March 30, 2025 • 25 mins
In this raw and unfiltered episode, Teresa shares a deeply personal moment that caught her completely off guard—and how she found clarity not by fixing it, but by doing absolutely nothing. From an emotional unraveling at work to the quiet stillness of walking to the beach, she opens up about the power of pausing, processing, and letting your thoughts settle before making any decisions.
She also shares a special shout-out to her listeners around the world—especially in Mexico—with a heartfelt gracias desde el fondo de mi corazón.
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by something small because everything else in your life was already heavy—this episode is for you. You’ll walk away feeling seen, heard, and reminded that you’re not alone—and that clarity often comes in the stillness.
Thank you for tuning in! I truly appreciate every single listener—whether you’re here for the first time or have been with me from the start.
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(00:03):
Hi everyone, and welcome to theshow.
I am so glad you're here today.
Whether you've been listeningfrom the very beginning, or this
is your first time tuning in,thank you so much for spending
this time with me.
Before we dive in, I wanna givea.
Big shout out to all of mylisteners around the world.
(00:27):
It truly blows my mind that thisshow has reached people in
different countries in cornersaround the globe.
And I wanna give a very specialthank you to my listeners in
Mexico.
Did you know that nearly half ofyou are tuning in from there?
(00:48):
That's incredible.
I just wanna sayon and thankseverybody for being a part of
this community.
We've talked about moments inlife that hit you with no
warning.
There's no buildup, there's notime to prepare.
(01:11):
It just hits you like the wind,and that's what happened to me
this week.
The kind of moment that pullsthe rug out from under you,
leaving you standing therethinking.
Wait, what just happened?
It's a strange feeling, right?
You go from feeling okay, maybeeven good.
(01:34):
You might have a lot of peace inyour life, and you're just
cruising along to feeling likeyour chest is heavy, your brain
is overloaded, and nothing feelssteady anymore.
Do you know what I'm talkingabout?
And even though I'm feeling muchmore grounded today, I just
(01:56):
wanna walk you through it whileit's still so fresh, because
there's something powerful aboutreflecting on these moments when
they're still very close to thesurface, life throws something
to us so fast, so ununexpectedly, it just knocks the
wind out of us.
(02:16):
Not physically, but emotionally,mentally, and in some ways, that
kind of impact can be hard torecover from.
You know what I mean?
The kind of emotional gut punchwhere everything feels unsteady.
Like even things that hadnothing to do with the event,
(02:37):
suddenly feel off.
It's like your whole nervoussystem got activated.
Your heart's racing, yourthoughts are racing, and it
feels like you're just trying tocatch your breath.
Your chest may be tight fromsome anxiety you're not even
sure sometimes.
What just knocked the air out ofyou?
(02:59):
Our first instinct, mineincluded, is always to go do
something.
How can I fix it?
I need to call a friend.
I need to call somebody in myfamily.
I need to make a plan.
Reorganize your thoughts, workit out.
Or if we don't wanna go downthat road, we distract
(03:21):
ourselves, throw on a show, gofor a drive, doom scroll, or
maybe even pour a drink or eatsomething just to feel a little
more in control.
Why I.
Why do we do that?
I'll tell you why.
Because feeling everything atonce is overwhelming.
It's too much, and we're human.
(03:43):
We want to run the otherdirection when this stuff
happens.
But here's the thing that Ilearned yesterday.
And I say this with my wholeheart, sometimes the best thing
you can do in that moment whenyou get negative news is nothing
(04:04):
like, really nothing.
Don't make a planned and just bewith it.
That might soundcounterintuitive, and trust me,
it felt a little weird for meyesterday.
I'm someone who's always inmotion, always solving, always
(04:25):
pushing through, but yesterdaysomething told me to pause.
To just let it be, let thethoughts swirl, let the emotions
come up without trying to shutthat down and in doing nothing,
I started to feel the tiniestbit of space return.
(04:48):
It wasn't clarity at first, itwas just stillness.
A moment where the storm slowedjust enough for me to realize, I
am going to be okay, but notright now.
And that's okay.
That space, that pause, that'swhat this episode is about, and
(05:10):
I wanna talk about it because wedon't always, and I would say
most times ever give ourselvespermission.
To do that, we don't giveourselves room to not react, but
sometimes that's exactly what weneed the most.
(05:31):
Believe it or not, in shock, isnot my full-time job.
It is my passion project.
I am a professional in thetechnology industry.
Working alongside some trulysolid leaders, the kind who
coach their teams like they'reheading to the Super Bowl.
(05:52):
I created in Shock for Moments,just like the story I'm about to
tell you, when life knocks thewind outta you and you're left
trying to figure out how tocope.
That's what we're here to dotoday.
So let's get into it.
(06:14):
One of my direct leaders of fiveyears, somebody I've learned a
great deal from, I truly admirehim, announced that he's
resigning.
We have worked side by side oncontracts, strategize for hours
on accounts, and have poweredthrough some intense deadlines
(06:35):
together.
We don't live in the same city.
When I say side by side, it'snot about being neighbors or
anything like that.
It's about having kind of thatdeep connection with the people
that you work with, someone thatyou trust and respect.
If you think of your job today,and maybe you are working with
(06:57):
or have worked with a leaderwho's been with you for many,
many years, and all of a suddenthey resign, it hits you kind of
hard.
When you spend that much timebuilding and performing under
pressure with somebody, theybecome a pillar in your world.
(07:18):
And yesterday that pillarstepped away and I didn't see it
coming.
I've got pretty good spideysenses and I don't know where
they were.
They clearly checked outbecause.
That news hit me like the wind.
During the announcement, therewas a pause.
(07:41):
I took that opportunity to speakup to share how much I admired
his coaching style and that I'dreally miss working with him.
But the more I spoke, the moreshaken my voice became, and then
I broke down in tears in frontof my entire team.
(08:02):
That is not like me.
I have worked in corporateAmerica my entire life, and I
have never cried publicly likethat.
Talk about catching yourself offguard.
It caught everyone on my teamoff guard too.
After that announcement, my mindwent into overdrive.
(08:26):
My thoughts felt like rush hourtraffic coming from all
different directions.
Nothing was clear to me.
I couldn't focus.
I couldn't even absorb anythinganyone else was saying.
It was like noise on top ofnoise.
Have you ever had somebody sharesomething with you while your
(08:49):
own brain is exploding with amillion thoughts?
You can't even hear what theperson is saying.
That's where I was.
What shocked me even more thanthe news itself was how quickly
everything started to unravel.
One domino fell and suddenly itwas like an avalanche.
(09:14):
I started to question.
Everything, my role, my value,my direction, should I be here?
It felt like a tornado hadtouched down in my brain with a
million thoughts spinning aroundin a giant circle out of
control.
I couldn't find clarity, Icouldn't make sense of anything.
(09:37):
It was if my entire foundationhad been lifted off the ground
and dropped into the eye of thismental.
Storm and the worst part is Iwas starting to beat myself up
over things that didn't evenmake sense, including why I
(09:58):
started in shock.
I was completely overwhelmed andI remember thinking, girl, what
the fuck is going on with youtoday?
Get a hold of yourself.
Normally, I'd push through.
Show up, work harder, powerthrough the feelings.
(10:18):
But this time, something insideme said, stop.
And I'm so fortunate that I workwith an incredible I.
Amount of people that stepped inand covered for me, they saw
(10:38):
what happened to me.
I was on camera in front of thisentire team.
They allowed me to do somethingI rarely do and I clearly needed
to do, and that was disconnect.
Check out.
So I walked to the beach.
It was freezing out, but thecold air snapped me into the
(11:02):
present.
I was very emotional, but I waswith myself in that stillness.
Something shifted all of thesudden.
I was present with my feelingsand I thought, this is exactly
what I need.
I don't need to fix anything.
(11:23):
I don't need to make anydecisions.
I don't need to distract myself.
I don't need to talk to anyone.
I.
I just need to be and just feelwhat is happening with me right
now.
So I let the thoughts come inevery emotion.
I was crying every negativespiral.
(11:46):
I just let it in.
All the thoughts about beatingmyself up, I said, come on in.
You're welcome.
Because I knew I was not gonnafeel this way today.
The thoughts were temporary, andI knew eventually they would
(12:07):
settle.
I knew the storm would pass, andeven after I spent some time on
the beach, which for me is foodfor my soul.
It truly is.
It's like a salty therapist whocan't talk back to you.
You are just absorbingeverything that's happening
inside you.
(12:29):
I ran a couple of errands incomplete silence, barely
interacting with anybody at thecheckout stand.
I just let the storm swirl in mymind, and by the time evening
came, the anxiety had lessened.
I had started to really processeverything that was happening
(12:52):
and took a lot of deep breaths.
But as you can imagine, I had areally tough time sleeping that
night.
Even though some of the thoughtshad started to settle, the peace
I had before all of thisunraveled was gone.
Processing takes time, grief,shock, even unexpected change.
(13:18):
It all stirs things up and ittakes space.
For the storm inside you to beable to calm.
And here's the thing, I thinkeveryone's gonna love this more
than anything.
'cause you're probably thinking,why the fuck were you so upset
over one of your leadersresigning?
(13:41):
It wasn't just the news I.
It was everything that led up tothat, and that's what became
very clear to me today.
Over the last 45 days, it hasbeen intense.
I've had very tight deadlines,constant pressure to get things
(14:01):
done, working long hours.
Getting burnt out, and on top ofthat, the gray, gloomy weather
just kept dragging on.
I'm from California, I needsunshine.
I'm used to sunny days almostevery single day.
(14:22):
I didn't even know what seasonaldepression was until I moved to
the east coast.
Then March rolls around.
And while the calendar says it'sspring, it looks nothing like
spring outside, no bloomingflowers, no warm breezes, just
more cold gray days.
(14:46):
Seasonal depression is real.
For those of you who aren't in astate where spring is still
winter.
It's tough, especially forpeople like me who've bounced
out of sunny California and cometo the Northeast.
(15:07):
It's different.
So as the tornado begin tosettle, I got clarity and
perspective that this was acompound effect of work gray
weather.
And then the announcement of myleader's resignation.
That was the straw that brokethe camel's back and the
(15:32):
floodgates opened up.
It reminded me that when we gethit with negative news, our
reaction isn't always about thenews itself.
Think about that.
It's about everything else.
We're already caring.
(15:53):
So if you're going through a lotand something hits you that
normally wouldn't shake you, itmight just be the final straw.
The thing that tips you overwhen you're already stretched
thin.
Even the smallest shift can feellike an earthquake.
(16:14):
I.
Right.
No matter how small or big, itreally can make a difference and
it made a huge difference forme.
I don't cry a lot.
I'm a real person.
I have emotions, but I powerthrough.
(16:37):
And so the simple fact that Iwas shaken to tears really threw
me off my game.
It was when that clarity came,after I gave myself that space
to process that, I realized, youknow what?
You have had a lot of shithappening at one time and you
(17:00):
were burnt out.
You needed to cry this out.
It was like relieving all thestress and it really was'cause I
feel fine today.
I'm so grateful I didn't makeany big decisions yesterday
because if I had, they would'vecome from a place of emotional
(17:24):
disruption.
There was nothing clear going onin my mind.
How can we possibly think we canmake major decisions when we're
under distress?
It just can't happen.
That pause, like I said, gave meroom to process, and now I see
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things more clearly.
You know that song I can seeclearly.
Now the rain is gone.
That's what I'm talking about.
Given the new fiscal year andchanges that came in my work
world, I thought I'm actually ina really good place right now at
(18:05):
work.
I.
I can be more thoughtful andreally focus on making a big
impact.
I don't need to pivot right now.
I don't need to make any bigchanges.
I just needed to pause and Idid.
Our minds can take us to somepretty dark places if we let
(18:25):
them.
Especially in moments ofemotional stress.
And the truth is we shouldn'ttake every thought so seriously
when we're in that storm.
I was in it and I believed justabout everything that crossed my
mind.
If you're listening and you havethat negative news moment, maybe
(18:49):
think back to this time.
Realize what's going throughyour brain isn't the truth.
Processing negative news, nomatter how big or small takes
time.
We all move through it at ourown pace some faster.
I would say I'm pretty fast atprocessing stuff.
(19:11):
I don't like to have heavinessweighing me down while others
move a little bit slower.
I.
To overcome whatever thatnegative news is.
There's no perfect pace.
But when you give yourself thatspace to feel it at the point of
(19:31):
impact, I cannot tell you howincredible that feels and how
quickly the chaos begins tosettle.
The spiraling stops, theself-doubt fades.
You stop going to the worst casescenario and you start to see
(19:53):
things much more clearly.
That's exactly what happened tome.
I got clarity, I also rememberedwhy I started in shock because
believe me, in that tornado Ieven questioned this.
I have been through a boatloadof real life heavy shit, and I
(20:18):
know I'm not the only one, but Itruly believe that sharing my
stories.
The stories of all the gueststhat I've had on and will be
coming on can help any of youlistening or people that you
think should be listening findyour strength.
(20:39):
That's why In Shock was created.
I truly believe in this.
I wanna build a community, aplace for people to come to
click on different stories thatmight really resonate or be
relevant for you.
And it's about you being able tohear real people and how they
(21:00):
made it through.
Their hardest moments of theirlives and what it actually took
to move through the emotionalweight of it.
All And if you've been tuningin, you already know I believe
in the power of laughter, evenin the darkest moments.
(21:21):
Especially in the darkestmoments.
So yes, I will keep bringingguests on to share their
incredible stories.
I have some coming up in April,and yes, we will laugh because
life is heavy sometimes, but italso can be really funny too.
(21:42):
I am just so honored to be herewith all of you and for all of
you to be listening in.
If you are in the middle of yourown spiral and your thoughts are
loud and your feelings areintense, I want you to know you
don't have to fix it right away,and you don't have to make any
(22:04):
decisions.
Let it process.
Go for a walk.
Be still turn off the outsidenoise.
Give those thoughts space to runthat internal meeting that's
happening upstairs without anyinterference.
(22:25):
Because when the thoughts stopstorming the gates and take a
seat on the bench, that's whenclarity shows up.
We've gotta remember to begentle with ourselves in those
moments and be gentle with otherpeople too, just because it
doesn't seem big to you that thenegative news your person,
(22:51):
friend, or family might besharing with you.
It could be something ofmagnitude for them.
Let me give you a perfectexample.
One of my girlfriends has such agroovy vibe.
She is super chill, and I knowif she's listening right now,
she knows I'm talking about her.
(23:13):
She just vibes.
Do you have friends like that?
These are people who seem likenothing gets to them, but what
I've learned from her,especially during this last
year,'cause she's had some heavystuff come her way.
I.
Is that when these vibey peoplehave something come their way,
(23:35):
it might feel lighter to you.
It may not feel like somethingthat would disrupt you or shake
you, but things shake peopledifferently.
Be mindful this may not seem bigto you, but it is very big to
them and they need you rightnow.
(23:57):
So listen and be there for them.
We help people heal.
We really do.
Through our support, we show upfor each of them during their
vulnerable moments.
I wanna thank you for tuning intoday and being here with me in
this raw moment.
(24:19):
If this resonated with you orreminds you of somebody who is
either in a shit storm, pleaseshare this episode with them.
They may get a little nugget outof it, but most of all.
Give yourself grace and we don'thave to move or do anything
(24:41):
crazy when negative news hits.
We make our decisions and reactwhen we've processed everything.
I hope you all have a wonderfulday Until next time.
Hi everyone, and welcome to theshow.
I am so glad you're here today.
Whether you've been listeningfrom the very beginning, or this
is your first time tuning in,thank you so much for spending
this time with me.
Before we dive in, I wanna givea.
Big shout out to all of mylisteners around the world.
(00:27):
It truly blows my mind that thisshow has reached people in
different countries in cornersaround the globe.
And I wanna give a very specialthank you to my listeners in
Mexico.
Did you know that nearly half ofyou are tuning in from there?
(00:48):
That's incredible.
I just wanna sayon and thankseverybody for being a part of
this community.
We've talked about moments inlife that hit you with no
warning.
There's no buildup, there's notime to prepare.
(01:11):
It just hits you like the wind,and that's what happened to me
this week.
The kind of moment that pullsthe rug out from under you,
leaving you standing therethinking.
Wait, what just happened?
It's a strange feeling, right?
You go from feeling okay, maybeeven good.
(01:34):
You might have a lot of peace inyour life, and you're just
cruising along to feeling likeyour chest is heavy, your brain
is overloaded, and nothing feelssteady anymore.
Do you know what I'm talkingabout?
And even though I'm feeling muchmore grounded today, I just
(01:56):
wanna walk you through it whileit's still so fresh, because
there's something powerful aboutreflecting on these moments when
they're still very close to thesurface, life throws something
to us so fast, so ununexpectedly, it just knocks the
wind out of us.
(02:16):
Not physically, but emotionally,mentally, and in some ways, that
kind of impact can be hard torecover from.
You know what I mean?
The kind of emotional gut punchwhere everything feels unsteady.
Like even things that hadnothing to do with the event,
(02:37):
suddenly feel off.
It's like your whole nervoussystem got activated.
Your heart's racing, yourthoughts are racing, and it
feels like you're just trying tocatch your breath.
Your chest may be tight fromsome anxiety you're not even
sure sometimes.
What just knocked the air out ofyou?
(02:59):
Our first instinct, mineincluded, is always to go do
something.
How can I fix it?
I need to call a friend.
I need to call somebody in myfamily.
I need to make a plan.
Reorganize your thoughts, workit out.
Or if we don't wanna go downthat road, we distract
(03:21):
ourselves, throw on a show, gofor a drive, doom scroll, or
maybe even pour a drink or eatsomething just to feel a little
more in control.
Why I.
Why do we do that?
I'll tell you why.
Because feeling everything atonce is overwhelming.
It's too much, and we're human.
(03:43):
We want to run the otherdirection when this stuff
happens.
But here's the thing that Ilearned yesterday.
And I say this with my wholeheart, sometimes the best thing
you can do in that moment whenyou get negative news is nothing
(04:04):
like, really nothing.
Don't make a planned and just bewith it.
That might soundcounterintuitive, and trust me,
it felt a little weird for meyesterday.
I'm someone who's always inmotion, always solving, always
(04:25):
pushing through, but yesterdaysomething told me to pause.
To just let it be, let thethoughts swirl, let the emotions
come up without trying to shutthat down and in doing nothing,
I started to feel the tiniestbit of space return.
(04:48):
It wasn't clarity at first, itwas just stillness.
A moment where the storm slowedjust enough for me to realize, I
am going to be okay, but notright now.
And that's okay.
That space, that pause, that'swhat this episode is about, and
(05:10):
I wanna talk about it because wedon't always, and I would say
most times ever give ourselvespermission.
To do that, we don't giveourselves room to not react, but
sometimes that's exactly what weneed the most.
(05:31):
Believe it or not, in shock, isnot my full-time job.
It is my passion project.
I am a professional in thetechnology industry.
Working alongside some trulysolid leaders, the kind who
coach their teams like they'reheading to the Super Bowl.
(05:52):
I created in Shock for Moments,just like the story I'm about to
tell you, when life knocks thewind outta you and you're left
trying to figure out how tocope.
That's what we're here to dotoday.
So let's get into it.
(06:14):
One of my direct leaders of fiveyears, somebody I've learned a
great deal from, I truly admirehim, announced that he's
resigning.
We have worked side by side oncontracts, strategize for hours
on accounts, and have poweredthrough some intense deadlines
(06:35):
together.
We don't live in the same city.
When I say side by side, it'snot about being neighbors or
anything like that.
It's about having kind of thatdeep connection with the people
that you work with, someone thatyou trust and respect.
If you think of your job today,and maybe you are working with
(06:57):
or have worked with a leaderwho's been with you for many,
many years, and all of a suddenthey resign, it hits you kind of
hard.
When you spend that much timebuilding and performing under
pressure with somebody, theybecome a pillar in your world.
(07:18):
And yesterday that pillarstepped away and I didn't see it
coming.
I've got pretty good spideysenses and I don't know where
they were.
They clearly checked outbecause.
That news hit me like the wind.
During the announcement, therewas a pause.
(07:41):
I took that opportunity to speakup to share how much I admired
his coaching style and that I'dreally miss working with him.
But the more I spoke, the moreshaken my voice became, and then
I broke down in tears in frontof my entire team.
(08:02):
That is not like me.
I have worked in corporateAmerica my entire life, and I
have never cried publicly likethat.
Talk about catching yourself offguard.
It caught everyone on my teamoff guard too.
After that announcement, my mindwent into overdrive.
(08:26):
My thoughts felt like rush hourtraffic coming from all
different directions.
Nothing was clear to me.
I couldn't focus.
I couldn't even absorb anythinganyone else was saying.
It was like noise on top ofnoise.
Have you ever had somebody sharesomething with you while your
(08:49):
own brain is exploding with amillion thoughts?
You can't even hear what theperson is saying.
That's where I was.
What shocked me even more thanthe news itself was how quickly
everything started to unravel.
One domino fell and suddenly itwas like an avalanche.
(09:14):
I started to question.
Everything, my role, my value,my direction, should I be here?
It felt like a tornado hadtouched down in my brain with a
million thoughts spinning aroundin a giant circle out of
control.
I couldn't find clarity, Icouldn't make sense of anything.
(09:37):
It was if my entire foundationhad been lifted off the ground
and dropped into the eye of thismental.
Storm and the worst part is Iwas starting to beat myself up
over things that didn't evenmake sense, including why I
(09:58):
started in shock.
I was completely overwhelmed andI remember thinking, girl, what
the fuck is going on with youtoday?
Get a hold of yourself.
Normally, I'd push through.
Show up, work harder, powerthrough the feelings.
(10:18):
But this time, something insideme said, stop.
And I'm so fortunate that I workwith an incredible I.
Amount of people that stepped inand covered for me, they saw
(10:38):
what happened to me.
I was on camera in front of thisentire team.
They allowed me to do somethingI rarely do and I clearly needed
to do, and that was disconnect.
Check out.
So I walked to the beach.
It was freezing out, but thecold air snapped me into the
(11:02):
present.
I was very emotional, but I waswith myself in that stillness.
Something shifted all of thesudden.
I was present with my feelingsand I thought, this is exactly
what I need.
I don't need to fix anything.
(11:23):
I don't need to make anydecisions.
I don't need to distract myself.
I don't need to talk to anyone.
I.
I just need to be and just feelwhat is happening with me right
now.
So I let the thoughts come inevery emotion.
I was crying every negativespiral.
(11:46):
I just let it in.
All the thoughts about beatingmyself up, I said, come on in.
You're welcome.
Because I knew I was not gonnafeel this way today.
The thoughts were temporary, andI knew eventually they would
(12:07):
settle.
I knew the storm would pass, andeven after I spent some time on
the beach, which for me is foodfor my soul.
It truly is.
It's like a salty therapist whocan't talk back to you.
You are just absorbingeverything that's happening
inside you.
(12:29):
I ran a couple of errands incomplete silence, barely
interacting with anybody at thecheckout stand.
I just let the storm swirl in mymind, and by the time evening
came, the anxiety had lessened.
I had started to really processeverything that was happening
(12:52):
and took a lot of deep breaths.
But as you can imagine, I had areally tough time sleeping that
night.
Even though some of the thoughtshad started to settle, the peace
I had before all of thisunraveled was gone.
Processing takes time, grief,shock, even unexpected change.
(13:18):
It all stirs things up and ittakes space.
For the storm inside you to beable to calm.
And here's the thing, I thinkeveryone's gonna love this more
than anything.
'cause you're probably thinking,why the fuck were you so upset
over one of your leadersresigning?
(13:41):
It wasn't just the news I.
It was everything that led up tothat, and that's what became
very clear to me today.
Over the last 45 days, it hasbeen intense.
I've had very tight deadlines,constant pressure to get things
(14:01):
done, working long hours.
Getting burnt out, and on top ofthat, the gray, gloomy weather
just kept dragging on.
I'm from California, I needsunshine.
I'm used to sunny days almostevery single day.
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I didn't even know what seasonaldepression was until I moved to
the east coast.
Then March rolls around.
And while the calendar says it'sspring, it looks nothing like
spring outside, no bloomingflowers, no warm breezes, just
more cold gray days.
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Seasonal depression is real.
For those of you who aren't in astate where spring is still
winter.
It's tough, especially forpeople like me who've bounced
out of sunny California and cometo the Northeast.
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It's different.
So as the tornado begin tosettle, I got clarity and
perspective that this was acompound effect of work gray
weather.
And then the announcement of myleader's resignation.
That was the straw that brokethe camel's back and the
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floodgates opened up.
It reminded me that when we gethit with negative news, our
reaction isn't always about thenews itself.
Think about that.
It's about everything else.
We're already caring.
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So if you're going through a lotand something hits you that
normally wouldn't shake you, itmight just be the final straw.
The thing that tips you overwhen you're already stretched
thin.
Even the smallest shift can feellike an earthquake.
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I.
Right.
No matter how small or big, itreally can make a difference and
it made a huge difference forme.
I don't cry a lot.
I'm a real person.
I have emotions, but I powerthrough.
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And so the simple fact that Iwas shaken to tears really threw
me off my game.
It was when that clarity came,after I gave myself that space
to process that, I realized, youknow what?
You have had a lot of shithappening at one time and you
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were burnt out.
You needed to cry this out.
It was like relieving all thestress and it really was'cause I
feel fine today.
I'm so grateful I didn't makeany big decisions yesterday
because if I had, they would'vecome from a place of emotional
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disruption.
There was nothing clear going onin my mind.
How can we possibly think we canmake major decisions when we're
under distress?
It just can't happen.
That pause, like I said, gave meroom to process, and now I see
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things more clearly.
You know that song I can seeclearly.
Now the rain is gone.
That's what I'm talking about.
Given the new fiscal year andchanges that came in my work
world, I thought I'm actually ina really good place right now at
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work.
I.
I can be more thoughtful andreally focus on making a big
impact.
I don't need to pivot right now.
I don't need to make any bigchanges.
I just needed to pause and Idid.
Our minds can take us to somepretty dark places if we let
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them.
Especially in moments ofemotional stress.
And the truth is we shouldn'ttake every thought so seriously
when we're in that storm.
I was in it and I believed justabout everything that crossed my
mind.
If you're listening and you havethat negative news moment, maybe
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think back to this time.
Realize what's going throughyour brain isn't the truth.
Processing negative news, nomatter how big or small takes
time.
We all move through it at ourown pace some faster.
I would say I'm pretty fast atprocessing stuff.
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I don't like to have heavinessweighing me down while others
move a little bit slower.
I.
To overcome whatever thatnegative news is.
There's no perfect pace.
But when you give yourself thatspace to feel it at the point of
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impact, I cannot tell you howincredible that feels and how
quickly the chaos begins tosettle.
The spiraling stops, theself-doubt fades.
You stop going to the worst casescenario and you start to see
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things much more clearly.
That's exactly what happened tome.
I got clarity, I also rememberedwhy I started in shock because
believe me, in that tornado Ieven questioned this.
I have been through a boatloadof real life heavy shit, and I
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know I'm not the only one, but Itruly believe that sharing my
stories.
The stories of all the gueststhat I've had on and will be
coming on can help any of youlistening or people that you
think should be listening findyour strength.
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That's why In Shock was created.
I truly believe in this.
I wanna build a community, aplace for people to come to
click on different stories thatmight really resonate or be
relevant for you.
And it's about you being able tohear real people and how they
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made it through.
Their hardest moments of theirlives and what it actually took
to move through the emotionalweight of it.
All And if you've been tuningin, you already know I believe
in the power of laughter, evenin the darkest moments.
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Especially in the darkestmoments.
So yes, I will keep bringingguests on to share their
incredible stories.
I have some coming up in April,and yes, we will laugh because
life is heavy sometimes, but italso can be really funny too.
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I am just so honored to be herewith all of you and for all of
you to be listening in.
If you are in the middle of yourown spiral and your thoughts are
loud and your feelings areintense, I want you to know you
don't have to fix it right away,and you don't have to make any
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decisions.
Let it process.
Go for a walk.
Be still turn off the outsidenoise.
Give those thoughts space to runthat internal meeting that's
happening upstairs without anyinterference.
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Because when the thoughts stopstorming the gates and take a
seat on the bench, that's whenclarity shows up.
We've gotta remember to begentle with ourselves in those
moments and be gentle with otherpeople too, just because it
doesn't seem big to you that thenegative news your person,
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friend, or family might besharing with you.
It could be something ofmagnitude for them.
Let me give you a perfectexample.
One of my girlfriends has such agroovy vibe.
She is super chill, and I knowif she's listening right now,
she knows I'm talking about her.
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She just vibes.
Do you have friends like that?
These are people who seem likenothing gets to them, but what
I've learned from her,especially during this last
year,'cause she's had some heavystuff come her way.
I.
Is that when these vibey peoplehave something come their way,
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it might feel lighter to you.
It may not feel like somethingthat would disrupt you or shake
you, but things shake peopledifferently.
Be mindful this may not seem bigto you, but it is very big to
them and they need you rightnow.
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So listen and be there for them.
We help people heal.
We really do.
Through our support, we show upfor each of them during their
vulnerable moments.
I wanna thank you for tuning intoday and being here with me in
this raw moment.
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If this resonated with you orreminds you of somebody who is
either in a shit storm, pleaseshare this episode with them.
They may get a little nugget outof it, but most of all.
Give yourself grace and we don'thave to move or do anything
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crazy when negative news hits.
We make our decisions and reactwhen we've processed everything.
I hope you all have a wonderfulday Until next time.
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