May 23, 2025 • 40 mins
Do you ever get stuck asking yourself a bunch of hypothetical, “what if” questions that make you more and more stressed, even though the situation isn’t actually happening? You've probably found yourself in a stress spiral. In this episode of But Are You Happy, Dr. Anastasia Hronis will teach you the 5-minute method to stop a stress spiral in its tracks. You will also learn:
- The difference between a panic attack and stress
- When to seek help, and how.
- Why anxiety isn’t always a bad thing - and what it’s trying to teach us
- Why we worry and stress so much in the first place
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Speaker 1 (00:10):
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For mother Miya, I'm your host as Shany Dante. Welcome
to But are you happy? Because no, another personality quiz
won't fix you?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
And I'm doctor Anastagia hernis a clinical psychologist passionate about
happiness and mental health. Now do you ever get stuck
thinking about a hypothetical situation that isn't really happening and
asking yourself a bunch of questions that make you more
and more stressed, You've probably found yourself in a stress spiral.
Speaker 4 (01:03):
If you've listened to the show before, my voice may
not be familiar. I'm a mental wellbeing and self development leader.
I'm Australians fore Lunkan, and I'm constantly on a journey
of learning more about my culture and my passion. And
you could say purpose in life right now is all
around empowering teenage girls and young women.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
And I'm an academic and author. Most recently i published
a book called The Dopamine Brain. So my whole career
focus really is about how to help people develop new habits.
Speaker 5 (01:31):
To optimize their mental health.
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We're going to be shifting gears to bring you what
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or really.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Just curious about.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
And that's where you, Doctor Anastasia Heronis, you come into
the equation.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
We're going to be covering so many relevant topics like
how to stop dating the wrong person, how to say
no to the people we love, and how to actually
quieten down that voice in our head when it's been
really mean to us.
Speaker 4 (02:05):
In each episode, you'll be getting all of doctor Anastasia's
wisdom and knowledge, along with her clear takeaways specific guidance
for how you can apply this information to your lives.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Right now, as you may.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
Have guessed, we're kicking this season off with a topic
that we know so many of us can struggle with,
including myself, anxiety, worry, and getting calling those stress spirals.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Now, this is something so many of my clients have
been dealing with lately and you might be two.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
All right, let's jump.
Speaker 4 (02:36):
In, okay, on the stagia. How do we actually know
if we're anxious? How does it show up?
Speaker 5 (02:49):
Anxiety is a massive topic.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
There's so much for us to talk about here, and
it really does exist on a spectrum of experiences. It's
one of the most common things actually that a lot
of my clients are facing at the moment. And if
we put this kind of in the context of Aussies
around the country, about three million Australians actually live with anxiety.
It's about one in four of us will experience problematic
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anxiety at some point in our lives.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
That's a wild stat and just goes to show how
common it is. And we'd love to kind of unpack
anxiety because I feel like it does get a really
bad rap.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Yeah, it's so common.
Speaker 5 (03:25):
Yes, anxiety gets a bad rap.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
It doesn't feel good, right, And none of us like
to feel anxious, and so it's sort of classified broadly
as one of these bad emotions, an emotion that we
want to get rid of. We don't want to feel anxious,
so how do we get rid of it? But actually, anxiety,
along with every other emotion serves a really important function
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all emotions. It's important for us to think about them
as sources of information. They're like data points. They give
us information about ourselves, about the world, about.
Speaker 5 (03:58):
The environment around us.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
So I think it's crucial for us to be able
to lean into the information that an emotion actually gives us. Now,
if we circle back to anxiety specifically, the function of
anxiety is to essentially be the body's smoke detector and
smoke alarm, right, So anxiety is giving us the message
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that there might be some sort of danger or threat
in the environment that we need to be aware of
and perhaps then do something to protect ourselves.
Speaker 4 (04:32):
It's really great that you're unpacking this because I feel
like what I'm hearing is anxiety can actually be helpful
as well at times, which is very different to I
would say what we naturally have our definition of anxiety.
We want to shame it, there's a stigma around it,
we don't want to talk about it, we want to
push it away. Yet what I'm hearing is it's actually
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giving us more information about, you know, the context of
the situation that might be playing out. So in saying that, like,
how do you differentiate between when anxiety is helpful and unhelpful.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Anxiety will always show up in all of us throughout
our life, so we can't get rid of it completely.
So I think this question about helpful versus unhelpful anxiety
is really important. Unhelpful anxiety is when we experience anxiety
that's out of context. So let me explain what I
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mean by that. If we experience anxiety in a situation
that doesn't warrant us to be anxious, that's going to
be unhelpful for us. So if we're sitting in the
podcast studio right now talking and all of a sudden,
a big grizzly bear runs through the studio, we're going to.
Speaker 5 (05:41):
Feel anxious, Right, normal natural emotion.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
We want to feel anxious in that situation because anxiety
is going to prompt us to get up and run
out of this place. Right helpful anxiety so unhelpful anxiety
sends us a message which makes us overestimate the likelihood
things are going to go wrong. So I think this
is a great episode for us to be starting with
and talking about. But to answer your question, how does
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anxiety show up? I'm actually going to use a client
of mine we're going to call her Catherine, for it's
not actually her name, but to be anonymous, we'll call
her Catherine.
Speaker 5 (06:15):
She had to do a lot of public speaking for
her work and in her role.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
But would get this crippling, overwhelming fear of getting on
stage and making a full of herself and saying the
wrong thing. Now, there was no history of her ever
really doing that. She was generally pretty fine with her
public speaking, and even if she did kind of get
on stage and say something a little wrong, it wasn't
kind of the end of the world. So anxiety makes
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us overestimate that things will go wrong, but it does
another thing. It also makes us underestimate our ability to
cope if things do go wrong, because I don't have
a magic wand to say that Catherine will never get
on stage and never make a full of herself, right,
there is a world in which that could happen.
Speaker 5 (06:58):
So there is a chance.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
It's probably a small chance, but there is a chance.
But anxiety makes us underestimate our ability to cope if
that happens. So if Catherine got on stage and completely
forgot what she was meant to be saying in her presentation,
it would feel pretty crappy, like it wouldn't be a
nice experience for her. The crowd would probably be like, Oh,
she's forgot what she's meant to say.
Speaker 5 (07:18):
But in reality, it's a situation she could cope with.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
She'd just walk off, take a breath, grab her notes,
come back on the stage, keep going.
Speaker 5 (07:25):
Probably no one ever thinks about it again.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
So that's an example of where anxiety can be unhelpful
for us, because all it was doing was making Catherine
feel completely overwhelmed and stressed when she didn't really need to.
Speaker 4 (07:39):
I really love this too, because it kind of ties
back to your statistic that you' named before and how
common it is. But also what I'm hearing is that
even though it's common, anxiety can show up in different ways.
So I like that you're kind of giving us the
listeners different ideas of what that could potentially look like.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
Yes, And the reason it is so common is because
from a biological prehistoric perspective, anxiety was crucial for the
survival of the species. If we remember, it serves evolutionary
art function to protect us. It's just that nowadays we
live in a world, in a society, especially if you
live in here in Australia.
Speaker 5 (08:16):
Where we don't need to.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Be as alert for threats and dangers, but emotions exist
in a very primal part of the brain, so we
feel those emotional experiences much more on the anxiety, much
more than actually we need to, given how our life
and society functions these days.
Speaker 4 (08:35):
So what about a stress spiral? Like, what exactly is
a stress spiral? And how can you tell if you're
courting one?
Speaker 2 (08:41):
I love this because a stress spiral is not necessarily
a clinical technical term that I would use, but it
is definitely a term that many of my clients will
use right in sort of culture. And when people colloquially
talk about anxiety, they will talk about being in a
stress spiral. And so I guess what people are getting
at is this idea of getting deeper and deeper in
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an experience. Stress again, a normal natural emotion that will
all ex experience at some point in time when we're
feeling overwhelmed.
Speaker 5 (09:13):
With some sort of pressure. But what can happen is
we can get caught further and further in that experience,
which ultimately makes it more and more intense.
Speaker 4 (09:23):
So does that mean in a way with stress virals?
Because you mentioned and I hear it all the time.
It is thrown around a lot in pop culture. So
what isn't a stress viral?
Speaker 5 (09:33):
Then that's a good alternative question. What isn't a stress viral?
Speaker 2 (09:38):
What isn't a stress viral is when we experience stress
in a way that meets the expectation of a situation.
So if I have an impending deadline for work on
Friday and it's now Thursday and I haven't got it
almost done, stress is going to naturally come about. And
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stress can actually be a really useful thing in that situation.
Because I don't know if you've ever experienced this, but
a little bit of healthy stress helps us get things done.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Very true can confirm.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
So healthy stress actually motivates us to meet the deadline,
to get done what we need to do.
Speaker 5 (10:16):
Unhealthy stress debilitates us.
Speaker 4 (10:20):
It's really interesting because I'm hearing some common themes. Even
with anxiety, what we're hearing is it's helpful and unhelpful.
But also with stress, it's helpful and also unhelpful.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
So and that goes with all emotions. All emotions can
be helpful when they fit the context and when we
experience them in a way that feels manageable, but if
we experience them too intensely or too much or for
too long, they can become really debilitating in our lives.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
So is there a difference between anxiety in the body
as we feel it versus thinking anxious thoughts.
Speaker 5 (10:51):
Yes, absolutely, they're absolutely related.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
They're connected. So our thoughts, our thoughts are very powerful.
They certainly influence how we feel. So if I'm worrying,
if I'm going through that anxious thinking process, I'm more
likely to feel anxiety in the body. But one of
the things I interestly find in the work that I
do with clients is that people tend to fall into
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one of two categories. Some people will come into the
therapy room and they'll be able to describe to me
in great detail the physical.
Speaker 5 (11:27):
Experience of anxiety.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
So they'll tell me that they get anxious, and they'll say,
I feel my heart racing, I get sweaty, I feel dizzy,
I feel like I'm going to faint, my legs feel wobbly,
and I feel like I can't stand up anymore. So
they can give me all the details about what it
physically feels like in their body. Other people can come
in the room and tell me great details about what
they're thinking, their thought processes, and the things that they're
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worrying about.
Speaker 5 (11:53):
And ultimately, what we want to help.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
People do is have an awareness of both the thought
processes that can be quite anxious in nature and the
physical experience of anxiety in the body.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
So what about a panic attack?
Speaker 2 (12:08):
What exactly is that a panic attack is different to anxiety.
We could sort of summarize it as a much more
intense experience of anxiety in and of itself. So a
panic attack tends to last not more than ten minutes
on average, And when people experience a panic attack, they
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have this overwhelming physical experience of those anxious sensations, so
really intense heart racing, sweating, feeling shaky, feeling like they're
going to faint, And often people actually describe it as
a feeling where they think they're having a heart attack
or they think they might be dying. Like it's actually
quite a scary experience for those who do have panic attacks.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
Yeah, I feel like panic attacks. It's something I feel.
I hear all the time with people who've experienced personally
or observed someone else that they love going through one,
and it can be quite confronting in a way.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
And the thing is, often these panic attacks can feel
like they come out of nowhere. There isn't always a
clear trigger, So it's not necessarily like, you know, Catherine
about to go on stage worrying about is she going
to make a fall out of herself Pete. Someone might
literally just be sitting in the office and all of
a sudden they get this onslaught of anxious symptoms and
they have a panic attack. Sometimes the trigger can be
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outside in the environment, but actually sometimes it can be
an internal sensation. So for example, if I've had a
couple of cups of coffee today, maybe a few too
many cups of coffee, well my heart might be racing
a little bit faster than it usually would, and that's
because of the stimulant from the caffeine. But someone who's
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prone to panic attacks might be sitting in the office
and goof, my heart's racing. Heart racing equals anxiousness and anxiety.
What's happening in my life right now that I'm anxious about?
And so then they'll start spiraling down that rabbit hole,
Whereas it's actually just a physical sensation that they've picked
up on and honed in on. A bit too much.
Speaker 4 (14:11):
So does that mean, because what I'm hearing panic attacks,
it's definitely a really big it's a body sensation, it's
quite sounds quite severe. So then what's the difference between
just feeling anxiety in your body versus I'm having a
panic attack.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I think it comes back to the usefulness of the experience.
So when someone has a panic attack, it's for those
ten or so minutes, it's debilitating. It feels like they
cannot function. People might often have to actually, you know,
leave the room and excuse themselves, whereas anxiety in and
of itself might be uncomfortable, but we can still function
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in the world. It can motivate us to take an
action that's helpful for us.
Speaker 4 (14:51):
So it's a bit like there's a bit of a spectrum,
but if it's anxiety in the body, there's somewhat more
control around how you can move through it.
Speaker 5 (14:58):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (14:59):
Yeah, So you've told us a bit about Catherine with
her fear of public speaking. What are some of the
other themes you're noticing in your clinical work.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
Anxiety shows up in so many different ways for people.
But actually, interestingly, one of the recent themes I've seen
is this anxiousness and worry about big picture kind of
global events, So things like worrying about wars, worrying about
climate change, worrying about politics and how politics are going
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to influence the future. And often in these cases they're
issues that are so big that one person, you know,
can't necessarily change them. So there's this theme of anxiety
coming through the clinic room where people are feeling really
quite overwhelmed and sometimes also a little bit hopeless kind
of at the state of affairs in the world at
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the moment. So that's one thing I've seen more of,
particularly with climate change. Young people are really worried about
and wanting to talk about climate change at the moment.
But another one is cost of living. Things have become
so expensive at the moment. We're certainly in a cost
of living crisis, and that can range from people worrying
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about how they're going to, you know, afford to buy
a house one day in the future if that's one
of their goals, all the way down to do I
have enough money to buy groceries this week?
Speaker 4 (16:21):
I mean, the cost of living example is so relatable
and I think even for me personally, once I left
high school, I went straight into you know, university and
then went down that traditional path. But then I decided
to get into the startup world, so I started the
flourished journey, which I'm so incredibly proud of. But in
saying that, you know, startup life, you don't really have
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a very stable income, which means you can't really secure
alone for a home, and to be honest, when you're
in your early twenties, you don't really think about those things.
You think that, oh, that's a ten year problem. But
fast forward, you know, I'm thirty three. Now it feels
like society tells you, oh, you need to have a
house and have all the things set up.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
By thirty and that weighs on me.
Speaker 4 (17:03):
I feel like I feel like I am behind, even
though it's so easy to look at the highlight reels
on Instagram and know that it is the highlight reels,
but you still get sucked into it. So it's definitely
something that weighs on me. I'm not sure if that's
something you can relate to as well.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
Absolutely, this idea of kind of financially where we should
be at any point in our life and how much
we should have saved or what we should have done
with that money is, you know, something I can relate
to as well.
Speaker 5 (17:28):
But as I said, like a lot of people, a
lot of younger people are kind of thinking about this
and worrying about it as well.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
Yeah, I feel like there's a lot of shame around
talking about money, right, and so often we feel like
we're alone in it, or we feel like we're we're
the poorest friend out of everyone.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
And the stats speak to the opposite, right, So so
many people are actually struggling financially. And I was actually
looking at a report that came out last year from
Mission Australia and it surveyed almost twenty thousand people and
a particularly young cohort, right, So these were fifteen to
nineteen year old, and what they found is that fifty
five percent, so more than half, were significantly worried about
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and had anxiety about their financial security. And I was
just blown away when I read that, because I was like,
fifteen to nineteen year old, like we should be worried
about fifteen is like you know, the fight that you've
had with your friends at school and like you're going
to sit with at lunch and maybe studying for tests,
not financial security for your future.
Speaker 4 (18:27):
After this short break, duck down a stage is going
to teach you the five minute method to help you
break out of an anxiety spiral and stop an anxiety
attack in its tracks. At Asasia, I want to ask
you for two techniques today. First, I want you to
tell us what we can do for ourselves when we
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find ourselves spirally and what should we do for someone else.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
Let's start with ourselves.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
So the technique and the strategies that I'm going to
give you today are based on a type of therapy
called cognitive behavior therapy or CBT for short, and it
has the evidence behind it. It's sort of the gold
standard therapeutic approach that we would use for someone who
is experiencing anxiety.
Speaker 5 (19:16):
It's what I used with Catherine when.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
She was worried about getting on stage and doing her
public speaking. So what I first recommends to people, and this.
Speaker 5 (19:24):
Is going to sound really basic, but.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
Bear with me, is stop as a first step. Just stop,
take a moment, take a breath, take a pause. For
us to be able to do kind of anything effective
for ourselves, we first need to be able to just
stop and take.
Speaker 5 (19:42):
A breath and ground ourselves in the moment.
Speaker 4 (19:46):
It's really interesting because it can sound really basic, but
also it can be really hard when you're in it
so deeply.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
It's hard to stop.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
Yes, absolutely, and so I say to people, just like physically, stop,
don't take another step, don't say another word, you know, metaphorically,
even if you're sort of in a situation where you
are in a meeting at work or something, imagine yourself stopping,
but just kind of take that moment, take that pause,
take that breath, because once we've done that, we're in
a better position to help ourselves through the next few steps.
Speaker 5 (20:18):
So once we've stopped, we want.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
To take a moment to think about our thinking, reflect
on our thoughts, actually notice what our brain and our
mind is telling us. We were saying earlier that the
mind is so powerful, our thoughts are so powerful, and
they certainly influence us to feel particular ways. But not
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everything that we think, well, not everything that we tell
ourselves is actually true.
Speaker 5 (20:48):
We all engage in unhelpful patterns of thinking.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
We might catastrophize, we might be quite black and white
now thinking, we might just jump to conclusions. We do
all these sort of thought patterns quite naturally, but they
can actually be really unhelpful for us. So if I
circle back to Catherine, as I was saying, she would
be very fearful of getting on stage, and her brain
would be telling her, you're going to make a full
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of yourself, you're gonna stuff up, you're gonna forget what
you have to talk about, and then you'll have to
run off stage and everyone will be talking about it.
Speaker 5 (21:22):
For the next two weeks at work. So she was
telling herself all these unhelpful things that probably weren't actually
going to happen, and weren't very true, and weren't based
on any kind of history of that actually happening to her.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
So it's really important for us to be able to
identify what is my brain actually telling me, so that
I can then examine A is it true and.
Speaker 5 (21:45):
B is it helpful?
Speaker 4 (21:48):
I really like that moment of pause, and essentially we're
kind of zooming out to see what are we thinking
and if it is helpful or not helpful.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
And I find even journaling.
Speaker 4 (21:57):
Journaling is such a great way to actually put it
down on paper and then getting to the bottom of it.
I know, for me, there's been times where I just
look at the things that I'm actually thinking about and
I can't help but kind of giggle to myself, being like,
this is actually ridiculous. I would never say this to
anyone else, but you know, we're all our own worst
in a critic.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
So I love the journaling because actually seeing those words
that we're internally saying to ourselves on paper, we put
that distance between ourselves and the thoughts and so we
can see it with a bit more clarity. So once
we've stopped, we've reflected on our thoughts, we've identified that
maybe they're not that true or that helpful for the
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situation that we're in. I then encourage people to ask themselves,
what about this situation is in your control and what's
out of your control? Because once we can identify what
is within our control, we can make active steps to
have agency over that and change the thing that's in
our control. Sometimes we get stuck being so anxious about
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things that are ultimately out of our control that we
can't change, and that's really where worry becomes quite unhelpful
for us.
Speaker 5 (23:07):
So if we can focus.
Speaker 2 (23:08):
On what's in our control, we can take steps to
action that and create some change for ourselves.
Speaker 4 (23:14):
So what happens if you're too deep in the spiral,
and you know the strategies you've just mentioned doesn't actually work.
Speaker 5 (23:20):
What do we do?
Speaker 3 (23:21):
Then?
Speaker 2 (23:23):
This is great because it's all well and good for
us to be able to think about our thinking, But
if we're in a state of panic and distress and
complete overwhelm, that's actually a really hard thing to do.
So if we're at that eight, nine, ten out of
ten level of anxiety, I actually recommend that people instead
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utilize the senses.
Speaker 5 (23:46):
Right, So there's two different ways we can do this.
One is going.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
Down a pathway of what we call self soothing. So
this is using the sensors in a way that's really
comforting and nice and kind to help bring down that
level of stress and anxiety to a level that feels
more manageable. So if we think across the sensors, these
might be things like lighting a scented candle, smelling some incense,
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eating something that tastes really lovely or nostalgic, you know,
sipping on a hot cup of tea or oha. So
utilizing the senses in a way that's calming for the body.
Speaker 5 (24:29):
And people tend to have sensory preferences, so for.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
Me, I love touch. If I don't feel good. My
go to is it doesn't matter how hot it is,
put on a jumper. I find it, like, you know,
having a bit of a hug. Put on the jumper,
it's really comforting. Get under the douna, anything that sort
of is touching my skin is really calming and soothing
for me.
Speaker 5 (24:49):
I don't know a shanny. If you've got sensory preferences.
Speaker 4 (24:52):
I feel like, I mean outside of the matcha as well,
like food taste is really good, but also the senses
so dim lighting.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
It's just so calming.
Speaker 4 (25:01):
It feels like I'm in a spa, but I'm at
home with my fairy lights on.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
So yes, So the self soothing can be really effective
when we can't think our way out of anxiety, but
we want to physically do something to help regulate our anxiety.
Speaker 5 (25:16):
Self soothing is great.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
The other option that utilizes the sensors is a more
intense version of using the sensors, and this provides a
bit of a shock to the system. So if there
is one strategy I could give someone to help manage
their anxiety when it's at that ten out of ten peak,
it's utilizing cold cold water, really frozen ice packs from
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the freezer, a bag of frozen peas, whatever you've got
that's cold. It is incredibly effective on a physiological level
for reregulating our body. One of the things we try
to do is actually mimic what we call the deep
dive reflex. So this is something that all mammals actually have,
and it's ultimately this idea that if you jumped into
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a swimming pool full of cold water, you would naturally
hold your breath, Your blood pressure changes, your heart rate changes,
and this all happens because your body wants to conserve energy.
Speaker 5 (26:16):
And we can mimic this to our advantage.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
So I encourage people if they're feeling really overwhelmed, jump
in a cold shower.
Speaker 5 (26:25):
It doesn't feel pleasant, it takes a.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Bit, it gots to get in there sometimes unless you're
someone who regularly does cold plunges. But it can be
hard but incredibly effective. If you imagine yourself ten out
of ten anxiety, you know, hot, flush, heart racing, sweating, dizzy,
and you jumped in a cold swimming pool or a
cold shower, you would pretty quickly physically feel a fair
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bit better. Doesn't solve the problem of what's causing the anxiety,
but physically it helps reregulate us so that we're in
a better position to be able to manage the anxious
situation that we're faced with. If you can't jump in
the cold shower, I say, get the ice packs out
of the freezer. Bag of frozen peas you've got that's
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cold in the freezer, and put it over your head
and temples and around the eyes. This is the really
kind of effective place we want to place the frozen object.
Speaker 5 (27:21):
But also if you're out and about and you don't.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
Have a freezer bag or a cold shower handy, get
into woolies, go into the freezer aisle, open that door
and feel the blast of the colds.
Speaker 5 (27:34):
If you're in the.
Speaker 2 (27:35):
Car, turn on the air con, blast it into your
face your face.
Speaker 5 (27:38):
Is really effective for trying to regulate with the cold.
So it's my go to tip.
Speaker 4 (27:43):
Wow, you know, I'm so surprised that cold actually helps
because I know how much it can make me stress,
Like I assumed that it would spike my cortisol levels.
And yeah, I'm just glad that there's two options here.
I'm going to take the soothing route. Not sure, I
don't know, I'm not sure.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
About the cold therapy, but.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
The stress is probably more before you're actually, yeah, my thoughts,
that's the anxiety.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
Okay, cool, it's all clear.
Speaker 4 (28:10):
We're getting the breakthroughs here.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
This is great.
Speaker 4 (28:14):
So what if none of the techniques that you've talked
about still isn't working and someone stealing really deep emotional pain.
Is that when they should seek a psychologist or a
professional to get medication.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
Potentially, if people feel like therapy and these kinds of
strategies aren't working for them, that's definitely a situation where
we would encourage someone to go talk to either a
GP or a psychiatrist. Both can prescribe medications to be
able to talk through what the different options are. There
are so many different medications when it comes to managing
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anxiety and our mental health that it is really important
to see a professional to talk through what the different
options are. But what I would say is that medication
can be incredibly helpful, but is best when it's done
in conjunction with therapy because often what we find is
that if people just go on medication for a period
of time, when they eventually decide to come off it,
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if they haven't addressed what the underlying concerns and issues are,
they're probably very quickly going to.
Speaker 5 (29:18):
Go back to feeling anxious.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
So the therapy and the medication hand in hand can
be a fantastic combination for people.
Speaker 4 (29:26):
So you've just shared with us some really great techniques
around how to manage anxiety and panic attacks for ourselves,
But what about someone else?
Speaker 2 (29:33):
If we're trying to help someone else who is feeling
anxious and overwhelmed, the first thing I would recommend is
don't panic yourself. Don't take on that other person's anxiety
and panic and feel anxious or panicky yourself.
Speaker 5 (29:48):
Stay calm and stay with them.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
What I mean by stay with them is yes, physically
stay with them, but emotionally stay with them.
Speaker 5 (29:58):
Attune to what they're feeling, Listen to them, hear them,
validate them.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
Everyone wants to feel heard in life, and so often
it's the case that if someone's worried about something, want
to jump in with a fix totally.
Speaker 5 (30:12):
We want to say.
Speaker 2 (30:13):
Don't worry, everything will be fine, and probably never in
the history of someone feeling anxious as that actually helps.
Like if you say don't worry, everything's going to be okay,
the person doesn't walk away being like, uh, okay, great, Right,
if we feel overwhelmed and anxious, we want to feel heard,
we want.
Speaker 5 (30:28):
To feel understood.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
So that's sometimes the biggest thing that we can give people,
being there with them physically, but emotionally, being with them.
Speaker 4 (30:38):
Yeah, it's so it's so hard to do sometimes, I feel,
especially with women, we're so empathetic and when someone we
love that is struggling, it's easy to just subconsciously.
Speaker 1 (30:48):
Take that on.
Speaker 4 (30:48):
And I really like that you're helping us to separate
ourselves being like it has nothing to do about you
or how you showed up. It's purely what does that
person need right now? Really focusing on that person and
being there for them, attuning to them. So once we've
done that, the next thing is moving into helping them
through it. Right, But we don't want to assume that
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we know what that person wants or needs, right Ask them,
Ask them if there's anything that they know that's helpful
for them in these moments. They might be able to
say to you, yeah, you know what, I just need
you to talk to me about something else. Just distract me,
tell me what you've been watching on TV lately, Like,
let's just have a conversation about something else to get
me through this. So people are often well resourced at
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knowing what they need, and.
Speaker 5 (31:35):
That's where we can jump in and help give that
to them.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
If, however, someone doesn't know what they need in that moment,
if we ask them and they're not able to tell us,
that's where we can offer some suggestions and some solutions.
And sometimes the simplest one is actually us helping someone
get out of the space that they're in and just
going outside, taking a break, grabbing a cup of coffee, moving,
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moving the body, and moving out of their physical surroundings
and space in that moment.
Speaker 4 (32:06):
Okay, Anastasia, Because I'm someone that is always about having
to growth by It's so next time I'm going to
woolies or calls, I've got to go into the freezer aisle,
grab those frozen peas and stuck up by freezer just
for you.
Speaker 1 (32:20):
I'll report back on how it goes.
Speaker 4 (32:27):
After this short break, Anastasia is going to solve the
personal problem that one of you, our listeners sent us.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
Stay with us, Bib hereb Bib.
Speaker 5 (32:38):
I'm having a serious Cristis BRB having a crisis.
Speaker 4 (32:43):
Okay, I am really excited to debut this segment, which
will be bringing you in every episode of But Are
You Happy? This is where we respond to the dilemmas
or questions that you our listeners have sent us, and
Anastasia will provide her best advice. Our first dilemma comes
from Sydney.
Speaker 6 (33:01):
So I'm in my late twenties and I feel like
every conversation I have with my friends lately is honestly
is such a drainer, because all they ever want to
talk about is whether I'm wan they're going to buy property,
whether or not to pro create, or whether or not
to get married, And honestly, I just don't really care
about any of those things. But for whatever reason, there's
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still this weird pressure when you get to your late
twenties where you feel like you're in the panic years
and you do need to make all of these big
decisions that are going to set you up for like
the next ten years or more. Maybe what can I
do to feel like I can live the fun life
that I want to live, but also set myself up
the future and not feel stressed about what's around the corner.
Speaker 5 (33:40):
You are not alone in this.
Speaker 2 (33:42):
I've heard many people share similar stories about things that
they're worrying about.
Speaker 5 (33:47):
This idea of how do I have the life I
want now?
Speaker 2 (33:50):
How do I have the fun that I want now
and set myself up for the future as well? And
I wish I could waive the magic wand and give
a really short, simple solution to this, but unfortunately it's
not that simple. It's all about balance, right, And as humans,
we have a tendency to want to fund find a
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single answer to a problem.
Speaker 5 (34:13):
But in reality, I don't think there is a simple
answer here. Life is complex.
Speaker 2 (34:18):
We are complex, and so it's always about how do
we find balance between the fun and the enjoyment in
the short term with balancing those long term goals that.
Speaker 5 (34:30):
We might have now.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
If you're worried about making decisions that you might regret
in the future, i'd encourage you to reflect.
Speaker 5 (34:39):
On what your values are. So we all have values.
We might not always be aware.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
Of them, so it's important to take some time out
to actually reflect on what our values are. But essentially,
values are the things that are most important to us
in life. We can think of them as like a compass,
a compass that directs us down a particular path in life,
and from those values, we can set goals and tasks
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and activities for ourselves that feel really meaningful and values aligned.
The research tells us that when people live their life
in alignment with their values, they have greater overall life
satisfaction and contentment. So being able to reflect on those
values can be a really key part of helping us
make decisions for ourselves. And having that clarity around values
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can help us with making decisions about some of these
things that feel really big in life, you know, should
I have kids, should I buy a house, what should
I be planning for in my thirties, etc. Having a
knowledge of our values can help us make those decisions
that can sometimes feel really overwhelming, and also help us
reflect on are those values my own or I think
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what society has told me, you know, should be important
to me because that will influence our decision making as well.
Speaker 5 (35:58):
Is it that society has told.
Speaker 2 (35:59):
Me that owning a home, or having kids or being
at this point in my career.
Speaker 5 (36:03):
Should be important to me? Or is that actually what
my values are?
Speaker 4 (36:07):
I really love it because it's essentially doing your values
is getting to know yourself even more, which is important
and for.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
Any of the listeners out there, if you haven't ever
done this values reflection, have a go, get out a
pen and a paper, sit down at a desk and
just write out a list of the things that are
important to you. Write single words, right, So values are
things like family, health, adventure, creativity, honesty. Right, so there's
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single words. It's not like I value having a coffee
in the morning. What is it that the coffee in
the morning gives me? It's my moment of peace? I
value piece, I value enjoyment in life. You know what
is it that that thing gives me? What's the value
underneath it?
Speaker 5 (36:53):
Write them out.
Speaker 4 (36:54):
I really love that process because it's helping us to
look at Okay, what are the things that I essentially
love doing and what are the things that.
Speaker 1 (37:00):
I hate doing?
Speaker 4 (37:01):
And then underneath that is where we'll discover our values.
Speaker 2 (37:04):
Absolutely, And then for any of the listeners who want
to take it one step further, I'm giving a lot
of homework here, but reflect on am I actually living
my life aligned with these values? So, for example, if
I have the value of creativity, Okay, it's all well
and good to know that I value creativity, But am
I doing anything creative in my life? Because having the
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value doesn't necessarily mean that we're living out the value.
So if you can identify any mismatch, that's a really
great place where you can make some positive, healthy changes
for yourself.
Speaker 4 (37:39):
So if we have clarity around our values, would that
reduce our anxiety?
Speaker 5 (37:45):
It absolutely can. If we know what our values are,
we feel better equipped to make decisions in life.
Speaker 2 (37:53):
And so often, you know, anxiety can come from that
feeling of being overwhelmed like Courtney was, with what she
should do in life and how she should live life.
So knowing our values can absolutely help us reduce anxiety
and feel more kind of satisfaction and can in life.
Speaker 4 (38:11):
All right, everyone, let's get into our homework. Let's get
our values done.
Speaker 1 (38:25):
Atastasia.
Speaker 4 (38:26):
We have covered a lot of ground in today's episode.
Speaker 1 (38:30):
Can you give us a recap?
Speaker 4 (38:31):
We want the post it note on the bathroom mirror
reminders please absolutely?
Speaker 5 (38:36):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (38:37):
First up, anxiety serves a necessary function in the brain
and body. Second, sometimes anxiety can get a bit too intense,
or a situation doesn't warrant us to be anxious. Third,
if that's the case, we can mentally talk ourselves through
the situation by challenging those catastrophic thoughts. And finally, if
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it feels too physically overwhelming, soothe yourself using the sensors
or jump in that cold shower.
Speaker 1 (39:09):
Thank you, Anastasia.
Speaker 4 (39:10):
Guys, Next week we will be tackling the right way
to say no to people you love and really dig
into the ways that we can help ourselves deal with
toxic family dynamics and relationships.
Speaker 1 (39:22):
In the meantime, if you have any burnie.
Speaker 4 (39:24):
Questions or want to share your story with us, please
get in contact with us.
Speaker 1 (39:27):
We would love to hear from you.
Speaker 4 (39:29):
There are a few ways to get in touch, follow
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Speaker 2 (39:32):
Notes, and remember, while I am a psychologist, this podcast
isn't a diagnostic tool, and the advice and ideas we
present here should always take into account your personal medical history.
The executive producer of But Are You Happy is Naima Brown.
Speaker 1 (39:49):
Tarlie Blackman is our senior producer.
Speaker 5 (39:52):
Sound design and editing by Jacob Brown.
Speaker 1 (39:55):
I'm a Shany Dante and I'm.
Speaker 5 (39:57):
Doctor Anatheja Hornus.
Speaker 2 (39:59):
If this conversation brought up any difficult feelings for you,
we have links for more resources in the show notes.
Around the topics we discussed today, you can also reach
out to organizations Beyond Blue or Lifeline if you're wanting
more immediate support.
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Speaker 1 (02:16):
Right now, as you may.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
Have guessed, we're kicking this season off with a topic
that we know so many of us can struggle with,
including myself, anxiety, worry, and getting calling those stress spirals.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
Now, this is something so many of my clients have
been dealing with lately and you might be two.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
All right, let's jump.
Speaker 4 (02:36):
In, okay, on the stagia. How do we actually know
if we're anxious? How does it show up?
Speaker 5 (02:49):
Anxiety is a massive topic.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
There's so much for us to talk about here, and
it really does exist on a spectrum of experiences. It's
one of the most common things actually that a lot
of my clients are facing at the moment. And if
we put this kind of in the context of Aussies
around the country, about three million Australians actually live with anxiety.
It's about one in four of us will experience problematic
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anxiety at some point in our lives.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
That's a wild stat and just goes to show how
common it is. And we'd love to kind of unpack
anxiety because I feel like it does get a really
bad rap.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Yeah, it's so common.
Speaker 5 (03:25):
Yes, anxiety gets a bad rap.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
It doesn't feel good, right, And none of us like
to feel anxious, and so it's sort of classified broadly
as one of these bad emotions, an emotion that we
want to get rid of. We don't want to feel anxious,
so how do we get rid of it? But actually, anxiety,
along with every other emotion serves a really important function
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all emotions. It's important for us to think about them
as sources of information. They're like data points. They give
us information about ourselves, about the world, about.
Speaker 5 (03:58):
The environment around us.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
So I think it's crucial for us to be able
to lean into the information that an emotion actually gives us. Now,
if we circle back to anxiety specifically, the function of
anxiety is to essentially be the body's smoke detector and
smoke alarm, right, So anxiety is giving us the message
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that there might be some sort of danger or threat
in the environment that we need to be aware of
and perhaps then do something to protect ourselves.
Speaker 4 (04:32):
It's really great that you're unpacking this because I feel
like what I'm hearing is anxiety can actually be helpful
as well at times, which is very different to I
would say what we naturally have our definition of anxiety.
We want to shame it, there's a stigma around it,
we don't want to talk about it, we want to
push it away. Yet what I'm hearing is it's actually
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giving us more information about, you know, the context of
the situation that might be playing out. So in saying that, like,
how do you differentiate between when anxiety is helpful and unhelpful.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Anxiety will always show up in all of us throughout
our life, so we can't get rid of it completely.
So I think this question about helpful versus unhelpful anxiety
is really important. Unhelpful anxiety is when we experience anxiety
that's out of context. So let me explain what I
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mean by that. If we experience anxiety in a situation
that doesn't warrant us to be anxious, that's going to
be unhelpful for us. So if we're sitting in the
podcast studio right now talking and all of a sudden,
a big grizzly bear runs through the studio, we're going to.
Speaker 5 (05:41):
Feel anxious, Right, normal natural emotion.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
We want to feel anxious in that situation because anxiety
is going to prompt us to get up and run
out of this place. Right helpful anxiety so unhelpful anxiety
sends us a message which makes us overestimate the likelihood
things are going to go wrong. So I think this
is a great episode for us to be starting with
and talking about. But to answer your question, how does
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anxiety show up? I'm actually going to use a client
of mine we're going to call her Catherine, for it's
not actually her name, but to be anonymous, we'll call
her Catherine.
Speaker 5 (06:15):
She had to do a lot of public speaking for
her work and in her role.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
But would get this crippling, overwhelming fear of getting on
stage and making a full of herself and saying the
wrong thing. Now, there was no history of her ever
really doing that. She was generally pretty fine with her
public speaking, and even if she did kind of get
on stage and say something a little wrong, it wasn't
kind of the end of the world. So anxiety makes
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us overestimate that things will go wrong, but it does
another thing. It also makes us underestimate our ability to
cope if things do go wrong, because I don't have
a magic wand to say that Catherine will never get
on stage and never make a full of herself, right,
there is a world in which that could happen.
Speaker 5 (06:58):
So there is a chance.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
It's probably a small chance, but there is a chance.
But anxiety makes us underestimate our ability to cope if
that happens. So if Catherine got on stage and completely
forgot what she was meant to be saying in her presentation,
it would feel pretty crappy, like it wouldn't be a
nice experience for her. The crowd would probably be like, Oh,
she's forgot what she's meant to say.
Speaker 5 (07:18):
But in reality, it's a situation she could cope with.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
She'd just walk off, take a breath, grab her notes,
come back on the stage, keep going.
Speaker 5 (07:25):
Probably no one ever thinks about it again.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
So that's an example of where anxiety can be unhelpful
for us, because all it was doing was making Catherine
feel completely overwhelmed and stressed when she didn't really need to.
Speaker 4 (07:39):
I really love this too, because it kind of ties
back to your statistic that you' named before and how
common it is. But also what I'm hearing is that
even though it's common, anxiety can show up in different ways.
So I like that you're kind of giving us the
listeners different ideas of what that could potentially look like.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
Yes, And the reason it is so common is because
from a biological prehistoric perspective, anxiety was crucial for the
survival of the species. If we remember, it serves evolutionary
art function to protect us. It's just that nowadays we
live in a world, in a society, especially if you
live in here in Australia.
Speaker 5 (08:16):
Where we don't need to.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Be as alert for threats and dangers, but emotions exist
in a very primal part of the brain, so we
feel those emotional experiences much more on the anxiety, much
more than actually we need to, given how our life
and society functions these days.
Speaker 4 (08:35):
So what about a stress spiral? Like, what exactly is
a stress spiral? And how can you tell if you're
courting one?
Speaker 2 (08:41):
I love this because a stress spiral is not necessarily
a clinical technical term that I would use, but it
is definitely a term that many of my clients will
use right in sort of culture. And when people colloquially
talk about anxiety, they will talk about being in a
stress spiral. And so I guess what people are getting
at is this idea of getting deeper and deeper in
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an experience. Stress again, a normal natural emotion that will
all ex experience at some point in time when we're
feeling overwhelmed.
Speaker 5 (09:13):
With some sort of pressure. But what can happen is
we can get caught further and further in that experience,
which ultimately makes it more and more intense.
Speaker 4 (09:23):
So does that mean in a way with stress virals?
Because you mentioned and I hear it all the time.
It is thrown around a lot in pop culture. So
what isn't a stress viral?
Speaker 5 (09:33):
Then that's a good alternative question. What isn't a stress viral?
Speaker 2 (09:38):
What isn't a stress viral is when we experience stress
in a way that meets the expectation of a situation.
So if I have an impending deadline for work on
Friday and it's now Thursday and I haven't got it
almost done, stress is going to naturally come about. And
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stress can actually be a really useful thing in that situation.
Because I don't know if you've ever experienced this, but
a little bit of healthy stress helps us get things done.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Very true can confirm.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
So healthy stress actually motivates us to meet the deadline,
to get done what we need to do.
Speaker 5 (10:16):
Unhealthy stress debilitates us.
Speaker 4 (10:20):
It's really interesting because I'm hearing some common themes. Even
with anxiety, what we're hearing is it's helpful and unhelpful.
But also with stress, it's helpful and also unhelpful.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
So and that goes with all emotions. All emotions can
be helpful when they fit the context and when we
experience them in a way that feels manageable, but if
we experience them too intensely or too much or for
too long, they can become really debilitating in our lives.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
So is there a difference between anxiety in the body
as we feel it versus thinking anxious thoughts.
Speaker 5 (10:51):
Yes, absolutely, they're absolutely related.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
They're connected. So our thoughts, our thoughts are very powerful.
They certainly influence how we feel. So if I'm worrying,
if I'm going through that anxious thinking process, I'm more
likely to feel anxiety in the body. But one of
the things I interestly find in the work that I
do with clients is that people tend to fall into
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one of two categories. Some people will come into the
therapy room and they'll be able to describe to me
in great detail the physical.
Speaker 5 (11:27):
Experience of anxiety.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
So they'll tell me that they get anxious, and they'll say,
I feel my heart racing, I get sweaty, I feel dizzy,
I feel like I'm going to faint, my legs feel wobbly,
and I feel like I can't stand up anymore. So
they can give me all the details about what it
physically feels like in their body. Other people can come
in the room and tell me great details about what
they're thinking, their thought processes, and the things that they're
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worrying about.
Speaker 5 (11:53):
And ultimately, what we want to help.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
People do is have an awareness of both the thought
processes that can be quite anxious in nature and the
physical experience of anxiety in the body.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
So what about a panic attack?
Speaker 2 (12:08):
What exactly is that a panic attack is different to anxiety.
We could sort of summarize it as a much more
intense experience of anxiety in and of itself. So a
panic attack tends to last not more than ten minutes
on average, And when people experience a panic attack, they
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have this overwhelming physical experience of those anxious sensations, so
really intense heart racing, sweating, feeling shaky, feeling like they're
going to faint, And often people actually describe it as
a feeling where they think they're having a heart attack
or they think they might be dying. Like it's actually
quite a scary experience for those who do have panic attacks.
Speaker 4 (12:54):
Yeah, I feel like panic attacks. It's something I feel.
I hear all the time with people who've experienced personally
or observed someone else that they love going through one,
and it can be quite confronting in a way.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
And the thing is, often these panic attacks can feel
like they come out of nowhere. There isn't always a
clear trigger, So it's not necessarily like, you know, Catherine
about to go on stage worrying about is she going
to make a fall out of herself Pete. Someone might
literally just be sitting in the office and all of
a sudden they get this onslaught of anxious symptoms and
they have a panic attack. Sometimes the trigger can be
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outside in the environment, but actually sometimes it can be
an internal sensation. So for example, if I've had a
couple of cups of coffee today, maybe a few too
many cups of coffee, well my heart might be racing
a little bit faster than it usually would, and that's
because of the stimulant from the caffeine. But someone who's
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prone to panic attacks might be sitting in the office
and goof, my heart's racing. Heart racing equals anxiousness and anxiety.
What's happening in my life right now that I'm anxious about?
And so then they'll start spiraling down that rabbit hole,
Whereas it's actually just a physical sensation that they've picked
up on and honed in on. A bit too much.
Speaker 4 (14:11):
So does that mean, because what I'm hearing panic attacks,
it's definitely a really big it's a body sensation, it's
quite sounds quite severe. So then what's the difference between
just feeling anxiety in your body versus I'm having a
panic attack.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I think it comes back to the usefulness of the experience.
So when someone has a panic attack, it's for those
ten or so minutes, it's debilitating. It feels like they
cannot function. People might often have to actually, you know,
leave the room and excuse themselves, whereas anxiety in and
of itself might be uncomfortable, but we can still function
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in the world. It can motivate us to take an
action that's helpful for us.
Speaker 4 (14:51):
So it's a bit like there's a bit of a spectrum,
but if it's anxiety in the body, there's somewhat more
control around how you can move through it.
Speaker 5 (14:58):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (14:59):
Yeah, So you've told us a bit about Catherine with
her fear of public speaking. What are some of the
other themes you're noticing in your clinical work.
Speaker 2 (15:07):
Anxiety shows up in so many different ways for people.
But actually, interestingly, one of the recent themes I've seen
is this anxiousness and worry about big picture kind of
global events, So things like worrying about wars, worrying about
climate change, worrying about politics and how politics are going
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to influence the future. And often in these cases they're
issues that are so big that one person, you know,
can't necessarily change them. So there's this theme of anxiety
coming through the clinic room where people are feeling really
quite overwhelmed and sometimes also a little bit hopeless kind
of at the state of affairs in the world at
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the moment. So that's one thing I've seen more of,
particularly with climate change. Young people are really worried about
and wanting to talk about climate change at the moment.
But another one is cost of living. Things have become
so expensive at the moment. We're certainly in a cost
of living crisis, and that can range from people worrying
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about how they're going to, you know, afford to buy
a house one day in the future if that's one
of their goals, all the way down to do I
have enough money to buy groceries this week?
Speaker 4 (16:21):
I mean, the cost of living example is so relatable
and I think even for me personally, once I left
high school, I went straight into you know, university and
then went down that traditional path. But then I decided
to get into the startup world, so I started the
flourished journey, which I'm so incredibly proud of. But in
saying that, you know, startup life, you don't really have
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a very stable income, which means you can't really secure
alone for a home, and to be honest, when you're
in your early twenties, you don't really think about those things.
You think that, oh, that's a ten year problem. But
fast forward, you know, I'm thirty three. Now it feels
like society tells you, oh, you need to have a
house and have all the things set up.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
By thirty and that weighs on me.
Speaker 4 (17:03):
I feel like I feel like I am behind, even
though it's so easy to look at the highlight reels
on Instagram and know that it is the highlight reels,
but you still get sucked into it. So it's definitely
something that weighs on me. I'm not sure if that's
something you can relate to as well.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
Absolutely, this idea of kind of financially where we should
be at any point in our life and how much
we should have saved or what we should have done
with that money is, you know, something I can relate
to as well.
Speaker 5 (17:28):
But as I said, like a lot of people, a
lot of younger people are kind of thinking about this
and worrying about it as well.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
Yeah, I feel like there's a lot of shame around
talking about money, right, and so often we feel like
we're alone in it, or we feel like we're we're
the poorest friend out of everyone.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
And the stats speak to the opposite, right, So so
many people are actually struggling financially. And I was actually
looking at a report that came out last year from
Mission Australia and it surveyed almost twenty thousand people and
a particularly young cohort, right, So these were fifteen to
nineteen year old, and what they found is that fifty
five percent, so more than half, were significantly worried about
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and had anxiety about their financial security. And I was
just blown away when I read that, because I was like,
fifteen to nineteen year old, like we should be worried
about fifteen is like you know, the fight that you've
had with your friends at school and like you're going
to sit with at lunch and maybe studying for tests,
not financial security for your future.
Speaker 4 (18:27):
After this short break, duck down a stage is going
to teach you the five minute method to help you
break out of an anxiety spiral and stop an anxiety
attack in its tracks. At Asasia, I want to ask
you for two techniques today. First, I want you to
tell us what we can do for ourselves when we
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find ourselves spirally and what should we do for someone else.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
Let's start with ourselves.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
So the technique and the strategies that I'm going to
give you today are based on a type of therapy
called cognitive behavior therapy or CBT for short, and it
has the evidence behind it. It's sort of the gold
standard therapeutic approach that we would use for someone who
is experiencing anxiety.
Speaker 5 (19:16):
It's what I used with Catherine when.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
She was worried about getting on stage and doing her
public speaking. So what I first recommends to people, and this.
Speaker 5 (19:24):
Is going to sound really basic, but.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
Bear with me, is stop as a first step. Just stop,
take a moment, take a breath, take a pause. For
us to be able to do kind of anything effective
for ourselves, we first need to be able to just
stop and take.
Speaker 5 (19:42):
A breath and ground ourselves in the moment.
Speaker 4 (19:46):
It's really interesting because it can sound really basic, but
also it can be really hard when you're in it
so deeply.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
It's hard to stop.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
Yes, absolutely, and so I say to people, just like physically, stop,
don't take another step, don't say another word, you know, metaphorically,
even if you're sort of in a situation where you
are in a meeting at work or something, imagine yourself stopping,
but just kind of take that moment, take that pause,
take that breath, because once we've done that, we're in
a better position to help ourselves through the next few steps.
Speaker 5 (20:18):
So once we've stopped, we want.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
To take a moment to think about our thinking, reflect
on our thoughts, actually notice what our brain and our
mind is telling us. We were saying earlier that the
mind is so powerful, our thoughts are so powerful, and
they certainly influence us to feel particular ways. But not
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everything that we think, well, not everything that we tell
ourselves is actually true.
Speaker 5 (20:48):
We all engage in unhelpful patterns of thinking.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
We might catastrophize, we might be quite black and white
now thinking, we might just jump to conclusions. We do
all these sort of thought patterns quite naturally, but they
can actually be really unhelpful for us. So if I
circle back to Catherine, as I was saying, she would
be very fearful of getting on stage, and her brain
would be telling her, you're going to make a full
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of yourself, you're gonna stuff up, you're gonna forget what
you have to talk about, and then you'll have to
run off stage and everyone will be talking about it.
Speaker 5 (21:22):
For the next two weeks at work. So she was
telling herself all these unhelpful things that probably weren't actually
going to happen, and weren't very true, and weren't based
on any kind of history of that actually happening to her.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
So it's really important for us to be able to
identify what is my brain actually telling me, so that
I can then examine A is it true and.
Speaker 5 (21:45):
B is it helpful?
Speaker 4 (21:48):
I really like that moment of pause, and essentially we're
kind of zooming out to see what are we thinking
and if it is helpful or not helpful.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
And I find even journaling.
Speaker 4 (21:57):
Journaling is such a great way to actually put it
down on paper and then getting to the bottom of it.
I know, for me, there's been times where I just
look at the things that I'm actually thinking about and
I can't help but kind of giggle to myself, being like,
this is actually ridiculous. I would never say this to
anyone else, but you know, we're all our own worst
in a critic.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
So I love the journaling because actually seeing those words
that we're internally saying to ourselves on paper, we put
that distance between ourselves and the thoughts and so we
can see it with a bit more clarity. So once
we've stopped, we've reflected on our thoughts, we've identified that
maybe they're not that true or that helpful for the
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situation that we're in. I then encourage people to ask themselves,
what about this situation is in your control and what's
out of your control? Because once we can identify what
is within our control, we can make active steps to
have agency over that and change the thing that's in
our control. Sometimes we get stuck being so anxious about
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things that are ultimately out of our control that we
can't change, and that's really where worry becomes quite unhelpful
for us.
Speaker 5 (23:07):
So if we can focus.
Speaker 2 (23:08):
On what's in our control, we can take steps to
action that and create some change for ourselves.
Speaker 4 (23:14):
So what happens if you're too deep in the spiral,
and you know the strategies you've just mentioned doesn't actually work.
Speaker 5 (23:20):
What do we do?
Speaker 3 (23:21):
Then?
Speaker 2 (23:23):
This is great because it's all well and good for
us to be able to think about our thinking, But
if we're in a state of panic and distress and
complete overwhelm, that's actually a really hard thing to do.
So if we're at that eight, nine, ten out of
ten level of anxiety, I actually recommend that people instead
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utilize the senses.
Speaker 5 (23:46):
Right, So there's two different ways we can do this.
One is going.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
Down a pathway of what we call self soothing. So
this is using the sensors in a way that's really
comforting and nice and kind to help bring down that
level of stress and anxiety to a level that feels
more manageable. So if we think across the sensors, these
might be things like lighting a scented candle, smelling some incense,
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eating something that tastes really lovely or nostalgic, you know,
sipping on a hot cup of tea or oha. So
utilizing the senses in a way that's calming for the body.
Speaker 5 (24:29):
And people tend to have sensory preferences, so for.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
Me, I love touch. If I don't feel good. My
go to is it doesn't matter how hot it is,
put on a jumper. I find it, like, you know,
having a bit of a hug. Put on the jumper,
it's really comforting. Get under the douna, anything that sort
of is touching my skin is really calming and soothing
for me.
Speaker 5 (24:49):
I don't know a shanny. If you've got sensory preferences.
Speaker 4 (24:52):
I feel like, I mean outside of the matcha as well,
like food taste is really good, but also the senses
so dim lighting.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
It's just so calming.
Speaker 4 (25:01):
It feels like I'm in a spa, but I'm at
home with my fairy lights on.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
So yes, So the self soothing can be really effective
when we can't think our way out of anxiety, but
we want to physically do something to help regulate our anxiety.
Speaker 5 (25:16):
Self soothing is great.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
The other option that utilizes the sensors is a more
intense version of using the sensors, and this provides a
bit of a shock to the system. So if there
is one strategy I could give someone to help manage
their anxiety when it's at that ten out of ten peak,
it's utilizing cold cold water, really frozen ice packs from
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the freezer, a bag of frozen peas, whatever you've got
that's cold. It is incredibly effective on a physiological level
for reregulating our body. One of the things we try
to do is actually mimic what we call the deep
dive reflex. So this is something that all mammals actually have,
and it's ultimately this idea that if you jumped into
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a swimming pool full of cold water, you would naturally
hold your breath, Your blood pressure changes, your heart rate changes,
and this all happens because your body wants to conserve energy.
Speaker 5 (26:16):
And we can mimic this to our advantage.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
So I encourage people if they're feeling really overwhelmed, jump
in a cold shower.
Speaker 5 (26:25):
It doesn't feel pleasant, it takes a.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Bit, it gots to get in there sometimes unless you're
someone who regularly does cold plunges. But it can be
hard but incredibly effective. If you imagine yourself ten out
of ten anxiety, you know, hot, flush, heart racing, sweating, dizzy,
and you jumped in a cold swimming pool or a
cold shower, you would pretty quickly physically feel a fair
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bit better. Doesn't solve the problem of what's causing the anxiety,
but physically it helps reregulate us so that we're in
a better position to be able to manage the anxious
situation that we're faced with. If you can't jump in
the cold shower, I say, get the ice packs out
of the freezer. Bag of frozen peas you've got that's
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cold in the freezer, and put it over your head
and temples and around the eyes. This is the really
kind of effective place we want to place the frozen object.
Speaker 5 (27:21):
But also if you're out and about and you don't.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
Have a freezer bag or a cold shower handy, get
into woolies, go into the freezer aisle, open that door
and feel the blast of the colds.
Speaker 5 (27:34):
If you're in the.
Speaker 2 (27:35):
Car, turn on the air con, blast it into your
face your face.
Speaker 5 (27:38):
Is really effective for trying to regulate with the cold.
So it's my go to tip.
Speaker 4 (27:43):
Wow, you know, I'm so surprised that cold actually helps
because I know how much it can make me stress,
Like I assumed that it would spike my cortisol levels.
And yeah, I'm just glad that there's two options here.
I'm going to take the soothing route. Not sure, I
don't know, I'm not sure.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
About the cold therapy, but.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
The stress is probably more before you're actually, yeah, my thoughts,
that's the anxiety.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
Okay, cool, it's all clear.
Speaker 4 (28:10):
We're getting the breakthroughs here.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
This is great.
Speaker 4 (28:14):
So what if none of the techniques that you've talked
about still isn't working and someone stealing really deep emotional pain.
Is that when they should seek a psychologist or a
professional to get medication.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
Potentially, if people feel like therapy and these kinds of
strategies aren't working for them, that's definitely a situation where
we would encourage someone to go talk to either a
GP or a psychiatrist. Both can prescribe medications to be
able to talk through what the different options are. There
are so many different medications when it comes to managing
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anxiety and our mental health that it is really important
to see a professional to talk through what the different
options are. But what I would say is that medication
can be incredibly helpful, but is best when it's done
in conjunction with therapy because often what we find is
that if people just go on medication for a period
of time, when they eventually decide to come off it,
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if they haven't addressed what the underlying concerns and issues are,
they're probably very quickly going to.
Speaker 5 (29:18):
Go back to feeling anxious.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
So the therapy and the medication hand in hand can
be a fantastic combination for people.
Speaker 4 (29:26):
So you've just shared with us some really great techniques
around how to manage anxiety and panic attacks for ourselves,
But what about someone else?
Speaker 2 (29:33):
If we're trying to help someone else who is feeling
anxious and overwhelmed, the first thing I would recommend is
don't panic yourself. Don't take on that other person's anxiety
and panic and feel anxious or panicky yourself.
Speaker 5 (29:48):
Stay calm and stay with them.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
What I mean by stay with them is yes, physically
stay with them, but emotionally stay with them.
Speaker 5 (29:58):
Attune to what they're feeling, Listen to them, hear them,
validate them.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
Everyone wants to feel heard in life, and so often
it's the case that if someone's worried about something, want
to jump in with a fix totally.
Speaker 5 (30:12):
We want to say.
Speaker 2 (30:13):
Don't worry, everything will be fine, and probably never in
the history of someone feeling anxious as that actually helps.
Like if you say don't worry, everything's going to be okay,
the person doesn't walk away being like, uh, okay, great, Right,
if we feel overwhelmed and anxious, we want to feel heard,
we want.
Speaker 5 (30:28):
To feel understood.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
So that's sometimes the biggest thing that we can give people,
being there with them physically, but emotionally, being with them.
Speaker 4 (30:38):
Yeah, it's so it's so hard to do sometimes, I feel,
especially with women, we're so empathetic and when someone we
love that is struggling, it's easy to just subconsciously.
Speaker 1 (30:48):
Take that on.
Speaker 4 (30:48):
And I really like that you're helping us to separate
ourselves being like it has nothing to do about you
or how you showed up. It's purely what does that
person need right now? Really focusing on that person and
being there for them, attuning to them. So once we've
done that, the next thing is moving into helping them
through it. Right, But we don't want to assume that
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we know what that person wants or needs, right Ask them,
Ask them if there's anything that they know that's helpful
for them in these moments. They might be able to
say to you, yeah, you know what, I just need
you to talk to me about something else. Just distract me,
tell me what you've been watching on TV lately, Like,
let's just have a conversation about something else to get
me through this. So people are often well resourced at
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knowing what they need, and.
Speaker 5 (31:35):
That's where we can jump in and help give that
to them.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
If, however, someone doesn't know what they need in that moment,
if we ask them and they're not able to tell us,
that's where we can offer some suggestions and some solutions.
And sometimes the simplest one is actually us helping someone
get out of the space that they're in and just
going outside, taking a break, grabbing a cup of coffee, moving,
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moving the body, and moving out of their physical surroundings
and space in that moment.
Speaker 4 (32:06):
Okay, Anastasia, Because I'm someone that is always about having
to growth by It's so next time I'm going to
woolies or calls, I've got to go into the freezer aisle,
grab those frozen peas and stuck up by freezer just
for you.
Speaker 1 (32:20):
I'll report back on how it goes.
Speaker 4 (32:27):
After this short break, Anastasia is going to solve the
personal problem that one of you, our listeners sent us.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
Stay with us, Bib hereb Bib.
Speaker 5 (32:38):
I'm having a serious Cristis BRB having a crisis.
Speaker 4 (32:43):
Okay, I am really excited to debut this segment, which
will be bringing you in every episode of But Are
You Happy? This is where we respond to the dilemmas
or questions that you our listeners have sent us, and
Anastasia will provide her best advice. Our first dilemma comes
from Sydney.
Speaker 6 (33:01):
So I'm in my late twenties and I feel like
every conversation I have with my friends lately is honestly
is such a drainer, because all they ever want to
talk about is whether I'm wan they're going to buy property,
whether or not to pro create, or whether or not
to get married, And honestly, I just don't really care
about any of those things. But for whatever reason, there's
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still this weird pressure when you get to your late
twenties where you feel like you're in the panic years
and you do need to make all of these big
decisions that are going to set you up for like
the next ten years or more. Maybe what can I
do to feel like I can live the fun life
that I want to live, but also set myself up
the future and not feel stressed about what's around the corner.
Speaker 5 (33:40):
You are not alone in this.
Speaker 2 (33:42):
I've heard many people share similar stories about things that
they're worrying about.
Speaker 5 (33:47):
This idea of how do I have the life I
want now?
Speaker 2 (33:50):
How do I have the fun that I want now
and set myself up for the future as well? And
I wish I could waive the magic wand and give
a really short, simple solution to this, but unfortunately it's
not that simple. It's all about balance, right, And as humans,
we have a tendency to want to fund find a
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single answer to a problem.
Speaker 5 (34:13):
But in reality, I don't think there is a simple
answer here. Life is complex.
Speaker 2 (34:18):
We are complex, and so it's always about how do
we find balance between the fun and the enjoyment in
the short term with balancing those long term goals that.
Speaker 5 (34:30):
We might have now.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
If you're worried about making decisions that you might regret
in the future, i'd encourage you to reflect.
Speaker 5 (34:39):
On what your values are. So we all have values.
We might not always be aware.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
Of them, so it's important to take some time out
to actually reflect on what our values are. But essentially,
values are the things that are most important to us
in life. We can think of them as like a compass,
a compass that directs us down a particular path in life,
and from those values, we can set goals and tasks
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and activities for ourselves that feel really meaningful and values aligned.
The research tells us that when people live their life
in alignment with their values, they have greater overall life
satisfaction and contentment. So being able to reflect on those
values can be a really key part of helping us
make decisions for ourselves. And having that clarity around values
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can help us with making decisions about some of these
things that feel really big in life, you know, should
I have kids, should I buy a house, what should
I be planning for in my thirties, etc. Having a
knowledge of our values can help us make those decisions
that can sometimes feel really overwhelming, and also help us
reflect on are those values my own or I think
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what society has told me, you know, should be important
to me because that will influence our decision making as well.
Speaker 5 (35:58):
Is it that society has told.
Speaker 2 (35:59):
Me that owning a home, or having kids or being
at this point in my career.
Speaker 5 (36:03):
Should be important to me? Or is that actually what
my values are?
Speaker 4 (36:07):
I really love it because it's essentially doing your values
is getting to know yourself even more, which is important
and for.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
Any of the listeners out there, if you haven't ever
done this values reflection, have a go, get out a
pen and a paper, sit down at a desk and
just write out a list of the things that are
important to you. Write single words, right, So values are
things like family, health, adventure, creativity, honesty. Right, so there's
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single words. It's not like I value having a coffee
in the morning. What is it that the coffee in
the morning gives me? It's my moment of peace? I
value piece, I value enjoyment in life. You know what
is it that that thing gives me? What's the value
underneath it?
Speaker 5 (36:53):
Write them out.
Speaker 4 (36:54):
I really love that process because it's helping us to
look at Okay, what are the things that I essentially
love doing and what are the things that.
Speaker 1 (37:00):
I hate doing?
Speaker 4 (37:01):
And then underneath that is where we'll discover our values.
Speaker 2 (37:04):
Absolutely, And then for any of the listeners who want
to take it one step further, I'm giving a lot
of homework here, but reflect on am I actually living
my life aligned with these values? So, for example, if
I have the value of creativity, Okay, it's all well
and good to know that I value creativity, But am
I doing anything creative in my life? Because having the
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value doesn't necessarily mean that we're living out the value.
So if you can identify any mismatch, that's a really
great place where you can make some positive, healthy changes
for yourself.
Speaker 4 (37:39):
So if we have clarity around our values, would that
reduce our anxiety?
Speaker 5 (37:45):
It absolutely can. If we know what our values are,
we feel better equipped to make decisions in life.
Speaker 2 (37:53):
And so often, you know, anxiety can come from that
feeling of being overwhelmed like Courtney was, with what she
should do in life and how she should live life.
So knowing our values can absolutely help us reduce anxiety
and feel more kind of satisfaction and can in life.
Speaker 4 (38:11):
All right, everyone, let's get into our homework. Let's get
our values done.
Speaker 1 (38:25):
Atastasia.
Speaker 4 (38:26):
We have covered a lot of ground in today's episode.
Speaker 1 (38:30):
Can you give us a recap?
Speaker 4 (38:31):
We want the post it note on the bathroom mirror
reminders please absolutely?
Speaker 5 (38:36):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (38:37):
First up, anxiety serves a necessary function in the brain
and body. Second, sometimes anxiety can get a bit too intense,
or a situation doesn't warrant us to be anxious. Third,
if that's the case, we can mentally talk ourselves through
the situation by challenging those catastrophic thoughts. And finally, if
(39:01):
it feels too physically overwhelming, soothe yourself using the sensors
or jump in that cold shower.
Speaker 1 (39:09):
Thank you, Anastasia.
Speaker 4 (39:10):
Guys, Next week we will be tackling the right way
to say no to people you love and really dig
into the ways that we can help ourselves deal with
toxic family dynamics and relationships.
Speaker 1 (39:22):
In the meantime, if you have any burnie.
Speaker 4 (39:24):
Questions or want to share your story with us, please
get in contact with us.
Speaker 1 (39:27):
We would love to hear from you.
Speaker 4 (39:29):
There are a few ways to get in touch, follow
the links in the show.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
Notes, and remember, while I am a psychologist, this podcast
isn't a diagnostic tool, and the advice and ideas we
present here should always take into account your personal medical history.
The executive producer of But Are You Happy is Naima Brown.
Speaker 1 (39:49):
Tarlie Blackman is our senior producer.
Speaker 5 (39:52):
Sound design and editing by Jacob Brown.
Speaker 1 (39:55):
I'm a Shany Dante and I'm.
Speaker 5 (39:57):
Doctor Anatheja Hornus.
Speaker 2 (39:59):
If this conversation brought up any difficult feelings for you,
we have links for more resources in the show notes.
Around the topics we discussed today, you can also reach
out to organizations Beyond Blue or Lifeline if you're wanting
more immediate support.
Speaker 1 (40:14):
Thanks for listening.
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