October 16, 2024 • 9 mins
Arejay discusses the importance of thought quality and the thinking process, emphasizing its impact on various aspects of life, including AI usage and personal growth. In the AI space, Arejay notes that users often blame AI for poor responses due to inadequate input, stressing the need for proper training and contextualization. In the healing space, Arejay highlights how negative self-talk and unclear questions can hinder progress, advocating for clear, empowering questions to foster a positive mindset. Arejay also addresses the victim mentality, suggesting that reframing questions from "why me?" to "what can I learn?" can shift focus to solutions and opportunities, ultimately leading to personal growth and better outcomes.
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(00:04):
The quality of your thoughts andyour thinking process will
impact everything. So lately,I've been witnessing people, you
(00:24):
know, I've been across differentspaces, so AI and healing and
metaphysical stuff, and it'sreally funny, because what's
kind of been converging is theway people are looking at things
(00:54):
and thinking about things,right? And so for like the AI
space, I'm seeing a lot ofpeople who are upset because
they're getting these really,really generic responses that
(01:22):
are crappy, and they think it'sthe AI and it's not right. A lot
of the times it's the input thatthey're trying to use, because a
(01:43):
lot of people are trying to useit like it's just this magic
pill, and I can put in minimaleffort, and that's not quite the
(02:04):
case like now it does overallreduce the effort and the amount
of time and energy that you haveto put into things over time,
(02:24):
but initially you're still goingto have to take the time to
train the AI, To get it tounderstand, to get it to
customize its responses andtailor it to what you're using
(02:52):
it for, and like what thecontext of everything that it's
doing functions in, right andIn, like the healing spaces. I'm
seeing people who are, you know,struggling with things, and they
(03:23):
don't know why they'restruggling with things, but the
first thing they're saying aboutit is, like, I can't do it and
it's too hard, right? Well,okay, like, if you're already
(03:51):
telling yourself you can't do itbecause it's too hard, like,
What room are you leaving toactually explore it and learn to
(04:11):
do it and to let it become easy,because you're kind of slamming
that door shut on yourself. So Ijust wanted to talk a bit about,
(04:33):
you know, how, we're thinking,the things we're telling
ourselves, and the questionsthat we are asking, because the
questions we ask help to focusour thoughts right? Our mind is
(05:02):
really a wonderful tool, and ifwe ask a question, our mind is
very easily, very quickly, goingto go to work answering and
(05:22):
looking for proof and findinginformation to support whatever
it is that we are asking. So ifthere's any bias in the
questions that we're asking, theresult that our minds are going
(05:52):
to find are going to supportthat bias, right? So some of the
things that we need to make surewe're doing when we are asking
(06:13):
questions is, are we being asclear as possible, right? Like,
is there ambiguity in thisquestion that I'm asking. And a
lot of times there is, is therecontext? Am I giving enough
(06:42):
context for an answer that'sgoing to actually be beneficial
and helpful, right? So I'll giveyou an example. Sometimes people
(07:03):
just be like, hey, what's thebest tool for video? Right? To
do? What with video? Right?There are tools to create video,
there are tools to edit video,there are tools to caption
(07:32):
video. What are you trying todo? Like, what's the end result
that you're looking for. Whatare the pieces that you need?
Because they just say, like, oh,what's the best tool for video?
(08:02):
You're going to get 50 millionanswers, none of which are
necessarily wrong, but a lot ofwhich are probably not what you
need. So learning to clarify andcontextualized questions can be
(08:33):
helpful, like even when we'reasking questions of ourselves,
but it can also be helpful whenwe're asking, you know, AI to
(08:53):
perform a function, or we'reasking other people for help or
for the recommendation, becauseyou know, a lot of information
(09:13):
that you may not be giving towhoever it is externally, or
whatever it is externally, thatyou may be seeking help from,
right? And another one of theother things that's coming up
(09:42):
really, really strongly rightnow, I'm like, I'm seeing it a
lot in everywhere. Is this.It's, it's still a victim
mentality that happens rightlike this. Why me? Other people
(10:11):
can do this and like, why can'tI right? Instead of asking,
like, what is it that I have yetto learn, or what is it that I
(10:31):
can do differently, where you'regiving a sense of power to
yourself, like there issomething within your control
that can be changed, that canthen change the results, right?
(11:00):
Which is not what happens whenwe're asking, like, Why me? Or
why can't I this? That's not ahelpful question. And the way
(11:20):
you're directing your mind is toliterally find all the reasons
why you cannot. So it's going tocome back with feedback. Like,
(11:41):
well, you're not good enough,you're not smart enough, you
don't have, you know, theresources you don't have, and
it's not putting you in theright frame of mind. Of like,
(12:09):
yeah, it may be true that thereare resources that you need,
right? But what resources do Ineed is a very different,
energetic and folk and focusesyour mind differently than okay,
(12:38):
I don't have resources, right?Or what resources don't I have?
Because now you're looking atit, you've already framed it in
(12:59):
a negative. So the energy thatit's carrying is going to be one
of kind of like a downward pull,right? So by the time you get
(13:19):
done with this list, like you'regonna feel exhausted, you're
probably gonna feel somewhathopeless, helpless, etc, instead
(13:40):
of when we're framing it with apositive and empowering lens,
you know you're going to startto see the opportunities. You're
(14:00):
going to start to see the thingsthat you now can go out and get,
or can start to ask about it'snot going to feel oppressive the
(14:21):
way the negatively framed stuffwill. So I just wanted to come
on and share that, because I'vejust been seeing it like
everywhere, and it's kind ofbeen entertaining. It's been a
(14:51):
great reminder for me, right?Because I know, like, I do it
too. It's still a work inprogress in a lot of ways, you
know, I'm really good at it. Butthat doesn't mean I don't slip
(15:20):
back into, you know, not framinga question in the most potent
way, or I don't slip back into,like, speaking to myself in an
(15:40):
unkind way, like mentally in myhead, right? But it is something
that it's more natural for me tospeak positively. It's more
(16:01):
natural for me to ask betterquestions, more empowering
questions, and when that slipback does happen, like I catch
it quicker and I can correct itand move myself out of that down
(16:31):
spiral direction faster, right?And I think that is always the
goal is to be getting better andbetter at it right, and getting
(16:51):
faster and faster at it andgetting more natural so that you
can continue to grow and excel,but it will impact everything,
(17:12):
right? And when you realize thatit's impacting everything,
that's going to normally be oneof the reasons why you start to
(17:32):
change it.
The quality of your thoughts andyour thinking process will
impact everything. So lately,I've been witnessing people, you
(00:24):
know, I've been across differentspaces, so AI and healing and
metaphysical stuff, and it'sreally funny, because what's
kind of been converging is theway people are looking at things
(00:54):
and thinking about things,right? And so for like the AI
space, I'm seeing a lot ofpeople who are upset because
they're getting these really,really generic responses that
(01:22):
are crappy, and they think it'sthe AI and it's not right. A lot
of the times it's the input thatthey're trying to use, because a
(01:43):
lot of people are trying to useit like it's just this magic
pill, and I can put in minimaleffort, and that's not quite the
(02:04):
case like now it does overallreduce the effort and the amount
of time and energy that you haveto put into things over time,
(02:24):
but initially you're still goingto have to take the time to
train the AI, To get it tounderstand, to get it to
customize its responses andtailor it to what you're using
(02:52):
it for, and like what thecontext of everything that it's
doing functions in, right andIn, like the healing spaces. I'm
seeing people who are, you know,struggling with things, and they
(03:23):
don't know why they'restruggling with things, but the
first thing they're saying aboutit is, like, I can't do it and
it's too hard, right? Well,okay, like, if you're already
(03:51):
telling yourself you can't do itbecause it's too hard, like,
What room are you leaving toactually explore it and learn to
(04:11):
do it and to let it become easy,because you're kind of slamming
that door shut on yourself. So Ijust wanted to talk a bit about,
(04:33):
you know, how, we're thinking,the things we're telling
ourselves, and the questionsthat we are asking, because the
questions we ask help to focusour thoughts right? Our mind is
(05:02):
really a wonderful tool, and ifwe ask a question, our mind is
very easily, very quickly, goingto go to work answering and
(05:22):
looking for proof and findinginformation to support whatever
it is that we are asking. So ifthere's any bias in the
questions that we're asking, theresult that our minds are going
(05:52):
to find are going to supportthat bias, right? So some of the
things that we need to make surewe're doing when we are asking
(06:13):
questions is, are we being asclear as possible, right? Like,
is there ambiguity in thisquestion that I'm asking. And a
lot of times there is, is therecontext? Am I giving enough
(06:42):
context for an answer that'sgoing to actually be beneficial
and helpful, right? So I'll giveyou an example. Sometimes people
(07:03):
just be like, hey, what's thebest tool for video? Right? To
do? What with video? Right?There are tools to create video,
there are tools to edit video,there are tools to caption
(07:32):
video. What are you trying todo? Like, what's the end result
that you're looking for. Whatare the pieces that you need?
Because they just say, like, oh,what's the best tool for video?
(08:02):
You're going to get 50 millionanswers, none of which are
necessarily wrong, but a lot ofwhich are probably not what you
need. So learning to clarify andcontextualized questions can be
(08:33):
helpful, like even when we'reasking questions of ourselves,
but it can also be helpful whenwe're asking, you know, AI to
(08:53):
perform a function, or we'reasking other people for help or
for the recommendation, becauseyou know, a lot of information
(09:13):
that you may not be giving towhoever it is externally, or
whatever it is externally, thatyou may be seeking help from,
right? And another one of theother things that's coming up
(09:42):
really, really strongly rightnow, I'm like, I'm seeing it a
lot in everywhere. Is this.It's, it's still a victim
mentality that happens rightlike this. Why me? Other people
(10:11):
can do this and like, why can'tI right? Instead of asking,
like, what is it that I have yetto learn, or what is it that I
(10:31):
can do differently, where you'regiving a sense of power to
yourself, like there issomething within your control
that can be changed, that canthen change the results, right?
(11:00):
Which is not what happens whenwe're asking, like, Why me? Or
why can't I this? That's not ahelpful question. And the way
(11:20):
you're directing your mind is toliterally find all the reasons
why you cannot. So it's going tocome back with feedback. Like,
(11:41):
well, you're not good enough,you're not smart enough, you
don't have, you know, theresources you don't have, and
it's not putting you in theright frame of mind. Of like,
(12:09):
yeah, it may be true that thereare resources that you need,
right? But what resources do Ineed is a very different,
energetic and folk and focusesyour mind differently than okay,
(12:38):
I don't have resources, right?Or what resources don't I have?
Because now you're looking atit, you've already framed it in
(12:59):
a negative. So the energy thatit's carrying is going to be one
of kind of like a downward pull,right? So by the time you get
(13:19):
done with this list, like you'regonna feel exhausted, you're
probably gonna feel somewhathopeless, helpless, etc, instead
(13:40):
of when we're framing it with apositive and empowering lens,
you know you're going to startto see the opportunities. You're
(14:00):
going to start to see the thingsthat you now can go out and get,
or can start to ask about it'snot going to feel oppressive the
(14:21):
way the negatively framed stuffwill. So I just wanted to come
on and share that, because I'vejust been seeing it like
everywhere, and it's kind ofbeen entertaining. It's been a
(14:51):
great reminder for me, right?Because I know, like, I do it
too. It's still a work inprogress in a lot of ways, you
know, I'm really good at it. Butthat doesn't mean I don't slip
(15:20):
back into, you know, not framinga question in the most potent
way, or I don't slip back into,like, speaking to myself in an
(15:40):
unkind way, like mentally in myhead, right? But it is something
that it's more natural for me tospeak positively. It's more
(16:01):
natural for me to ask betterquestions, more empowering
questions, and when that slipback does happen, like I catch
it quicker and I can correct itand move myself out of that down
(16:31):
spiral direction faster, right?And I think that is always the
goal is to be getting better andbetter at it right, and getting
(16:51):
faster and faster at it andgetting more natural so that you
can continue to grow and excel,but it will impact everything,
(17:12):
right? And when you realize thatit's impacting everything,
that's going to normally be oneof the reasons why you start to
(17:32):
change it.
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