June 10, 2025 • 6 mins
Paulina asks the 13 for parenting advice on how to get her baby out of a meltdown!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:47):
Live from Canada, dear blog. So this is not financial
advice I'm looking for. It's more, I guess, like parental advice.
That could be American, King, Canadian, whatever you want it
to be.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
I think you're asking for the audience. Parental advice from
us wouldn't be very valuable since none of us have kids.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Well, I still think you guys have an input and
maybe some good advice. Obviously you're an uncle to two
small children's and you know, and they're the same age
as my daughter, or at least mayviz who's your niece.
So my daughter, Jigi is fourteen months. I hate that
I'm that parent, but like I guess I get the
whole month thing now, because if you say a year,
it's like, well, she's a.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
Little more than a year. But uh, yeah, we're in
a very tough spot.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
And I remember, Fred, you saw a video on my
Instagram too, maybe like a couple weeks ago, and you
were like, damn, like I'm surprised that, like you know,
she's kind of having this kind of a meltdown at
this young age. And I was like, I know, why
are we melting down at one year old?
Speaker 3 (01:38):
I don't know, And I need advice.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
I need help because it's getting really hard and I
don't know what to do at this point, Like you
don't discipline a toddler. I could put her in time
out in the chair in the corner and she'll end
up right back on the couch, Like that's not gonna happen.
And also I don't think she understands that I don't
know if I even want to do that that way.
So I'm trying to figure out a balance of like
how do you I don't know, what do you train
(02:01):
like a train of dog? Like how do you how
do you like work with a one year old so
that the one year old stops doing things like she
does a thing where she hits. Now, I know a
lot of babies do this, like she'll get but only
when she's mad. If I take away my phone, which
I can't stand when she grabs my phone or anyone's phone,
I take it away.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
Okay, we're taking this away.
Speaker 4 (02:16):
And she just hits and we look at her and
we're like, Gigi, no, And then she goes nice and
she rubs your head nice, just.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Like it's I mean, there you go. You're you're doing
something because it's almost like, if I'm interpreting it correctly,
like she's saying that wasn't nice, and I need to
be nice, Like she knows the difference.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
She's okay, so we're smarter than I think.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
I don't know, I mean, if I mean, I haven't
I haven't seen her do this, but it almost it
feels like she knows what's nice and what's not nice.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Yeah, but when she gets mad, like I mean, she'll
start even like fisting and shaking, Like she'll start shaking
her fists at me and.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
I'm like, whoa, I mean you do that to me?
So that's where she's getting it. Yeah, I mean maybe is.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
It my temper? Like I try to be calm around her.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I don't want her to be overwhelmed and like anxious
like me, But I don't know. I just want her
to kind of, I don't know, stop with the hitting obviously,
and kind of stop with the meltdowns and like we're
not doing full meltdowns at Target yet.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
You know, when the kid doesn't get what they want,
they just.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Like, we're not doing that yet, but I can tell
it's coming and it makes me nervous.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
I know, kids are kids, but I just I don't know.
I don't want that.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Plus she looks like my mam Alat and my in law,
my mother in law, and I feel like we all
kind of parent these parents, we all kind of do
things different.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Oh oh oh yeah, my guess would be that your
your mom and Hobby's mom. My guess would be they
let her do it like this shit, It's just like here,
take it, take take the phone or whatever.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
I think, So, yeah, I think you also.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I don't know what I'm talking about here, but my
guess would be some of these melts that you have
to just let them do it and then walk away
and just let them process the meltdown.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
That's where I'm at.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
I've read about that and the mel Robbins both let them.
I don't know if she I mean she did reference
like children like sometimes when in the aisle or whatever,
and when they want the toy, you don't want to
buy the toy, like yeah, sometimes you know. I think
what would be frustrating for me, Pauline, it is that
like they're not of the age yet where you can
have a conversation even begin to reason with them, you
know what I mean. Like this whole this whole theme
of today has been about reasoning with people. But it's like,
(04:13):
I don't think like you get to a certain age
where you can say, you know, and I hear my
sister do it with my niece and she's a therapist.
So it's like I got it wildly annoying and the
kid's gonna be so screwed up. But it's like, you know,
you can make a choice. You know, you have a
choice here. Your choices are, you know, and like so
Polly can talk back about the toy, but you can't
really do that necessarily with toddler.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
No, not not not like at one.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
And that's the thing too, It's like I want her
to like vocalize what she wants, right, but they can't
do that. So I think it's where a lot of
meltdowns come from. Right, even though I'm an adult who
has full meultdowns too, I can't at least vocalize front
I don't want this, or hey, Calen, can I have this?
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Like I don't just like, oh my vocalizing.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
All right, she's giving the phone, I'm gonna punch you
in the face.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
That's what she said, that's for sure.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
But I'm like, I don't want to raise a brat.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
But I also don't want to, like I don't know,
like not give her what she needs. So I don't know,
I'm having a really hard time with this. She's only one,
so yay, we're just getting started. Like it's only I
think gonna get a little bit worse before it gets better,
before she understands. Right.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
People are saying the power of distraction. I have two
under two. Oh my gosh, none of the tricks worked
other than distracting the energy to get back into a
good headspace. Under three, they don't understand traditional punishment.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Yeah, yeah, that's true too. I do a lot of
like redirecting. And my doctor asked, is she good with that?
And I said, yeah, I mean she's like me. It's like, hey,
we're here, squirrel, look this way, now, look over here,
like if I want her to like stop doing what
she's doing, I'm really good at like kind of being like, hey,
look over there.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Outside.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Meltowns are normal. Those are big emotions for a kid
who doesn't have the tools to express how they're feeling.
These are texts that we're getting and hasn't learned yet
how to regulate their emotions. Supporting them through the meltdown,
teaching them little by little coping skills will make them
emotionally balanced. As for hitting, it sounds like you're doing
everything right. I would make sure that they understand that
hitting hurtsby looks sad. Tell them that that hurts. Please
(06:03):
don't hit me. I didn't hit you, et cetera. It
sounds like you are a great mom. Someone said this
personal said, I'm impressed by friend's parenting advice. Right, Like,
I know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 5 (06:13):
Just don't hit me. I didn't hit you. Yeah, that's
hardly Chris Hansen. I'm gonna try all this thing. She's
sitting you and telling you that it's nice, right, Is.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
She hitting you? And then you tell her no? And
then she's like showing you what nice because like rubbing
her face would be like a nice feeling. Or is
she'd being like, no, this is nice to me slapping
you in the face. Yeah, I know I can't understand Gigi.
I don't speak her language. Same so once I come
from a school counselor start teaching her emotional regulation skills, books,
modeling a sign language, there are ways. Yeah, tell her
(06:47):
to read a book about it. Read this book? Have
you read? Let them
This is the Fread Show. We have your chance to
win a trip for two to see Kelly Clarkson's return
to Las Vegas for her brand new residency studio sessions
live at the Coliseum at Secret's Palace on August first.
Text Clarkson to three seven three three seven now for
a chance to win two tickets to the August first show,
two nights hotels day July thirty first to August second
(00:23):
at the Flamingo, Las Vegas and round trip bearfare. A
confirmation text that we sent. Standard message and data rates apply.
All thanks to the live national Yeah, they talk better
than the excite. These are the radio blogs on the
Fred Show, like writing in our diaries, except we say
them aloud. We call them blogs. And now with a
(00:43):
financial reports and international financial report, here's fully enough take
it away.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
Live from Canada, dear blog. So this is not financial
advice I'm looking for. It's more, I guess, like parental advice.
That could be American, King, Canadian, whatever you want it
to be.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
I think you're asking for the audience. Parental advice from
us wouldn't be very valuable since none of us have kids.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Well, I still think you guys have an input and
maybe some good advice. Obviously you're an uncle to two
small children's and you know, and they're the same age
as my daughter, or at least mayviz who's your niece.
So my daughter, Jigi is fourteen months. I hate that
I'm that parent, but like I guess I get the
whole month thing now, because if you say a year,
it's like, well, she's a.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
Little more than a year. But uh, yeah, we're in
a very tough spot.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
And I remember, Fred, you saw a video on my
Instagram too, maybe like a couple weeks ago, and you
were like, damn, like I'm surprised that, like you know,
she's kind of having this kind of a meltdown at
this young age. And I was like, I know, why
are we melting down at one year old?
Speaker 3 (01:38):
I don't know, And I need advice.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
I need help because it's getting really hard and I
don't know what to do at this point, Like you
don't discipline a toddler. I could put her in time
out in the chair in the corner and she'll end
up right back on the couch, Like that's not gonna happen.
And also I don't think she understands that I don't
know if I even want to do that that way.
So I'm trying to figure out a balance of like
how do you I don't know, what do you train
(02:01):
like a train of dog? Like how do you how
do you like work with a one year old so
that the one year old stops doing things like she
does a thing where she hits. Now, I know a
lot of babies do this, like she'll get but only
when she's mad. If I take away my phone, which
I can't stand when she grabs my phone or anyone's phone,
I take it away.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
Okay, we're taking this away.
Speaker 4 (02:16):
And she just hits and we look at her and
we're like, Gigi, no, And then she goes nice and
she rubs your head nice, just.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Like it's I mean, there you go. You're you're doing
something because it's almost like, if I'm interpreting it correctly,
like she's saying that wasn't nice, and I need to
be nice, Like she knows the difference.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
She's okay, so we're smarter than I think.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
I don't know, I mean, if I mean, I haven't
I haven't seen her do this, but it almost it
feels like she knows what's nice and what's not nice.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Yeah, but when she gets mad, like I mean, she'll
start even like fisting and shaking, Like she'll start shaking
her fists at me and.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
I'm like, whoa, I mean you do that to me?
So that's where she's getting it. Yeah, I mean maybe is.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
It my temper? Like I try to be calm around her.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I don't want her to be overwhelmed and like anxious
like me, But I don't know. I just want her
to kind of, I don't know, stop with the hitting obviously,
and kind of stop with the meltdowns and like we're
not doing full meltdowns at Target yet.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
You know, when the kid doesn't get what they want,
they just.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
Like, we're not doing that yet, but I can tell
it's coming and it makes me nervous.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
I know, kids are kids, but I just I don't know.
I don't want that.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Plus she looks like my mam Alat and my in law,
my mother in law, and I feel like we all
kind of parent these parents, we all kind of do
things different.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Oh oh oh yeah, my guess would be that your
your mom and Hobby's mom. My guess would be they
let her do it like this shit, It's just like here,
take it, take take the phone or whatever.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
I think, So, yeah, I think you also.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I don't know what I'm talking about here, but my
guess would be some of these melts that you have
to just let them do it and then walk away
and just let them process the meltdown.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
That's where I'm at.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
I've read about that and the mel Robbins both let them.
I don't know if she I mean she did reference
like children like sometimes when in the aisle or whatever,
and when they want the toy, you don't want to
buy the toy, like yeah, sometimes you know. I think
what would be frustrating for me, Pauline, it is that
like they're not of the age yet where you can
have a conversation even begin to reason with them, you
know what I mean. Like this whole this whole theme
of today has been about reasoning with people. But it's like,
(04:13):
I don't think like you get to a certain age
where you can say, you know, and I hear my
sister do it with my niece and she's a therapist.
So it's like I got it wildly annoying and the
kid's gonna be so screwed up. But it's like, you know,
you can make a choice. You know, you have a
choice here. Your choices are, you know, and like so
Polly can talk back about the toy, but you can't
really do that necessarily with toddler.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
No, not not not like at one.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
And that's the thing too, It's like I want her
to like vocalize what she wants, right, but they can't
do that. So I think it's where a lot of
meltdowns come from. Right, even though I'm an adult who
has full meultdowns too, I can't at least vocalize front
I don't want this, or hey, Calen, can I have this?
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Like I don't just like, oh my vocalizing.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
All right, she's giving the phone, I'm gonna punch you
in the face.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
That's what she said, that's for sure.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
But I'm like, I don't want to raise a brat.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
But I also don't want to, like I don't know,
like not give her what she needs. So I don't know,
I'm having a really hard time with this. She's only one,
so yay, we're just getting started. Like it's only I
think gonna get a little bit worse before it gets better,
before she understands. Right.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
People are saying the power of distraction. I have two
under two. Oh my gosh, none of the tricks worked
other than distracting the energy to get back into a
good headspace. Under three, they don't understand traditional punishment.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Yeah, yeah, that's true too. I do a lot of
like redirecting. And my doctor asked, is she good with that?
And I said, yeah, I mean she's like me. It's like, hey,
we're here, squirrel, look this way, now, look over here,
like if I want her to like stop doing what
she's doing, I'm really good at like kind of being like, hey,
look over there.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Outside.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Meltowns are normal. Those are big emotions for a kid
who doesn't have the tools to express how they're feeling.
These are texts that we're getting and hasn't learned yet
how to regulate their emotions. Supporting them through the meltdown,
teaching them little by little coping skills will make them
emotionally balanced. As for hitting, it sounds like you're doing
everything right. I would make sure that they understand that
hitting hurtsby looks sad. Tell them that that hurts. Please
(06:03):
don't hit me. I didn't hit you, et cetera. It
sounds like you are a great mom. Someone said this
personal said, I'm impressed by friend's parenting advice. Right, Like,
I know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 5 (06:13):
Just don't hit me. I didn't hit you. Yeah, that's
hardly Chris Hansen. I'm gonna try all this thing. She's
sitting you and telling you that it's nice, right, Is.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
She hitting you? And then you tell her no? And
then she's like showing you what nice because like rubbing
her face would be like a nice feeling. Or is
she'd being like, no, this is nice to me slapping
you in the face. Yeah, I know I can't understand Gigi.
I don't speak her language. Same so once I come
from a school counselor start teaching her emotional regulation skills, books,
modeling a sign language, there are ways. Yeah, tell her
(06:47):
to read a book about it. Read this book? Have
you read? Let them
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