my personal deep dive into Netflix’s Unknown Number:
The High School Catfish. 🖤 I’ve been following the comments, the social media conversations, and the shock around Kendra Licari’s story — and I want to take this beyond what the documentary shows.
Netflix gave us the facts. But what about the IMPACT?
The emotional abuse. The grooming. The way a disorganized attachment style can trap someone in fear, shame, and confusion.
That’s the part that hit me hardest .. and that’s where my work as a relationship coach comes in. In this episode, I talk about the red flags most people miss, how parental manipulation destroys self-trust, and why trauma bonding makes it so hard to leave abusive dynamics.
I also share what actually helps: nervous system regulation, boundaries that protect your safety, and rebuilding secure attachment step by step. If you’ve seen the Unknown Number Netflix trailer, read The Cut article on Kendra Licari, or scrolled through the heated debates online — this episode is for you.
Because it’s not just about a documentary. It’s about real people, real trauma, and the reminder that healing and safety ARE possible.
Takeaways: What Netflix didn’t show about the Unknown Number documentary. The deeper emotional impact of grooming and manipulation. How disorganized attachment keeps people stuck in toxic cycles.
Why trauma bonding makes breaking away so complicated.
The role of parental control, secrecy, and narcissistic behaviors.
The importance of spotting red flags early. How daily regulation practices + professional support accelerate healing.
Why boundaries are the foundation of safety and recovery.
Why love doesn’t have to feel like chaos.
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3 MIN QUIZ DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
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