What does intimacy really mean in a relationship, and how do we rebuild it when it’s broken? In this episode, Allan Katz, a therapist with decades of experience helping couples navigate intimacy challenges, betrayal, and addiction. He’s counseled over 1,000 clients using tools like the 8-stage intimacy model, DBT skills, and experiential therapy. Trust me, if you’ve ever wondered why relationships struggle or how to make them stronger, this conversation is for you.
Allan opened up about his journey—going from a marketing consultant to a therapist later in life—and shared how he’s helping people deal with out-of-control sexual behavior and betrayal trauma. We explored the differences between addiction and intimacy, why understanding trauma is essential, and how communication plays a huge role in healing relationships. Spoiler: rebuilding trust isn’t easy, but it’s possible.
Whether you’re curious about the 8 stages of intimacy or just trying to make sense of your own relationship struggles, Allan has some life-changing advice to share.
TOPICS DISCUSSED:
- What the 8 stages of intimacy are and why we need them in relationships.
- Why addiction—especially sex or porn addiction—destroys trust and connection.
- The difference between intensity and intimacy in relationships.
- The role of therapy and tools like DBT and experiential techniques in healing.
- Practical ways to rebuild trust and love after betrayal.
VALUABLE RESOURCES
BOOK:
- Navigating the phases of sex addiction recovery
- Ambushed by Betrayal
- Addictive Entrepreneurship
- Experiential Group Therapy Interventions with DBT
BEST MOMENTS
"Sex addiction and pornography—it’s not about intimacy; it’s about intensity."
"Trust is everything. Without it, there’s no real connection."
"Healing isn’t just stopping the behavior. It’s also about creating something meaningful to fill that void."
CONTACT THE HOST
- Website | www.thereikihealingcoach.com
- Instagram | @sophia_i_got_ig
- Instagram | @createlifeyourway
- Facebook | www.facebook.com/sophia.e.754
- LinkedIn | Sophia Elcock
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