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Dr.C (00:00):
Welcome back to the Life
Podcast.
I am so thrilled about ourguest in the studio today.
She is the founder and CEO ofYou Are Beautifully Made, LLC,
Mrs.
Ronika Byrne-Sharp.
Hello.
Fun fact.
Hello, my love.
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Fun fact.
She is also my sorority sisterthat I love dearly.
And she has been a mentor and amotivator for me, seeing her
out there in the community doinggreat things and not being
afraid to have her dream and hervision come to fruition.
So for almost a decade, herorganization has been a beacon
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of light in the Rochester, NewYork community, creating safe
spaces for women and girls toheal and connect and thrive.
In this conversation, Ronikawill take us behind the scenes
of her journey, the challenges,the triumphs, and the why that
fuels her work.
We'll explore how her personalstory became a powerful mission
and what it truly means to builda legacy of wellness from the
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ground up.
Eight years ago, a vision wasplanted in our community, a
simple, powerful truth.
You are beautifully made.
That truth has grown into amovement, a series of trends,
Transformative events frommother-daughter conferences to
the 360 of me, a wellnessretreat with, you know, I am so
thrilled to hear.
So today we have the immensehonor of sitting down with the
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woman who planted that seed,Mrs.
Ronika Byrne-Sharp.
Welcome to the Life Podcast.
Hello, and thank
Burns-Sharpe (01:39):
you.
Dr.C (01:39):
So glad that you're here
because this isn't just a
business anniversary.
It's a celebration of everywoman and girl who has ever
found her voice, her strength,and her community.
within this incredibleinitiative.
Ronika, welcome to the show andcongratulations on eight years
of providing women and girlswith transformative experiences.
The why behind a mission-drivenorganization is everything.
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Your work with mothers anddaughters is so deeply personal.
Can you share with us themoment or the experience that
ignited this journey for you?
What was the personal why thatmade you say, I have to create
this?
Burns-Sharpe (02:16):
Yes.
So You Are Beautifully Made wascreated, of course, eight years
ago, and it was definitelydriven by my own personal
experience.
I have a child who wasdiagnosed with different mental
illnesses that has caused me tolook out in the community and
look for support and resourcesto help me navigate the system
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of mental health.
As I was looking around andsearching and, you know, just
really trying to contact peopleand organizations, I found that
it was very limited resourcesResources, right?
It was limited spaces for me toeven have this conversation or
talk to about this struggle,right?
Because it was the struggle.
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And so what I said was, whatcan I do?
What I could take from thisexperience and put it out there
so no other mother and daughtergo through the same experience
as such as this.
And so that's how You AreBeautifully Made came about.
I wanted to make sure I hadsafe spaces for mothers and
daughters who especially whoexperience mental health, right?
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Who experience things that isnot the norm in traditional
relationships.
And I say that becausesometimes people don't put
relationships as beingimportant, but in this work,
relationships is importantbecause if me and my daughter
had a better relationship as shewas growing into her teenage
years, we probably wouldn't havegot so deep down.
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And so what can we do to bepreventable and make sure that
people get in a relationship?
Thank
Dr.C (03:50):
you
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for that.
Dr.C (03:51):
So looking at the
incredible range of events
you've hosted from healthequity, listening sessions to
Juneteenth parade and wellnessretreats, it's clear your
mission has evolved to addressthe holistic needs of your
community.
How do you decide which issuesto tackle?
What is your North Star thatguides your decisions?
It's the people.
Burns-Sharpe (04:12):
You know, I ask, I
really ask women and girls
about their, you And what kindof things that we could do that
is different that nobody else isdoing to make sure that their
needs are met.
So that's why you'rebeautifully made.
We deviate from the norm.
We don't do the traditionalthings as just having a
conference.
No, we want to have aconference with the whole 360 of
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you.
We want to make sure thatyou're getting the providers and
the resources in the community.
Therefore, when you leave, youhave a connection with these
people and these organizationsthat could better help you.
And so that's how it's alldriven off of You know, as I'm
being approached, as I am atdifferent conferences and
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workshops and things of thatnature, people be like, you
know, I've been having thisproblem and what can I do?
And I said, you know what?
What can you do?
And so that's one of the piecesof the puzzle for You Are
Beautifully Made is we bring theresources to you.
I just don't want to give you aphone number or a website for
you to go and look up yourself.
No, what can we do to helpnavigate the system?
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Because if somebody would havedid that for me, it probably
wouldn't have took me so farback or took me so long to get
the resources we needed.
Dr.C (05:23):
You are truly providing
such a wonderful opportunity,
right?
It's called access.
You're giving people access toresources.
So that's amazing.
And then thank you for thatbecause we definitely need that
in our community.
So let me ask you, you are theCEO, the visionary, the heart of
this organization, and you'reconstantly pouring into others.
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It's easy for a leader to getburned out.
So how do you, Ronika, investin your own wellness,
physically, emotionally,mentally, to ensure that you can
continue to serve from a fullcup.
Burns-Sharpe (05:56):
Yes.
So what I've learned on thisjourney, because it's always a
journey, right?
This life that we have is ajourney and nothing is perfect
or set in stone, is that I haveto take personal time to myself.
That means without children,without spouse, without work,
and I take solo trips.
I actually do two big thingsthat is beneficial to me that
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helps me navigate this thingcalled life.
One is I take my solo tripsonce a year.
I go a place that I've neverbeen, and I really get to learn
me.
And I say that, and every timeI say that, people always look
at me like, what do you mean getto know you?
I get to know you.
I mean, me, you know?
And so I get to know likedifferent foods and different
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experiences.
I don't have people saying, trythis or do this.
No, if I want to try it, I'lltry it.
And if I want to sleep all day,I can sleep all day.
I sleep all day.
And take in nature becausenature gives me that sense of
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security and that sense ofsafety.
And so that's why those are thetwo things that I do personally
for my self-care.
Dr.C (07:32):
Wow, a solo trip.
So I know we've talked aboutthis before.
What is, for anyone listening,that's a solo trip, meaning
travel completely by myself, Ican't do that.
What would you, what advicewould you give them?
to try it?
What barrier did you have topush through to say, yes, I'm
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going to Thailand, which youwent to Thailand a couple years
ago, right?
I'm going to go to Thailand allby myself.
How did you get the courage tosay, it's okay, I'm going to
Burns-Sharpe (08:03):
do it?
I actually started followingsolo groups on social media.
They have different socialmedia groups that explore
different areas.
And you know what that did?
They gave me a sense of safety.
So they'll go and they'll tellyou like certain areas that is
safe to go to, safe to do whileyou're by yourself, safety
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hotels or Airbnbs, you know,things of that nature.
So when I started followingthem, I'm like, you know what, I
could do it.
And so how I started was I juststarted going somewhere close.
I remember I went to NiagaraFalls and I went to the Canada
side all by myself, you know,and it was just like, wow, I
could do this.
And I went to Miami.
I slept for three hours onMiami Beach just by myself.
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And when I woke up, I was burntlike a French fry, but I had a
sense of fresh wind and I wouldnever forget that experience.
I didn't have nobody saying I'mhungry or let's go do this.
It was just all on me.
So that's how I started to dothe journey and then started to,
you know, doing things outsidethe norm while I'm doing these
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trips.
Like I'll do a concert or, youknow, what you call the little,
little, you know, I can't eventhink of one, but just doing
something different that Iprobably wouldn't do.
Dr.C (09:20):
Yeah.
Burns-Sharpe (09:21):
Skydiving and
stuff like that,
Dr.C (09:22):
you know?
Yes.
That's amazing.
That's amazing.
And I'm still, I'm stillworking up the nerve.
Okay.
I'm still working.
You could do it.
I want to take a solo trip sobad.
I'm still working up the nervebecause where I want to go is
like Australia, right?
I want to go to New Zealand,some far away place that I've
always heard about, but neverexperienced myself.
So I'm going to get there.
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I promise you.
And you are a great role modelbecause you, you, you do it.
And I love watching yourFacebook posts, your ventures.
I just, I think you're alsoimpacting and influencing others
to jump in, right?
Jump in for yourself, invest inyour own alone time, unplugged,
away from everyone andeverything.
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I love the idea of not havingto worry about anyone else, but
learning yourself, learning whatyou like, you don't like, how
you like to do things.
You know, I just think thatthat's an amazing opportunity.
And so thank you for sharingthat.
So let's talk about your impactand legacy.
Eight years is a monumentalmilestone.
So as you look back, what isthe most powerful story or the
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most unexpected outcome you'vewitnessed?
A moment where you saw a womanor a girl truly flourish because
of a resource or a connectionmade at one year of
Burns-Sharpe (10:37):
that?
I would say being able to see astruggling mother and daughter
going through trials andtribulations.
But I was able to connect themto the resources.
And I'm talking about like youdealing with the mental health,
you get to understand the waitlist for services is beyond
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measure.
And so, you know, being able totap into the people that I know
that is doing the work and onthe ground and let them be
connected so they could getimmediate service, right?
Not service that you got towait three months, six months,
immediate service And thishappened like in the middle of
the night, because for somereason, I don't know what it is
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about mental health.
It seemed like it just triggerat night when everything is
closed and no, you know, noorganization is open to help you
and, and to be able to see thehelp that they was given and the
relationship that was built.
And every time I talk to them,I just get more and more
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emotional because I'm like, wow,this is what this is all about.
No matter matter what you aregoing through in life, you are
still beautifully made.
And so we don't want people towalk away or think that you are
not important to get thoseservices and those resources.
It doesn't matter the time.
And so being able to helpnavigate the system has been
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very beneficial for me as wellas transforming lives.
Wow.
Dr.C (12:10):
So I couldn't imagine
seeing a mother-daughter
relationship that's not doingwell, a child that needs
resources and a mom that's overYes, sort of.
Burns-Sharpe (12:47):
have more
resources, right?
More funding come into likeorganizations like You Are
Beautifully Made, where youhave, I consider ourselves to
have a grassroots, you know,organization and we focus in
from the groundwork up, youknow, how many more families we
could actually help.
Dr.C (13:04):
Yeah.
I mean, you are a grassroots.
I would agree with that.
But the resources that you'reproviding, I mean, you're
constantly looking for someoneto partner with on Facebook,
right?
Social media, you're reachingout.
I have book bags.
I have I have, you know, itemsfor children.
I have opportunities for womenand children.
And I know that you'reconstantly posting about
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resources in the community aswell.
So that's an amazing thing thatyou continue to do, that you
continue to provide ourcommunity.
So finally, let's look forward.
You've built an incrediblefoundation.
What is the vision for the nexteight years of You Are
Beautiful?
And how can our listeners be apart of that journey?
Burns-Sharpe (13:45):
I would love in
the next eight years, for You
Are Beliefly Made to havechapters throughout the United
States where other women andgirls is taking this initiative
and branching off to their ownchapters.
You know, one family at a time,one mother at a time, one child
at a time.
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And what can we do to reallytransform the relationships
between mothers and daughters?
And it's something that Ishould point out that a lot of
people that I talk to, say thatthey didn't get a relationship
with their mother and daughteruntil they were grown.
And why is that?
Why did it take for you to bein your 30s and 40s for you to
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want to go to the mall with yourmother or your child?
What can we do to mend thatrelationship and bond better and
quicker?
So, of course, I want it to benationally recognized, right?
One of the goals within thenext three, I say three years,
is to be on the Today Show or,you know, be on, you know, MSN,
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you know, just to really bepushing it of the importance of
mothers and daughters in theirrelationships.
Because when something comesup, because life is not perfect,
when something pop out of thesky, because that's usually what
happens, we have thatrelationship already okay.
So when it pop off, we'll beokay.
You know, so being able tothink from a bigger lens instead
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of a local lens will always bethe goal for You Are Beautifully
Made.
Dr.C (15:15):
Beautiful.
So you're on the Life podcast.
And I don't know if you know, Iknow we're new, but India has
picked us up.
Japan has picked us up.
South Wales has picked us up.
So you're getting there.
You're getting there.
I'm not the Today Show, butthat's my goal, right?
I say we're going to goworldwide.
We're going worldwide becausewellness information is
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critical.
And we know that wellness isnot just working out.
We know that it encompasses allof your life, all of our
messiness in our life.
So we're We're going to claimit.
You're going to be on the TodayShow, and you're going to be on
MSNBC and CNN and all thosewonderful things, and you will
be national because you arebeautifully made, and everyone
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is beautifully made in thisworld of ours, right?
All right, Rochester, listenup.
Drop what you're doing and markyour calendars for Saturday,
September 20th, next Saturday,because you do not want to miss
the You Are Beautifully MadeWomen and Girls History Tour at
the Susan B.
Anthony Square Park.
Forget about a boring lecture.
This is high-energy adventure.
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We're talking a full day ofcelebrating the game-changing
people who built the city ofRochester, packed with fun,
connection, and great food.
Yes, lunch is included andsnacks.
So one thing that Ronika knows,she always feeds us.
When she has an event and it'salways amazing food, a great
time to learn, educateyourselves, and also to network.
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There's so many relationshipsthat are built, and you can
expand your social network.
And we know that social...
Wellness is critical to ourlongevity and our quality of
life.
This event is for women andgirls of all ages.
Grab your tickets beforethey're gone.
Just search You Are BeautifullyMade History Tour on Eventbrite
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to reserve your spot today.
Ronika, is there anything elseyou'd like to say before we end
our show?
I
Burns-Sharpe (17:09):
want to say thank
you so much for this
opportunity.
I'm so excited.
I'm so excited for yourpodcast.
I can't wait to see it.
arriving.
But also, I just want to pointout there, no matter what you go
through in life, you are stillbeautifully made.
Yes.
Thank you so
Dr.C (17:25):
much.
What an incredibleconversation.
Ronika's story is a powerfulreminder that our personal
healing can become a legacy ofhope for an entire community.
Her work shows that when youcreate a space for one person to
feel seen and heard, you createa ripple effect that changes
the lives of many.
To learn more about yourbeautiful As we wrap up today's
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show, I want to thank you fortuning in and being a part of
our circle.
We'll see you next time.
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We'll be back with a brand newepisode next week.
But until then, keep learning,stay inspired, continue to
flourish, and never stopevolving.
I'm your host, Dr.
C, and this is The LifePodcast.