February 20, 2025 • 16 mins
In this episode, we explore the difference between headspace and heart space—and why it matters, especially for highly sensitive people, healers, and empaths. When we’re stuck in our headspace, we experience fear, anxiety, and overthinking, often leading to fight, flight, or freeze responses. This state can make it difficult to separate emotions from reality, leaving us feeling overwhelmed, defensive, or disconnected. Recognizing these signs is the first step toward shifting out of headspace and into a place of greater calm and clarity.
Heart space, on the other hand, is where we find emotional safety, intuition, and presence. It allows us to listen with compassion rather than react from fear, regulate our emotions more effectively, and access deeper self-awareness. When we’re in our heart space, we’re more grounded, able to differentiate between thoughts and facts, and open to our intuitive gifts. This shift is essential for both personal well-being and for showing up as the best version of ourselves in relationships and healing work.
To cultivate heart energy, we can use grounding techniques such as breathwork, visualization, and mindfulness. Coaching is also a powerful tool for gaining clarity and developing a practice of self-awareness. By intentionally shifting into heart space, we strengthen our ability to respond rather than react, enhance creativity and problem-solving, and create a more peaceful, balanced inner world. Through practice, this transition becomes easier, allowing us to move from fear and overwhelm to calm and connection more quickly.
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(00:00):
Well, hello and welcome back.
My name is MaryAnn Walker andI'm the life coach for the
helpers, the healers and thehighly sensitive.
And today we're going to beexploring the idea of head space
and heart space.
If you're somebody that getsreally stuck in your head, if
you're experiencing a lot ofanxiety, if you're experiencing
a lot of, kind of that fight orflight response happening right
now, this is the episode foryou.
(00:22):
We're going to talk about how todrop into your heart space and
kind of observe when you'resliding into that Headspace.
So I know that for many of mylisteners, many of you are
healers yourselves.
And you already know theimportance of stepping out of
ego and really stepping intothat heart centered energy.
So hopefully today I'll give youa few more ideas around how to
(00:43):
do that, so that you can show upmore effectively as a healer,
and also just show up more inyour own energy as you go
throughout your day-to-day life.
So first let's talk a bit aboutHeadspace energy.
When we're in our head space,that's when we're experiencing
fear, anxiety, and overthinkingeverything.
Okay.
We're just have those thoughtloops going on.
(01:03):
Repeat over and over.
When we're in Headspace, thenwe're operating through an
unhealthy ego.
This leads to stress at least totry to control things that are
actually outside of our controland also leads to judgment.
This is where you're going to beexperiencing a lot of"should"
statements either they should bedoing this, or I should be
experiencing this.
There's kind of a lot coming upin that head space around that.
(01:26):
Okay.
So some common signs that you'rein Headspace is you have
heightened emotions.
You're feeling extra defensive,or maybe you're easily offended.
You're reacting instead ofresponding.
You're justifying reasoning anddefending rather than actually
listening and receiving.
You might be experiencing fear,anger, resentment, or judgment.
(01:49):
Maybe you're taking things extrapersonally, when really they
weren't meeting it personally,or maybe you're struggling to
receive from other people.
This might mean struggling toreceive their love, attention,
affection, or even juststruggling to receive feedback
in general.
It kind of creates this feelingoverall of just not being good
enough.
Headspace also really negativelyimpacts the nervous system
(02:10):
because when we're in our headspace, it's sending us into our
fight or flight response orsometimes our freeze response.
Okay.
So this is also known as hyperor hypo arousal.
So when we're in hyper arousal,this is our fight or flight
response.
This leaves us feeling extremelyemotional or unsafe or feeling
overwhelmed.
(02:31):
You might have racing thoughts,impulsivity, or poor judgment
going on.
Maybe you're overreacting orobsessing over problems.
You might notice that your heartis racing and your mind is
telling you I am not safe rightnow.
Okay.
There might need to be adisconnect where you're
realizing consciously that.
Well, I know I am safe, but mybody is in freak out mode.
(02:51):
And my body is telling me thatI'm not safe right now.
And so when this happens, thenour prefrontal cortex is
offline, meaning that it's goingto be a lot harder to think
clearly.
It's going to be hard toseparate out our feelings from
our facts, because we're goingto assume that because I have
big feelings around this becauseI have a lot of anxiety around
this, then this must be thetruth.
(03:12):
We think our feelings are facts,but that is not always the case.
Okay.
So just notice if that's kind ofwhere you're at.
Now some signs that you might bein hypo arousal, the hypo
arousal is kind of the freezepart of the fight flight freeze.
K.
So you might be freezing or youmight be fawning just trying to
placate others, but you're notactually addressing what's going
(03:33):
on inside of you.
So if you're in hypo arousal,you might be feeling numb,
drained.
Mentally foggy.
Maybe you're feeling ashamed,maybe you're feeling isolated or
hopeless.
Like, well, nobody's going tounderstand, I'm just going to
shut down for a little while.
Maybe you're even disassociatingor really struggling to see the
future.
You're having a hard time.
(03:54):
Believing the idea that today isnot forever.
You're really stuck in no, butthis is how bad it is right now.
And now it's going to be thisway, henceforth and forever.
So I might as well just shutdown.
So that's what the Headspace isgoing to be creating for us.
Again, it's that fight flight orfreeze response, the hyper or
hypo arousal.
And that is remedied by shiftinginto our heart space.
(04:17):
So our heart space is where wecreate that emotional safety.
We feel more clear and calm.
It's where our intuition lives.
So signs that you're in yourheart space, you may be feeling
more centered and present.
It's easier for you to just sitand hear someone's opinion
without being emotionallytriggered by them.
Right.
You can actually hear what theyhave to say.
(04:38):
Receive what it is that is true,and also maybe reflect back.
Oh, that's interesting.
And I can understand that point.
And have you considered thisidea?
But it's not coming out itthrough that lens of
defensiveness, but more acompassionate curiosity.
In the heart space, we're betterable to self-sooth we're better
able to regulate our emotions toknow what it is that we need in
(04:59):
the moment, instead of makingour emotions so loud that we're
now making our emotions, someoneelse's problem to navigate.
We are able to be tuned in as towhat is it that I need right
now?
It's the difference betweenresponding rather than reacting.
When we're in the heart space,we're able to differentiate
between our thoughts and ourfeelings.
(05:20):
We're able to differentiatebetween facts and feelings.
We're able to better toleratelife's ups and downs without
going into panic mode.
And also when we're in our heartspace, then you may experience
some enhanced intuition.
You're better able to read theenergy.
You're better able to readfacial expressions.
You're better able to be in tunewith your intuitive gifts
(05:41):
because you're not over and overthe activated, right.
You're more in tuned to thosesensitivities.
And so a lot of people, whenthey really start practicing
tuning into their heart energy,they recognize that, oh, I do
have some intuitive gifts here,and they actually have the space
to nurture those.
Heart energy is expansive, it iscalm, it is clear and it is
(06:01):
focused.
So, how do you get there?
Right.
How do you go from the headspace of fear, anxiety, and
overwhelm, and really kind ofsettled down into the heart
space.
I will say that for mepersonally, the most effective
thing I've ever done aroundgetting into heart space has
been coaching.
That's why I decided to become acoach because I really
(06:22):
appreciated all of the toolsthat I was given in coaching
that were able to help me to bemore calm and more centered in
myself.
It's especially easy when youare a highly sensitive person.
When you are an empath to getsucked into all of the emotional
reactions going on around you.
And that makes it easy to getsucked into the head space of
your own head or somebodyelse's.
And so really practicing,stepping into that heart energy
(06:44):
helped me to betterdifferentiate self.
It helped me to feel more peaceand more calm within me.
So coaching has been extremelybeneficial for me in that
regard.
It's especially helpful when itcomes to separating out our
thoughts, our feelings, andreally slowing down what it is
that's happening between yourears and having somebody outside
of you that is able to reflectback to you, your experience,
(07:06):
even just calling it out, like,okay, well, right now it appears
that you're in fight flight orfreeze so right now, then your
nervous system is in hypo orhyper mode.
Right.
But then having somebody outsideof you reflect that back to you,
it can help to bring thatprefrontal cortex back online.
In fact, I know I've said thison here before, but I'm going to
make sure I include it in thisepisode is if you find that you
(07:28):
are in fight flight freeze quiteoften.
It can be extremely helpful tojust ask yourself two questions.
The first question is, am Isafe?
This will help to bring yourprefrontal cortex back on.
Sometimes when we're in fightflight freeze.
We are in freak out mode and wemight be physically safe, no one
is there trying to hurt us, butour body is reacting
(07:49):
differently, right?
Our body is saying, no, no, no,I am in danger.
So the first question is, am Isafe?
And then the second question is,do I feel safe?
That helps to differentiatebetween what's happening in your
mind.
What's happening in your heart.
What's happening in your body.
It can help to bring thatprefrontal cortex back online
and help you to assess for selfthat okay.
Yeah, it's true right now.
(08:10):
I am safe.
No one is coming in here.
Nobody is busting down my doorto attack me.
And also my body is feelingreally anxious.
Right.
But we're able to assess that.
Okay.
But I am actually safe.
And that means that I also nowhave the safety, where I can
address what is happening in mybody.
I can take that moment to checkin with my body because I'm not
under attack and say, okay,body, what is it that you need
(08:32):
right now?
Okay right now, I just need tobe under my weighted blanket or
right now I just really needsome warm soup.
I know my current comfort foodis egg drop soup.
I just love this stuff.
So I might get some egg dropsoup for comfort or a cup of
tea.
But then I can tend to my bodyand my nervous system.
Which is a very different thingthan tending to your own
(08:53):
personal safety.
So asking those two questionscan let your brain know I am
physically safe and that can letyou know, I need to approach
this differently in order tocalm my nervous system so I can
bring my prefrontal cortex backonline and settle back into that
heart energy.
so coaching is my number one tipfor getting into that heart
(09:13):
space, energy.
Another tip is just finding yourown grounding practices,
whatever resonates with you.
Maybe it is walking outsidebarefoot.
Maybe it's doing cold plunges.
Maybe it's doing some breathingtechniques, but find a grounding
practice that works for you.
Another thing that could behelpful is just setting the
intention.
And initially it's going to takepractice.
(09:36):
Right?
I saw a clip recently, thatyou've probably seen,
everybody's kind of using theaudio for this, but it's this
woman who is saying, no, it'snot fair.
She can't do this.
And then she instantlyrecognizes that she is now in
the hyper response mode.
Right.
And she instantly checks in andgoes, whoa.
Okay.
That was a big reaction.
I'm okay.
And instantly shifts.
(09:56):
The reason why that clip is soviral is because it takes a lot
of practice to get to thatpoint.
Right.
It's amazing to witness that.
She's able to turn it aroundlike that because for many of
us, it takes some time to tendto our nervous system.
Before we can get to that point,but as you practice this, you
will actually shorten that gapso that you can have a quicker
turnaround so that you can, forexample, when you're yelling at
(10:18):
your child, Recognizing themoment, oh, this is not how I
want to show up and instantlyturn it around and say, Hey, I
apologize.
I lost my temper.
How can we approach thisdifferently?
Right.
You will be able to shorten thatgap and that's a sign that
you're getting even better attapping into that heart energy.
When we're tapping into theheart energy, we're tapping into
(10:40):
that theta state.
And we're going to be talking abit more about this theta state,
because this is really abeneficial state to get in.
Okay.
The brain goes into alldifferent kinds of state, but
it's in the theta state that weexperienced that deep relaxation
and nervous system regulation.
Okay.
So the theta state activates theparasympathetic nervous system,
which helps to calm stress andanxiety.
(11:03):
When we are in fight or flightor hyper arousal, or maybe we're
feeling shut down and we're inhypo arousal, then the theta
waves can help to bring the bodyback into balance.
It helps to reduce cortisol bypromoting a sense of safety.
The theta state also helps toenhance our own personal
intuition and inner wisdom.
As I said, this is a great giftthat many of you healers already
(11:26):
know about is tapping into thatheart energy to increase that
intuition and that inner wisdom,The theta waves are linked to
heightened intuition and deeperself-awareness.
And when you quiet the mind,then you can become even more
attuned to these subtle energiesand to subtle emotions.
And even to unconscious patternsthat may be guiding your
decision-making.
(11:46):
It's really hard to makedecisions when you're in fight
or flight.
We want to react.
And that isn't always helpful.
So taking the time to reallytune into your heart energy, get
into that theta state can helpyou to really think more clearly
about what would be the mosthelpful way to respond right
now, rather than react.
When we're in this heart space,theta, energy, it also helps to
(12:09):
increase our own personalcreativity, which also supports
us in our problem solving right.
Creativity and problem solvingare in the same realm here.
It gets us to a place whereinspiration and insight can
happen.
Many artists, writers, andvisionaries.
Then they enter into the thetastate when they're in that
creative flow.
So if you ever had an aha momentwhile you're meditating, or
(12:31):
maybe right before fallingasleep, then that is an example
of this data, energy at work orthis heart energy at work.
Okay.
I'm kind of using those twointerchangeably.
It also helps to rewire thebrain and recognize limiting
beliefs and change them in orderto support healing.
So theta is where thesubconscious mind is most
(12:51):
receptive.
This makes it an ideal state forshifting those limiting beliefs
for rewiring negative thoughtpatterns and engaging in more
deep healing work.
It kind of is essentially justletting our guard down so that
we can change our defaultsettings.
Oftentimes our fight or flightresponse is it's just kind of
how we're made, right.
(13:11):
That is our natural response isit's like, no, this keeps me
safe.
It's my body saying, Hey, if Ican recognize the danger, then I
can keep myself safe.
But then we're also constantlyin a reactive state rather than
just an active state.
Okay.
So tuning into that heart energycan be really helpful here.
So doing very simple things,like I said, come and work with
me and, or work with anothercoach.
(13:32):
Right?
So coaching is really helpful.
Guided meditations and breathwork can be really helpful.
Visualization can be helpful.
I like to combine the breathwork with the visualization, and
we're going to do that in just amoment here.
Also listening to those, thosebinaural beats that go kind of
between the ears that can alsobe very helpful and sound
healing could be helpful.
Okay.
So right now we're just going todo a little bit of a visual
(13:54):
where we're going to breathe inand breathe out, but we're going
to do it very mindfully.
Okay.
So you're going to be breathingin calm.
Breathe in through your nose andthen out through your mouth.
imagine everything that isn'tserving you, leaving your body.
Okay, we're going to do thatjust a few more times, and I
highly encourage you to do thisseveral times throughout the
(14:14):
day.
Okay, so breathe in thepositivity.
I Breathe out the negativity.
Breathe in clear, seeing.
Breathe out confusion.
Breathe in intuition.
(14:37):
Breathe out distortion.
K, just adding a little bit ofintention to your breathing can
really help to settle into thatheart space, energy.
And as I said before, as youpractice this, the time it takes
you to get into your heart spacewill shift dramatically, right?
Like it's going to change somuch quicker as you practice and
(14:58):
lean into this.
So as a reminder, we all getstuck in our head space from
time to time.
It's part of a human experience.
So don't guilt yourself.
If you notice that you're there,just recognize it, bring it into
your conscious awareness so thatyou can make those shifts to get
back into your heart space.
We don't have to stay in ourHeadspace.
Right.
We can shift that.
So find something that you cando as a part of your daily
(15:20):
practice in order to get intothat heart energy, because we
need that heart energy now morethan ever.
If you recognize that you are inhyper or hypo arousal, and
you're looking for some supportaround finding your center, come
and work with me, I can help youto calm your nervous system and
just live with more wholehearted peace.
(15:42):
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All right.
I hope you have a great week andlet's talk soon.
Bye now.
Well, hello and welcome back.
My name is MaryAnn Walker andI'm the life coach for the
helpers, the healers and thehighly sensitive.
And today we're going to beexploring the idea of head space
and heart space.
If you're somebody that getsreally stuck in your head, if
you're experiencing a lot ofanxiety, if you're experiencing
a lot of, kind of that fight orflight response happening right
now, this is the episode foryou.
(00:22):
We're going to talk about how todrop into your heart space and
kind of observe when you'resliding into that Headspace.
So I know that for many of mylisteners, many of you are
healers yourselves.
And you already know theimportance of stepping out of
ego and really stepping intothat heart centered energy.
So hopefully today I'll give youa few more ideas around how to
(00:43):
do that, so that you can show upmore effectively as a healer,
and also just show up more inyour own energy as you go
throughout your day-to-day life.
So first let's talk a bit aboutHeadspace energy.
When we're in our head space,that's when we're experiencing
fear, anxiety, and overthinkingeverything.
Okay.
We're just have those thoughtloops going on.
(01:03):
Repeat over and over.
When we're in Headspace, thenwe're operating through an
unhealthy ego.
This leads to stress at least totry to control things that are
actually outside of our controland also leads to judgment.
This is where you're going to beexperiencing a lot of"should"
statements either they should bedoing this, or I should be
experiencing this.
There's kind of a lot coming upin that head space around that.
(01:26):
Okay.
So some common signs that you'rein Headspace is you have
heightened emotions.
You're feeling extra defensive,or maybe you're easily offended.
You're reacting instead ofresponding.
You're justifying reasoning anddefending rather than actually
listening and receiving.
You might be experiencing fear,anger, resentment, or judgment.
(01:49):
Maybe you're taking things extrapersonally, when really they
weren't meeting it personally,or maybe you're struggling to
receive from other people.
This might mean struggling toreceive their love, attention,
affection, or even juststruggling to receive feedback
in general.
It kind of creates this feelingoverall of just not being good
enough.
Headspace also really negativelyimpacts the nervous system
(02:10):
because when we're in our headspace, it's sending us into our
fight or flight response orsometimes our freeze response.
Okay.
So this is also known as hyperor hypo arousal.
So when we're in hyper arousal,this is our fight or flight
response.
This leaves us feeling extremelyemotional or unsafe or feeling
overwhelmed.
(02:31):
You might have racing thoughts,impulsivity, or poor judgment
going on.
Maybe you're overreacting orobsessing over problems.
You might notice that your heartis racing and your mind is
telling you I am not safe rightnow.
Okay.
There might need to be adisconnect where you're
realizing consciously that.
Well, I know I am safe, but mybody is in freak out mode.
(02:51):
And my body is telling me thatI'm not safe right now.
And so when this happens, thenour prefrontal cortex is
offline, meaning that it's goingto be a lot harder to think
clearly.
It's going to be hard toseparate out our feelings from
our facts, because we're goingto assume that because I have
big feelings around this becauseI have a lot of anxiety around
this, then this must be thetruth.
(03:12):
We think our feelings are facts,but that is not always the case.
Okay.
So just notice if that's kind ofwhere you're at.
Now some signs that you might bein hypo arousal, the hypo
arousal is kind of the freezepart of the fight flight freeze.
K.
So you might be freezing or youmight be fawning just trying to
placate others, but you're notactually addressing what's going
(03:33):
on inside of you.
So if you're in hypo arousal,you might be feeling numb,
drained.
Mentally foggy.
Maybe you're feeling ashamed,maybe you're feeling isolated or
hopeless.
Like, well, nobody's going tounderstand, I'm just going to
shut down for a little while.
Maybe you're even disassociatingor really struggling to see the
future.
You're having a hard time.
(03:54):
Believing the idea that today isnot forever.
You're really stuck in no, butthis is how bad it is right now.
And now it's going to be thisway, henceforth and forever.
So I might as well just shutdown.
So that's what the Headspace isgoing to be creating for us.
Again, it's that fight flight orfreeze response, the hyper or
hypo arousal.
And that is remedied by shiftinginto our heart space.
(04:17):
So our heart space is where wecreate that emotional safety.
We feel more clear and calm.
It's where our intuition lives.
So signs that you're in yourheart space, you may be feeling
more centered and present.
It's easier for you to just sitand hear someone's opinion
without being emotionallytriggered by them.
Right.
You can actually hear what theyhave to say.
(04:38):
Receive what it is that is true,and also maybe reflect back.
Oh, that's interesting.
And I can understand that point.
And have you considered thisidea?
But it's not coming out itthrough that lens of
defensiveness, but more acompassionate curiosity.
In the heart space, we're betterable to self-sooth we're better
able to regulate our emotions toknow what it is that we need in
(04:59):
the moment, instead of makingour emotions so loud that we're
now making our emotions, someoneelse's problem to navigate.
We are able to be tuned in as towhat is it that I need right
now?
It's the difference betweenresponding rather than reacting.
When we're in the heart space,we're able to differentiate
between our thoughts and ourfeelings.
(05:20):
We're able to differentiatebetween facts and feelings.
We're able to better toleratelife's ups and downs without
going into panic mode.
And also when we're in our heartspace, then you may experience
some enhanced intuition.
You're better able to read theenergy.
You're better able to readfacial expressions.
You're better able to be in tunewith your intuitive gifts
(05:41):
because you're not over and overthe activated, right.
You're more in tuned to thosesensitivities.
And so a lot of people, whenthey really start practicing
tuning into their heart energy,they recognize that, oh, I do
have some intuitive gifts here,and they actually have the space
to nurture those.
Heart energy is expansive, it iscalm, it is clear and it is
(06:01):
focused.
So, how do you get there?
Right.
How do you go from the headspace of fear, anxiety, and
overwhelm, and really kind ofsettled down into the heart
space.
I will say that for mepersonally, the most effective
thing I've ever done aroundgetting into heart space has
been coaching.
That's why I decided to become acoach because I really
(06:22):
appreciated all of the toolsthat I was given in coaching
that were able to help me to bemore calm and more centered in
myself.
It's especially easy when youare a highly sensitive person.
When you are an empath to getsucked into all of the emotional
reactions going on around you.
And that makes it easy to getsucked into the head space of
your own head or somebodyelse's.
And so really practicing,stepping into that heart energy
(06:44):
helped me to betterdifferentiate self.
It helped me to feel more peaceand more calm within me.
So coaching has been extremelybeneficial for me in that
regard.
It's especially helpful when itcomes to separating out our
thoughts, our feelings, andreally slowing down what it is
that's happening between yourears and having somebody outside
of you that is able to reflectback to you, your experience,
(07:06):
even just calling it out, like,okay, well, right now it appears
that you're in fight flight orfreeze so right now, then your
nervous system is in hypo orhyper mode.
Right.
But then having somebody outsideof you reflect that back to you,
it can help to bring thatprefrontal cortex back online.
In fact, I know I've said thison here before, but I'm going to
make sure I include it in thisepisode is if you find that you
(07:28):
are in fight flight freeze quiteoften.
It can be extremely helpful tojust ask yourself two questions.
The first question is, am Isafe?
This will help to bring yourprefrontal cortex back on.
Sometimes when we're in fightflight freeze.
We are in freak out mode and wemight be physically safe, no one
is there trying to hurt us, butour body is reacting
(07:49):
differently, right?
Our body is saying, no, no, no,I am in danger.
So the first question is, am Isafe?
And then the second question is,do I feel safe?
That helps to differentiatebetween what's happening in your
mind.
What's happening in your heart.
What's happening in your body.
It can help to bring thatprefrontal cortex back online
and help you to assess for selfthat okay.
Yeah, it's true right now.
(08:10):
I am safe.
No one is coming in here.
Nobody is busting down my doorto attack me.
And also my body is feelingreally anxious.
Right.
But we're able to assess that.
Okay.
But I am actually safe.
And that means that I also nowhave the safety, where I can
address what is happening in mybody.
I can take that moment to checkin with my body because I'm not
under attack and say, okay,body, what is it that you need
(08:32):
right now?
Okay right now, I just need tobe under my weighted blanket or
right now I just really needsome warm soup.
I know my current comfort foodis egg drop soup.
I just love this stuff.
So I might get some egg dropsoup for comfort or a cup of
tea.
But then I can tend to my bodyand my nervous system.
Which is a very different thingthan tending to your own
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personal safety.
So asking those two questionscan let your brain know I am
physically safe and that can letyou know, I need to approach
this differently in order tocalm my nervous system so I can
bring my prefrontal cortex backonline and settle back into that
heart energy.
so coaching is my number one tipfor getting into that heart
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space, energy.
Another tip is just finding yourown grounding practices,
whatever resonates with you.
Maybe it is walking outsidebarefoot.
Maybe it's doing cold plunges.
Maybe it's doing some breathingtechniques, but find a grounding
practice that works for you.
Another thing that could behelpful is just setting the
intention.
And initially it's going to takepractice.
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Right?
I saw a clip recently, thatyou've probably seen,
everybody's kind of using theaudio for this, but it's this
woman who is saying, no, it'snot fair.
She can't do this.
And then she instantlyrecognizes that she is now in
the hyper response mode.
Right.
And she instantly checks in andgoes, whoa.
Okay.
That was a big reaction.
I'm okay.
And instantly shifts.
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The reason why that clip is soviral is because it takes a lot
of practice to get to thatpoint.
Right.
It's amazing to witness that.
She's able to turn it aroundlike that because for many of
us, it takes some time to tendto our nervous system.
Before we can get to that point,but as you practice this, you
will actually shorten that gapso that you can have a quicker
turnaround so that you can, forexample, when you're yelling at
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your child, Recognizing themoment, oh, this is not how I
want to show up and instantlyturn it around and say, Hey, I
apologize.
I lost my temper.
How can we approach thisdifferently?
Right.
You will be able to shorten thatgap and that's a sign that
you're getting even better attapping into that heart energy.
When we're tapping into theheart energy, we're tapping into
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that theta state.
And we're going to be talking abit more about this theta state,
because this is really abeneficial state to get in.
Okay.
The brain goes into alldifferent kinds of state, but
it's in the theta state that weexperienced that deep relaxation
and nervous system regulation.
Okay.
So the theta state activates theparasympathetic nervous system,
which helps to calm stress andanxiety.
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When we are in fight or flightor hyper arousal, or maybe we're
feeling shut down and we're inhypo arousal, then the theta
waves can help to bring the bodyback into balance.
It helps to reduce cortisol bypromoting a sense of safety.
The theta state also helps toenhance our own personal
intuition and inner wisdom.
As I said, this is a great giftthat many of you healers already
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know about is tapping into thatheart energy to increase that
intuition and that inner wisdom,The theta waves are linked to
heightened intuition and deeperself-awareness.
And when you quiet the mind,then you can become even more
attuned to these subtle energiesand to subtle emotions.
And even to unconscious patternsthat may be guiding your
decision-making.
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It's really hard to makedecisions when you're in fight
or flight.
We want to react.
And that isn't always helpful.
So taking the time to reallytune into your heart energy, get
into that theta state can helpyou to really think more clearly
about what would be the mosthelpful way to respond right
now, rather than react.
When we're in this heart space,theta, energy, it also helps to
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increase our own personalcreativity, which also supports
us in our problem solving right.
Creativity and problem solvingare in the same realm here.
It gets us to a place whereinspiration and insight can
happen.
Many artists, writers, andvisionaries.
Then they enter into the thetastate when they're in that
creative flow.
So if you ever had an aha momentwhile you're meditating, or
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maybe right before fallingasleep, then that is an example
of this data, energy at work orthis heart energy at work.
Okay.
I'm kind of using those twointerchangeably.
It also helps to rewire thebrain and recognize limiting
beliefs and change them in orderto support healing.
So theta is where thesubconscious mind is most
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receptive.
This makes it an ideal state forshifting those limiting beliefs
for rewiring negative thoughtpatterns and engaging in more
deep healing work.
It kind of is essentially justletting our guard down so that
we can change our defaultsettings.
Oftentimes our fight or flightresponse is it's just kind of
how we're made, right.
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That is our natural response isit's like, no, this keeps me
safe.
It's my body saying, Hey, if Ican recognize the danger, then I
can keep myself safe.
But then we're also constantlyin a reactive state rather than
just an active state.
Okay.
So tuning into that heart energycan be really helpful here.
So doing very simple things,like I said, come and work with
me and, or work with anothercoach.
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Right?
So coaching is really helpful.
Guided meditations and breathwork can be really helpful.
Visualization can be helpful.
I like to combine the breathwork with the visualization, and
we're going to do that in just amoment here.
Also listening to those, thosebinaural beats that go kind of
between the ears that can alsobe very helpful and sound
healing could be helpful.
Okay.
So right now we're just going todo a little bit of a visual
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where we're going to breathe inand breathe out, but we're going
to do it very mindfully.
Okay.
So you're going to be breathingin calm.
Breathe in through your nose andthen out through your mouth.
imagine everything that isn'tserving you, leaving your body.
Okay, we're going to do thatjust a few more times, and I
highly encourage you to do thisseveral times throughout the
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day.
Okay, so breathe in thepositivity.
I Breathe out the negativity.
Breathe in clear, seeing.
Breathe out confusion.
Breathe in intuition.
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Breathe out distortion.
K, just adding a little bit ofintention to your breathing can
really help to settle into thatheart space, energy.
And as I said before, as youpractice this, the time it takes
you to get into your heart spacewill shift dramatically, right?
Like it's going to change somuch quicker as you practice and
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lean into this.
So as a reminder, we all getstuck in our head space from
time to time.
It's part of a human experience.
So don't guilt yourself.
If you notice that you're there,just recognize it, bring it into
your conscious awareness so thatyou can make those shifts to get
back into your heart space.
We don't have to stay in ourHeadspace.
Right.
We can shift that.
So find something that you cando as a part of your daily
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practice in order to get intothat heart energy, because we
need that heart energy now morethan ever.
If you recognize that you are inhyper or hypo arousal, and
you're looking for some supportaround finding your center, come
and work with me, I can help youto calm your nervous system and
just live with more wholehearted peace.
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So thank you so much for beinghere.
Don't forget to subscribe sothat you can hear more of my
content here.
Also come and check out all mysocials, all the links in the
show notes, you know, the drill.
So come and check it out.
I would love to connect on otherplatforms as well.
All right.
I hope you have a great week andlet's talk soon.
Bye now.
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