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Feeling emotionally numb? You're not alone. Many of us have become "smart, sad zombies" - we can analyze our feelings and name our patterns, but we can't actually process emotions or break free from emotional numbness.

In this episode, we explore why intellectual understanding doesn't equal emotional healing, and how to stop avoiding your feelings through shopping, scrolling, and overthinking.

What You'll Learn:

• How to recognize when you're numbing out vs actually processing emotions
• Why analyzing your feelings keeps you stuck (and what to do instead)
• Practical ways to feel your emotions without being overwhelmed
• The difference between emotional awareness and emotional healing
• How to stop shopping your feelings and start processing them
• A guided mindful breathing exercise to reconnect with your body

Key Topics Covered:

• Emotional numbness and desensitization
• Processing emotions vs avoiding feelings
• Breaking patterns of emotional avoidance
• Mindfulness techniques for emotional healing
• Stopping overthinking and overanalyzing
• How to feel your feelings safely
• Emotional sobriety and authentic living

If you've been trying to think your way out of sadness, buy your way out of emptiness, or scroll your way past anxiety - this episode offers a different path. Learn to witness your emotions without fixing them, and discover how processing (not analyzing) creates space for genuine joy and connection.

This Week's Reflection: Ask yourself - "Am I avoiding or am I actually processing?"

Perfect for anyone struggling with emotional numbness, overthinking patterns, shopping addiction, social media avoidance, or feeling disconnected from their emotions.

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Episode Transcript

NatNat- LiftOneSelf (00:00):
Sometimes I wonder have we all gone a
little numb, like we'rescrolling, reading, reacting but
not actually processinganything?
Because here's the truth mostof us can still feel.
We just don't know what the Fto do with those feelings.
So we avoid, we analyze them todeath, we numb out with Netflix
or shopping or whatever.
I literally just looked at mycloset while writing this and

(00:23):
realized I've been buying ish Idon't even use.
The thing is, I know better.
I've done the Marie Kondo purge, yet here it is sneaking back
in again.
Yet I have the tools to askmyself what am I actually trying
to soothe here?
What feeling am I trying to buymy way out of?

(00:43):
And that's what's creating allthis disconnection and disease.
We're walking around like smart, sad zombies who can explain
exactly why we're effed up butcan't actually feel our way out
of it.
Many of us can name out ourpatterns, yet we don't know how
to process, witness and listen.

(01:06):
Welcome to the Lift One Selfpodcast.
I'm your host, nat Nat.
And this is where we create aspace to wake up from the
emotional numbness.
This is where we get real aboutreactivating joy in a world
that wants to keep usdesensitized.
So if there's somebody thatpopped into your head.
Take a moment to share thispodcast with them.

(01:27):
This may be the medicine thatyou didn't even realize they
needed to hear for themselves,because many of us are hiding,
we're doing it alone, and thereason why I created this
podcast so that there'd bebelonging and let people know
that there is community and theydon't have to suffer by
themselves.
You see, I used to think thatself-awareness was I had to name

(01:53):
my patterns Like, oh, I'm apeople-pleasing again, or
there's my abandonment wound,and that's all great.
Yet that's only one level thereal work To go down and be in
my body and be with the actualrelief of changing the pattern.
Because you know, when I'mstill shopping my feelings, at

(02:14):
least I have the awareness ofasking myself what am I avoiding
?
Sometimes I can't catch it.
I still get into the anxiety,and you know what?
I'm a thumber.
I use that smartphone and thosesocial medias to avoid my
anxiety.
Analyzing is a big one, isn't it?
It's the best way to think ourway out of sadness instead of

(02:36):
just letting ourselves feelfucking sad.
There's a massive differencebetween knowing why you're
avoiding something and actuallystopping the avoidance.
We've confused intellectualunderstanding with emotional
healing, and that's why we'reall walking around like smart,

(02:58):
numb robots with closets full ofish.
We don't need put your hand up.
I know some of these guys canrelate to this.
You're on that sheen, you're onthat Amazon cart and if you
look you have like a whole loadof stuff.
I know I do.
Yet it's being able to do thosemicro shifts.
This isn't about being perfect.

(03:19):
It's about meeting ourselveswhere we are, moment by moment,
and sometimes we go backwards,sometimes we propel and go
forward, yet it's always havinga compassionate space to be
honest with ourselves, not hidein wanting to be perfect.
Actually meet our messy parts.

(03:40):
So what does processing looklike?
It's messier than you think.
I'll use myself as an example.
Instead of I have abandonmentissues because my dad left, I'll
try.
There's a scared little childin me right now and she needs me
to hold her, not lecture her.
Instead of scrolling TikTokwhen I'm having a breakdown, I

(04:03):
allow myself to put on a songthat gets me every time and
allows an ugly cry that it justwrecks me for a moment and
allows me to be authentic andhonest.
Instead of opening Amazon whenI'm feeling empty, I'm sitting
with the emptiness and askingwhat am I actually hungry for?

(04:29):
The goal isn't to be healed, thegoal isn't to be perfect.
The goal is to be honest aboutwhere you actually are and
meeting yourself there.
See, many of us want to fakethe funk and just like a map if
you don't know exactly where youare on that map, you'll always
be lost.
So it takes honesty and truthto indicate exactly where you

(04:53):
are, so you can find thesolutions, so you can create
whatever it is that you want tocreate.
And one of the tools that helpsme all the time are these
mindful moments.
So, right now, wherever you are, stop what you're doing and
let's put this into practice.
So take a breath that actuallyreaches your belly, inhale to

(05:14):
the bottom of your spine and letit go upward to your collarbone
, and when you exhale, gently,let it out through your mouth,
letting all the ish go.
Take another deep breath at thebottom of your spine and let it
move upwardly, gently, exhaleout of your mouth, letting it go

(05:40):
, mouth letting it go.
Now ask yourself what's the onefeeling I've been trying to
solve, instead of just havingWhatever came up.
Don't fix it, don't explain it,just acknowledge it.
Maybe say hey grief, hey rage,hey loneliness.

(06:07):
You're here and you're real andyou don't have to make sense.
I'm just going to feel youright now and I'm gonna listen.
Whatever may be coming up, letit pass through.
You're safe to feel and you'resafe to let go take another deep

(06:32):
breath all the way to thebottom of your spine, letting
that breath rise up and gentlyexhale, letting that shit go.
So I don't know about you.
Yet in those moments that Itake, there's a lot of stuff

(06:55):
that sometimes comes up that Ididn't even realize I was
holding on to, and I hope thatin these practices that I bring
forth, that it's giving you alittle bit more clarity, it's
letting your body soften alittle bit more, because right
now the world is moving reallyfast with a lot of stuff that we

(07:16):
don't even know how to feel orprocess.
You're not alone in that.
Our minds always want to makesense of things and make meaning
.
Yet some of this stuff that weare intaking, there's no way to
make meaning of how big it is.
So this is where we have tolearn to process, not analyze,
not avoid.

(07:37):
Process, listen, witness, andfrom there we choose joy, not as
denial, but as the reminderthat we're still alive, still
connected, still growing.
So the question for this weekis am I avoiding or am I

(07:57):
actually processing?
Either way, be kind to yourself.
That's the only way forward,until next time.