In this deeply personal episode of Mind About Masculinity, host Avik sits down with Cole Grace—a former bomb technician in Iraq turned mental health advocate—to explore what real strength looks like beyond war zones and expectations. Cole opens up about living with PTSD, addiction, and the brutal inner critic shaped by survival. Together, they unpack why men struggle with self-love, how emotional repression becomes addictive, and why external wins can’t heal internal wounds. Drawing on his book Internal > External, Cole offers grounded, actionable wisdom for men who are ready to stop running and start healing.
About the GuestCole Grace is a combat veteran, speaker, and author of Internal > External: Calming the Chaos Within. After disarming roadside bombs in Iraq and battling personal demons post-deployment, Cole now helps others master their inner world through mindset tools, emotional intelligence, and vulnerability. His mission is to help men rebuild their lives by owning their stories and emotions—not suppressing them.
Key Takeaways
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Self-love isn't soft—it's essential to mental resilience and masculine strength.
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Combat taught Cole to repress emotion for survival, but healing demanded he face those buried feelings.
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Reprogramming limiting beliefs with affirmations and gratitude isn't fluff—it’s neuroscience.
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Real masculinity includes control over emotional reactivity, not suppression.
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External success means little when internal wounds go unaddressed.
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Emotional repression might work short term, but unresolved trauma resurfaces in self-sabotage and rage.
Connect with Cole Grace• YouTube: @CGrace21
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