December 26, 2024 • 9 mins
Episode Summary
In this enlightening episode of "Differently," Carla Reeves explores the idea of leading with questions rather than rushing to find answers. She delves into how asking the right questions can shift your perspective and unlock new possibilities for growth and fulfillment. Carla shares her personal journey and experiences with Style School, providing valuable insights on how to approach change and discomfort for a greater purpose. She encourages listeners to reflect on powerful questions that have the potential to transform their lives as they step into the new year.
Key Takeaways
- Lead with Questions:
- Asking better questions opens up new possibilities and deeper insights.
- Transform Discomfort:
- Embrace discomfort for the sake of growth and living a fuller life.
- Reflect on Key Questions:
- Consider questions like "What will I regret if I don't act today?" or "Am I responding in faith or fear?" to gain clarity and direction.
- Personal Commitment:
- Carla shares her experience with Style School and how committing to discomfort led to personal growth and fulfillment.
- Actionable Insights:
- Encourages listeners to act on their inspirations and commitments to live a life without regrets.
Powerful Questions to Reflect On
- What is it I want out of this?
- What if I moved home?
- What if I went all in on my vision?
- What if I closed the doors of my business?
- What will I regret at the end of my life if I don’t act today?
- What would confidence do here?
- Am I responding in faith or fear?
- Am I acting in love or fear?
Notable Quotes
- "Getting uncomfortable for the sake of something greater is a must if you really want to live a full life."
- "Questions actually open the door that answers might keep closed."
- "Your life changes when you say yes to you."
Resources Mentioned
- Style School by Jenny Zook:
- Visit
- jennyzook.com
- for more information.
- Book:
- Becoming New
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
I'm Carla Reeves and this is Differently.
Whether you feel stuck insurvival, navigating a change or
seeking more for your life, maythis podcast be your weekly
nudge to take a risk to build alife that is uniquely bold,
authentic and in alignment withyour deepest values.
What if you worried less aboutthe bumps in the road and
(00:23):
instead got equipped for thejourney?
Get ready to rethink what'spossible.
Welcome to Differently.
Welcome back if you've beenaround a while.
I'm Carla Reeves and today Iwant to explore something that
might shift how you approach thenew year leading with questions
instead of rushing to findanswers.
(00:46):
That's what this conversationis about.
I've been participating in styleschool with Jenny Zook and if
you don't know her, you mightwant to check her workout.
Her website is JennyZookcom andI'll make sure we get it in the
show notes.
I had been in her membership,but mostly just observing
everyone else and not actuallypracticing the getting dressed
(01:09):
and taking photos and beingbrave and sharing the photos in
the group.
I've been thinking of actuallystopping my membership because I
wasn't getting the results Iwanted, but I've been watching
the other women in the groupevolve in their style and they
were like standing tall in theirclothes and their choices, and
it's been awesome to see theirgrowth.
So I sat down and, instead offeeling frustrated by my lack of
(01:33):
results, I did an inventory,which started with asking
questions, and these are thequestions I asked myself what is
it I want out of this?
And the answer to that was tofeel confident in choosing my
clothes in the morning, get outof my rut with my clothes,
because I can tend to wear thesame things, my very favorite
pieces jeans and t-shirts and Iwanted to have fun and feel
(01:56):
great in my body, because thatimpacts how I show up for my day
.
And then I asked myself what isit that I'm actually doing?
And what I was actually doingwas really hiding and kind of
watching, standing on thesidelines and not doing the work
, not doing the practice.
Then I asked myself what's thestory I'd been telling myself,
which is I'm not really good atthis, I don't really participate
(02:19):
in groups, well, and yada, yada, yada, all this noise.
That is nonsense.
And then the next question Iasked was what am I willing to
commit to get the results that Idesire?
And the commitments I decidedon was getting on the playground
, taking December and January tolike really play full out in
this style school.
Get on the playground insteadof standing on the sidelines,
(02:41):
take the photos and share themin the group, engage in the
group and dress up for work athome, just because, just because
it will be fun, it will give mepractice and I'll feel better.
And this is what came out ofthat.
I've been sharing photos thisweek, I've been getting feedback
, I've been connecting more withthe amazing ladies in the group
(03:01):
.
I've been having fun.
Yes, I said that I've beengetting dressed in real clothes,
with shoes, even though I workat home, and my husband has been
noticing.
Bonus side point the reason Ishare all this with you is
because getting uncomfortablefor the sake of something
greater is a must, and if youreally want to live a full life
(03:24):
and squeeze all of the juice outof this beautiful life that
we've been given, we have to getuncomfortable.
Sometimes, in order to getuncomfortable, we have to mix
things up, and asking yourselfnew questions instead of looking
for answers is a powerful wayto do that.
In my God time yesterday in themorning, I read in a book I'm
(03:45):
reading that's called BecomingNew, that comfort is a small
step away from conforming to thepatterns of this world, which
is not what I want to be up to,and I don't think you do either.
You know we're naturally wiredto seek answers.
We want certainty, clarity andsolutions.
But what I'm discovering in myown journey and through coaching
(04:07):
others is that the real magiclies in asking better questions.
Think about it when we'resolely focused on finding
answers, we miss the deeperinsights and the unexpected
possibilities and the truedesires of our hearts.
Questions actually open thedoor that answers might keep
(04:28):
closed.
Think about it when you ask apowerful question and then
you're kind of sitting with that.
There's possibility, there'snew thoughts that can emerge,
there's promptings in your heartthat can arrive.
As we approach the new year,here are some powerful questions
that have transformed my lifeand maybe they'll be helpful for
you.
One of the questions was when Iwas I don't know like 28 or 30,
(04:54):
I don't know between 28 and 30,.
I had just been through divorce.
I was here in Arizona, notwhere my family is.
I was having probably goingthrough one of the hardest times
in my life at that point and Iwas longing to be with my family
and being home and the comfortsof all of that.
But I was telling myself that Ihad to stay, like I couldn't do
(05:16):
that.
That would be failing.
And there was a moment that Ijust asked myself what if I
moved home, what if you movedhome?
And once I gave myselfpermission to actually consider
it is when I found my desire tostay and build a life here in
Arizona.
So another question in thosemoments this last year when I
(05:38):
have that fear, doubt andconfusion swoop in and I want to
shut the doors of my businessand run away from all the scary
things I need to do, I askedmyself what if?
What if you close the doors ofyour business?
What if you stop doing thisthing?
And often I'm not going to theperfect answer lives there, you
know.
Another question I've askedmyself before is when
(05:59):
relationships get hard.
I've asked myself what if thisrelationship was no longer in my
life?
Tell you what that moves me totears, because you get a lot of
clarity about what's importantand how important that
relationship in front of youthat you're struggling with is
when you ask that question.
Another question I've beenasking myself is what if I went
all in and doubled down on thevision that's been on my heart
(06:21):
for over two decades.
What would that look like?
What would I do?
Who would I be?
What would I be acting on?
And then, last episode, wetalked about living without
regrets.
Another question is what will Iregret at the end of my life?
If I don't act today, if I fastforward to the end of my life,
what will I regret?
You can listen to last week'sepisode for a little more on
(06:42):
that.
And when I feel doubtful,fearful or want to hide, but
know that's not actually what Iwant to do or align to anything
I'm up to, I ask myself whatwould confidence do here?
And one last one Am Iresponding in faith or fear?
Am I acting in love or fear?
That's also a very clarifyingquestion.
(07:05):
So for today and for the closeof this year and the reflecting
you're doing, try on some ofthese questions the ones I've
shared here, or let your owncome to the surface.
They just might unlock apossibility that you hadn't even
seen.
This can blow your mind.
Your life is a canvas.
You get to take part, be theartist.
You have more say and influencethan you realize and if you
(07:29):
dare to bring God into the foldof planning and creating what
and how you want to show up inthe coming days, get ready to be
absolutely wowed.
Before you go and before weclose the year, I want to remind
you that the doors are open.
We have tools for your lifethat might be the very thing
that you have been looking for.
(07:49):
I have recently updated thesite to reflect the new and
newly updated offerings.
I would love for you to gocheck those out and just see,
see if they resonate for you andwhere you are in your life.
You can go to CarlaReevescomand click on the work with us
tab and find out all about it.
Here's what I know to be trueyour life changes when you say
(08:10):
yes to you, and that change thatyou're looking for doesn't
require your circumstances tochange or others to change.
It begins with you, and I haveseen the magic that happens when
you're courageous enough to gointo the places that feel scary.
These are often the very placeswhere we find our freedom, our
(08:31):
gifts and our true purpose.
My invitation to you what haveyou been thinking about, talking
about but not acting on?
What's that thing that keepsnudging you?
Don't wait for the perfectmoment.
We know that never arrives.
We don't know how much time wehave.
The regrets of the dying rarelyinclude I wish I had played it
safer or I wish I had waitedlonger.
(08:53):
You can go back to last week'sepisode and listen to more on
that.
As you step into this new year,lead with questions, let them
guide you into your next boldstep.
Thank you for tuning in to thisepisode of Differently.
It's been an honor to sharethis conversation with you.
(09:14):
You know, one of the keys toliving fully is to take action
when you're inspired to do so.
I hope you found that spark ofinspiration today and would you
help us spread the word.
Did someone you know come tomind while you were listening?
If this episode could impactsomeone you know, please share
it and pass it along.
(09:34):
New episodes drop weekly, sotap that subscribe button and
join us next time as we continueto challenge the status quo and
get equipped to live lifedifferently.
I'm Carla Reeves and this is Differently.
Whether you feel stuck insurvival, navigating a change or
seeking more for your life, maythis podcast be your weekly
nudge to take a risk to build alife that is uniquely bold,
authentic and in alignment withyour deepest values.
What if you worried less aboutthe bumps in the road and
(00:23):
instead got equipped for thejourney?
Get ready to rethink what'spossible.
Welcome to Differently.
Welcome back if you've beenaround a while.
I'm Carla Reeves and today Iwant to explore something that
might shift how you approach thenew year leading with questions
instead of rushing to findanswers.
(00:46):
That's what this conversationis about.
I've been participating in styleschool with Jenny Zook and if
you don't know her, you mightwant to check her workout.
Her website is JennyZookcom andI'll make sure we get it in the
show notes.
I had been in her membership,but mostly just observing
everyone else and not actuallypracticing the getting dressed
(01:09):
and taking photos and beingbrave and sharing the photos in
the group.
I've been thinking of actuallystopping my membership because I
wasn't getting the results Iwanted, but I've been watching
the other women in the groupevolve in their style and they
were like standing tall in theirclothes and their choices, and
it's been awesome to see theirgrowth.
So I sat down and, instead offeeling frustrated by my lack of
(01:33):
results, I did an inventory,which started with asking
questions, and these are thequestions I asked myself what is
it I want out of this?
And the answer to that was tofeel confident in choosing my
clothes in the morning, get outof my rut with my clothes,
because I can tend to wear thesame things, my very favorite
pieces jeans and t-shirts and Iwanted to have fun and feel
(01:56):
great in my body, because thatimpacts how I show up for my day
.
And then I asked myself what isit that I'm actually doing?
And what I was actually doingwas really hiding and kind of
watching, standing on thesidelines and not doing the work
, not doing the practice.
Then I asked myself what's thestory I'd been telling myself,
which is I'm not really good atthis, I don't really participate
(02:19):
in groups, well, and yada, yada, yada, all this noise.
That is nonsense.
And then the next question Iasked was what am I willing to
commit to get the results that Idesire?
And the commitments I decidedon was getting on the playground
, taking December and January tolike really play full out in
this style school.
Get on the playground insteadof standing on the sidelines,
(02:41):
take the photos and share themin the group, engage in the
group and dress up for work athome, just because, just because
it will be fun, it will give mepractice and I'll feel better.
And this is what came out ofthat.
I've been sharing photos thisweek, I've been getting feedback
, I've been connecting more withthe amazing ladies in the group
(03:01):
.
I've been having fun.
Yes, I said that I've beengetting dressed in real clothes,
with shoes, even though I workat home, and my husband has been
noticing.
Bonus side point the reason Ishare all this with you is
because getting uncomfortablefor the sake of something
greater is a must, and if youreally want to live a full life
(03:24):
and squeeze all of the juice outof this beautiful life that
we've been given, we have to getuncomfortable.
Sometimes, in order to getuncomfortable, we have to mix
things up, and asking yourselfnew questions instead of looking
for answers is a powerful wayto do that.
In my God time yesterday in themorning, I read in a book I'm
(03:45):
reading that's called BecomingNew, that comfort is a small
step away from conforming to thepatterns of this world, which
is not what I want to be up to,and I don't think you do either.
You know we're naturally wiredto seek answers.
We want certainty, clarity andsolutions.
But what I'm discovering in myown journey and through coaching
(04:07):
others is that the real magiclies in asking better questions.
Think about it when we'resolely focused on finding
answers, we miss the deeperinsights and the unexpected
possibilities and the truedesires of our hearts.
Questions actually open thedoor that answers might keep
(04:28):
closed.
Think about it when you ask apowerful question and then
you're kind of sitting with that.
There's possibility, there'snew thoughts that can emerge,
there's promptings in your heartthat can arrive.
As we approach the new year,here are some powerful questions
that have transformed my lifeand maybe they'll be helpful for
you.
One of the questions was when Iwas I don't know like 28 or 30,
(04:54):
I don't know between 28 and 30,.
I had just been through divorce.
I was here in Arizona, notwhere my family is.
I was having probably goingthrough one of the hardest times
in my life at that point and Iwas longing to be with my family
and being home and the comfortsof all of that.
But I was telling myself that Ihad to stay, like I couldn't do
(05:16):
that.
That would be failing.
And there was a moment that Ijust asked myself what if I
moved home, what if you movedhome?
And once I gave myselfpermission to actually consider
it is when I found my desire tostay and build a life here in
Arizona.
So another question in thosemoments this last year when I
(05:38):
have that fear, doubt andconfusion swoop in and I want to
shut the doors of my businessand run away from all the scary
things I need to do, I askedmyself what if?
What if you close the doors ofyour business?
What if you stop doing thisthing?
And often I'm not going to theperfect answer lives there, you
know.
Another question I've askedmyself before is when
(05:59):
relationships get hard.
I've asked myself what if thisrelationship was no longer in my
life?
Tell you what that moves me totears, because you get a lot of
clarity about what's importantand how important that
relationship in front of youthat you're struggling with is
when you ask that question.
Another question I've beenasking myself is what if I went
all in and doubled down on thevision that's been on my heart
(06:21):
for over two decades.
What would that look like?
What would I do?
Who would I be?
What would I be acting on?
And then, last episode, wetalked about living without
regrets.
Another question is what will Iregret at the end of my life?
If I don't act today, if I fastforward to the end of my life,
what will I regret?
You can listen to last week'sepisode for a little more on
(06:42):
that.
And when I feel doubtful,fearful or want to hide, but
know that's not actually what Iwant to do or align to anything
I'm up to, I ask myself whatwould confidence do here?
And one last one Am Iresponding in faith or fear?
Am I acting in love or fear?
That's also a very clarifyingquestion.
(07:05):
So for today and for the closeof this year and the reflecting
you're doing, try on some ofthese questions the ones I've
shared here, or let your owncome to the surface.
They just might unlock apossibility that you hadn't even
seen.
This can blow your mind.
Your life is a canvas.
You get to take part, be theartist.
You have more say and influencethan you realize and if you
(07:29):
dare to bring God into the foldof planning and creating what
and how you want to show up inthe coming days, get ready to be
absolutely wowed.
Before you go and before weclose the year, I want to remind
you that the doors are open.
We have tools for your lifethat might be the very thing
that you have been looking for.
(07:49):
I have recently updated thesite to reflect the new and
newly updated offerings.
I would love for you to gocheck those out and just see,
see if they resonate for you andwhere you are in your life.
You can go to CarlaReevescomand click on the work with us
tab and find out all about it.
Here's what I know to be trueyour life changes when you say
(08:10):
yes to you, and that change thatyou're looking for doesn't
require your circumstances tochange or others to change.
It begins with you, and I haveseen the magic that happens when
you're courageous enough to gointo the places that feel scary.
These are often the very placeswhere we find our freedom, our
(08:31):
gifts and our true purpose.
My invitation to you what haveyou been thinking about, talking
about but not acting on?
What's that thing that keepsnudging you?
Don't wait for the perfectmoment.
We know that never arrives.
We don't know how much time wehave.
The regrets of the dying rarelyinclude I wish I had played it
safer or I wish I had waitedlonger.
(08:53):
You can go back to last week'sepisode and listen to more on
that.
As you step into this new year,lead with questions, let them
guide you into your next boldstep.
Thank you for tuning in to thisepisode of Differently.
It's been an honor to sharethis conversation with you.
(09:14):
You know, one of the keys toliving fully is to take action
when you're inspired to do so.
I hope you found that spark ofinspiration today and would you
help us spread the word.
Did someone you know come tomind while you were listening?
If this episode could impactsomeone you know, please share
it and pass it along.
(09:34):
New episodes drop weekly, sotap that subscribe button and
join us next time as we continueto challenge the status quo and
get equipped to live lifedifferently.
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