Your "Type" Isn’t a Preference—It’s a Trauma Bond (Day 6) | UNSTUCK: Rewrite Your Love Story

🎧 DAY 6: Your "Type" Isn’t a Preference—It’s a Trauma Bond | UNSTUCK: 30 Days to Rewrite Your Love Story

🔥 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

You're swiping on Tinder, pausing at "fit, athletic guys with abs for days"—"He's my type," you sigh. But here's the truth: Your type isn't a preference. It's a trauma bond. That spark you feel? It's not always passion. Sometimes, it's chaos wearing cologne.

In this game-changing episode of Unstuck: 30 Days to Rewrite Your Love Story, host Christy Holt (Ex-Codependent) drops the mic on why you keep falling for emotionally unavailable, six-pack-having, "just ask" guys. Spoiler: It's not them—it's the cycle of highs and lows your nervous system mistakes for "aliveness."

Time to rewire your attraction. Healthy love isn't just about chemistry—it's about safety, consistency, and someone who doesn't make you question where you stand.

⏱️ WATCH/LISTEN ALONG

0:00 – "He's My Type" Lie (Your Attraction is a Trauma Loop)

0:56 – Spark vs. Survival Mode (Why Chaos Feels Like Chemistry)

1:38 – Childhood Wiring (How Your Parents Shaped Your "Type")

4:08 – Ex Audit Exercise (Spot the Pattern, Rewire Your Love Blueprint)

4:57 – Add to Your F*ck It List: "Waiting for My Type to Change"

5:47 – Tools to Break Free from Toxic Patterns

💬 KEY QUOTES (SHAREABLE AF)

"Your type isn't a preference. It's a pattern. And chemistry isn't always passion—sometimes it's chaos wearing cologne."

"Trauma bonds aren't about love. They're about survival. That high? It's just your nervous system recognizing chaos as home."

"You're not waiting for the right one. You're unlearning the wrong ones."

"Healthy love isn't just a spark. It's someone who doesn't make you question where you stand."

(Tag @CoachChristyHolt if these hit home! 📲)

🔥 YOUR DAY 6 REBELLION: REWIRE YOUR ATTRACTION

1. AUDIT YOUR EXES

📝 List every ex (even the "three dates and ghosted" ones).

✍️ Next to each, write what drew you to them (fit, intense, emotionally unavailable…).

🔍 Circle the patterns. Now ask: Is this passion or a trauma loop?

2. ADD TO YOUR F*CK IT LIST

🗑️ "Waiting for my type to change" — write it down, then burn it or scream it into your Notes app.

3. INSTANT PATTERN INTERRUPT

▶️ Blast Gaslighter by The Chicks: https://bit.ly/loverebel💃 Move like someone who's done repeating history.

SHOW YOUR AWARENESS: 📸 Tag @CoachChristyHolt with your "Aha!" moment from your ex audit.

RESOURCES & LINKS

💻 LOVE UNSTUCK BOOK: Break Toxic Patterns for Good (Your no-BS guide to rewiring attraction.) https://loveunstuck.com🎙️

RELATED EPISODE: Spotting Success in Love: 20 Green Flags https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/christy-holt/episodes/Spotting-Success-in-Love-20-Green-Flags-for-a-Happier--Healthier-Relationship-e2fstk5

🔜 NEXT EPISODE: Stop Dating Projects (Spoiler: If they "just need a little fixing," you're their therapist, not their girlfriend.)

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