You've been taught to distrust the one thing that's been trying to protect you all along: your body.
Every time that stomach drops, every time your chest gets tight, every time your shoulders creep up to your ears - you've probably labeled it as anxiety, overthinking, or "being too sensitive." But here's what nobody tells you: your body speaks two completely different languages, and confusing them is what keeps you stuck second-guessing everything.
In this episode, I'm breaking down the physical geography of fear versus knowing. Not the spiritual woo-woo version - the actual sensations in your actual body that you can learn to read like a map. Because once you know where each one lives and what it's asking you to do, you stop abandoning yourself every time something feels hard.
I'm sharing the moment in my marriage when I genuinely couldn't tell if I was losing my mind or if my body was screaming truth at me. Spoiler: it was truth. But I'd spent so long being told I was "too much" that I talked myself out of it for years.
What We're Covering:
- The specific body locations where fear shows up (and why it's so loud)
- Where your intuition actually speaks from (hint: it's way quieter)
- The one question that instantly tells you which one you're feeling
- Why fear demands immediate action while knowing can wait
- How to stop seeking external validation when your gut already knows
- The difference between "I'm anxious" and "I'm receiving important information"
The Truth: Your body isn't broken. Your nervous system isn't overreacting. You've just been reading the signals wrong. Fear lives in your head and chest - frantic, spinning, desperate for relief. Knowing lives in your belly - calm, grounded, certain even when it's uncomfortable. One makes you want to act frantically. The other makes you want to pause deeply. Learn the difference and you'll never abandon yourself again.
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Ready to Trust Yourself Again? Gene Keys Book Club is where we go deeper into rewiring the patterns that keep you overriding your body's wisdom and seeking permission outside yourself.
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Be brave, not perfect, babe.
Xx,
KD
Disclaimer: This podcast shares personal stories, experiences, and reflections on relationships, consciousness work, and personal growth. The content is not intended as a substitute for professional mental health support, medical advice, or therapeutic treatment. If you're experiencing crisis, abuse, or severe mental health symptoms, please reach out to a qualified professional. Your journey is your own - trust yourself to know what support you need and when you need it.
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