In this episode, I sat down with Thais Gibson, the founder of The Personal Development School and a true pioneer in attachment healing.
We broke down the science behind anxious, avoidant, fearful, and secure attachment — what each one looks like, how it's formed, and how to heal and reprogram those patterns using neuroplasticity.
We talked about how your attachment style is actually your relationship to yourself first, not just how you show up in love — and how to finally meet your own needs instead of chasing people to meet them for you.
This is one of those episodes you'll want to take notes on — it's loaded with practical tools, from how to stop refeeding old wounds to how to build emotional safety within your nervous system.
You'll hear us dive into:
- What attachment theory really means and why you aren't born with a style — it's conditioned.
- The six pillars of Integrated Attachment Theory.
- How to identify and rewire your core wounds through repetition and emotion.
- The real difference between self-soothing and self-numbing.
- The unique "superpowers" of each insecure attachment style.
- Tangible 21-day practices to start creating security from the inside out.
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