August 31, 2025 • 12 mins
Welcome to Un Verano con Self Love, Manis.
This is a special 5-part storytelling series where I’ll take you through five love stories, some romantic, some platonic, some about me, some about parts of me. Each one reflects a different Wound of Calladita Culture® and what it means to reclaim your voice, your worth, and your heart.
These aren’t perfect stories. They’re real. They’re tender. They’re here to remind you that healing can be messy, funny, painful, and beautiful, all at once.
So grab your cafecito, get comfy, and let’s begin your summer of self-love.
If you want to know more and be part of Un Verano con Self Love program, you can join here.
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This is a special 5-part storytelling series where I’ll take you through five love stories, some romantic, some platonic, some about me, some about parts of me. Each one reflects a different Wound of Calladita Culture® and what it means to reclaim your voice, your worth, and your heart.
These aren’t perfect stories. They’re real. They’re tender. They’re here to remind you that healing can be messy, funny, painful, and beautiful, all at once.
So grab your cafecito, get comfy, and let’s begin your summer of self-love.
If you want to know more and be part of Un Verano con Self Love program, you can join here.
Check out today's sponsor Savvy Ladies, a nonprofit organization dedicated to helping women like YOU take control of your financial future. They offer free resources, webinars, and my favorite: a free financial helpline where you can connect one-on-one with trusted financial experts. Visit www.savvyladies.org today and connect with the financial helpline to get the personalized support you deserve. Your journey to financial independence starts here.
Check out BMO here
Do you want to support our show and get ad-free episodes? Join our Supporters Club here.
Follow Cafe con Pam on all things social:
Subscribe on YouTube
Listen to Cafe con Pam
Take our Calladita Culture®️ Quiz
Get your business on El Mercadito
Learn more about Pam
To support the show, an easy way to do it is to leave a review. Your feedback definitely helps other listeners connect and see if this is a podcast they could resonate with. To make it easy for you, here are some quick questions to think about when you’re leaving a review:
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Listeners, thank you so much for hanging out with me today, y como siempre STAY SHINING!
*The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the hosts and guests and do not necessarily reflect the views of BMO. BMO sponsors the podcast but does not influence or endorse the specific discussions or viewpoints shared herein. BMO Bank N.A. Member FDIC*
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cafe-con-pam--6348411/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
So for me, Ola sopam and welcome to our mergarito,
the place where we showcase the brands that believe in
us and help us make the show possible. Let's meet them.
We all know this. Talking about money is not always
(00:26):
the most comfortable. Better, our friends from save Ladies make
it easier and now and Espanol, you don't have to
feel the pressure to translate for your mama or your tias.
Because savid Ladies has their whole site and nuestro yaora,
they can easily access their free resources like Taietes Glasses,
(00:49):
is La Lina, Gratis Bara and bunts their free financial
helpline and then the pace connect that with a trusted
financial expert. Whether you need financial guy in English or Espanol,
Saved Ladies is here to support you. Visit save ladies
dot org. That is sa v v y la d
(01:11):
I E s dot o RG. But I'm bezad your
financial freedom. If you've started making your cafecitos at home,
to get on with that morning routine and build the
habit of saving money, it could be a good strategy. Beto,
there might be an easier way to save. Did you
(01:32):
know that if you open a new Savings Builder account
at Bimo, you can earn a five dollars reward every
month you grow your balance by two hundred dollars or
more during the first year. Learn more about how Bimo
can help you grow your savings by visiting bimo dot com,
Ford slash Save bmo dot com Ford slash Save. Condition
(01:55):
supply accounts provided in the United States by Bimo Bank
and a member fd I see. Welcome to kakakmpam the
bilingual podcast Cora Stories Scene Sansora. I'm your host, Bamgorus
And this is a special series called Veranocon Self Love.
(02:20):
All summer long, we're exploring what it means to come
back to ourselves with softness, joy and radical kari. From
healing Kayla culture wounds to romanticizing our daily lives. This
season is about choosing you every single time. I know
the world is falling apart and everything's on fire, and
(02:41):
more than ever, I do believe this is the time
to tend to ourselves and take care of ourselves. Let's
dive in. Hello everyone, and welcome to Umanokon's Self Love.
This is a five part storytelling series where I take
you through five love stories. Some romantic, some platonic, somebot me,
(03:05):
some about parts of me, and each one reflects a
different wound of Kageta culture and what it means to
reclaim your voice. You're worth in your heart. I am
Bamgorueas and remember these are not perfect stories, but they're real,
they're tender, and they're here to remind you that healing
can be messy, funny, painful and beautiful all at once.
So grab your crevecyo, get comfy. Let's begin your summer
(03:28):
of self love. Oi Jagamo's Albonus episode. This episode is
al Sol and El Sooul represents freedom. El Sool is
the most outspoken, the most free version of you. It's
(03:50):
when you are an exist in your fullest expression. And
you know, sometimes you meet someone and they into your
life like they were always meant to be there. That's Elsoul.
I met amount of time when to be honest, my
dating life was messy. I was very casually. I would
(04:15):
often joke that I was dating restaurants because I would
literally just go to dinner with people, so I wasn't
like even hanging out past dinner. And El Saul, whom
you know who he is, he would be like yo,
like at least, you know, go to the park for
(04:38):
a walk with them or something, and I'd be like, no,
like I just want to go to dinner and like
have a good conversation, right, But el Saul was just
my friend. He was my best friend really, and we
talked all the time. We texted really, he loves texting,
so we messaged each other all the time. And we
(05:01):
at the time we lived about six hours away, so
there was really no pressure and it was all very
like chill. It was simple, it was light, it was fun,
and he knew about everything. He knew about Empty, he
knew about Ellenfiinito, of course, he knew about Altoxico. He
(05:22):
just knew about all of them. And because he knew
about all of them, he would always give me advice
on how to handle things, like when Empty gave me
a whole computer. When I mentioned that my computer, my
my computer had like died. Next time I saw it,
(05:43):
Empty he came with a whole ass brand new computer,
and I was like, oh my gosh, I can't take
this gift. And so Alsoul was like, you know what
for Empty, that computer is like literally buy new dinner.
Like it's it's fine if he gave it you because
he wants to give it to you. Yes, he might
be trying to impress you, but don't feel not worthy
(06:06):
of that gift. It just felt really good to have
someone to lean on for those things. And I would
often call him after weird dates or even to process conversations.
And he had this insight that I had never received before,
No judgment, just presence, and he has he literally is
(06:30):
the voice of reason. And then my birthday came. One
one birthday, I invited him to a dinner. And don't
ask me why I did this, because listen, I think
it was meant to be a story because I invited
a couple of people that I was seeing to the birthday.
(06:52):
Me thinking at the time, I was like, somebody's not
going to show up, you know, anytime like you invite
people over, like somebody always flay. And I was like, well,
I'm just gonna tell these guys, and I'm sure out
of like two or three, one is not gonna come,
or like only one is gonna come. Oh no, everybody
showed up. All of them showed up. So yes, it
(07:13):
was chaotic. We're gonna skip the details. You have to
ask my friends who were there. It was just not
the business. But it was funny. It was comical now
looking back, but it was stressful and it soul was there.
But what I realized that day is that I felt
the most me around him, not the ones I was
(07:35):
trying to impress, not the ones I had dressed up for,
just and so the one who already saw me unfiltered, unpolished,
and he had shown me that he liked me that way.
And what I didn't realize then but I see so
clearly now, is that I was already in a relationship,
(07:55):
but it wasn't romantic yet. It was rooted in honesty
and friendship and mutual care and quiet, consistent love. And
that's what makes it so at different because he never
tried to fix me. He's never made me feel like
I am too much. He says now that I am dramatic,
(08:16):
but as a joke, and he stays he's patient, he's loving,
and he's open. And a decade late later, we still
haven't really fought. And I asked him the other day
if he can think of a fight, of an actual fight,
and we've never really had one. We've had his agreements.
(08:39):
One time, he was actually very annoyed with me because I,
you know, Adhd. He asked me if I had plans
for something, and I told him no without looking at
my calendar, and then he made reservations and I actually
did have something that I couldn't change, and so he
got pretty annoyed in that, and so we had a conversation.
I learned and now I always look at my calendar,
and he asked asks me multiple times to look my
(09:01):
calendar to make sure that I'm not missing details. But
not really fights, because we've always led with listening, with compassion,
with the understanding that love isn't a battle, it's a conversation.
And the wildest part about Elshol is that we were
(09:22):
in each other's orbit for years. We went to college
in the same state around the same time, but we
didn't meet until we were ready. And now ten years later,
I feel more free, more myself than I've ever felt before.
The lion that we're getting from Elsol is that the
(09:43):
love you're looking for might not come in sparks, the
sparks that we've been sold in the movies. The love
you may be looking for might common stillness and softness
and the long, steady friendship that turns into something sacred.
Sometimes the deepest love stories are not about finding the one.
(10:04):
They're actually about becoming the version of you who's finally
ready to receive that kind of love. And it starts
with you. So the experiment for this week and to
close this series is to make a list of the
qualities and relationships that make you feel free, not excited,
not entertained, not impressed, free, and then ask yourself, where
(10:27):
can I give myself more of that? Because real love
doesn't make you shrink and lets you breathe. Oh my gosh,
we made it till the end of the series. How
was it. I hope you had a lot of fun
if you joined me, joined me inside of Umbaranakon's self love,
(10:50):
whatever option you're a part of, Thank you so much
for having so much fun inside And if you just
listen to the to the series with this bonus extra episode,
I really my goal was to share a little bit
more about me and in very good scorpio fashion. I
know I omitted a lot of details, but I kind
(11:11):
of did it on purpose thinking that you would ask me.
And so if you are curious and you want to
keep diving deeper, just send me a DM screenshot tag
me on all the places and spaces at Kavakamba Podcast.
Thank you so so much for being here. You can
still get access to umadanaconsulvlove dot com to explore all
the options that you have to join our fun summer
(11:33):
experiment and I hope you enjoy this series. Tell me
if you want more of these. I shared the series
and love stories to reflect the wounds of Kayelita culture,
but know that they're not just in love Kayallhita culture.
Wounds show up in so many different places and spaces
(11:56):
in life, and so I've been thinking about also doing
the wounds in like bosses and different managers have had before,
and also like the wounds in family members. I don't know,
(12:17):
tell me what you think. Do you want more series
like this showing you the different wounds in different aspects
of your life? I would love to know you went on.
Can I just prot asthetic eat out a seat? After
this episode? There's no more, but I would love to
know see
So for me, Ola sopam and welcome to our mergarito,
the place where we showcase the brands that believe in
us and help us make the show possible. Let's meet them.
We all know this. Talking about money is not always
(00:26):
the most comfortable. Better, our friends from save Ladies make
it easier and now and Espanol, you don't have to
feel the pressure to translate for your mama or your tias.
Because savid Ladies has their whole site and nuestro yaora,
they can easily access their free resources like Taietes Glasses,
(00:49):
is La Lina, Gratis Bara and bunts their free financial
helpline and then the pace connect that with a trusted
financial expert. Whether you need financial guy in English or Espanol,
Saved Ladies is here to support you. Visit save ladies
dot org. That is sa v v y la d
(01:11):
I E s dot o RG. But I'm bezad your
financial freedom. If you've started making your cafecitos at home,
to get on with that morning routine and build the
habit of saving money, it could be a good strategy. Beto,
there might be an easier way to save. Did you
(01:32):
know that if you open a new Savings Builder account
at Bimo, you can earn a five dollars reward every
month you grow your balance by two hundred dollars or
more during the first year. Learn more about how Bimo
can help you grow your savings by visiting bimo dot com,
Ford slash Save bmo dot com Ford slash Save. Condition
(01:55):
supply accounts provided in the United States by Bimo Bank
and a member fd I see. Welcome to kakakmpam the
bilingual podcast Cora Stories Scene Sansora. I'm your host, Bamgorus
And this is a special series called Veranocon Self Love.
(02:20):
All summer long, we're exploring what it means to come
back to ourselves with softness, joy and radical kari. From
healing Kayla culture wounds to romanticizing our daily lives. This
season is about choosing you every single time. I know
the world is falling apart and everything's on fire, and
(02:41):
more than ever, I do believe this is the time
to tend to ourselves and take care of ourselves. Let's
dive in. Hello everyone, and welcome to Umanokon's Self Love.
This is a five part storytelling series where I take
you through five love stories. Some romantic, some platonic, somebot me,
(03:05):
some about parts of me, and each one reflects a
different wound of Kageta culture and what it means to
reclaim your voice. You're worth in your heart. I am
Bamgorueas and remember these are not perfect stories, but they're real,
they're tender, and they're here to remind you that healing
can be messy, funny, painful and beautiful all at once.
So grab your crevecyo, get comfy. Let's begin your summer
(03:28):
of self love. Oi Jagamo's Albonus episode. This episode is
al Sol and El Sooul represents freedom. El Sool is
the most outspoken, the most free version of you. It's
(03:50):
when you are an exist in your fullest expression. And
you know, sometimes you meet someone and they into your
life like they were always meant to be there. That's Elsoul.
I met amount of time when to be honest, my
dating life was messy. I was very casually. I would
(04:15):
often joke that I was dating restaurants because I would
literally just go to dinner with people, so I wasn't
like even hanging out past dinner. And El Saul, whom
you know who he is, he would be like yo,
like at least, you know, go to the park for
(04:38):
a walk with them or something, and I'd be like, no,
like I just want to go to dinner and like
have a good conversation, right, But el Saul was just
my friend. He was my best friend really, and we
talked all the time. We texted really, he loves texting,
so we messaged each other all the time. And we
(05:01):
at the time we lived about six hours away, so
there was really no pressure and it was all very
like chill. It was simple, it was light, it was fun,
and he knew about everything. He knew about Empty, he
knew about Ellenfiinito, of course, he knew about Altoxico. He
(05:22):
just knew about all of them. And because he knew
about all of them, he would always give me advice
on how to handle things, like when Empty gave me
a whole computer. When I mentioned that my computer, my
my computer had like died. Next time I saw it,
(05:43):
Empty he came with a whole ass brand new computer,
and I was like, oh my gosh, I can't take
this gift. And so Alsoul was like, you know what
for Empty, that computer is like literally buy new dinner.
Like it's it's fine if he gave it you because
he wants to give it to you. Yes, he might
be trying to impress you, but don't feel not worthy
(06:06):
of that gift. It just felt really good to have
someone to lean on for those things. And I would
often call him after weird dates or even to process conversations.
And he had this insight that I had never received before,
No judgment, just presence, and he has he literally is
(06:30):
the voice of reason. And then my birthday came. One
one birthday, I invited him to a dinner. And don't
ask me why I did this, because listen, I think
it was meant to be a story because I invited
a couple of people that I was seeing to the birthday.
(06:52):
Me thinking at the time, I was like, somebody's not
going to show up, you know, anytime like you invite
people over, like somebody always flay. And I was like, well,
I'm just gonna tell these guys, and I'm sure out
of like two or three, one is not gonna come,
or like only one is gonna come. Oh no, everybody
showed up. All of them showed up. So yes, it
(07:13):
was chaotic. We're gonna skip the details. You have to
ask my friends who were there. It was just not
the business. But it was funny. It was comical now
looking back, but it was stressful and it soul was there.
But what I realized that day is that I felt
the most me around him, not the ones I was
(07:35):
trying to impress, not the ones I had dressed up for,
just and so the one who already saw me unfiltered, unpolished,
and he had shown me that he liked me that way.
And what I didn't realize then but I see so
clearly now, is that I was already in a relationship,
(07:55):
but it wasn't romantic yet. It was rooted in honesty
and friendship and mutual care and quiet, consistent love. And
that's what makes it so at different because he never
tried to fix me. He's never made me feel like
I am too much. He says now that I am dramatic,
(08:16):
but as a joke, and he stays he's patient, he's loving,
and he's open. And a decade late later, we still
haven't really fought. And I asked him the other day
if he can think of a fight, of an actual fight,
and we've never really had one. We've had his agreements.
(08:39):
One time, he was actually very annoyed with me because I,
you know, Adhd. He asked me if I had plans
for something, and I told him no without looking at
my calendar, and then he made reservations and I actually
did have something that I couldn't change, and so he
got pretty annoyed in that, and so we had a conversation.
I learned and now I always look at my calendar,
and he asked asks me multiple times to look my
(09:01):
calendar to make sure that I'm not missing details. But
not really fights, because we've always led with listening, with compassion,
with the understanding that love isn't a battle, it's a conversation.
And the wildest part about Elshol is that we were
(09:22):
in each other's orbit for years. We went to college
in the same state around the same time, but we
didn't meet until we were ready. And now ten years later,
I feel more free, more myself than I've ever felt before.
The lion that we're getting from Elsol is that the
(09:43):
love you're looking for might not come in sparks, the
sparks that we've been sold in the movies. The love
you may be looking for might common stillness and softness
and the long, steady friendship that turns into something sacred.
Sometimes the deepest love stories are not about finding the one.
(10:04):
They're actually about becoming the version of you who's finally
ready to receive that kind of love. And it starts
with you. So the experiment for this week and to
close this series is to make a list of the
qualities and relationships that make you feel free, not excited,
not entertained, not impressed, free, and then ask yourself, where
(10:27):
can I give myself more of that? Because real love
doesn't make you shrink and lets you breathe. Oh my gosh,
we made it till the end of the series. How
was it. I hope you had a lot of fun
if you joined me, joined me inside of Umbaranakon's self love,
(10:50):
whatever option you're a part of, Thank you so much
for having so much fun inside And if you just
listen to the to the series with this bonus extra episode,
I really my goal was to share a little bit
more about me and in very good scorpio fashion. I
know I omitted a lot of details, but I kind
(11:11):
of did it on purpose thinking that you would ask me.
And so if you are curious and you want to
keep diving deeper, just send me a DM screenshot tag
me on all the places and spaces at Kavakamba Podcast.
Thank you so so much for being here. You can
still get access to umadanaconsulvlove dot com to explore all
the options that you have to join our fun summer
(11:33):
experiment and I hope you enjoy this series. Tell me
if you want more of these. I shared the series
and love stories to reflect the wounds of Kayelita culture,
but know that they're not just in love Kayallhita culture.
Wounds show up in so many different places and spaces
(11:56):
in life, and so I've been thinking about also doing
the wounds in like bosses and different managers have had before,
and also like the wounds in family members. I don't know,
(12:17):
tell me what you think. Do you want more series
like this showing you the different wounds in different aspects
of your life? I would love to know you went on.
Can I just prot asthetic eat out a seat? After
this episode? There's no more, but I would love to
know see
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