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September 20, 2021 25 mins

“You don’t need to know how it’s going to unfold. You just need to take the first step.” 
— Allison Villa 

In this episode we are continuing the Couple’s Sandbox Spotlight Series, but for this special episode, I invited my husband Arjan to join me! We share some insight into where our relationship is today. 

If you’re a couple that has experienced a significant lifestyle change this year like a move to a new location, switching to homeschooling, or completing a reno, then this episode is for you. 

Arjan shares that in the past year we’ve had a lot of external factors that have impacted our relationship, including homeschooling our two daughters, ages 7 and 9, renovating our River House, and the day-to-day struggles which (let’s be honest) often take precedence over our relationship. 

These lifestyle shifts take a lot of time and energy, and add greatly to our mental load as a couple. We were both surprised by our results from the Relationship Season quiz. We each took the quiz separately and the results gave us a lot to talk about! 

In this interview, Arjan and I talk about some of the challenges we’ve had recently, and how our foundation of self-care, communication, and trust, has helped us move through those challenges together. 

In this episode of Couplehood, you’ll discover: 

● How a strong foundation can keep you connected as a couple, even in times of change ● The importance of your relationship within your family unit - remembering that what happens within your couple filters down to your kids 

● How self-compassion can bring more patience to everyone in your life 

“When you have the foundations of emotional trust and solid communication, you can still feel deeply connected as a couple despite going through hard things. ” 

— Allison Villa 

Highlights: 

00:40 Meet Arjan 

02:46 What relationship season are we in? 

04:51 The importance of couple time 

06:51 Being in limbo 

07:30 Connected 

10:00 The learning curve 

14:44 Practicing words of affirmation 

18:10 Letting go of control 

19:28 Finding self compassion 

20:03 Keeping our vision in mind

22:20 Gratitude 

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