“You can’t Type A your way into pregnancy. You can push, but your body will push back.”
Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be...
This episode is packed with truth bombs, science-backed insights, and a big dose of real talk with fertility expert Kristen Karchmer. Together we peel back the layers of fertility burnout and talk about why women who “do everything right” are often the most exhausted, frustrated, and still not pregnant. Spoiler: it’s not your age, it’s your cellular energy.
We dive into the reality that fertility clinics rarely talk about—how rushing into IVF or IUI without repairing the foundation of your health can actually set you back. Kristen shares how fatigue, stress, and even emotional disconnection play a far bigger role than the latest supplement on TikTok. It’s about building resilience, coherence, and a sustainable rhythm that supports both your body and your future baby.
And yes, we go there: the illusion of control, the obsession with apps and trackers, and the collective conditioning that tells women to “do more” instead of “be more present.” This episode is your permission slip to slow down, listen deeply, and start aligning your energy with your body’s innate wisdom. Because fertility isn’t a race, it’s a frequency shift.
“The only way to get a baby out is to surrender. The same goes for calling one in.”
Timestamps 00:00 – Why your frequency matters more than your protocol 06:10 – Listening to your body instead of influencers 09:00 – The illusion of control and the myth of the fertility cliff 12:22 – How surrender prepares you for both conception and motherhood 18:12 – Generational burnout, epigenetics, and fertility 23:45 – Redefining success and rewriting the modern woman’s blueprint
“Surrender isn’t giving up, it’s getting out of your own way so your body can do what it was designed to do.”
Full Transcript Over on the Blog: The Hidden Cost of Fertility Burnout (and Why Surrender Is Your New Superpower) with Kristen Karchmer https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-cost-of-fertility-burnout-and-why-surrender-is-your-new-superpower-with-kristen-karchmer
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Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.
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