March 25, 2025 • 23 mins
Episode 64: If not You why not You
Unlocking Your Potential: Embrace the Competitive Edge
In this episode, the speaker delves into the mindset of high-performing athletes and the power of competitive drive. Reflecting on conversations with athletes, the episode explores the importance of believing in oneself and pushing boundaries. The speaker shares insights on how setbacks can be opportunities for growth and how maintaining a 2% possibility can transform seemingly impossible goals into achievable realities. The episode emphasizes the significance of mental resilience, continuous effort, and surrounding oneself with supportive people. Ultimately, it encourages listeners to redefine their limits and pursue greatness.
00:00 Introduction: Why Not You?
00:34 The Competitive Drive
03:29 The Power of Setbacks
05:47 Reframing Possibilities
10:25 The 2% Rule
14:10 Recognizing Your Potential
21:55 Conclusion: Embrace Your Greatness
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(00:03):
If not you, why not you?
I was having a conversation withone of the athletes I worked with
this week and we were talkingabout like dreams and goals
and it's really interesting howsome of the most amazing people I
(00:24):
meet I work with, I see in life.
Have this tendency to downplaywhat's possible for themselves.
And where I really do understand this,because part of this competitive drive
means it's never gonna be enough,no matter what we do is not enough.
(00:45):
And whereas that can sound verydebilitating and like restricting,
um, a competitive person.
We will use that to pushharder and harder and harder.
They don't have to work toget out to do the work, right.
First thing in the morning, in the rain.
They don't have to like force themself upbecause part of them is driving towards
(01:10):
something that they keep just outta reach.
You know?
It's like, have you ever seen this kindof trick they do with, with a donkey?
They'll, they'll put a carrot.
On a string on a stick and put itright in front of the donkey, and
the donkey will keep on walkingforever trying to get to that carrot.
And it never really understands.
(01:32):
It's not gonna reach and that,that actually makes sense
how powerful that could be.
Right.
It really does that.
You're always striving, always raisingthe bar, like one of the reasons.
That I imagine many of these athletesfeel like they're never quite there is.
(01:53):
'cause every time they, they levelup, they raise a bar and they
level up and they raise a bar.
Just like every time they climba mountain, they get to the top
and they look in the distance.
And there's another mountain,and another mountain and another
mountain in another mountain.
Yeah, every time they win anincredible race, they're like, well,
they might be happy for a second.
(02:14):
And then it's like, well,I could have gone faster.
I could have gone standard.
I could have qualified for the Olympics.
I could have set the Canadian record.
I could have set a worldrecord like there is.
There's this insatiable drive thatincredible athletes have, and I
see this in so many people who showup in my space, like, you know.
(02:36):
But you know, I asked this athletelike, give me one good reason why
you can't be that person who linesup on the line in 2028 in la.
And the great thing was she couldn't.
She really couldn't.
And the truth is, I wouldn't want anybodyto lose that, lose that competitive
edge where they drive and driveand drive and drive and drive, but.
(03:01):
I would really love it if the people Iwork with could find that place where
that drive doesn't takethem out in the bad days.
And that drive doesn't send them intoa place of fear when something goes
wrong, because the truth is thingsare gonna go sideways when you're
(03:21):
working at that level at times.
But the most interestingthings happen in life, right.
It's like this same athlete was, wasbuilding for, uh, cross country season
and something came up that kind oflike knocked them back and they had
(03:41):
to take some time off and they werekind of really worried about this.
Like, oh my God, this is like,I'm gonna lose all my fitness
and so on and so forth, but.
The brain wants to takeyou and spiral you down.
Spiral, spiral.
Spiral, right?
And like, all I had to say was that,well, you know, we talked about the last
(04:03):
year when the peak was too early andit missed the main race, so she didn't
quite hit where she wanted to go, soI just threw the bug in her ear that,
hey, you know what, if this pushes your,your peak and right to the right moment.
What, what if that's possible?
(04:24):
Well, needless to say it did, and shewas the top person on the team that day.
Uh, for the women's side, of course.
See, what if it's alliactually coming together?
What if what looks like, like what ifreally, really, really good news comes
(04:46):
completely disguised as really bad news?
What if things arelining up in your favor?
What if every, like, I sawthis great quote and it said,
what if you knew that you wereonly 30 setbacks away from the
(05:11):
ultimate life you could ever have?
How fast would you chargethrough each of those setbacks?
Because the truth inlife is change, right?
Impermanence.
No matter what you're goingthrough in this one moment right
here, right now, this will pass
and you could almost think of it like,you know, say right now it's 2025.
(05:37):
2028 is the Olympics.
So the year leading upto 2028 is the time.
That's when you want to nail it.
So what if you started, if the truthis everything's gonna balance out,
what if you started looking at the badmoments, the, the setbacks, the races
(05:57):
that didn't go your way right now?
As crossing off a bad one.
Crossing off a bad date,crossing off an issue.
As you're going, you're crossing off,crossing off, crossing off, crossing up.
And what you're doing is you'reincreasing the likelihood of having
that incredible race and you'repushing that incredible race closer
and closer and closer to your goal.
(06:24):
That is just as likely as anything,and you know the truth is.
Anyone can beat anyone on any givenday, which means, yeah, anyone
can beat you on any given day,
but if you continue and you continueand you continue and you do the
(06:49):
work, and you work on your thoughtprocess, on your recovery, on your, uh.
Nutrition on your mentalhealth, on your performance.
You work on your strength work.
You get out there and you do a race,and then if it doesn't go well, you
reframe it and you get back out there.
(07:09):
You get on the line again andagain and again, and every time
you don't hit that thing you wantto hit, that's crossing off one.
Crossing off one.
Crossing off one.
And the more you cross off in betweennow and when the qualification period
opens for that major event that you'relooking for, it makes it more and
more likely when you line up on thatline that that will come, you know,
(07:36):
um, one of the, one of the greatthings, thoughts I've had recently is,
you know, as luck is not.
Really a factor.
So if you understand what I'm saying,it's not really a factor if you haven't
done all the work, but as soon as youget to the point where you've done all
(07:58):
the work, everything like ticked off allthe boxes, worked really strong and like.
Building your mental strength, likeeven the bad things that happen in
between now and that qualification year.
You can use everything that theworld throws at you, like every
stone that the world throws at.
(08:20):
You can use it to build a castle.
Think about it like you have a bad day.
You, you work on your mental strength,you get injured, you've, you fight
on your way back, but you're keepingyour head in the right space and you
get mentally stronger and stronger andstronger until the day you're standing
on that line, having a breath, lookingaround, feeling the moment, knowing
(08:44):
that you checked off all the bad daysthat you worked on mental strength.
Mental performance.
You work, you have done all the work.
You can look down and say, I belong here.
I deserve to be here.
I am here.
(09:10):
And you can go out andjust do what you gotta do.
You know, in, in previousepisodes, crack the door.
Crack the door is allabout cracking the door.
That it's possible that one day,
because there's this issue, if youare sitting in a place of something
(09:33):
is being absolutely impossiblethat you can't, like, there's
no way I'll ever achieve that.
I'm gonna, I'm gonna do reallygood, but I'm never achieve that.
Um, then you get into that.
Incredible moment where thepossibility shows up in your face.
Do you think you could even recognizeit if you don't have a context
(09:57):
that is possible, if you haven'tcracked the door, that it's possible
that that day could be today,
and even if you did recognizeit and you didn't believe it was
possible, do you think you couldactually capitalize on that moment?
And do you think you could actuallywin if you didn't believe it
(10:21):
was possible even cracking door?
So later on I created another episode.
It's called, um, reframingWhat's Possible, the Power of 2%.
'cause there's so many peoplewho won't give their word to
something unless they know 100%.
So, I mean, I can't even rememberwho I had this conversation.
I said, okay, so what?
(10:41):
Okay.
I hear that you all can'tsay I this a hundred percent.
I'm gonna do that, but whatpercentage could you believe in?
And they're, well, I can pretend Ibelieve in something, but I, I don't know.
I'm like, could you believe in 50 50?
Well, they're like, no,that's such a big thing.
(11:03):
Like, it's like, okay, how about this?
Can you believe there's a2% chance, like just 2%?
So you can hold onto 98% chancethat you're not gonna do it.
But can you, can you, could yougrasp anywhere in your entire life
something that you feel like you're,like you want to do, but you can't
(11:25):
quite see yourself accomplishing that?
Can you create a 2%possibility that can happen
because.
I think you can create a 2%possibility on anything in this life.
But the incredible thing is you, ifyou can actually believe there's a
(11:46):
2% chance that you can do somethingamazing that you, that you otherwise
would've thought you couldn't do,that, that kind of tricks your brain.
It, it's not just sent now, like aminute ago there was zero chance,
and now that you have this belief,there's a 2% chance no, you've actually
went from impossible to possible.
(12:07):
And you've done it really likeit's kind of sneaky, right?
Because literally anybody canbelieve that you have 2% chance
of doing anything in this life.
And you know what the crazy thing is?
People hit two percents all the time.
This is not un impossible.
(12:29):
Think about it.
2% is one in 50.
Think about.
How many races you'll do in betweennow and the Olympic qualification
period and uh, you know, you'regetting close now that you're
back, back a couple years, you'reprobably getting right on the money.
(12:50):
See, the brain is reallyinteresting, right?
It only has the ability to focuson so much in one moment, right?
There's only so muchinformation it can take in.
So it kind of disregards things thatare outside kind of your belief or
what you know to be prop properlyor what you have context for.
(13:14):
They said that one of the explorerswhen they went to um, one of the
islands, I'm not sure what it was,they brought their ship and the ship
and they anchored it off the coast.
And it's interesting 'cause the, theindigenous people of the area couldn't.
Actually couldn't see the ship.
And it's like, 'cause their braincouldn't register what that was.
(13:36):
'cause it was so big and it's,they had no context for that.
Like, something likethat had never existed.
But when, when the people got intothe little boats and rode as shore,
they could see the little boats.
'cause they had acontext for little boats.
So if you think of it, if you have thislife where you're living, that you do not
(13:57):
believe there's any chance that somethingis possible, then it, it could, it could
walk right up to you and stare you rightin the face and you wouldn't recognize it.
You brush it off.
For instance, when I was younger, Ididn't think I was somebody who was like.
I didn't think I had value.
I didn't think that anybody wouldbe really interested in me or, you
(14:22):
know, I wanted, I wanted to be ina relationship, but I, I felt like,
why would anybody want to be with me?
So the context came out whensomebody showed interest.
It was like, this is kind ofmean, but like, it was like,
what is wrong with them?
Why would they be interested in me?
(14:43):
So that's the kind of thing that yourbrain, if it doesn't recognize something,
it will either dismiss it in someway or you won't even see it.
And that happened to me over and over andover in my life in so many different ways.
Opportunities that came up.
People who were really, really incredible.
People were actually interested in me as aperson who I brushed off because I'm like.
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What?
What's going on with them?
When the problem wasn'tout there, it was in here,
and it's funny, when I finally recognizedthere was something about me that
was special and started dedicatingmy life to working in that direction,
(15:32):
I started to see a few things.
And as I started to see them, they becamestronger and stronger and stronger.
So it's just like, you know, it's likeone of the other athletes I work with, um,
a a while back, they were, you know, I,I've been working with them for a while.
(15:55):
I am really impressed by the human being.
They are, like, they have theirtough times like everybody else.
And they do have their struggles andthey fight through a lot of really
big things, but they keep on going.
You know, they say who, whoinspires people the most?
And people, some people are likethe champion, the world champion,
(16:17):
the guy who crushes things, theper the woman who crushes things
over and over and over again.
I'm like, nah, no, no, no, that's,that doesn't inspire me, you know?
Yeah, it's really cool to seepeople who just like crush it
in life over and over again.
Never have bad days just go, go, go.
Um, that's cool, butthat's not who inspires me.
(16:40):
It's like the people I work within this office, they inspire me and
this athlete inspires me to know it.
N like this athlete has no idea who theyare in a sense, which is really cool.
Like they do get that they have.
They love running, they'retalented and this, but they
have no idea how deep that goes.
(17:02):
So they, um, this one season theywere, they were doing a race here in
British Columbia and they hung on andcame in right behind the two fastest.
Like the people they looked up tothat, that they thought that were
the fastest people on the team.
(17:24):
And after that race, they came inlike, I can run with the fast girls.
I'm like, of course you can.
I could have told youthat a long time ago.
See, before that, they had thiscontext where they were, um, they were
good but not as good as those girls.
(17:44):
And then they were there right behind themand they realized, Hey, I can do this.
And as soon as you open your eyes tosomething like, it's like a 2% chance,
or you get this, you get invited intothis moment to see something that you
don't really see yet because you wereall, it's not that you, it's not that.
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The day before that she was notincredible and fast and stuff.
It was just like they actuallyhad this experience where.
They realized it.
'cause it's not about whatother people think about you.
It's not, it has nothing to do with that.
You know, it's like I say,if not you, why not you?
(18:30):
Like give me one reason, likeone solid, truthful reason.
And if I know you, I'mnot gonna listen to it.
And I'm gonna counter that.
I am gonna believe in you on thedays you don't believe in yourself.
Because the funny thing is peopleoutside us can see who we are.
And we are so inside ourselvesthat we have no idea who we are.
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Anyone, anyone can do anamazing thing on any given day.
Any person who has done all thework, all the work, every little
bit, you know all the things.
Which includes slowing down on thedays you need to slow down, which means
includes cross training when the daysomething's aching, which includes being
(19:21):
aware when you're, you're spiralingdown a rabbit hole and stopping yourself
right there and coming back out andrecognizing, like the episode I did
on pay attention to how things arechanging, not how they're the same.
(19:42):
Anyone can do amazing things.
You can do amazing things andyou have no clue who you are.
And the more you can find a place whereyou realize that you have no clue who
you are, what you're capable to, thelevel of success you can hit, then
and only then do you open up a door ofpossibility to what you could possibly be.
(20:04):
'cause you're.
Brain, your internal dialogue,your ego has this picture of you
and it wants to keep you lockedin right here and not escaping.
And as soon as you challenge thatbelief of who you are, it's like fear,
anxiety, worry, stress, boom, and it'lljust end in this internal dialogue.
(20:26):
No, no, no.
You can't.
You can't.
You can't.
And yet you need to go.
Thank you for sharing and keep on going.
You need to create a twoper percent possibility
that you can do anything on this planet.
You need to get courageouswith your conversation.
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First off, stop saying I hope to do this.
Say, I will stop saying.
I can't, or I'm not that good,or I'm not gonna be that person.
Stop it.
Do not allow anything out of yourmouth, which isn't aligned with who
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you want to be, who your goals are,who your dreams are, like the height
you wanna reach, and then like even theheight you wanna reach, create this,
or better, I want to do this or better.
Like I want to get tothe Olympics or better.
And what's better.
I want to.
How about a Canadian record?
How about a pro contract?
(21:31):
How about, and then, or better?
How about a world record?
How about double an Olympic medal?
Like
you have no idea who you are and youhave no idea what you're capable of
and honestly,
(21:55):
just crack a door.
That it's possible.
Keep on doing all the work,which means, uh, like watching,
watching your, the way you speak,
um, creating a circle of people'ssupports, who you are speaking your
dreams into, existence with the peopleyou trust and believe, and allow them
(22:20):
to elevate you and hold that dream foryou and believe in you and your dream.
Craig create two percents allover the place, 2% of everything.
If something goes wrong, trustthat this moment is actually
slowing you down in order to maybepush a peak to the right moment.
(22:44):
Or maybe you're crossing off a badday and you're crossing off bad day,
and you're crossing off a bad day, andyou're pushing that good day closer
and closer and closer to the momentwhere it will have the greatest impact.
Because you know what?
The universe is inspiringto make you happy.
What you focus on expands,
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and you are meant for great things.
Thank you for listening again.
If not you, why not you?
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Have an amazing day.
If not you, why not you?
I was having a conversation withone of the athletes I worked with
this week and we were talkingabout like dreams and goals
and it's really interesting howsome of the most amazing people I
(00:24):
meet I work with, I see in life.
Have this tendency to downplaywhat's possible for themselves.
And where I really do understand this,because part of this competitive drive
means it's never gonna be enough,no matter what we do is not enough.
(00:45):
And whereas that can sound verydebilitating and like restricting,
um, a competitive person.
We will use that to pushharder and harder and harder.
They don't have to work toget out to do the work, right.
First thing in the morning, in the rain.
They don't have to like force themself upbecause part of them is driving towards
(01:10):
something that they keep just outta reach.
You know?
It's like, have you ever seen this kindof trick they do with, with a donkey?
They'll, they'll put a carrot.
On a string on a stick and put itright in front of the donkey, and
the donkey will keep on walkingforever trying to get to that carrot.
And it never really understands.
(01:32):
It's not gonna reach and that,that actually makes sense
how powerful that could be.
Right.
It really does that.
You're always striving, always raisingthe bar, like one of the reasons.
That I imagine many of these athletesfeel like they're never quite there is.
(01:53):
'cause every time they, they levelup, they raise a bar and they
level up and they raise a bar.
Just like every time they climba mountain, they get to the top
and they look in the distance.
And there's another mountain,and another mountain and another
mountain in another mountain.
Yeah, every time they win anincredible race, they're like, well,
they might be happy for a second.
(02:14):
And then it's like, well,I could have gone faster.
I could have gone standard.
I could have qualified for the Olympics.
I could have set the Canadian record.
I could have set a worldrecord like there is.
There's this insatiable drive thatincredible athletes have, and I
see this in so many people who showup in my space, like, you know.
(02:36):
But you know, I asked this athletelike, give me one good reason why
you can't be that person who linesup on the line in 2028 in la.
And the great thing was she couldn't.
She really couldn't.
And the truth is, I wouldn't want anybodyto lose that, lose that competitive
edge where they drive and driveand drive and drive and drive, but.
(03:01):
I would really love it if the people Iwork with could find that place where
that drive doesn't takethem out in the bad days.
And that drive doesn't send them intoa place of fear when something goes
wrong, because the truth is thingsare gonna go sideways when you're
(03:21):
working at that level at times.
But the most interestingthings happen in life, right.
It's like this same athlete was, wasbuilding for, uh, cross country season
and something came up that kind oflike knocked them back and they had
(03:41):
to take some time off and they werekind of really worried about this.
Like, oh my God, this is like,I'm gonna lose all my fitness
and so on and so forth, but.
The brain wants to takeyou and spiral you down.
Spiral, spiral.
Spiral, right?
And like, all I had to say was that,well, you know, we talked about the last
(04:03):
year when the peak was too early andit missed the main race, so she didn't
quite hit where she wanted to go, soI just threw the bug in her ear that,
hey, you know what, if this pushes your,your peak and right to the right moment.
What, what if that's possible?
(04:24):
Well, needless to say it did, and shewas the top person on the team that day.
Uh, for the women's side, of course.
See, what if it's alliactually coming together?
What if what looks like, like what ifreally, really, really good news comes
(04:46):
completely disguised as really bad news?
What if things arelining up in your favor?
What if every, like, I sawthis great quote and it said,
what if you knew that you wereonly 30 setbacks away from the
(05:11):
ultimate life you could ever have?
How fast would you chargethrough each of those setbacks?
Because the truth inlife is change, right?
Impermanence.
No matter what you're goingthrough in this one moment right
here, right now, this will pass
and you could almost think of it like,you know, say right now it's 2025.
(05:37):
2028 is the Olympics.
So the year leading upto 2028 is the time.
That's when you want to nail it.
So what if you started, if the truthis everything's gonna balance out,
what if you started looking at the badmoments, the, the setbacks, the races
(05:57):
that didn't go your way right now?
As crossing off a bad one.
Crossing off a bad date,crossing off an issue.
As you're going, you're crossing off,crossing off, crossing off, crossing up.
And what you're doing is you'reincreasing the likelihood of having
that incredible race and you'repushing that incredible race closer
and closer and closer to your goal.
(06:24):
That is just as likely as anything,and you know the truth is.
Anyone can beat anyone on any givenday, which means, yeah, anyone
can beat you on any given day,
but if you continue and you continueand you continue and you do the
(06:49):
work, and you work on your thoughtprocess, on your recovery, on your, uh.
Nutrition on your mentalhealth, on your performance.
You work on your strength work.
You get out there and you do a race,and then if it doesn't go well, you
reframe it and you get back out there.
(07:09):
You get on the line again andagain and again, and every time
you don't hit that thing you wantto hit, that's crossing off one.
Crossing off one.
Crossing off one.
And the more you cross off in betweennow and when the qualification period
opens for that major event that you'relooking for, it makes it more and
more likely when you line up on thatline that that will come, you know,
(07:36):
um, one of the, one of the greatthings, thoughts I've had recently is,
you know, as luck is not.
Really a factor.
So if you understand what I'm saying,it's not really a factor if you haven't
done all the work, but as soon as youget to the point where you've done all
(07:58):
the work, everything like ticked off allthe boxes, worked really strong and like.
Building your mental strength, likeeven the bad things that happen in
between now and that qualification year.
You can use everything that theworld throws at you, like every
stone that the world throws at.
(08:20):
You can use it to build a castle.
Think about it like you have a bad day.
You, you work on your mental strength,you get injured, you've, you fight
on your way back, but you're keepingyour head in the right space and you
get mentally stronger and stronger andstronger until the day you're standing
on that line, having a breath, lookingaround, feeling the moment, knowing
(08:44):
that you checked off all the bad daysthat you worked on mental strength.
Mental performance.
You work, you have done all the work.
You can look down and say, I belong here.
I deserve to be here.
I am here.
(09:10):
And you can go out andjust do what you gotta do.
You know, in, in previousepisodes, crack the door.
Crack the door is allabout cracking the door.
That it's possible that one day,
because there's this issue, if youare sitting in a place of something
(09:33):
is being absolutely impossiblethat you can't, like, there's
no way I'll ever achieve that.
I'm gonna, I'm gonna do reallygood, but I'm never achieve that.
Um, then you get into that.
Incredible moment where thepossibility shows up in your face.
Do you think you could even recognizeit if you don't have a context
(09:57):
that is possible, if you haven'tcracked the door, that it's possible
that that day could be today,
and even if you did recognizeit and you didn't believe it was
possible, do you think you couldactually capitalize on that moment?
And do you think you could actuallywin if you didn't believe it
(10:21):
was possible even cracking door?
So later on I created another episode.
It's called, um, reframingWhat's Possible, the Power of 2%.
'cause there's so many peoplewho won't give their word to
something unless they know 100%.
So, I mean, I can't even rememberwho I had this conversation.
I said, okay, so what?
(10:41):
Okay.
I hear that you all can'tsay I this a hundred percent.
I'm gonna do that, but whatpercentage could you believe in?
And they're, well, I can pretend Ibelieve in something, but I, I don't know.
I'm like, could you believe in 50 50?
Well, they're like, no,that's such a big thing.
(11:03):
Like, it's like, okay, how about this?
Can you believe there's a2% chance, like just 2%?
So you can hold onto 98% chancethat you're not gonna do it.
But can you, can you, could yougrasp anywhere in your entire life
something that you feel like you're,like you want to do, but you can't
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quite see yourself accomplishing that?
Can you create a 2%possibility that can happen
because.
I think you can create a 2%possibility on anything in this life.
But the incredible thing is you, ifyou can actually believe there's a
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2% chance that you can do somethingamazing that you, that you otherwise
would've thought you couldn't do,that, that kind of tricks your brain.
It, it's not just sent now, like aminute ago there was zero chance,
and now that you have this belief,there's a 2% chance no, you've actually
went from impossible to possible.
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And you've done it really likeit's kind of sneaky, right?
Because literally anybody canbelieve that you have 2% chance
of doing anything in this life.
And you know what the crazy thing is?
People hit two percents all the time.
This is not un impossible.
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Think about it.
2% is one in 50.
Think about.
How many races you'll do in betweennow and the Olympic qualification
period and uh, you know, you'regetting close now that you're
back, back a couple years, you'reprobably getting right on the money.
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See, the brain is reallyinteresting, right?
It only has the ability to focuson so much in one moment, right?
There's only so muchinformation it can take in.
So it kind of disregards things thatare outside kind of your belief or
what you know to be prop properlyor what you have context for.
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They said that one of the explorerswhen they went to um, one of the
islands, I'm not sure what it was,they brought their ship and the ship
and they anchored it off the coast.
And it's interesting 'cause the, theindigenous people of the area couldn't.
Actually couldn't see the ship.
And it's like, 'cause their braincouldn't register what that was.
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'cause it was so big and it's,they had no context for that.
Like, something likethat had never existed.
But when, when the people got intothe little boats and rode as shore,
they could see the little boats.
'cause they had acontext for little boats.
So if you think of it, if you have thislife where you're living, that you do not
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believe there's any chance that somethingis possible, then it, it could, it could
walk right up to you and stare you rightin the face and you wouldn't recognize it.
You brush it off.
For instance, when I was younger, Ididn't think I was somebody who was like.
I didn't think I had value.
I didn't think that anybody wouldbe really interested in me or, you
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know, I wanted, I wanted to be ina relationship, but I, I felt like,
why would anybody want to be with me?
So the context came out whensomebody showed interest.
It was like, this is kind ofmean, but like, it was like,
what is wrong with them?
Why would they be interested in me?
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So that's the kind of thing that yourbrain, if it doesn't recognize something,
it will either dismiss it in someway or you won't even see it.
And that happened to me over and over andover in my life in so many different ways.
Opportunities that came up.
People who were really, really incredible.
People were actually interested in me as aperson who I brushed off because I'm like.
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What?
What's going on with them?
When the problem wasn'tout there, it was in here,
and it's funny, when I finally recognizedthere was something about me that
was special and started dedicatingmy life to working in that direction,
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I started to see a few things.
And as I started to see them, they becamestronger and stronger and stronger.
So it's just like, you know, it's likeone of the other athletes I work with, um,
a a while back, they were, you know, I,I've been working with them for a while.
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I am really impressed by the human being.
They are, like, they have theirtough times like everybody else.
And they do have their struggles andthey fight through a lot of really
big things, but they keep on going.
You know, they say who, whoinspires people the most?
And people, some people are likethe champion, the world champion,
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the guy who crushes things, theper the woman who crushes things
over and over and over again.
I'm like, nah, no, no, no, that's,that doesn't inspire me, you know?
Yeah, it's really cool to seepeople who just like crush it
in life over and over again.
Never have bad days just go, go, go.
Um, that's cool, butthat's not who inspires me.
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It's like the people I work within this office, they inspire me and
this athlete inspires me to know it.
N like this athlete has no idea who theyare in a sense, which is really cool.
Like they do get that they have.
They love running, they'retalented and this, but they
have no idea how deep that goes.
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So they, um, this one season theywere, they were doing a race here in
British Columbia and they hung on andcame in right behind the two fastest.
Like the people they looked up tothat, that they thought that were
the fastest people on the team.
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And after that race, they came inlike, I can run with the fast girls.
I'm like, of course you can.
I could have told youthat a long time ago.
See, before that, they had thiscontext where they were, um, they were
good but not as good as those girls.
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And then they were there right behind themand they realized, Hey, I can do this.
And as soon as you open your eyes tosomething like, it's like a 2% chance,
or you get this, you get invited intothis moment to see something that you
don't really see yet because you wereall, it's not that you, it's not that.
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The day before that she was notincredible and fast and stuff.
It was just like they actuallyhad this experience where.
They realized it.
'cause it's not about whatother people think about you.
It's not, it has nothing to do with that.
You know, it's like I say,if not you, why not you?
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Like give me one reason, likeone solid, truthful reason.
And if I know you, I'mnot gonna listen to it.
And I'm gonna counter that.
I am gonna believe in you on thedays you don't believe in yourself.
Because the funny thing is peopleoutside us can see who we are.
And we are so inside ourselvesthat we have no idea who we are.
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Anyone, anyone can do anamazing thing on any given day.
Any person who has done all thework, all the work, every little
bit, you know all the things.
Which includes slowing down on thedays you need to slow down, which means
includes cross training when the daysomething's aching, which includes being
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aware when you're, you're spiralingdown a rabbit hole and stopping yourself
right there and coming back out andrecognizing, like the episode I did
on pay attention to how things arechanging, not how they're the same.
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Anyone can do amazing things.
You can do amazing things andyou have no clue who you are.
And the more you can find a place whereyou realize that you have no clue who
you are, what you're capable to, thelevel of success you can hit, then
and only then do you open up a door ofpossibility to what you could possibly be.
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'cause you're.
Brain, your internal dialogue,your ego has this picture of you
and it wants to keep you lockedin right here and not escaping.
And as soon as you challenge thatbelief of who you are, it's like fear,
anxiety, worry, stress, boom, and it'lljust end in this internal dialogue.
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No, no, no.
You can't.
You can't.
You can't.
And yet you need to go.
Thank you for sharing and keep on going.
You need to create a twoper percent possibility
that you can do anything on this planet.
You need to get courageouswith your conversation.
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First off, stop saying I hope to do this.
Say, I will stop saying.
I can't, or I'm not that good,or I'm not gonna be that person.
Stop it.
Do not allow anything out of yourmouth, which isn't aligned with who
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you want to be, who your goals are,who your dreams are, like the height
you wanna reach, and then like even theheight you wanna reach, create this,
or better, I want to do this or better.
Like I want to get tothe Olympics or better.
And what's better.
I want to.
How about a Canadian record?
How about a pro contract?
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How about, and then, or better?
How about a world record?
How about double an Olympic medal?
Like
you have no idea who you are and youhave no idea what you're capable of
and honestly,
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just crack a door.
That it's possible.
Keep on doing all the work,which means, uh, like watching,
watching your, the way you speak,
um, creating a circle of people'ssupports, who you are speaking your
dreams into, existence with the peopleyou trust and believe, and allow them
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to elevate you and hold that dream foryou and believe in you and your dream.
Craig create two percents allover the place, 2% of everything.
If something goes wrong, trustthat this moment is actually
slowing you down in order to maybepush a peak to the right moment.
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Or maybe you're crossing off a badday and you're crossing off bad day,
and you're crossing off a bad day, andyou're pushing that good day closer
and closer and closer to the momentwhere it will have the greatest impact.
Because you know what?
The universe is inspiringto make you happy.
What you focus on expands,
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and you are meant for great things.
Thank you for listening again.
If not you, why not you?
Thank you for listening to thisepisode of conversation with Kimen.
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