Parents feeling rejected by their teens.

I speak about some of the unique challenges parents often face as their children transition into their teenage years. This phase can be a time of perceived rejection as teens assert their independence, leaving parents feeling less needed.

Key takeaways:

Understanding the Transition:

• Adolescence marks a significant shift from childhood to the teenage years, accompanied by changes in friendship groups and the move to high school.
• Teens naturally seek independence and autonomy as they explore their identities, often making parents feel rejected or unneeded.

Shifting Roles:

• Parents must recognise the change from a "manager" role to a "consultant." Your position description evolves, but you remain a crucial part of your teen's life.
• Avoid responding as if you've been "fired" from your role. Instead, consider how you can adapt to this new position as a consultant.

Managing Your Reactions:

• Reflect on how you respond to situations that might feel like rejection. Identify the specific triggers and your emotional reactions, such as sadness, loneliness, or frustration.
• Avoid projecting your hurt onto your teen. Be aware that your emotions are shaped by your interpretation of their actions.

Open and Honest Communication:

• Use clear, non-judgmental language to express your desire for connection. Instead of passive-aggressive comments, be direct about your wishes.

Modelling Accountability:

• Apologise and take responsibility for your reactions when you react poorly to a situation.
• Encourage your teen to communicate their feelings without feeling responsible for your emotions.

Addressing Hurtful Comments:

• When your teen makes hurtful comments, such as "I hate you," try to identify the underlying emotion, like disappointment or anger.
• Address the specific emotion rather than justifying your actions. Show understanding and empathy.

Setting Boundaries:

• Establish healthy boundaries to avoid feeling overwhelmed. Clearly communicate what you can and can't do to manage your time and commitments.
• Teach your teen the importance of setting boundaries by respecting their limits as well.

Prioritising Self-Care:

• Self-care is essential to maintaining your well-being and role-modeling emotional resilience.
• Demonstrating your ability to handle ups and downs calmly and collectedly can positively impact your teen's emotional development.

Remember, it takes a calm brain to calm a brain. 

By focusing on understanding, empathy, and effective communication, you can navigate the challenges of this phase with your teenager while maintaining a strong and supportive relationship. 

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