Well, most of you have made a decision about what college your kid is going to by now. You all have sifted through the acceptances (hopefully, there was more than one), weighing all manner of things while making the decision. However, I know there are still a few of you out there who have not quite decided yet. I know because I talked to a mother just a few days ago who was in the throes of helping her daughter make her decision. Our meeting was quite accidental; she was the physician’s assistant in the surgeon’s office where my daughter and I were contemplating my daughter’s emergency knee surgery. As soon as the physician’s assistant found out what I did, after I had volunteered some unsolicited advice, she engaged me in a longer discussion of her daughter’s options. I was happy for the distraction.
1. Here We Go Again
Her daughter had an array of options: several okay acceptances, but not from truly selective colleges; an acceptance from Fordham University; and wait list spots at Wake Forest University and Colgate University. The mother, I’ll call her Leeann, had planned to keep one of the okay colleges on the list, as her daughter pursued the wait list possibilities. Leeann said that she and her daughter had not visited Fordham (although they live right here) because her daughter had hoped to go away to college and try something different from New York City. Guess what I said?
It’s the advice we always give (and this is the third episode this month that we have given it in, so maybe we think it is really important): Send your kid to the best college he or she got admitted to. Period. Wherever that college is and whatever it costs (to the degree that it is humanly possible). That’s the college to choose.
The okay college that Leeann was keeping on her daughter’s list is not nearly as good as Fordham. Yes, it is a college that, for some reason I cannot quite explain, has become popular here in the East, though it is in the South. It is out of town, which was her daughter’s preference, and Leeann was worried that her daughter would come home every weekend if she stayed in New York City for college. My daughter, who, as you loyal listeners know, went to Fordham for the joint dance program with The Ailey School of the Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater, assured Leeann that her daughter would not be coming home every weekend because there was plenty of fun and engaging stuff to do on campus. My daughter assured Leeann that she had had plenty of friends in Fordham’s Gabelli School of Business (where Leeann’s daughter would be heading) and that they had not gone home on the weekends.
We continued to chat about the two wait list options--both very good options and both very unlike Fordham in location and size. And both head and shoulders above that other only-okay option that Leeann had been keeping on the table. When we left the surgeon’s office, Leeann had taken the only-okay college off the list and was headed home to talk to her daughter about taking a look at Fordham’s campus (which is quite lovely and self-contained, by the way, even if it is in the middle of the Bronx). I can’t wait to hear the results.
It continues to puzzle me that so many parents do not seem to put the academic caliber of the college as the number one criterion for choosing among several colleges in the final analysis. Perhaps it is because parents do not know how to judge the academic caliber of a college or how to compare colleges on that all-important criterion. So, parents, do whatever it takes to figure out which of the colleges your kid got into is the “best” college. And, by “best,” I mean best academically, according to its national reputation or, as a second choice, its regional reputation.
2. Some Support for Our Position
While I don’t feel any real need for support for our position (other than the decades of life experience in the world of higher education we already have), I am always glad to get some. The support I want to share with you now is from a study by Noli Brazil and Matthew Andersson, published in March in the Youth & Society journal. The study was then reported on by Sarah Sparks in the Education Week blog Inside School Research. This is absolutely not what I expected and, therefore, it is particularly interesting. Here are Ms. Sparks’s opening paragraphs in her article:
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