October 29, 2025 • 20 mins
In this episode we talk a lot about something that affects a lot of people...making real commitments instead of just talking about change. With a few months left in the year, it's easy to let panic set in about unmet goals. But what if we flipped that into possibility?
The conversation centered on a challenge many face. Alcohol consumption. It's socially normalized, deeply embedded in various cultures, and often used as a coping mechanism for stress and anxiety. The research is clear. It negatively impacts brain health, physical wellbeing, and mental clarity. Yet it remains a difficult habit to address.
During our discussion, the tendency to negotiate against ourselves became apparent. Saying "I'll just have one glass at special occasions" often becomes the slippery slope that prevents real change. It's thinking that's neither fully committed nor effective, and it rarely produces results.
The key insight is this. When you commit to one aligned action, several other positive habits naturally fall into place. Better hydration, improved sleep, increased productivity, and mental clarity all follow from a single decision.
Implementation requires specific strategies. First, anchor the commitment to something tangible, like informing your social circle to create accountability. Second, track your progress visually with every week laid out Third, share it publicly to strengthen resolve. Finally, reframe the reward. Recognize that social enjoyment comes from connection with people, not from substances.
The broader principle applies to any area of life asking for attention. Whether it's early morning routines, fitness goals, or habit changes, consistency over 12 weeks can completely shift your trajectory.
The challenge is straightforward. Identify one commitment, write it down, and start immediately. Small, consistent moves create massive momentum. The question isn't whether change is possible. It's whether you're willing to consent to it and follow through.
Thanks you for listening!
K&J
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SPEAKER_01 (00:04):
Welcome to the Fitz Life Unfilter, where we pull
back the curtain on life,leadership, and legacy.
SPEAKER_00 (00:09):
We're Kim and Jeannie Fitzpatrick.
SPEAKER_01 (00:13):
Everyone here, we believe the lessons that shape
us the most aren't found in theperfection.
They're actually found right inthe middle of the night.
SPEAKER_00 (00:22):
What are we doing talking about?
SPEAKER_01 (00:24):
This is where we share it all.
The stories, the strategies, andthe truth behind the system.
SPEAKER_00 (00:27):
Because your legacy is built in the moment no one
needs to be here to talk aboutit.
SPEAKER_01 (00:32):
Whether you're turning in from your car, your
kitchen, or your morning walk,we're so glad you're here.
SPEAKER_00 (00:36):
Let's dive in together.
Hello, hello.
Welcome back.
Kimberly Maureen.
How are you?
SPEAKER_01 (00:44):
I'm doing great.
I'm excited.
SPEAKER_00 (00:47):
You look nice today.
SPEAKER_01 (00:47):
Thank you.
I'm feeling great.
I've got an amazing lunch todaywith one of my girlfriends.
We are planning maybe a littleQ4 event potentially.
SPEAKER_00 (00:56):
Where are you going for lunch?
SPEAKER_01 (00:57):
Probably gonna go to, I don't know, somewhere to
somewhere.
SPEAKER_00 (01:01):
Somewhere to somewhere.
I like it.
SPEAKER_01 (01:02):
Yeah.
All right.
So we check this out.
We have 84 days left in thisyear.
SPEAKER_00 (01:07):
84.
SPEAKER_01 (01:08):
84.
SPEAKER_00 (01:08):
That means Christmas is coming in less than 80.
SPEAKER_01 (01:10):
I know.
Merry Christmas.
Happy New Year, actually.
Oh my gosh.
I still would like to go on acruise over Christmas.
Actually, you know what?
I I saw the I saw those thatcruise.
Did I have any of you seen thedocumentary where it's like on a
cruise and they all get stuckthere?
I'm not gonna watch it.
Okay.
SPEAKER_02 (01:24):
Yeah, no.
SPEAKER_01 (01:25):
I'm not gonna watch that.
Anyway, but wanted to reallythink about this.
Like I was thinking about thisthis morning.
Sometimes it can feel like a bitlike panic can set in.
Right?
It's the end of the year.
I haven't achieved all my goals.
I haven't I'm not where I wantto be, right?
But it what if we turn that intoI'm not where I am yet, or I'm
not where I want to be.
And there's like this fear oflike, oh my gosh, there's so
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much that comes at the end ofthe year, to like, oh my gosh,
why not me?
Why not now?
And what's the possibility inall of this?
Like, remove the panic, removethe fear, remove the judgment.
It's like there's 12 weeks leftin the year.
It's 84 days to make alignedchoices that can completely
shift your trajectory, liketoday, right from listening to
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this right now.
You're the one making thedecision, you're the one that's
consenting to this idea of more,right?
If you're listening to this andyou're saying, Yeah, I want
more, I just put my hand up.
It's like, do you want more inyour life?
SPEAKER_00 (02:19):
Yeah.
Well, I think it's when whenchange has to happen, so many
people think you have to do mall these multiple things, and
it gets overwhelming.
It's like, no, you can actuallyfocus on one thing.
Maybe maybe two, even.
SPEAKER_01 (02:30):
But the point of what I was saying was you have
to consent to that.
So if as long as you'reconsenting that you want
something different, you want tochange something, like we're
both gonna share one thing thatwe're committing to, we've
consented to, we're gonna stickto, we're gonna have discipline
in.
It's like as long as you consentto that and it's your idea, you
can do anything.
But if your life, someone'slike, no, like if I nag you, how
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well does that go?
SPEAKER_00 (02:52):
And it doesn't go.
SPEAKER_01 (02:53):
It doesn't go because it's not, you don't, you
don't like I'm just gonna stopbecause it's like there's no
point in me nagging what I thinkyou should be doing if you do
not do it.
SPEAKER_00 (03:02):
Yeah, if you can't consent to it, what's the point?
SPEAKER_01 (03:04):
Well, there isn't a point.
That's my whole thing.
So today it's like, okay, whatare you consenting to?
So everything we're talking to,it's like, is there one thing or
what is it that you'reconsenting to?
What's that idea?
What's that idea?
Where do you want to go?
SPEAKER_00 (03:15):
I don't mind.
Okay, well, I know mine.
SPEAKER_01 (03:17):
What?
SPEAKER_00 (03:17):
I'm consenting to as little alcohol as possible.
SPEAKER_01 (03:21):
I love it.
That's what I'm consenting to.
Why?
SPEAKER_00 (03:23):
Because it's terrible for you.
It's poisonous.
It's bad on all fronts.
It's bad for brain health,physical health, mental health.
Um it is it's it's just notgood.
It's not good.
It's it leads to anxiety, it'severything.
It's and then and I'm not I'mnot you know I'm not this
anti-alcohol guy, but like Areyou about to become one?
I hope so.
SPEAKER_01 (03:42):
I love that.
SPEAKER_00 (03:43):
Yeah, it's really bad for you.
And and this is not someonewho's sober.
I'm not I'm not preaching on ahill here.
Like, like, you know, I have mystuff, and this is the one thing
like I'm not gonna go sober, butI need to like almost remove it
from my life.
(04:04):
That's and that's a realcommitment that I'm talking
about out loud here.
I'm Irish.
Like, like, no, it's it's true.
It's like it's a it's a don'tdon't it's not an excuse.
I'm just saying it's like I'mIrish, it's something I grew up
with, it's something I've alwaysdone.
It's a it's a culture I've beena part of for a long time.
And again, not an excuse.
I'm my own individual, but thisis something that like the more
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that comes out on alcohol, it isit is god-awful for everybody.
It really is.
SPEAKER_01 (04:35):
Okay, so we all say, like, I'm gonna start in
January, like, we're okay, butwe're gonna see our friends this
week and we're gonna have theand lease it.
Like, what are you gonna do?
What's your plan?
So this is and I'm not I'm notquestioning you just to give
preface though, because youknow, okay, so anyone that's
listening, like I love you knowme, I'm pretty much alcohol free
for the most part.
Yeah, and I enjoy a glass ofwine every now and then, and
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it's it's fine.
It doesn't do very good thingsto me though.
So it to me, it's like, what'seven the point?
SPEAKER_00 (04:59):
You enjoy a sip of wine because you don't even
finish the glass.
SPEAKER_01 (05:01):
Well, you do sometimes, but okay, but but my
point is this.
So it's like, okay, I love this.
What's gonna happen whenThanksgiving?
Like, what does that look like?
SPEAKER_00 (05:11):
I'll have a glass of wine.
Yeah, but I I it does not needto be an every weekend thing.
It just it just doesn't.
It it it's not it's no purposein it.
There's no purpose in it.
Okay, yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (05:23):
So just for anyone listening's sake, so that so
it's like we so what if youryour start line, like it's this
week you're gonna make adecision.
Like what it what if you do gosober though?
What if you don't have a glassof wine at Thanksgiving?
Like what does that what doesthat look like?
So this is this is where Ireally believe like the rubber
meets the road, though.
It's like it takes 66 days toset a decision.
So if you're like, oh, I'm gonnanot have as much wine, that
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isn't you saying, I'm gonna seewhat I can do with my body, my
mind, my soul, my sleep, andactually remove it.
SPEAKER_00 (05:51):
That's fair.
SPEAKER_01 (05:51):
So to me, I want to challenge you on that.
Cause I'm like, well, to me, I'mlike, fuck, that's like half in,
half out.
I I like to me, that doesn'tit's like telling an alcoholic
you can socially drink, youknow.
Not that I'm not saying thatthat you are that.
I'm just saying it's like,especially with our slippery
slope of our families, like thatit's just deep rooted
everywhere.
So what if you break thatgeneration?
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What if you decide, yeah, thisis uncomfortable and this is the
uncomfortable part I need toactually stick to a decision?
And like what would that looklike?
And and the reason I'mchallenging Jamie is because do
you see how easily he justtalked himself out of it?
SPEAKER_00 (06:32):
I didn't I didn't say I was going sober.
No, I didn't.
Okay, am I just gonna sip waterwith my old-timer hockey guys
after the game?
SPEAKER_01 (06:40):
You're gonna get a non-alcoholic beer.
SPEAKER_00 (06:44):
Be like, what are you doing?
SPEAKER_01 (06:46):
Yeah, you're you're working on your body and your
mind and your soul.
SPEAKER_00 (06:50):
Okay, I'll tell I'll tell all the 55-year-old hockey
guys that.
SPEAKER_01 (06:53):
This is my point, though.
I love this conversation becausethis is what's gonna be.
SPEAKER_00 (06:57):
I have my first game tonight.
It's at 10:30.
I can't go up for after that.
I'm too tired anymore.
SPEAKER_01 (07:02):
Yeah, so this is perfect.
So it's like we all say we'regonna start in January, Jamie's
starting today.
It's like, what's this yourstart line?
But think about this.
Like, I want you, and I want todo this like for social proof.
Like, I want you to take a videoliterally of yourself today.
And I want you to say, like,okay, today's the date.
This is what I decided and why.
And it's personal, you don'tneed to share it anywhere, but
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like, this is for any of you,any of you that's committing to
something.
Okay.
Any of you.
And just say, like, I'm gonnalook back at myself and it, or
write yourself a letter of like,hey, it's this date.
This version of me is deadtoday.
This is my new identity.
This is who I'm becoming.
There are so many people thatare in the best shape of their
lives.
I send you them all the time.
SPEAKER_00 (07:43):
Yeah, what yeah, thanks for sending that to me.
Like, do you think that's it?
SPEAKER_01 (07:47):
Brian Pruitt, he runs a whole men's thing.
SPEAKER_00 (07:49):
Helpful, helpful, hopefully.
SPEAKER_01 (07:51):
Brian is helpful.
He's amazing.
SPEAKER_00 (07:53):
Brian is like, I'm straight as a board, but like
Brian is probably the mostattractive human man you'll ever
you'll ever meet, right?
Like he's he's just gripped.
SPEAKER_01 (08:01):
I'm like, you're gonna go to a retreat with him
because it's like it's likebeing in the energy though of
the people that you want to bearound.
But it's like here, it's like,okay, so we have to like really
think about leadership andembodiment, right?
Like if you say you're gonna dothat, there's gotta be a why.
Like, if you're just saying,well, I'll just have a glass of
wine on Thanksgiving, it's likeyou're you're just going against
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what you're you're justnegotiating against it with
yourself because it'sconvenient.
SPEAKER_00 (08:25):
I can't wait to hear yours.
Oh yeah.
Okay, what's yours?
SPEAKER_01 (08:28):
No, no, we're gonna say, and how often how you
finish is often how you'llbegin, right?
So it's like how we enter, uhhow we close the year off will
carry into 2026.
So it's like, what is that gonnalook like?
So, okay, for me, mine is I'mI'm going to be locking in.
Today I got up at six.
So I want to get up at five andhave a holy hour.
SPEAKER_00 (08:48):
Like I really need, I know what okay, just everybody
she just announced.
I was waiting for this too,after she kiboshed my my
sobriety and it's like, no, youcan't just have one drink.
You have to go sober.
Oh, I'm so glad you said fiveo'clock.
I'm so glad you said five.
SPEAKER_01 (09:04):
So I did six and one o'clock this morning.
SPEAKER_00 (09:06):
So five o'clock, is that your thing?
Every morning you're gonna getup at five.
SPEAKER_01 (09:09):
I want to, especially with your mom living
with us.
Like, I need my own.
SPEAKER_00 (09:12):
No, no, no, no, no.
What's what's I want to?
You just you just you just callme out for saying, I might, I
might have a hold on, I mighthave a glass of wine.
So so you're saying the oddmorning you'll get up at five.
That's the same thing.
SPEAKER_01 (09:23):
Okay.
So here's the thing.
So what if we do thisinvitation?
So it's like today, we're we arehelping you and we're helping
ourselves find that onecommitment, that micro shift.
It's just one little micro shiftthat when repeated over time
could transform your results andhow you feel about yourself by
December 31st.
If you, if you okay, so let'ssay this.
So for me, if my one habit wouldbe to wake up at five o'clock in
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the morning, I need to thinkabout well, what would that do
for what will that markedlychange in my life?
So, number one, it'll give metwo hours back in my day because
I've noticed with my hormones,my like and the progesterone and
all the blah blah blah.
Oh my gosh, the menopause, it'sjust crazy.
Um, I needed to sleep more, butthat means that I need to go to
bed earlier, right?
It's just so now I've beenplaying with all that.
(10:06):
So I'm thinking I'm figuringthat out now, which is great.
But I was like a zombie tilllike seven.
And it I felt anxiety.
I felt like I was behind on myday.
Like I don't do like even 6 a.m.
this morning, I was calm andconscious.
I got my workout done.
I was so I was out the door.
Like it was no problem.
Um, but when I'm not, itdoesn't.
So if I do that every day,right, from now for 84 days, I
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wake up at five o'clock in themorning, I spend time with God,
I pray, I have do my red light,I get my like I'm already at
5,000 steps before like like I'msetting the tone for my day.
And if what we're bringing intoLumina, right, is that whole
executive athlete?
It's that whole, like if I'mcoaching at the highest level,
then I have to be at the highestlevel.
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And that's one habit that I'mlike desperately ready to devote
my time to.
And I used to do it, and it wasbeautiful and it like changed my
life.
So for you, it's like, what's ifyou were to remove all alcohol
from your life, what wouldhappen by December 31st?
SPEAKER_00 (11:06):
Um the guys on my hockey team wouldn't want to
hang out with me as much.
SPEAKER_01 (11:10):
Um Adam, Carrie, I know you're listening to this.
You need to be one for the teamhere.
SPEAKER_00 (11:16):
Um what was the question?
What would happen to me?
SPEAKER_01 (11:18):
Yeah, like like you would what would if you okay,
that one micro shift.
So you're just removing alcoholfrom your from everything.
SPEAKER_00 (11:25):
It would lead to clarity, weight loss, less
anxiety, more production, ummore pride.
More pride, maybe, maybe lessheadaches.
I don't know.
Yeah, like all that stuff.
Yeah, it's some good thingsthere.
SPEAKER_01 (11:38):
Yeah.
So what what's getting in theway?
Well, it's delicious.
SPEAKER_00 (11:44):
It's wine.
SPEAKER_01 (11:45):
I mean So this is the way for anyone listening.
This is what we have to, this islike a coaching, like this is
almost like what's getting inthe way of that.
So it's like almost a so okay,this is good.
So is the like it's like, oh butmy bed's so cozy and it feels so
good just to sleep, and it feelslike it's like the same thing,
right?
It's like the womb.
SPEAKER_00 (12:01):
Yeah, like let's let's let's let's be honest with
each other.
Like, like a glass of wine is itis delicious, but it's also it's
a coping mechanism.
It it's if you're anxious orstressed, everyone likes a glass
of whatever they like because itcalms some of that stress.
Let's let's go.
SPEAKER_01 (12:16):
A going for dinner.
Remember how that used to be oursuffer coping?
SPEAKER_00 (12:19):
Let's call a spade a spade.
Like they I do enjoy a glass ofwine for the taste.
Like a good red wine is a good,like it's enjoyable with a
steak.
But like we all, we all, youknow, have reached for, and
maybe not everyone, reach for aglass when you're stressed out
or there's anxiety, or it's aFriday night and you've had a
long week, you're like, oh, Ijust want a glass of wine to
kind of numb out.
Like, I'm not like that.
SPEAKER_01 (12:39):
I think that's fairly common, you know, maybe
not, but you know, you know whatmight be helpful, okay, and
maybe I don't know if this ishelpful for anyone listening,
but it's and maybe this isextreme, but it's like it's
convenient at our house.
So maybe you could potentially,like if you're really wanting to
still enjoy that, it could be anexperience.
So, like, for example, no, likehave non-alcoholic at the house.
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And then it's like if you're,but then I feel like you're just
gonna get into it.
Cause it's like then if you goout for dinner, it's like
there's so many mock tails andso many things, but having a
glass of wine at dinner is sonice.
It's like ritual, it's it'syou're enjoying it.
And I remember too, when, andthis is something that when you
were working with one of youramazing therapists, she said,
she's like, as long as you havethe intention behind it, it's
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like locked and loaded.
Like, what does that, what doesthat look like?
So just just like that stuff foranyone that's listening to
really like, are you negotiatingagainst yourself?
Are you letting yourself off thehook?
Or is this something that youwant to build it?
Like, is that what you feelcomfortable with in integrity?
Like, if you want to be like,I'm gonna have a glass of wine
four times in the next threemonths.
SPEAKER_00 (13:45):
Right.
SPEAKER_01 (13:45):
Like that, that, you know, like, and then the rest of
it is you are pretty much sober.
SPEAKER_00 (13:50):
Yeah.
You know, like that's kind ofwhat I was referring to when you
asked me, like, what are yougonna do at Thanksgiving?
SPEAKER_01 (13:55):
Yeah.
And I think that's just where,but it's I think the the
trickiness is is when when it'slike, okay, well, that one turns
into the bottle or that oneturns into two.
So just being aware.
So anyone that's listening, it'slike for me, it's like, okay, so
Kim, you say 5 a.m.
Who and I'm gonna do this forme.
You know, for a long time, Iused to be doing that for my
business.
And I like would, you know, haveto do this and do those things.
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But if I do this for me becausethat's my standard, if you're
doing this for you becausethat's your standard, then
that's a consistent shift,right?
You don't need to rebuild yourwhole life.
You need one consistent shift.
SPEAKER_00 (14:27):
And on a Sunday, are you gonna get up at five?
SPEAKER_01 (14:29):
I'd love to.
SPEAKER_00 (14:30):
Okay.
SPEAKER_01 (14:31):
I would love to because I'd love to be in bed by
eight by nine o'clock becausethat's I I cut my val my high
value is taking care of myself.
SPEAKER_02 (14:38):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (14:39):
So everything shifts.
I don't need to be working tillnine o'clock at night anymore.
That's not our reality anymore.
It was, it's not anymore.
So my that identity is evolving,and that's and then your
behaviors have to upgrade toyour identity.
That's really the biggest thingI'm working on.
And that's one thing I was toldabout three years ago.
You know, when I raced in, I waslike, I need DEMDR.
(15:01):
I'm I'm broken.
And my therapist looked at me.
She's like, she's somatter-of-fact, Liana.
She's like, no, your behaviorsjust have to catch up with your
identity.
And I was like, that is a micdrop.
If I've ever heard a mic drop,that was the best thing.
And I've been working towardsthat.
And now it's time.
So we are really rising fromclarity.
And I think clarity starts whenyou decide to take one aligned
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action.
So that's your one action,that's my action.
We want to know what your actionis.
SPEAKER_00 (15:27):
And the the thing about it is I know if if if I
when I do that one alignedaction, I know the other four
things will start to kick intoplace.
I love that.
They always do.
SPEAKER_01 (15:34):
Exactly.
They always do.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (15:36):
We all know what those are.
You know, like more water,actually, all that shit follows
one decision.
And that's why it's easier tofocus on one thing that you can
do.
SPEAKER_01 (15:43):
So and I think one of the one of the things too,
it's like, okay, so you have toanchor it.
So you're gonna attach yourhabit to something you already
do, right?
So what are you, when are yougood, what how are you gonna
anchor that?
So for me, last night Ianchored, I I knew when I was
going to bed, I knew I wasgetting up at six, and I was
like, okay, I'm gonna have thebest sleep.
So before I went to bed, Ivisualized I was gonna have the
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best sleep.
I was gonna have enough REMsleep.
I was gonna get out of bed atsix o'clock, and I was gonna, so
that anchored, right?
Now that anchored my eveningroutine.
So for you, it's like, whatwould you anchor?
You're going out with the theboys tonight, or you're gonna do
the what are you gonna anchor into know this is my promise to
myself?
So that's one thing for us tothink, one example for you to
actually like it's a tool tomake this actually implement.
Like, how do I implement this?
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How do I, how do I actually dothis, right?
SPEAKER_00 (16:26):
And that uh honestly, what I would do is I
would I would tell a couple guyson my team I'm not drinking.
SPEAKER_01 (16:30):
Perfect.
Love that.
SPEAKER_00 (16:31):
Yeah, yeah.
So no, I'm not drinking for awhile.
SPEAKER_01 (16:34):
Yeah, that's amazing.
SPEAKER_00 (16:35):
And then just kind of holds you accountable to them
and they they know not to askquestions, not because it's a
problem, but I'm just it's goodto let them know.
Like I would be like, hey, Adam,I'm just actually not drinking
for a while.
Yeah, trying to get reallyhealthy.
SPEAKER_01 (16:47):
Okay, number two.
SPEAKER_00 (16:47):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (16:48):
What you track reveals your trends.
Your trends reveal your truth,and your truth will set you
free.
So should we do some sort oflike a track, a tracker or
something that we can do?
Like, or do you want to like,you know, like we have 84 days
left in the like, do you want toput like 84 dots on a on a
sheet, something like that?
I'm just giving uh tools, right?
And then share it, just likeJamie just said.
So have accountability, right?
(17:09):
So anchor it, track it, shareit, and then stack it.
Once it feels easy, what's thatone more thing?
Because growth, like you said,growth doesn't come from
pressure, right?
It comes from momentum.
So once you have that momentum,you have a week under your belt,
you're like, okay, we're gonnaget through it.
We're gonna go get non-alcoholicwine, we're gonna bring that,
we're just gonna drink that.
Like it's just it's justchanges.
SPEAKER_00 (17:28):
And pride, like you said, pride really helps too.
SPEAKER_01 (17:30):
I love that.
And I think too, one of thethings before we wrap this up is
like inquire where theresistance is.
Like that was really fun doingthat together because you're
like, oh yeah, you're gonna getup at 5 a.m.
We need to challenge each otheron that to be like, how how
serious are you?
SPEAKER_00 (17:43):
Let me say that.
This is this is this is the thisis the reframe, is for me,
because I just started playinghockey again last year.
It was so much fun, such goodguys.
Part of the joy of that wasgoing out after and having a
beer with the guys, but you needto reframe the joy wasn't the
beer, the joy was going out withthe guys.
And you don't need to have fun.
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The drink wasn't what was funabout it.
What was fun about it was justgoing out with a bunch of dudes
and just talking about stuff andhanging out, not the beer.
That's the reframe for me.
SPEAKER_01 (18:14):
I love that.
SPEAKER_00 (18:14):
Now, can do I have to cut out the wings too?
SPEAKER_01 (18:18):
You can stack that next.
SPEAKER_00 (18:20):
That's a double stack of enjoyment, right?
SPEAKER_01 (18:21):
I mean, I think the wings are perfect.
I love wings.
I love a good wing.
So it's so here's a couplequestions.
It's like, what's the one areaof your life asking for
attention right now?
What would it look or feel?
What would look or feeldifferent in 12 weeks if you
started today?
Like right now, the day that youare, the day you are listening
to this podcast.
What would that look like?
And then who might you become bystaying consistent?
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And these questions are thethings that build
self-leadership.
It's not about more, it's notabout being more, being better.
We might want more in our life,but in order to have more, is we
need to be more intentional.
We need to say, what am I sayingyes to?
So here's your challenge.
Okay.
Pick one commitment that you'regonna commit to, write it down,
start today, tell us what it is.
You can screenshot it, yourcommitment to us.
(19:04):
You can put it on a postingnote.
I think we might need to make atracker.
Let us know if you wanttrackers.
We're gonna do this with you.
But share it in your stories,tag us both and like leave a
rest, a review or a message andshare that one thing.
We're gonna be talking each weekabout what's working and what's
not, and sharing how to buildmomentum through October because
small moves builds massive,massive momentum.
(19:25):
So just remember we've got 12weeks, 84 days.
Let's finish this year inalignment on purpose and with
power.
SPEAKER_00 (19:32):
We love it.
Thanks, everybody.
Appreciate you listening.
SPEAKER_01 (19:34):
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SPEAKER_00 (20:09):
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we grow together.
SPEAKER_00 (20:19):
Thanks everyone for teaching.
Welcome to the Fitz Life Unfilter, where we pull
back the curtain on life,leadership, and legacy.
SPEAKER_00 (00:09):
We're Kim and Jeannie Fitzpatrick.
SPEAKER_01 (00:13):
Everyone here, we believe the lessons that shape
us the most aren't found in theperfection.
They're actually found right inthe middle of the night.
SPEAKER_00 (00:22):
What are we doing talking about?
SPEAKER_01 (00:24):
This is where we share it all.
The stories, the strategies, andthe truth behind the system.
SPEAKER_00 (00:27):
Because your legacy is built in the moment no one
needs to be here to talk aboutit.
SPEAKER_01 (00:32):
Whether you're turning in from your car, your
kitchen, or your morning walk,we're so glad you're here.
SPEAKER_00 (00:36):
Let's dive in together.
Hello, hello.
Welcome back.
Kimberly Maureen.
How are you?
SPEAKER_01 (00:44):
I'm doing great.
I'm excited.
SPEAKER_00 (00:47):
You look nice today.
SPEAKER_01 (00:47):
Thank you.
I'm feeling great.
I've got an amazing lunch todaywith one of my girlfriends.
We are planning maybe a littleQ4 event potentially.
SPEAKER_00 (00:56):
Where are you going for lunch?
SPEAKER_01 (00:57):
Probably gonna go to, I don't know, somewhere to
somewhere.
SPEAKER_00 (01:01):
Somewhere to somewhere.
I like it.
SPEAKER_01 (01:02):
Yeah.
All right.
So we check this out.
We have 84 days left in thisyear.
SPEAKER_00 (01:07):
84.
SPEAKER_01 (01:08):
84.
SPEAKER_00 (01:08):
That means Christmas is coming in less than 80.
SPEAKER_01 (01:10):
I know.
Merry Christmas.
Happy New Year, actually.
Oh my gosh.
I still would like to go on acruise over Christmas.
Actually, you know what?
I I saw the I saw those thatcruise.
Did I have any of you seen thedocumentary where it's like on a
cruise and they all get stuckthere?
I'm not gonna watch it.
Okay.
SPEAKER_02 (01:24):
Yeah, no.
SPEAKER_01 (01:25):
I'm not gonna watch that.
Anyway, but wanted to reallythink about this.
Like I was thinking about thisthis morning.
Sometimes it can feel like a bitlike panic can set in.
Right?
It's the end of the year.
I haven't achieved all my goals.
I haven't I'm not where I wantto be, right?
But it what if we turn that intoI'm not where I am yet, or I'm
not where I want to be.
And there's like this fear oflike, oh my gosh, there's so
(01:46):
much that comes at the end ofthe year, to like, oh my gosh,
why not me?
Why not now?
And what's the possibility inall of this?
Like, remove the panic, removethe fear, remove the judgment.
It's like there's 12 weeks leftin the year.
It's 84 days to make alignedchoices that can completely
shift your trajectory, liketoday, right from listening to
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this right now.
You're the one making thedecision, you're the one that's
consenting to this idea of more,right?
If you're listening to this andyou're saying, Yeah, I want
more, I just put my hand up.
It's like, do you want more inyour life?
SPEAKER_00 (02:19):
Yeah.
Well, I think it's when whenchange has to happen, so many
people think you have to do mall these multiple things, and
it gets overwhelming.
It's like, no, you can actuallyfocus on one thing.
Maybe maybe two, even.
SPEAKER_01 (02:30):
But the point of what I was saying was you have
to consent to that.
So if as long as you'reconsenting that you want
something different, you want tochange something, like we're
both gonna share one thing thatwe're committing to, we've
consented to, we're gonna stickto, we're gonna have discipline
in.
It's like as long as you consentto that and it's your idea, you
can do anything.
But if your life, someone'slike, no, like if I nag you, how
(02:50):
well does that go?
SPEAKER_00 (02:52):
And it doesn't go.
SPEAKER_01 (02:53):
It doesn't go because it's not, you don't, you
don't like I'm just gonna stopbecause it's like there's no
point in me nagging what I thinkyou should be doing if you do
not do it.
SPEAKER_00 (03:02):
Yeah, if you can't consent to it, what's the point?
SPEAKER_01 (03:04):
Well, there isn't a point.
That's my whole thing.
So today it's like, okay, whatare you consenting to?
So everything we're talking to,it's like, is there one thing or
what is it that you'reconsenting to?
What's that idea?
What's that idea?
Where do you want to go?
SPEAKER_00 (03:15):
I don't mind.
Okay, well, I know mine.
SPEAKER_01 (03:17):
What?
SPEAKER_00 (03:17):
I'm consenting to as little alcohol as possible.
SPEAKER_01 (03:21):
I love it.
That's what I'm consenting to.
Why?
SPEAKER_00 (03:23):
Because it's terrible for you.
It's poisonous.
It's bad on all fronts.
It's bad for brain health,physical health, mental health.
Um it is it's it's just notgood.
It's not good.
It's it leads to anxiety, it'severything.
It's and then and I'm not I'mnot you know I'm not this
anti-alcohol guy, but like Areyou about to become one?
I hope so.
SPEAKER_01 (03:42):
I love that.
SPEAKER_00 (03:43):
Yeah, it's really bad for you.
And and this is not someonewho's sober.
I'm not I'm not preaching on ahill here.
Like, like, you know, I have mystuff, and this is the one thing
like I'm not gonna go sober, butI need to like almost remove it
from my life.
(04:04):
That's and that's a realcommitment that I'm talking
about out loud here.
I'm Irish.
Like, like, no, it's it's true.
It's like it's a it's a don'tdon't it's not an excuse.
I'm just saying it's like I'mIrish, it's something I grew up
with, it's something I've alwaysdone.
It's a it's a culture I've beena part of for a long time.
And again, not an excuse.
I'm my own individual, but thisis something that like the more
(04:28):
that comes out on alcohol, it isit is god-awful for everybody.
It really is.
SPEAKER_01 (04:35):
Okay, so we all say, like, I'm gonna start in
January, like, we're okay, butwe're gonna see our friends this
week and we're gonna have theand lease it.
Like, what are you gonna do?
What's your plan?
So this is and I'm not I'm notquestioning you just to give
preface though, because youknow, okay, so anyone that's
listening, like I love you knowme, I'm pretty much alcohol free
for the most part.
Yeah, and I enjoy a glass ofwine every now and then, and
(04:55):
it's it's fine.
It doesn't do very good thingsto me though.
So it to me, it's like, what'seven the point?
SPEAKER_00 (04:59):
You enjoy a sip of wine because you don't even
finish the glass.
SPEAKER_01 (05:01):
Well, you do sometimes, but okay, but but my
point is this.
So it's like, okay, I love this.
What's gonna happen whenThanksgiving?
Like, what does that look like?
SPEAKER_00 (05:11):
I'll have a glass of wine.
Yeah, but I I it does not needto be an every weekend thing.
It just it just doesn't.
It it it's not it's no purposein it.
There's no purpose in it.
Okay, yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (05:23):
So just for anyone listening's sake, so that so
it's like we so what if youryour start line, like it's this
week you're gonna make adecision.
Like what it what if you do gosober though?
What if you don't have a glassof wine at Thanksgiving?
Like what does that what doesthat look like?
So this is this is where Ireally believe like the rubber
meets the road, though.
It's like it takes 66 days toset a decision.
So if you're like, oh, I'm gonnanot have as much wine, that
(05:45):
isn't you saying, I'm gonna seewhat I can do with my body, my
mind, my soul, my sleep, andactually remove it.
SPEAKER_00 (05:51):
That's fair.
SPEAKER_01 (05:51):
So to me, I want to challenge you on that.
Cause I'm like, well, to me, I'mlike, fuck, that's like half in,
half out.
I I like to me, that doesn'tit's like telling an alcoholic
you can socially drink, youknow.
Not that I'm not saying thatthat you are that.
I'm just saying it's like,especially with our slippery
slope of our families, like thatit's just deep rooted
everywhere.
So what if you break thatgeneration?
(06:14):
What if you decide, yeah, thisis uncomfortable and this is the
uncomfortable part I need toactually stick to a decision?
And like what would that looklike?
And and the reason I'mchallenging Jamie is because do
you see how easily he justtalked himself out of it?
SPEAKER_00 (06:32):
I didn't I didn't say I was going sober.
No, I didn't.
Okay, am I just gonna sip waterwith my old-timer hockey guys
after the game?
SPEAKER_01 (06:40):
You're gonna get a non-alcoholic beer.
SPEAKER_00 (06:44):
Be like, what are you doing?
SPEAKER_01 (06:46):
Yeah, you're you're working on your body and your
mind and your soul.
SPEAKER_00 (06:50):
Okay, I'll tell I'll tell all the 55-year-old hockey
guys that.
SPEAKER_01 (06:53):
This is my point, though.
I love this conversation becausethis is what's gonna be.
SPEAKER_00 (06:57):
I have my first game tonight.
It's at 10:30.
I can't go up for after that.
I'm too tired anymore.
SPEAKER_01 (07:02):
Yeah, so this is perfect.
So it's like we all say we'regonna start in January, Jamie's
starting today.
It's like, what's this yourstart line?
But think about this.
Like, I want you, and I want todo this like for social proof.
Like, I want you to take a videoliterally of yourself today.
And I want you to say, like,okay, today's the date.
This is what I decided and why.
And it's personal, you don'tneed to share it anywhere, but
(07:22):
like, this is for any of you,any of you that's committing to
something.
Okay.
Any of you.
And just say, like, I'm gonnalook back at myself and it, or
write yourself a letter of like,hey, it's this date.
This version of me is deadtoday.
This is my new identity.
This is who I'm becoming.
There are so many people thatare in the best shape of their
lives.
I send you them all the time.
SPEAKER_00 (07:43):
Yeah, what yeah, thanks for sending that to me.
Like, do you think that's it?
SPEAKER_01 (07:47):
Brian Pruitt, he runs a whole men's thing.
SPEAKER_00 (07:49):
Helpful, helpful, hopefully.
SPEAKER_01 (07:51):
Brian is helpful.
He's amazing.
SPEAKER_00 (07:53):
Brian is like, I'm straight as a board, but like
Brian is probably the mostattractive human man you'll ever
you'll ever meet, right?
Like he's he's just gripped.
SPEAKER_01 (08:01):
I'm like, you're gonna go to a retreat with him
because it's like it's likebeing in the energy though of
the people that you want to bearound.
But it's like here, it's like,okay, so we have to like really
think about leadership andembodiment, right?
Like if you say you're gonna dothat, there's gotta be a why.
Like, if you're just saying,well, I'll just have a glass of
wine on Thanksgiving, it's likeyou're you're just going against
(08:21):
what you're you're justnegotiating against it with
yourself because it'sconvenient.
SPEAKER_00 (08:25):
I can't wait to hear yours.
Oh yeah.
Okay, what's yours?
SPEAKER_01 (08:28):
No, no, we're gonna say, and how often how you
finish is often how you'llbegin, right?
So it's like how we enter, uhhow we close the year off will
carry into 2026.
So it's like, what is that gonnalook like?
So, okay, for me, mine is I'mI'm going to be locking in.
Today I got up at six.
So I want to get up at five andhave a holy hour.
SPEAKER_00 (08:48):
Like I really need, I know what okay, just everybody
she just announced.
I was waiting for this too,after she kiboshed my my
sobriety and it's like, no, youcan't just have one drink.
You have to go sober.
Oh, I'm so glad you said fiveo'clock.
I'm so glad you said five.
SPEAKER_01 (09:04):
So I did six and one o'clock this morning.
SPEAKER_00 (09:06):
So five o'clock, is that your thing?
Every morning you're gonna getup at five.
SPEAKER_01 (09:09):
I want to, especially with your mom living
with us.
Like, I need my own.
SPEAKER_00 (09:12):
No, no, no, no, no.
What's what's I want to?
You just you just you just callme out for saying, I might, I
might have a hold on, I mighthave a glass of wine.
So so you're saying the oddmorning you'll get up at five.
That's the same thing.
SPEAKER_01 (09:23):
Okay.
So here's the thing.
So what if we do thisinvitation?
So it's like today, we're we arehelping you and we're helping
ourselves find that onecommitment, that micro shift.
It's just one little micro shiftthat when repeated over time
could transform your results andhow you feel about yourself by
December 31st.
If you, if you okay, so let'ssay this.
So for me, if my one habit wouldbe to wake up at five o'clock in
(09:46):
the morning, I need to thinkabout well, what would that do
for what will that markedlychange in my life?
So, number one, it'll give metwo hours back in my day because
I've noticed with my hormones,my like and the progesterone and
all the blah blah blah.
Oh my gosh, the menopause, it'sjust crazy.
Um, I needed to sleep more, butthat means that I need to go to
bed earlier, right?
It's just so now I've beenplaying with all that.
(10:06):
So I'm thinking I'm figuringthat out now, which is great.
But I was like a zombie tilllike seven.
And it I felt anxiety.
I felt like I was behind on myday.
Like I don't do like even 6 a.m.
this morning, I was calm andconscious.
I got my workout done.
I was so I was out the door.
Like it was no problem.
Um, but when I'm not, itdoesn't.
So if I do that every day,right, from now for 84 days, I
(10:30):
wake up at five o'clock in themorning, I spend time with God,
I pray, I have do my red light,I get my like I'm already at
5,000 steps before like like I'msetting the tone for my day.
And if what we're bringing intoLumina, right, is that whole
executive athlete?
It's that whole, like if I'mcoaching at the highest level,
then I have to be at the highestlevel.
(10:51):
And that's one habit that I'mlike desperately ready to devote
my time to.
And I used to do it, and it wasbeautiful and it like changed my
life.
So for you, it's like, what's ifyou were to remove all alcohol
from your life, what wouldhappen by December 31st?
SPEAKER_00 (11:06):
Um the guys on my hockey team wouldn't want to
hang out with me as much.
SPEAKER_01 (11:10):
Um Adam, Carrie, I know you're listening to this.
You need to be one for the teamhere.
SPEAKER_00 (11:16):
Um what was the question?
What would happen to me?
SPEAKER_01 (11:18):
Yeah, like like you would what would if you okay,
that one micro shift.
So you're just removing alcoholfrom your from everything.
SPEAKER_00 (11:25):
It would lead to clarity, weight loss, less
anxiety, more production, ummore pride.
More pride, maybe, maybe lessheadaches.
I don't know.
Yeah, like all that stuff.
Yeah, it's some good thingsthere.
SPEAKER_01 (11:38):
Yeah.
So what what's getting in theway?
Well, it's delicious.
SPEAKER_00 (11:44):
It's wine.
SPEAKER_01 (11:45):
I mean So this is the way for anyone listening.
This is what we have to, this islike a coaching, like this is
almost like what's getting inthe way of that.
So it's like almost a so okay,this is good.
So is the like it's like, oh butmy bed's so cozy and it feels so
good just to sleep, and it feelslike it's like the same thing,
right?
It's like the womb.
SPEAKER_00 (12:01):
Yeah, like let's let's let's let's be honest with
each other.
Like, like a glass of wine is itis delicious, but it's also it's
a coping mechanism.
It it's if you're anxious orstressed, everyone likes a glass
of whatever they like because itcalms some of that stress.
Let's let's go.
SPEAKER_01 (12:16):
A going for dinner.
Remember how that used to be oursuffer coping?
SPEAKER_00 (12:19):
Let's call a spade a spade.
Like they I do enjoy a glass ofwine for the taste.
Like a good red wine is a good,like it's enjoyable with a
steak.
But like we all, we all, youknow, have reached for, and
maybe not everyone, reach for aglass when you're stressed out
or there's anxiety, or it's aFriday night and you've had a
long week, you're like, oh, Ijust want a glass of wine to
kind of numb out.
Like, I'm not like that.
SPEAKER_01 (12:39):
I think that's fairly common, you know, maybe
not, but you know, you know whatmight be helpful, okay, and
maybe I don't know if this ishelpful for anyone listening,
but it's and maybe this isextreme, but it's like it's
convenient at our house.
So maybe you could potentially,like if you're really wanting to
still enjoy that, it could be anexperience.
So, like, for example, no, likehave non-alcoholic at the house.
(13:02):
And then it's like if you're,but then I feel like you're just
gonna get into it.
Cause it's like then if you goout for dinner, it's like
there's so many mock tails andso many things, but having a
glass of wine at dinner is sonice.
It's like ritual, it's it'syou're enjoying it.
And I remember too, when, andthis is something that when you
were working with one of youramazing therapists, she said,
she's like, as long as you havethe intention behind it, it's
(13:23):
like locked and loaded.
Like, what does that, what doesthat look like?
So just just like that stuff foranyone that's listening to
really like, are you negotiatingagainst yourself?
Are you letting yourself off thehook?
Or is this something that youwant to build it?
Like, is that what you feelcomfortable with in integrity?
Like, if you want to be like,I'm gonna have a glass of wine
four times in the next threemonths.
SPEAKER_00 (13:45):
Right.
SPEAKER_01 (13:45):
Like that, that, you know, like, and then the rest of
it is you are pretty much sober.
SPEAKER_00 (13:50):
Yeah.
You know, like that's kind ofwhat I was referring to when you
asked me, like, what are yougonna do at Thanksgiving?
SPEAKER_01 (13:55):
Yeah.
And I think that's just where,but it's I think the the
trickiness is is when when it'slike, okay, well, that one turns
into the bottle or that oneturns into two.
So just being aware.
So anyone that's listening, it'slike for me, it's like, okay, so
Kim, you say 5 a.m.
Who and I'm gonna do this forme.
You know, for a long time, Iused to be doing that for my
business.
And I like would, you know, haveto do this and do those things.
(14:17):
But if I do this for me becausethat's my standard, if you're
doing this for you becausethat's your standard, then
that's a consistent shift,right?
You don't need to rebuild yourwhole life.
You need one consistent shift.
SPEAKER_00 (14:27):
And on a Sunday, are you gonna get up at five?
SPEAKER_01 (14:29):
I'd love to.
SPEAKER_00 (14:30):
Okay.
SPEAKER_01 (14:31):
I would love to because I'd love to be in bed by
eight by nine o'clock becausethat's I I cut my val my high
value is taking care of myself.
SPEAKER_02 (14:38):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (14:39):
So everything shifts.
I don't need to be working tillnine o'clock at night anymore.
That's not our reality anymore.
It was, it's not anymore.
So my that identity is evolving,and that's and then your
behaviors have to upgrade toyour identity.
That's really the biggest thingI'm working on.
And that's one thing I was toldabout three years ago.
You know, when I raced in, I waslike, I need DEMDR.
(15:01):
I'm I'm broken.
And my therapist looked at me.
She's like, she's somatter-of-fact, Liana.
She's like, no, your behaviorsjust have to catch up with your
identity.
And I was like, that is a micdrop.
If I've ever heard a mic drop,that was the best thing.
And I've been working towardsthat.
And now it's time.
So we are really rising fromclarity.
And I think clarity starts whenyou decide to take one aligned
(15:23):
action.
So that's your one action,that's my action.
We want to know what your actionis.
SPEAKER_00 (15:27):
And the the thing about it is I know if if if I
when I do that one alignedaction, I know the other four
things will start to kick intoplace.
I love that.
They always do.
SPEAKER_01 (15:34):
Exactly.
They always do.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (15:36):
We all know what those are.
You know, like more water,actually, all that shit follows
one decision.
And that's why it's easier tofocus on one thing that you can
do.
SPEAKER_01 (15:43):
So and I think one of the one of the things too,
it's like, okay, so you have toanchor it.
So you're gonna attach yourhabit to something you already
do, right?
So what are you, when are yougood, what how are you gonna
anchor that?
So for me, last night Ianchored, I I knew when I was
going to bed, I knew I wasgetting up at six, and I was
like, okay, I'm gonna have thebest sleep.
So before I went to bed, Ivisualized I was gonna have the
(16:04):
best sleep.
I was gonna have enough REMsleep.
I was gonna get out of bed atsix o'clock, and I was gonna, so
that anchored, right?
Now that anchored my eveningroutine.
So for you, it's like, whatwould you anchor?
You're going out with the theboys tonight, or you're gonna do
the what are you gonna anchor into know this is my promise to
myself?
So that's one thing for us tothink, one example for you to
actually like it's a tool tomake this actually implement.
Like, how do I implement this?
(16:24):
How do I, how do I actually dothis, right?
SPEAKER_00 (16:26):
And that uh honestly, what I would do is I
would I would tell a couple guyson my team I'm not drinking.
SPEAKER_01 (16:30):
Perfect.
Love that.
SPEAKER_00 (16:31):
Yeah, yeah.
So no, I'm not drinking for awhile.
SPEAKER_01 (16:34):
Yeah, that's amazing.
SPEAKER_00 (16:35):
And then just kind of holds you accountable to them
and they they know not to askquestions, not because it's a
problem, but I'm just it's goodto let them know.
Like I would be like, hey, Adam,I'm just actually not drinking
for a while.
Yeah, trying to get reallyhealthy.
SPEAKER_01 (16:47):
Okay, number two.
SPEAKER_00 (16:47):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (16:48):
What you track reveals your trends.
Your trends reveal your truth,and your truth will set you
free.
So should we do some sort oflike a track, a tracker or
something that we can do?
Like, or do you want to like,you know, like we have 84 days
left in the like, do you want toput like 84 dots on a on a
sheet, something like that?
I'm just giving uh tools, right?
And then share it, just likeJamie just said.
So have accountability, right?
(17:09):
So anchor it, track it, shareit, and then stack it.
Once it feels easy, what's thatone more thing?
Because growth, like you said,growth doesn't come from
pressure, right?
It comes from momentum.
So once you have that momentum,you have a week under your belt,
you're like, okay, we're gonnaget through it.
We're gonna go get non-alcoholicwine, we're gonna bring that,
we're just gonna drink that.
Like it's just it's justchanges.
SPEAKER_00 (17:28):
And pride, like you said, pride really helps too.
SPEAKER_01 (17:30):
I love that.
And I think too, one of thethings before we wrap this up is
like inquire where theresistance is.
Like that was really fun doingthat together because you're
like, oh yeah, you're gonna getup at 5 a.m.
We need to challenge each otheron that to be like, how how
serious are you?
SPEAKER_00 (17:43):
Let me say that.
This is this is this is the thisis the reframe, is for me,
because I just started playinghockey again last year.
It was so much fun, such goodguys.
Part of the joy of that wasgoing out after and having a
beer with the guys, but you needto reframe the joy wasn't the
beer, the joy was going out withthe guys.
And you don't need to have fun.
(18:04):
The drink wasn't what was funabout it.
What was fun about it was justgoing out with a bunch of dudes
and just talking about stuff andhanging out, not the beer.
That's the reframe for me.
SPEAKER_01 (18:14):
I love that.
SPEAKER_00 (18:14):
Now, can do I have to cut out the wings too?
SPEAKER_01 (18:18):
You can stack that next.
SPEAKER_00 (18:20):
That's a double stack of enjoyment, right?
SPEAKER_01 (18:21):
I mean, I think the wings are perfect.
I love wings.
I love a good wing.
So it's so here's a couplequestions.
It's like, what's the one areaof your life asking for
attention right now?
What would it look or feel?
What would look or feeldifferent in 12 weeks if you
started today?
Like right now, the day that youare, the day you are listening
to this podcast.
What would that look like?
And then who might you become bystaying consistent?
(18:42):
And these questions are thethings that build
self-leadership.
It's not about more, it's notabout being more, being better.
We might want more in our life,but in order to have more, is we
need to be more intentional.
We need to say, what am I sayingyes to?
So here's your challenge.
Okay.
Pick one commitment that you'regonna commit to, write it down,
start today, tell us what it is.
You can screenshot it, yourcommitment to us.
(19:04):
You can put it on a postingnote.
I think we might need to make atracker.
Let us know if you wanttrackers.
We're gonna do this with you.
But share it in your stories,tag us both and like leave a
rest, a review or a message andshare that one thing.
We're gonna be talking each weekabout what's working and what's
not, and sharing how to buildmomentum through October because
small moves builds massive,massive momentum.
(19:25):
So just remember we've got 12weeks, 84 days.
Let's finish this year inalignment on purpose and with
power.
SPEAKER_00 (19:32):
We love it.
Thanks, everybody.
Appreciate you listening.
SPEAKER_01 (19:34):
Let's go.
Thank you so much for tuninginto the Fit Slave Unfiltered.
We are so grateful that you'rehere with us.
SPEAKER_00 (19:40):
If something today made you think, laugh, or feel
seen, share this episode with afriend who's walking their own
growth journey.
SPEAKER_01 (19:46):
And don't forget, hit that subscribe button, leave
a review.
We love hearing what resonatedthe most for you.
We do read out the reviews, andwe often give out whether it be
the Her Nemo journals, legacyscarves, headbands, free
workshops, any of those things.
So please be sure to leave areview.
Peg us on Instagram, share yourstories.
We'd absolutely love to see yousharing what you learned from
(20:08):
these episodes.
SPEAKER_00 (20:09):
Yeah, this community is built on real conversation
with radical growth and a wholelot of work.
SPEAKER_01 (20:14):
And here's the thing when you share your
breakthrough, you start withsomebody else's, and that's how
we grow together.
SPEAKER_00 (20:19):
Thanks everyone for teaching.
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