How to Align Your Business & Life with Who You’re Becoming | EP 473

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Ever look back at your past self and think, Wow, I can’t believe I used to think that way? That’s not something to be embarrassed about—it’s proof of growth. The most successful people in business and life aren’t the ones who rigidly stick to one path forever. They’re the ones who allow themselves to evolve, change their minds, and redefine success as they go.

In this episode, I take you through the decades of my own evolution—how my 20s were about figuring things out, my 30s were about creativity and responsibility colliding, my 40s were about radical shifts and deep loss, and now, in my 50s, I feel more in alignment than ever. Through it all, the core of who I am has stayed the same, but how I express it? That’s changed—and that’s the key to long-term success.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in an identity or business model that no longer fits, this episode is for you. You’ll walk away with full permission to pivot, adapt, and lean into what truly lights you up. And if you’re ready to take this deeper, check out The Embodied Success Method in the show notes below—it’s designed to help you move into your next season with clarity and confidence.

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Episode Transcript

Sheila (00:01):
The most successful people, the ones who create
lasting impact, are the ones whoaren't afraid to change their
minds, the ones who allow theirperspectives, their priorities
and even their businesses toshift as they grow.
And I know this personallybecause my own evolution has
been anything but linear.
Hi, welcome to the Connect withSheila Botelho podcast.

(00:24):
I'm a self-care strategist andsuccess coach, and I'm committed
to helping you reconnect toyour purpose, elevate your
wellbeing and build your versionof a happy, successful life.
Here's something most peopledon't realize the essence of who
you are, your values, yourintegrity, your heart.
That remains like that stayswith you, but how you embody

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those things shifts as you gainexperience through your life.
Let's take loyalty, for example.
In my 20s I thought loyaltymeant standing by people, no
matter what, whether it was inrelationships, friendships or
even business partnerships.
But by my 40s I had learnedthat real loyalty isn't about

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staying in places that no longerserve you.
It's about being loyal toyourself first, so you can show
up fully for the people whotruly align with you.
It took me a while to learnthat one.
So often we hold onto olddefinitions of things because
we're afraid to outgrow them,but I've noticed that growth

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really requires redefining whattruly matters to us.
As I look back on the decades,I see how each decade had
specific things happen, andthere were certain areas of
growth that I stepped into.
For instance, in my twenties, Iwas really hungry to find my

(01:50):
place in the world.
I was diving into personaldevelopment, working in a
startup and figuring out who Iwas in relationships.
I ended up getting married andstarted building a business with
my husband, and while I waspassionate, I was also winging
it.
I was in my 20s, so I thoughtsuccess was about doing more,

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learning more, proving myself,being everywhere all at once,
and while that drive waspowerful, I was also running
myself into the ground, tryingto keep up and also comparing
myself a lot with the othersuccessful people around me, not
really looking at what innatelymade me special in my own way
that I could go after and use ina beautiful way.

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In my 30s, creativity andresponsibility really collided,
because it was all aboutexpansion.
I started writing, I gotinvolved in nonprofit work, I
launched a brand, I started afamily, and it was a decade of
saying yes to creative pursuitsbut also learning how to balance

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personal and professionalgrowth, and I learned that my
success wasn't just about meanymore.
It was about my family, mylegacy and the people I was
impacting, and I startedshifting from doing everything
to doing what actually mattered.
When I hit my forties.
That was a decade whereeverything I thought I knew got

(03:22):
flipped upside down.
If you've been following mystory, you probably know some of
the pieces of that story.
I explored a new business modelthat ended up flopping.
It turned out to not be thething that was for me.
I'm still happy that I wentafter that, though, because I
was curious and I would alwaysprobably wonder what would have
happened if I hadn't done it.
I also started home educating mykids, and then one of the

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biggest shifts was when I had tosay goodbye to my sister.
Losing her changed everythingfor me.
It forced me to look at what Iwas doing and ask is this really
how I want to spend my life?
And fortunately, there was alot that I was doing that I
really still loved and that wasreally clarifying for me.
And then I saw some things thatI knew were not meant for me

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anymore.
That turned out to be mostly inthe form of relationships, and
that's when I dove fully intothe online space.
I started surrounding myselfwith entrepreneurs who were
running businesses of alldifferent sizes in all different
fields, running them their way,and I realized I had permission
to do things differently too.
I launched my podcast, I saidgoodbye to old business models

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that no longer fit, andeventually I also had to say
goodbye to my parents with oh mygoodness, such a full heart,
and that was another deepreminder that life is too short
to build something that doesn'tfully align with who you are.
And then came my fifties.
That's where I'm at now, and Ifeel like I'm stepping into the

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most unapologetic version ofmyself.
I'm working in the tech space,coaching high-level
entrepreneurs and serving awider range of clients than ever
before.
And the best part I no longerfeel like I have to prove myself
.
I've let go of the pressure tofit into someone else's
definition of success.
I know my strengths, I know myvalues and I trust that, as the

(05:19):
world keeps evolving, I get toevolve too.
And what's really cool aboutthat is I actually have taken
more of a learner's stance thanever before, because I want to
grow and change.
Even though I'm in my 50s.
I'm not entering into every daythinking I know everything.
I'm entering into every daywith an excitement to see what I

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can learn, and it's often frompeople much younger than me,
which is really cool.
Now this brings me to you.
There's this idea in ourculture that if you pivot, if
you change your mind, you'reflaky or inconsistent.
But think about it.
Would you trust a doctor whowas still using methods from the
1980s?
Would you take business advicefrom someone who refused to

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adapt to the digital world?
No, you wouldn't, becausegrowth requires change.
Every experience, everychallenge, every success, every
season of your life depends onyour understanding of who you
are and what you're meant to do.
Your definition of success willevolve, your business will
evolve, and that's exactly howit should be.

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So if there's something in yourlife right now that doesn't
feel aligned anymore a businessmodel, a relationship, a way of
working it's okay to let it go,because what's waiting for you
on the other side of thatdecision?
That's where your next levellies.
So here's my question for youtoday what is something you've

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changed your mind about in thepast 10 years and how has it
shaped who you are today?
I'd love to hear from you, dmme or comment with your story
and if you're ready to step intothis next season of growth with
full alignment.
Check out the show notes fordetails on the embodied success
method and my guided meditationthat goes along with it to help

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you reconnect with your vision,because your evolution isn't
something to fear.
It's your greatest advantage.
Thank you for listening.
I hope you have a beautifulrest of your week.
Be blessings you.