The Moment You Can't Outrun Yourself Anymore

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THE MOMENT YOU CAN'T OUTRUN YOURSELF ANYMORE

There comes a point when the armor you built to survive starts suffocating you. When the 3 AM ceiling stares become unavoidable conversations with yourself. When your body finally says: "We can't keep running."

This is that moment—raw, unfiltered, and absolutely necessary.

In this episode, we dive into:

• The 3 AM reckoning - when your nervous system won't let you pretend anymore and your chest is tight from dreams you can't remember
• The armor trap - how protection that once saved you now keeps you small, and why your wounds became your identity
• The breakthrough realization - you are not what happened to you; you are not your survival story
• Body wisdom - how trauma lives in your shoulders, jaw, and breath, and what it's trying to tell you
• The scariest truth - healing means living as your authentic self, not the person your pain created
• Real freedom - not when the hurt stops, but when you stop letting it run your life

This isn't about fixing yourself. You were never broken.
This is about remembering who you are underneath all that protection.

If you're ready to stop running from yourself, this conversation is for you.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to the Lift One Self podcast.
I'm your host, matt Nye, andthis is a space where we dive
deep into the messy, beautifulwork of coming home to yourself.
If this is your first time here, welcome.
If you've been on this journeywith me, thank you for showing
up again.
Thank you for showing up again.
Today we're talking about themoment when you can't outrun

(00:26):
yourself anymore.
When you finally turn inward,it's 3 am and you're staring at
the ceiling again.
Your heart is racing from adream you can't remember, but
your body remembers everythingyour chest tight, your jaw

(00:48):
clenched, that familiar ache youcan't name.
This is when it happens, whenyou can't outrun yourself
anymore.
I know you're listening to thisfor a reason.
Something in you is ready tostop pretending everything is
fine.
So you turn inward and you askwho am I beneath all this armor?
Where does my pain end andsomeone else's begin?

(01:09):
What am I soothing when I findmyself nodding along to plans
that make my soul feel heavy,like you know?
When you say yes, when you darnwell know you want to say no,
when I apologize for taking upspace in my own life, when I'm
afraid of disappointing others,then I am of abandoning myself.

(01:31):
When I shut people out insteadof letting them close, when I
scroll late into the nightinstead of facing what I feel.
Is this the wound or is it mylife force suffocating
underneath my survival?
That's the line.
That's when you start takingyour power back.

(01:53):
I used to think being strongmeant never letting anyone see
me break.
Turns out, being strong meansbreaking in front of the right
people, and let's not lie toourselves.
Getting there isn't clean.
It's not easy.
It's messy as hell, it'suncomfortable, it's falling off

(02:15):
again and again.
It's scraping yourself on oldpatterns you swore you've healed
from.
It's the arguments that explodebefore you even realize you're
triggered.
It's tears in the shower, theslam cupboard door, the silence
that feels like exile, andsometimes, yes, it's joy,

(02:38):
because joy cracks you open too.
The journey is learning to putdown the knife you've been
holding.
So long you forgot it wascutting your own hand.
You've been wearing your woundslike armor, and armor that
never comes off becomes a prison.
Here's the truth that will stopyou cold.

(03:01):
The wound isn't what happened toyou.
The wound is believing you arewhat happened to you.
Your trauma taught you tosurvive, and survival was never
meant to be your whole lifestory.
Our body carry the scars ofsurvival.
Our mind spin endless scripts,expectations, mind spin endless

(03:29):
scripts.
Expectations, shoulds, meanings, how the world should be, how
others should show up, how weshould always keep it together.
That's the trap.
That's what's been bleeding youdry, not just what happened,
also the story you keep writingabout it, the meaning.

(03:50):
Let's pause for a mindful moment, right here, right now.
Stop.
Notice your breath, withoutchanging it.
Notice the tension sitting inyour shoulders, your jaw, your
chest, maybe even your lowerback or hips.

(04:10):
Back or hips.
This is the armor, this iswhat's been keeping you alive
and what's been keeping youexhausted.

(04:32):
Take one of you listening rightnow, the part that recognizes
this voice.
That's not your wound talking,that's your wisdom.
It's been waiting so patientlyfor you to remember.
Let your body know, for justthis moment, it's safe to soften

(04:58):
.
Take another deep inhale, holdit Gently, exhale, allowing your
body to soften some more,allowing safety in just being,
because when we go within, whenwe sit underneath the defense,

(05:21):
beneath the noise, that's whenfreedom becomes possible.
Not because the pain disappearsand also not because life
suddenly makes sense.
Instead, instead, we stopgiving the wound the microphone,
we stop letting our survivalstory run the show and when we

(05:42):
start remembering I am mywholeness, I am my wisdom, I am
my life force, we can say thankyou protection.
We can say thank you protectionfor keeping me safe.
I can take it from here.
So ask yourself, what am Isoothing by the way I show up in

(06:03):
the world?
Is this my wound speaking, oris it my life force trying to
breathe?
Freedom isn't when the painends.
Freedom is when you stopletting it write your story.
The scariest thing isn't thatyou might fail.
It's that you might succeed,and then you'll have to live as

(06:25):
the person you actually are, notthe person your pain made you
become.
Your life force has beenwaiting underneath your survival
this whole time.
It's time to let it breathe,let it be seen, come home again

(06:47):
and again with a little lessarmor each time.
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(07:09):
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(07:32):
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Until next time, pleaseremember to be kind and gentle
with yourself.
You matter.