You know that moment when business gets hard, sales slow down, ideas aren't flowing, motivation dips and your brain immediately goes "What's wrong with me?"
In this episode, we're breaking down the blame cycle that keeps high achieving women stuck, why your subconscious defaults to self blame when uncertainty hits, and the critical difference between looking at yourself through shame versus looking at yourself through curiosity.
Discover how to shift from the "fixing" lens to the "curious" lens so you can actually lead yourself through challenges instead of spiralling into self criticism.
Subconscious Prompts :
- What do I make it mean about me when things feel hard in my business?
- Where in my business do I default to self blame instead of self leadership?
- When I last experienced a challenge, was I looking at myself through the blame lens or the curious lens?
- What evidence do I have that I can move through challenges without blaming myself first?
- What would it look like to examine a current challenge through curiosity instead of blame?
- How can I show myself I'm safe to grow even when it feels uncertain?
Topics Covered in How to Stop Blaming Yourself:
- Why high achievers default to blame when business gets hard
- The two lenses: blame vs. curiosity and how they shape your reality
- What your subconscious is actually communicating (it's not what you think)
- The difference between fixing yourself and leading yourself
- How to pause the blame spiral and ask better questions
- Practical steps to redirect fixing energy into leading energy
Connect with Rebecca Haydon:
- Apply to work with me
- Join The Subconscious Membership
- Come say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube
Find the full show notes & more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/
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