In this powerful and necessary Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris set aside the usual flirty fun to tackle one of the most difficult but crucial conversations in the non-monogamous community — sexual assault in the lifestyle.
It's uncomfortable. It's raw. But it's happening more often than people want to admit. Adam and Pris share personal experiences, listener stories, and hard truths about how boundaries get crossed, why consent isn't a one-time agreement, and how alcohol, pressure, and silence enable abuse inside supposedly "safe" spaces.
From club scenes and takeovers to one-on-one dates, the duo breaks down the difference between flirting and coercion, and why "no" should never be negotiable. They discuss the unspoken struggles many face — especially women and closeted men — around finding their voice, saying no without guilt, and holding others accountable.
Pris opens up about being an advocate for women in the lifestyle, creating code words and safe-word systems for friends at clubs, and the importance of protecting each other — even if that means calling out bad behavior from someone you love. Adam sheds light on the machismo stigma that stops men from reporting when they've been touched without consent, reminding listeners that assault doesn't discriminate by gender.
Together, they stress that being sex-positive means being consent-positive. And that the strength of this community depends on speaking up, watching out for one another, and building spaces where everyone feels safe to explore — not just sexually, but emotionally too.
If you've ever felt unsafe, silenced, or unsure how to react when boundaries are crossed, this episode will remind you that you're not alone. Healing starts with awareness, and awareness begins with conversations like this one.
📝 Show Notes (for Podpage, YouTube description, or Spotify "episode info")
Episode: Quickie – Sexual Assault in the Lifestyle: Why Consent Still Matters
Hosts: Adam & Pris – Beyond Monogamy Podcast
Runtime: ~30 minutes
Tone: Raw, honest, compassionate, empowering
Topics Covered:
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What sexual assault can look like inside the lifestyle
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The dangerous myth that "swingers always consent"
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How alcohol and intoxication blur boundaries
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Why men are often silent victims, too
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How to create safe-word systems with friends at events
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The psychology of freezing during unwanted touch
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How to safely intervene if you see someone uncomfortable
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Rebuilding safety and trust in your lifestyle community
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Why being sex-positive requires being consent-positive
Key Takeaways:
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