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March 4, 2025 56 mins

Maybe you or someone you love has struggled with addiction, self-doubt, or the weight of past wounds.

 

If so, you are not alone—and there is a path to healing.

 

In this week’s You-est You Podcast, I had a deeply moving conversation about addiction, trauma, and self-compassion. My guest Arlina Allen, host of the One Day at a Time Recovery  podcast and author of The 12-Step Guide For Skeptics, shares her raw and real journey from struggling with alcohol and self-worth to finding freedom, healing, and a life filled with purpose.

 

 

We dive into:
✨ How childhood experiences shape our beliefs and behaviors
✨ The power of compassion in breaking free from addiction
✨ Why redefining spirituality can be key to healing
✨ The misunderstood truth about the 12-step journey
✨ How to reclaim your power and create a life you truly love

 

 

Takeaways

  • Many people struggle with addiction and need support.
  • Childhood experiences significantly shape our adult lives.
  • Seeking approval from parents can lead to unhealthy behaviors.
  • Trauma can manifest in various ways, including addiction.
  • Creating a life you love is essential for recovery.
  • The 12-step program can be beneficial for some individuals.
  • It's important to approach recovery with an open mind.
  • Sharing personal stories can help others relate and heal.
  • Compassion for oneself and others is crucial in the recovery process.
  • Support systems play a vital role in overcoming addiction.
  • Self-esteem issues often stem from early life experiences.
  • Alcohol provided a temporary escape from guilt and shame.
  • Binge drinking led to alter egos and chaotic behavior.
  • Hitting rock bottom prompted a reevaluation of drinking habits.
  • The 12-step program is often misunderstood due to individual experiences.
  • People's experiences in meetings can differ significantly from the program itself.
  • Redefining concepts like God can make recovery more accessible.
  • Powerlessness refers specifically to alcohol, not life in general.
  • A recovery mindset encourages leaning into discomfort for growth.
  • Anger can signal deeper issues that need addressing. Get specific about the cause of resentment.
  • Every relationship has a 50/50 shared responsibility.
  • People are mirrors reflecting our own traits.
  • Self-loathing often stems from fear and survival skills.
  • Compassion for oneself is crucial in recovery.
  • The 12-step process can benefit everyone, not just those with addiction.
  • Emotional management is essential for personal growth.
  • Synchronicities can serve as signs from a higher power.
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