April 19, 2023 • 59 mins
Welcome to Disrupting Burnout - While we often define ourselves in the doing, what if we defined ourselves in the being. What if we defined ourselves by who our Heavenly Father says we are and understood that our true identity is that we are created by God and valued as God’s best.
Dr. Alicia D. Ritchey is a progressive educator, consultant, business designer, and trainer, is Founder of A Ritch Enterprise and a National Board-Certified Educator, Dr. Ritchey’s impressive body of research has resulted in a national curriculum used to help develop culturally responsive educators in schools and community-based programs across the country and abroad.
Be More, Do Less Takeaways
● “I am the expression of God.” - Dr. Alicia D. Ritchey
● “Disrupting burnout is disrupting false balance.” - Dr. Alicia D. Ritchey
● “We are called to express God’s best in the earth.” - Dr. Alicia D. Ritchey
● “My relationship with God was one of decapitation.” - Dr. Alicia D. Ritchey
● “The wonderful thing about God is that he’ll meet us where we are.” - Dr. Alicia D. Ritchey
● “We have evolved into burnout.” - Dr. Alicia D. Ritchey
● “Too often, people allow their employer to be the entrepreneur of their lives.” - Dr. Alicia D. Ritchey
● “Burnout is dismembered from purpose.” - Dr. Alicia D. Ritchey
● “The Lord has perfected everything concerning you.” - Dr. Alicia D. Ritchey
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When you get to a place ofburnout, the healing is in
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reconnecting to our trueidentity.
Hey, friends, it's Dr. PBJ hereagain, and I have another
episode of women who definedisruption. Let me tell y'all
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something. This is a season inmy life where God is allowing me
to encounter and to connect withpowerful women. And when I say
powerful women, I'm talkingabout women who are living in
purpose, but are also pullingthat purpose out of others. And
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today, I have the honor ofintroducing you all to a woman
from the first meeting with herfrom my first interaction with
her, my heart was set on fire,to do the thing that God has
called me to do. And we've hadseveral calls since then, and
meetings and she's invited me tospeak at her conference. And
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every time I engage with thispowerful woman, I feel energized
to go do the thing that I wascreated to do. So I know you
want to meet her. I know youwant to meet her, but just a few
things. So Dr. Alicia Ritchey,first of all, she's a national
board certified educated. Now,if you are an educator, you know
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what that means. That means thetop in the country, not just
that, not just that, but Dr.
Ritchey created nationalcurriculum to develop culturally
responsive educators in schoolsand community based programs
across the country and beyond.
Listen, nobody can tell it likeshe can tell it. So I'm going to
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bring her up. But when I tellyou, this woman, lights of fire
in my belly, every time I talkto her, I cannot wait for you
all to hear what she has toshare. Dr. Ritchey, welcome to
the Disrupting Burnout podcast.
Thank you for having me. Dr.
Patrice Jackson, I appreciatethe opportunity.
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Yes, ma'am. Yes, ma'am. So let'sget into it. And I want to
start, I always start by youtelling the people who you are.
Absolutely. And I'll start bysaying that I am the expression
of God. And I lead with that Iam the expression of His love,
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I'm expressing the expression ofHis joy, his peace, His
righteousness, his balance,right the expression of his
balance. I think of thescripture that a false balance
is an abomination. But a justwait, is his delight. So I like
to think that I represent thatin my life. And and I see the
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relationship between thatscripture and even the work that
you do to disrupt burnout.
Because for me disruptingburnout is disrupting that false
balance that people adopt andembrace as a way of life. And so
I like to think of myself asGod's best in the earth. Because
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I believe that we are called toexpress his best in the year.
Oh, my gosh, I don't need withmy you know, my occupation or
vocation. You know, I leave butyou asked, Who are you? And so I
want to start that's a part ofthe disrupting burnout. We often
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define ourselves in the doing.
And today, I want to definemyself in the being,
oh, wait a minute. Okay, wait aminute. So defining yourself as
God's best, I have to part rightthere for a minute. I have to
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part right there for a minutebecause I myself have recognized
recently that I have struggledto identify as my true identity
as who I am. And God's best thatthere may have been lessons in
our lives where we learned thatthat's not humble, where we
learned that that is a pridefulthought. But I've gotten to a
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place where I feel like it's myresponsibility. Yeah, yeah.
Yeah. So originally, if you gaveme a gift, if you gave me a
precious gift, and I just tossedit to the side and acted like I
didn't own it, because I wantedto be humble, rather not honor
the gift you gave. Right? Right.
But if I if I honored that gift,if I share, cherish it, if I
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share it then that gives honorto the value of the gift. So we
don't honor God or anybody elseby pretending that we are not
God's best.
That's right. That's right. Andjust to share an example, I
recall, I'll never forget, whenmy pastor, my spiritual leader,
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said, an hour, we were sitting.
And I, it escapes me where wewere. But I recall being in
conversation with him, and hemade a comment. And he said, I
am Christ. And I thought, Wait,that's blasphemy. And he said,
You are too. And I said, quitehonestly, I said, No. So
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Brother. You can't get me thejoy. No, sir, you go to hell by
yourself on that way. I won't bejoining you there. And then as I
paused, the Spirit spoke to meand said, If I call your head
Alyssia, will your body notrespond also? So if you are the
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body of Christ, how is it thatyou cannot reference yourself as
Christ in the earth? And itoccurred to me that my
relationship with God was one ofthe capitation. So the head was
over here, and the body was overhere. Right? And so how then if
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we are separate and apart, howdo I express who he is, except
that we are one. And so youknow, when you talk about this
notion of humility, it's a partof that false balance, like it
doesn't match. So you know, as Ibegan to think about who am I, I
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can only identify identifymyself as who God is, after all,
we're one.
Oh, my goodness. Yeah. So talkto us about how you express that
in the earth. What does thatlook like? Dr. Ritchey?
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It looks like, for me, it lookslike asking him what is it
because the expression has to beintelligible to the people that
we are communicating the messageto, right. And so I can say to
you, I love you. But if youdon't understand love in that
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way, then I have my love is notintelligible. Right? It's it's
not understood. And in reality,it's insignificant, right?
Because it has no impact. Like Ican't impact you, if I'm not
communicating with you in a waythat is understood to you. So in
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each space that I occupied, thequestion becomes, God helped me
to understand these people, how,how will they in your wisdom?
How can I best serve them in away that they understand that
there's something unique aboutwhat they are experiencing? So
that's what it looks like, forme, whether it is in my writing,
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that they leave that experience.
And wait a minute, there'ssomething very different about
this, because I think thatdifference is what prompts them
to want more, prompts them towant to understand more, and
then it opens the door for me tobe able to say, without saying,
that was God.
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Here's what you just display forus. Because sometimes we've been
taught that our expression ofGod is held for within the walls
of a church, absolutely, or aholy place, right. But what you
just described is, no matterwhere you show up, virtually in
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person or school accompany inyour writing, and your
publishing, no matter in yourevents, no matter where you
show, whatever, no matter howbrilliant, you are, the
expression of God in that space,and a way that the people can
understand exactly. And thatexpression of God is in his
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excellence in the, you know, inthe brilliance in the splendor.
And so when I take on a projectas an example, and I am
committed to excellence, or I'mcommitted to giving them my
best, what I'm saying is thatI'm giving you, God, come on.
And again, if I'm giving you Godin a way that's only
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intelligible in the four wallsof a church, but I can't reach
government, I can't reach theeducation sector, I can't reach
the business sector, then thegospel I preach is any
effective. Come on, right sothey I haven't shown that I'm an
able minister. Right, unless I'mable to express God again, in a
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way that people can understandfor whatever is the space that
we occupy. Hmm, yeah,as you're speaking, I hear
marketplace ministers. Yeah, weare ministers, no matter where
we go. And minister just meansto serve. Like the word Minister
literally, to serve, there itis. Wherever you are serving.
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That place is where youministered. That place is where
you are the expression of God.
And the key that you're teachingus is in the way that the people
can consume it. Absolutely. Ifyou're speaking above their
hands, or if you're trying toforce feed something they're not
ready to receive. You're notbeing effective, that is not
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effective ministry is noteffective education is not
effective work. When we leave,people should know that they've
been impacted by somethingthey've never done.
That's right. That's, that'sright. Absolutely. Yes, they
should.
How did you become aware of thisin your life? Have you always
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known that you are theexpression of God?
No. Tell us No, I spent so muchof my life. Quite honestly, I
struggled with low self esteem.
And so I was I was told that Iwas smart, right? And so the way
to get attention that I thought,you know, was to, to, to be
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smart by doing. And so I spentso much of my life, proving by
doing, right. And I think that'show I ended up him burnout. You
know what I'm saying? Because,because what happens is you can
never do enough, right? Andpeople get used to that, right?
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They get used to you doing so ifever you turn off the doing. And
all of us, you've lost yourvalue. And sometimes I can't do
because I'm tired. Yeah, butyou've been doing so just keep
doing it. Keep doing it. Yeah,but I'm tired. Wait, wait my
joints? Yeah, but you've beendoing so keep doing. So now I'm
just wearing myself out in everyaspect of of, you know, in every
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aspect possible. So my mentalhealth is now compromised. My
physical health is compromised,my emotional health is
compromised. So to answer yourquestion, I did not always know
that. Right? Because I wasn'tleading in the confidence of who
I was in the as the expressionof God in my bed. So if I did,
so now, I can sit halfway crossmy legs, because halfway cross
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my legs across him at the ankle.
And know that my value? It isbecause God is yes. And just
like we have to first believethat he is I had to first
believe that I am. And look, Idon't mean and up there in the
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IL first believe that I am.
Right. So no, I didn't alwaysknow that. And I think the
wonderful thing about God isthat he'll meet us where we are.
And so if he got to meet us inburnout, he's that kind of, he's
good like that he'll meet us andburn out, he'll meet us in tow
up from the flow up, you know,he'll meet us in those low
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places in the dry places to helpus to understand Wait a minute,
so you thought you wassufficient of yourself. So you
trusted in you know, not to goscript or or in the arm of the
flesh. That what what lifepeople had designed for you
what's going to get you to whereyou need to be you trusted in
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all of that. And only to findthat you ended up here. So my
dad used to say the end,justifies the means. In other
words, the outcome, excuse me,I'm sorry, the outcome validates
the process. And so if I endedup in a low place, where as an
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outcome, if I ended up burnedout as an outcome, there was
something wrong with my process.
So I had it was in that outcome,the adverse, you know, effect of
the process that I learned thatsomething is wrong with the
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process. Right. So to answeryour question, no, I wasn't
always there. I was not quitehonestly, I was far from there.
I feel like you were in myprayer time this this morning.
Oh, wow. This morning becauseliterally this morning, I had
the thought and it came to mehow burnout saved My life. Wow.
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Wow. Absolutely. And I hadn'talways thought about my burnout
experience in that way. Ithought about the cost and the
consequences. And there weren't,there are costs and
consequences. And that momentwas my turning point. That
moment was my awakening moment,that moment, it was because of
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burnout that I was willing tosee myself beyond everything I
had done everything I hadaccomplished, the degrees, the
experience the title, right,because of burnout, that my eyes
were open. So when you talkabout God will meet you, He will
meet you in the midst ofwhatever the disruption is.
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Yeah. So let me just say this,because when we talk about
disruption, we mean, sometimesyou need a disruption disruption
can be divine.
Absolutely. Yes, it bringsyou to the point where you need
to be so that you can heal, andso that you can become aware of
who you are and who you werecreated.
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Absolutely.
Oh, my goodness. Oh, mygoodness. And then you talked
about proving by doing, we gotto highlight that, because so
many of us are doers. We'redoers. We are nurturers, we want
to save people we want to be theone you depend on. We want to
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answer the problem we want totake care of folks. And then we
get burned out we we realize yougot to realize that you train
people how to treat absolutelyhave you train people how to
treat you to have everybody inyour life is expecting you to
show up friend who is the commondenominator.
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So the proving by doing so manyof us, especially accomplished
women.
In fact, I can share this withyou just an honest part of my
story. I you know, I think abouteven in for the benefit of your
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audience, I think about even inmy marriage, no sometimes that
proving by doing hat is LED, ofcourse, with the low self
esteem, but also the comparingto the other. Right. And so I
thought, you know, my formerhusband was in, we had a
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construction company, and I'mthinking, you know, he's gonna
meet all these beautiful women.
So, here I bring to the equationlow self esteem. Now I'm gonna
compound that with comparingmyself to these beautiful women.
Come on. But I tell you what,this is what I say. They can't
outwork me. Well, that was setup. You so again, the equation,
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low self esteem, compare myselfto another, right? And how I
respond to that by overdoing, Dr. Ritchey.
So like you say, It ain't nobodyfault, but man, I have to own
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that. I have to own that. So inthe undoing, you know, a lot of
things were undone, not just thebehavior, right? I had to undo
even the attitude, right, or theapproach of comparison, and the
attitude of low self esteem. Soa lot of things have to be
undone. So when we talk aboutdisrupting burnout, we are
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talking about undoing. We'retalking about a real revolution,
of personal revolution. And Ithink about the more civilized
we have become as a humanity,the more technologically, we
have become, as a society.
Technologically advanced webecome the more prone so the
more prone we become to burnout.
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Yes, ma'am. The thing that wassupposed to bring convenience,
right has led us to a sicksociety. Right? So the more
cultured we're supposed to be,how do we end up at this place
of sickness? Right. And so Ithink that what is when I think
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of disruption, I think ofrunning an interference with
what is the natural evolution.
So so, you know, I go back to myspiritual leader who talks about
it's not evolution. We don'tneed an apple We don't need
evolution. You know, evolutionis a natural progression of
society that's gonna kill us.
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Right? It is the evolution thatis increasingly taking us to a
place of of burnout. Yeah. Okay,it's what we need is a
revolution. Can we turn thisthing back around? Right? And
where do we end up when we turnit around? Well, of course, I
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think of the biblical text,right? What was Adams
experience? Before the Fall?
Adam could design a life, rightfor himself. that would that
would end in a healthy place.
After the fall, however, now yougot to work. Now, why have you
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gotta submit all this? We seeall this stuff. Bench, we're
working in harmony? No, we gotthis hierarchy. Yeah, right. And
in the hierarchy, we have thisrelationship, where one is now
trying to fight for this. So Ihave power over this and, and
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was trying to do this. It's thisrelationship of doing who, right
but before the fall, so we don'tneed an evolution, we need a
revolution, we turn this thingback around to the place where
when I think of the authoritiesand the powers that God had
given to Adam, the power, thename and what you call it,
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that's what it is, yes, my wordto subdue. And listen, none of
this had to do with work. Workwasn't even brought into the
picture, until Adam lost sightof who he was. Right. And so
when we lose sight of who weare, now, we end up doing this
extra work, we did so much ofthe doing, right. So the
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disruption of the burnout is notjust stopped doing, it's a
recall, of who you were designedto be. Come on, all you're doing
is changing places. So I'm notgoing to do over here, but I'll
overdo over there. I'm not goingto do so I think I'm disrupting
when really I'm just evolving,grew into more of this false
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balance. So not over here, butover here, not over there. But
over there, not over there, butover just doing in a different
location or doing it a differentway. So for me, this journey
that I'm on it is it this i n g,which would you know, it's the
disrupting, present continuous,it is a it is a journey where I
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am constantly reminding myselfof who I am so lead with that.
So I'm not doing to gain value.
Value is in the fact that God isand I am as he is.
Oh, my goodness. I just want toscream. Okay, hold on. Okay.
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There was a song Donald Lawrencewrote a song called let's get
back to Eton and live onthat dollarz Is my boy by the
way.
Yes, yes. And you so you,because when you said Adam was
told to name Yeah, he was toldto subdue. And he was told to
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replenish Moulton, havedominion, absolutely have
dominion. Yes. I was just havinga conversation earlier this
week. I tell you, I got mylittle I'm not gonna call her
name, but I got my littlefurbaby down here. If I call her
no, she's gonna want to be apart of our conversation. But
one of the things that I learnedfrom her is she wakes up when
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the sun comes up. Before that,she doesn't cry. She doesn't
whine. She doesn't want anyattention. She wants to be left
alone. She wakes up when the suncomes up, and when the sun goes
down, she goes to sleep. Itdoesn't matter if the TV's on it
doesn't matter if a light is onwhen the sun goes down, okay is
out for the night. Okay. It hastaught me that we have natural
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rhythms that were created in uswhen God created us to keep us
safe to keep us healthy. Rightwe're called the bride and we
have completely loud naturalrhythms big technology, the
lightbulb so now we don't haveto go to sleep when the sun goes
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down because we've got our ownlight. Right, and Netflix and TV
and our new cycles we havedeveloped our burnout might have
developedinto burnout Right, right the
rock bottom Right.
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So in order to disrupt burnout,in order to have that purpose
flow from us, we've got to getback, we've got to go back to
who we were originally createdto be. Oh, my God, this is so
right. This is so powerful.
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That's right. That's right. Andyou just blessed me, I have to
say that look to what you said,the light bulb, you know, the
phones, all of that, right?
Social media, right? Yes. Andand I think, just in line with
this whole notion of Adam,giving the authority to name,
right, Adam, those authorities,these are the same same
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authorities that an entrepreneurhas. So I think about him as the
first entrepreneur, right. And Ialso think about how, as an
entrepreneur, I'm not justspeaking of one who owns an
organized business, I'm speakingof one who is the entrepreneur
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of their lives. And too often,people allow their employer to
be the entrepreneur of theirlives. So now the employer
names, what time you wake up,the employer names, what time
you go to bed, the employernames, what time you come in,
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they name your job description,not just your job description,
they name how you are, they namethe methodology for how you get
the job done. Right. And so Ithink the disruption is to take
that back from whomever it isthat we have given it to, you
know, people live I often. Andthat, to me, is true
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forgiveness. I recall a friendasking me, you know, what is
forgiveness to you? And I, youknow, I tried to give it the
basic, forgive and forget. Andshe said, I need more. And I,
and I've thought about how upthe Girl Scouts, right? And how
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or anybody who is involved withthe campaign, a sales campaign,
how they will often have a lineitem. And next to that line
item, they'll have a blank line.
And you go down the list, andpeople have created their lives
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in that way. That's problematic,because they have put my piece
and they make somebodyresponsible for that. And they
put my joy, and that's myhusband right there. And my
security, okay, my, my mom anddad, or my well being, okay,
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who's that one, and all that gotall these things down the line.
Some of it is their employee, myfinancial freedom, my employer,
right, and I think forgivenessis to erase all those names. So
now, I don't have anyexpectation of you. Oh, my
goodness, this this naturalresponsibility. Right. Now,
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that's not to say that peopledon't add to, you know, to our
lives in important andmeaningful ways. But it is not
your responsibility to design mylife so that I don't end up in
burnout. Oh, my goodness, that'snot your responsibility. And so
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too much of the, the too much ofthe of that. Right, that the
responsibility. The ownership isgiven to people outside of God
in us. Mm.
Oh my god. That's so good.
That's so good. I often say thatyou're your first advocate. You
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are your first if you don'tvalue you, how do you expect
other people absolute value youand taking back that
responsibility? Because thetruth of the matter is no other
human can do it for you anyway.
It's an unfair expectation. Itreally
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is. And I like I did a post onetime that you know, are you
looking for a savior among thosewho need a savior?
Come on?
How often do people do thatthough? Is that not real?
So Real? is so real, right? Oh,I love that. You equate that to
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forgiveness. And I appreciatethat because I speak with a lot
of professionals who are aredisappointed, disgruntled,
frustrated, not just with theircurrent employer, but with their
entire career field? They aresheet. Yes, the sponsorship
sheet. You know, check it. Whosename do you have next to that?
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Because, you know, if you listit someone's name with the
expectation that they providethat for you. Yeah.
Disappointment is inevitable.
So then it's my responsibilityto forgive and to heal.
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Yeah. And to take ownership ofyour God given authority to
name. Right. And that doesn'tmean that we can't name in
concert with someone. Yeah,right. So I'm an advocate for
marriage, it doesn't mean thatyou name my name. And because
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we've given been given asindividuals rights to name that
we can't live in harmony. That'snot what I'm saying, as a union,
right. However, I'm not cominginto this experience with the
expectation that you do the workthat I should be doing. Now,
that is unfair. I'm looking foryou for peace, when I should be
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doing that healing work. Yeah,that's unfair. I've done it, we
may have done it. Yes, ma'am.
It all goes back to identity ismindset work. You know, we all
we often think I need to dosomething else I need to what's
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the next thing I need to do?
We're always trying to escape tothe next thing, right? But the
Escape is not going to work. Youhave to know who you are, if it
doesn't start with identity,that everything you build is on
shaky ground.
It's true. It's true. And that'swhy, you know, when you asked,
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as we lead with the podcast, whoare you, you know, that was
important for me to leave with,with the identity of who I am,
and not what I do. Yeah. Andagain, this is something that I
have to remind myself on a dailybasis, you know, it's present
and continuous, as I said, and Iknow, it's been a while since I
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came to you in this way. ButI've got something to share with
you, you all know that I'm inthe process of writing this
book. And as I'm doing this,there are strategies and ideas
and, and thoughts that arecoming to me that I've never
had, and I'm so full, I can'twait to get it to you. And the
book is coming this year. But Ican't wait until then I'm seeing
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the evidence in my life. And inthe lives of folks that I'm
coaching one on one. And God haslaid it on my heart to create
something for folks who may beinterested in one on one
coaching, but you can't affordit doesn't fit into your budget.
Or maybe you're curious aboutcoaching, but you've never had
that experience before. This isfor folks who feel like you're
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marching in place. Like you'reputting in all the effort, but
you're not moving forward, youfeel buried, and you're ready to
move into brilliance, I'm readyto share out. I've got some
strategies, I've got some thingsto work through with you.
Listen, friends, this is notgonna be fancy. There's no fancy
sales page. There's no courseplatform. This is going to be us
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meeting once a month throughzoom, for me to pour out to you
what I have and to support youin your journey. That's it.
That's it. This is 40, not 40.
This is 3030 bucks a month. Andthere has to be some kind of
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at that level, you deserve $30 amonth, you can find $30 A month.
So if you have wanted to workwith me, but just couldn't find
it in your budget. If you'vebeen curious about coaching and
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HEartwork Academy 2023 I have aneven if we work together before
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a friend you ain't seen thisyet. You haven't seen this yet.
I am so ready. I'm so thankful.
And I'm ready to share with youand I'm ready to support you.
Okay. So listen, if you'reinterested, join with the link
here. Fill out the form. Join usin the heart work Academy. We'll
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walk this thing out together.
Nothing fancy, but let's justget it done. It's time for you
to live in brilliance. You needto know what it means to show up
in purpose every day. And I'mready to help you. All right. I
can't wait to hear from you. AndI'm excited to serve you. I'll
see you soon. Bye, y'all.
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Let's talk about the continuousfor a moment, because I want
people to know what you justsaid is important. This is an on
going experience. You don't justdisrupt burnout one time, and
then you're done. And you neverhave to see it again, right? We
continue on this path. So how doyou continue to keep yourself
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focused on who you are and God,and to stay away from being
burnt out and overrun andoverwhelmed?
A lot of it is environment.
Right? So I have come, I amcommitted to a circle. Right?
That's up supports me in myjourney, I can tell you that I
have friends who lead withconversations, you know, when I
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call, Hey, beautiful. Yeah, hey,sunshine, right. And I am the
same way, whether even ifthere's some positive
expression, they're gonna sendme a positive real, something,
you know, I thought about you.
And, and here's something. So alot of it is environment. A lot
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of it is what we consume a lotof it right. There's a whole
body of research talking abouthealth, or I'm sorry, brain
foods, right, and seeing therelationship between how we
think, and what we eat. So I'mworking on that as well, it is,
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it is it is a comprehensivepackage, right. So I can't just
do it over here, I'm not workingon it in my health, or I'm in
and not working on it in therest that I get right in or not
working on it in physicalactivity, that is a part of it
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for me. So all of this, I amdesigning. And I say I am
because it's a it requires mybeing active in that in the in
the, in the work of designingthe life that I know is going to
be healthy for me, the life thatI know is not going to take me
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to a place of a burnout, that'snot going to end that is not
going to create a short livedexperience of my purpose in the
earth. So I'm actively designingthat. So the continuous is my
commitment to be active in theprocess of designing that life?
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And I say what should it eitherhappens by default, or by
design? So if you don't designit, then you gotta live with it
in default?
Oh, my gosh. Yeah. And let metell you, that has been very
important for me on thisjourney. I was thinking about
breakfast this morning. And Iasked myself, you know, I
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understand that what I do rightnow, the life I create, or
design right now in theselection of the foods that I
put in this skillet, right? It'sgoing to, it's going to lead to
a particular outcome. I don'tdesign it, then there are people
who are counting on the on thedefault. So you got health
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systems, right available, screendesign a life of health, you've
got counselors who are waitingfor us to end up in burnout and
then need that level ofresuscitation. I don't want to
call it support. I'm talkingabout resuscitation. Right. And
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in this life, and I tend tothink of it is, you know, we
have the preventative. We havethe curative. And then we got
the resuscitative we've gottenso bad that you don't kill
yourself, I mean, that shouldhave voluntarily committed or in
some cases, unknowingly, justkilled yourself. And now you
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need somebody that come along.
Now you need. Whereas in oneinstance, we could have had a
doctor PBJ, right to come alongwith the preventive for
preventative. And then we couldhave had a doctor PBJ to come
along even in the curative. Andthen because we dismissed the
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value of what she was offeringnow we need somebody to now we
need a Jesus to come along withyou up from the dead. Yes, I'm
saying. So I say that becausethat is important in terms of
how we design our lives. We havethe opportunity to make these
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choices. And every choice thatwe make today is going to have
continuous. So you talk abouthow do we work that how does the
continuous work All right, well,how do we continue to do the
work? I don't even want to saydo the work. But how do we allow
this continuum to flow in ourlives, part of it is
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understanding that what I doright now is going to have a
lasting impact. Necessarily, indoing as, as much as it is, in
understanding that what I do, isgoing to have a lasting impact.
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So, you know, it's not that Igot to do today, and do tomorrow
and do the next day, sometimes Ican do something right now. Or
be intentional about the choiceI make right now. And understand
that if I, if I execute rightnow, in a healthy way, or if I
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execute out of the identity ofthe I Am, then that's going to
have lasting impact. I'll atleast have it as a point of
reference, if nothing else, yousee what I did, I got some to
recall. And I'm gonna give youanother because I told you that
that's who I am now. When Ithink about Jesus on the cross,
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and the two thieves that werethere with him, and I and what
the vast it, I think it was twothings. Yeah. The fast when you
enter into your kingdom,remember me. And for me, it was
not just think about me, but toremember, think about the
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difference between this memberand re member. So this member is
disconnected from purpose,disconnected from from the
identity of who I'm called to bein the earth. So remember, for
me, and disrupting burnout, isto reconnect me to my divine
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purpose. It's not just oh, oh, Ihad a thought about or I
considered that again. No, no,no, no, no, remember, it got to
be deeper than that. Becausewhen you get to a place of
burnout, the healing is inreconnecting to our true
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identity. So remembered, becauseburnout is to be dismembered
purpose. That's the way youknow, as I think about it,
burnout is dismembered frompurpose. This member from the
identity of the I Am, and I gotto do jack else, come on, I'm
still that I don't have to doanything else. I still have
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value. I don't have to doanything else. My life is still
worth living. I don't have to doanything else I have meaning in
this earth and space. Anysignificant to the human
experience. And anything outsideof that we've been dismembered
and we need we need to beremembered.
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Remember? remembered?
Yeah. Can you talk about how wedo that? And that is, that is
why I said so much of thisenvironment. I can recall how
when I was going to FIU, FloridaInternational University, and my
mom was an administrator there.
And at the time, I didn't, Iwant my relationship with my mom
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was so pleasant. I didn't likeit at all, however, and she knew
it. And so I was struggling.
Right. I was upset because I gotto go to FIU. Right? Cuz I
flunked out at Valdosta sheets,they look, love you bringing
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your butt home. I was angry, youknow, I'm somewhere I don't want
to be. But every morning shewould say to me, the Lord has
perfected everything concerningyou. And I close the door,
whatever. And the next morning,the Lord has perfected
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everything concerning you. And Iclose the door one day that then
took root. So environment isimportant. You know, there was I
got to be driving from home toFIU with my mom and I got to
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hear her speaking positivityover my life and and declare in
favor on my life. She would sayfavor is your servant. Come on.
She was saying things like thatto me. She was saying to me you
up the head and not the tail.
I'm upset now. So I really checkin for what she said. But one
day, it took root in myawareness. Well, here's the
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thing. It was taking root beforeI was aware, yes. But it took
root in my awareness. And Istarted to think, Wait a minute.
So everything concerning me isperfected. Wait a minute, that
God has done that. And look, Iwent through a whole mat rich,
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forgetting it. reverting back tothe doing talk to us. You
understand what I'm saying? Andso again, these experiences in
our lives, these valleys that weyou know, and places that we
sometimes find ourselves,whether it's unhealthy
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relationships, whether it'sjobs, sometimes they are
instruments, oh, this, this isgood. They are instruments of
dismemberment. Come on. Buthealing, if it's a children's
bread, you hear me, so we are inthe midst of the dismemberment.
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There is a God who loves us andsay, Look, I care too much about
you to leave you in that place.
Let me reconnect you to purpose.
And let's do let's root you inpurpose. It's one thing that
just be connected, right. Butthese instruments of
dismemberment, if you justconnect it, you know lightly
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gave you just hanging on by athread. Right? There's the
possibility of dismembermentagain. And and it happens,
listen, you know, who was there?
Who was that? It wasn't surelyRalph, they say, How did you get
here? nobody's supposed to be.
Here, so you find yourselfsometimes repeating a cycle. And
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so again, we got to get rootedin purpose, so that the
likelihood of burnout? Is it, welessen the chances of that?
Yeah, and I'm talking it, butit's first to me too, you know,
you reminding myself that I haveto make sure that I'm in the
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environment, where, where mypurpose is affirmed, I have to
make sure of that. I have tomake sure that I provide that
for other women who may belooking to me for that. So I
bring on the Dr. PBJ. Come onDr. PBJ, you know, talk to us, I
have I in and so I'm veryparticular about your my
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environment, and the environmentthat I create for others who are
relying on me as an example.
Right? Not as a sponsor of theirpeace, but as an example of what
this can look like for theirlife.
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No, you're not. Never Dr. PBJ,Dr. PBJ.
First of all, let me just, Ineed to receive, I need to
receive that word that yourmother spoke to you that God has
perfected everything, everythingconcerning me, and you want
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to know something. So if God hasperfected everything concerning
you, and leave you for a secondto just absorb, then where is
the flaw is in this the flaw isreally a false ideology. That is
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inherent in the dismemberment.
So without connected thepurpose, then I can experience
the perfection that God has doneconcerning me. And I'm, I'm not
I don't speak of perfection asin won't make a mistake not
needing to be corrected oradjustments. But I mean, as a
lifestyle as a way of life andacid identity. That's different.
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Right? So if he has perfectedeverything concerning me, where
is the flaw?
When I see people talking aboutyou know, I'm bracing myself
flaws and all. That'sproblematic. Come on for me.
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Because it perfects it, I don'thave any flaws. And I know that
that is like that people mightfind that hard to understand, in
the same way that I couldn'tunderstand that I
was Christ in the same way thatyou know, so people have a
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problem with understanding thatwe have everything we need, that
we are enough. You know, becauseof floss says something else
needs to be added, somethingelse needs to be done. And I
think we have to be watchful ofthese cliches that we that
people sometimes embrace, thatare really of the world of, of
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the world of dismemberment andthe world of burnout. So you're
steadily trying to do more, ifthere's a flaw, that means I
gotta do something. No. Dr. PBJI have decided that by the grace
of God, I know, give me God,give me what he says about me.
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Said what do you say it was beperfect. As I am perfect, you
are enough. Nothing else needsto be added. Nothing, you
understand what I'm saying? And,you know, I started thinking
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about that. You know, and evenand there's so many stories you
said to just go hold all you cantell this is sites. But this
this is this is this isbeautiful. The conversation. I
don't see this as a podcast, Isee this as shared sisterhood.
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Yes. And other people get tolisten to our conversation, they
get the benefit of that. But Isee this as as just sister girls
talking, you know, and not justtalking but the engaging in
meaningful, wholesome, healthyhealing, healing exchange. See
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what I'm saying? I recall, onJuly 14, it was the day before
my birthday. And I startedhaving a moment and nothing
could satisfy me. I wantedsugar. Just wanted sugar. Like,
where's the cake? My dad cheese,some donuts? Please can I have
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chocolate? And I just sat for amoment and said God was gonna
what's happening to me rightnow. And God spoke to me and
said, This is not unfamiliar toyou, you know exactly what's
going on. I recalled when Iwould be in relationships, and
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what I felt rejected. I wouldresort to comfort foods. Get in
my car and dry. Dry to ChrisKrispy Kreme. Yes, ma'am. For
Hot donuts now.
Right now.
I'll take a dozen of your glazedflip. Right. Oh, okay. You You
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don't like me, bro. All right,man. This Krispy Kreme donut we
got to work it out. Cuz italways likes me.
So, I said wait a minute. Inthat moment on July 14.
God really did speak to me andsaid how can you be rejected?
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When you are accepted in theBeloved. Wait, wait went
through. How can you berejected? When in me you are the
biller? The only time you can berejected is when you step out of
your Divine Self.
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Oh, shoot. I had to give thatthing some thought. Do you know
that the PBJ Do you know when Iwhen I came to that awakening
and that understanding and placeof enlightenment? Do you know I
have not had that experiencesince because I know. I can
identify you baby. See? No wedon't. We don't embrace we don't
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embrace we don't do rejection?
Uh huh. No, I'm accepted in theBeloved.
Okayyou understand what I'm no no,
no, no, we don't do rejection.
Belowthe here's the here's what you
did. Dr. Ritchey. This is soimportant. Because here
disruptive burnout. We talkabout what is your tail te L L?
What is your tail? What is yoursign on your symptom that you
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need to pay attention to becausemost of the time when we found
ourselves in burnout, there havebeen signs along the way. But we
have ignored the signs or wehaven't paid attention right So
in that moment, right in that inthat moment, and that craving,
which I'm very familiar with,instead of focusing on the
craving, you said, Wait aminute, what is this? What is I
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noticed the tail, but it'stelling me something, okay? Your
tail tells you something. Okay?
So by acknowledging the tail,you recognize that this ain't
about sugar. This is aboutrejection. And then you took the
lie that rejection was trying totell you, and you replaced it
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with the truth. You said, I'mnot rejected. I am accepted
because I am the biller. That'sright. And that is the process
when we talk about the IMG. Thatis the process, you got to
recognize the size body, yoursoul, your spirit speaks to you.
And it lets you know when youare in crisis, when something is
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not aligned, we're not in theright place. And when we pay
attention to that sign, and wequestion it, why are you here?
How did you get here? Nobody.
When you recognize the lie thathe's trying to tell you, you
replace that lie with the truth.
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That's right. And the truthmakes you free. And that's why
you haven't had that experience.
Right? That's right. That'sright. No, you guys are not
here. Not here. Not here.
Yeah, Dr. Ritchey, listen, this.
We can go on and we can go butwe got to let the people go.
Okay. Tell them how can theyhear more from you, connect with
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you? Because I know that thereare people who said Look, I need
to find this woman I need tolisten to her. So how do they
follow you and hear more fromthem? I would
of course I'm on Facebook, Dr.
Alicia Ritchey name as itspelled on the screen. You can
also check out my website arich, that would be a r i t c h
at a ritch enterprise AR I tchenterprise.com are ritch at a
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ritch enterprise. And part ofwhat I talk about in designing
is what I do with women who areinterested in business, helping
them design a business thatdoesn't lend to burnout, helping
them design a business thatdoesn't lend to them throwing in
the towel to say I'd give uphelping them design a business
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where we identify purpose. Andwhat's your call to do and, and
how you can serve out of purposeand the identity of, of, of
God's expression of excellencein the air. And while I don't.
It's while it's not considered afaith based business, I am a
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faith based believer and soeverything I touch, has elements
of the expression of God in oris the expression of God.
Absolutely. Absolutely. Listen,I know after this time together,
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that you all are set on fire andyou can begin to see the
dismembering experiences of yourlife and you are recognizing
where you need to be rememberedand reconnected to purpose and
your true identity and being thebeloved of God and I know that
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this is going to bring healing.
I know it's going to bringdeliverance but I also know that
it's going to bring forthpurpose. So I am so excited that
you all have joined us for thisconversation. And you need to
connect with Dr. Ritchey. Youneed to follow her on Facebook
you need to reach out to her sothat you can experience more of
the God in her daughter Richie,thank you so much for joining us
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as always.
Thank you forever.
Friends, as always, you knowthat you are powerful. You are
significant. And you are loved.
Love always PBJ See you nexttime
When you get to a place ofburnout, the healing is in
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reconnecting to our trueidentity.
Hey, friends, it's Dr. PBJ hereagain, and I have another
episode of women who definedisruption. Let me tell y'all
(00:29):
something. This is a season inmy life where God is allowing me
to encounter and to connect withpowerful women. And when I say
powerful women, I'm talkingabout women who are living in
purpose, but are also pullingthat purpose out of others. And
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today, I have the honor ofintroducing you all to a woman
from the first meeting with herfrom my first interaction with
her, my heart was set on fire,to do the thing that God has
called me to do. And we've hadseveral calls since then, and
meetings and she's invited me tospeak at her conference. And
(01:15):
every time I engage with thispowerful woman, I feel energized
to go do the thing that I wascreated to do. So I know you
want to meet her. I know youwant to meet her, but just a few
things. So Dr. Alicia Ritchey,first of all, she's a national
board certified educated. Now,if you are an educator, you know
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what that means. That means thetop in the country, not just
that, not just that, but Dr.
Ritchey created nationalcurriculum to develop culturally
responsive educators in schoolsand community based programs
across the country and beyond.
Listen, nobody can tell it likeshe can tell it. So I'm going to
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bring her up. But when I tellyou, this woman, lights of fire
in my belly, every time I talkto her, I cannot wait for you
all to hear what she has toshare. Dr. Ritchey, welcome to
the Disrupting Burnout podcast.
Thank you for having me. Dr.
Patrice Jackson, I appreciatethe opportunity.
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Yes, ma'am. Yes, ma'am. So let'sget into it. And I want to
start, I always start by youtelling the people who you are.
Absolutely. And I'll start bysaying that I am the expression
of God. And I lead with that Iam the expression of His love,
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I'm expressing the expression ofHis joy, his peace, His
righteousness, his balance,right the expression of his
balance. I think of thescripture that a false balance
is an abomination. But a justwait, is his delight. So I like
to think that I represent thatin my life. And and I see the
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relationship between thatscripture and even the work that
you do to disrupt burnout.
Because for me disruptingburnout is disrupting that false
balance that people adopt andembrace as a way of life. And so
I like to think of myself asGod's best in the earth. Because
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I believe that we are called toexpress his best in the year.
Oh, my gosh, I don't need withmy you know, my occupation or
vocation. You know, I leave butyou asked, Who are you? And so I
want to start that's a part ofthe disrupting burnout. We often
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define ourselves in the doing.
And today, I want to definemyself in the being,
oh, wait a minute. Okay, wait aminute. So defining yourself as
God's best, I have to part rightthere for a minute. I have to
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part right there for a minutebecause I myself have recognized
recently that I have struggledto identify as my true identity
as who I am. And God's best thatthere may have been lessons in
our lives where we learned thatthat's not humble, where we
learned that that is a pridefulthought. But I've gotten to a
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place where I feel like it's myresponsibility. Yeah, yeah.
Yeah. So originally, if you gaveme a gift, if you gave me a
precious gift, and I just tossedit to the side and acted like I
didn't own it, because I wantedto be humble, rather not honor
the gift you gave. Right? Right.
But if I if I honored that gift,if I share, cherish it, if I
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share it then that gives honorto the value of the gift. So we
don't honor God or anybody elseby pretending that we are not
God's best.
That's right. That's right. Andjust to share an example, I
recall, I'll never forget, whenmy pastor, my spiritual leader,
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said, an hour, we were sitting.
And I, it escapes me where wewere. But I recall being in
conversation with him, and hemade a comment. And he said, I
am Christ. And I thought, Wait,that's blasphemy. And he said,
You are too. And I said, quitehonestly, I said, No. So
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Brother. You can't get me thejoy. No, sir, you go to hell by
yourself on that way. I won't bejoining you there. And then as I
paused, the Spirit spoke to meand said, If I call your head
Alyssia, will your body notrespond also? So if you are the
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body of Christ, how is it thatyou cannot reference yourself as
Christ in the earth? And itoccurred to me that my
relationship with God was one ofthe capitation. So the head was
over here, and the body was overhere. Right? And so how then if
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we are separate and apart, howdo I express who he is, except
that we are one. And so youknow, when you talk about this
notion of humility, it's a partof that false balance, like it
doesn't match. So you know, as Ibegan to think about who am I, I
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can only identify identifymyself as who God is, after all,
we're one.
Oh, my goodness. Yeah. So talkto us about how you express that
in the earth. What does thatlook like? Dr. Ritchey?
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It looks like, for me, it lookslike asking him what is it
because the expression has to beintelligible to the people that
we are communicating the messageto, right. And so I can say to
you, I love you. But if youdon't understand love in that
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way, then I have my love is notintelligible. Right? It's it's
not understood. And in reality,it's insignificant, right?
Because it has no impact. Like Ican't impact you, if I'm not
communicating with you in a waythat is understood to you. So in
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each space that I occupied, thequestion becomes, God helped me
to understand these people, how,how will they in your wisdom?
How can I best serve them in away that they understand that
there's something unique aboutwhat they are experiencing? So
that's what it looks like, forme, whether it is in my writing,
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that they leave that experience.
And wait a minute, there'ssomething very different about
this, because I think thatdifference is what prompts them
to want more, prompts them towant to understand more, and
then it opens the door for me tobe able to say, without saying,
that was God.
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Here's what you just display forus. Because sometimes we've been
taught that our expression ofGod is held for within the walls
of a church, absolutely, or aholy place, right. But what you
just described is, no matterwhere you show up, virtually in
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person or school accompany inyour writing, and your
publishing, no matter in yourevents, no matter where you
show, whatever, no matter howbrilliant, you are, the
expression of God in that space,and a way that the people can
understand exactly. And thatexpression of God is in his
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excellence in the, you know, inthe brilliance in the splendor.
And so when I take on a projectas an example, and I am
committed to excellence, or I'mcommitted to giving them my
best, what I'm saying is thatI'm giving you, God, come on.
And again, if I'm giving you Godin a way that's only
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intelligible in the four wallsof a church, but I can't reach
government, I can't reach theeducation sector, I can't reach
the business sector, then thegospel I preach is any
effective. Come on, right sothey I haven't shown that I'm an
able minister. Right, unless I'mable to express God again, in a
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way that people can understandfor whatever is the space that
we occupy. Hmm, yeah,as you're speaking, I hear
marketplace ministers. Yeah, weare ministers, no matter where
we go. And minister just meansto serve. Like the word Minister
literally, to serve, there itis. Wherever you are serving.
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That place is where youministered. That place is where
you are the expression of God.
And the key that you're teachingus is in the way that the people
can consume it. Absolutely. Ifyou're speaking above their
hands, or if you're trying toforce feed something they're not
ready to receive. You're notbeing effective, that is not
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effective ministry is noteffective education is not
effective work. When we leave,people should know that they've
been impacted by somethingthey've never done.
That's right. That's, that'sright. Absolutely. Yes, they
should.
How did you become aware of thisin your life? Have you always
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known that you are theexpression of God?
No. Tell us No, I spent so muchof my life. Quite honestly, I
struggled with low self esteem.
And so I was I was told that Iwas smart, right? And so the way
to get attention that I thought,you know, was to, to, to be
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smart by doing. And so I spentso much of my life, proving by
doing, right. And I think that'show I ended up him burnout. You
know what I'm saying? Because,because what happens is you can
never do enough, right? Andpeople get used to that, right?
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They get used to you doing so ifever you turn off the doing. And
all of us, you've lost yourvalue. And sometimes I can't do
because I'm tired. Yeah, butyou've been doing so just keep
doing it. Keep doing it. Yeah,but I'm tired. Wait, wait my
joints? Yeah, but you've beendoing so keep doing. So now I'm
just wearing myself out in everyaspect of of, you know, in every
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aspect possible. So my mentalhealth is now compromised. My
physical health is compromised,my emotional health is
compromised. So to answer yourquestion, I did not always know
that. Right? Because I wasn'tleading in the confidence of who
I was in the as the expressionof God in my bed. So if I did,
so now, I can sit halfway crossmy legs, because halfway cross
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my legs across him at the ankle.
And know that my value? It isbecause God is yes. And just
like we have to first believethat he is I had to first
believe that I am. And look, Idon't mean and up there in the
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IL first believe that I am.
Right. So no, I didn't alwaysknow that. And I think the
wonderful thing about God isthat he'll meet us where we are.
And so if he got to meet us inburnout, he's that kind of, he's
good like that he'll meet us andburn out, he'll meet us in tow
up from the flow up, you know,he'll meet us in those low
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places in the dry places to helpus to understand Wait a minute,
so you thought you wassufficient of yourself. So you
trusted in you know, not to goscript or or in the arm of the
flesh. That what what lifepeople had designed for you
what's going to get you to whereyou need to be you trusted in
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all of that. And only to findthat you ended up here. So my
dad used to say the end,justifies the means. In other
words, the outcome, excuse me,I'm sorry, the outcome validates
the process. And so if I endedup in a low place, where as an
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outcome, if I ended up burnedout as an outcome, there was
something wrong with my process.
So I had it was in that outcome,the adverse, you know, effect of
the process that I learned thatsomething is wrong with the
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process. Right. So to answeryour question, no, I wasn't
always there. I was not quitehonestly, I was far from there.
I feel like you were in myprayer time this this morning.
Oh, wow. This morning becauseliterally this morning, I had
the thought and it came to mehow burnout saved My life. Wow.
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Wow. Absolutely. And I hadn'talways thought about my burnout
experience in that way. Ithought about the cost and the
consequences. And there weren't,there are costs and
consequences. And that momentwas my turning point. That
moment was my awakening moment,that moment, it was because of
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burnout that I was willing tosee myself beyond everything I
had done everything I hadaccomplished, the degrees, the
experience the title, right,because of burnout, that my eyes
were open. So when you talkabout God will meet you, He will
meet you in the midst ofwhatever the disruption is.
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Yeah. So let me just say this,because when we talk about
disruption, we mean, sometimesyou need a disruption disruption
can be divine.
Absolutely. Yes, it bringsyou to the point where you need
to be so that you can heal, andso that you can become aware of
who you are and who you werecreated.
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Absolutely.
Oh, my goodness. Oh, mygoodness. And then you talked
about proving by doing, we gotto highlight that, because so
many of us are doers. We'redoers. We are nurturers, we want
to save people we want to be theone you depend on. We want to
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answer the problem we want totake care of folks. And then we
get burned out we we realize yougot to realize that you train
people how to treat absolutelyhave you train people how to
treat you to have everybody inyour life is expecting you to
show up friend who is the commondenominator.
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So the proving by doing so manyof us, especially accomplished
women.
In fact, I can share this withyou just an honest part of my
story. I you know, I think abouteven in for the benefit of your
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audience, I think about even inmy marriage, no sometimes that
proving by doing hat is LED, ofcourse, with the low self
esteem, but also the comparingto the other. Right. And so I
thought, you know, my formerhusband was in, we had a
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construction company, and I'mthinking, you know, he's gonna
meet all these beautiful women.
So, here I bring to the equationlow self esteem. Now I'm gonna
compound that with comparingmyself to these beautiful women.
Come on. But I tell you what,this is what I say. They can't
outwork me. Well, that was setup. You so again, the equation,
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low self esteem, compare myselfto another, right? And how I
respond to that by overdoing, Dr. Ritchey.
So like you say, It ain't nobodyfault, but man, I have to own
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that. I have to own that. So inthe undoing, you know, a lot of
things were undone, not just thebehavior, right? I had to undo
even the attitude, right, or theapproach of comparison, and the
attitude of low self esteem. Soa lot of things have to be
undone. So when we talk aboutdisrupting burnout, we are
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talking about undoing. We'retalking about a real revolution,
of personal revolution. And Ithink about the more civilized
we have become as a humanity,the more technologically, we
have become, as a society.
Technologically advanced webecome the more prone so the
more prone we become to burnout.
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Yes, ma'am. The thing that wassupposed to bring convenience,
right has led us to a sicksociety. Right? So the more
cultured we're supposed to be,how do we end up at this place
of sickness? Right. And so Ithink that what is when I think
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of disruption, I think ofrunning an interference with
what is the natural evolution.
So so, you know, I go back to myspiritual leader who talks about
it's not evolution. We don'tneed an apple We don't need
evolution. You know, evolutionis a natural progression of
society that's gonna kill us.
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Right? It is the evolution thatis increasingly taking us to a
place of of burnout. Yeah. Okay,it's what we need is a
revolution. Can we turn thisthing back around? Right? And
where do we end up when we turnit around? Well, of course, I
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think of the biblical text,right? What was Adams
experience? Before the Fall?
Adam could design a life, rightfor himself. that would that
would end in a healthy place.
After the fall, however, now yougot to work. Now, why have you
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gotta submit all this? We seeall this stuff. Bench, we're
working in harmony? No, we gotthis hierarchy. Yeah, right. And
in the hierarchy, we have thisrelationship, where one is now
trying to fight for this. So Ihave power over this and, and
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was trying to do this. It's thisrelationship of doing who, right
but before the fall, so we don'tneed an evolution, we need a
revolution, we turn this thingback around to the place where
when I think of the authoritiesand the powers that God had
given to Adam, the power, thename and what you call it,
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that's what it is, yes, my wordto subdue. And listen, none of
this had to do with work. Workwasn't even brought into the
picture, until Adam lost sightof who he was. Right. And so
when we lose sight of who weare, now, we end up doing this
extra work, we did so much ofthe doing, right. So the
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disruption of the burnout is notjust stopped doing, it's a
recall, of who you were designedto be. Come on, all you're doing
is changing places. So I'm notgoing to do over here, but I'll
overdo over there. I'm not goingto do so I think I'm disrupting
when really I'm just evolving,grew into more of this false
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balance. So not over here, butover here, not over there. But
over there, not over there, butover just doing in a different
location or doing it a differentway. So for me, this journey
that I'm on it is it this i n g,which would you know, it's the
disrupting, present continuous,it is a it is a journey where I
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am constantly reminding myselfof who I am so lead with that.
So I'm not doing to gain value.
Value is in the fact that God isand I am as he is.
Oh, my goodness. I just want toscream. Okay, hold on. Okay.
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There was a song Donald Lawrencewrote a song called let's get
back to Eton and live onthat dollarz Is my boy by the
way.
Yes, yes. And you so you,because when you said Adam was
told to name Yeah, he was toldto subdue. And he was told to
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replenish Moulton, havedominion, absolutely have
dominion. Yes. I was just havinga conversation earlier this
week. I tell you, I got mylittle I'm not gonna call her
name, but I got my littlefurbaby down here. If I call her
no, she's gonna want to be apart of our conversation. But
one of the things that I learnedfrom her is she wakes up when
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the sun comes up. Before that,she doesn't cry. She doesn't
whine. She doesn't want anyattention. She wants to be left
alone. She wakes up when the suncomes up, and when the sun goes
down, she goes to sleep. Itdoesn't matter if the TV's on it
doesn't matter if a light is onwhen the sun goes down, okay is
out for the night. Okay. It hastaught me that we have natural
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rhythms that were created in uswhen God created us to keep us
safe to keep us healthy. Rightwe're called the bride and we
have completely loud naturalrhythms big technology, the
lightbulb so now we don't haveto go to sleep when the sun goes
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down because we've got our ownlight. Right, and Netflix and TV
and our new cycles we havedeveloped our burnout might have
developedinto burnout Right, right the
rock bottom Right.
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So in order to disrupt burnout,in order to have that purpose
flow from us, we've got to getback, we've got to go back to
who we were originally createdto be. Oh, my God, this is so
right. This is so powerful.
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That's right. That's right. Andyou just blessed me, I have to
say that look to what you said,the light bulb, you know, the
phones, all of that, right?
Social media, right? Yes. Andand I think, just in line with
this whole notion of Adam,giving the authority to name,
right, Adam, those authorities,these are the same same
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authorities that an entrepreneurhas. So I think about him as the
first entrepreneur, right. And Ialso think about how, as an
entrepreneur, I'm not justspeaking of one who owns an
organized business, I'm speakingof one who is the entrepreneur
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of their lives. And too often,people allow their employer to
be the entrepreneur of theirlives. So now the employer
names, what time you wake up,the employer names, what time
you go to bed, the employernames, what time you come in,
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they name your job description,not just your job description,
they name how you are, they namethe methodology for how you get
the job done. Right. And so Ithink the disruption is to take
that back from whomever it isthat we have given it to, you
know, people live I often. Andthat, to me, is true
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forgiveness. I recall a friendasking me, you know, what is
forgiveness to you? And I, youknow, I tried to give it the
basic, forgive and forget. Andshe said, I need more. And I,
and I've thought about how upthe Girl Scouts, right? And how
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or anybody who is involved withthe campaign, a sales campaign,
how they will often have a lineitem. And next to that line
item, they'll have a blank line.
And you go down the list, andpeople have created their lives
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in that way. That's problematic,because they have put my piece
and they make somebodyresponsible for that. And they
put my joy, and that's myhusband right there. And my
security, okay, my, my mom anddad, or my well being, okay,
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who's that one, and all that gotall these things down the line.
Some of it is their employee, myfinancial freedom, my employer,
right, and I think forgivenessis to erase all those names. So
now, I don't have anyexpectation of you. Oh, my
goodness, this this naturalresponsibility. Right. Now,
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that's not to say that peopledon't add to, you know, to our
lives in important andmeaningful ways. But it is not
your responsibility to design mylife so that I don't end up in
burnout. Oh, my goodness, that'snot your responsibility. And so
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too much of the, the too much ofthe of that. Right, that the
responsibility. The ownership isgiven to people outside of God
in us. Mm.
Oh my god. That's so good.
That's so good. I often say thatyou're your first advocate. You
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are your first if you don'tvalue you, how do you expect
other people absolute value youand taking back that
responsibility? Because thetruth of the matter is no other
human can do it for you anyway.
It's an unfair expectation. Itreally
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is. And I like I did a post onetime that you know, are you
looking for a savior among thosewho need a savior?
Come on?
How often do people do thatthough? Is that not real?
So Real? is so real, right? Oh,I love that. You equate that to
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forgiveness. And I appreciatethat because I speak with a lot
of professionals who are aredisappointed, disgruntled,
frustrated, not just with theircurrent employer, but with their
entire career field? They aresheet. Yes, the sponsorship
sheet. You know, check it. Whosename do you have next to that?
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Because, you know, if you listit someone's name with the
expectation that they providethat for you. Yeah.
Disappointment is inevitable.
So then it's my responsibilityto forgive and to heal.
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Yeah. And to take ownership ofyour God given authority to
name. Right. And that doesn'tmean that we can't name in
concert with someone. Yeah,right. So I'm an advocate for
marriage, it doesn't mean thatyou name my name. And because
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we've given been given asindividuals rights to name that
we can't live in harmony. That'snot what I'm saying, as a union,
right. However, I'm not cominginto this experience with the
expectation that you do the workthat I should be doing. Now,
that is unfair. I'm looking foryou for peace, when I should be
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doing that healing work. Yeah,that's unfair. I've done it, we
may have done it. Yes, ma'am.
It all goes back to identity ismindset work. You know, we all
we often think I need to dosomething else I need to what's
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the next thing I need to do?
We're always trying to escape tothe next thing, right? But the
Escape is not going to work. Youhave to know who you are, if it
doesn't start with identity,that everything you build is on
shaky ground.
It's true. It's true. And that'swhy, you know, when you asked,
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as we lead with the podcast, whoare you, you know, that was
important for me to leave with,with the identity of who I am,
and not what I do. Yeah. Andagain, this is something that I
have to remind myself on a dailybasis, you know, it's present
and continuous, as I said, and Iknow, it's been a while since I
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came to you in this way. ButI've got something to share with
you, you all know that I'm inthe process of writing this
book. And as I'm doing this,there are strategies and ideas
and, and thoughts that arecoming to me that I've never
had, and I'm so full, I can'twait to get it to you. And the
book is coming this year. But Ican't wait until then I'm seeing
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the evidence in my life. And inthe lives of folks that I'm
coaching one on one. And God haslaid it on my heart to create
something for folks who may beinterested in one on one
coaching, but you can't affordit doesn't fit into your budget.
Or maybe you're curious aboutcoaching, but you've never had
that experience before. This isfor folks who feel like you're
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marching in place. Like you'reputting in all the effort, but
you're not moving forward, youfeel buried, and you're ready to
move into brilliance, I'm readyto share out. I've got some
strategies, I've got some thingsto work through with you.
Listen, friends, this is notgonna be fancy. There's no fancy
sales page. There's no courseplatform. This is going to be us
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That's it. This is 40, not 40.
This is 3030 bucks a month. Andthere has to be some kind of
investment. Or I've learned thatpeople don't show up, right. But
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at that level, you deserve $30 amonth, you can find $30 A month.
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I am so ready. I'm so thankful.
And I'm ready to share with youand I'm ready to support you.
Okay. So listen, if you'reinterested, join with the link
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walk this thing out together.
Nothing fancy, but let's justget it done. It's time for you
to live in brilliance. You needto know what it means to show up
in purpose every day. And I'mready to help you. All right. I
can't wait to hear from you. AndI'm excited to serve you. I'll
see you soon. Bye, y'all.
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Let's talk about the continuousfor a moment, because I want
people to know what you justsaid is important. This is an on
going experience. You don't justdisrupt burnout one time, and
then you're done. And you neverhave to see it again, right? We
continue on this path. So how doyou continue to keep yourself
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focused on who you are and God,and to stay away from being
burnt out and overrun andoverwhelmed?
A lot of it is environment.
Right? So I have come, I amcommitted to a circle. Right?
That's up supports me in myjourney, I can tell you that I
have friends who lead withconversations, you know, when I
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call, Hey, beautiful. Yeah, hey,sunshine, right. And I am the
same way, whether even ifthere's some positive
expression, they're gonna sendme a positive real, something,
you know, I thought about you.
And, and here's something. So alot of it is environment. A lot
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of it is what we consume a lotof it right. There's a whole
body of research talking abouthealth, or I'm sorry, brain
foods, right, and seeing therelationship between how we
think, and what we eat. So I'mworking on that as well, it is,
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it is it is a comprehensivepackage, right. So I can't just
do it over here, I'm not workingon it in my health, or I'm in
and not working on it in therest that I get right in or not
working on it in physicalactivity, that is a part of it
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for me. So all of this, I amdesigning. And I say I am
because it's a it requires mybeing active in that in the in
the, in the work of designingthe life that I know is going to
be healthy for me, the life thatI know is not going to take me
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to a place of a burnout, that'snot going to end that is not
going to create a short livedexperience of my purpose in the
earth. So I'm actively designingthat. So the continuous is my
commitment to be active in theprocess of designing that life?
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And I say what should it eitherhappens by default, or by
design? So if you don't designit, then you gotta live with it
in default?
Oh, my gosh. Yeah. And let metell you, that has been very
important for me on thisjourney. I was thinking about
breakfast this morning. And Iasked myself, you know, I
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understand that what I do rightnow, the life I create, or
design right now in theselection of the foods that I
put in this skillet, right? It'sgoing to, it's going to lead to
a particular outcome. I don'tdesign it, then there are people
who are counting on the on thedefault. So you got health
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systems, right available, screendesign a life of health, you've
got counselors who are waitingfor us to end up in burnout and
then need that level ofresuscitation. I don't want to
call it support. I'm talkingabout resuscitation. Right. And
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in this life, and I tend tothink of it is, you know, we
have the preventative. We havethe curative. And then we got
the resuscitative we've gottenso bad that you don't kill
yourself, I mean, that shouldhave voluntarily committed or in
some cases, unknowingly, justkilled yourself. And now you
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need somebody that come along.
Now you need. Whereas in oneinstance, we could have had a
doctor PBJ, right to come alongwith the preventive for
preventative. And then we couldhave had a doctor PBJ to come
along even in the curative. Andthen because we dismissed the
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value of what she was offeringnow we need somebody to now we
need a Jesus to come along withyou up from the dead. Yes, I'm
saying. So I say that becausethat is important in terms of
how we design our lives. We havethe opportunity to make these
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choices. And every choice thatwe make today is going to have
continuous. So you talk abouthow do we work that how does the
continuous work All right, well,how do we continue to do the
work? I don't even want to saydo the work. But how do we allow
this continuum to flow in ourlives, part of it is
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understanding that what I doright now is going to have a
lasting impact. Necessarily, indoing as, as much as it is, in
understanding that what I do, isgoing to have a lasting impact.
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So, you know, it's not that Igot to do today, and do tomorrow
and do the next day, sometimes Ican do something right now. Or
be intentional about the choiceI make right now. And understand
that if I, if I execute rightnow, in a healthy way, or if I
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execute out of the identity ofthe I Am, then that's going to
have lasting impact. I'll atleast have it as a point of
reference, if nothing else, yousee what I did, I got some to
recall. And I'm gonna give youanother because I told you that
that's who I am now. When Ithink about Jesus on the cross,
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and the two thieves that werethere with him, and I and what
the vast it, I think it was twothings. Yeah. The fast when you
enter into your kingdom,remember me. And for me, it was
not just think about me, but toremember, think about the
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difference between this memberand re member. So this member is
disconnected from purpose,disconnected from from the
identity of who I'm called to bein the earth. So remember, for
me, and disrupting burnout, isto reconnect me to my divine
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purpose. It's not just oh, oh, Ihad a thought about or I
considered that again. No, no,no, no, no, remember, it got to
be deeper than that. Becausewhen you get to a place of
burnout, the healing is inreconnecting to our true
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identity. So remembered, becauseburnout is to be dismembered
purpose. That's the way youknow, as I think about it,
burnout is dismembered frompurpose. This member from the
identity of the I Am, and I gotto do jack else, come on, I'm
still that I don't have to doanything else. I still have
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value. I don't have to doanything else. My life is still
worth living. I don't have to doanything else I have meaning in
this earth and space. Anysignificant to the human
experience. And anything outsideof that we've been dismembered
and we need we need to beremembered.
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Remember? remembered?
Yeah. Can you talk about how wedo that? And that is, that is
why I said so much of thisenvironment. I can recall how
when I was going to FIU, FloridaInternational University, and my
mom was an administrator there.
And at the time, I didn't, Iwant my relationship with my mom
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was so pleasant. I didn't likeit at all, however, and she knew
it. And so I was struggling.
Right. I was upset because I gotto go to FIU. Right? Cuz I
flunked out at Valdosta sheets,they look, love you bringing
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your butt home. I was angry, youknow, I'm somewhere I don't want
to be. But every morning shewould say to me, the Lord has
perfected everything concerningyou. And I close the door,
whatever. And the next morning,the Lord has perfected
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everything concerning you. And Iclose the door one day that then
took root. So environment isimportant. You know, there was I
got to be driving from home toFIU with my mom and I got to
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hear her speaking positivityover my life and and declare in
favor on my life. She would sayfavor is your servant. Come on.
She was saying things like thatto me. She was saying to me you
up the head and not the tail.
I'm upset now. So I really checkin for what she said. But one
day, it took root in myawareness. Well, here's the
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thing. It was taking root beforeI was aware, yes. But it took
root in my awareness. And Istarted to think, Wait a minute.
So everything concerning me isperfected. Wait a minute, that
God has done that. And look, Iwent through a whole mat rich,
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forgetting it. reverting back tothe doing talk to us. You
understand what I'm saying? Andso again, these experiences in
our lives, these valleys that weyou know, and places that we
sometimes find ourselves,whether it's unhealthy
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relationships, whether it'sjobs, sometimes they are
instruments, oh, this, this isgood. They are instruments of
dismemberment. Come on. Buthealing, if it's a children's
bread, you hear me, so we are inthe midst of the dismemberment.
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There is a God who loves us andsay, Look, I care too much about
you to leave you in that place.
Let me reconnect you to purpose.
And let's do let's root you inpurpose. It's one thing that
just be connected, right. Butthese instruments of
dismemberment, if you justconnect it, you know lightly
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gave you just hanging on by athread. Right? There's the
possibility of dismembermentagain. And and it happens,
listen, you know, who was there?
Who was that? It wasn't surelyRalph, they say, How did you get
here? nobody's supposed to be.
Here, so you find yourselfsometimes repeating a cycle. And
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so again, we got to get rootedin purpose, so that the
likelihood of burnout? Is it, welessen the chances of that?
Yeah, and I'm talking it, butit's first to me too, you know,
you reminding myself that I haveto make sure that I'm in the
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environment, where, where mypurpose is affirmed, I have to
make sure of that. I have tomake sure that I provide that
for other women who may belooking to me for that. So I
bring on the Dr. PBJ. Come onDr. PBJ, you know, talk to us, I
have I in and so I'm veryparticular about your my
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environment, and the environmentthat I create for others who are
relying on me as an example.
Right? Not as a sponsor of theirpeace, but as an example of what
this can look like for theirlife.
(48:14):
No, you're not. Never Dr. PBJ,Dr. PBJ.
First of all, let me just, Ineed to receive, I need to
receive that word that yourmother spoke to you that God has
perfected everything, everythingconcerning me, and you want
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to know something. So if God hasperfected everything concerning
you, and leave you for a secondto just absorb, then where is
the flaw is in this the flaw isreally a false ideology. That is
(48:57):
inherent in the dismemberment.
So without connected thepurpose, then I can experience
the perfection that God has doneconcerning me. And I'm, I'm not
I don't speak of perfection asin won't make a mistake not
needing to be corrected oradjustments. But I mean, as a
lifestyle as a way of life andacid identity. That's different.
(49:21):
Right? So if he has perfectedeverything concerning me, where
is the flaw?
When I see people talking aboutyou know, I'm bracing myself
flaws and all. That'sproblematic. Come on for me.
(49:45):
Because it perfects it, I don'thave any flaws. And I know that
that is like that people mightfind that hard to understand, in
the same way that I couldn'tunderstand that I
was Christ in the same way thatyou know, so people have a
(50:06):
problem with understanding thatwe have everything we need, that
we are enough. You know, becauseof floss says something else
needs to be added, somethingelse needs to be done. And I
think we have to be watchful ofthese cliches that we that
people sometimes embrace, thatare really of the world of, of
(50:31):
the world of dismemberment andthe world of burnout. So you're
steadily trying to do more, ifthere's a flaw, that means I
gotta do something. No. Dr. PBJI have decided that by the grace
of God, I know, give me God,give me what he says about me.
(50:55):
Said what do you say it was beperfect. As I am perfect, you
are enough. Nothing else needsto be added. Nothing, you
understand what I'm saying? And,you know, I started thinking
(51:18):
about that. You know, and evenand there's so many stories you
said to just go hold all you cantell this is sites. But this
this is this is this isbeautiful. The conversation. I
don't see this as a podcast, Isee this as shared sisterhood.
(51:39):
Yes. And other people get tolisten to our conversation, they
get the benefit of that. But Isee this as as just sister girls
talking, you know, and not justtalking but the engaging in
meaningful, wholesome, healthyhealing, healing exchange. See
(52:01):
what I'm saying? I recall, onJuly 14, it was the day before
my birthday. And I startedhaving a moment and nothing
could satisfy me. I wantedsugar. Just wanted sugar. Like,
where's the cake? My dad cheese,some donuts? Please can I have
(52:27):
chocolate? And I just sat for amoment and said God was gonna
what's happening to me rightnow. And God spoke to me and
said, This is not unfamiliar toyou, you know exactly what's
going on. I recalled when Iwould be in relationships, and
(52:52):
what I felt rejected. I wouldresort to comfort foods. Get in
my car and dry. Dry to ChrisKrispy Kreme. Yes, ma'am. For
Hot donuts now.
Right now.
I'll take a dozen of your glazedflip. Right. Oh, okay. You You
(53:12):
don't like me, bro. All right,man. This Krispy Kreme donut we
got to work it out. Cuz italways likes me.
So, I said wait a minute. Inthat moment on July 14.
God really did speak to me andsaid how can you be rejected?
(53:37):
When you are accepted in theBeloved. Wait, wait went
through. How can you berejected? When in me you are the
biller? The only time you can berejected is when you step out of
your Divine Self.
(53:59):
Oh, shoot. I had to give thatthing some thought. Do you know
that the PBJ Do you know when Iwhen I came to that awakening
and that understanding and placeof enlightenment? Do you know I
have not had that experiencesince because I know. I can
identify you baby. See? No wedon't. We don't embrace we don't
(54:24):
embrace we don't do rejection?
Uh huh. No, I'm accepted in theBeloved.
Okayyou understand what I'm no no,
no, no, we don't do rejection.
Belowthe here's the here's what you
did. Dr. Ritchey. This is soimportant. Because here
disruptive burnout. We talkabout what is your tail te L L?
What is your tail? What is yoursign on your symptom that you
(54:48):
need to pay attention to becausemost of the time when we found
ourselves in burnout, there havebeen signs along the way. But we
have ignored the signs or wehaven't paid attention right So
in that moment, right in that inthat moment, and that craving,
which I'm very familiar with,instead of focusing on the
craving, you said, Wait aminute, what is this? What is I
(55:10):
noticed the tail, but it'stelling me something, okay? Your
tail tells you something. Okay?
So by acknowledging the tail,you recognize that this ain't
about sugar. This is aboutrejection. And then you took the
lie that rejection was trying totell you, and you replaced it
(55:33):
with the truth. You said, I'mnot rejected. I am accepted
because I am the biller. That'sright. And that is the process
when we talk about the IMG. Thatis the process, you got to
recognize the size body, yoursoul, your spirit speaks to you.
And it lets you know when youare in crisis, when something is
(55:56):
not aligned, we're not in theright place. And when we pay
attention to that sign, and wequestion it, why are you here?
How did you get here? Nobody.
When you recognize the lie thathe's trying to tell you, you
replace that lie with the truth.
(56:17):
That's right. And the truthmakes you free. And that's why
you haven't had that experience.
Right? That's right. That'sright. No, you guys are not
here. Not here. Not here.
Yeah, Dr. Ritchey, listen, this.
We can go on and we can go butwe got to let the people go.
Okay. Tell them how can theyhear more from you, connect with
(56:40):
you? Because I know that thereare people who said Look, I need
to find this woman I need tolisten to her. So how do they
follow you and hear more fromthem? I would
of course I'm on Facebook, Dr.
Alicia Ritchey name as itspelled on the screen. You can
also check out my website arich, that would be a r i t c h
at a ritch enterprise AR I tchenterprise.com are ritch at a
(57:08):
ritch enterprise. And part ofwhat I talk about in designing
is what I do with women who areinterested in business, helping
them design a business thatdoesn't lend to burnout, helping
them design a business thatdoesn't lend to them throwing in
the towel to say I'd give uphelping them design a business
(57:29):
where we identify purpose. Andwhat's your call to do and, and
how you can serve out of purposeand the identity of, of, of
God's expression of excellencein the air. And while I don't.
It's while it's not considered afaith based business, I am a
(57:49):
faith based believer and soeverything I touch, has elements
of the expression of God in oris the expression of God.
Absolutely. Absolutely. Listen,I know after this time together,
(58:10):
that you all are set on fire andyou can begin to see the
dismembering experiences of yourlife and you are recognizing
where you need to be rememberedand reconnected to purpose and
your true identity and being thebeloved of God and I know that
(58:33):
this is going to bring healing.
I know it's going to bringdeliverance but I also know that
it's going to bring forthpurpose. So I am so excited that
you all have joined us for thisconversation. And you need to
connect with Dr. Ritchey. Youneed to follow her on Facebook
you need to reach out to her sothat you can experience more of
the God in her daughter Richie,thank you so much for joining us
(58:58):
as always.
Thank you forever.
Friends, as always, you knowthat you are powerful. You are
significant. And you are loved.
Love always PBJ See you nexttime
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