April 17, 2024 • 6 mins
A helpful spring board to get you designing your future instead of leaving it to chance.
The Gap And The Gain by Dan Sullivan
Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg
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(00:21):
Hey my friends. I am just comingout of a COVID funk. It is not
fun. COVID always really saps myenergy when I get it. I've just
been really wiped out. So I'mreally glad I'm turning the
corner on that. I wanted to talktoday about taking stock of how
far you've come. I read a bookonce called The Gap And The Gain
(00:44):
by Dan Sullivan. Highlyrecommend that book by the way.
And in that book, it talks abouthow when we are living our life
or pursuing a dream or a goal,we have our sights set on the
horizon. We have our sights seton where we want to be life.
Oftentimes we can feeldiscouraged or unhappy because
(01:05):
we look at where we are versuswhere we wish we were. And it
seems so far away. Dan Sullivancalls that the gap, the distance
between where we currently areand where we want to be. And
focusing on that gap producesits own kind of misery. Less
often we look behind us and lookat how far we've already come.
(01:27):
In the book, Dan Sullivan callsthat the gain, the distance from
where we started to where we arenow. And it's a much different
experience when you take stockof that gain. It's really
encouraging and produces hope.
It can be really amazing to seejust how far you've actually
come. Dan Sullivan posits in hisbook that how happy you are in
(01:49):
life will be directly related tohow much you live in the gain
versus the gap. It isn't so muchthat the gap isn't there or you
never mind the gap right? Butyour focus is more on the gain.
You celebrate the gain more thanyou despair the gap. I've
definitely found value in thisin my own life. I've always been
(02:12):
a fairly driven person. I'malways pursuing something. I do
find that I can get reallydiscouraged and frustrated by
how impossible it seems somedays, days where I am focused on
that gap. My attitude alwayschanges when I look at the gain
though. When I can look at whereI was just a few years ago, I'm
(02:34):
like damn. It's huge. I thinkit is especially huge when you
have gotten out of a toxic orabusive relationship. Like the
things that are possible outsideof that relationship, are just
so much greater. The world ofpossibilities just really
explodes once you step out ofthe confines of that
(02:56):
relationship. Who you becomechanges so much. I'm a
completely different person fromwho I once was. Completely. I
think it is easy sometimes toget stuck in thinking about the
past. And wishing that it couldhave been different or wondering
what it could have been like ifthings have been different. That
(03:17):
misses the fact that right nowis shaping the future. The past
is already done and gone. Butwhat you do right now is
actively shaping your future.
Right now everything I have,everything I can do, the day to
day experience of my life rightnow, was shaped by the things a
(03:39):
prior version of me did. Rightnow I am shaping the experience
of a future me. I think aboutthis a lot. I think a lot about
how the things I do with my bodyright now will determine the
quality of life when I get old.
When I get old, it will be toolate to affect certain things.
The time to think about it isnow. Now is the time to shape
(04:01):
the future. What are you doingnow that will produce the
results you want in the future?
Are you shaping the futuredeliberately? If you don't like
the current results that youhave in your life, what are you
doing differently so that thoseresults don't repeat into the
(04:23):
future? These are the questionswe should be asking ourselves.
And it doesn't have to be hugethings that we're doing. Most
things aren't accomplished bysome huge flashy breakthrough.
Most of the time it's small,consistent actions repeated over
time, that are the ones yieldinghuge results in the future.
(04:45):
Whole books have been written bypeople just deciding that they
are going to write for 15minutes a day. Weight loss goals
have been achieved by the act ofmoving for 20 minutes a day.
Financial goals have beenreached through the setting
aside a small amount eachpaycheck. A book that I think is
(05:06):
really helpful to illustratethis is called Tiny Habits by BJ
Fogg. I'll put links to both thebooks I mentioned in the show
notes because I think they'rereally good for like designing
your life on purpose. It's apowerful thing to decide that
you are going to design your ownfuture instead of leaving it to
(05:28):
default or chance. It's apowerful thing to take actions
that add up to something big. Sothis is what I'll leave you with
to think about this week. Whatkind of future do you want? What
actions can you take now toshape it? Alright my friends
until next time, be well.
Hey my friends. I am just comingout of a COVID funk. It is not
fun. COVID always really saps myenergy when I get it. I've just
been really wiped out. So I'mreally glad I'm turning the
corner on that. I wanted to talktoday about taking stock of how
far you've come. I read a bookonce called The Gap And The Gain
(00:44):
by Dan Sullivan. Highlyrecommend that book by the way.
And in that book, it talks abouthow when we are living our life
or pursuing a dream or a goal,we have our sights set on the
horizon. We have our sights seton where we want to be life.
Oftentimes we can feeldiscouraged or unhappy because
(01:05):
we look at where we are versuswhere we wish we were. And it
seems so far away. Dan Sullivancalls that the gap, the distance
between where we currently areand where we want to be. And
focusing on that gap producesits own kind of misery. Less
often we look behind us and lookat how far we've already come.
(01:27):
In the book, Dan Sullivan callsthat the gain, the distance from
where we started to where we arenow. And it's a much different
experience when you take stockof that gain. It's really
encouraging and produces hope.
It can be really amazing to seejust how far you've actually
come. Dan Sullivan posits in hisbook that how happy you are in
(01:49):
life will be directly related tohow much you live in the gain
versus the gap. It isn't so muchthat the gap isn't there or you
never mind the gap right? Butyour focus is more on the gain.
You celebrate the gain more thanyou despair the gap. I've
definitely found value in thisin my own life. I've always been
(02:12):
a fairly driven person. I'malways pursuing something. I do
find that I can get reallydiscouraged and frustrated by
how impossible it seems somedays, days where I am focused on
that gap. My attitude alwayschanges when I look at the gain
though. When I can look at whereI was just a few years ago, I'm
(02:34):
like damn. It's huge. I thinkit is especially huge when you
have gotten out of a toxic orabusive relationship. Like the
things that are possible outsideof that relationship, are just
so much greater. The world ofpossibilities just really
explodes once you step out ofthe confines of that
(02:56):
relationship. Who you becomechanges so much. I'm a
completely different person fromwho I once was. Completely. I
think it is easy sometimes toget stuck in thinking about the
past. And wishing that it couldhave been different or wondering
what it could have been like ifthings have been different. That
(03:17):
misses the fact that right nowis shaping the future. The past
is already done and gone. Butwhat you do right now is
actively shaping your future.
Right now everything I have,everything I can do, the day to
day experience of my life rightnow, was shaped by the things a
(03:39):
prior version of me did. Rightnow I am shaping the experience
of a future me. I think aboutthis a lot. I think a lot about
how the things I do with my bodyright now will determine the
quality of life when I get old.
When I get old, it will be toolate to affect certain things.
The time to think about it isnow. Now is the time to shape
(04:01):
the future. What are you doingnow that will produce the
results you want in the future?
Are you shaping the futuredeliberately? If you don't like
the current results that youhave in your life, what are you
doing differently so that thoseresults don't repeat into the
(04:23):
future? These are the questionswe should be asking ourselves.
And it doesn't have to be hugethings that we're doing. Most
things aren't accomplished bysome huge flashy breakthrough.
Most of the time it's small,consistent actions repeated over
time, that are the ones yieldinghuge results in the future.
(04:45):
Whole books have been written bypeople just deciding that they
are going to write for 15minutes a day. Weight loss goals
have been achieved by the act ofmoving for 20 minutes a day.
Financial goals have beenreached through the setting
aside a small amount eachpaycheck. A book that I think is
(05:06):
really helpful to illustratethis is called Tiny Habits by BJ
Fogg. I'll put links to both thebooks I mentioned in the show
notes because I think they'rereally good for like designing
your life on purpose. It's apowerful thing to decide that
you are going to design your ownfuture instead of leaving it to
(05:28):
default or chance. It's apowerful thing to take actions
that add up to something big. Sothis is what I'll leave you with
to think about this week. Whatkind of future do you want? What
actions can you take now toshape it? Alright my friends
until next time, be well.
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