Ep #143 It's Like Smoking on an Airplane: How Parenting Practices Change

For decades, discipline was shaped by behavioral science—rewards, punishments, and timeouts were seen as essential parenting tools. But the research has moved on. Have we?

In this episode, we trace the evolution of parenting science—from Skinner and Watson to Porges and Siegel—and explore why many of the most common strategies today (like timeouts) may be as outdated as smoking on an airplane.

Inside the episode:

• 📚 What polyvagal theory and attachment science reveal about emotional regulation
• 🧠 Why isolation during distress (i.e. timeouts) is neurologically counterproductive
• 🐀 What lab rats and chocolate chips can teach us about connection as a survival need
• 📉 How cortisol levels and brain imaging show the hidden cost of disconnection
• 🧬 Why co-regulation is foundational to brain development—not a parenting luxury
• 🚫 And how old-school discipline is quietly being replaced by neuroscience-backed strategies

If you've ever wondered why your child’s behavior doesn’t change with consequences—or if you're ready to move from control to connection—this episode will give you the science (and stories) to make the shift.

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