In this episode of Heal From Infidelity, I dive into one of the most powerful analogies I've used with clients: asking the question, What team are you on? When betrayal shakes your world, it's easy to question your worth and wonder why your partner seems to show up differently elsewhere. But often, the truth isn't about your value—it's about which "team" each person chooses to play on.
I share insights from my own experiences and client conversations about what it means to hold yourself to a higher standard, to face pain instead of avoiding it, and to recognize when someone is willing—or unwilling—to meet you on the same field. Sometimes your partner may actually be on the same team but playing a different role. Other times, they may simply not be willing to put in the effort required to compete at that level.
This episode is a call to stand firmly in your truth, choose your team intentionally, and stop making someone else's choices mean less about you.
Takeaways:
- Why your partner's actions don't define your worth
- How to recognize if you're truly on the same "team"
- The role of resilience and facing pain in real healing
- Choosing higher standards without making yourself wrong
If you're ready to find clarity and strength after betrayal, I'd love to walk alongside you. Reach out to me today for support.
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