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Speaker 1 (00:02):
I've ever been left waiting by the phone.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
It's the Fred Show. Andy, Welcome to the program. How
are you hey?
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Thanks for having me on. I love the show.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
We'll see if you still love it when this is over.
But waiting on the phone, of course, is what this
is called. We're trying to figure out why you may
have been ghosted by a woman named Amber, but we
need to know kind of the setup here. How did
you guys meet? How many days have you been on?
How to dose go? What's happening now? Kind of fill
us in if you would.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
So basic GISs. I go out to Lollapalooza, right, go
out there to have a great time, great music, meet
great people, and everything is going great from top to bottom.
I'm having a blast. I'm meeting new people, you know,
some great bands are there. And I meet this beautiful
(00:48):
woman right and I feel like everything's sitting off. She'squecting
all the right buttons, and I get her number and
we're planning to go on the second date. And then
nothing just just empty space. She's not responding to any
calls or texts or anything like that.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
You know.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Now, I'm trying to play.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Cool, but I don't. She seemed like she was really
into me at Laura Paluza and.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Now just nothing man the whole lot, Andy are we calling?
Are we calling Lalla Palouza the first date? Or did
you go on a date after that, like you got
her number and then went out, or we're saying Laala
was the date, Lawa was the date? I see, So
you're now you were trying to set up a date basically,
but you did hang out all day at the music festival,
so that's yeah, okay, But so you was just follow
up that you were trying to accomplish.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Yeah, you know, like she said she was into it,
She gave me her number. It looked like all the
signs were green. So I don't understand the radio silent.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yeah, I guess she could have ditched you at any
point too, Like, I don't know, you don't have to
hang It would be very easy to get rid of
someone at a festival with five hundred thousand people, you
know or whatever it is exactly. So yeah, she didn't
have to do that. She didn't have to give you
her number, that's all. That's all true. But you have
not been able to get ahold ever since. This great
day at the festival.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
And you want to know why. You want to know
what's going on? Right?
Speaker 3 (02:06):
Yeah, I mean, like I don't want to be a
creep about it. You know, she's not into me. She's
not into me, but like it seems weird we would
spend a whole day together only for her to give
me her number and then not respond.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
No, not a cree People love being called surprised by
the radio. Yeah, well sometimes it works out. So let's
hope for the best. Andy, Let's call Amber. We'll see
if we can get her on the phone. You'll be
on the phone at the same time. You're welcome to
jump in at some point. Obviously. What we're trying to
do here is get you guys set up on what
would be the first date I guess away from the
A Lot of Palooza festival, and then we'll pay for that.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Sound good? Yeah, that would be awesome. Let's find out
what's going on?
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Part to you of waiting by the phone after chaperone
back in two minutes on the Fred Show. Chaperone, It's
the Fred Show, Good Morning Show, Vas Shelley the entertainer
ofport Good News Stories all coming up? Hey Andy, Hey all, right,
welcome back. Let's call Amber. You met a lot of
Palooza the music festival. Well, you spent the whole day together,
basically had a great time listening to the different acts
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and whatever got her phone number. You guys have talked
about going out on a real date. Away from that,
You've reached out. She's not responding, and you're like, well,
what's the deal.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
Yeah, I mean, you know, everything was going perfect. We
even you know, when we were leaving, she said I'd
love to see you again, and now nothing.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Okay, all right, well let's call her now and we'll
see what's going on. Good luck, Andy, Thanks? Well, Hi
is his Amber.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Amber. Good morning. My name is Fred.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
I'm calling from the Fred Show, the morning radio show,
and I have to tell you that we are on
the radio right now. I do need your permission to
continue with the call. Can which out for just a second,
do you mind?
Speaker 3 (03:49):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Yeah, okay, Well, thank you very much for calling on.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Behalf of a guy named Andy says you mention you
at Lallapalooza the music festival, of course, and you know,
just in case you don't know what it is, even
though you were there, I don't know why I'm saying
it like that. But anyway, he met you at Lala
and he say he spent the whole day with you,
and you guys have talked about going on a date.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
I guess you gave him your number.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
He called us and said he's been trying to get
a hold of you, really was looking forward to seeing
you again, and and he doesn't know why you're not responding.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
So what's going on? Amber?
Speaker 5 (04:21):
Yeah, so yeah, I remember him. Of course we had
a great time, but towards the end of the night
he tried to give me drugs.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Oh oh okay.
Speaker 5 (04:36):
Yeah, she Well, he asked if I wanted to partake
in some extracurricular activities, and I'm just like, I'm not
about that.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
So I kind of snuck away.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Now I don't want to get to it's a little early,
so like, I mean, are we talking like hard stuff
or we're talking and was he like, hey, how about
a gummy which is legal and you know where the
festival was, or was he like let's you know, and
let's inject something. No, you know, I don't know what
are we talking heroin?
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Are we somewhere in between those? Like what are we doing?
Speaker 6 (05:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (05:05):
He didn't really say exactly. He said extracurricular activities, and
I just don't want to. I just don't do any
of that. So I mean, because let's take it if
it were marijuana. I mean, people just walking around smoking that, like,
that's not right. So okay, so it was a little
a little harder than that, and you said no. And
now was he pushy about it or was he just like, okay,
no problem. No, he wasn't pushy about it. But I
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just like, I'm just not about that at all. So
it just kind of like I knew that it wasn't
for me.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
Now I'm gonna play devil's advocate here. You know, some
people like this kind of stuff in that environment, but
then it's not a part of their everyday life. So
you know, I can see why if this is, like
I don't know, the guy is that's super into drugs
and does drugs all the time, that you might not
want that. But I mean, is it possible that he
was just trying to have a good time in the moment.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Yeah, it's possible. He can totally how was he can
totally do that?
Speaker 1 (05:58):
But but even that is okay, even that's not for
you exactly No.
Speaker 7 (06:02):
No, it's not fair because I don't know a lot
of drugs that your users they only do it one time. No,
But I'm like, I'm only I'm only get it today.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
But you've never heard of people that like that's not
there every day, But then they go to a fish
concert and they're like, well, I mean.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
I'm at the fish cancer Okay, all right.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Well I was just trying to, you know, come up
with another another side of this, but I forgot to
mention that Andy is here and it's been listening. I'm
very very forgetful Andy. What's up with the drugs?
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Nah, it's nothing like that, you know, kind of what
you were talking about. For I grew up listen to
my grandfather tell stories about Woodstock, right about going out
there having a blast, trying new things, and you know,
going through Rollapalooza. I thought this was just gonna be
a moment. You know, you go out, you be adventrist,
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you try something you don't normally do. So, you know,
I asked her if she wanted to partake in a
little extra curricular activity, right, and you know, nothing, you know,
I'm not offering heroin, but like, at a certain point,
if You're not going to expand your mind when you're young,
When are you going to do it. We're gonna be
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seventy five and just off the wall in the nursing home.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
And listen to this. All a man is trying to
do is expand his mind. That's all he was trying
to do. No, Amber, Yeah, no for me, I.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Don't blame you.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
I mean for one of its words. You like, you
said no and that was cool, you know, like not
trying to push this on anybody. But again, it's just.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
You know, the environment.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
It's it's a way to add a little bit more
fun to an already good time.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Yeah. Look here, Aaron Rodgers, all he was trying to do.
Listen to this, Amber. All he was trying to do
is go out to a tent in the middle of
the forest and find himself. That's all he was trying
to do. It to a one time deal. I mean,
we can we can let that go, can't we.
Speaker 5 (07:59):
Well, you know, he can find himself all he wants.
But I'm not interested.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
You weren't interested. It's even the experimentation, the fact that
he had it on him, the whole thing. It just
doesn't eared uncomfortable with it is what you're saying. Yeah,
not for me, which is fair. So look, Andy, it's
too bad because it sounds like maybe something was happening here.
But for whatever reason, she's you know, this is beyond
her comfort level. So it's a shame. But it's not
going to work out. I mean, Amber, I will ask
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the question, do you want let's say, no drugs on
this day? Do you want to go out with him
if he doesn't offer you anything?
Speaker 2 (08:30):
No, I think I'm good. All right, Well, thank you
for your time, Amber. Andy. I'm sorry it's not going
to work out, but good luck to you as well.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
Hey, it's all good. People have fun out, people have fun.
If she ain't about that, she ain't about that.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
A fresh show. It's Kiki's court, all right, y all rise,
the honorable Judge Kiky is here.
Speaker 7 (08:51):
Take it away please, all right, let's get into the courtroom,
says hey, Kei key. My husband and I relocate it
with our kids to the Northwest Suburbs about two years ago.
Since our move, we've gotten really close with our neighbors.
They're a young couple with small kids like us, and
we have a lot in common. Two weeks ago, my
husband and I took our kids to Disney World for
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our summer vacation. While we were gone, we had a
contractor working in our home to renovate our kitchen. This
particular contractor came highly recommended by our neighbors, so we
trusted that everything would be fine while we were gone. Well,
I noticed on my ring camera that my neighbor's wife
kept coming over to my house during the middle of
the day. I assumed that she was just being a
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good neighbor and keeping an eye on the contractor. Well,
to my husband and I, surprise, we caught some audio
on the rain camera of her and the contractor making
out and talking about hooking up again.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
We were shook.
Speaker 7 (09:47):
Now, my husband wants to send the footage to her husband,
but I don't want to ruin their marriage, especially for
their kids. My husband has his mind made up, So
is he wrong if he reveals this information to her husband?
Speaker 2 (10:01):
Hm?
Speaker 3 (10:01):
Hm, Oh my.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
God, your cats to be more careful. Okay, Well what
do you think?
Speaker 7 (10:09):
Well, I think that you know, Usually I say stay
out of marry people's business. We don't know what they're
set up is. However, in this case, if you're hooking
up with the contractor at my house while your husband
is at work, and you're so sloppy that you're caught
on my ring camera still talking and canoodling with this man.
I'm absolutely telling I'm absolutely sitting the footage over to you.
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I'll put you and your husband in a group text
say hey, I don't know what's going on, but this
is what my ring camera called. Just want to put
it out there because my husband and I are not
going to be guilty with you exactly to the prime.
So no, girl, you you put it in a fresh
old constitution. You have to cheat responsibly. This is not
cheating responsibly. This is sloppy and a mess. So girl,
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whatever happens happens. But I would definitely let my husband
reveal the information because I would want somebody to tell me.
Speaker 8 (11:00):
Man.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Yeah, same.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
You know, I'm really, like truly weighing this because I
tend to want to stay out of that kind of stuff.
I tend to want to stay out of the cheating stuff.
I just I don't know, Like I don't know again,
Like what if there's an arrangement there, Like you.
Speaker 6 (11:19):
Say, all damn, this all arrangement I've never heard of before,
never seen one before, but I keep hearing about it.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Fred, Okay, we you know what I'm about to prove
you on with Helina right this second. Because the fact
that you you claim to not have heard about married
people who also hook up with other people, and it's
condoned eight five five five three five. It's called non monogamy,
and it happens all the time.
Speaker 6 (11:40):
Okay, fair, it does, but in my home when the
guy's supposed to be working, right, I.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
Mean people get freaky.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
They get freaky in model homes, they get people trying
to get it in wherever they can get it in. Okay,
So the real question note here is not about nonminogamy.
It's it's simply if you know someone's cheating, do you tell,
do you tell their spouse exactly or do you keep
it to yourself? And you're all saying that you get
involved this time.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
I have to I have to get involved this time.
I just I don't know.
Speaker 7 (12:09):
You wouldn't want somebody to tell you, say, you're the
hard working husband at work doing your radio show, nobody
can hear, but your wife is at home.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Well, I mean at this point somebody probably I don't
have a wife, but you know, someone probably is screwing her,
because what else could go wrong? Oh no, I mean
I can't hear my show someone sleeping with my non wife.
It's probably the guy who should be fixing the show
about it and didn't tell you.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
You're so mad, I think you do.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
I think the reason we're off the air half the
time is because management, instead of doing their jobs, is
actually screwing my non wife in the room with all
the wires.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
That's what I think is going on.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
To be honest with you, I oh man, I just
when it comes to people cheating, You're right. I would
want to know.
Speaker 5 (12:58):
I would.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
I would want to know. I would, I would.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
I just tend to want to stab at people's intimate
business like that's I don't want to. I don't want
to be involved because I also don't want to get
get it turned on me somehow. You know, I'm like
trying to do the right thing and tell you what's
going on, and then it's like, oh no, he's a liar.
I guess in this case there's proof, but I don't
want this stuff to blow.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
I don't know, but you guys are all saying definitively,
if you know that your neighbor's wife is cheating. You're
going to her husband and you're telling her.
Speaker 7 (13:28):
And see, you make it sound very simple and cut
and dry. However, if I know that they're cheating, that's
I probably wouldn't say anything. But you're cheating in my
house with the contractor that I'm paying supposed to be
doing a job. I have to blow this up because why,
I mean, the disrespect.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I think I get it. I think if anything, I
start with her. Okay, I start with her, and I go, hey, look,
because I've actually we talked about it on the air
A couple of years ago. My mom had a friend
and who came to her and said, hey, look, so
and so I know that these people that I like,
the husband is having an affair. I know it, but
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I don't know what to do, because like I feel
like if I go to her and blow up their marriage,
then somehow it can get to spun around on me, like, oh,
it's not happening, and why is this person meddling? And
then you know, in the back of it, even though
you were doing the right thing, you still ruin somebody's
marriage or you know you didn't they did it, but
like you were still involved in the demise of a marriage.
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So the advice my mom and I came up with
was you go to him and you go, hey, look,
and in this case go to her be like, I
have this footage. I don't know what you're doing, but one,
it shouldn't be in my home. Don't do this stuff
in my house whatever you're doing. And second of all,
I don't know if it's condoned or whatever, but like,
you need to I like that, I need you to what.
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I need an explanation from you, and I need to
know that he either knows or he's gonna know, or
I'm gonna tell him because I need you to handle
your business, or I'm going to tell him because why
do I have to look this guy in the eye
every day when I go to get my newspaper or whatever,
or my mail or whatever. Why do I have to
be the one who knows the thing he doesn't know.
That's an unfair burden you're putting on me, and you're
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doing it at my house.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
I didn't ask for that. Handle it. Hmm.
Speaker 7 (15:15):
Then what if she doesn't handle it, because I don't
know many cheaters that would handle it.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
Then then maybe you have to handle it. You have
a time limit, I'd say, you hate by next week.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
I need you to do something about this. I need
you to do something. I need to know that he
knows or whatever you're going to do, end it whatever. Yeah,
but like, ultimately that's what you gotta do, right.
Speaker 6 (15:32):
What about you know when we get into relationships, people
usually like, well, well, back in the day, you used
to put like on Facebook in a relationship, right, so
you kind of knew you have a new man, or
now you just like post them or post her your
new girlfriend. Why can't people who do this then let
us know, like we are in an open marriage, this
is all be avoided, because then I would know, you
know what I'm saying, like, it's all in the open.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
Am I wrong for that.
Speaker 6 (15:51):
For wanting to know?
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Yeah, I know I even can avoid all this, But
I think that's this woman probably doesn't know that she
was caught, and so in going to her and being like, hey, look,
I'm uncomfortable with it, first of all, with the fact
that you're doing this in my house. Second of all
that I now know this, that would be the chance
for her to go, well, I'm actually in an open situation,
and that could be a lie, but then at least, hey,
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you did your part.
Speaker 7 (16:14):
But you open in my house the way exactly my
hour was, Yeah, hooking up you in my new kitchen.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Yeah, well that's that's the thing. Yeah, you want to
do this stuff, do this stuff somewhere else. Don't do
this in you know, don't do this stuff in front
of me. I had another friend that his coworker. They
traveled together for work. His coworker was actively cheating on
the road, Like they'd go to another town to do
their job, and this dude's girlfriend would always be in
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the other town. But the thing was, my friend also
socialized with this guy's wife. Finally, he had to have
a conversation with the guy and he's like, look, I
don't know what your situation is.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
I don't know if this.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
Is allowed or not allowed or whatever. I don't know
if everyone's on the up and up, you know, with
the knowledge of this. Yeah, but don't do it in
front of me. Like, if you want to do it,
then you need to be more discreet because you're involving me.
I'm now culpable. I am watching you do this. I
know it's happening. And then I go to dinner with
you and your wife, and so if it's ever revealed
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and that you are cheating and then she finds out
that the whole time I knew, Well, now, somehow I'm
a jackass and I didn't even do it. So, like,
you need to be less sloppy, honestly, right, I think
that's fair to say. I think that's how you handle.
You go to the source and say you fix this
or I will because it's messed up. I don't want
to have to be involved with with your shenanigans.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Hey, kJ, good morning, Good morning, how are you kJ? Great?
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Thank you for attempting to listen to this whatever we're doing.
What do you think?
Speaker 3 (17:44):
So?
Speaker 8 (17:44):
I think kind of like what you guys said, I think,
so why should confront her and be like, hey, I
kind of caught this, but kind of give an ultimatum
and be like, either you tell him or we're sending
this over to him, because I think it's so messed
up that she did this in their house and they recommended.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
The kind Yeah, and something tells me that this is
not one of those non monogamous situations, because I don't
know why you're sneaking around in your neighbor's house. I mean,
if this is a situation where it's sanctioned in your marriage,
you can hook up other people that I don't know
why you'd have to do it there, Like, you could
do it almost anywhere at that point, because it would
be you know, common knowledge.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
But you're sneaking around in my house.
Speaker 8 (18:23):
I think she would give her like a week to
be like, if you don't tell them, then we will
and send that over to the husband.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
Yeah. I like that, Kidjay, thank you, have a good day,
you too, Love you guys, I love you too.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Hey, brook brook You're you're voting non a monogamous here?
You think that she's this is what they do.
Speaker 9 (18:39):
So no, I'm saying that if you are non monogamous,
that it's not a big deal if someone confronts you
about it. I've been confronted about it before, and I'd
much rather someone be like, hey, so are you cheating?
And I go no, so that you don't think I'm
a homewrecord.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
Okay, so let me be clear. I want to know
more about you Brooks. So you're married, I am you're married,
and you hook up with other men women both everything?
I mean, what is the deal yes, both.
Speaker 9 (19:06):
So I'm married and I also have a long term partner.
My husband also have a long term partner, and we
are also free to hook up with other people.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Oh wow, and so you've had people in your life
see you out there doing this and you have to
be like whoa whoa wo Like we don't advertise it
because we don't have to. But by the way, it's okay.
Speaker 6 (19:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
See I get that because there's still a stigma. I mean, look,
I think a lot of people are still not comfortable
or think that it's foreign, and I'm telling you it
is not foreign. You know people who are doing this
and they're just not telling you because they're afraid to
be judged.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
No, many more.
Speaker 9 (19:39):
People are not monogamous than you think they are.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
I know, I know people that you know who are
doing this. Yeah who do tell?
Speaker 7 (19:46):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Yeah. I'm just saying no, no, no, no, I'm not
doing that.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
I never will. But what I'm saying is you can't
dangle that. Well.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
I'm going to My point is it's happening everywhere. It's
just not I feel like we're ten years ahead of
it being just commonplace. I think people are afraid to
be judged.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
I can see that that's true. Brook, I mean, is
there part of you that there you go about it?
Speaker 10 (20:08):
Yeah, we don't judge, just so you know. No, I'm
just a little jealous. I'm not part of it. Thank you, Brook,
having good day I can be that just sounds like
I could. I think it's it's cool, totally, that's your thing.
Speaker 6 (20:19):
I just don't know how much time you have got
a husband, she's got a partner, then she's hooking up,
Like I don't even have time to like wash my
butt half the time during the day.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
I'm like, you're going to hook up multiple people. You
should watch the button, you should wash your button because
you watch. But no I do too. I'm thinking she
probably does. I don't know that for a fact.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
I honestly I can't do it, like I've even hated
people who I was the accessory. Yeah, and I just
I can't, like, even if it's all in the up
and up, Like it's just weird for me to share
certain levels of intimacy with you and know that you're
just gonna go home and go to bed with your
husband after that. I don't know, there's nothing wrong with it, Like,
if that's what you want to do with your life,
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that's fine. But for me, even if it's a one
time deal or two weeks or a month or forever, like,
can we go one at a time here?
Speaker 10 (21:07):
Like?
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Do we have to be sort of just mixing everybody's
stuff to do?
Speaker 2 (21:12):
I don't like I don't like it.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
I don't for me, but it's it's just because that's
not within my comfort level, right, But I don't judge
anybody who does it.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
I just don't know that.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
I think that's what's going on here, because why are
we sneaking around in neighbor's kitchens if that's what's happening, right, So, Jessica,
you have the same arrangement good morning, good morning.
Speaker 4 (21:33):
I don't have the famous they have going on. But yes,
my husband and I participate in BDSM, And something that
gets his rock sooth is when I text him and say, oh, honey,
I've got another man in our marital bed. Like it's
completely consensual. We use protection. You know, we're not trying
to have a baby or anything. I can't have baby,
(21:54):
so it would be fine if we weren't using condoms,
but you know, sgd's and the like, But no, it's
totally fine, like it works for us. He thinks it's
hot and you know, whole sometimes from work and we'll
just go at it again like rabbits. And I'm sorry
that you guys don't feel like that's on the up
and out and it's not for you, but it's not
for everyone, and that's fine doing anyone who doesn't like it.
(22:16):
And it's just you know, I don't like that they're
sleeping in the neighbor's kitchen. I'll give you that. You know,
at least I do it in my own home or
a part or a hotel room.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Well, let me let me just be I'm sorrying to
Rup just to be clear on one thing before Kiki talks.
No one here thinks it's not on the up and up.
I don't know if it's on the up and up
with these folks, like I don't know if in this
situ this doesn't sound like a situation where everything is transparent.
But again, if that's what you want to do, and
you guys and you guys are consensing adults and everyone's
on the same page, everyone feels good about it, well
(22:46):
then do it like by all means, but it wouldn't
work for me. I think I'm just too jealous and
I think too much. Like it wouldn't turn me on
if I'm dating you, Jessica. It is the exact opposite
of a turn on.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
He's running out of here.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
My main part will retract into my body. If you're like, oh,
I'm hooking up with some other guy, I'll be like,
oh my god.
Speaker 4 (23:06):
Like for me, it's so dramatic.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
No I am no, Jessica, like I I just I
know my limitations. It doesn't work for me, but I
mean it does work for a lot of other people.
And in fact, the crazy thing is, I think in
some ways it saved people. I think it's ended people's marriages,
and I think it saves people's marriages because there are
people out there who would probably get divorced otherwise. But
they still like each other and they love each other,
and they have a family, and they have an identity
(23:33):
and they have a life, so they stick with each
other and their proclivities. They find a way to fulfill
themselves in other ways. And if everyone's on the same
page with that, then why not. Okay, drop Jessica dropped
the mics. She's like, that's it, Hey, thank you so much.
Have a good day you too. Uh see, look good,
we got Marissa. Hi, Marissa, how you doing good?
Speaker 11 (23:56):
How are you?
Speaker 2 (23:57):
Marissa? Good morning.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
So just to recap here in Keiki's court and make
sure I get this right, there's a woman who's having
worked done in her house left town, had her neighborhood
kind of overseeing. It turns out that her neighbor's hooking
up with the contractor and she caught it on the
ring camera and she doesn't know what to do with
this information.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
What do you think?
Speaker 1 (24:17):
Yeah?
Speaker 11 (24:17):
So I think Fred, it's two separate things here, because
I understand your point of not wanting to get involved
in other people's business. But if there was a type
of arrangement like this, keep it in your own house
in mind that I'm the person that I'm paying to
get my work done.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
Yep.
Speaker 11 (24:33):
But also going back to the point, I don't think
you confront the husband. You have to confront the person
who's doing it directly, because this happened to me. I
found out that someone really close to me was cheating
and I confronted them directly, and I was like, hey,
I know, knock it off. You need to tell them.
And if you don't tell them by this point, then
I'm going to tell them because they deserve to have
(24:54):
a choice in the matter.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 11 (24:56):
I think because of that situation, you got to go
directly to the person.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
Marissa.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
I like the strategy, I think, Kiki you like it too, Judge, Kiki,
I like the strategy of going to the culprit and
being like, you need what is the deal? I need
you to handle this and keep it out of my house.
Because you go to the other person, then it gives
it gives the culprit in this case, the opportunity to
spin it. You know, you know you have proof. It's like,
I don't know. I just I think you're leaving yourself exposed.
(25:22):
It's like, tell the person involved to be less sloppy.
Speaker 3 (25:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 11 (25:27):
And in addition, I don't care why you're doing it.
I don't need to know. That's not my business. But
you need to know that other people know and that
you're hurting other people involved because of what you're doing.
So knock it off and go to the person, own
it and move on.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Yeah. Like, if you tell me one thing, why do
I have to live with your you know, infidelity? Why
do I have to Why do I have to keep
your secret. Why do I have to look at your
husband and wonder if he knows or if I'm the
only one that knows, and if he's ever going to
find out?
Speaker 2 (25:54):
And then I get pull into it.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Because it was happening in my house, almost like I
sanctioned it, and then what if?
Speaker 2 (26:00):
Yeah, yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 11 (26:01):
That's what happened to me, unfortunately, Like this situation, unfortunately
happened with my parents and my one my parent who
was doing it, asked me to keep that secret, and
I was like, you can't put that on me with
my other parent as well. So I know it's not
the same because that's family versus neighborly, but still you
(26:23):
don't want to be involved in that situation when you shouldn't.
Speaker 3 (26:26):
Have to be.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
I agree that fair, I agree? Thank you Marissa.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
Yeah, I have a good day. Yeah, I love you too.
Case closed. Another situation was alfy Tiki you did it?
Speaker 2 (26:37):
Oh, thank you.
Speaker 1 (26:38):
I love how people are like man, I'm impressed with
your advice. For once, fred I am right way more
than I could go. I mean, at least eighty percent
of the time and the twenty percent of the time
I'm wrong. I'm never going to admit it, but eighty
twenty that's not bad.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
God, yeah, they talk better than they say. Tell me,
these are the radio blogs on the Fred Show. That's
what I'm waiting for.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
So them to just bootleg stick others logos on top
of the like, Hey, Paulina, put another station's logos right
on top of the one, but leave the leave the
Chicago skyline in.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
I can totally see it running in other cities.
Speaker 12 (27:12):
Now.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
Nothing would surprise me more like writing in our diaries,
except we say them allowed. We call them blogs. Rufiah
you got one? Yeah, all right, take it away, thank you,
dear blog.
Speaker 12 (27:21):
So last week I was out went on a family
vacation with pretty much everyone on just side of the family.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
We do one every year.
Speaker 12 (27:28):
We find like a lake house and then all the
kids get to hang out before they all go back
to school.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
How many people are we talking about total?
Speaker 1 (27:35):
There was like twelve. How many of those are kids?
There's six of them, so you were almost outnumbered.
Speaker 12 (27:42):
Yeah right, okay, But yeah, this time we went to
Michigan for the first time. I want to say, I
want to I don't know if I'm saying the city right,
but it's Dowjack Michigan, Sister's Lake, Sister Lake's Michigan.
Speaker 2 (27:56):
We stayed on Magician.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
Lake, which is very Rufio is a Magic fan.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Yeah I am.
Speaker 12 (28:03):
But the station comes in over there, so shout out
to everyone. And now with Jack Michigan you can hear us.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
Yeah, no way, yeah, half the time you can't hear us.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
Parking lot I'm on the radio in Michigan.
Speaker 11 (28:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 12 (28:15):
So this is like this southwest portion of Michigan, like
close to Lake Michigan over there, because we went to
Saint Joseph, Michigan as well for the beach. But we
had a good time, did some boating, the kids went
to the beach, played some golf.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
There is a lot of mosquitoes out there. I don't like.
I got bit like like inside the house.
Speaker 12 (28:34):
I felt like, you know, they need some bug control
in that in that cab or whatever house was staying in.
But then I realized that I don't think I could
ever live in a small town like like where it's
like thirty five minutes to get to the grocery store.
I'm like, oh yeah, no, thank you. Like the space
is great, the house was great. You know, your neighbors
(28:55):
are far away, but then like the like the convenience
of like, oh I need to go get a coffee
thirty five minutes.
Speaker 2 (29:02):
I'm like thirty five minutes. Yeah, I gotta go two
towns over to a Starbucks.
Speaker 1 (29:05):
I'm like, I was gonna say, I don't think your
dad sho's gonna accept fine, no, my stupid right order.
Speaker 12 (29:11):
I did see an Amazon truck out there. I was like,
you working hard home because there's like and there was
on this lake. There was like an island, an island
where there's houses. I'm like, how you get how do
you get packages?
Speaker 2 (29:22):
Hit? Like I got a boat that just pulls up
and then throws your package. I don't know.
Speaker 12 (29:27):
But it was a lot of fun with Ashleton Parker.
He got to go on a boat for that. He
was sleeping the whole time. He's just whatever the boats,
you know, boats make kids fall asleep. I actually went
fishing for the first time and didn't catch anything. No,
then he gave up in like five minutes. It was like,
you didn't catch anything. He's just like, I'm done with this.
I'm like, that's why I don't like fishing.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
Right.
Speaker 1 (29:48):
He didn't win anything. Bad news for you about fishing, bro.
You know you rarely war. Do you find my sister
I feel like I've been bitching about early, which I
don't mean to, but do you find well, No, he
was last week.
Speaker 3 (30:00):
I was.
Speaker 1 (30:01):
I went back and listened to it. I wasn't critical
of her parenting style by any means.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
I just don't.
Speaker 1 (30:06):
It's the difference between my mom and my sister's parenting
styles that I was talking about. It was very different,
cause we're talking about how your mom Paulina. You guys
have to say, but do you find these vacations to
be the least bit relaxing when there's six kids? Like
it's a quote unquote vacation, but like you didn't really
get to rest, did you.
Speaker 7 (30:23):
No?
Speaker 12 (30:24):
Obviously with a newborn as well, because he's up every
whatever three and a half hours to eat, especially at nighttime.
But I mean, but they're able to all play together,
and they were all just they had a dance party.
Speaker 2 (30:35):
I'm like, all right, you all just do your thing.
Speaker 12 (30:38):
Just don't kill each other, don't hurt each other, and
then I'm gonna be downstairs having an old fashioned yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:43):
So yeah, well yeah, making memories and like stuff like
the fishing and whatever else like that. That's got to
be cool to see that, you know.
Speaker 12 (30:49):
Like I didn't even want to go fishing something new,
and like I don't catch anything going fishing, so just
like you got to take a fishing just in case
you catch something, you could get it on videos. Like
he ain't going to catch anything, he's gonna give up
in five and that's what he did.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
He's like, I don't want to do this anymore. Okay,
yeah right, I'm like, okay, cool, cool. But yeah, it's
it's it's it's relaxing.
Speaker 12 (31:10):
To a point because obviously, like there's other people to
watch the kids. You know what I'm saying. It doesn't
have to always be me. There's other care and the
animals there, you know what I'm saying. So right, yeah,
that's true.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
My sister's thing is I think she would rather for holidays.
Speaker 2 (31:24):
It's just it's too much.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
She has what almost a three and a half year
old and then a six month old or something, and
her thing is like to pack up everything and move
everything to go on vacation. It's not a vacation for us,
so we may as well to stay at home. And
I think, you know the counter to that, is well.
But you know, when everybody gets together away from home,
it lends itself to you know, new memories and new experiences,
(31:47):
and so yeah, it might be more work for everybody.
Else might be kind of lounging in a way that
you aren't put Like, I don't know, there's certain stuff
you're not going to do in your house or memories
not creating your house.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
That you that you would I don't know. An old
magician like, it's good for the kids, it is. It's
for their memories and.
Speaker 12 (32:03):
Stuff, that's what I would think. It's like what for
your sister, Like, yeah, you got to pack them all
up and take them. But then they don't see Grandma
all the time. They don't see Uncle Fred all the time.
So it's just like we're gonna uncle Fred.
Speaker 1 (32:15):
Because Uncle Fred's got him join hanging out us, beer
in his hand.
Speaker 2 (32:22):
Come here, kids, you can talk about life more. Fred
Show Next
I've ever been left waiting by the phone.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
It's the Fred Show. Andy, Welcome to the program. How
are you hey?
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Thanks for having me on. I love the show.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
We'll see if you still love it when this is over.
But waiting on the phone, of course, is what this
is called. We're trying to figure out why you may
have been ghosted by a woman named Amber, but we
need to know kind of the setup here. How did
you guys meet? How many days have you been on?
How to dose go? What's happening now? Kind of fill
us in if you would.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
So basic GISs. I go out to Lollapalooza, right, go
out there to have a great time, great music, meet
great people, and everything is going great from top to bottom.
I'm having a blast. I'm meeting new people, you know,
some great bands are there. And I meet this beautiful
(00:48):
woman right and I feel like everything's sitting off. She'squecting
all the right buttons, and I get her number and
we're planning to go on the second date. And then
nothing just just empty space. She's not responding to any
calls or texts or anything like that.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
You know.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Now, I'm trying to play.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Cool, but I don't. She seemed like she was really
into me at Laura Paluza and.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Now just nothing man the whole lot, Andy are we calling?
Are we calling Lalla Palouza the first date? Or did
you go on a date after that, like you got
her number and then went out, or we're saying Laala
was the date, Lawa was the date? I see, So
you're now you were trying to set up a date basically,
but you did hang out all day at the music festival,
so that's yeah, okay, But so you was just follow
up that you were trying to accomplish.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Yeah, you know, like she said she was into it,
She gave me her number. It looked like all the
signs were green. So I don't understand the radio silent.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yeah, I guess she could have ditched you at any
point too, Like, I don't know, you don't have to
hang It would be very easy to get rid of
someone at a festival with five hundred thousand people, you
know or whatever it is exactly. So yeah, she didn't
have to do that. She didn't have to give you
her number, that's all. That's all true. But you have
not been able to get ahold ever since. This great
day at the festival.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
And you want to know why. You want to know
what's going on? Right?
Speaker 3 (02:06):
Yeah, I mean, like I don't want to be a
creep about it. You know, she's not into me. She's
not into me, but like it seems weird we would
spend a whole day together only for her to give
me her number and then not respond.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
No, not a cree People love being called surprised by
the radio. Yeah, well sometimes it works out. So let's
hope for the best. Andy, Let's call Amber. We'll see
if we can get her on the phone. You'll be
on the phone at the same time. You're welcome to
jump in at some point. Obviously. What we're trying to
do here is get you guys set up on what
would be the first date I guess away from the
A Lot of Palooza festival, and then we'll pay for that.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Sound good? Yeah, that would be awesome. Let's find out
what's going on?
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Part to you of waiting by the phone after chaperone
back in two minutes on the Fred Show. Chaperone, It's
the Fred Show, Good Morning Show, Vas Shelley the entertainer
ofport Good News Stories all coming up? Hey Andy, Hey all, right,
welcome back. Let's call Amber. You met a lot of
Palooza the music festival. Well, you spent the whole day together,
basically had a great time listening to the different acts
(03:04):
and whatever got her phone number. You guys have talked
about going out on a real date. Away from that,
You've reached out. She's not responding, and you're like, well,
what's the deal.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
Yeah, I mean, you know, everything was going perfect. We
even you know, when we were leaving, she said I'd
love to see you again, and now nothing.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Okay, all right, well let's call her now and we'll
see what's going on. Good luck, Andy, Thanks? Well, Hi
is his Amber.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Amber. Good morning. My name is Fred.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
I'm calling from the Fred Show, the morning radio show,
and I have to tell you that we are on
the radio right now. I do need your permission to
continue with the call. Can which out for just a second,
do you mind?
Speaker 3 (03:49):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Yeah, okay, Well, thank you very much for calling on.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Behalf of a guy named Andy says you mention you
at Lallapalooza the music festival, of course, and you know,
just in case you don't know what it is, even
though you were there, I don't know why I'm saying
it like that. But anyway, he met you at Lala
and he say he spent the whole day with you,
and you guys have talked about going on a date.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
I guess you gave him your number.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
He called us and said he's been trying to get
a hold of you, really was looking forward to seeing
you again, and and he doesn't know why you're not responding.
Speaker 2 (04:17):
So what's going on? Amber?
Speaker 5 (04:21):
Yeah, so yeah, I remember him. Of course we had
a great time, but towards the end of the night
he tried to give me drugs.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Oh oh okay.
Speaker 5 (04:36):
Yeah, she Well, he asked if I wanted to partake
in some extracurricular activities, and I'm just like, I'm not
about that.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
So I kind of snuck away.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
Now I don't want to get to it's a little early,
so like, I mean, are we talking like hard stuff
or we're talking and was he like, hey, how about
a gummy which is legal and you know where the
festival was, or was he like let's you know, and
let's inject something. No, you know, I don't know what
are we talking heroin?
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Are we somewhere in between those? Like what are we doing?
Speaker 6 (05:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (05:05):
He didn't really say exactly. He said extracurricular activities, and
I just don't want to. I just don't do any
of that. So I mean, because let's take it if
it were marijuana. I mean, people just walking around smoking that, like,
that's not right. So okay, so it was a little
a little harder than that, and you said no. And
now was he pushy about it or was he just like, okay,
no problem. No, he wasn't pushy about it. But I
(05:27):
just like, I'm just not about that at all. So
it just kind of like I knew that it wasn't
for me.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
Now I'm gonna play devil's advocate here. You know, some
people like this kind of stuff in that environment, but
then it's not a part of their everyday life. So
you know, I can see why if this is, like
I don't know, the guy is that's super into drugs
and does drugs all the time, that you might not
want that. But I mean, is it possible that he
was just trying to have a good time in the moment.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Yeah, it's possible. He can totally how was he can
totally do that?
Speaker 1 (05:58):
But but even that is okay, even that's not for
you exactly No.
Speaker 7 (06:02):
No, it's not fair because I don't know a lot
of drugs that your users they only do it one time. No,
But I'm like, I'm only I'm only get it today.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
But you've never heard of people that like that's not
there every day, But then they go to a fish
concert and they're like, well, I mean.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
I'm at the fish cancer Okay, all right.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Well I was just trying to, you know, come up
with another another side of this, but I forgot to
mention that Andy is here and it's been listening. I'm
very very forgetful Andy. What's up with the drugs?
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Nah, it's nothing like that, you know, kind of what
you were talking about. For I grew up listen to
my grandfather tell stories about Woodstock, right about going out
there having a blast, trying new things, and you know,
going through Rollapalooza. I thought this was just gonna be
a moment. You know, you go out, you be adventrist,
(06:56):
you try something you don't normally do. So, you know,
I asked her if she wanted to partake in a
little extra curricular activity, right, and you know, nothing, you know,
I'm not offering heroin, but like, at a certain point,
if You're not going to expand your mind when you're young,
When are you going to do it. We're gonna be
(07:17):
seventy five and just off the wall in the nursing home.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
And listen to this. All a man is trying to
do is expand his mind. That's all he was trying
to do. No, Amber, Yeah, no for me, I.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Don't blame you.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
I mean for one of its words. You like, you
said no and that was cool, you know, like not
trying to push this on anybody. But again, it's just.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
You know, the environment.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
It's it's a way to add a little bit more
fun to an already good time.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Yeah. Look here, Aaron Rodgers, all he was trying to do.
Listen to this, Amber. All he was trying to do
is go out to a tent in the middle of
the forest and find himself. That's all he was trying
to do. It to a one time deal. I mean,
we can we can let that go, can't we.
Speaker 5 (07:59):
Well, you know, he can find himself all he wants.
But I'm not interested.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
You weren't interested. It's even the experimentation, the fact that
he had it on him, the whole thing. It just
doesn't eared uncomfortable with it is what you're saying. Yeah,
not for me, which is fair. So look, Andy, it's
too bad because it sounds like maybe something was happening here.
But for whatever reason, she's you know, this is beyond
her comfort level. So it's a shame. But it's not
going to work out. I mean, Amber, I will ask
(08:24):
the question, do you want let's say, no drugs on
this day? Do you want to go out with him
if he doesn't offer you anything?
Speaker 2 (08:30):
No, I think I'm good. All right, Well, thank you
for your time, Amber. Andy. I'm sorry it's not going
to work out, but good luck to you as well.
Speaker 3 (08:37):
Hey, it's all good. People have fun out, people have fun.
If she ain't about that, she ain't about that.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
A fresh show. It's Kiki's court, all right, y all rise,
the honorable Judge Kiky is here.
Speaker 7 (08:51):
Take it away please, all right, let's get into the courtroom,
says hey, Kei key. My husband and I relocate it
with our kids to the Northwest Suburbs about two years ago.
Since our move, we've gotten really close with our neighbors.
They're a young couple with small kids like us, and
we have a lot in common. Two weeks ago, my
husband and I took our kids to Disney World for
(09:11):
our summer vacation. While we were gone, we had a
contractor working in our home to renovate our kitchen. This
particular contractor came highly recommended by our neighbors, so we
trusted that everything would be fine while we were gone. Well,
I noticed on my ring camera that my neighbor's wife
kept coming over to my house during the middle of
the day. I assumed that she was just being a
(09:33):
good neighbor and keeping an eye on the contractor. Well,
to my husband and I, surprise, we caught some audio
on the rain camera of her and the contractor making
out and talking about hooking up again.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
We were shook.
Speaker 7 (09:47):
Now, my husband wants to send the footage to her husband,
but I don't want to ruin their marriage, especially for
their kids. My husband has his mind made up, So
is he wrong if he reveals this information to her husband?
Speaker 2 (10:01):
Hm?
Speaker 3 (10:01):
Hm, Oh my.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
God, your cats to be more careful. Okay, Well what
do you think?
Speaker 7 (10:09):
Well, I think that you know, Usually I say stay
out of marry people's business. We don't know what they're
set up is. However, in this case, if you're hooking
up with the contractor at my house while your husband
is at work, and you're so sloppy that you're caught
on my ring camera still talking and canoodling with this man.
I'm absolutely telling I'm absolutely sitting the footage over to you.
(10:31):
I'll put you and your husband in a group text
say hey, I don't know what's going on, but this
is what my ring camera called. Just want to put
it out there because my husband and I are not
going to be guilty with you exactly to the prime.
So no, girl, you you put it in a fresh
old constitution. You have to cheat responsibly. This is not
cheating responsibly. This is sloppy and a mess. So girl,
(10:54):
whatever happens happens. But I would definitely let my husband
reveal the information because I would want somebody to tell me.
Speaker 8 (11:00):
Man.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Yeah, same.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
You know, I'm really, like truly weighing this because I
tend to want to stay out of that kind of stuff.
I tend to want to stay out of the cheating stuff.
I just I don't know, Like I don't know again,
Like what if there's an arrangement there, Like you.
Speaker 6 (11:19):
Say, all damn, this all arrangement I've never heard of before,
never seen one before, but I keep hearing about it.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
Fred, Okay, we you know what I'm about to prove
you on with Helina right this second. Because the fact
that you you claim to not have heard about married
people who also hook up with other people, and it's
condoned eight five five five three five. It's called non monogamy,
and it happens all the time.
Speaker 6 (11:40):
Okay, fair, it does, but in my home when the
guy's supposed to be working, right, I.
Speaker 2 (11:46):
Mean people get freaky.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
They get freaky in model homes, they get people trying
to get it in wherever they can get it in. Okay,
So the real question note here is not about nonminogamy.
It's it's simply if you know someone's cheating, do you tell,
do you tell their spouse exactly or do you keep
it to yourself? And you're all saying that you get
involved this time.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
I have to I have to get involved this time.
I just I don't know.
Speaker 7 (12:09):
You wouldn't want somebody to tell you, say, you're the
hard working husband at work doing your radio show, nobody
can hear, but your wife is at home.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
Well, I mean at this point somebody probably I don't
have a wife, but you know, someone probably is screwing her,
because what else could go wrong? Oh no, I mean
I can't hear my show someone sleeping with my non wife.
It's probably the guy who should be fixing the show
about it and didn't tell you.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
You're so mad, I think you do.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
I think the reason we're off the air half the
time is because management, instead of doing their jobs, is
actually screwing my non wife in the room with all
the wires.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
That's what I think is going on.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
To be honest with you, I oh man, I just
when it comes to people cheating, You're right. I would
want to know.
Speaker 5 (12:58):
I would.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
I would want to know. I would, I would.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
I just tend to want to stab at people's intimate
business like that's I don't want to. I don't want
to be involved because I also don't want to get
get it turned on me somehow. You know, I'm like
trying to do the right thing and tell you what's
going on, and then it's like, oh no, he's a liar.
I guess in this case there's proof, but I don't
want this stuff to blow.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
I don't know, but you guys are all saying definitively,
if you know that your neighbor's wife is cheating. You're
going to her husband and you're telling her.
Speaker 7 (13:28):
And see, you make it sound very simple and cut
and dry. However, if I know that they're cheating, that's
I probably wouldn't say anything. But you're cheating in my
house with the contractor that I'm paying supposed to be
doing a job. I have to blow this up because why,
I mean, the disrespect.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I think I get it. I think if anything, I
start with her. Okay, I start with her, and I go, hey, look,
because I've actually we talked about it on the air
A couple of years ago. My mom had a friend
and who came to her and said, hey, look, so
and so I know that these people that I like,
the husband is having an affair. I know it, but
(14:06):
I don't know what to do, because like I feel
like if I go to her and blow up their marriage,
then somehow it can get to spun around on me, like, oh,
it's not happening, and why is this person meddling? And
then you know, in the back of it, even though
you were doing the right thing, you still ruin somebody's
marriage or you know you didn't they did it, but
like you were still involved in the demise of a marriage.
(14:29):
So the advice my mom and I came up with
was you go to him and you go, hey, look,
and in this case go to her be like, I
have this footage. I don't know what you're doing, but one,
it shouldn't be in my home. Don't do this stuff
in my house whatever you're doing. And second of all,
I don't know if it's condoned or whatever, but like,
you need to I like that, I need you to what.
(14:51):
I need an explanation from you, and I need to
know that he either knows or he's gonna know, or
I'm gonna tell him because I need you to handle
your business, or I'm going to tell him because why
do I have to look this guy in the eye
every day when I go to get my newspaper or whatever,
or my mail or whatever. Why do I have to
be the one who knows the thing he doesn't know.
That's an unfair burden you're putting on me, and you're
(15:11):
doing it at my house.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
I didn't ask for that. Handle it. Hmm.
Speaker 7 (15:15):
Then what if she doesn't handle it, because I don't
know many cheaters that would handle it.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
Then then maybe you have to handle it. You have
a time limit, I'd say, you hate by next week.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
I need you to do something about this. I need
you to do something. I need to know that he
knows or whatever you're going to do, end it whatever. Yeah,
but like, ultimately that's what you gotta do, right.
Speaker 6 (15:32):
What about you know when we get into relationships, people
usually like, well, well, back in the day, you used
to put like on Facebook in a relationship, right, so
you kind of knew you have a new man, or
now you just like post them or post her your
new girlfriend. Why can't people who do this then let
us know, like we are in an open marriage, this
is all be avoided, because then I would know, you
know what I'm saying, like, it's all in the open.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
Am I wrong for that.
Speaker 6 (15:51):
For wanting to know?
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Yeah, I know I even can avoid all this, But
I think that's this woman probably doesn't know that she
was caught, and so in going to her and being like, hey, look,
I'm uncomfortable with it, first of all, with the fact
that you're doing this in my house. Second of all
that I now know this, that would be the chance
for her to go, well, I'm actually in an open situation,
and that could be a lie, but then at least, hey,
(16:12):
you did your part.
Speaker 7 (16:14):
But you open in my house the way exactly my
hour was, Yeah, hooking up you in my new kitchen.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
Yeah, well that's that's the thing. Yeah, you want to
do this stuff, do this stuff somewhere else. Don't do
this in you know, don't do this stuff in front
of me. I had another friend that his coworker. They
traveled together for work. His coworker was actively cheating on
the road, Like they'd go to another town to do
their job, and this dude's girlfriend would always be in
(16:41):
the other town. But the thing was, my friend also
socialized with this guy's wife. Finally, he had to have
a conversation with the guy and he's like, look, I
don't know what your situation is.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
I don't know if this.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
Is allowed or not allowed or whatever. I don't know
if everyone's on the up and up, you know, with
the knowledge of this. Yeah, but don't do it in
front of me. Like, if you want to do it,
then you need to be more discreet because you're involving me.
I'm now culpable. I am watching you do this. I
know it's happening. And then I go to dinner with
you and your wife, and so if it's ever revealed
(17:12):
and that you are cheating and then she finds out
that the whole time I knew, Well, now, somehow I'm
a jackass and I didn't even do it. So, like,
you need to be less sloppy, honestly, right, I think
that's fair to say. I think that's how you handle.
You go to the source and say you fix this
or I will because it's messed up. I don't want
to have to be involved with with your shenanigans.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Hey, kJ, good morning, Good morning, how are you kJ? Great?
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Thank you for attempting to listen to this whatever we're doing.
What do you think?
Speaker 3 (17:44):
So?
Speaker 8 (17:44):
I think kind of like what you guys said, I think,
so why should confront her and be like, hey, I
kind of caught this, but kind of give an ultimatum
and be like, either you tell him or we're sending
this over to him, because I think it's so messed
up that she did this in their house and they recommended.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
The kind Yeah, and something tells me that this is
not one of those non monogamous situations, because I don't
know why you're sneaking around in your neighbor's house. I mean,
if this is a situation where it's sanctioned in your marriage,
you can hook up other people that I don't know
why you'd have to do it there, Like, you could
do it almost anywhere at that point, because it would
be you know, common knowledge.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
But you're sneaking around in my house.
Speaker 8 (18:23):
I think she would give her like a week to
be like, if you don't tell them, then we will
and send that over to the husband.
Speaker 2 (18:28):
Yeah. I like that, Kidjay, thank you, have a good day,
you too, Love you guys, I love you too.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Hey, brook brook You're you're voting non a monogamous here?
You think that she's this is what they do.
Speaker 9 (18:39):
So no, I'm saying that if you are non monogamous,
that it's not a big deal if someone confronts you
about it. I've been confronted about it before, and I'd
much rather someone be like, hey, so are you cheating?
And I go no, so that you don't think I'm
a homewrecord.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
Okay, so let me be clear. I want to know
more about you Brooks. So you're married, I am you're married,
and you hook up with other men women both everything?
I mean, what is the deal yes, both.
Speaker 9 (19:06):
So I'm married and I also have a long term partner.
My husband also have a long term partner, and we
are also free to hook up with other people.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Oh wow, and so you've had people in your life
see you out there doing this and you have to
be like whoa whoa wo Like we don't advertise it
because we don't have to. But by the way, it's okay.
Speaker 6 (19:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
See I get that because there's still a stigma. I mean, look,
I think a lot of people are still not comfortable
or think that it's foreign, and I'm telling you it
is not foreign. You know people who are doing this
and they're just not telling you because they're afraid to
be judged.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
No, many more.
Speaker 9 (19:39):
People are not monogamous than you think they are.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
I know, I know people that you know who are
doing this. Yeah who do tell?
Speaker 7 (19:46):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Yeah. I'm just saying no, no, no, no, I'm not
doing that.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
I never will. But what I'm saying is you can't
dangle that. Well.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
I'm going to My point is it's happening everywhere. It's
just not I feel like we're ten years ahead of
it being just commonplace. I think people are afraid to
be judged.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
I can see that that's true. Brook, I mean, is
there part of you that there you go about it?
Speaker 10 (20:08):
Yeah, we don't judge, just so you know. No, I'm
just a little jealous. I'm not part of it. Thank you, Brook,
having good day I can be that just sounds like
I could. I think it's it's cool, totally, that's your thing.
Speaker 6 (20:19):
I just don't know how much time you have got
a husband, she's got a partner, then she's hooking up,
Like I don't even have time to like wash my
butt half the time during the day.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
I'm like, you're going to hook up multiple people. You
should watch the button, you should wash your button because
you watch. But no I do too. I'm thinking she
probably does. I don't know that for a fact.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
I honestly I can't do it, like I've even hated
people who I was the accessory. Yeah, and I just
I can't, like, even if it's all in the up
and up, Like it's just weird for me to share
certain levels of intimacy with you and know that you're
just gonna go home and go to bed with your
husband after that. I don't know, there's nothing wrong with it, Like,
if that's what you want to do with your life,
(20:59):
that's fine. But for me, even if it's a one
time deal or two weeks or a month or forever, like,
can we go one at a time here?
Speaker 10 (21:07):
Like?
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Do we have to be sort of just mixing everybody's
stuff to do?
Speaker 2 (21:12):
I don't like I don't like it.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
I don't for me, but it's it's just because that's
not within my comfort level, right, But I don't judge
anybody who does it.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
I just don't know that.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
I think that's what's going on here, because why are
we sneaking around in neighbor's kitchens if that's what's happening, right, So, Jessica,
you have the same arrangement good morning, good morning.
Speaker 4 (21:33):
I don't have the famous they have going on. But yes,
my husband and I participate in BDSM, And something that
gets his rock sooth is when I text him and say, oh, honey,
I've got another man in our marital bed. Like it's
completely consensual. We use protection. You know, we're not trying
to have a baby or anything. I can't have baby,
(21:54):
so it would be fine if we weren't using condoms,
but you know, sgd's and the like, But no, it's
totally fine, like it works for us. He thinks it's
hot and you know, whole sometimes from work and we'll
just go at it again like rabbits. And I'm sorry
that you guys don't feel like that's on the up
and out and it's not for you, but it's not
for everyone, and that's fine doing anyone who doesn't like it.
(22:16):
And it's just you know, I don't like that they're
sleeping in the neighbor's kitchen. I'll give you that. You know,
at least I do it in my own home or
a part or a hotel room.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Well, let me let me just be I'm sorrying to
Rup just to be clear on one thing before Kiki talks.
No one here thinks it's not on the up and up.
I don't know if it's on the up and up
with these folks, like I don't know if in this
situ this doesn't sound like a situation where everything is transparent.
But again, if that's what you want to do, and
you guys and you guys are consensing adults and everyone's
on the same page, everyone feels good about it, well
(22:46):
then do it like by all means, but it wouldn't
work for me. I think I'm just too jealous and
I think too much. Like it wouldn't turn me on
if I'm dating you, Jessica. It is the exact opposite
of a turn on.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
He's running out of here.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
My main part will retract into my body. If you're like, oh,
I'm hooking up with some other guy, I'll be like,
oh my god.
Speaker 4 (23:06):
Like for me, it's so dramatic.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
No I am no, Jessica, like I I just I
know my limitations. It doesn't work for me, but I
mean it does work for a lot of other people.
And in fact, the crazy thing is, I think in
some ways it saved people. I think it's ended people's marriages,
and I think it saves people's marriages because there are
people out there who would probably get divorced otherwise. But
they still like each other and they love each other,
and they have a family, and they have an identity
(23:33):
and they have a life, so they stick with each
other and their proclivities. They find a way to fulfill
themselves in other ways. And if everyone's on the same
page with that, then why not. Okay, drop Jessica dropped
the mics. She's like, that's it, Hey, thank you so much.
Have a good day you too. Uh see, look good,
we got Marissa. Hi, Marissa, how you doing good?
Speaker 11 (23:56):
How are you?
Speaker 2 (23:57):
Marissa? Good morning.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
So just to recap here in Keiki's court and make
sure I get this right, there's a woman who's having
worked done in her house left town, had her neighborhood
kind of overseeing. It turns out that her neighbor's hooking
up with the contractor and she caught it on the
ring camera and she doesn't know what to do with
this information.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
What do you think?
Speaker 1 (24:17):
Yeah?
Speaker 11 (24:17):
So I think Fred, it's two separate things here, because
I understand your point of not wanting to get involved
in other people's business. But if there was a type
of arrangement like this, keep it in your own house
in mind that I'm the person that I'm paying to
get my work done.
Speaker 1 (24:32):
Yep.
Speaker 11 (24:33):
But also going back to the point, I don't think
you confront the husband. You have to confront the person
who's doing it directly, because this happened to me. I
found out that someone really close to me was cheating
and I confronted them directly, and I was like, hey,
I know, knock it off. You need to tell them.
And if you don't tell them by this point, then
I'm going to tell them because they deserve to have
(24:54):
a choice in the matter.
Speaker 2 (24:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 11 (24:56):
I think because of that situation, you got to go
directly to the person.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
Marissa.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
I like the strategy, I think, Kiki you like it too, Judge, Kiki,
I like the strategy of going to the culprit and
being like, you need what is the deal? I need
you to handle this and keep it out of my house.
Because you go to the other person, then it gives
it gives the culprit in this case, the opportunity to
spin it. You know, you know you have proof. It's like,
I don't know. I just I think you're leaving yourself exposed.
(25:22):
It's like, tell the person involved to be less sloppy.
Speaker 3 (25:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 11 (25:27):
And in addition, I don't care why you're doing it.
I don't need to know. That's not my business. But
you need to know that other people know and that
you're hurting other people involved because of what you're doing.
So knock it off and go to the person, own
it and move on.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Yeah. Like, if you tell me one thing, why do
I have to live with your you know, infidelity? Why
do I have to Why do I have to keep
your secret. Why do I have to look at your
husband and wonder if he knows or if I'm the
only one that knows, and if he's ever going to
find out?
Speaker 2 (25:54):
And then I get pull into it.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Because it was happening in my house, almost like I
sanctioned it, and then what if?
Speaker 2 (26:00):
Yeah, yeah, go ahead.
Speaker 11 (26:01):
That's what happened to me, unfortunately, Like this situation, unfortunately
happened with my parents and my one my parent who
was doing it, asked me to keep that secret, and
I was like, you can't put that on me with
my other parent as well. So I know it's not
the same because that's family versus neighborly, but still you
(26:23):
don't want to be involved in that situation when you shouldn't.
Speaker 3 (26:26):
Have to be.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
I agree that fair, I agree? Thank you Marissa.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
Yeah, I have a good day. Yeah, I love you too.
Case closed. Another situation was alfy Tiki you did it?
Speaker 2 (26:37):
Oh, thank you.
Speaker 1 (26:38):
I love how people are like man, I'm impressed with
your advice. For once, fred I am right way more
than I could go. I mean, at least eighty percent
of the time and the twenty percent of the time
I'm wrong. I'm never going to admit it, but eighty
twenty that's not bad.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
God, yeah, they talk better than they say. Tell me,
these are the radio blogs on the Fred Show. That's
what I'm waiting for.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
So them to just bootleg stick others logos on top
of the like, Hey, Paulina, put another station's logos right
on top of the one, but leave the leave the
Chicago skyline in.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
I can totally see it running in other cities.
Speaker 12 (27:12):
Now.
Speaker 1 (27:13):
Nothing would surprise me more like writing in our diaries,
except we say them allowed. We call them blogs. Rufiah
you got one? Yeah, all right, take it away, thank you,
dear blog.
Speaker 12 (27:21):
So last week I was out went on a family
vacation with pretty much everyone on just side of the family.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
We do one every year.
Speaker 12 (27:28):
We find like a lake house and then all the
kids get to hang out before they all go back
to school.
Speaker 2 (27:33):
How many people are we talking about total?
Speaker 1 (27:35):
There was like twelve. How many of those are kids?
There's six of them, so you were almost outnumbered.
Speaker 12 (27:42):
Yeah right, okay, But yeah, this time we went to
Michigan for the first time. I want to say, I
want to I don't know if I'm saying the city right,
but it's Dowjack Michigan, Sister's Lake, Sister Lake's Michigan.
Speaker 2 (27:56):
We stayed on Magician.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
Lake, which is very Rufio is a Magic fan.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Yeah I am.
Speaker 12 (28:03):
But the station comes in over there, so shout out
to everyone. And now with Jack Michigan you can hear us.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
Yeah, no way, yeah, half the time you can't hear us.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
Parking lot I'm on the radio in Michigan.
Speaker 11 (28:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 12 (28:15):
So this is like this southwest portion of Michigan, like
close to Lake Michigan over there, because we went to
Saint Joseph, Michigan as well for the beach. But we
had a good time, did some boating, the kids went
to the beach, played some golf.
Speaker 2 (28:29):
There is a lot of mosquitoes out there. I don't like.
I got bit like like inside the house.
Speaker 12 (28:34):
I felt like, you know, they need some bug control
in that in that cab or whatever house was staying in.
But then I realized that I don't think I could
ever live in a small town like like where it's
like thirty five minutes to get to the grocery store.
I'm like, oh yeah, no, thank you. Like the space
is great, the house was great. You know, your neighbors
(28:55):
are far away, but then like the like the convenience
of like, oh I need to go get a coffee
thirty five minutes.
Speaker 2 (29:02):
I'm like thirty five minutes. Yeah, I gotta go two
towns over to a Starbucks.
Speaker 1 (29:05):
I'm like, I was gonna say, I don't think your
dad sho's gonna accept fine, no, my stupid right order.
Speaker 12 (29:11):
I did see an Amazon truck out there. I was like,
you working hard home because there's like and there was
on this lake. There was like an island, an island
where there's houses. I'm like, how you get how do
you get packages?
Speaker 2 (29:22):
Hit? Like I got a boat that just pulls up
and then throws your package. I don't know.
Speaker 12 (29:27):
But it was a lot of fun with Ashleton Parker.
He got to go on a boat for that. He
was sleeping the whole time. He's just whatever the boats,
you know, boats make kids fall asleep. I actually went
fishing for the first time and didn't catch anything. No,
then he gave up in like five minutes. It was like,
you didn't catch anything. He's just like, I'm done with this.
I'm like, that's why I don't like fishing.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
Right.
Speaker 1 (29:48):
He didn't win anything. Bad news for you about fishing, bro.
You know you rarely war. Do you find my sister
I feel like I've been bitching about early, which I
don't mean to, but do you find well, No, he
was last week.
Speaker 3 (30:00):
I was.
Speaker 1 (30:01):
I went back and listened to it. I wasn't critical
of her parenting style by any means.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
I just don't.
Speaker 1 (30:06):
It's the difference between my mom and my sister's parenting
styles that I was talking about. It was very different,
cause we're talking about how your mom Paulina. You guys
have to say, but do you find these vacations to
be the least bit relaxing when there's six kids? Like
it's a quote unquote vacation, but like you didn't really
get to rest, did you.
Speaker 7 (30:23):
No?
Speaker 12 (30:24):
Obviously with a newborn as well, because he's up every
whatever three and a half hours to eat, especially at nighttime.
But I mean, but they're able to all play together,
and they were all just they had a dance party.
Speaker 2 (30:35):
I'm like, all right, you all just do your thing.
Speaker 12 (30:38):
Just don't kill each other, don't hurt each other, and
then I'm gonna be downstairs having an old fashioned yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:43):
So yeah, well yeah, making memories and like stuff like
the fishing and whatever else like that. That's got to
be cool to see that, you know.
Speaker 12 (30:49):
Like I didn't even want to go fishing something new,
and like I don't catch anything going fishing, so just
like you got to take a fishing just in case
you catch something, you could get it on videos. Like
he ain't going to catch anything, he's gonna give up
in five and that's what he did.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
He's like, I don't want to do this anymore. Okay,
yeah right, I'm like, okay, cool, cool. But yeah, it's
it's it's it's relaxing.
Speaker 12 (31:10):
To a point because obviously, like there's other people to
watch the kids. You know what I'm saying. It doesn't
have to always be me. There's other care and the
animals there, you know what I'm saying. So right, yeah,
that's true.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
My sister's thing is I think she would rather for holidays.
Speaker 2 (31:24):
It's just it's too much.
Speaker 1 (31:26):
She has what almost a three and a half year
old and then a six month old or something, and
her thing is like to pack up everything and move
everything to go on vacation. It's not a vacation for us,
so we may as well to stay at home. And
I think, you know the counter to that, is well.
But you know, when everybody gets together away from home,
it lends itself to you know, new memories and new experiences,
(31:47):
and so yeah, it might be more work for everybody.
Else might be kind of lounging in a way that
you aren't put Like, I don't know, there's certain stuff
you're not going to do in your house or memories
not creating your house.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
That you that you would I don't know. An old
magician like, it's good for the kids, it is. It's
for their memories and.
Speaker 12 (32:03):
Stuff, that's what I would think. It's like what for
your sister, Like, yeah, you got to pack them all
up and take them. But then they don't see Grandma
all the time. They don't see Uncle Fred all the time.
So it's just like we're gonna uncle Fred.
Speaker 1 (32:15):
Because Uncle Fred's got him join hanging out us, beer
in his hand.
Speaker 2 (32:22):
Come here, kids, you can talk about life more. Fred
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