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May 28, 2025 35 mins

Why You Keep Attracting the SAME Type of Guy (It's Not What You Think) I used to roll my eyes at manifestation until I discovered the neuroscience behind it.

Turns out, you're already manifesting every single day - even when you don't believe in it. And if you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners who pull away the second you get close, there's a scientific reason why.

That's when I learned how to actually manifest healthy love, secure love - like emotionally available guys. Did you know?

Your brain literally can't tell the difference between what's real and what's imagined. So when you visualise being rejected over and over again, your nervous system thinks it's actually happening.

You're manifesting these painful moments through repetition - NOT by choice, but because your brain is wired to recreate what feels familiar from childhood, not what feels good. This isn't about vision boards or positive thinking. It's about understanding how your thoughts create your emotions, your emotions drive your actions, and your actions create your results.

I call it the SPEAK model, and it's rooted in cognitive behavioral therapy. In this episode, I break down:

✓ What manifestation actually is (spoiler: it's mental conditioning, not magic)

✓ Why your brain filters reality to match your beliefs

✓ How to identify the core beliefs keeping you stuck ✓ Why changing your environment is crucial for manifesting healthy love

✓ The difference between fake TikTok advice and science-based manifestation If you're tired of attracting the same patterns (the avoidant attached partner or an emotionally unavailable guy) and ready to understand the real psychology behind manifestation, this episode will change everything.

Ready to stop the toxic cycle of attracting wrong relationships and avoidant partners?

Change starts with understanding the psychology behind your patterns to attract healthy love and green flags. Resources mentioned:

🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY: https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach

 

Part 2: Identity Shifts & My Manifestation Formula (coming end of this week!)

♥️ Anxious to Secure PLAYLIST https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkaamihHgLaGB8Cui2BEQqnZDO5jK2GYf&si=MZVdY40W00Rgqcht

🖤 Attachment Style QUIZ

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

 

COURSE:

🖤 How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

 

STUDY VAULT:

🖤 https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach

 

1:1 Support: https://tr.ee/PInPmy

 

CHAPTERS:

00:00 How to Actually MANIFEST Healthy Love + Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable People 01:27 The REAL Science Behind Manifestation 02:41 The promise for YOU 03:09 What is Manifestation (Really)? 05:16 How Your Fear of Losing Them Becomes the Reality You Live 09:13 You're ALWAYS Manifesting – Whether You Mean To Or Not 11:56 How to train your brain to SPOT what you WANT - not what you fear 14:02 Why your comfort zone os your WORST ENEMY 16:54 How our environment manifest for us 20:19 The Neuroscience of Emotions and Manifestation 22:30 Why your environment controls MORE than you think 26:10 Environment Audit: These Questions will change your love life 28:38 Why your Actions don't match your Desires 31:02 Why vision boards don't work 32:49 Baby Steps that signal you're ready for secure love

 

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