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October 2, 2025 29 mins

We don’t want to talk about such a painful topic without offering help to heal. This episode is all about that.

We also mention stickers. You can shop stickers (and all sorts of other things!) on Carly’s website.

Shadow questions for healing:

What parts of yourself have you been told are too much?

What parts of yourself have you been told are not enough?

Where have you silenced your voice because you were afraid of being shamed or judged?

What parts of yourself have you kept hidden to stay safe or be accepted?

Where have you adopted a one-up position to avoid feeling shame, but lost connection or authenticity in doing so?

How might you begin to practice “same as” in your close relationships?

What are some ways that you have silenced your voice?

How can you reclaim those silenced voices?

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