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QUICKIE: Spotted! When Your Vanilla Life Crashes the Lifestyle

October 29, 2025 • 36 mins

Spotted! When Your Vanilla Life Crashes the Lifestyle

Podcast: Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Sometimes you're vibing at a lifestyle club—lights low, bodies moving, drinks flowing—and boom… someone from your vanilla life walks in. Your coworker. A family friend. Someone from the PTA. 😳 Now what?

In today's Wednesday QUICKIE, Adam & Pris break down exactly what happens when you get SPOTTED in the wild… and how to turn that panic moment into a confident lifestyle win. From awkward introductions to "keep your eyes up" territory, this episode shares a real-life run-in that ended up being surprisingly great.

What You'll Learn

  • The #1 newbie fear: "What if I run into someone I know?!"—and how to handle it
  • Consent, discretion, and reading the room when worlds collide
  • When not to approach someone—and why
  • Why being open can feel freeing (and build real community)
  • Turning "oh no" into "we're good" without the drama

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Episode Keywords

ethical non-monogamy, ENM, swinging, lifestyle clubs, getting spotted in the lifestyle, discretion and consent, open relationships, Beyond Monogamy podcast

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