Ep #160 I Love You... and No: The Art of Calm, Connected Limits at Bedtime

What do you do when the sticker charts work… but they don’t feel right? 

In today’s episode, I’m inviting you behind the scenes of a real coaching call with a brave, thoughtful CMP parent who’s wrestling with something we all face: the tension between loving connection and firm limits—especially when it comes to bedtime, behavior charts, and consequences that seem to work (but don’t sit well in your gut). 

We talk about what to do when your child comes out of their room twenty times after lights out, how to set firm limits without flipping into frustration or giving in, and why rewards and consequences often miss the mark (even when they look effective in the short term). 

If you’ve ever felt torn between being the calm, connected parent you want to be, and just wanting your kid to stay in their room already—this episode is for you. 

Inside, you’ll hear us explore:

• How to hold boundaries from compassion instead of control
• Why developmental insight changes everything about "consequences"
• The sneaky ways we think we’re doing “nothing” when we’re actually doing the most important work
• A new lens for sticker charts, bedtime resistance, and behavior at school
• How to be the “tuning fork” that helps your child feel safe and settle (even if you’re tired and done)

This is real-life parenting in action—messy, meaningful, and full of the kind of nuance that doesn’t make the parenting books.
 
Come listen in. I think you’ll feel seen, inspired, and ready to set limits with more love and less fear.
 
xo, Andee

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