November 8, 2025 • 33 mins
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Three voices sit by a stormy shore and map gratitude from feeling to habit to creative force. We share a simple heart-hand breathing method, rethink chores and setbacks through appreciation, and explore how expectation and presence shape what shows up next.
• gratitude as a felt state, not just words
• three-step heart-brain coherence technique
• love and gratitude as the same frequency
• morning framing and shaping the day
• reframing chores and annoyances through appreciation
• building habits and choosing lighter inputs
• expectation, attention, and practical manifesting
• presence as a repeatable reset in small moments
• community, coffee, music, and everyday grace
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SPEAKER_00 (00:10):
Alright, we are on the line.
SPEAKER_04 (00:13):
Beautiful.
It's a beautiful, beautiful fallovercast, rainy, windy day on
the ocean.
See, there's something specialabout being by the ocean when
there's bad weather.
It's almost like it's almostlike poetry, right?
You it's nice to have sun by theocean.
It's nice.
But when you got like a changingclimate, changing weather day
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where the wind is coming in andthere's blowing rain, it's kind
of like cool.
SPEAKER_00 (00:41):
Kind of like weathering heights or something.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (00:46):
Something classic.
And we're sitting here in PEI bythe ocean with Barb.
SPEAKER_01 (00:53):
Barb.
Barb, hi.
SPEAKER_04 (00:54):
You've heard Barb before.
She is a uh she's a hypnotist,she's clairvoyant, she's a
seeker, she's a listener, she'sa lot of things, and she's house
sitting in PEI.
SPEAKER_01 (01:06):
I am house sitting in PEI.
It's amazing where your life cango when you just have a
different vision.
Or better yet, I didn't reallyhave a vision.
I just let the universe have myvision.
SPEAKER_04 (01:20):
Yeah.
And since we're here and we'retalking about creating and
creating life and creating thethings we want in life, and how
do we move towards thatmysterious word manifesting?
We started talking about theimportance of gratitude this
morning.
And so it might be a good topicbecause I guess you're
experiencing some significantgratitude, eh, Barb?
SPEAKER_01 (01:42):
Every day, every minute of every day,
tremendously grateful for allthat has been brought into my
life and exactly where I'msitting right now.
What does that feel like?
Gratitude.
Wow, it's a very full heart.
I cry a lot.
Joyful tears when I am presentin a moment and I just like
right now looking outside andlooking at the ocean sitting in
(02:02):
front of me in this blusteryrainy day.
The beauty of that, the gift ofbeing in this place, it just
fills me right up.
And it just, you know, many atimes I just shout out to the
universe to say thank you.
I'm so blessed.
I feel so lucky and so deeplygrateful for the gifts that are
here for me to enjoy every day.
SPEAKER_00 (02:22):
Do you find yourself having, I know this might be
sound like a weird question, butdo you have say you're looking
out at the ocean, do you havethe thought first or the feeling
first?
I am grateful for the ocean.
SPEAKER_01 (02:33):
I think it's the feeling that begins to well up
as I look at it and I appreciatethe beauty of it.
Then the realization of what agift this really is.
That and it just is, you know,it's like someone pouring into
the top of my head, and I juststart filling up from the bottom
up, and then my heart justexpands to such a degree that it
almost feels like it's gonnaburst out of my chest, and that
(02:54):
just brings such a wave ofemotion, of such gratitude and
such love, deep, deepappreciation for all that has
been given me, all that's beenbrought to my life.
SPEAKER_04 (03:03):
Yeah, we were talking about the significance
of gratitude when it comes tocreating for yourself uh and
through yourself and throughyour mind and through your heart
and the power of your heart, thekind of wonderful life of your
dreams, kind of things, quoteunquote, wishes coming true.
unknown (03:22):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (03:23):
And and how do you, you know, what's the role of
gratitude in that?
There's a lot of teachers outthere who are really focused on
gratitude as a starting point.
And and I hear that, and thatcauses me to ask, okay, like
when I when I hypnotize clients,I say, don't just say these
words.
I'm gonna say some words, repeatthem to yourself, but don't just
say them.
Try to feel them.
(03:43):
Try to create inside yourself afeeling that and an emotional
basis for these words, right?
With the idea that the emotionis really the active magnet,
right?
The thing that is thevibrationally being put out into
the quantum and then bringing itback.
I'll talk more about the quantumin a bit, but you had talked
(04:03):
about heart math stuff that youwere looking at.
SPEAKER_00 (04:06):
Yeah.
So I was watching Joe Roganinterview Greg Braden a couple
weeks ago.
And towards the end of the threehours or something, Greg Braden
was talking about how he eitherwent to the heart math institu
institute or teaches there.
I I can't remember.
Anyway, he was explaining thisincredible way of having the
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heart and the brainelectromagnetic frequency, if
I'm getting that right, movetogether.
So they're not out of sync,they're they're synced up if you
were to study it, kind of thingon a graph.
SPEAKER_04 (04:43):
And coherence.
SPEAKER_00 (04:45):
Coherence, yeah, exactly.
Yeah, heart-mind coherence.
And he said it's three simplesimple steps.
And it was so simple that I justsat there and did it and felt
the effects of it.
So you close your eyes, youplace your hand on your heart or
your hands on your heart.
That step helps you to connectto your heart because you can
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feel something close to yourheart, right?
You feel the touch of your hand,and so you're when you know, if
if someone touches your foot,your mind automatically goes to
your foot, right?
So you're touching your heartarea, and so your mind goes
towards that area, whether it'sinside the heart is another
story, but you are placing yourattention on your heart, and
then you breathe a certain way,so you take an in-breath that is
(05:33):
shorter than the out breath.
Doesn't have to be a certainamount of seconds or anything
like that, but you want the outbreath to be longer than the
in-breath.
And then you the third step inall that is just while you're
doing that, think of things thatbring you gratitude, a
friendship or the ocean oranything, a flower on your walk,
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something like that, coffee inthe morning or tea in the
afternoon.
And that will drop you down intothis heart-mind coherence.
So that was fascinating to me,and I've used it with every
client so far in the last coupleweeks to help them get there.
So yeah, that was that wasreally interesting, and you can
(06:15):
really feel it.
You can feel your body goinginto a deep, restful state.
Yeah, almost as soon as youstart it.
SPEAKER_01 (06:23):
Well, I can say that I I I've never heard that
before, but I can tell you thatduring my journeys, did a bit of
a road trip on the summertimeand just finding myself in
beautiful, beautiful places.
Those are my real moments ofgratitude.
You know, I'm driving and I lookaround and I just first of all I
would say I'm kind of lockinginto the moment, so I can't
really close my eyes, but I'mlocking into just being present
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to where I am and what I'mseeing, which I'm thinking has a
lot to do with closing youreyes.
And then I've naturally found myhand, one of my hands, moving
towards my heart as if to holdit, because I can feel the
fullness of the heart.
And that's how I end up findingmyself, you know, driving down
the road, tears running down myface, and just being filled with
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gratitude.
So that's really interesting tome now that my hand just
naturally came to the heart.
I don't, it just was doing whatit wanted to do, I guess, was to
yeah, to be present andattentive to the heart.
That's cool, beautiful.
SPEAKER_03 (07:18):
So, what's the difference between gratitude and
love?
SPEAKER_01 (07:22):
I don't know if there is a difference.
SPEAKER_03 (07:24):
Explain.
SPEAKER_01 (07:25):
Yeah.
Um I think that when you lovesomeone, when you love
something, when you're in amoment that you're just filled
with love, I think gratitude ispart of that.
I think it's a component of lovebecause I can't I can't feel a
way to separate the two of them.
How can I be gracious forsomething, grateful for
something and not feel lovetowards it?
I'm I'm not gonna be gratefulfor the pile of dog doo-doo at
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my feet.
I I don't feel any gratitudetowards that when I have to pick
that up.
But when I look out on the treesright now, outside, I look out
in the ocean, I love the beautyof it.
And with that love comes thisoverwhelming feeling of
gratitude of just being sograteful for having the gift of
that to look at, the gift ofthat to feel, to be a part of.
(08:12):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (08:12):
I think like like Barbara's saying, I I don't
really see a separation betweenthem because like this morning,
checking in with my guides,Lesett asked me a question and
sort of about this.
What is gratitude?
And the first thing that came tome from my guides was it's just
a word.
It's just a word, it's all thesame.
And that led me to looking upother languages, words that
(08:36):
meant gratitude.
Most other languages, it's theword for thank you or thanks.
Lovely.
And so I said one word in Hindi.
I can't remember exactly what itis now, but I said, Do you know
what this word means to less?
And he said, No.
And that would not that I knewHindi.
But it was it was to get in thegame.
(08:58):
Yeah, yeah, exactly.
Why not?
It was to I guess get a pointacross that gratitude is just a
word, it's an English word.
It it's it's a frequency thatwe're after here, not the word.
Yes.
SPEAKER_04 (09:11):
There it is.
Yes, there it is.
And I think that's it.
SPEAKER_01 (09:15):
It holds energy.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (09:17):
Yeah, that's the that's the thing that I've been
looking for.
That's why I I want to talkabout this.
This is why I'm focused on thisand have been for a couple of
weeks.
Because, you know, feelinggratitude is vibrational, right?
It's an energy and it has afrequency.
And I don't see it either as afrequency dissimilar from love.
(09:38):
But I see, you know, gratitude,I I think about appreciation and
acknowledgement.
There's a certain amount ofawareness and appreciating that
which you are grateful for.
It's you're grateful because youappreciate something powerfully
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positive about that.
And then then that powerlypositiveness comes from where it
fits into your life, where itfits into your day-to-day
experience.
You know, there's things we'regrateful for all the time.
Like every morning, I wake upand I am grateful for my bed and
my pillow.
I wake up and it's just that'sthe perfect time.
Like I've been there all night,but it's just those last hours
(10:20):
of sleep where it just isperfect now.
I'm I'm perfectly warm, I'mperfectly comfortable, I'm
perfectly set, and I'm perfectlywilling to stay there.
And he does.
And and it's and it's naturalfor me to then slide into that
gratitude.
And then for me, that's themorning practice, right?
(10:42):
The morning practice is I rollover and I'm aware that I'm
awake and I start to thisfeeling so grateful about the
comfort and and peace that I'min and the awareness of having
been, you know, spoken tothrough the night in my dreams,
because I feel like, you know,my guides are there.
Well, every night when I go tobed, I ask for help.
I it's now every night.
(11:02):
I say, please help me, pleasegive me what I need in the
night.
And they never decline, theynever not respond.
Just sometimes what they giveme, I don't want, but that's
their problem.
The point is that um it leads menaturally into sort of a morning
practice of, you know, of wordsthat I say to myself.
(11:23):
And I say these words to myselfbecause they I use them as a
mindset that creates avibration, a physical awareness
that I can then try to turn intoa sensation in my body, in my
mind, in my heart, that I canthen cling to and try to find a
(11:44):
base in.
So my practice is toimmediately, when I wake up,
just immediately start with I amone with the father, the father
is one with me.
And that's where I start.
Everybody's got their own wordsfor oneness, and everybody's got
their own sense of appreciation.
Anyway, where all of that leadsme is I think, okay, well,
that's a state in which I cannaturally find gratitude, and
there's a certain sensation tothat.
(12:06):
But if I'm trying to use theconcept of gratitude to create
in my world, so I'm using it asa base vibration that draws to
me uh like things.
Like, first of all, you know,that you don't have to, you
don't have to believe in quantumphysics or believe in vibration
(12:27):
to know that feeling good isfeeling good.
And it's a whole lot better thanfeeling bad.
And so feeling good and dwellingin feeling good is a smart thing
to do because it will cause youto treat others differently.
It will cause you to react toyour life differently, it will
cause you to open and be alittle more willing to that
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which you might find difficultand naturally resistant to in
your life on a day-to-day basis,whether it's a baby crying or a
job you gotta go to, or youknow, remembering that you ran
out of cream and you can't haveyour coffee this morning,
whatever it is, you will reactbetter to it having spent time
getting yourself in a goodspace.
So, you know, I'm I'm activelyat this point in my life trying
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to get myself vibrationallyequivalent to that which I want.
SPEAKER_02 (13:19):
Yes.
SPEAKER_04 (13:19):
That which I'm seeking, that's what that which
I'm desiring.
And so it was a few weeks ago.
I was like, well, what isgratitude exactly?
Like I come to the tablethinking of it as appreciation,
as thankfulness.
And so I spent some time with myguides and I asked them, like,
what is this?
What is what is this thevibration of gratitude?
(13:40):
And in many respects, they sortof were quick to me the same way
you were.
This one is just a word, it'sjust a concept.
And it it's for me, it's like,well, what's the vibration?
What's the what's the essence tothe idea?
And they said to me, it's theawareness that things could be
different.
unknown (13:56):
Yes.
SPEAKER_04 (13:57):
And I had to sit with that for a while.
It's the awareness and theappreciation of what is, because
it could be different.
And I'm not gonna say it couldbe worse, but I think that's the
implication.
It could be different, it couldbe not what it is.
You know, so I think about, youknow, a Christmas present.
As a little kid, you get aChristmas present.
If it's what you want, right?
(14:17):
There's a different feeling thanif it's something that's okay,
but not what you wanted.
You know, I think that thosekinds of childish feelings are
good to tap into because theythey give you some awareness of
who we are at our most revealinglevel.
And so, like, it could bedifferent.
I could have received somethingthat maybe I I want less.
(14:38):
And with that comes to me avisually a trajectory, an upward
trajectory that suggests that Iam getting, I am receiving, I am
dwelling in that which could bedifferent and is good and could
be even better.
And so that trajectory from ah,that's what I wouldn't want,
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this is what I got, that's whatI'd really like.
And I can see then how gratitudeis like a kind of a ladder that
you climb and direct yourselftowards sort of the life of your
dream.
Yeah.
Anyway, when they said that tome, it caught me off guard
because it certainly wouldn'thave been, I was stuck in
concepts of appreciation.
And they said, yeah, that itthings could be different.
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And it's a joyful thankfulnessfor that.
SPEAKER_01 (15:24):
Somewhere around 25 years ago, hate to even say that
number.
Sometimes I wake up and I go, ohmy god, how did I ever get here?
I did my first degree of Reikitraining, and in that, the first
night that we worked together,our instructor asked us to close
our eyes, take ourselves back tothe beginning of our day.
And what is the very first thingthat you think of when you wake
up in the morning?
(15:44):
And for me, a single mom withthree kids struggling to get by
each day, I said the firstthought in my head was, Oh,
another day.
Here I go again.
And I was really florid when mygirlfriend who sat across the
route from me, she said, Well,as soon as I wake up, I just I
feel so grateful for anotheropportunity to just live my life
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and see what this day is goingto bring me.
And as soon as I heard that, Irealized that she was shaping
her day from the moment herconsciousness flipped from
unconscious to conscious.
And it's made me really awarewhat a gift that was, how simple
that statement was.
But what the awareness that thatbrought me at that moment, that
if I wake up every day and go,oh, another day, that's what I'm
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having.
And so I've really changed that.
I wake up and I say, I lookforward to the opportunity of
today.
What is today going to bring?
I bring it in with gratitudebecause I'm grateful for the
opportunity for yet anotheropportunity to see what I can
build today, what I can dotoday, what I can have today,
and what a difference that madein my life just by shifting that
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little thing every day insteadof waking up and being angry
about having to get up and dealwith another day, instead
looking for the opportunity.
SPEAKER_00 (16:58):
Yeah, yeah.
I have a not a similar story,but it reminded me.
And I'm glad it reminded me whatyou just said.
Earlier this year, I wasthinking about I don't even
know, multiple things about whywe're here on earth and what
we're going through.
And it came to me then, and Ihad forgotten about it, and it's
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just something I don't want toforget about is this as a soul,
as some as a human that's a soulliving out a body's life.
I'm grateful to have another dayhere on earth to to be closer to
God's source, to to expressGod's source.
SPEAKER_02 (17:37):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (17:38):
And that I remember when it first hit me, there was
a real welling up of excitement.
Wow, I'm here.
I get to, I get to really feelinto this contrast of being
separate.
I get to learn new ways of beingcloser to God, whether I
implement or not.
Or I forget another opportunity.
Get going for with your day.
unknown (17:57):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (17:57):
But yeah, I remember that was a good moment.
And so I just wrote it downagain.
Because it's easy to forgetthat.
SPEAKER_01 (18:04):
Yeah, it is.
We we I I think part ofgratitude is we really do need
to be in the moment.
SPEAKER_00 (18:09):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (18:09):
We really need to be attentive to this moment.
This is the only moment thatexists.
This is all that we have.
And so being attentive to thismoment, we tend to stop and
notice the little things.
I'm not projecting my day aheadsix hours from now.
I'm not welling on yesterday.
I'm just in this moment.
And in this moment, you know,I'm waking up in my nice warm
bed, as Les said, with my pillowin the perfect shape because
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I've been curled up in that.
It's all nice and warm.
This is complete perfection.
This is wonderful.
And the the gratitude for thatmoment of that small graces, I
think it's it really is.
It's about being attentive tojust the little graces that are
given to us each day, that nextbreath.
What a gift.
SPEAKER_04 (18:50):
Yeah, I'd I'd expand on that.
Gratitude as a concept and as anemotion and as a vibrational
state was kind of like a windowor a perspective that you could
put on anything, that it's areally neat one to apply.
So, for example, you know, uh,it's it's Saturday, I got a
million things I want to do, amillion things I can do.
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And I look out and I say tomyself, I gotta cut the grass.
And then I pause and I say,Well, how do I see that with
gratitude?
Well, I'm a really lucky guythat I've got grass to cut.
Yeah.
I'm a really lucky guy that notonly do I have grass to cut, I
got a lot of freaking grass tocut.
And that makes me like reallyabundant.
SPEAKER_01 (19:33):
And a new lawnmower.
SPEAKER_04 (19:34):
Well, and and that's when again I want to manifest
things, and I was able thissummer to manifest a new
lawnmower.
It just, I just followed the thebreadcrumbs to the point where
there was a new lawnmower in thein the yard.
But it's that it's that seeingthat ability to take something
and seeing it through gratitude,because I'd much rather have
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grass to cut than not have grassto cut.
And, you know, things could bedifferent.
And it's the same with these, asyou said, the dog doo-doo,
right?
You know, uh I'm out therebefore I cut the grass picking
up the dog doo-doo.
And you know, it's I'm I'mcounting the poops and going to
the regular locations and I'mthinking, you know, oh man.
And then I realize, boy, I lovehaving a dog.
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I really love her.
She is just such a wonderfullittle being in my life.
And if if if somebody said, Les,you can have a dog, but you're
gonna have to pick up poo, I'dsay, well, okay, I'll pick up
poo.
Because that's how wonderful itis to have a dog.
And, you know, that's it, couldbe different.
I could not have a dog, Iwouldn't be picking up poo, but
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I wouldn't have thatcompanionship and that
friendship.
Now, maybe, you know, beinggrateful for the poo, I get more
of it.
I don't know.
SPEAKER_01 (20:49):
Abundance is great.
SPEAKER_04 (20:51):
But that's right.
SPEAKER_01 (20:52):
Be grateful you don't have two dogs.
SPEAKER_04 (20:54):
Yeah, but I guess I see gratitude as also it it's a
window or a perspective that youcould look at things through.
SPEAKER_01 (21:02):
Yeah, yes.
It's almost like a rose-coloredglasses when they say, you know,
you're looking at life.
I've had people say to me,You're looking at life through
rose-colored glasses.
And I say, Well, what's wrongwith that?
SPEAKER_02 (21:10):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (21:10):
It means I'm seeing the upside of everything,
doesn't it?
It means that I'm seeing thateverything holds wonder and
promise and joy.
And it does.
Yeah, and to me, yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (21:20):
So I was gonna ask you, Barbut, you are in the
habit of doing that now.
Yeah.
Right?
It's it's part of yourday-to-day.
Is it a choice that you have tothink about each time, or is it
a natural you just go there?
SPEAKER_01 (21:35):
I would say at this point in my life, it's probably
a 78% I naturally go there.
I'm not gonna be superhuman.
I'm gonna have my days thataren't so great either.
And there are days that, youknow, I remember that book that
says, you know, I'm having aterrible, horrible, no good,
very bad day, that book that wasthere.
Because everything, one thingfrom the other to the other,
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something goes wrong, right?
So we can all have those dayswhere we just kind of feel like
we definitely got up out of thewrong side of the bed and
everything seems to be an uphillbattle.
But even in those days, I willstop and I will remind myself, I
might get caught up in it forthe first hour or so, and it
might be a bit grumpy, and itmight be like, oh, come on,
like, geez, I can't even find myshoes now.
And then something inside of mejust reminds me really quietly.
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You have isn't that lovely thatyou have sh-n it wonderful that
you have a place to go, thatyou're desperate to find your
shoes on.
Isn't that all?
And then it all just comesrushing into me that I realize
that all of it has been maybejust a reminder that I've been
kind of taking it for granted.
And I need to stop and see thatthat everything everything is to
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be great.
Everything.
Because I'm here to experienceit and I'm here to enjoy it.
Yeah, but I do think it does youdo have to make a conscious
effort because we live in asociety that really makes the
other conscious effort.
I mean, you don't pick up anewspaper and read nice things.
We're not reading good thingswhen we go into social media
most of the time, unless that'sthe stream that we've created by
what we follow.
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And but we're still gonna seethe bombs that get dropped in
there because they're alwaystrying to lure you to another
stream or to another idea.
And so, yeah, I've madeconscious decisions that I don't
live in social media.
I don't let my and whatever Iwhenever I do go into social
media, I don't follow thosestreams that lead me to the dark
because it's easy to go to thedark.
There's more dark than there islight on many different channels
(23:23):
that we go into.
But I'm choosing to dial mychannel to the light as I say
that as the sun is now comingout and the gray is clearing.
So it started off very much as aconscious decision and really
doing that.
And now I just find that I'mnaturally flowing in that
direction.
It's like my river changedcourses, and now I'm just
following that stream.
unknown (23:42):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (23:42):
Yeah, I'm glad you said that.
Uh at home when we do thepodcast, I always have the sun
in my eye.
SPEAKER_00 (23:47):
Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (23:48):
And now I do too.
Yeah.
And I'm facing a differentdirection, different time of
day, but I got the sun in myeye.
And yeah, it's pretty special.
I guess I wanted to add on tothe idea to take it back to, you
know, it's people say, you know,if you want to manifest better,
you know, start with gratitude.
And and I suppose that's thatseemed okay to me, but it's now,
(24:09):
you know, spending some timelearning about, you know, the
quantum, the the collapsing ofthe field, the the stuff that
everything is made of, right?
The matrix.
There's lots of words for it,but you know, the scientists are
gonna tell you that umeverything is energy, and that
energy responds to humanintention.
And intention is right along thelines of expectation and
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anticipation.
You know, if everything is justenergy and space, then how does
the floor hold me up, right?
Except that I expect it to.
That I anticipate it well sodeeply that I never think about
it.
I just never think about is thisfloor gonna hold me up?
I don't ever think, oh, I've gotto get to the bathroom.
Is this floor safe?
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Right?
I just get up and walk, right?
And I don't say, I wonder if thebathroom will be there when I
get there, right?
I just expect it to be there,and that's how we collapse out
of the quantum, according to youknow, quantum physics.
And so it's gratitude creates anappreciation that says this is
good.
It could have been different,and it's good, and so I can
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anticipate more good in thefuture, I can expect more good,
and then more of what I'm likingis gonna turn up in the same
way, just quite literallycollapsing the field into a
vibrational level that gives mea vibrational level of
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gratitude, excitement, joy,anticipation.
It's a really great practice tolift your expectations of what
life will bring.
SPEAKER_01 (25:49):
But I do think it's a mind shift.
I do think that, I think that,like with all things, habits are
developed.
We create thought patterns, wecreate habits in which we do.
We don't think about tying ourshoes anymore, we just tie them.
It was a habit, a muscle, amotor, a muscle motor skill that
we taught ourselves.
And the mind isn't anydifferent.
So we have to make a consciousdecision, first of all, to train
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that mind to think in a certainpattern.
And when we start to create thatpattern, encouraging that
pattern and that habit ofthought.
And from there, we can createanything that we want.
We can manifest anything that wewant.
I'm sitting in it, proof.
I'm I'm manifest at this.
I'm sitting in PEI in abeautiful home, staring at the
ocean.
This wasn't my reality sixmonths ago, this wasn't my
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reality three months ago.
It's but it's been a consciousprocess.
And I think that's maybe whatI'm trying to say is we have to
be conscious.
We have too much unconsciousthought, we have too much
programmed, we have too muchhabit.
Conscious effort.
If you want change in your life,it requires conscious effort.
I consciously want to begrateful.
I want to be grateful.
I am grateful.
SPEAKER_04 (26:51):
I am not my mind.
I am the awareness behind mymind.
My mind is something that I cantrain.
I can choose to look through thewindow of gratitude and turn
that into a habit.
And looking at things that way,I am aware that things could be
different, but they're verygood, and I appreciate.
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And in that way, I collapse moreof the same out of the quantum,
out of the field.
But it's about knowing that it'sa thought pattern, and that
thought pattern has to begenerated and maintained so it
becomes a thought habit.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (27:28):
Yeah, because it's easy to wake up in the morning
and just jump out of bed and noteven think, you know, the habit
now for me at least is layingthere thinking about my coffee.
SPEAKER_04 (27:38):
Oh, sorry.
SPEAKER_00 (27:41):
Not as much anymore.
Getting excited for the coffee.
Yeah.
unknown (27:45):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (27:46):
And then you've got your coffee, and it's just
natural to then be thinking,what do I have to do next?
Or I'll jump online, uh, youknow, check out the community,
make sure everything's answered.
Well, what should I put in thecommunity?
SPEAKER_01 (28:01):
And while you're thinking about all that and
you're sipping your coffee,yeah, you're forgetting to be
grateful for the coffee.
SPEAKER_00 (28:06):
Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (28:07):
Because we're spinning.
Yeah.
That's what I mean by we reallyneed to be present in the moment
because when you sit in thatmoment, you see the loveliness
in which that moment is holdingfor you right now.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (28:18):
And that was my joke, right?
You wake up and the first thingyou say is, What hurts?
What's how is that hurtingtoday?
Oh my god, that's stiff, that'ssore.
Oh, oh, I can get up.
I know I can get up.
Okay.
And and you know, what I meanis, first of all, we're in a
body, and the body is going toremind us that we're in a body,
and we can get in the habit ofthinking about the body and
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worrying about the body andlooking at the body not through
a window of gratitude, butthrough a window of effort.
And then we are constantlyallowing ourselves to be
attacked by the things we shouldbe afraid of.
The world is filled with thingsthat we should be afraid of,
people and activities and thingsgoing on all over the world.
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And so this is the stuff thatdraws us quickly into fear.
We wake up and we get ourselvesdrawn into the world of fear
when, you know, yeah, thathabit, that practice of waking
up and being aware that youreally appreciate a lot of the
parts of your life, a lot of thethings that you can have and be
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and do today.
And then that creates aperspective, an upward
trajectory.
Things are pretty good.
They could have been differentthings are pretty darn good.
SPEAKER_00 (29:31):
And I think I think the morning is probably the best
time a day to get that rolling.
I mean, you can do it any timeof day.
We we started thinking aboutgratitude today very early.
But I'm during coffee.
During coffee.
But I'm only now in the lastcouple hours really feeling it
or under thinking I understandit a little more or g falling
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into it.
And I think it was helped alongthe throughout the day by you
know music.
We were listening to, or twoeagles over the field dancing to
the music, or the rocks and thecrystals that we saw in the shop
and holding those.
And I yeah, I think it was a lotof frequency change based on
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what uh what we put ourselvesthrough today to, you know, not
in a bad way putting ourselvesthrough, but where we situated
ourselves.
SPEAKER_04 (30:22):
Well, and then we look at it, this was a pretty
darn good day.
And it could have beendifferent.
And I wonder how much ourconversation about gratitude
while we were drinking coffee.
SPEAKER_00 (30:33):
Mm-hmm.
Maybe shift a little bit.
SPEAKER_04 (30:34):
Yeah.
Created those opportunities.
Because then, and we gotta putin the plug because we're in PEI
and we gotta talk about Matt.
SPEAKER_01 (30:42):
Matt, Matt's dude in the coffee coffee.
He's our dude.
Matt at the lucky bean.
Lucky bean in Montague PEI.
SPEAKER_04 (30:50):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (30:50):
Yeah.
Matt's our dude.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (30:53):
Good coffee.
SPEAKER_01 (30:54):
Good coffee, great sandwiches, good treats, good
music.
Yep.
That's the big thing about Matt.
It's got great taste in music.
We know that.
SPEAKER_04 (31:01):
Great, great conversations about it.
SPEAKER_01 (31:03):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (31:03):
And yeah, it could have been different.
It could have been just anothercoffee shop with just another
coffee.
SPEAKER_01 (31:08):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (31:08):
Um, which would've might have could have been
satisfactory.
SPEAKER_01 (31:12):
We would still be grateful for it because still
got coffee and got food.
SPEAKER_04 (31:15):
Yeah.
But here we are with a specialappreciation and a level of
gratitude for Matt.
And the name of the place again?
SPEAKER_01 (31:22):
Lucky Bean.
SPEAKER_04 (31:23):
Lucky Bean.
SPEAKER_01 (31:24):
Yeah, in Montague PEI.
Check it out.
SPEAKER_04 (31:28):
Say hi to Matt for us.
SPEAKER_01 (31:29):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (31:32):
The Fleetwood people.
That's that's how he'll know.
SPEAKER_01 (31:34):
Fleetwood moment.
That's right.
That's right.
Yeah.
No, it it was, it's beautiful.
It's beautiful.
And yeah, I think that in orderto have gratitude, you know,
we're human.
We're rushing from place toplace.
We're doing things from time totime.
We lose the moment.
We lose the moment.
We as much as we try to be inthe moment, as much as we try to
be mindful of the moment, we'rehuman.
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We're going to lose the moment.
But again, developing that habitthat when we slow down, when we
can recover that moment.
And I don't care if thatrecovering that moment is
sipping a cup of coffee, if it'sstanding in line at the grocery
store where you just get topause for a minute, like
wherever it is, when you recoverthat moment to Hillary, you
talked about that.
Maybe, maybe at that moment,close our eyes again, put our
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hand on our heart and just takein the moment and realize what a
gift the moment is.
And I think little things likethat can really begin to shift
your day.
SPEAKER_00 (32:25):
Yeah.
Not on like meditation, right?
Coming back, recognizing andcoming back to center,
recognizing and coming back tocenter, recognizing and coming
back.
SPEAKER_01 (32:35):
Exactly.
We think we have next week, butreally we're only living this
moment right now.
That's it.
Oh, getting a call.
unknown (32:47):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (32:49):
So are we grateful?
I'm grateful.
That was good.
I'm grateful to have you guyshere with me.
Thank you.
Certainly could have beendifferent.
It could have been different.
Yes, it could have been.
I'm grateful for what it is.
Yeah.
I appreciate you coming.
SPEAKER_00 (33:05):
I getcha.
Got it.
Well, that was a good one.
That was a good one.
Grateful for you guys andgrateful for everyone listening
and and enjoying our podcastaround the world.
SPEAKER_01 (33:18):
Yeah.
And especially in Montague PEI.
At the lucky beam.
SPEAKER_00 (33:22):
At the lucky beam, exactly.
All right.
We'll see you.
Alright, we are on the line.
SPEAKER_04 (00:13):
Beautiful.
It's a beautiful, beautiful fallovercast, rainy, windy day on
the ocean.
See, there's something specialabout being by the ocean when
there's bad weather.
It's almost like it's almostlike poetry, right?
You it's nice to have sun by theocean.
It's nice.
But when you got like a changingclimate, changing weather day
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where the wind is coming in andthere's blowing rain, it's kind
of like cool.
SPEAKER_00 (00:41):
Kind of like weathering heights or something.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (00:46):
Something classic.
And we're sitting here in PEI bythe ocean with Barb.
SPEAKER_01 (00:53):
Barb.
Barb, hi.
SPEAKER_04 (00:54):
You've heard Barb before.
She is a uh she's a hypnotist,she's clairvoyant, she's a
seeker, she's a listener, she'sa lot of things, and she's house
sitting in PEI.
SPEAKER_01 (01:06):
I am house sitting in PEI.
It's amazing where your life cango when you just have a
different vision.
Or better yet, I didn't reallyhave a vision.
I just let the universe have myvision.
SPEAKER_04 (01:20):
Yeah.
And since we're here and we'retalking about creating and
creating life and creating thethings we want in life, and how
do we move towards thatmysterious word manifesting?
We started talking about theimportance of gratitude this
morning.
And so it might be a good topicbecause I guess you're
experiencing some significantgratitude, eh, Barb?
SPEAKER_01 (01:42):
Every day, every minute of every day,
tremendously grateful for allthat has been brought into my
life and exactly where I'msitting right now.
What does that feel like?
Gratitude.
Wow, it's a very full heart.
I cry a lot.
Joyful tears when I am presentin a moment and I just like
right now looking outside andlooking at the ocean sitting in
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front of me in this blusteryrainy day.
The beauty of that, the gift ofbeing in this place, it just
fills me right up.
And it just, you know, many atimes I just shout out to the
universe to say thank you.
I'm so blessed.
I feel so lucky and so deeplygrateful for the gifts that are
here for me to enjoy every day.
SPEAKER_00 (02:22):
Do you find yourself having, I know this might be
sound like a weird question, butdo you have say you're looking
out at the ocean, do you havethe thought first or the feeling
first?
I am grateful for the ocean.
SPEAKER_01 (02:33):
I think it's the feeling that begins to well up
as I look at it and I appreciatethe beauty of it.
Then the realization of what agift this really is.
That and it just is, you know,it's like someone pouring into
the top of my head, and I juststart filling up from the bottom
up, and then my heart justexpands to such a degree that it
almost feels like it's gonnaburst out of my chest, and that
(02:54):
just brings such a wave ofemotion, of such gratitude and
such love, deep, deepappreciation for all that has
been given me, all that's beenbrought to my life.
SPEAKER_04 (03:03):
Yeah, we were talking about the significance
of gratitude when it comes tocreating for yourself uh and
through yourself and throughyour mind and through your heart
and the power of your heart, thekind of wonderful life of your
dreams, kind of things, quoteunquote, wishes coming true.
unknown (03:22):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (03:23):
And and how do you, you know, what's the role of
gratitude in that?
There's a lot of teachers outthere who are really focused on
gratitude as a starting point.
And and I hear that, and thatcauses me to ask, okay, like
when I when I hypnotize clients,I say, don't just say these
words.
I'm gonna say some words, repeatthem to yourself, but don't just
say them.
Try to feel them.
(03:43):
Try to create inside yourself afeeling that and an emotional
basis for these words, right?
With the idea that the emotionis really the active magnet,
right?
The thing that is thevibrationally being put out into
the quantum and then bringing itback.
I'll talk more about the quantumin a bit, but you had talked
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about heart math stuff that youwere looking at.
SPEAKER_00 (04:06):
Yeah.
So I was watching Joe Roganinterview Greg Braden a couple
weeks ago.
And towards the end of the threehours or something, Greg Braden
was talking about how he eitherwent to the heart math institu
institute or teaches there.
I I can't remember.
Anyway, he was explaining thisincredible way of having the
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heart and the brainelectromagnetic frequency, if
I'm getting that right, movetogether.
So they're not out of sync,they're they're synced up if you
were to study it, kind of thingon a graph.
SPEAKER_04 (04:43):
And coherence.
SPEAKER_00 (04:45):
Coherence, yeah, exactly.
Yeah, heart-mind coherence.
And he said it's three simplesimple steps.
And it was so simple that I justsat there and did it and felt
the effects of it.
So you close your eyes, youplace your hand on your heart or
your hands on your heart.
That step helps you to connectto your heart because you can
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feel something close to yourheart, right?
You feel the touch of your hand,and so you're when you know, if
if someone touches your foot,your mind automatically goes to
your foot, right?
So you're touching your heartarea, and so your mind goes
towards that area, whether it'sinside the heart is another
story, but you are placing yourattention on your heart, and
then you breathe a certain way,so you take an in-breath that is
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shorter than the out breath.
Doesn't have to be a certainamount of seconds or anything
like that, but you want the outbreath to be longer than the
in-breath.
And then you the third step inall that is just while you're
doing that, think of things thatbring you gratitude, a
friendship or the ocean oranything, a flower on your walk,
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something like that, coffee inthe morning or tea in the
afternoon.
And that will drop you down intothis heart-mind coherence.
So that was fascinating to me,and I've used it with every
client so far in the last coupleweeks to help them get there.
So yeah, that was that wasreally interesting, and you can
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really feel it.
You can feel your body goinginto a deep, restful state.
Yeah, almost as soon as youstart it.
SPEAKER_01 (06:23):
Well, I can say that I I I've never heard that
before, but I can tell you thatduring my journeys, did a bit of
a road trip on the summertimeand just finding myself in
beautiful, beautiful places.
Those are my real moments ofgratitude.
You know, I'm driving and I lookaround and I just first of all I
would say I'm kind of lockinginto the moment, so I can't
really close my eyes, but I'mlocking into just being present
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to where I am and what I'mseeing, which I'm thinking has a
lot to do with closing youreyes.
And then I've naturally found myhand, one of my hands, moving
towards my heart as if to holdit, because I can feel the
fullness of the heart.
And that's how I end up findingmyself, you know, driving down
the road, tears running down myface, and just being filled with
(07:06):
gratitude.
So that's really interesting tome now that my hand just
naturally came to the heart.
I don't, it just was doing whatit wanted to do, I guess, was to
yeah, to be present andattentive to the heart.
That's cool, beautiful.
SPEAKER_03 (07:18):
So, what's the difference between gratitude and
love?
SPEAKER_01 (07:22):
I don't know if there is a difference.
SPEAKER_03 (07:24):
Explain.
SPEAKER_01 (07:25):
Yeah.
Um I think that when you lovesomeone, when you love
something, when you're in amoment that you're just filled
with love, I think gratitude ispart of that.
I think it's a component of lovebecause I can't I can't feel a
way to separate the two of them.
How can I be gracious forsomething, grateful for
something and not feel lovetowards it?
I'm I'm not gonna be gratefulfor the pile of dog doo-doo at
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my feet.
I I don't feel any gratitudetowards that when I have to pick
that up.
But when I look out on the treesright now, outside, I look out
in the ocean, I love the beautyof it.
And with that love comes thisoverwhelming feeling of
gratitude of just being sograteful for having the gift of
that to look at, the gift ofthat to feel, to be a part of.
(08:12):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (08:12):
I think like like Barbara's saying, I I don't
really see a separation betweenthem because like this morning,
checking in with my guides,Lesett asked me a question and
sort of about this.
What is gratitude?
And the first thing that came tome from my guides was it's just
a word.
It's just a word, it's all thesame.
And that led me to looking upother languages, words that
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meant gratitude.
Most other languages, it's theword for thank you or thanks.
Lovely.
And so I said one word in Hindi.
I can't remember exactly what itis now, but I said, Do you know
what this word means to less?
And he said, No.
And that would not that I knewHindi.
But it was it was to get in thegame.
(08:58):
Yeah, yeah, exactly.
Why not?
It was to I guess get a pointacross that gratitude is just a
word, it's an English word.
It it's it's a frequency thatwe're after here, not the word.
Yes.
SPEAKER_04 (09:11):
There it is.
Yes, there it is.
And I think that's it.
SPEAKER_01 (09:15):
It holds energy.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (09:17):
Yeah, that's the that's the thing that I've been
looking for.
That's why I I want to talkabout this.
This is why I'm focused on thisand have been for a couple of
weeks.
Because, you know, feelinggratitude is vibrational, right?
It's an energy and it has afrequency.
And I don't see it either as afrequency dissimilar from love.
(09:38):
But I see, you know, gratitude,I I think about appreciation and
acknowledgement.
There's a certain amount ofawareness and appreciating that
which you are grateful for.
It's you're grateful because youappreciate something powerfully
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positive about that.
And then then that powerlypositiveness comes from where it
fits into your life, where itfits into your day-to-day
experience.
You know, there's things we'regrateful for all the time.
Like every morning, I wake upand I am grateful for my bed and
my pillow.
I wake up and it's just that'sthe perfect time.
Like I've been there all night,but it's just those last hours
(10:20):
of sleep where it just isperfect now.
I'm I'm perfectly warm, I'mperfectly comfortable, I'm
perfectly set, and I'm perfectlywilling to stay there.
And he does.
And and it's and it's naturalfor me to then slide into that
gratitude.
And then for me, that's themorning practice, right?
(10:42):
The morning practice is I rollover and I'm aware that I'm
awake and I start to thisfeeling so grateful about the
comfort and and peace that I'min and the awareness of having
been, you know, spoken tothrough the night in my dreams,
because I feel like, you know,my guides are there.
Well, every night when I go tobed, I ask for help.
I it's now every night.
(11:02):
I say, please help me, pleasegive me what I need in the
night.
And they never decline, theynever not respond.
Just sometimes what they giveme, I don't want, but that's
their problem.
The point is that um it leads menaturally into sort of a morning
practice of, you know, of wordsthat I say to myself.
(11:23):
And I say these words to myselfbecause they I use them as a
mindset that creates avibration, a physical awareness
that I can then try to turn intoa sensation in my body, in my
mind, in my heart, that I canthen cling to and try to find a
(11:44):
base in.
So my practice is toimmediately, when I wake up,
just immediately start with I amone with the father, the father
is one with me.
And that's where I start.
Everybody's got their own wordsfor oneness, and everybody's got
their own sense of appreciation.
Anyway, where all of that leadsme is I think, okay, well,
that's a state in which I cannaturally find gratitude, and
there's a certain sensation tothat.
(12:06):
But if I'm trying to use theconcept of gratitude to create
in my world, so I'm using it asa base vibration that draws to
me uh like things.
Like, first of all, you know,that you don't have to, you
don't have to believe in quantumphysics or believe in vibration
(12:27):
to know that feeling good isfeeling good.
And it's a whole lot better thanfeeling bad.
And so feeling good and dwellingin feeling good is a smart thing
to do because it will cause youto treat others differently.
It will cause you to react toyour life differently, it will
cause you to open and be alittle more willing to that
(12:49):
which you might find difficultand naturally resistant to in
your life on a day-to-day basis,whether it's a baby crying or a
job you gotta go to, or youknow, remembering that you ran
out of cream and you can't haveyour coffee this morning,
whatever it is, you will reactbetter to it having spent time
getting yourself in a goodspace.
So, you know, I'm I'm activelyat this point in my life trying
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to get myself vibrationallyequivalent to that which I want.
SPEAKER_02 (13:19):
Yes.
SPEAKER_04 (13:19):
That which I'm seeking, that's what that which
I'm desiring.
And so it was a few weeks ago.
I was like, well, what isgratitude exactly?
Like I come to the tablethinking of it as appreciation,
as thankfulness.
And so I spent some time with myguides and I asked them, like,
what is this?
What is what is this thevibration of gratitude?
(13:40):
And in many respects, they sortof were quick to me the same way
you were.
This one is just a word, it'sjust a concept.
And it it's for me, it's like,well, what's the vibration?
What's the what's the essence tothe idea?
And they said to me, it's theawareness that things could be
different.
unknown (13:56):
Yes.
SPEAKER_04 (13:57):
And I had to sit with that for a while.
It's the awareness and theappreciation of what is, because
it could be different.
And I'm not gonna say it couldbe worse, but I think that's the
implication.
It could be different, it couldbe not what it is.
You know, so I think about, youknow, a Christmas present.
As a little kid, you get aChristmas present.
If it's what you want, right?
(14:17):
There's a different feeling thanif it's something that's okay,
but not what you wanted.
You know, I think that thosekinds of childish feelings are
good to tap into because theythey give you some awareness of
who we are at our most revealinglevel.
And so, like, it could bedifferent.
I could have received somethingthat maybe I I want less.
(14:38):
And with that comes to me avisually a trajectory, an upward
trajectory that suggests that Iam getting, I am receiving, I am
dwelling in that which could bedifferent and is good and could
be even better.
And so that trajectory from ah,that's what I wouldn't want,
(15:00):
this is what I got, that's whatI'd really like.
And I can see then how gratitudeis like a kind of a ladder that
you climb and direct yourselftowards sort of the life of your
dream.
Yeah.
Anyway, when they said that tome, it caught me off guard
because it certainly wouldn'thave been, I was stuck in
concepts of appreciation.
And they said, yeah, that itthings could be different.
(15:20):
And it's a joyful thankfulnessfor that.
SPEAKER_01 (15:24):
Somewhere around 25 years ago, hate to even say that
number.
Sometimes I wake up and I go, ohmy god, how did I ever get here?
I did my first degree of Reikitraining, and in that, the first
night that we worked together,our instructor asked us to close
our eyes, take ourselves back tothe beginning of our day.
And what is the very first thingthat you think of when you wake
up in the morning?
(15:44):
And for me, a single mom withthree kids struggling to get by
each day, I said the firstthought in my head was, Oh,
another day.
Here I go again.
And I was really florid when mygirlfriend who sat across the
route from me, she said, Well,as soon as I wake up, I just I
feel so grateful for anotheropportunity to just live my life
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and see what this day is goingto bring me.
And as soon as I heard that, Irealized that she was shaping
her day from the moment herconsciousness flipped from
unconscious to conscious.
And it's made me really awarewhat a gift that was, how simple
that statement was.
But what the awareness that thatbrought me at that moment, that
if I wake up every day and go,oh, another day, that's what I'm
(16:30):
having.
And so I've really changed that.
I wake up and I say, I lookforward to the opportunity of
today.
What is today going to bring?
I bring it in with gratitudebecause I'm grateful for the
opportunity for yet anotheropportunity to see what I can
build today, what I can dotoday, what I can have today,
and what a difference that madein my life just by shifting that
(16:51):
little thing every day insteadof waking up and being angry
about having to get up and dealwith another day, instead
looking for the opportunity.
SPEAKER_00 (16:58):
Yeah, yeah.
I have a not a similar story,but it reminded me.
And I'm glad it reminded me whatyou just said.
Earlier this year, I wasthinking about I don't even
know, multiple things about whywe're here on earth and what
we're going through.
And it came to me then, and Ihad forgotten about it, and it's
(17:19):
just something I don't want toforget about is this as a soul,
as some as a human that's a soulliving out a body's life.
I'm grateful to have another dayhere on earth to to be closer to
God's source, to to expressGod's source.
SPEAKER_02 (17:37):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (17:38):
And that I remember when it first hit me, there was
a real welling up of excitement.
Wow, I'm here.
I get to, I get to really feelinto this contrast of being
separate.
I get to learn new ways of beingcloser to God, whether I
implement or not.
Or I forget another opportunity.
Get going for with your day.
unknown (17:57):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (17:57):
But yeah, I remember that was a good moment.
And so I just wrote it downagain.
Because it's easy to forgetthat.
SPEAKER_01 (18:04):
Yeah, it is.
We we I I think part ofgratitude is we really do need
to be in the moment.
SPEAKER_00 (18:09):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (18:09):
We really need to be attentive to this moment.
This is the only moment thatexists.
This is all that we have.
And so being attentive to thismoment, we tend to stop and
notice the little things.
I'm not projecting my day aheadsix hours from now.
I'm not welling on yesterday.
I'm just in this moment.
And in this moment, you know,I'm waking up in my nice warm
bed, as Les said, with my pillowin the perfect shape because
(18:32):
I've been curled up in that.
It's all nice and warm.
This is complete perfection.
This is wonderful.
And the the gratitude for thatmoment of that small graces, I
think it's it really is.
It's about being attentive tojust the little graces that are
given to us each day, that nextbreath.
What a gift.
SPEAKER_04 (18:50):
Yeah, I'd I'd expand on that.
Gratitude as a concept and as anemotion and as a vibrational
state was kind of like a windowor a perspective that you could
put on anything, that it's areally neat one to apply.
So, for example, you know, uh,it's it's Saturday, I got a
million things I want to do, amillion things I can do.
(19:13):
And I look out and I say tomyself, I gotta cut the grass.
And then I pause and I say,Well, how do I see that with
gratitude?
Well, I'm a really lucky guythat I've got grass to cut.
Yeah.
I'm a really lucky guy that notonly do I have grass to cut, I
got a lot of freaking grass tocut.
And that makes me like reallyabundant.
SPEAKER_01 (19:33):
And a new lawnmower.
SPEAKER_04 (19:34):
Well, and and that's when again I want to manifest
things, and I was able thissummer to manifest a new
lawnmower.
It just, I just followed the thebreadcrumbs to the point where
there was a new lawnmower in thein the yard.
But it's that it's that seeingthat ability to take something
and seeing it through gratitude,because I'd much rather have
(19:56):
grass to cut than not have grassto cut.
And, you know, things could bedifferent.
And it's the same with these, asyou said, the dog doo-doo,
right?
You know, uh I'm out therebefore I cut the grass picking
up the dog doo-doo.
And you know, it's I'm I'mcounting the poops and going to
the regular locations and I'mthinking, you know, oh man.
And then I realize, boy, I lovehaving a dog.
(20:18):
I really love her.
She is just such a wonderfullittle being in my life.
And if if if somebody said, Les,you can have a dog, but you're
gonna have to pick up poo, I'dsay, well, okay, I'll pick up
poo.
Because that's how wonderful itis to have a dog.
And, you know, that's it, couldbe different.
I could not have a dog, Iwouldn't be picking up poo, but
(20:40):
I wouldn't have thatcompanionship and that
friendship.
Now, maybe, you know, beinggrateful for the poo, I get more
of it.
I don't know.
SPEAKER_01 (20:49):
Abundance is great.
SPEAKER_04 (20:51):
But that's right.
SPEAKER_01 (20:52):
Be grateful you don't have two dogs.
SPEAKER_04 (20:54):
Yeah, but I guess I see gratitude as also it it's a
window or a perspective that youcould look at things through.
SPEAKER_01 (21:02):
Yeah, yes.
It's almost like a rose-coloredglasses when they say, you know,
you're looking at life.
I've had people say to me,You're looking at life through
rose-colored glasses.
And I say, Well, what's wrongwith that?
SPEAKER_02 (21:10):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (21:10):
It means I'm seeing the upside of everything,
doesn't it?
It means that I'm seeing thateverything holds wonder and
promise and joy.
And it does.
Yeah, and to me, yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (21:20):
So I was gonna ask you, Barbut, you are in the
habit of doing that now.
Yeah.
Right?
It's it's part of yourday-to-day.
Is it a choice that you have tothink about each time, or is it
a natural you just go there?
SPEAKER_01 (21:35):
I would say at this point in my life, it's probably
a 78% I naturally go there.
I'm not gonna be superhuman.
I'm gonna have my days thataren't so great either.
And there are days that, youknow, I remember that book that
says, you know, I'm having aterrible, horrible, no good,
very bad day, that book that wasthere.
Because everything, one thingfrom the other to the other,
(21:55):
something goes wrong, right?
So we can all have those dayswhere we just kind of feel like
we definitely got up out of thewrong side of the bed and
everything seems to be an uphillbattle.
But even in those days, I willstop and I will remind myself, I
might get caught up in it forthe first hour or so, and it
might be a bit grumpy, and itmight be like, oh, come on,
like, geez, I can't even find myshoes now.
And then something inside of mejust reminds me really quietly.
(22:19):
You have isn't that lovely thatyou have sh-n it wonderful that
you have a place to go, thatyou're desperate to find your
shoes on.
Isn't that all?
And then it all just comesrushing into me that I realize
that all of it has been maybejust a reminder that I've been
kind of taking it for granted.
And I need to stop and see thatthat everything everything is to
(22:40):
be great.
Everything.
Because I'm here to experienceit and I'm here to enjoy it.
Yeah, but I do think it does youdo have to make a conscious
effort because we live in asociety that really makes the
other conscious effort.
I mean, you don't pick up anewspaper and read nice things.
We're not reading good thingswhen we go into social media
most of the time, unless that'sthe stream that we've created by
what we follow.
(23:00):
And but we're still gonna seethe bombs that get dropped in
there because they're alwaystrying to lure you to another
stream or to another idea.
And so, yeah, I've madeconscious decisions that I don't
live in social media.
I don't let my and whatever Iwhenever I do go into social
media, I don't follow thosestreams that lead me to the dark
because it's easy to go to thedark.
There's more dark than there islight on many different channels
(23:23):
that we go into.
But I'm choosing to dial mychannel to the light as I say
that as the sun is now comingout and the gray is clearing.
So it started off very much as aconscious decision and really
doing that.
And now I just find that I'mnaturally flowing in that
direction.
It's like my river changedcourses, and now I'm just
following that stream.
unknown (23:42):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (23:42):
Yeah, I'm glad you said that.
Uh at home when we do thepodcast, I always have the sun
in my eye.
SPEAKER_00 (23:47):
Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (23:48):
And now I do too.
Yeah.
And I'm facing a differentdirection, different time of
day, but I got the sun in myeye.
And yeah, it's pretty special.
I guess I wanted to add on tothe idea to take it back to, you
know, it's people say, you know,if you want to manifest better,
you know, start with gratitude.
And and I suppose that's thatseemed okay to me, but it's now,
(24:09):
you know, spending some timelearning about, you know, the
quantum, the the collapsing ofthe field, the the stuff that
everything is made of, right?
The matrix.
There's lots of words for it,but you know, the scientists are
gonna tell you that umeverything is energy, and that
energy responds to humanintention.
And intention is right along thelines of expectation and
(24:33):
anticipation.
You know, if everything is justenergy and space, then how does
the floor hold me up, right?
Except that I expect it to.
That I anticipate it well sodeeply that I never think about
it.
I just never think about is thisfloor gonna hold me up?
I don't ever think, oh, I've gotto get to the bathroom.
Is this floor safe?
(24:54):
Right?
I just get up and walk, right?
And I don't say, I wonder if thebathroom will be there when I
get there, right?
I just expect it to be there,and that's how we collapse out
of the quantum, according to youknow, quantum physics.
And so it's gratitude creates anappreciation that says this is
good.
It could have been different,and it's good, and so I can
(25:17):
anticipate more good in thefuture, I can expect more good,
and then more of what I'm likingis gonna turn up in the same
way, just quite literallycollapsing the field into a
vibrational level that gives mea vibrational level of
(25:38):
gratitude, excitement, joy,anticipation.
It's a really great practice tolift your expectations of what
life will bring.
SPEAKER_01 (25:49):
But I do think it's a mind shift.
I do think that, I think that,like with all things, habits are
developed.
We create thought patterns, wecreate habits in which we do.
We don't think about tying ourshoes anymore, we just tie them.
It was a habit, a muscle, amotor, a muscle motor skill that
we taught ourselves.
And the mind isn't anydifferent.
So we have to make a consciousdecision, first of all, to train
(26:10):
that mind to think in a certainpattern.
And when we start to create thatpattern, encouraging that
pattern and that habit ofthought.
And from there, we can createanything that we want.
We can manifest anything that wewant.
I'm sitting in it, proof.
I'm I'm manifest at this.
I'm sitting in PEI in abeautiful home, staring at the
ocean.
This wasn't my reality sixmonths ago, this wasn't my
(26:32):
reality three months ago.
It's but it's been a consciousprocess.
And I think that's maybe whatI'm trying to say is we have to
be conscious.
We have too much unconsciousthought, we have too much
programmed, we have too muchhabit.
Conscious effort.
If you want change in your life,it requires conscious effort.
I consciously want to begrateful.
I want to be grateful.
I am grateful.
SPEAKER_04 (26:51):
I am not my mind.
I am the awareness behind mymind.
My mind is something that I cantrain.
I can choose to look through thewindow of gratitude and turn
that into a habit.
And looking at things that way,I am aware that things could be
different, but they're verygood, and I appreciate.
(27:12):
And in that way, I collapse moreof the same out of the quantum,
out of the field.
But it's about knowing that it'sa thought pattern, and that
thought pattern has to begenerated and maintained so it
becomes a thought habit.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (27:28):
Yeah, because it's easy to wake up in the morning
and just jump out of bed and noteven think, you know, the habit
now for me at least is layingthere thinking about my coffee.
SPEAKER_04 (27:38):
Oh, sorry.
SPEAKER_00 (27:41):
Not as much anymore.
Getting excited for the coffee.
Yeah.
unknown (27:45):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (27:46):
And then you've got your coffee, and it's just
natural to then be thinking,what do I have to do next?
Or I'll jump online, uh, youknow, check out the community,
make sure everything's answered.
Well, what should I put in thecommunity?
SPEAKER_01 (28:01):
And while you're thinking about all that and
you're sipping your coffee,yeah, you're forgetting to be
grateful for the coffee.
SPEAKER_00 (28:06):
Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (28:07):
Because we're spinning.
Yeah.
That's what I mean by we reallyneed to be present in the moment
because when you sit in thatmoment, you see the loveliness
in which that moment is holdingfor you right now.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (28:18):
And that was my joke, right?
You wake up and the first thingyou say is, What hurts?
What's how is that hurtingtoday?
Oh my god, that's stiff, that'ssore.
Oh, oh, I can get up.
I know I can get up.
Okay.
And and you know, what I meanis, first of all, we're in a
body, and the body is going toremind us that we're in a body,
and we can get in the habit ofthinking about the body and
(28:40):
worrying about the body andlooking at the body not through
a window of gratitude, butthrough a window of effort.
And then we are constantlyallowing ourselves to be
attacked by the things we shouldbe afraid of.
The world is filled with thingsthat we should be afraid of,
people and activities and thingsgoing on all over the world.
(29:01):
And so this is the stuff thatdraws us quickly into fear.
We wake up and we get ourselvesdrawn into the world of fear
when, you know, yeah, thathabit, that practice of waking
up and being aware that youreally appreciate a lot of the
parts of your life, a lot of thethings that you can have and be
(29:22):
and do today.
And then that creates aperspective, an upward
trajectory.
Things are pretty good.
They could have been differentthings are pretty darn good.
SPEAKER_00 (29:31):
And I think I think the morning is probably the best
time a day to get that rolling.
I mean, you can do it any timeof day.
We we started thinking aboutgratitude today very early.
But I'm during coffee.
During coffee.
But I'm only now in the lastcouple hours really feeling it
or under thinking I understandit a little more or g falling
(29:52):
into it.
And I think it was helped alongthe throughout the day by you
know music.
We were listening to, or twoeagles over the field dancing to
the music, or the rocks and thecrystals that we saw in the shop
and holding those.
And I yeah, I think it was a lotof frequency change based on
(30:14):
what uh what we put ourselvesthrough today to, you know, not
in a bad way putting ourselvesthrough, but where we situated
ourselves.
SPEAKER_04 (30:22):
Well, and then we look at it, this was a pretty
darn good day.
And it could have beendifferent.
And I wonder how much ourconversation about gratitude
while we were drinking coffee.
SPEAKER_00 (30:33):
Mm-hmm.
Maybe shift a little bit.
SPEAKER_04 (30:34):
Yeah.
Created those opportunities.
Because then, and we gotta putin the plug because we're in PEI
and we gotta talk about Matt.
SPEAKER_01 (30:42):
Matt, Matt's dude in the coffee coffee.
He's our dude.
Matt at the lucky bean.
Lucky bean in Montague PEI.
SPEAKER_04 (30:50):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (30:50):
Yeah.
Matt's our dude.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (30:53):
Good coffee.
SPEAKER_01 (30:54):
Good coffee, great sandwiches, good treats, good
music.
Yep.
That's the big thing about Matt.
It's got great taste in music.
We know that.
SPEAKER_04 (31:01):
Great, great conversations about it.
SPEAKER_01 (31:03):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (31:03):
And yeah, it could have been different.
It could have been just anothercoffee shop with just another
coffee.
SPEAKER_01 (31:08):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04 (31:08):
Um, which would've might have could have been
satisfactory.
SPEAKER_01 (31:12):
We would still be grateful for it because still
got coffee and got food.
SPEAKER_04 (31:15):
Yeah.
But here we are with a specialappreciation and a level of
gratitude for Matt.
And the name of the place again?
SPEAKER_01 (31:22):
Lucky Bean.
SPEAKER_04 (31:23):
Lucky Bean.
SPEAKER_01 (31:24):
Yeah, in Montague PEI.
Check it out.
SPEAKER_04 (31:28):
Say hi to Matt for us.
SPEAKER_01 (31:29):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (31:32):
The Fleetwood people.
That's that's how he'll know.
SPEAKER_01 (31:34):
Fleetwood moment.
That's right.
That's right.
Yeah.
No, it it was, it's beautiful.
It's beautiful.
And yeah, I think that in orderto have gratitude, you know,
we're human.
We're rushing from place toplace.
We're doing things from time totime.
We lose the moment.
We lose the moment.
We as much as we try to be inthe moment, as much as we try to
be mindful of the moment, we'rehuman.
(31:55):
We're going to lose the moment.
But again, developing that habitthat when we slow down, when we
can recover that moment.
And I don't care if thatrecovering that moment is
sipping a cup of coffee, if it'sstanding in line at the grocery
store where you just get topause for a minute, like
wherever it is, when you recoverthat moment to Hillary, you
talked about that.
Maybe, maybe at that moment,close our eyes again, put our
(32:15):
hand on our heart and just takein the moment and realize what a
gift the moment is.
And I think little things likethat can really begin to shift
your day.
SPEAKER_00 (32:25):
Yeah.
Not on like meditation, right?
Coming back, recognizing andcoming back to center,
recognizing and coming back tocenter, recognizing and coming
back.
SPEAKER_01 (32:35):
Exactly.
We think we have next week, butreally we're only living this
moment right now.
That's it.
Oh, getting a call.
unknown (32:47):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (32:49):
So are we grateful?
I'm grateful.
That was good.
I'm grateful to have you guyshere with me.
Thank you.
Certainly could have beendifferent.
It could have been different.
Yes, it could have been.
I'm grateful for what it is.
Yeah.
I appreciate you coming.
SPEAKER_00 (33:05):
I getcha.
Got it.
Well, that was a good one.
That was a good one.
Grateful for you guys andgrateful for everyone listening
and and enjoying our podcastaround the world.
SPEAKER_01 (33:18):
Yeah.
And especially in Montague PEI.
At the lucky beam.
SPEAKER_00 (33:22):
At the lucky beam, exactly.
All right.
We'll see you.
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