106: Life As The Filler Friend: What To Do When We Feel Like An Invisible, Overlooked, Backup Option

Are you the person everyone turns to in a crisis or when they need advice or resources, but you never feel you can ask that of others?

Do people only invite you to things if everyone else is busy?

Are you often the recipient of other people's drama and trauma but not their consistent friendship and support?

Today, we are exploring what it means to be the "filler" person, the overlooked or invisible backup option person who exists on the emotional outskirts of everyone else's life and is only called in to do emotional labor.

Whether in our friendships, romantic partnerships, workplace dynamics, or our family of origin, being the filler person is a paradox of being the reliable confidant in moments of crisis while feeling invisible during times of celebration.

The episode gently encourages self-reflection, prompting listeners to consider their roles in relationships—whether they identify with the overlooked friend or recognize patterns of expecting emotional support from others.

It is a powerful reminder that being the invisible filler friend doesn't define one's worth. Instead, it serves as an invitation to explore the richness of one's own life, finding liberation outside the gaze of others.

Through a compassionate exploration of human connections, we invite listeners to reflect, grow, and embrace their wholeness beyond the roles others may assign to us.

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