August 26, 2025 • 20 mins
What if burnout isn’t about doing too much, but about doing too much of the wrong things?
In this episode, I sit down with Gillian Gabryluk, health coach and founder of Sileo Coaching, to talk about what she calls a “nervous system crash” and how it forced her to rethink everything about how she was living, working, and showing up for her family.
Gillian shares how ambitious women often fall into the trap of trying to “do it all”, only to end up in survival mode, constantly juggling competing priorities without ever feeling effective. She breaks down her time budget exercise, a practical framework for mapping your day in 30-minute blocks so you can align your schedule with your true values instead of societal expectations.
You’ll learn:
- Why burnout is often a sign of misalignment, not overwork
- How to identify your real values and design your day around them
- The “gray area” trap and why clear boundaries boost focus and peace
- Why stillness is the foundation of intentional living
Whether you’re a parent, entrepreneur, or simply feeling stretched too thin, this episode will show you how to create more space, presence, and freedom in your life and business.
It’s time to stop surviving and start thriving. Tune in now and learn how to build a schedule — and a life — that actually breathes.
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Gillian (00:00):
Let me tell you, because I've worked with a lot
of women who are raising theirkids and balancing the job,
balancing the activities.
We are not killing it, we arein survival mode.
Alyssa (00:14):
Welcome to Brilliant Ideas, the podcast that takes
you behind the scenes of some ofthe most inspiring digital
products created by solopreneursjust like you.
I'm your host, alyssa, adigital product strategist who
helps subject matter expertsgrow their business with online
courses, memberships, coachingprograms and eBooks.
If you're a solopreneur withdreams of packaging your
expertise into a profitabledigital product, then this is
(00:37):
the podcast for you.
Expect honest conversations ofhow they started, the obstacles
they overcame, lessons learnedthe hard way and who faced the
same fears, doubts andchallenges you're experiencing,
from unexpected surprises tobreakthrough moments and
everything in between.
Tune in, get inspired and let'sspark your next big, brilliant
idea.
What if burnout isn't a signthat you're doing too much, but
(00:59):
that you're doing too much ofthe wrong things?
This week on Brilliant Ideas,I'm joined by Jillian.
She helps ambitious womenreclaim their time, energy and
clarity by embracing the powerof stillness.
In this episode, she walks usthrough her time budget exercise
an eye-opening approach toevaluating how you're spending
your time versus how you want tospend it.
If your calendar feels like aconstant battle between
(01:21):
productivity and peace, thisframework might just change the
way you operate If you'recraving more alignment, less
chaos and a business that fitsinto your life, not the other
way around.
This one's for you.
Let's dive in.
Welcome to the show, jillian.
Thank you for being here.
Thank you for having me, alyssa.
It's really great that you'rehere and I'm really excited
(01:42):
because the two main themes ofthis conversation is going to be
simplicity and stillness, bothof which, I think, speaks
volumes individually andrelevant for the moms and dads
who have a very busy life andthey're also juggling the
demands of their job or business.
So I want to backtrack a bitbefore we get into those two
themes.
I want to know how did we gethere, jillian, like?
(02:05):
What inspired you to transitionfrom being a health coach to
now focusing primarily onstillness, and how has that
journey shaped your approach towellness?
Gillian (02:16):
Absolutely.
I'm happy to share my journey.
So my career started ineducation.
I was in health and physicaleducation and then I moved into
theology.
I was always interested inhelping students, especially to
understand how themind-body-spirit is so important
for building that foundationfor health and wellness in their
(02:36):
lives.
When I got into education, Ifelt like I was too boxed in, so
I went for the certification inhealth.
Coaching.
Was too boxed in, so I went forthe certification in health
coaching and I just had hugeinspiration.
I wanted to do all the things.
I wanted to help all the peoplewith all of the elements that
they were experiencing and Itried to go after all of it.
(02:57):
I was inspired by the peoplearound me.
I was inspired by what otherpeople were accomplishing
through these different forumsand I just went out and tried to
do it all.
But you couldn't imagine whathappened to me through that
process.
I also had four children and myhusband was traveling quite a
bit and I was trying to buildthis business and help other
(03:21):
people and in the midst of it Iactually lost my own health and
wellness.
And just recently actually lastsummer I had this massive crash
.
It was a nervous system crash,nervous system dysfunction that
really came to a head and forcedme to stop and really take a
(03:43):
look at what I was doing, how Iwas living my life, how I was
pursuing this dream of mine andhow it was impacting me as a
person.
So that's what happened lastsummer.
I was forced.
It was like a wall was put upand the universe told me no more
, you have to stop trying tohelp other people.
(04:04):
You have to stop trying to doall the things.
You need to be still withinyourself first and start there.
Alyssa (04:13):
That's amazing.
And so this crash that youexperienced is it because you
were overwhelmed with your fourkids and the needs that your
kids had, or like, what was it?
You know it was a work, was itjust a combination of everything
?
Or was it just your over?
You may be like an overbookedlifestyle, like when you, you
(04:33):
know, when you you go ahead andbook all the things for your
kids, like, for an example, youknow I was I signed my daughter
up for gymnastics and then I waslike, oh, maybe I should do
dance too.
Oh, maybe you know it's notgood enough, maybe she needs to
learn how to skate.
And so I have found myself evenin this go go go mentality.
(04:54):
And because I look online, Isee other moms who are like
killing it in this, in likemotherhood, like they're doing
all the things and they're thesuper superhero narrative that
we've kind of created in thissociety.
But I also realized that mypersonality is more of like I
(05:14):
can't do all the things and thenbe and also take care of myself
at the same time.
It put those like unnecessarystress and like demands on like
myself and it totally wore meout and like I somehow tell
myself like this is okay, thisis motherhood, this is what we
do, but then the cycle continues.
Gillian (05:33):
Absolutely.
I want to jump for joy andcelebrate you, alyssa, because
you are aware, just by sayingwhat you said, that is what I
help people with today.
This is what I'm helping myselfwith to rebuild this foundation
of awareness.
Let me tell you, because I'veworked with a lot of women who
(05:53):
are raising their kids andbalancing the job, balancing the
activities.
We are not killing it, we arein survival mode.
There are some super women outthere who just love it.
It brings them joy to be livingthat busy life and to have
their kids in all of theseactivities.
But the majority of women arestruggling because we have this
(06:18):
expectation, or we believe thereis this expectation, to do all
of the things.
But it is not true.
There's so much to be saidabout taking a step back,
understanding who you are as anindividual, what your uniqueness
is and what balance works foryou and your family first.
(06:38):
That should always be the mainpriority.
Alyssa (06:42):
I love what you said about survival mode, because I
was in survival mode for a goodlike two years After my daughter
turned two.
I feel like, okay, I have this.
But up until two years I feltlike every day was just like all
about you know my daughter andher life and taking care of her,
and then you know my businessit kind of took a backseat for a
(07:03):
bit, even just now, and I'mjust thinking to myself, like
you know, my business it kind oftook a backseat for a bit, even
just now, and I'm just thinkingto myself like you know, how do
I go back to just enjoying thepresent moment without getting
caught up in this idea that Ihave to be both at the same time
, like I have to choose betweenmy daughter and my business?
And so, as a mother of four,what unique challenges have you
(07:24):
faced with?
Finding stillness Like, howhave you kind of integrate this
concept into your life and alsointo your coaching practice?
Gillian (07:32):
One thing that really started to become clear to me
after I had that crash and burnand I was humbled.
I took so much pride in.
You know, we were living asimple life we don't
overschedule our kids but it wasstill too much because of what
I was taking on with work, allof those tiny little like.
You know, as a mom, yourdaughter's still young, but as
(07:55):
you get older, you have about 20apps on your phone just to
manage the communication betweencoaches and teachers and all of
these people in their lives,right, who want to be
communicating.
And there's there's goodintentions here, but it's all of
those little micromanagingthings that you're trying to
balance.
Add on entrepreneurship and allof the tiny little things that
(08:17):
you need to micromanage to stayon top of things.
What I had to learn is all ofthese things are necessary, but
they all have their place, andwhat we can do better as a
culture, I believe, and what I'mlearning for myself, is
creating these boundaries.
There are times and spaces inour life where we go into that
(08:38):
mode where we're checking theboxes and we're getting those
to-do's done, but then we needto learn how to close the door
and move into that space wherewe're resting, where we're
taking those to-dos done.
But then we need to learn howto close the door and move into
that space where we're resting,where we're taking that moment
to breathe, where we're takingthat moment to calm our minds,
remind ourselves that we areenough, that what our children
need is our presence and ourlove.
That is the most importantthing.
(09:00):
So it's really making thatdecision to move away from that
fear-based mentality where moreis better.
And I have to keep up and lookat what she's doing, look at
what you know all of thesepeople are accomplishing out
there, moving away from fearingthat you're not enough and
moving back towards your heartand acknowledging that you are
(09:24):
enough, just as you are beingpresent in what our kids need
most, what our partners needmost.
What we need most is to bepresent in that moment and to be
calm and realize that that'swhere the magic happens.
It's not pursuing, it's takinga step back and being present.
(09:46):
So one practical way that I dothat and I work with my clients
on this is something called atime budget.
So basically, what I've done isI've it's.
It's so old school, I love pento paper because it makes makes
sure that you're interactingwith the activity right.
It's not an app.
It's a chart that you print outand it's breaking your day into
30 minute increments and beforeyour week starts, you literally
(10:10):
go through that chart and youput in the pillars of health and
wellness first.
So you start with your morningroutine.
What am I going to do from thebeginning of the day to feed my
soul so that I can be alignedwith myself, I can feel like I'm
in a place of peace and I canfeel like I can give to the
people around me during the day.
That is what has changed mylife since I had that crash and
(10:34):
I used to teach this to otherpeople, but I wasn't practicing
it in my own life, I wasn'tloving myself enough to create
that space for myself.
But ever since I started doingthat and actually practicing it
and doing that deep breathing,doing the meditation, taking
that space to just be, to bestill, which is what Soleil
(10:55):
Health and Wellness means, thatwas the game changer for me and
from that point, you canschedule in the movement that
you're going to have during theday, your exercise, how you're
going to nourish your body, howyou're going to connect in real
time with other people, andthat's, I believe, where we need
to start is creating thatstructure, that framework of the
(11:17):
pillars of health and wellness,so that we can thrive.
Alyssa (11:21):
I really like that.
I love the time budget exercisebecause it's something that you
can do that doesn't take a lotof time.
And even for me, like with mybusiness, I like to make
breakfast.
That's like my go-to.
I make an excellent breakfastfor my daughter.
It's the time that I have withher to just spend time without
(11:45):
rushing to go, get to do aclient call or do a client
project.
It's like from the hours of 7to even 11, 12 o'clock.
I'm just like that is my timeto just be with my daughter,
play with her.
You know, do all the fun stuff,like the water table outside.
It's just it feels so good todo that and so and so I like
(12:09):
what you were saying aboutfear-based and how more is not
necessarily better.
And I've even struggled to cometo terms with how overstimulated
I am on a constant basis andyou know being told, you know,
do more, go on this trip, go tothe zoo, go to African lion
safari, and it's like, enjoy allthese moments before they're
(12:29):
fleeting.
And you know for myself, likeyou're right, I do have a lot of
awareness about these kinds ofthings because you know when
someone says, you know to maketime slow down and that's great,
but it's like I am somebodythat you know I am.
I love I don't love being busyLike I love having time for
(12:52):
myself and for my kids so that Ican go to the park for a couple
hours and not have to rush homebecause we have to get
somewhere the other day, thenext day or that evening.
And so I do feel like when youare pulled in different
directions whether it is yourbusiness or, you know, with your
life, with your kids I feellike there's a lot of women who
(13:12):
feel like they don't know kindof where to focus on first, like
they're just kind of like I'mreally a high ambitious woman
who loves working on my business, but they're also want to be
present with their kids as well,and so I've always struggled
with this.
I'm so torn between the twoworlds and you know there's many
(13:34):
online gurus who say, like youknow, they say like well, you
can blend them together, noproblem, but I think it's a
little bit more complicated thanthat.
So how would you explain howyour coaching and programs can
help kind of the parents or eventhe moms who are in business
themselves?
How do they let go of thatunnecessary stress and then
(13:56):
focus on what matters at homeand making sure that their needs
are taken care of as well.
And then what transformationshave you seen in your own
clients?
Gillian (14:07):
Thank you for asking that, alyssa, because this is
this is my passion, this is mywhy for what I do, and the main
why for what I do is my children, is my family.
So it all ties back to that andI help people come back to that
in their own lives.
The first thing that I startwith when I work with my clients
is help them understand whattheir personal values are.
(14:28):
That can sound kind of cheesy,but it's amazing how many people
do not understand what theyvalue.
They may understand theirprogramming, what they were told
to value by their parents, bytheir friends, by our culture,
but they don't truly understandwhat they as unique individuals
value.
When you help to peel backthose layers of complexity and
(14:51):
make those values super clearfor people, they are motivated
in a new way.
So that is how I start my workwith all of my clients and that
is the foundation that we buildon for every pillar of health
that I walk them through.
So, based on those values I'llgo back to the time budget,
because that's something wealready spoke about that's a
very practical exercise that wego through when we speak about
(15:14):
the pillar of intention.
I teach my clients that youneed to live a life of intention
or life will live you.
You will be pulled, as you know, in a million different
directions if you don't knowwhat you value and you don't
have an intention.
So we go back to that timebudget chart and we literally
block out the things that mattermost first and I teach my
(15:38):
clients to be very attentive tothat schedule when they're
working, they're working andfocused.
When it's family time, they arefully present for the family.
When they want to just veg outand jump on their phone and
scroll social media, there mightbe 15 minutes blocked out for
that.
They're not going to feelguilty about it.
(15:58):
But when that 15 minutes isover, it's time to turn the
phone off, read a book, prepareyourself for bed, get yourself
into that zone.
So I help people to create thesehealthy boundaries throughout
their day, their week, theirmonth, so they have this
framework for health andwellness.
Because right now there's a lotof gray area.
It all kind of like whooshestogether.
(16:20):
You know you're like respondingto text messages about where
you're going this weekend, whileyou're working, while you're
nursing your baby.
I mean, we're just doing toomany things at once so we don't
feel productive in any area atall and then we feel like we're
failing in all areas becausewe're doing nothing well.
So that time budget is a gamechanger for so many clients,
(16:40):
especially moms who are jugglingmultiple schedules, because
they are fully present in whatthey're doing in that moment in
time and that's freedom on itsown.
Alyssa (16:49):
I really love that.
That's really great for parentsto have like a framework to
just go off of when they're kindof like reaching that breaking
point, like they're not likethere yet, but they're, they
feel like they're, they'realready.
They need some support and theyneed to make a change.
And so, with how complicatedand stressful life is already,
(17:10):
this can help kind of reducethat mental load, improve your
energy levels.
I mean how I would do it,because that is something that I
think is so important to haveto really focus on those health
and wellness pillars and to leadwith your personal values and
your intentions.
And you know, setting theintentions is really like the
(17:30):
first step and it really setsyou on the course of, you know,
being really successful andmaintaining it long term.
And so where can my listenersconnect with you online?
Tell me about your, the programthat you offer or programs.
Gillian (17:46):
Sure, sure.
So my business is called SoleoHealth and Wellness, and Soleo
is the Latin word for be still.
So this is something that'salways stood out to me as
important, but I haven't reallybeen able to live it out until
now.
So now I'm singing it on themountaintops, like soleo means
be still, because it's soimportant.
So you can find me atsoleocoachingcom.
(18:09):
I'm also on Instagram.
You can follow me there and ifyou'd love to reach out, I would
love to offer your listeners,alyssa, a free session with me
to work with me on that timebudget.
I will send them that timebudget chart and they can
connect with me, because I knowhow powerful it is just to get
(18:29):
your life on track.
And you can just contact me onmy website.
Go to the contact section, senda message to me there, let me
know that you listened to thepodcast and you'd like to take
advantage of that opportunity,and I would just.
I would love to get feedbackfor that time budget because
it's been so powerful for for somany of my clients and I know
(18:52):
that if I can help people buildthat foundation alone, that they
are going to feel empowered toget their life back on track and
build their life on their terms, based on their personal values
.
Alyssa (19:04):
I love that Amazing Well .
Thanks so much, jillian, andthat is such a I think is so
helpful for my listeners to evenget that free session with you
just to see what it's like towork with you and to see you
know how they can start to makesignificant change in their life
.
And so thanks so much, jalene,for coming on the show today and
(19:25):
sharing your real, raw andvulnerable stories, strategies
and helpful insight with ustoday.
Gillian (19:31):
Absolutely.
Thank you so much for having me, Alyssa.
This has been a wonderfulopportunity to step away from
the everyday and have thisconversation with you.
Alyssa (19:38):
I know same here and for everyone listening.
Thank you so much for tuning in.
You're going to find all thelinks that Jillian will provide.
They're all in the show notes,so make sure to check them out.
If you did love this episodeand it resonated with you,
please message me on Instagrammy handle is at
AlyssaBelseriaOBM and share whatyou loved about it and what
(20:00):
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(20:21):
everything you need to startcreating something amazing.
Let me tell you, because I've worked with a lot
of women who are raising theirkids and balancing the job,
balancing the activities.
We are not killing it, we arein survival mode.
Alyssa (00:14):
Welcome to Brilliant Ideas, the podcast that takes
you behind the scenes of some ofthe most inspiring digital
products created by solopreneursjust like you.
I'm your host, alyssa, adigital product strategist who
helps subject matter expertsgrow their business with online
courses, memberships, coachingprograms and eBooks.
If you're a solopreneur withdreams of packaging your
expertise into a profitabledigital product, then this is
(00:37):
the podcast for you.
Expect honest conversations ofhow they started, the obstacles
they overcame, lessons learnedthe hard way and who faced the
same fears, doubts andchallenges you're experiencing,
from unexpected surprises tobreakthrough moments and
everything in between.
Tune in, get inspired and let'sspark your next big, brilliant
idea.
What if burnout isn't a signthat you're doing too much, but
(00:59):
that you're doing too much ofthe wrong things?
This week on Brilliant Ideas,I'm joined by Jillian.
She helps ambitious womenreclaim their time, energy and
clarity by embracing the powerof stillness.
In this episode, she walks usthrough her time budget exercise
an eye-opening approach toevaluating how you're spending
your time versus how you want tospend it.
If your calendar feels like aconstant battle between
(01:21):
productivity and peace, thisframework might just change the
way you operate If you'recraving more alignment, less
chaos and a business that fitsinto your life, not the other
way around.
This one's for you.
Let's dive in.
Welcome to the show, jillian.
Thank you for being here.
Thank you for having me, alyssa.
It's really great that you'rehere and I'm really excited
(01:42):
because the two main themes ofthis conversation is going to be
simplicity and stillness, bothof which, I think, speaks
volumes individually andrelevant for the moms and dads
who have a very busy life andthey're also juggling the
demands of their job or business.
So I want to backtrack a bitbefore we get into those two
themes.
I want to know how did we gethere, jillian, like?
(02:05):
What inspired you to transitionfrom being a health coach to
now focusing primarily onstillness, and how has that
journey shaped your approach towellness?
Gillian (02:16):
Absolutely.
I'm happy to share my journey.
So my career started ineducation.
I was in health and physicaleducation and then I moved into
theology.
I was always interested inhelping students, especially to
understand how themind-body-spirit is so important
for building that foundationfor health and wellness in their
(02:36):
lives.
When I got into education, Ifelt like I was too boxed in, so
I went for the certification inhealth.
Coaching.
Was too boxed in, so I went forthe certification in health
coaching and I just had hugeinspiration.
I wanted to do all the things.
I wanted to help all the peoplewith all of the elements that
they were experiencing and Itried to go after all of it.
(02:57):
I was inspired by the peoplearound me.
I was inspired by what otherpeople were accomplishing
through these different forumsand I just went out and tried to
do it all.
But you couldn't imagine whathappened to me through that
process.
I also had four children and myhusband was traveling quite a
bit and I was trying to buildthis business and help other
(03:21):
people and in the midst of it Iactually lost my own health and
wellness.
And just recently actually lastsummer I had this massive crash
.
It was a nervous system crash,nervous system dysfunction that
really came to a head and forcedme to stop and really take a
(03:43):
look at what I was doing, how Iwas living my life, how I was
pursuing this dream of mine andhow it was impacting me as a
person.
So that's what happened lastsummer.
I was forced.
It was like a wall was put upand the universe told me no more
, you have to stop trying tohelp other people.
(04:04):
You have to stop trying to doall the things.
You need to be still withinyourself first and start there.
Alyssa (04:13):
That's amazing.
And so this crash that youexperienced is it because you
were overwhelmed with your fourkids and the needs that your
kids had, or like, what was it?
You know it was a work, was itjust a combination of everything
?
Or was it just your over?
You may be like an overbookedlifestyle, like when you, you
(04:33):
know, when you you go ahead andbook all the things for your
kids, like, for an example, youknow I was I signed my daughter
up for gymnastics and then I waslike, oh, maybe I should do
dance too.
Oh, maybe you know it's notgood enough, maybe she needs to
learn how to skate.
And so I have found myself evenin this go go go mentality.
(04:54):
And because I look online, Isee other moms who are like
killing it in this, in likemotherhood, like they're doing
all the things and they're thesuper superhero narrative that
we've kind of created in thissociety.
But I also realized that mypersonality is more of like I
(05:14):
can't do all the things and thenbe and also take care of myself
at the same time.
It put those like unnecessarystress and like demands on like
myself and it totally wore meout and like I somehow tell
myself like this is okay, thisis motherhood, this is what we
do, but then the cycle continues.
Gillian (05:33):
Absolutely.
I want to jump for joy andcelebrate you, alyssa, because
you are aware, just by sayingwhat you said, that is what I
help people with today.
This is what I'm helping myselfwith to rebuild this foundation
of awareness.
Let me tell you, because I'veworked with a lot of women who
(05:53):
are raising their kids andbalancing the job, balancing the
activities.
We are not killing it, we arein survival mode.
There are some super women outthere who just love it.
It brings them joy to be livingthat busy life and to have
their kids in all of theseactivities.
But the majority of women arestruggling because we have this
(06:18):
expectation, or we believe thereis this expectation, to do all
of the things.
But it is not true.
There's so much to be saidabout taking a step back,
understanding who you are as anindividual, what your uniqueness
is and what balance works foryou and your family first.
(06:38):
That should always be the mainpriority.
Alyssa (06:42):
I love what you said about survival mode, because I
was in survival mode for a goodlike two years After my daughter
turned two.
I feel like, okay, I have this.
But up until two years I feltlike every day was just like all
about you know my daughter andher life and taking care of her,
and then you know my businessit kind of took a backseat for a
(07:03):
bit, even just now, and I'mjust thinking to myself, like
you know, my business it kind oftook a backseat for a bit, even
just now, and I'm just thinkingto myself like you know, how do
I go back to just enjoying thepresent moment without getting
caught up in this idea that Ihave to be both at the same time
, like I have to choose betweenmy daughter and my business?
And so, as a mother of four,what unique challenges have you
(07:24):
faced with?
Finding stillness Like, howhave you kind of integrate this
concept into your life and alsointo your coaching practice?
Gillian (07:32):
One thing that really started to become clear to me
after I had that crash and burnand I was humbled.
I took so much pride in.
You know, we were living asimple life we don't
overschedule our kids but it wasstill too much because of what
I was taking on with work, allof those tiny little like.
You know, as a mom, yourdaughter's still young, but as
(07:55):
you get older, you have about 20apps on your phone just to
manage the communication betweencoaches and teachers and all of
these people in their lives,right, who want to be
communicating.
And there's there's goodintentions here, but it's all of
those little micromanagingthings that you're trying to
balance.
Add on entrepreneurship and allof the tiny little things that
(08:17):
you need to micromanage to stayon top of things.
What I had to learn is all ofthese things are necessary, but
they all have their place, andwhat we can do better as a
culture, I believe, and what I'mlearning for myself, is
creating these boundaries.
There are times and spaces inour life where we go into that
(08:38):
mode where we're checking theboxes and we're getting those
to-do's done, but then we needto learn how to close the door
and move into that space wherewe're resting, where we're
taking those to-dos done.
But then we need to learn howto close the door and move into
that space where we're resting,where we're taking that moment
to breathe, where we're takingthat moment to calm our minds,
remind ourselves that we areenough, that what our children
need is our presence and ourlove.
That is the most importantthing.
(09:00):
So it's really making thatdecision to move away from that
fear-based mentality where moreis better.
And I have to keep up and lookat what she's doing, look at
what you know all of thesepeople are accomplishing out
there, moving away from fearingthat you're not enough and
moving back towards your heartand acknowledging that you are
(09:24):
enough, just as you are beingpresent in what our kids need
most, what our partners needmost.
What we need most is to bepresent in that moment and to be
calm and realize that that'swhere the magic happens.
It's not pursuing, it's takinga step back and being present.
(09:46):
So one practical way that I dothat and I work with my clients
on this is something called atime budget.
So basically, what I've done isI've it's.
It's so old school, I love pento paper because it makes makes
sure that you're interactingwith the activity right.
It's not an app.
It's a chart that you print outand it's breaking your day into
30 minute increments and beforeyour week starts, you literally
(10:10):
go through that chart and youput in the pillars of health and
wellness first.
So you start with your morningroutine.
What am I going to do from thebeginning of the day to feed my
soul so that I can be alignedwith myself, I can feel like I'm
in a place of peace and I canfeel like I can give to the
people around me during the day.
That is what has changed mylife since I had that crash and
(10:34):
I used to teach this to otherpeople, but I wasn't practicing
it in my own life, I wasn'tloving myself enough to create
that space for myself.
But ever since I started doingthat and actually practicing it
and doing that deep breathing,doing the meditation, taking
that space to just be, to bestill, which is what Soleil
(10:55):
Health and Wellness means, thatwas the game changer for me and
from that point, you canschedule in the movement that
you're going to have during theday, your exercise, how you're
going to nourish your body, howyou're going to connect in real
time with other people, andthat's, I believe, where we need
to start is creating thatstructure, that framework of the
(11:17):
pillars of health and wellness,so that we can thrive.
Alyssa (11:21):
I really like that.
I love the time budget exercisebecause it's something that you
can do that doesn't take a lotof time.
And even for me, like with mybusiness, I like to make
breakfast.
That's like my go-to.
I make an excellent breakfastfor my daughter.
It's the time that I have withher to just spend time without
(11:45):
rushing to go, get to do aclient call or do a client
project.
It's like from the hours of 7to even 11, 12 o'clock.
I'm just like that is my timeto just be with my daughter,
play with her.
You know, do all the fun stuff,like the water table outside.
It's just it feels so good todo that and so and so I like
(12:09):
what you were saying aboutfear-based and how more is not
necessarily better.
And I've even struggled to cometo terms with how overstimulated
I am on a constant basis andyou know being told, you know,
do more, go on this trip, go tothe zoo, go to African lion
safari, and it's like, enjoy allthese moments before they're
(12:29):
fleeting.
And you know for myself, likeyou're right, I do have a lot of
awareness about these kinds ofthings because you know when
someone says, you know to maketime slow down and that's great,
but it's like I am somebodythat you know I am.
I love I don't love being busyLike I love having time for
(12:52):
myself and for my kids so that Ican go to the park for a couple
hours and not have to rush homebecause we have to get
somewhere the other day, thenext day or that evening.
And so I do feel like when youare pulled in different
directions whether it is yourbusiness or, you know, with your
life, with your kids I feellike there's a lot of women who
(13:12):
feel like they don't know kindof where to focus on first, like
they're just kind of like I'mreally a high ambitious woman
who loves working on my business, but they're also want to be
present with their kids as well,and so I've always struggled
with this.
I'm so torn between the twoworlds and you know there's many
(13:34):
online gurus who say, like youknow, they say like well, you
can blend them together, noproblem, but I think it's a
little bit more complicated thanthat.
So how would you explain howyour coaching and programs can
help kind of the parents or eventhe moms who are in business
themselves?
How do they let go of thatunnecessary stress and then
(13:56):
focus on what matters at homeand making sure that their needs
are taken care of as well.
And then what transformationshave you seen in your own
clients?
Gillian (14:07):
Thank you for asking that, alyssa, because this is
this is my passion, this is mywhy for what I do, and the main
why for what I do is my children, is my family.
So it all ties back to that andI help people come back to that
in their own lives.
The first thing that I startwith when I work with my clients
is help them understand whattheir personal values are.
(14:28):
That can sound kind of cheesy,but it's amazing how many people
do not understand what theyvalue.
They may understand theirprogramming, what they were told
to value by their parents, bytheir friends, by our culture,
but they don't truly understandwhat they as unique individuals
value.
When you help to peel backthose layers of complexity and
(14:51):
make those values super clearfor people, they are motivated
in a new way.
So that is how I start my workwith all of my clients and that
is the foundation that we buildon for every pillar of health
that I walk them through.
So, based on those values I'llgo back to the time budget,
because that's something wealready spoke about that's a
very practical exercise that wego through when we speak about
(15:14):
the pillar of intention.
I teach my clients that youneed to live a life of intention
or life will live you.
You will be pulled, as you know, in a million different
directions if you don't knowwhat you value and you don't
have an intention.
So we go back to that timebudget chart and we literally
block out the things that mattermost first and I teach my
(15:38):
clients to be very attentive tothat schedule when they're
working, they're working andfocused.
When it's family time, they arefully present for the family.
When they want to just veg outand jump on their phone and
scroll social media, there mightbe 15 minutes blocked out for
that.
They're not going to feelguilty about it.
(15:58):
But when that 15 minutes isover, it's time to turn the
phone off, read a book, prepareyourself for bed, get yourself
into that zone.
So I help people to create thesehealthy boundaries throughout
their day, their week, theirmonth, so they have this
framework for health andwellness.
Because right now there's a lotof gray area.
It all kind of like whooshestogether.
(16:20):
You know you're like respondingto text messages about where
you're going this weekend, whileyou're working, while you're
nursing your baby.
I mean, we're just doing toomany things at once so we don't
feel productive in any area atall and then we feel like we're
failing in all areas becausewe're doing nothing well.
So that time budget is a gamechanger for so many clients,
(16:40):
especially moms who are jugglingmultiple schedules, because
they are fully present in whatthey're doing in that moment in
time and that's freedom on itsown.
Alyssa (16:49):
I really love that.
That's really great for parentsto have like a framework to
just go off of when they're kindof like reaching that breaking
point, like they're not likethere yet, but they're, they
feel like they're, they'realready.
They need some support and theyneed to make a change.
And so, with how complicatedand stressful life is already,
(17:10):
this can help kind of reducethat mental load, improve your
energy levels.
I mean how I would do it,because that is something that I
think is so important to haveto really focus on those health
and wellness pillars and to leadwith your personal values and
your intentions.
And you know, setting theintentions is really like the
(17:30):
first step and it really setsyou on the course of, you know,
being really successful andmaintaining it long term.
And so where can my listenersconnect with you online?
Tell me about your, the programthat you offer or programs.
Gillian (17:46):
Sure, sure.
So my business is called SoleoHealth and Wellness, and Soleo
is the Latin word for be still.
So this is something that'salways stood out to me as
important, but I haven't reallybeen able to live it out until
now.
So now I'm singing it on themountaintops, like soleo means
be still, because it's soimportant.
So you can find me atsoleocoachingcom.
(18:09):
I'm also on Instagram.
You can follow me there and ifyou'd love to reach out, I would
love to offer your listeners,alyssa, a free session with me
to work with me on that timebudget.
I will send them that timebudget chart and they can
connect with me, because I knowhow powerful it is just to get
(18:29):
your life on track.
And you can just contact me onmy website.
Go to the contact section, senda message to me there, let me
know that you listened to thepodcast and you'd like to take
advantage of that opportunity,and I would just.
I would love to get feedbackfor that time budget because
it's been so powerful for for somany of my clients and I know
(18:52):
that if I can help people buildthat foundation alone, that they
are going to feel empowered toget their life back on track and
build their life on their terms, based on their personal values
.
Alyssa (19:04):
I love that Amazing Well .
Thanks so much, jillian, andthat is such a I think is so
helpful for my listeners to evenget that free session with you
just to see what it's like towork with you and to see you
know how they can start to makesignificant change in their life
.
And so thanks so much, jalene,for coming on the show today and
(19:25):
sharing your real, raw andvulnerable stories, strategies
and helpful insight with ustoday.
Gillian (19:31):
Absolutely.
Thank you so much for having me, Alyssa.
This has been a wonderfulopportunity to step away from
the everyday and have thisconversation with you.
Alyssa (19:38):
I know same here and for everyone listening.
Thank you so much for tuning in.
You're going to find all thelinks that Jillian will provide.
They're all in the show notes,so make sure to check them out.
If you did love this episodeand it resonated with you,
please message me on Instagrammy handle is at
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