stand up is no joke. You really have
to be prepared and.

Speaker 2 (13:49):
You have to be quick, and you got I feel
like you are all of those things, but you know,
maybe like performing in front of a crowd isn't for you,
So like, what is the next goal? You know?

Speaker 5 (13:59):
Right now, my next goal is I'm opening up a
social media management company because i want to start putting.
Like I said, I'm a big believer in influencer is
it nothing without their following? And so now that I've
gotten too a space where it started to work for me,
I would love to be able to put other people on,
people of color, latinos and help promote their businesses and
get their social media's up and going for them.

Speaker 4 (14:19):
So that's what I'm doing.

Speaker 3 (14:20):
I don't know this, but were you self talk is like,
how did you navigate?

Speaker 2 (14:24):
You talked about your YouTube channel, you talked about your tiktoks,
you talked about Instagram. Was it just you sitting there
figuring it out.

Speaker 3 (14:29):
Finding out what works?

Speaker 4 (14:30):
Yeah, finding out what works.

Speaker 5 (14:32):
Because a lot of times I'm a big I like
to ask questions and I would always get the same
kind of common responses.

Speaker 7 (14:37):
Just work hard.

Speaker 5 (14:38):
It's like, okay, so you're not going to try to
give me something beneficial cool I had worked in the
background before, Like I've helped casting directors cast for projects.
And I've worked in media where I used to work
with influencers just like you know, helping them build their pages,
until I decided that I want to do it for myself.
So it's just a learning curve where some days you're
like this works, and then the algorithm changes and it's like,

(14:58):
well that don't work anymore.

Speaker 1 (15:00):
And social media it's like you learn everything today and
tomorrow you got to start coying.

Speaker 6 (15:04):
It's a monster. Social media is an absolute monster, and.

Speaker 2 (15:06):
It's so crazy that just in the past however many years,
you know, like what since Facebook started or.

Speaker 7 (15:12):
Twitter, probably like the last ten to fifteen.

Speaker 6 (15:14):
Years made it harder.

Speaker 5 (15:15):
It's because so many people started going viral and becoming
you know, huge content creators.

Speaker 6 (15:20):
They started to make it harder, which is why they
switched the algorithm so much.

Speaker 5 (15:23):
So you really have to kind of be on top
of like, Okay, I'm noticing that the views don't look
the same and it's the same type of content shadow
bands you get get shadow band. I had a page
gaint shadow bands, and then I started the little sets
Une package one in November because I had a page
of like thirty thousand followers, and I was like, I know,
there's a reason why I'm not growing.

Speaker 2 (15:41):
I was like, there's absolutely.

Speaker 6 (15:41):
I was like, I am posting every day consistently, my
views are not there.

Speaker 4 (15:44):
I think I'm shadow band. So I had to start
a new page.

Speaker 2 (15:47):
That is so wild because there's a guy in South
Dakota that makes leather wallets and he has more followers
than I've been in that industry for twenty day. Yeah,
I was just grinding and hustling.

Speaker 3 (15:57):
I'm like, I don't get it.

Speaker 2 (15:58):
I don't get it.

Speaker 3 (15:58):
It's like my growth is just like boom, it just stopped,
you know. So there might be something going.

Speaker 1 (16:03):
On with page like that's like niche pages and stuff
like that. It's like, oh okay, you love let's say
cats and sunglasses.

Speaker 7 (16:10):
Every single human that likes that will follow.

Speaker 2 (16:13):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (16:13):
So sometimes yeah, like that's the way I find your thing, Carolina,
because it's like people look for like very like you say,
the guy with the wallets that makes the wallets. People
sit there and probably just idea, what is.

Speaker 2 (16:26):
This guy doing?

Speaker 3 (16:27):
He was he was putting like these he was like
stamping these leather wallets.

Speaker 2 (16:31):
And he was just in his studio and he had
music on.

Speaker 7 (16:33):
In the background and you were just stop.

Speaker 2 (16:36):
You know what your thing is?

Speaker 5 (16:37):
You're you are relatable And I don't even think you
even realize how relatable you are, maybe because you've spent
so much time on radio and like and like you
always are interviewing other people and you have such a
one personality, But you are so relatable with just even
the conversation I was having you.

Speaker 4 (16:53):
Or we were getting a coffee.

Speaker 5 (16:55):
Just if people saw that other side to you, I'm
sure you would get more.

Speaker 6 (16:59):
Of views and even thought, just based on who you are.

Speaker 1 (17:01):
You don't have to try for any You are very
You're genuinely you. People love you. You're super relatable. The
thing is that you're not constantly posting. It's not your
bread and butter. You have your wife, you have a
morning show, you have children.

Speaker 7 (17:15):
If you commute into work, you.

Speaker 2 (17:17):
Don't have on social media.

Speaker 7 (17:22):
Because you don't.

Speaker 5 (17:23):
You know, that's a career and it's time consuming to
it takes all day.

Speaker 6 (17:28):
So if it's something like again, if you're not into
becoming this voute, you're perfectly fine.

Speaker 7 (17:33):
You're perfectly fine telling I.

Speaker 2 (17:36):
Do say to people because they get frustrated because they're like, oh,
you haven't been on for a week, I'm worried about you.
Do you ever get that from people like whenever you
don't post for a day or two, like.

Speaker 7 (17:43):
You post every day.

Speaker 6 (17:44):
I post twice a day every day.

Speaker 7 (17:46):
So that's her career. She makes that bread.

Speaker 4 (17:49):
If you don't love this, then don't do it. So again.

Speaker 5 (17:52):
You don't have to sit there and try and get
people to follow you or the legs or like I
don't get caught up and the likes and follows. Those
who support you and love you, they watch it and
that's it.

Speaker 2 (18:02):
No, okay, so now I want to switch gears. I
have seen your dating videos my DearS, and I have seen.

Speaker 3 (18:08):
The struggle, and I have heard the stories. Who is
the ideal man that can handle all of this?

Speaker 5 (18:18):
I can handle the right amount of spice. I love
a funny man. I love a big boy, but I
don't really I don't really have I love my little big.

Speaker 6 (18:26):
Boys I do.

Speaker 5 (18:27):
I love a little poofy chest that I bought, like rap,
pillowcases and stuff. I just want somebody. I cannot have
somebody that doesn't have personality. You cannot be like drywall
and expect something to work with me, absolutely not. I
talk a lot, and if I can't carry a conversation
with you, you have to go. So personality is one thing,
And unfortunately, I feel like loyalty is kind of something
that is a debatable now.

Speaker 2 (18:49):
And I don't have the time.

Speaker 6 (18:50):
I don't have the time to entertain somebody's gonna play
games with me.

Speaker 2 (18:53):
We discussed this in our like two episodes ago. We
were talking about like why do men cheat and all
this other stuff, and like that for me is like
the on negotiable because you know, again going back to
our culture, it's like and you even talked about you know,
like you know you you know, oh you know my
mom would say about my one THEO and they excuse it. Yeah,
and they would just brush it under the rock. Yeah.

(19:15):
And like I have cousins that, like, you know, I
may not even know which you know, bless them, but
you know, yeah, I feel like that is such a
non negotiable for me. So for you, it's loyalty.

Speaker 3 (19:24):
You need a big boy.

Speaker 5 (19:27):
I love the big boy, but my but my main
type is a grown man. Yeah, somebody who you communicate,
don't don't tell me that you're fine and you're not fine.
They always say that we do that, and they do
it as well, say that they're okay, and then next
thing you know, they find out they have some feelings
for something.

Speaker 4 (19:42):
So now tell me what's wrong, Poppy. Let's talk about
it exactly, loyalty. Don't have me out here looking stupid.
But don't you?

Speaker 2 (19:48):
So do you use Instagram? Like? Do people go in
your dms? Like have you ever gone there? Because I
feel like that's such a d I've never been seeing.

Speaker 7 (19:54):
I do not like.

Speaker 5 (19:56):
I avoid my dms because I used to get a
lot of peepy leaby.

Speaker 4 (19:59):
Pictures and I just cannot yes.

Speaker 5 (20:02):
And I was like, what makes what makes you think
that I'm interested in seeing your naked mole rat like
it looks like it's being held hostage.

Speaker 4 (20:11):
It doesn't want to take this picture, Bob.

Speaker 5 (20:15):
So no, I try to stay away from my dms
because a lot of them they're just they're always sexual.

Speaker 2 (20:20):
I want I want you to sit up my face.

Speaker 4 (20:21):
No, thank you so deep.

Speaker 5 (20:24):
No, there's a I said, I am somebody's mother.

Speaker 2 (20:29):
I wrote back to him, I said, I am somebody's mother.
I said, don't make me screenshot this and send this
to your mom and you don't want anywhere near.

Speaker 7 (20:36):
This drunk she got sexy pitch?

Speaker 4 (20:43):
Is that waxing?

Speaker 6 (20:44):
Oh my favorite?

Speaker 4 (20:45):
No, that's hazy.

Speaker 2 (20:47):
Is nuts. So now when we come back from the break,
we have a little feature here on Life in Spanglish
and it's called the Salon. So we take everybody to
the salon. And this is something that Honey and I
we love this because she used to go to the
Dominican salon and that's where you get all the tea
that you So we come back, we're going to head
to this line and you're going to help one of
our listeners with a problem that they have.

Speaker 1 (21:07):
After this, well, you know how it goes down when
you go get your hair done, mohe you asks for advice.
The older women Laslo, you know they came from Santiago
and shit, they're like, did maybe I'm wanning get that you.
So we decided we want to always, you know, encourage
our listeners to write in. They send us letters and

(21:28):
we take them into the salon. Today we have a
letter from Cci and she starts off saying, ola mista modis.
I know you usually help with relationship advice, not the case.
Cz people just love writing in about relationship advice, she said,
but I have something a little bit different recently, I
lost a lot of weight, over one hundred pounds down
since November twenty twenty one. But then Ceci goes on

(21:49):
to say, I am feeling more confident in myself in
so many ways, but the loose skin is making me
feel all types of self conscious. I want to start
dating and living my life again, but the loose is
holding me back. I brought this up to me Madre,
and she told me I was being selfish and I
should love the body that I am in.

Speaker 7 (22:08):
What do you all recommend? Sincerely?

Speaker 2 (22:11):
Cc oh cc.

Speaker 5 (22:15):
Okay, So here's my take on it. If you have
that little skin and let's say she can't do something
about it, like say she can't get surgery to remove it.
If she, you know, that may not be the course
of action, then whatever man you're gonna get involved with,
or a person you're gonna get involved with, wrap them
up like a tortilla and that skin. It is okay,
Like at some point you have to whatever your situation is,

(22:37):
if you can do something about it, then I recommend, like,
you know, trying your best to do something about it.
It's okay, to not like something and want to change it.
But if you can't do something about it or like
in whatever timeframe, accepting where it is. And you don't
have to hate yourself while disliking something about you. So, CC,
you got that extra skin, Ma, who don't like a
little extra meat on the bones?

Speaker 2 (22:58):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (23:00):
Flap that around like at the wire, ring it out.
It's it holds extra flavor. And plus that is a
celebratory thing.

Speaker 6 (23:06):
You've dropped one hundred pounds, CC, one hundred pounds.

Speaker 3 (23:10):
What a journey. One hundred pounds is no job.

Speaker 5 (23:14):
You dropped one of my cankles, CC, So please please
seec whatever and whatever you're going to do, just don't
hate yourself in the process of doing it.

Speaker 4 (23:25):
So that's my advice to you, SEC.

Speaker 5 (23:27):
And if you feel like you want to just go
on the dancy, I promise you there are grown men
out there who will just love your body and love
you for you. So don't settle for anybody who's got
a problem with that. You won CEC one hundred pounds down.
Congrats to you, boo.

Speaker 4 (23:40):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (23:40):
I feel bad for CC because I understand, but I
haven't dated in a long time. Well, I haven't gotten
naked in front of a new man in a long time.
But girl, when it was time to let them fit
us out and let that na got bounced, I would
not have wanted extra skin. I'm not even gonna lie in,
but like girl, embrace it, because I would have been
feeling all types of so comfort. I would have been
like a lu I'm gonna wait for you. I've struggled

(24:06):
with a lot of you know, body issues since I
was young. I've always been, you know, on the heavier side.
I've lost weight, I've gained weight, I've lost weight, and
I know that insecurity is a mother, especially when it's
time to get naked in front of a new man.
So yeah, you know, congratulations of losing the one hundred pounds.
But me, I'm always for plastic surgery.

Speaker 2 (24:24):
If you can get.

Speaker 1 (24:24):
Your money up, Cezy, and you want to cut off
that loose skin, I would say, go for it. Be
safe about it, you know, don't go back to the
motherland and die under the knife, because that's not a
good look. But if you can do it here in
the United States, by all means, do it. Whatever makes
you feel more confident and like putting yourself out there
in front of men and dating and having sex.

Speaker 7 (24:45):
Whatever makes you feel good. I say, go for it.

Speaker 1 (24:47):
Congratulations on the weight loss, but I understand you one
hundred percent.

Speaker 7 (24:50):
Can we make it okay.

Speaker 6 (24:51):
For women to do with their bodies what they want,
which means if they want to.

Speaker 5 (24:54):
Get plastic surgery safe, if you want to wear makeup,
wear makeup.

Speaker 6 (24:57):
If you don't want to make up, don't want to
make up.

Speaker 4 (24:59):
This whole competition of.

Speaker 6 (25:01):
Well I don't wear makeup and I do.

Speaker 5 (25:02):
Wear making it's soupid But that that used to drive me.

Speaker 4 (25:06):
Not whatever you want to do.

Speaker 2 (25:12):
Yes, I don't know the reasoning behind why somebody doesn't
feel like and I explain to people like they're like, oh,
you're always so done up, Like you know, you always
make yourself up in your videos.

Speaker 3 (25:20):
First of all, I make myself.

Speaker 2 (25:21):
Up every day.

Speaker 3 (25:22):
That's just me, okay, Like that's how I.

Speaker 2 (25:24):
Was raised, that's how you function. But I also have
malasma for my second child that is pretty drastic on
my left side.

Speaker 7 (25:31):
I would have never not you know what I mean?

Speaker 6 (25:33):
Or sometimes you want gold sparkles on your eyelashes.

Speaker 4 (25:36):
Like it's just.

Speaker 7 (25:38):
I've got my bronze to be.

Speaker 5 (25:42):
I don't feel like the world you have to explain
to the world as to why you want to do
with your body what you want to do.

Speaker 4 (25:47):
Just be safe about it.

Speaker 5 (25:48):
So one day you want to go no makeup, I'm
going to make up today. Do you if I want
to wear makeup and I want to, you know, make
some blue eyeshadow and make some colors happen, I'm gonna
do that, and it shouldn't should always be.

Speaker 7 (26:00):
Do you not love yourself?

Speaker 4 (26:02):
Are you insecure?

Speaker 7 (26:04):
Today?

Speaker 6 (26:04):
I feel like looking like Count Dracula.

Speaker 4 (26:06):
I just feel this way, and that's what I want.

Speaker 5 (26:08):
That's when you do your make Yeah, sometimes girl my rock,
that's it. You know, osborne but a bad and stuff.
So I just feel like to piggyback of what you said.
I completely agree if it gets to the point where
you're just like, listen, I really don't like it.

Speaker 2 (26:25):
I'm a big believer.

Speaker 5 (26:25):
If you can change something that you don't like, be
safe about it. The only thing I always say is
don't hate yourself through the process. But is it it
is completely okay to be like, you know what you
can't work off blue skin?

Speaker 7 (26:37):
Can you can?

Speaker 3 (26:39):
You can do with him, there's nothing that you can do.

Speaker 5 (26:41):
Other I gotta get cut off, you gotta get slip snip,
and nobody should have to tell you, oh well, you
just have to accept it. If you don't love it,
that's fine, you know what. I'm gonna get it changed
and I'm gonna be safe about it.

Speaker 7 (26:54):
And that's that.

Speaker 2 (26:55):
And I feel like I'm aligned with both of you
on your messaging because I do think like there are
some people who are just like, you know what, there's
more cushion, like let's do this, and there's also people
who like really are in there. They're almost like they're
almost like caught up in that space where they can't
get out of it, right, you know. And so it's
like I have to say, c see, your mom is
coming from a good place, though I know, you know

(27:17):
a lot of people's mothers have opinions all the time.
And I think that maybe what she's concerned about is
like she wants you to just get to that other
place where you're accepting yourself and you love yourself. But
when you look in that mirror, you do like what
you see, this is your life. This isn't your mom's life,
This isn't your you know, and and much like what
you said, there's there's so many men who are accepting

(27:38):
there's there's.

Speaker 5 (27:39):
A there's somebody that I My stance is this, you
don't get an opinion where you don't put a payment
if you are not paying for the surgery. If it's
something that I'm doing myself, you don't get to tell
me what I should or should not do it.

Speaker 4 (27:52):
That this is my body. I'm allowed to do it
to what I want. So again, if.

Speaker 5 (27:56):
You're not paying for it, if someone wants to get
it done, I don't think you should do it.

Speaker 4 (28:01):
Is it coming out of your pocket?

Speaker 2 (28:02):
I don't think so save it.

Speaker 6 (28:03):
So exactly, I don't. I didn't ask for your opinion, No, totally.

Speaker 2 (28:07):
And I do have to say to CC because people,
like I said, people look at me. They're like, oh,
what do you have to be insecure about? You're this,
You're that, you're skinny, your fit whatever, Okay, I tell
them lower the lights. Yes exactly. So you know, I
think that there is something to be said about making

(28:28):
a smart choice. Right. You have to research your doctors.
If you're going to go to a plastic surgeon, you
have to think financially because plastic surgery is such a risk.

Speaker 3 (28:39):
What would happen if it goes wrong?

Speaker 2 (28:41):
You could build up that money that whatever I'm making
this subject, that ten to fifteen thousand dollars is going
to take to cut off the blue skin. You could
have a complication. You need to not save ten to
fifteen thousand. You need to save even more.

Speaker 3 (28:52):
Because God forbid, you have to have a second surgery.

Speaker 2 (28:55):
You got to go back in. You got to be
prepared for that, because then that becomes another thing, right,
that becomes another hurt. But I will tell you this CC.
When I was younger, I gained a lot of weight.
I was on steroids. I had pneumonia, and then I
lost a lot of weight. So I was on steroids
for an extended period of time. When I lost my weight,
my breasts were not the same. I was twenty one

(29:16):
years old and I went to my mom and dad
and I said to that my dad's a doctor, which
I had mentioned. I said, Dad, I said I am
going to get breast and plants. And he said, no,
you're not. And I said, no, I am. I said,
but I can do this with you, or I can
do it without you. I would love for you to provide,
like you know your expertise, and help me find the
right surgeon, I said, And you don't have to pay

(29:37):
for it, but I've been saying for it, I said,
But I want your support and I need you to
understand why I'm doing this. I am a young woman
who does not feel comfortable in her own skin. And
when I look in the mirror and I'm d like
I'm twenty one day, I don't want to feel this
way every time I go on a date or feel
like this person isn't going to you know, it's going
to look at me and feel disgusted. And so they did.
They at twenty one. They said, look like it's your

(30:00):
body again. Can we allow women to, you know, do
it with their bodies? And my dad said, I think
this was such a good productive conversation because I didn't
look at it that way, because I said, I want
to say I'm twenty one now. If I don't do this,
and if I don't do it with your help, I'm
gonna go. I'm going to go and do something, and
I don't ever want to regret this. But I also
want to find the person who I want to feel

(30:21):
great about myself when I find the person who's gonna
love me, you know, so Cec. I hope we helped you.
I hope we didn't confuse you even more. Yeah you
know what I mean. But whatever you do.

Speaker 7 (30:29):
Just just be safe.

Speaker 4 (30:31):
That's a nassage.

Speaker 2 (30:31):
Hink it through. And also maybe have a heart to
heart with your mom because from women to women, I
think she really will understand where you're coming from.

Speaker 7 (30:38):
Yeah, you gotta be like mommy and Cera say, look
at your.

Speaker 2 (30:45):
True It is so true. Well, Rita, thank you so
so much for coming and for being a part of
life in Spanglish for these two episodes. We love you.
Where we're in call. We have to call her back at.

Speaker 1 (30:54):
Some Halloween too many say t ever holiday you want
that for I want that salad.

Speaker 7 (31:07):
You come, you come out.

Speaker 2 (31:08):
To my house.

Speaker 7 (31:09):
I will feel you.

Speaker 2 (31:09):
I'll have your drinks. I will do it all. Thank
you so so much for spreading your message and continued
success to you. I want to see you rise, I
want to see you shine less. Sending you just so
much love and I hope you feel it.

Speaker 4 (31:21):
Thank you so much.

Speaker 2 (31:22):
I do.

Speaker 4 (31:22):
Thank you.

Speaker 5 (31:22):
This is such an honor again to be here. Thank
you so much for having.

Speaker 2 (31:25):
Me, Well, everybody follow her. It's at Little Sussem Packet
with three t's at the end. I also and you
can follow us at l I Spanglish. I'm at the
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