October 14, 2025 • 40 mins
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Busy isn’t a badge of honor—it’s a leak in your joy. We invited Leah Remillét, international speaker, host of Balancing Busy, and systems strategist for time-starved entrepreneurs, to help us trade obligation-driven chaos for simple structures that protect what matters most. Leah doesn’t prescribe rigid routines or complicated dashboards; she shows how to remove friction, rewrite unhelpful stories, and design tiny systems that actually stick.
We start by separating priorities from obligations, using Leah’s “dread test” to expose where guilt and shoulds creep in. From there, she walks us through a family dinner reboot that swaps pan-sauce perfectionism for consistent connection: weekly menus, grocery delivery, kid-led meal kits, partner help (even if it’s takeout), and a guilt-free “fend for yourself” night. The same approach applies to every recurring hotspot—mornings, lunches, exercise, bedtime, and backpacks—where one simple checklist or prepped step can turn daily friction into flow.
As the holidays approach, Leah’s calm-first strategy shines: map meaningful traditions on a big, visible family calendar, start gifting lists early, and front-load tasks like cards so December stays present and peaceful. People pleasers get a lifeline too: stop saying yes on the spot, use gentle holding lines to buy time, and learn kind noes that protect your bandwidth without drama. We also dig into batching—at home and in business—to slash context switching and reclaim mental space. And for a daily confidence boost, Leah shares her morning ritual and why getting dressed changes how you show up.
If you’re craving more time, less noise, and holidays that feel like the movies without the meltdown, this conversation is your blueprint. Follow Balancing Busy, grab Leah’s time-saving favorites at time.balancingbusy.com, and then tell us: what’s the one “busy” thing you’ll drop or batch this week? If this helped, tap follow, share with a friend, and leave a quick review to help more moms and makers find their calm.
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Ciera Lancaster (00:03):
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Get ready to stay confidentlybeautiful.
Well, thank you for tuning into the podcast.
(00:27):
I'm your host, Ciera.
I'm so happy to be here withyou today talking.
We are going to be talking toLeah Remele.
She is with Balancing Busy, andshe is an international
speaker, a podcast host, and asystem strategist for
time-starved entrepreneurs.
Leah has helped thousands ofsmall business owners ditch the
overwhelm and start scalingwithout sacrificing their home
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life, their health, or theirhappiness.
I have been a listener ofLeah's for many years and I have
loved all of the stuff that shehas to share.
It's not just applicable forentrepreneurs like me, but also
just for women who are moms andhave lives and want to find that
balance in their life.
So we are going today, we'regoing to be talking about
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breaking up with busy, which Ithink is something we all want
to do.
Why it's so important,especially right now with the
holidays approaching, is we'regoing to want to be present in
our lives.
So if you're already feelingthe pressure of, oh my goodness,
the holiday season is creepingin and I don't know what to do.
I don't, I'm I'm alreadyoverwhelmed.
This conversation is going tohelp you to protect your peace
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and reclaim your joy.
Um, it's also going to beapplicable if you're listening
to this in the future and maybethe holidays aren't right now.
All of everything that we'regoing to be talking about right
now is going to be applicablefor any time in life.
So, Leah, thank you so much forjoining.
I am so happy you are here.
Do you want to just tell alittle about yourself really
quickly?
Leah Remilett (01:48):
Sure.
I mean, that was an amazingintroduction.
Thank you for having me.
So, yes, I am Leah, I am thebalance bestie.
I have my podcast, um, asSierra said, called Balancing
Busy.
I have been teaching womenspecifically around having more
time in our lives.
For about 12 years, I've beenuh an entrepreneur for about 17.
(02:13):
And so I did it all wrong atthe beginning.
Okay.
I want everybody to know that.
I didn't know how to put thesystems in place, how to
automate.
I mean, at the beginning, I wasjust like, it would be awesome
if I had a client.
I wasn't even thinking aboutwhat to do when I had tons of
them.
And whether you're anentrepreneur, you're a working
mom, or you're a mom, we allunderstand what it feels like to
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be too busy.
And that's really where I showup and I help is let's get women
out of that feeling of toobusy, chaos, frantic,
overwhelmed, those feelings andinstead into a place where we
get to feel really good.
And I believe that balance is afeeling, and we all know when
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we feel it, and we know when wedon't.
And so that's where I come in.
And I help women in their homelife, in their businesses,
really in all areas, so that wecan show up as the best, best
version of ourselves.
Ciera Lancaster (03:11):
That's so so helpful for people to sometimes
you need the outside perspectivejust to help help to know.
So, how do you help moms orbusiness owners, people that you
coach, how do you help themidentify what their real
priorities are?
Um, especially when there areso many, well, I should be doing
this, or I feel like I want tobe doing this, or so-and-so
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wants me to do this.
How do you help them find thosepriorities?
Leah Remilett (03:36):
Yes.
Okay, so the truth is most momsare living not in their
priorities.
They are living in obligation.
We need to start by gettingvery clear on what actually
matters to me most.
What are my priorities?
What we get swept up in is alot of shoulds, right?
Like, oh, I should volunteer, Ishould bake, I should host, I
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should say yes, I should.
It just doesn't stop, right?
And so we get caught up in alot of obligations, and those
obligations can turn intooverwhelm pretty quickly.
A really good way to know ifyou're an obligation is you are
dreading it.
You don't want to do it.
Like, this is not somethingthat you want to be doing the
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second you say yes, you're like,I should not have done that.
Oh my gosh, I'm alreadyoverwhelmed.
Now, that's not always the casebecause there are times where
I'm saying yes to something thatlet's be honest, it's not super
fun, right?
Like I they need someone to goset up the chairs or to go clean
the area, and someone's got todo it.
I'm not pumped to go do that,but I also understand that I
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should, I need to, and I want tocontribute.
So there, like, I don't want toput everything too blanket
because there are times when weshould and we just should and we
don't want to.
But I think generally,especially as women, we tend to
not be living in priorities.
We're living in obligation.
And so when we can get clear onwhat our priorities are, what
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matters most, then it's gonnaget a lot easier to start living
in that best version of ourlife.
Ciera Lancaster (05:13):
I feel like once you figure out your
priorities, and tell me if thisis your experience with coaching
women, once you figure out yourpriorities, then what is the
next easiest step?
Is it to put systems in place?
Um, what what would yourecommend doing after you've
defined your priorities?
Leah Remilett (05:29):
Okay, so you start figuring out here's what
really matters most.
Here's what my priorities are.
I think the next step is to askyourself, what am I doing to
get in my own way?
Like that, that's the nextstep.
Where where are you gettingstuck?
Where are you getting in yourown way?
I'll give a really simpleexample.
A priority for me is familydinner.
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Okay.
I absolutely believe in familydinner.
I want us at the tabletogether, eating dinner and
talking and you know, getting tohear about each other's day.
I was having a really hard timeactually accomplishing that
goal for several years.
And when I got clear about whatis the priority, the priority
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is family dinner.
And then I said, why am Igetting stuck?
It became very obvious that itwas because I was
overcomplicating the crud at afamily dinner.
Okay.
I felt like I needed to make itall, it all needed to be from
scratch.
There should be a pan sauce andgarnish to go along with it.
And I'm not even exaggerating,like I really did feel that way.
Like that's that's how I felt.
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Like I do love to cook.
So it was like I wanted to bemaking some fancy new thing, but
you can't do that every nightof the week.
That is ridiculous, right?
And I and I wouldn't be ableto.
I mean, that's the truth.
I couldn't, I couldn't sustainthat.
So what would happen?
Night after night, I would belike, oh my gosh, what am I
doing for dinner?
I wasn't meal planningeffectively.
There was a lot of times whereI was like, I forgot to go
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grocery shopping.
Oh my gosh, right?
Like there were just so manythings where I was getting in my
own way.
So there's there's the problem.
Okay.
So what was the next step?
The next step is how how am Igetting stuck?
Like, how am I getting in myown way?
I'm clearly overcomplicatingthese.
Then I'm like, well, what can Ido differently?
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And it became a lot ofdifferent mini systems and very
multifaceted.
But ultimately, the first thingI had to do is I had to undo
the story that I was saying thatlike I'm a good mom when I've
made the whole thing fromscratch and I present it on
beautiful platters.
I still totally plateeverything.
I have not gotten past thatone, but right, like, I mean,
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it's just like I was over thetop.
Okay.
So I had to bring that back.
I had to undo the story.
I had to realize what Iactually care about is us
talking and being together, notthe food on the plate as much.
So once I understood that,there were several things I
could do.
The first thing was I shouldprobably get a plan of what I'm
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cooking every single night.
And then I'm like, wait, Idon't have to go to the grocery
store.
I can do grocery delivery.
And I had to, even that, again,there was a story.
Oh, but that's frivolous.
That's expensive.
I had to get over it and belike, you know what?
It is better to spend a fewextra dollars and to have food
in the fridge than for us tokeep waiting for me to get to
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it, which was really hardbecause I was in these years.
So this time frame that I'mtalking about, I want to just
set also, I was our soleprovider.
I am a full-time mom and I'mrunning a full-time company, but
trying to somehow be full-timeat everything.
And it was just unpossible.
My it was impossible.
My husband was in graduateschool at the time.
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So like he is, he's coming inright at dinner, you know, just
barely squeaking in.
And and so it was it was a timein our life where it was a it
was very crazy.
There was a lot going on,right?
And there's me still trying tohave pan sauces fully plated
with garnish, right?
Like this is ridiculous.
So, okay, so I start thinkingI've got a meal plan, I've got
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to do grocery delivery.
I then realized I need to dosome delegation.
So I had, I still have threekids.
Two of them are out of thehouse now.
So I have three kids, and I waslike, hey, I'm doing those meal
boxes, right?
Like those meal prep boxeswhere it comes to you.
So each of the kids got to pickthe dinner that they were gonna
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make, and three dinners wouldcome in the box.
You know, it's all prepped andeverything.
There's a little card withinstructions.
In the early years, I was theirsous chef because you know they
weren't quite there to be ableto do it their own.
Uh, but as time went on, theydid it completely.
And then my husband was incharge of dinner one night a
week.
That was one where again I hadto undo a story because to me, I
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felt like, well, I have tocook, you should have to cook.
Like, I don't like that.
Like when it's my night, I haveto cook and you're just
bringing in takeout.
And then I realized, wait, it'sstill a night, I don't have to
cook.
He's helping in his way.
I can't judge him and get upsetbecause it's not the way I
think he should be doing it.
So now there's four nights aweek that I maybe am helping
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cooking in the early years, oryou know, and as it goes on, I'm
not cooking at all.
And then we also had a nightthat was called Fen for Yourself
night.
So that's like leftover night.
They the kids can eat cereal ifthey want, whatever.
But all of a sudden, I've takenthis thing that had been
causing really so much painbecause I did feel so much guilt
around not doing a good enoughjob, having a plan for dinner,
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coming out of my office when thekids got home and realizing, oh
my gosh, I didn't pull anythingout of the freezer.
I have no plan.
What am I gonna do?
Right.
Like there was just so muchfrustration and guilt around
this priority that was familydinner.
And when I untangled all ofthat, got clear on what's the
simplest way to actually makethis happen, it was amazing.
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And family dinner has been thisconsistent thing for a decade,
right?
That like feels really good.
And and so there, there it isin kind of like very in real
life, in my real messy life.
Ciera Lancaster (11:01):
No, that's really good.
I think that that find thatstep, you find your priorities,
and then for me, I would belike, okay, now like what's my
system?
How am I gonna do it?
But I think missing that step,like you said, like what how am
I getting in my own way?
Like, what's the obstacle?
That is an important step thatyou could have the best system,
according to the system expertin the world, but it's not gonna
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work if you're still havingthat obstacle of you getting in
your own way, right?
Yes.
Leah Remilett (11:29):
And often we overcomplicate systems.
So systems sound complicated.
My version of systems areinsanely simple.
I think people are alwayssurprised by how simple my
systems are.
We can't sustain a complicatedsystem.
So if I had gone straight tothat step of like, I want family
dinner, what is the system?
I would have had this.
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I mean, maybe I would have donegrocery delivery, but with this
huge, ridiculous list ofgroceries so that I could then
cook incredible dinners withpens, sauces, and garnish,
right?
Like, so it still would havebeen too complicated.
So by asking that question andgetting to the what's the
simplest way to accomplish thisgoal, then yes, we can get into
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something that's actuallysustainable.
Ciera Lancaster (12:13):
That's really good.
That's really good.
And I just keep thinking, like,your goal wasn't to have a
fancy meal, it was to haveconnection with your family.
And so, like, we can do that inany area of our life that we're
trying to get our prioritiesmet.
Like, we can just think like,what's what's the end goal?
Like, what is what is it that Iactually want?
Because those stories that webuild in our heads are they're
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just crazy sometimes.
Leah Remilett (12:34):
They are like I say it now and I'm like, I
laugh, right?
But I'm like, no, but I reallydid feel that way.
I really did feel like I don'tknow.
I I think I didn't ever havefamily dinner growing up.
Okay.
Like I don't have, I'm sure Idid.
That's not true, but I don'thave a memory of ever sitting at
a table.
So I came up with, you know, Ibecome a mom.
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I like come up with this verygrand, idealized version that
like I basically got off movies,right?
Like that's kind of what I did.
I got it off of movies, and soI also suddenly I'm having this
huge problem actually creatingbecause, well, there's not an
entire team behind setting upthe scene for me.
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I have to do it all myself,right?
So, yes, yes.
Learning to figure out whatstories, where are they coming
from?
Is it true?
Like, is this actually true?
Does the fancy dinner equal thegoal?
No, quality time was the goal.
Ciera Lancaster (13:34):
Yeah.
So, what's the easiest waysomebody could start putting
systems into their life?
Leah Remilett (13:40):
Okay, so the easiest thing, okay.
Step one is you got to noticewhere you're feeling off.
Okay.
Like you got to notice whereyou're feeling friction.
Next is what are the thingsthat you do all the time?
These are the recurring tasks.
They're they show up whetheryou want them to or not, all the
time.
For example, the family beinghungry shows up every night,
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right?
So there is something where Ican say it has friction, it's a
recurring.
What systems could I put inplace to simplify this?
That could be anything from Isay I want to exercise, but I'm
not doing it consistently.
Okay, where's the friction?
How could I simplify this?
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So you can literally look atthis in every single area.
We could talk about date night,we could talk about dinner, we
could talk about exercise, wecould talk about self-care, we
could talk about sleep routines,we could talk about getting the
kids down for bed, we couldtalk about getting kids' lunches
ready, we could talk aboutgetting kids ready in the
morning for school.
Every single one of these is areoccurring.
Which one, when I startedsaying those, you know, as the
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listener, are you like, oh yeah,there's some friction there.
There is definitely somefriction there.
And then you start askingyourself, what is the simplest
way to accomplish the goal?
What system could I put inplace that could make this a lot
easier?
Maybe right as you're walkingout to get them to school, you
have a recurring problem whereone of the kids is like, I have
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no shoes, I don't know where myshoes are.
And you just spend all thistime trying to figure out where
in the heck those shoes went.
And you know, you're like, justput these ones on.
No, I can't put those ones on.
Who knows what's happening,right?
And so you look at that andyou're like, okay, is there a
way to make this easier?
Is there a way to have asystem?
And I would say, yes, everynight before bed, part of the
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routine is, okay, everybody getyour shoes by the door, your
backpack by the door.
Do you have your papers in yourbackpack?
Do we right?
Like you could have a cutelittle checklist that you make
that everybody does.
And here's a super simplesystem that then turns that
morning out the door from youare trying not to lose your mind
to, oh, this is good andpeaceful, and we all get out on
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time.
Ciera Lancaster (15:54):
That's good.
My initial thing was like,well, get like a shoe basket and
put the shoes in the basket.
But that's not reallynecessarily gonna fix the
problem because then you have torely on them putting the shoes
in the basket.
So actually having like thesystem where they're getting it
done early, like that is so muchmore helpful because it's
actually gonna get done.
Leah Remilett (16:12):
Okay, but I love that you pointed that out,
Sierra, because I do want to saya lot of times our first system
doesn't work.
Just realize, like, I studysystems, I am an absolute nerd
over systems, okay?
I'm literally that person who'slike, isn't McDonald's amazing?
I don't even like McDonald'sfood, but like, aren't they
amazing with their systems?
Do you guys know that they likeliterally came up with a device
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just for the mustard ketchup sothat it is the exact amount
every single like that's who Iam, okay?
So, like you can give me ascenario and I'm gonna really
quick be like, oh, you know whatyou could do.
But in the beginning, it didn'tlook like that.
I was constantly thinkingexactly what you're thinking.
I was thinking, like, oh, I'mgonna get a basket.
And then realizing, like, thisis not helping.
Why do we still not know wherethe shoes are?
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How is this going wrong?
Right.
So all of us need to know,like, there might be some some
testing ground happening.
You might try the first systemand realize it didn't work.
And I actually love that.
So I used to get frustratedwith myself because I'd try to
build a system and then I wouldstill get a block, and then I'd
be like, oh, I'm just theproblem.
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And I learned to be like, no,no, no, no, no.
I'm like, I just found a newblock.
So how am I gonna correct thatblock?
So just know that like findingyour systems is a little messy
in the beginning, and and that'sactually very, very normal.
That's what it should looklike.
And then you just keepadjusting till you find the
right, the right thing.
Ciera Lancaster (17:37):
Oh, that's really good.
I'm glad you pointed that out.
Um, because yeah, I thinkespecially people that are like
me that are have like kind oflike the perfectionist
personality, like it has to bedone right the first time.
Then I could get veryfrustrated or overwhelmed.
Like, well, why didn't thisidea work?
This was a good idea.
It works for this person attheir house.
Why doesn't it work here?
You know?
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And so I think you pointingthat out is really good that
sometimes it's gonna take a fewdifferent tries before you find
the system that works for youand your family.
Yeah.
Leah Remilett (18:06):
Oh, so good.
Amen.
I so I had the goal of startingto exercise regularly.
Okay.
Way, way back in the day, I waslike, I know this is important.
I want to, you know, be strongand like be able to keep up with
my kids and my grandkids and mygreat grandkids.
And but I've just never been, Idon't, I never saw myself as
someone who exercised.
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Like that had just never beenme, right?
So it was really easy toconvince myself not to, and
really hard to convince myselfto do it.
And so I was trying to get upearly and work out, but you
know, like when your bed is warmand outside your bed is not, it
is really hard.
So I would come up with thissystem, right?
And I was like, okay, I, youknow, I notice I keep getting
blocked here.
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So now I'm gonna adjust and I'mgonna fix this.
I mean, this system took somany refinements to get myself
to exercise.
So I remember specifically, youknow, if I couldn't find part
of my my workout clothes, I'd belike, never mind.
And I just go back to bed.
So I started making sure theywere out the night before.
Tennis shoes, leggings, sportsbra, t-shirt, it's all there.
And then the next day, I'm likeall proud of myself and I'm
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like, oh, now I'm gonna be ableto do it.
Couldn't find a hair tie.
I don't know why, but I couldnot find a hair tie for
anything.
And I was like, ended up soannoyed that I like went back to
bed.
So the next night I'm like, andthere will be a hair tie on
top.
And to this day, for a decade,all my workout clothes are there
and there is a hair tie on thetop because I just realized,
right?
Like that was the next thingthat stopped me.
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I mean, it's just it was thisprocess of me figuring out,
okay, what's the next block?
What's the next block thattries to get in my way?
And then what do I need to do?
Am I building a fence?
Am I jumping over the fence?
Am I digging under the fence?
Like, how am I gonna get pastthis one?
And then just keep goingforward.
Ciera Lancaster (19:42):
Really good.
So as we're getting intoOctober, November, December,
holiday time, it's going to getcrazier.
Um, there's gonna be moredemands with school stuff, work
stuff, church stuff, whateverpeople have going on in their
lives.
So, how do you recommend somestrategies that moms can put
into place now for this busyholiday time?
Leah Remilett (20:04):
So I think you already landed on a huge part of
it, which is start now.
Don't wait till you alreadyfeel behind.
It is an amazing feeling whenyou feel like you're ahead.
So, what does start now looklike?
It can look like I think thetwo easiest things to start with
is number one, you have yourfamily traditions that you
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really want to be able to do.
And what I would suggest ishaving a family calendar that
everybody can see.
I have this huge familycalendar.
It is like 20 by 30.
I mean, it's giant.
And uh, I just get itlaminated.
It you can literally buy it onmy website.
I get it laminated every yearand I put it on the back side of
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our coat closet.
So if you open the coat closet,there is this giant calendar.
And um I I laminate it and thenI use permanent markers.
And there's a trick where youcan like get permanent markers
back off of it, which is reallygreat.
So if I you know have to changesomething, I can.
But where when it comes to theholidays, I start with the the
things that matter most to us asa family.
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And that can be anything from Ireally want to make sure we go
caroling, I want to make sure wemake the gingerbread houses, I
want to make sure we go look atChristmas lights, right?
It can be things that are thatare simple and small, but if you
don't put them on the calendar,it's really easy to get to the
end of the season and go, oh mygosh, we never did that because
it just gets so full.
I like to start by droppingthose into the calendar.
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Now I am very aware that Idon't know dates that are going
to show up, you know, theChristmas concert for the school
or whatever, the Christmasparty for work, right?
Things might pop up that I'mnot aware of and I'll have to
adjust those, but becausethey're there, now I'm moving
them versus forgetting aboutthem, right?
So I love personally to startthere.
We usually sit down as afamily, we have like a little
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family council, and everybodygets to weigh in on what's the
most important thing that theywant to do during the holidays,
right?
So someone will be like, wehave to watch this movie, and
someone else is like, I want tomake sure we get to go do this,
right?
So we get everybody's ideas andthen um we make sure that we
put those in.
So everybody gets to feel liketheir thing that really matters
to them happens.
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So that's my first thing that Ido.
The next thing is justpersonally, I know I gotta buy a
lot of gifts, right?
I've got all the nieces andnephews, I've got the, you know,
the kids.
So I start early on having alist of everybody so that I can
start thinking about what I'mgonna get them.
If there's things that I knowthey absolutely want, I don't
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mind starting in September.
And just, you know, I have acloset that like everything just
starts getting stuck into,right?
So that again, I'm not going tobe behind.
Um, and I can actually staywithin my budgets because I
definitely find that the morerunning late I am, the more
expensive things start beinglate.
Cause I'm just willing to spendanything to check it off,
(22:54):
right?
Versus starting earlier.
And, you know, I know a lot ofpeople are waiting for the
sales, and that's great.
Um, but those are two very realways that I try to start early,
and that gives me momentum.
Like I just find that because Istarted early, because I have
that momentum, I'm feelingreally good as I continue
through because I'm like, okay,yay, I've got this.
Ciera Lancaster (23:15):
Yeah.
It probably helps you to beable to enjoy your priorities
that time of year a lot morebecause you don't have that
to-do list in the back of yourmind of like, I need to be doing
all of this stuff.
Leah Remilett (23:26):
Yes.
I don't want to get stuck in,oh my gosh, I still have an A B
C D E F G, right?
So I just try to take some timeearly, you know, in October, in
early November, whenever it'sgoing to be for that person.
But I try to take time veryearly and be like, okay, what
are the what are the ABC D EFGs?
And then what of those can I doearly?
(23:46):
A lot of times my Christmascards are done two months early.
Like I'm like, uh, I mean, Ican design that way early, just
have it done.
Most of us do our familypictures in either end of summer
or early fall.
So it's like, just get thosecompletely designed and ready.
Be way ahead of the game onthat.
So there's just simple thingsthat I'm like, well, there's not
(24:08):
really a reason to wait.
I can have that done superearly.
And so I just do.
And that way, yes, I can bemore present and actually feel
like I'm enjoying the holidaysversus like I'm trying to
survive them.
Ciera Lancaster (24:19):
Let's talk about um, we're kind of talking
about obligations, but let'stalk about like some boundaries
on people pleasers and howpeople that like to say yes to
everyone because they don't wantto let anyone down.
How can we stay firm to ourboundaries any time of the year,
but also in um holiday season?
Leah Remilett (24:38):
Which can be extra hard because usually
that's family who is making youfeel very guilty and obligated
that you need to go.
So, okay, number one, numberone thing above anything else is
we have got to untrainourselves from saying yes on the
spot.
That is going to save us allmore angst than really anything
(25:01):
else.
If you can just stop sayingsure, right in the moment when,
and everybody knows what I'mtalking about.
And you have this dialoguehappening instantly in your head
where you are having a completefight with yourself over that
you just said yes to this, andhow are you going to make it
work?
And you have just let down yourfamily, and oh my gosh, right?
Like we have all experiencedthat.
So the very first thing for anypeople pleaser is you have got
(25:24):
to learn how to not say yes inthe moment.
And it's a habit.
It is a habit because you lovegetting to see the reaction of
them, be so happy with you, andit makes you feel good, and it's
this endorphin boost.
And you've got to trainyourself and break that very
real bad habit of saying yes onthe spot.
And you're gonna want sometools for that, right?
Like, oh, that sounds great.
(25:45):
I'm gonna have to look at mycalendar when I get home.
Oh, that sounds amazing.
I'm gonna have to check with myhubby first.
I'll try it to get back to you.
I love to even turn it intolike, that sounds so much fun.
Can you send me a text about itso I can look at my calendar
later?
I try to put it on them morethan I'm putting the next task
on me.
But that that is going toabsolutely like step one.
(26:07):
If you can do just that, Ipromise it's all gonna get
easier from there.
Step two is going to be thatyou're going to have to come up
with some ways to say no in avery, very sweet, polite way so
that you don't feel like you'reabout to, you know, create drama
and feel okay about saying nosometimes.
(26:30):
And I I get it, I get that thatcan be so, so hard.
Uh, we actually did an entireepisode on the People Pleasers
Guide to saying no.
It's episode 60.
So if anybody is like uh thisparticular one, they're like,
this is me, this is me, you canjust go to 660.balancingbusy
(26:50):
podcast.com and hear that peoplepleasers guide.
But yeah, that would be kind ofmy starting place.
Ciera Lancaster (26:57):
What about those of us who are listening
who might be like, I've triedeverything, I've tried setting
up boundaries, I've triedsetting up systems, and I just
feel so overwhelmed still.
What's one small thing that youwould say to them that they
could just take away from thisepisode to start feeling less
busy?
Leah Remilett (27:15):
Okay, if you are generally just feeling like you
kind of live in overwhelm, likechaos is your mascot.
Okay, like you're like chaosand me, we go everywhere
together, and I'm really tiredof it.
I want a new mascot.
Then I'm gonna say stop tryingto change everything and just
(27:36):
start changing one tiny thingconsistently.
So I am a very all-in person.
I think that was probablypretty obvious with the whole
dinner fiasco, right?
But like I tend to go like fullsend.
It is like, I constantly jokethat I feel like I have been
working to install the dimmerswitch in myself for you know
(27:59):
the last 20 years, right?
Like, because I am either yesor I am completely no.
And so um, whenever I sawsomething that was out of
alignment, it didn't feel good,I'm out of balance, I'm feeling
overwhelmed, I would make themistake of then going all in to
try to fix it, which also wasn'tsustainable.
Like I was still keeping thesame pattern of too much, just
(28:23):
on the flip side of thependulum.
What I've learned now is thatstarting by making very tiny
changes, and everything in youis gonna want to argue.
Everything in you wants to belike, but if I can do one thing,
I could I could do five, I'd befine, I can do five.
But don't do it.
Just start with one smallchange, get consistent with
(28:46):
that, and then add the next one.
It is incredible what canhappen when we just start
stacking those.
And that's why I love stackingsimple systems.
You start stacking enough ofthem and your entire world, your
life experience can change, butnot if you try to do everything
at once, because you will justoverwhelm yourself and then
default back to where you wereat.
Ciera Lancaster (29:09):
Okay, you have you talked about your family
dinner system.
Do you have one system that youhave implemented in your life
that you are like this for mewas a game changer?
Do you have one of yourfavorites?
Leah Remilett (29:19):
So, okay, personal or business?
Ciera Lancaster (29:22):
Let's do one of both.
Leah Remilett (29:23):
Personal.
Oh, I don't know if I would sayone particularly is a game
changer.
Definitely dinner.
Um, it's it's when you stackthem together, right?
Because like I have a systemfor laundry, I have a system for
dinner, I have a system for myexercising, I have a system for
my morning routine.
I have, and then like I put allthose together and it's just
magical.
In my business, I would saybatching.
(29:44):
I would say batching isprobably my favorite
productivity strategy, and it'sprobably my favorite system that
I use.
So, and and really actuallythis goes in my personal life
too.
I'm I don't do a little bit allthe time.
I put them all together and Ido it at once.
So for example, if I'm going tobe recording solo podcast
(30:07):
episodes, I'm batching them.
I will probably record three orfour solo episodes on the same
day.
And on a different day, Ibatched planning them and
researching for them andstructuring them.
And then I come and I record,right?
So it's batched doinglike-minded tasks all together.
This is so silly, but it showsup in my personal life too.
(30:29):
Literally yesterday was batchday where I batched all my
vitamins for two weeks for themorning.
I batched all my vitamins, mynighttime vitamins for two
weeks.
Have this little like, it'sweird, but it's like roasted
dandelion with like, anyways,it's very healthy, but I like
it.
It's yummy.
And um and it takes threedifferent ingredients.
It's like I use like thisspecial cinnamon, I use the
(30:49):
roasted dandelion, and then Iuse this special maca chocolate
thing.
And I don't like having to pullall three bags out and scoop
them.
So I got these littlecontainers and I literally make
like 12 of them at once and thenI put them into like a little
container and that way I canpull out one at a time and it's
just faster and more convenient.
(31:10):
I like to make this littleprotein drink that I make myself
and so I bought little glassbottles and I will literally
make four at a time instead ofhaving to make one every day and
then have them in the glassbottles in the fridge.
So I mean those are simplelittle systems where I batch it
and then it's just there andready for me.
And then I feel so much moreproductive because it's like oh
it's already ready like it'salready there and I pull it out
(31:32):
and I'm like yay me.
Ciera Lancaster (31:34):
That's so good.
I I love batching.
I think batching is genius.
It's like to me that's probablylike the number one system.
If anything like you could justlike batch it like and I I've
just recently started to liketry and implement it in more
areas of my life and it's beenso helpful because um for
example laundry is one that Ijust started batching.
(31:56):
I used to do a load of laundryevery single day.
And I know for some people likethis was one of those things
where I'm like some but everyoneswears by it.
They say that this is the thingthat you should do.
And I was like but for me itall ends up on my bedroom floor.
Like I can't I can wash it butI can't get it put away and then
I'm still doing one a day andso it's just piling and piling
and piling.
(32:17):
So I've started batching and Ijust have a laundry day and it
has been so nice because I onlythink about laundry on Fridays
and so every other day of theweek I don't think about laundry
at all.
And it I have been reallysurprised at how much like brain
power it has freed up becauseI'm not thinking about it.
So I love batching.
I love it.
And so and I mean the exactsame thing.
Leah Remilett (32:39):
Yes so you know the exact same thing.
Everyone swears by one load aday.
I tried it I hated it I wasnever on top of it.
Monday is my day and it's allon Monday.
It's one single day and itworks so well for me.
And that's what I love.
Like we're all gonna find ourdifferent ways because obviously
there's people out there whothink that one load a day they
(32:59):
swear by it.
It did not work for me.
And I think you know youtalking about how like I love
that you said you know this iswhat everyone says but it didn't
work for me and I'm doing itthis way and now it is working.
And that is the sign when itrelieves that mental clutter
right like there was thisconstant mental fatigue mental
clutter that you had whereyou're like oh my gosh I've got
(33:20):
to put this away it's sitting onmy floor I haven't finished oh
I've got to get another load inoh where am I at?
And you have alleviated thatand that's when you know you
have a killer system is whenthat like mental struggle goes
away.
Ciera Lancaster (33:33):
Yes.
Yes.
Oh so good.
Okay, this has been reallygood.
We've talked about systemswe've talked about boundaries,
batching I feel like we'vecovered a really good amount of
stuff that is going to makeanyone feel less busy, less
overwhelmed.
We're going to break up withbusy finally like um so thank
you so much.
I loved talking to you and Ilove to end all of my interviews
(33:55):
with this one question is whatis one thing you try to do every
day that helps you feel moreconfident?
Leah Remilett (34:01):
Okay so I was trying to think about this and I
was like oh it should be aroundbalance and but but here's the
honest truth the thing that I doevery day that helps me feel
more confident is get dressed.
It's get dressed.
If if we end up wearing ourpajamas all day or like the
workout clothes or whatever, Ijust I don't feel as confident.
So it's my morning routine whenI accomplish that morning
(34:25):
routine and I think probably oneof the bigger parts of that is
getting dressed.
But my full morning routine islike I look for what I'm
grateful for.
I do my scripture study Iexercise I drink my lemon water.
When I do that morning routineI just feel so proud of myself
like yay me I'm I'm a person whodrinks lemon water and
exercises and reads herscriptures you know like I feel
(34:48):
so good about myself that then Ifeel so much more confident
going into my day.
Ciera Lancaster (34:52):
Yeah yeah I think getting dressed it it's
crazy how much it shifts youryour brain and your feeling like
it's just yeah it's a reallygood one.
So I love that it's so fun tohear everyone that I interview
they all are different ones andI don't know if I've had a
repeat yet.
So it's really that's amazing Iknow I did I did an episode I
can't remember which one it isit's like in the 70s I did an
(35:14):
episode a while back where I didlike a a compilation of all of
the everyone all of everyone'sanswers that I've ever
interviewed.
And yeah I really don't thinkthat there was a repeat.
So it's it's really fun tohear.
Leah Remilett (35:25):
So thank you I'm like so fascinated with this I'm
like I want to know whateverybody's like thinking I'll
send you the episode and I canput it in the show notes too for
our listeners.
Ciera Lancaster (35:34):
But yeah it's it's fun to listen to everyone's
they're all different.
Leah Remilett (35:38):
Leah can you tell our listeners where they can
connect with you where they canfind you you mentioned that
calendar that you have on yourwebsite do you have other
resources that people can findor a community that people can
join absolutely okay so anyonewho is like oh my gosh I just
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And that is going to give youmy my 10 favorite time saving
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Like these are my go-tosthey're super quick they're
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So time.balancingbusy dot comobviously we know that your
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you're right here in your appright now so just search
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great ways to start connectingwith me.
And then I've got all kinds ofresources on my website so they
can find all those as welllater.
There's all kinds of freebiesand uh resources there and ways
to work with me.
Ciera Lancaster (36:44):
Awesome.
Yes your balancing busy podcastis so good.
I love listening to it.
Do you have any like newlaunches or products or courses
or anything that's coming outthat you would like to share
with the listeners.
Leah Remilett (36:56):
So I would say the three main things are uh
balanced home.
So for my mamas who are likeyou know we we talked about
laundry we talked about dinnersif you want to know and
understand and hear like all ofthe systems in my home uh that
is an opportunity and it reallyreally well priced like that is
like a great gateway get to knowme.
(37:17):
Okay.
So uh also for anyone who'strying to use chat GPT
especially in their business andthey want to make it actually
sound just like their voice ifnot better, have it be able to
be your personal assistant,write your copy, all that kind
of stuff I have a uh mini class,the Chat GPT advantage.
And then for my entrepreneurialmamas, we have Mom Business
(37:40):
Academy.
And mom business academy itactually has both of those
things I just talked aboutinside of it, but it is every
system in my entire business andit's broken down into four
tracks more time, more moneymore um visibility and more
reach.
So it is literally every singlearea of my business and every
system in it to just get yourlife back.
(38:02):
So that would that would besome of my favorite ways right
now to be able to work with me.
Ciera Lancaster (38:08):
Awesome.
Thank you so much.
I'm glad that we can sharethose with the listeners and yes
I you are just you're amazing.
So I just love that thank you.
Your podcast is a fun way toget to see a little glimpse of
your personal life too which Ihave really loved like hearing
about your kids and what you'redoing with just your personal
side of things too and howyou're implementing all of your
strategies into that area ofyour life as well.
(38:30):
Thank you so much Leah this wasreally good and moms who are
listening I hope that as you'rediving back into your day you
can just think what's one busything that you could cross off
your list right now?
What's one busy thing that youcould put a system in place now
so that it makes it easier foryou so you can break up with
busy for good.
(38:50):
So thank you so much Leah thiswas really great.
Leah Remilett (38:53):
Thank you for having me.
I was so excited to be here.
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Well, thank you for tuning into the podcast.
(00:27):
I'm your host, Ciera.
I'm so happy to be here withyou today talking.
We are going to be talking toLeah Remele.
She is with Balancing Busy, andshe is an international
speaker, a podcast host, and asystem strategist for
time-starved entrepreneurs.
Leah has helped thousands ofsmall business owners ditch the
overwhelm and start scalingwithout sacrificing their home
(00:47):
life, their health, or theirhappiness.
I have been a listener ofLeah's for many years and I have
loved all of the stuff that shehas to share.
It's not just applicable forentrepreneurs like me, but also
just for women who are moms andhave lives and want to find that
balance in their life.
So we are going today, we'regoing to be talking about
(01:08):
breaking up with busy, which Ithink is something we all want
to do.
Why it's so important,especially right now with the
holidays approaching, is we'regoing to want to be present in
our lives.
So if you're already feelingthe pressure of, oh my goodness,
the holiday season is creepingin and I don't know what to do.
I don't, I'm I'm alreadyoverwhelmed.
This conversation is going tohelp you to protect your peace
(01:30):
and reclaim your joy.
Um, it's also going to beapplicable if you're listening
to this in the future and maybethe holidays aren't right now.
All of everything that we'regoing to be talking about right
now is going to be applicablefor any time in life.
So, Leah, thank you so much forjoining.
I am so happy you are here.
Do you want to just tell alittle about yourself really
quickly?
Leah Remilett (01:48):
Sure.
I mean, that was an amazingintroduction.
Thank you for having me.
So, yes, I am Leah, I am thebalance bestie.
I have my podcast, um, asSierra said, called Balancing
Busy.
I have been teaching womenspecifically around having more
time in our lives.
For about 12 years, I've beenuh an entrepreneur for about 17.
(02:13):
And so I did it all wrong atthe beginning.
Okay.
I want everybody to know that.
I didn't know how to put thesystems in place, how to
automate.
I mean, at the beginning, I wasjust like, it would be awesome
if I had a client.
I wasn't even thinking aboutwhat to do when I had tons of
them.
And whether you're anentrepreneur, you're a working
mom, or you're a mom, we allunderstand what it feels like to
(02:38):
be too busy.
And that's really where I showup and I help is let's get women
out of that feeling of toobusy, chaos, frantic,
overwhelmed, those feelings andinstead into a place where we
get to feel really good.
And I believe that balance is afeeling, and we all know when
(02:59):
we feel it, and we know when wedon't.
And so that's where I come in.
And I help women in their homelife, in their businesses,
really in all areas, so that wecan show up as the best, best
version of ourselves.
Ciera Lancaster (03:11):
That's so so helpful for people to sometimes
you need the outside perspectivejust to help help to know.
So, how do you help moms orbusiness owners, people that you
coach, how do you help themidentify what their real
priorities are?
Um, especially when there areso many, well, I should be doing
this, or I feel like I want tobe doing this, or so-and-so
(03:32):
wants me to do this.
How do you help them find thosepriorities?
Leah Remilett (03:36):
Yes.
Okay, so the truth is most momsare living not in their
priorities.
They are living in obligation.
We need to start by gettingvery clear on what actually
matters to me most.
What are my priorities?
What we get swept up in is alot of shoulds, right?
Like, oh, I should volunteer, Ishould bake, I should host, I
(04:00):
should say yes, I should.
It just doesn't stop, right?
And so we get caught up in alot of obligations, and those
obligations can turn intooverwhelm pretty quickly.
A really good way to know ifyou're an obligation is you are
dreading it.
You don't want to do it.
Like, this is not somethingthat you want to be doing the
(04:20):
second you say yes, you're like,I should not have done that.
Oh my gosh, I'm alreadyoverwhelmed.
Now, that's not always the casebecause there are times where
I'm saying yes to something thatlet's be honest, it's not super
fun, right?
Like I they need someone to goset up the chairs or to go clean
the area, and someone's got todo it.
I'm not pumped to go do that,but I also understand that I
(04:44):
should, I need to, and I want tocontribute.
So there, like, I don't want toput everything too blanket
because there are times when weshould and we just should and we
don't want to.
But I think generally,especially as women, we tend to
not be living in priorities.
We're living in obligation.
And so when we can get clear onwhat our priorities are, what
(05:06):
matters most, then it's gonnaget a lot easier to start living
in that best version of ourlife.
Ciera Lancaster (05:13):
I feel like once you figure out your
priorities, and tell me if thisis your experience with coaching
women, once you figure out yourpriorities, then what is the
next easiest step?
Is it to put systems in place?
Um, what what would yourecommend doing after you've
defined your priorities?
Leah Remilett (05:29):
Okay, so you start figuring out here's what
really matters most.
Here's what my priorities are.
I think the next step is to askyourself, what am I doing to
get in my own way?
Like that, that's the nextstep.
Where where are you gettingstuck?
Where are you getting in yourown way?
I'll give a really simpleexample.
A priority for me is familydinner.
(05:51):
Okay.
I absolutely believe in familydinner.
I want us at the tabletogether, eating dinner and
talking and you know, getting tohear about each other's day.
I was having a really hard timeactually accomplishing that
goal for several years.
And when I got clear about whatis the priority, the priority
(06:11):
is family dinner.
And then I said, why am Igetting stuck?
It became very obvious that itwas because I was
overcomplicating the crud at afamily dinner.
Okay.
I felt like I needed to make itall, it all needed to be from
scratch.
There should be a pan sauce andgarnish to go along with it.
And I'm not even exaggerating,like I really did feel that way.
Like that's that's how I felt.
(06:32):
Like I do love to cook.
So it was like I wanted to bemaking some fancy new thing, but
you can't do that every nightof the week.
That is ridiculous, right?
And I and I wouldn't be ableto.
I mean, that's the truth.
I couldn't, I couldn't sustainthat.
So what would happen?
Night after night, I would belike, oh my gosh, what am I
doing for dinner?
I wasn't meal planningeffectively.
There was a lot of times whereI was like, I forgot to go
(06:53):
grocery shopping.
Oh my gosh, right?
Like there were just so manythings where I was getting in my
own way.
So there's there's the problem.
Okay.
So what was the next step?
The next step is how how am Igetting stuck?
Like, how am I getting in myown way?
I'm clearly overcomplicatingthese.
Then I'm like, well, what can Ido differently?
(07:14):
And it became a lot ofdifferent mini systems and very
multifaceted.
But ultimately, the first thingI had to do is I had to undo
the story that I was saying thatlike I'm a good mom when I've
made the whole thing fromscratch and I present it on
beautiful platters.
I still totally plateeverything.
I have not gotten past thatone, but right, like, I mean,
(07:36):
it's just like I was over thetop.
Okay.
So I had to bring that back.
I had to undo the story.
I had to realize what Iactually care about is us
talking and being together, notthe food on the plate as much.
So once I understood that,there were several things I
could do.
The first thing was I shouldprobably get a plan of what I'm
(07:58):
cooking every single night.
And then I'm like, wait, Idon't have to go to the grocery
store.
I can do grocery delivery.
And I had to, even that, again,there was a story.
Oh, but that's frivolous.
That's expensive.
I had to get over it and belike, you know what?
It is better to spend a fewextra dollars and to have food
in the fridge than for us tokeep waiting for me to get to
(08:18):
it, which was really hardbecause I was in these years.
So this time frame that I'mtalking about, I want to just
set also, I was our soleprovider.
I am a full-time mom and I'mrunning a full-time company, but
trying to somehow be full-timeat everything.
And it was just unpossible.
My it was impossible.
My husband was in graduateschool at the time.
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So like he is, he's coming inright at dinner, you know, just
barely squeaking in.
And and so it was it was a timein our life where it was a it
was very crazy.
There was a lot going on,right?
And there's me still trying tohave pan sauces fully plated
with garnish, right?
Like this is ridiculous.
So, okay, so I start thinkingI've got a meal plan, I've got
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to do grocery delivery.
I then realized I need to dosome delegation.
So I had, I still have threekids.
Two of them are out of thehouse now.
So I have three kids, and I waslike, hey, I'm doing those meal
boxes, right?
Like those meal prep boxeswhere it comes to you.
So each of the kids got to pickthe dinner that they were gonna
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make, and three dinners wouldcome in the box.
You know, it's all prepped andeverything.
There's a little card withinstructions.
In the early years, I was theirsous chef because you know they
weren't quite there to be ableto do it their own.
Uh, but as time went on, theydid it completely.
And then my husband was incharge of dinner one night a
week.
That was one where again I hadto undo a story because to me, I
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felt like, well, I have tocook, you should have to cook.
Like, I don't like that.
Like when it's my night, I haveto cook and you're just
bringing in takeout.
And then I realized, wait, it'sstill a night, I don't have to
cook.
He's helping in his way.
I can't judge him and get upsetbecause it's not the way I
think he should be doing it.
So now there's four nights aweek that I maybe am helping
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cooking in the early years, oryou know, and as it goes on, I'm
not cooking at all.
And then we also had a nightthat was called Fen for Yourself
night.
So that's like leftover night.
They the kids can eat cereal ifthey want, whatever.
But all of a sudden, I've takenthis thing that had been
causing really so much painbecause I did feel so much guilt
around not doing a good enoughjob, having a plan for dinner,
(10:29):
coming out of my office when thekids got home and realizing, oh
my gosh, I didn't pull anythingout of the freezer.
I have no plan.
What am I gonna do?
Right.
Like there was just so muchfrustration and guilt around
this priority that was familydinner.
And when I untangled all ofthat, got clear on what's the
simplest way to actually makethis happen, it was amazing.
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And family dinner has been thisconsistent thing for a decade,
right?
That like feels really good.
And and so there, there it isin kind of like very in real
life, in my real messy life.
Ciera Lancaster (11:01):
No, that's really good.
I think that that find thatstep, you find your priorities,
and then for me, I would belike, okay, now like what's my
system?
How am I gonna do it?
But I think missing that step,like you said, like what how am
I getting in my own way?
Like, what's the obstacle?
That is an important step thatyou could have the best system,
according to the system expertin the world, but it's not gonna
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work if you're still havingthat obstacle of you getting in
your own way, right?
Yes.
Leah Remilett (11:29):
And often we overcomplicate systems.
So systems sound complicated.
My version of systems areinsanely simple.
I think people are alwayssurprised by how simple my
systems are.
We can't sustain a complicatedsystem.
So if I had gone straight tothat step of like, I want family
dinner, what is the system?
I would have had this.
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I mean, maybe I would have donegrocery delivery, but with this
huge, ridiculous list ofgroceries so that I could then
cook incredible dinners withpens, sauces, and garnish,
right?
Like, so it still would havebeen too complicated.
So by asking that question andgetting to the what's the
simplest way to accomplish thisgoal, then yes, we can get into
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something that's actuallysustainable.
Ciera Lancaster (12:13):
That's really good.
That's really good.
And I just keep thinking, like,your goal wasn't to have a
fancy meal, it was to haveconnection with your family.
And so, like, we can do that inany area of our life that we're
trying to get our prioritiesmet.
Like, we can just think like,what's what's the end goal?
Like, what is what is it that Iactually want?
Because those stories that webuild in our heads are they're
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just crazy sometimes.
Leah Remilett (12:34):
They are like I say it now and I'm like, I
laugh, right?
But I'm like, no, but I reallydid feel that way.
I really did feel like I don'tknow.
I I think I didn't ever havefamily dinner growing up.
Okay.
Like I don't have, I'm sure Idid.
That's not true, but I don'thave a memory of ever sitting at
a table.
So I came up with, you know, Ibecome a mom.
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I like come up with this verygrand, idealized version that
like I basically got off movies,right?
Like that's kind of what I did.
I got it off of movies, and soI also suddenly I'm having this
huge problem actually creatingbecause, well, there's not an
entire team behind setting upthe scene for me.
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I have to do it all myself,right?
So, yes, yes.
Learning to figure out whatstories, where are they coming
from?
Is it true?
Like, is this actually true?
Does the fancy dinner equal thegoal?
No, quality time was the goal.
Ciera Lancaster (13:34):
Yeah.
So, what's the easiest waysomebody could start putting
systems into their life?
Leah Remilett (13:40):
Okay, so the easiest thing, okay.
Step one is you got to noticewhere you're feeling off.
Okay.
Like you got to notice whereyou're feeling friction.
Next is what are the thingsthat you do all the time?
These are the recurring tasks.
They're they show up whetheryou want them to or not, all the
time.
For example, the family beinghungry shows up every night,
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right?
So there is something where Ican say it has friction, it's a
recurring.
What systems could I put inplace to simplify this?
That could be anything from Isay I want to exercise, but I'm
not doing it consistently.
Okay, where's the friction?
How could I simplify this?
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So you can literally look atthis in every single area.
We could talk about date night,we could talk about dinner, we
could talk about exercise, wecould talk about self-care, we
could talk about sleep routines,we could talk about getting the
kids down for bed, we couldtalk about getting kids' lunches
ready, we could talk aboutgetting kids ready in the
morning for school.
Every single one of these is areoccurring.
Which one, when I startedsaying those, you know, as the
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listener, are you like, oh yeah,there's some friction there.
There is definitely somefriction there.
And then you start askingyourself, what is the simplest
way to accomplish the goal?
What system could I put inplace that could make this a lot
easier?
Maybe right as you're walkingout to get them to school, you
have a recurring problem whereone of the kids is like, I have
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no shoes, I don't know where myshoes are.
And you just spend all thistime trying to figure out where
in the heck those shoes went.
And you know, you're like, justput these ones on.
No, I can't put those ones on.
Who knows what's happening,right?
And so you look at that andyou're like, okay, is there a
way to make this easier?
Is there a way to have asystem?
And I would say, yes, everynight before bed, part of the
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routine is, okay, everybody getyour shoes by the door, your
backpack by the door.
Do you have your papers in yourbackpack?
Do we right?
Like you could have a cutelittle checklist that you make
that everybody does.
And here's a super simplesystem that then turns that
morning out the door from youare trying not to lose your mind
to, oh, this is good andpeaceful, and we all get out on
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time.
Ciera Lancaster (15:54):
That's good.
My initial thing was like,well, get like a shoe basket and
put the shoes in the basket.
But that's not reallynecessarily gonna fix the
problem because then you have torely on them putting the shoes
in the basket.
So actually having like thesystem where they're getting it
done early, like that is so muchmore helpful because it's
actually gonna get done.
Leah Remilett (16:12):
Okay, but I love that you pointed that out,
Sierra, because I do want to saya lot of times our first system
doesn't work.
Just realize, like, I studysystems, I am an absolute nerd
over systems, okay?
I'm literally that person who'slike, isn't McDonald's amazing?
I don't even like McDonald'sfood, but like, aren't they
amazing with their systems?
Do you guys know that they likeliterally came up with a device
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just for the mustard ketchup sothat it is the exact amount
every single like that's who Iam, okay?
So, like you can give me ascenario and I'm gonna really
quick be like, oh, you know whatyou could do.
But in the beginning, it didn'tlook like that.
I was constantly thinkingexactly what you're thinking.
I was thinking, like, oh, I'mgonna get a basket.
And then realizing, like, thisis not helping.
Why do we still not know wherethe shoes are?
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How is this going wrong?
Right.
So all of us need to know,like, there might be some some
testing ground happening.
You might try the first systemand realize it didn't work.
And I actually love that.
So I used to get frustratedwith myself because I'd try to
build a system and then I wouldstill get a block, and then I'd
be like, oh, I'm just theproblem.
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And I learned to be like, no,no, no, no, no.
I'm like, I just found a newblock.
So how am I gonna correct thatblock?
So just know that like findingyour systems is a little messy
in the beginning, and and that'sactually very, very normal.
That's what it should looklike.
And then you just keepadjusting till you find the
right, the right thing.
Ciera Lancaster (17:37):
Oh, that's really good.
I'm glad you pointed that out.
Um, because yeah, I thinkespecially people that are like
me that are have like kind oflike the perfectionist
personality, like it has to bedone right the first time.
Then I could get veryfrustrated or overwhelmed.
Like, well, why didn't thisidea work?
This was a good idea.
It works for this person attheir house.
Why doesn't it work here?
You know?
(17:57):
And so I think you pointingthat out is really good that
sometimes it's gonna take a fewdifferent tries before you find
the system that works for youand your family.
Yeah.
Leah Remilett (18:06):
Oh, so good.
Amen.
I so I had the goal of startingto exercise regularly.
Okay.
Way, way back in the day, I waslike, I know this is important.
I want to, you know, be strongand like be able to keep up with
my kids and my grandkids and mygreat grandkids.
And but I've just never been, Idon't, I never saw myself as
someone who exercised.
(18:26):
Like that had just never beenme, right?
So it was really easy toconvince myself not to, and
really hard to convince myselfto do it.
And so I was trying to get upearly and work out, but you
know, like when your bed is warmand outside your bed is not, it
is really hard.
So I would come up with thissystem, right?
And I was like, okay, I, youknow, I notice I keep getting
blocked here.
(18:46):
So now I'm gonna adjust and I'mgonna fix this.
I mean, this system took somany refinements to get myself
to exercise.
So I remember specifically, youknow, if I couldn't find part
of my my workout clothes, I'd belike, never mind.
And I just go back to bed.
So I started making sure theywere out the night before.
Tennis shoes, leggings, sportsbra, t-shirt, it's all there.
And then the next day, I'm likeall proud of myself and I'm
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like, oh, now I'm gonna be ableto do it.
Couldn't find a hair tie.
I don't know why, but I couldnot find a hair tie for
anything.
And I was like, ended up soannoyed that I like went back to
bed.
So the next night I'm like, andthere will be a hair tie on
top.
And to this day, for a decade,all my workout clothes are there
and there is a hair tie on thetop because I just realized,
right?
Like that was the next thingthat stopped me.
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I mean, it's just it was thisprocess of me figuring out,
okay, what's the next block?
What's the next block thattries to get in my way?
And then what do I need to do?
Am I building a fence?
Am I jumping over the fence?
Am I digging under the fence?
Like, how am I gonna get pastthis one?
And then just keep goingforward.
Ciera Lancaster (19:42):
Really good.
So as we're getting intoOctober, November, December,
holiday time, it's going to getcrazier.
Um, there's gonna be moredemands with school stuff, work
stuff, church stuff, whateverpeople have going on in their
lives.
So, how do you recommend somestrategies that moms can put
into place now for this busyholiday time?
Leah Remilett (20:04):
So I think you already landed on a huge part of
it, which is start now.
Don't wait till you alreadyfeel behind.
It is an amazing feeling whenyou feel like you're ahead.
So, what does start now looklike?
It can look like I think thetwo easiest things to start with
is number one, you have yourfamily traditions that you
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really want to be able to do.
And what I would suggest ishaving a family calendar that
everybody can see.
I have this huge familycalendar.
It is like 20 by 30.
I mean, it's giant.
And uh, I just get itlaminated.
It you can literally buy it onmy website.
I get it laminated every yearand I put it on the back side of
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our coat closet.
So if you open the coat closet,there is this giant calendar.
And um I I laminate it and thenI use permanent markers.
And there's a trick where youcan like get permanent markers
back off of it, which is reallygreat.
So if I you know have to changesomething, I can.
But where when it comes to theholidays, I start with the the
things that matter most to us asa family.
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And that can be anything from Ireally want to make sure we go
caroling, I want to make sure wemake the gingerbread houses, I
want to make sure we go look atChristmas lights, right?
It can be things that are thatare simple and small, but if you
don't put them on the calendar,it's really easy to get to the
end of the season and go, oh mygosh, we never did that because
it just gets so full.
I like to start by droppingthose into the calendar.
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Now I am very aware that Idon't know dates that are going
to show up, you know, theChristmas concert for the school
or whatever, the Christmasparty for work, right?
Things might pop up that I'mnot aware of and I'll have to
adjust those, but becausethey're there, now I'm moving
them versus forgetting aboutthem, right?
So I love personally to startthere.
We usually sit down as afamily, we have like a little
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family council, and everybodygets to weigh in on what's the
most important thing that theywant to do during the holidays,
right?
So someone will be like, wehave to watch this movie, and
someone else is like, I want tomake sure we get to go do this,
right?
So we get everybody's ideas andthen um we make sure that we
put those in.
So everybody gets to feel liketheir thing that really matters
to them happens.
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So that's my first thing that Ido.
The next thing is justpersonally, I know I gotta buy a
lot of gifts, right?
I've got all the nieces andnephews, I've got the, you know,
the kids.
So I start early on having alist of everybody so that I can
start thinking about what I'mgonna get them.
If there's things that I knowthey absolutely want, I don't
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mind starting in September.
And just, you know, I have acloset that like everything just
starts getting stuck into,right?
So that again, I'm not going tobe behind.
Um, and I can actually staywithin my budgets because I
definitely find that the morerunning late I am, the more
expensive things start beinglate.
Cause I'm just willing to spendanything to check it off,
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right?
Versus starting earlier.
And, you know, I know a lot ofpeople are waiting for the
sales, and that's great.
Um, but those are two very realways that I try to start early,
and that gives me momentum.
Like I just find that because Istarted early, because I have
that momentum, I'm feelingreally good as I continue
through because I'm like, okay,yay, I've got this.
Ciera Lancaster (23:15):
Yeah.
It probably helps you to beable to enjoy your priorities
that time of year a lot morebecause you don't have that
to-do list in the back of yourmind of like, I need to be doing
all of this stuff.
Leah Remilett (23:26):
Yes.
I don't want to get stuck in,oh my gosh, I still have an A B
C D E F G, right?
So I just try to take some timeearly, you know, in October, in
early November, whenever it'sgoing to be for that person.
But I try to take time veryearly and be like, okay, what
are the what are the ABC D EFGs?
And then what of those can I doearly?
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A lot of times my Christmascards are done two months early.
Like I'm like, uh, I mean, Ican design that way early, just
have it done.
Most of us do our familypictures in either end of summer
or early fall.
So it's like, just get thosecompletely designed and ready.
Be way ahead of the game onthat.
So there's just simple thingsthat I'm like, well, there's not
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really a reason to wait.
I can have that done superearly.
And so I just do.
And that way, yes, I can bemore present and actually feel
like I'm enjoying the holidaysversus like I'm trying to
survive them.
Ciera Lancaster (24:19):
Let's talk about um, we're kind of talking
about obligations, but let'stalk about like some boundaries
on people pleasers and howpeople that like to say yes to
everyone because they don't wantto let anyone down.
How can we stay firm to ourboundaries any time of the year,
but also in um holiday season?
Leah Remilett (24:38):
Which can be extra hard because usually
that's family who is making youfeel very guilty and obligated
that you need to go.
So, okay, number one, numberone thing above anything else is
we have got to untrainourselves from saying yes on the
spot.
That is going to save us allmore angst than really anything
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else.
If you can just stop sayingsure, right in the moment when,
and everybody knows what I'mtalking about.
And you have this dialoguehappening instantly in your head
where you are having a completefight with yourself over that
you just said yes to this, andhow are you going to make it
work?
And you have just let down yourfamily, and oh my gosh, right?
Like we have all experiencedthat.
So the very first thing for anypeople pleaser is you have got
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to learn how to not say yes inthe moment.
And it's a habit.
It is a habit because you lovegetting to see the reaction of
them, be so happy with you, andit makes you feel good, and it's
this endorphin boost.
And you've got to trainyourself and break that very
real bad habit of saying yes onthe spot.
And you're gonna want sometools for that, right?
Like, oh, that sounds great.
(25:45):
I'm gonna have to look at mycalendar when I get home.
Oh, that sounds amazing.
I'm gonna have to check with myhubby first.
I'll try it to get back to you.
I love to even turn it intolike, that sounds so much fun.
Can you send me a text about itso I can look at my calendar
later?
I try to put it on them morethan I'm putting the next task
on me.
But that that is going toabsolutely like step one.
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If you can do just that, Ipromise it's all gonna get
easier from there.
Step two is going to be thatyou're going to have to come up
with some ways to say no in avery, very sweet, polite way so
that you don't feel like you'reabout to, you know, create drama
and feel okay about saying nosometimes.
(26:30):
And I I get it, I get that thatcan be so, so hard.
Uh, we actually did an entireepisode on the People Pleasers
Guide to saying no.
It's episode 60.
So if anybody is like uh thisparticular one, they're like,
this is me, this is me, you canjust go to 660.balancingbusy
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podcast.com and hear that peoplepleasers guide.
But yeah, that would be kind ofmy starting place.
Ciera Lancaster (26:57):
What about those of us who are listening
who might be like, I've triedeverything, I've tried setting
up boundaries, I've triedsetting up systems, and I just
feel so overwhelmed still.
What's one small thing that youwould say to them that they
could just take away from thisepisode to start feeling less
busy?
Leah Remilett (27:15):
Okay, if you are generally just feeling like you
kind of live in overwhelm, likechaos is your mascot.
Okay, like you're like chaosand me, we go everywhere
together, and I'm really tiredof it.
I want a new mascot.
Then I'm gonna say stop tryingto change everything and just
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start changing one tiny thingconsistently.
So I am a very all-in person.
I think that was probablypretty obvious with the whole
dinner fiasco, right?
But like I tend to go like fullsend.
It is like, I constantly jokethat I feel like I have been
working to install the dimmerswitch in myself for you know
(27:59):
the last 20 years, right?
Like, because I am either yesor I am completely no.
And so um, whenever I sawsomething that was out of
alignment, it didn't feel good,I'm out of balance, I'm feeling
overwhelmed, I would make themistake of then going all in to
try to fix it, which also wasn'tsustainable.
Like I was still keeping thesame pattern of too much, just
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on the flip side of thependulum.
What I've learned now is thatstarting by making very tiny
changes, and everything in youis gonna want to argue.
Everything in you wants to belike, but if I can do one thing,
I could I could do five, I'd befine, I can do five.
But don't do it.
Just start with one smallchange, get consistent with
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that, and then add the next one.
It is incredible what canhappen when we just start
stacking those.
And that's why I love stackingsimple systems.
You start stacking enough ofthem and your entire world, your
life experience can change, butnot if you try to do everything
at once, because you will justoverwhelm yourself and then
default back to where you wereat.
Ciera Lancaster (29:09):
Okay, you have you talked about your family
dinner system.
Do you have one system that youhave implemented in your life
that you are like this for mewas a game changer?
Do you have one of yourfavorites?
Leah Remilett (29:19):
So, okay, personal or business?
Ciera Lancaster (29:22):
Let's do one of both.
Leah Remilett (29:23):
Personal.
Oh, I don't know if I would sayone particularly is a game
changer.
Definitely dinner.
Um, it's it's when you stackthem together, right?
Because like I have a systemfor laundry, I have a system for
dinner, I have a system for myexercising, I have a system for
my morning routine.
I have, and then like I put allthose together and it's just
magical.
In my business, I would saybatching.
(29:44):
I would say batching isprobably my favorite
productivity strategy, and it'sprobably my favorite system that
I use.
So, and and really actuallythis goes in my personal life
too.
I'm I don't do a little bit allthe time.
I put them all together and Ido it at once.
So for example, if I'm going tobe recording solo podcast
(30:07):
episodes, I'm batching them.
I will probably record three orfour solo episodes on the same
day.
And on a different day, Ibatched planning them and
researching for them andstructuring them.
And then I come and I record,right?
So it's batched doinglike-minded tasks all together.
This is so silly, but it showsup in my personal life too.
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Literally yesterday was batchday where I batched all my
vitamins for two weeks for themorning.
I batched all my vitamins, mynighttime vitamins for two
weeks.
Have this little like, it'sweird, but it's like roasted
dandelion with like, anyways,it's very healthy, but I like
it.
It's yummy.
And um and it takes threedifferent ingredients.
It's like I use like thisspecial cinnamon, I use the
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roasted dandelion, and then Iuse this special maca chocolate
thing.
And I don't like having to pullall three bags out and scoop
them.
So I got these littlecontainers and I literally make
like 12 of them at once and thenI put them into like a little
container and that way I canpull out one at a time and it's
just faster and more convenient.
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I like to make this littleprotein drink that I make myself
and so I bought little glassbottles and I will literally
make four at a time instead ofhaving to make one every day and
then have them in the glassbottles in the fridge.
So I mean those are simplelittle systems where I batch it
and then it's just there andready for me.
And then I feel so much moreproductive because it's like oh
it's already ready like it'salready there and I pull it out
(31:32):
and I'm like yay me.
Ciera Lancaster (31:34):
That's so good.
I I love batching.
I think batching is genius.
It's like to me that's probablylike the number one system.
If anything like you could justlike batch it like and I I've
just recently started to liketry and implement it in more
areas of my life and it's beenso helpful because um for
example laundry is one that Ijust started batching.
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I used to do a load of laundryevery single day.
And I know for some people likethis was one of those things
where I'm like some but everyoneswears by it.
They say that this is the thingthat you should do.
And I was like but for me itall ends up on my bedroom floor.
Like I can't I can wash it butI can't get it put away and then
I'm still doing one a day andso it's just piling and piling
and piling.
(32:17):
So I've started batching and Ijust have a laundry day and it
has been so nice because I onlythink about laundry on Fridays
and so every other day of theweek I don't think about laundry
at all.
And it I have been reallysurprised at how much like brain
power it has freed up becauseI'm not thinking about it.
So I love batching.
I love it.
And so and I mean the exactsame thing.
Leah Remilett (32:39):
Yes so you know the exact same thing.
Everyone swears by one load aday.
I tried it I hated it I wasnever on top of it.
Monday is my day and it's allon Monday.
It's one single day and itworks so well for me.
And that's what I love.
Like we're all gonna find ourdifferent ways because obviously
there's people out there whothink that one load a day they
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swear by it.
It did not work for me.
And I think you know youtalking about how like I love
that you said you know this iswhat everyone says but it didn't
work for me and I'm doing itthis way and now it is working.
And that is the sign when itrelieves that mental clutter
right like there was thisconstant mental fatigue mental
clutter that you had whereyou're like oh my gosh I've got
(33:20):
to put this away it's sitting onmy floor I haven't finished oh
I've got to get another load inoh where am I at?
And you have alleviated thatand that's when you know you
have a killer system is whenthat like mental struggle goes
away.
Ciera Lancaster (33:33):
Yes.
Yes.
Oh so good.
Okay, this has been reallygood.
We've talked about systemswe've talked about boundaries,
batching I feel like we'vecovered a really good amount of
stuff that is going to makeanyone feel less busy, less
overwhelmed.
We're going to break up withbusy finally like um so thank
you so much.
I loved talking to you and Ilove to end all of my interviews
(33:55):
with this one question is whatis one thing you try to do every
day that helps you feel moreconfident?
Leah Remilett (34:01):
Okay so I was trying to think about this and I
was like oh it should be aroundbalance and but but here's the
honest truth the thing that I doevery day that helps me feel
more confident is get dressed.
It's get dressed.
If if we end up wearing ourpajamas all day or like the
workout clothes or whatever, Ijust I don't feel as confident.
So it's my morning routine whenI accomplish that morning
(34:25):
routine and I think probably oneof the bigger parts of that is
getting dressed.
But my full morning routine islike I look for what I'm
grateful for.
I do my scripture study Iexercise I drink my lemon water.
When I do that morning routineI just feel so proud of myself
like yay me I'm I'm a person whodrinks lemon water and
exercises and reads herscriptures you know like I feel
(34:48):
so good about myself that then Ifeel so much more confident
going into my day.
Ciera Lancaster (34:52):
Yeah yeah I think getting dressed it it's
crazy how much it shifts youryour brain and your feeling like
it's just yeah it's a reallygood one.
So I love that it's so fun tohear everyone that I interview
they all are different ones andI don't know if I've had a
repeat yet.
So it's really that's amazing Iknow I did I did an episode I
can't remember which one it isit's like in the 70s I did an
(35:14):
episode a while back where I didlike a a compilation of all of
the everyone all of everyone'sanswers that I've ever
interviewed.
And yeah I really don't thinkthat there was a repeat.
So it's it's really fun tohear.
Leah Remilett (35:25):
So thank you I'm like so fascinated with this I'm
like I want to know whateverybody's like thinking I'll
send you the episode and I canput it in the show notes too for
our listeners.
Ciera Lancaster (35:34):
But yeah it's it's fun to listen to everyone's
they're all different.
Leah Remilett (35:38):
Leah can you tell our listeners where they can
connect with you where they canfind you you mentioned that
calendar that you have on yourwebsite do you have other
resources that people can findor a community that people can
join absolutely okay so anyonewho is like oh my gosh I just
want more time I would say uhbest place to go is time dot
(36:03):
balancingbusy dot com.
And that is going to give youmy my 10 favorite time saving
hacks.
Like these are my go-tosthey're super quick they're
super easy but they have savedme so much time.
So time.balancingbusy dot comobviously we know that your
audience has amazing taste inpodcasts.
(36:23):
So I think they should kind offollow balancing busy like
you're right here in your appright now so just search
balancing busy hit that followbutton and I think that's two
great ways to start connectingwith me.
And then I've got all kinds ofresources on my website so they
can find all those as welllater.
There's all kinds of freebiesand uh resources there and ways
to work with me.
Ciera Lancaster (36:44):
Awesome.
Yes your balancing busy podcastis so good.
I love listening to it.
Do you have any like newlaunches or products or courses
or anything that's coming outthat you would like to share
with the listeners.
Leah Remilett (36:56):
So I would say the three main things are uh
balanced home.
So for my mamas who are likeyou know we we talked about
laundry we talked about dinnersif you want to know and
understand and hear like all ofthe systems in my home uh that
is an opportunity and it reallyreally well priced like that is
like a great gateway get to knowme.
(37:17):
Okay.
So uh also for anyone who'strying to use chat GPT
especially in their business andthey want to make it actually
sound just like their voice ifnot better, have it be able to
be your personal assistant,write your copy, all that kind
of stuff I have a uh mini class,the Chat GPT advantage.
And then for my entrepreneurialmamas, we have Mom Business
(37:40):
Academy.
And mom business academy itactually has both of those
things I just talked aboutinside of it, but it is every
system in my entire business andit's broken down into four
tracks more time, more moneymore um visibility and more
reach.
So it is literally every singlearea of my business and every
system in it to just get yourlife back.
(38:02):
So that would that would besome of my favorite ways right
now to be able to work with me.
Ciera Lancaster (38:08):
Awesome.
Thank you so much.
I'm glad that we can sharethose with the listeners and yes
I you are just you're amazing.
So I just love that thank you.
Your podcast is a fun way toget to see a little glimpse of
your personal life too which Ihave really loved like hearing
about your kids and what you'redoing with just your personal
side of things too and howyou're implementing all of your
strategies into that area ofyour life as well.
(38:30):
Thank you so much Leah this wasreally good and moms who are
listening I hope that as you'rediving back into your day you
can just think what's one busything that you could cross off
your list right now?
What's one busy thing that youcould put a system in place now
so that it makes it easier foryou so you can break up with
busy for good.
(38:50):
So thank you so much Leah thiswas really great.
Leah Remilett (38:53):
Thank you for having me.
I was so excited to be here.
Ciera Lancaster (38:56):
All of my listeners who are a doula a
photographer you have an Etsyshop you have a clothing
boutique you're an aestheticianyou're a realtor you have a
house cleaning business you're alife coach whatever it is if
you have a small business listenup because I have something for
you.
I have come across an amazingemail system.
It is Flowdesk.com slash Cslash confident.
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That's a big deal 50% offthat's awesome.
Flowdesk is amazing and let metell you why I love it.
I can segment all of mycustomers into different
basically groups think of itthat way and I I can have it so
that if somebody joins my emaillist they are automatically sent
out a drip of emails I changedit to it so that it was over a
week's time but you cancompletely customize it to
(39:42):
yourself.
And this will automatically getthem set up on your email
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offering it automatically sendsit to them for you and you can
easily create emails that youcan send as often as you want.
I do mine once a week and it'sjust so easy.
I have the template I have mybrand I can make it all look the
(40:02):
same every week so I have thatconsistency and I absolutely
love it.
So go to flo desk flodesk.com/c/ confident and you can get
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Thanks for listening connectwith me on Instagram at
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someone in your life who coulduse a little reminder of just
(40:25):
how amazing they already are.
Stay confidently beautiful
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