BYHM153 | The Real Reason He Won’t Open Up (Even to You)

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In this episode of Build Your Happier Marriage, we tackle a topic that hits home for many wives of high-achieving, entrepreneurial husbands:

Why won’t he open up to you—even when you’ve asked nicely, prayed about it, or tried everything you know to connect emotionally?

We dig into the emotional walls men like Shaquille O’Neal often build—and why those walls aren’t necessarily about you, but about something deeper. 

You’ll learn what really unlocks emotional intimacy in marriage, and why your insight, not your effort, is the key.

Whether your husband seems emotionally unavailable, too focused on work, or just hard to reach, this episode will help you shift your approach in a way that honors your faith, protects your peace, and draws him in—without pushing him away.

🔥 In This Episode, You’ll Discover:

• ✅ Why men like Shaq often choose silence over sharing—and what’s really behind that wall
•  ✅ What your entrepreneurial husband needs most from you emotionally (it’s not “help” or “fixing”)
•  ✅ Why pressure kills intimacy and how biblical wisdom offers a better path
•  ✅ A powerful Bible verse that explains how to “draw him out” without losing your joy
•  ✅ A fresh mindset shift from The Joyful Marriage Quest that shows you how to reconnect—without doing more or trying harder

📖 Bible Verses Mentioned:

• Proverbs 20:5 – “The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.”
• Proverbs 14:1 – “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”

🛠️ Practical Encouragement From This Episode:

“It’s like trying to open a rosebud by peeling it open too soon—you ruin the bloom. But if you create the right environment, it opens on its own.”

💬 Listener Reflection Questions:

• Have I unintentionally pressured my husband to open up the way I want him to?
• What might he be trying to say—but doesn’t feel safe enough to express?
• Am I creating the kind of emotional space that draws him in—or pushes him further away?

📚 Resources & Next Steps:

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🎯 Final Reminder:

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