97: *5 surprising* things my 😯 Avoidant Partner taught me about love, life and anxiety

⚠️ Warning: After this episode, you might 01 fall in love with an avoidant or 02 see them through a completely different lens. Because what I’m about to share may change how you see avoidants forever 🤍🧠

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If you’ve ever felt like the avoidant in your life is cold, distant, confusing, or hard to love… this episode will soften something inside you.

I’m sharing 5 unexpected lessons my avoidant partner taught me that actually helped me feel safer, calmer, more confident, and more SECURE in love.

And yes... this episode is about the good parts of avoidants. Because avoidants are not the villains here. They are humans with a completely different survival strategy.

This isn’t an “avoidants are toxic” conversation. It’s the episode that shows you the side no one talks about:

The parts of avoidants that make love gentle, grounding, freeing, magical… The parts that can grow you in ways you never expected. The parts your anxious brain might not see yet because fear is so loud.

If you’ve found yourself late-night googling things like:

• “Why does my avoidant partner pull away after getting close?”

• “How do avoidants show love if they don’t express it like I do?”

• “Why do avoidants disappear then come back?”

 

This episode will give you answers but also a new perspective that feels like exhaling.

We’ll talk about how avoidants love differently, why space is not rejection, how to stop taking distance personally, and how understanding them can actually calm your nervous system instead of trigger it.

By the end, you’ll walk away with:

🤍 a softer view of avoidants 🤍 more empathy (for them and for you) 🤍 5 mindset shifts that bring REAL peace to your relationship

Not by abandoning yourself. Not by shrinking. But by seeing the relationship dynamic with truth instead of fear.

This episode gives you the perspective that finally lets the anxious-avoidant dynamic feel less like war and more like two humans trying to feel safe in very different ways.

If you’re tired of demonizing avoidants or battling them… and you’re ready to understand the GOOD they bring too… this one is going to land deeply.

Stay until the end.. I’ll give you simple steps to feel more secure today, without chasing or overthinking.

Ready to see avoidants with new eyes? Let’s shift the narrative.. and maybe your heart too 🤍🧠✨

 

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(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)

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(before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing)

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Why Your Avoidant Partner might be an inspiration 03:00 01 – Stop taking it personally 🖤 07:57 02 – Being selfish isn’t selfish 13:01 03 – Lightness, fun, and adventure ✨ 18:53 04 – STOP trusting others so fast ★ 24:41 05 – "Cutify" your fears 📓 30:04 Mini Summary 30:52 Your Homework

 

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

 

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.