Are you the fixer? The one who always steps up, saves the day, and keeps everything running smoothly? Yeah, that might sound noble, but here’s the truth—you’re not helping. You’re enabling.
Hilary is here to break down why over-functioning is actually a trap—for you and everyone around you. You think you’re keeping things together, but what you’re really doing is creating dependence, burning yourself out, and blocking others from stepping up. And let’s be real—you kind of love being the one everyone relies on, don’t you? 👀
Episode Highlights:
- Why “helping” is keeping everyone stuck (including you)
- How over-functioning leads to exhaustion, resentment, and crappy relationships
- The sneaky reason you can’t stop fixing everything
- How to back off without guilt and let people handle their own mess
- The magic of actually receiving for once (yes, you deserve it)
Episode Breakdown:
- 00:00 Are You Over-Functioning?
- 02:00 Five Reasons Over-Functioning is Bad
- 02:32 Reason 1: Training People to Rely on You
- 03:24 Reason 2: Robbing Others of Their Wins and Lessons
- 05:08 Reason 3: Getting Something Out of It
- 08:08 Reason 4: Hogging the Joy of Giving
- 09:53 Reason 5: Blocking the Flow of Reciprocity
- 12:22 The Hard Truth & Simple Fix
It’s time to drop the superhero cape and let people solve their own damn problems. Because the less you do, the more you actually get.
🎧 Listen now & start unburdening yourself! 💫 Subscribe to Hilary’s YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 🔥 Grab my FREE training, This Changes Everything: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 👉 Follow Hilary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver
💬 Which one is harder for you—saying “no” or asking for help? Spill in the comments!
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