#499 Healing the inner child and a prelude to milestone episode 500. (Personal development wisdom snippets)

Episode 500 is coming! 🎙️

After 5 years of transformational conversations, it’s time to celebrate a huge milestone for the podcast: 500 episodes of personal growth, mindset shifts, and life-changing wisdom.

To mark the occasion, I’ll be revisiting 5 of the most powerful insights shared on the podcast so far - the ones that resonated the most with you, the listeners.

As a prequel, this episode today is a very special snippet of wisdom. I revisit my first conversation from the very beginning of the podcast - my interview with high-end performance coach and Tony Robbins trainer, Allan Kleynhans.

The snippet is about self-forgiveness and the path to inner healing.

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Episode Transcript

Agi Keramidas (00:02):
Welcome to personal development mastery
Podcast, episode 499and I am very excited. I'm sure
you can hear it in my voice thatepisode 500 is coming next week,
after five years of havingtransformational conversations

(00:24):
on the podcast, it is time tocelebrate this huge milestone,
the 500 episodes of personalgrowth, mindset shifts and
wisdom, wisdom, life changingwisdom.
So to mark the occasion, nextepisode 500

(00:47):
I will be revisiting five of themost powerful insights shared on
the podcast so far over the 500episodes. However, these are the
most powerful insights thatresonated most with you the
listeners.

(01:07):
So the first is a fresh,realistic perspective on
gratitude.
The second is the key tounlocking your genius through
personal values. The third ishow your perception limits or
expands what's possible.

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Number four, the surprisingsecret to becoming a confident
communicator. And number five, apowerful tool to energetically
shift your reality. These aren'tjust highlights. They are
actionable wisdom that cancreate real transformation if

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applied. So stay tuned forEpisode 500 coming soon, next
Monday, the 12th of May. And asfor today, we have very special
snippet of wisdom. I revisit thefirst conversation from the very

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beginning of the podcast, myinterview with high end
performance coach and TonyRobbins trainer, Alan klennas,
the snippet is about selfforgiveness and the path to
inner healing, and as weapproach the milestone of

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episode 500this reflection serves as a
reminder that truetransformation starts from
within us, and self forgivenessis one core element of this.
So without further ado, let'sdive into this snippet of wisdom

Allan Kleynhans (02:59):
that day 1999 on that third day,
when, after the Dickens, Ireleased a lot of of toxic
energy, you know, I released alot of that. But then the
process continues after that,you know? And so for 20 years
now, it's been 20 years since Iabout 20 years since I came

(03:19):
across the practice, hope onupon her, which is the four
phrases, I'm sorry, pleaseforgive me. I love you. Thank
you. It's, it's a Hawaiianmantra. It comes from Hawaii.
It's Hawaiian Huna, which is,you know, the Hawaiian culture
is very, very spiritual culture.
And they believe in energy, etc,and that everything is
energetic, and everything'sconnected. And so

(03:43):
that weekend was was a majorcatalyst for me. But then what I
did was I continued to do thatevery day. I continued to,
you know, I continued with thepractice of gratitude. I
continued with the practice ofcontinuing to carry on forgiving
myself, you know. And that's anactive process that I tell
everyone you correctly said thatshame is the lowest emotion. And

(04:04):
you know, Dr David Hawkinscreated something called the map
of consciousness. On the map ofconsciousness, shame is the
lowest vibrating emotion. Inother words, for anyone who's
watching or listening to this,what that actually means is that
the frequency, or the the theemotional vibration of the of
the emotion of shame is very,very low, very dense, and so

(04:27):
trauma that creates shame. Whenit's unhealed, then it manifests
in disease. And this is whatwe're seeing now with more and
more people around the world,because of the fact that more
and more people are, you know,we are. We continue to mask our
shame, or continue to cover itup with with all kinds of things
that offer very short termvalidation, short term

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gratification. You know, we are.
We are constantly beingmanipulated as consumers to buy
certain things, because if webuy certain things that will
make us feel better.
About ourselves, and that's whatpeople are doing. They placing
their emphasis on the wrongthings in order to feel better
about themselves, rather thanlooking within and saying, okay,
cool, you know, what is itthat's really making me unhappy,

(05:11):
you know? And what's reallytriggering my anger or my
frustration and my my sense ofguilt? There's a lot of guilt
that people carry around, guiltand shame, guilt because they
feel they've done somethingwrong when they were much
younger, and they're not evensure what it was, but it's kind
of in the unconscious. So toanswer that question, you know,
to continue to release andcontinue to to allow yourself to

(05:34):
process your trauma. This issomething that you have to
continue to do with yourself allthe time. So if you take the
average person who looks in themirror, the average person who
looks in the mirror without evenknowing it, they have an
unconscious charge in their intheir nervous system, because
they don't like what they see,because they've been told
certain things about themselveswhen they were younger, or

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they've been programmed bysociety that to look a certain
way, yeah, is the best way. Andif you don't look like that, you
know, then you don't really fitin, right? Do not accept it.
You're not loved. And because wewere all when we were young too,
we learned somethingunconsciously, which is
inaccurate, and we all form afalse premise or false idea

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around love. So when we wereyoung, we believe that love came
from our parents, Love came fromother people, and when our
parents didn't love us. Andthere were moments, lots of
moments, all children go throughmoments where they believe their
parents don't love them becausethey either weren't picked up
the right time, or they weren'tfed at the right time, or their
parentsscolded them or spanked them or
put them in the bedroom, or, youknow, told them to sit on this

(06:38):
naughty step and keep quiet. Andso when a child is good, then it
gets love and affection and itgets recognised. But when a
child is not behaving in theright way, then parents don't
recognise the child in a lovingway. So what we learn
unconsciously is, oh, if I'mgood, I get love. If I'm not
good, I don't get love. We carrythat into adult years. And so
what we all trying to do asadults is to be accepted and be

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and feel like we can, you know,we're gonna, we will make it,
you know, and then we'll fit in.
So all of that is affecting us.
So in order to continue torelease that, you need to really
recognise that we are all littlechildren inside, and we all need
to remember that we are alllittle children that are crate
we craving love and we didn'tget perhaps we didn't get that

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love that we felt we deserved,or perhaps we got something that
we felt we didn't deserve whenwe were young. So we need to
remember that actually thathealing, self healing and
forgiveness, self forgiveness isa continuous practice. It's like
a child that continually needsto be praised or loved. And
that's not that's now that Ijust want to make, make

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something very clear. That's notabout telling a child all the
time, Hey, you're the best,you're amazing, you because
that's also not very healthy,because then a child grows up
thinking that everything iseasy.
It's really just aboutrecognising, you know, just
about being loving, you know,being kind, being kind to
yourself. You can never be tookind to yourself, and people are
not very kind to themselves. Youknow, people are very unkind to

(08:05):
themselves generally, but youcan never be too kind in terms
of how you treat yourself in aloving way. So it's really just
about recognising that there's achild inside of you that really
needs to be healed and reallyneeds to be reminded that
actually you're okay, you'reenough, you are loved, and
you're not going to get thatfrom anybody else, so you might
as well give it to yourself. Sowhat I've been doing for 20

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years is I've been looking at myreflection all the time, and
look and now I carry on myphone. I carry this I've got
three or four photographs ofmyself at different ages, one,
one photograph at about, youknow, 18 months, one of one
photograph at about two or threeyears of age, one photograph at
five. And I look at thosephotos. I've been looking at
those photos for many years andlooking at them and practising

(08:48):
the HO pono pono phrases, I'msorry, please forgive me. I love
you. Thank you. So I say, I sayto that little Alan, I say, you
know, Alan, I'm sorry, pleaseforgive me. I love you. Thank
you. When I say I'm sorry, whatI mean? And I tell people, when
you use ho pono pono phrases,these four phrases, when you
say, I'm sorry, you actuallysaying to yourself, I'm sorry
that I made decisions at a veryyoung age that undermined my

(09:11):
myself, you know. I'm sorry Imade a decision about the fact
that I wasn't enough. I'm sorryI made a decision about the fact
that I was naughty or I wasn'tgood enough, I was unloved, or I
was ugly, or I didn't fit in, ornobody liked me, you know, or I
couldn't speak, or I couldn'tsing, or whatever it is. Because
we make decisions I get aschildren, we don't realise it.
We make decisions like that, andit's usually around our parents,

(09:32):
because our parents are thefirst people who teach us about
relationship with each other andwith ourselves. That's where we
learn about relationship. Andyou either learn a healthy
relationship, or you learn anunhealthy relationship, and the
majority of human beings arelearning an unhealthy
relationship, because mostadults have an unhealthy
relationship with themselvesbecause of what they learned as
children. So we keep passingthis down generation to
generation. So consciousnessreally means recognising that

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you've never done anythingwrong. You know, even as a.
Child. You were just being achild and really just
recognising that and justcontinually healing yourself in
that particular way, and thenbeing grateful. You know,
gratitude and forgiveness arevery powerful things. Being
grateful that you had thatexperience was there are no
mistakes. It's designed like wayso, you know. And then we just,

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now, I know we're moving allover the place, but it just
takes you into the nextconversation. Is that people
say, Well, what is laugh allabout? You know, I was speaking
to an audience last night, and Isaid, Have you ever asked
yourself, know what laugh about?
You mean, it's not just aboutbeing born, you know, growing
up, having a job, you know,going to work every day, and
then dying and, you know,there's, there's a spiritual
curriculum that we all have as asoul. You know that we manifest

(10:42):
into a human body. We come fromenergy. We manifest into a human
body. We're here for a shortwhile. So what is life about?
Life is a spiritual playground.
It's a spiritual curriculum. Wehear. It's like a spiritual
school. So we must be gratefulfor all the experience that we
had at kids. We must recognisethat everything, even the pain,

(11:04):
all the pain, for theexperiences, all the trauma,
that's all part of our spiritualcurriculum, that we have come
here to remember, you know, whowe really are. And then once our
life is over, we'll return thatto energy, you know? And so
while we are here as matter, fora short while, we must make sure
that our life matters. Soreally, it's just about
recognising Who am I becoming,and what you know, who would I

(11:27):
like to become, and what is mylife going to be about, so that
I can make the biggestdifference and have the biggest
impact. And then, really thebiggest way you can have the
biggest impact is to healyourself, because then when you
heal yourself and you have nofears and you don't worry about
what other people think aboutyou. That's one of the biggest
benefits to healing your tohealing your own heart, is you
have no worries about whatpeople think of you, because

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you're not trying to pretendthat you something that you're
not because you're afraid ofwhat they might see. It changes
everything. And then you canshow up more authentically. And
when you show up moreauthentically, you mean you can
be more present. And when you'remore present, then you recognise
the beauty and everything. Yourecognise the magic and
everything. I magic andeverything, like Einstein used
to say, right? You recognise themagic in everything. Because
everything is magic, especiallywhen you look at quantum

(12:09):
physics, and you see howeverything is connected.
Everything is energy, and it'sall it's energy is it has so
many different forms. You know,this couch I'm sitting on this
phone I'm looking at, you knowthis? You know, the clothes
hanging on the on the line, youknow, the cars outside. This is
all energy that's forming inthese different forms. You know,
these solid forms. But it's notreally there, right? It's 99.9%

(12:31):
space. It's little packets ofinformation that are, all, you
know, forming together intothese shapes. When you look at
it like that, then it's mindblowing, right? But we get so
caught up in the smallest partof the conscious mind that is
becomes critical by nurture, andthen we forget about all the
other stuff. And that is ourbiggest challenge, is why we're
here, as to how can we get outof that critical mind and into

(12:54):
the magical mind, you know, themagical part of the universe,
magical part of life. And thatcomes from really looking inside
and saying, okay, cool. Whatflawed programmes do I have that
are running in my unconsciousthat are preventing me from
recognising my greatness, right?

Agi Keramidas (13:13):
Thank you for listening.
Next episode is episode 500and as I said in the beginning,
it is time to celebrate thishuge milestone with revisiting
five of the most powerfulinsights that have been shared
on the podcast so far, theinsights that resonated the most

(13:37):
with you, the listener and thisaren't just highlights, they are
actionable wisdom that cancreate real transformation if
applied. So make sure you listenin to Episode 500
until then, Stand out. Don't fitin.