Humility Around Your Darkness with Jordan Bokser

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August 15, 2023 • 42 mins

I'm thrilled to be joined by Jordan Bokser, and we're set to delve into the intriguing topic of embracing our inner shadows with humility. Jordan's journey began with undertaking vital work on himself, making a conscious decision to extend the support he received while navigating his own trials towards achieving happiness and success.

Initially, he provided personal counseling and coaching to those looking to modify their lives or enhance their existing circumstances. Over time, his repertoire has expanded to encompass a broad range of services, including life strategy consultations, retreats, and breathwork sessions, all uniquely crafted to suit each individual's needs.

Jordan adopts a holistic methodology, focusing on every facet of human existence - physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and even financial. He firmly believes that genuine happiness springs from the entirety of a person, not merely isolated parts. He extends his assistance beyond merely tackling surface-level issues, diving deep into each person's unique circumstances. His ultimate aim is to guide clients towards achieving true happiness and success in their lives.

We talk about the 'Hearty Method', a unique approach developed by Jordan that centers on a heart-based, ecstatic, action-oriented, resilient, truthful, and youthful way of living.

Jordan shares his belief that true happiness emerges from the holistic integration of the individual, examining the depth of this philosophy. We also touch on the role of breathwork in Jordan's practice and more.

[04:08] Jordan shares why he can counsel people to achieve happiness and success. Healing is giving love to someone else's demon.
[08:35] Being an observer and focusing on what we see.
[10:57] Jordan talks about why working with the subconscious is so important. Some people don't even understand what happiness means and they're looking at it through a certain lens.
[12:08] Teaching people to understand what it feels to be expansive and seeing the thoughts that block the layers. What are your true values?
[13:21] When working with clients it can take two to three hours just to figure out what their true values really are.
[14:55] The Hearty Method evolved as Jordan was trying to heal from being sick. It started with his Hearty Gentlemen blog. He was into natural healing, but he had a very negative ayahuasca experience.
[18:11] HEARTY stands for heart focus, ecstatic, action-based, resiliency, truthfulness, and youthfulness.
[19:32] He uses his method to guide people through their darkness the way he was guided through his darkness.
[22:52] Jordan talks about how breathwork takes him to a connected place.
[24:40] Jordan has studied tantric, Qigong, and his go-to standard is elemental breath work. It removes the complication and makes breath work simple.
[29:27] Jordan talks about elemental breath work and how it can be done longer because it's simpler.
[31:30] We go through the Earth breath and the water breath. We can slow down and speed up time with just a breath.
[34:53] True happiness comes from the whole person. This includes mental, physical, and spiritual.
[36:56] We can treat anything as a whole body approach.
[39:13] We need resiliency and action because when we achieve things we feel good.
[40:01] Pushing yourself beyond your limits and getting into a flow state.