October 31, 2024 • 17 mins
Lachlan Stuart discusses the importance of being authentic and the challenges of overthinking. He reflects on his own experiences with self-expression, the sacrifices made in pursuit of goals, and the need to reconnect with one's true self. The conversation emphasizes the value of individuality and the dangers of conforming to societal expectations. Ultimately, Lachlan encourages listeners to embrace their authentic selves and enjoy the process of personal growth.
Takeaways
- Being yourself can be the hardest advice to follow.
- Overthinking can drain energy and disconnect us from our true selves.
- Authenticity leads to deeper connections with others.
- Sacrifices are often necessary to achieve personal goals.
- It's important to reflect on our own thoughts and beliefs.
- Social media can provide insights into others' experiences.
- Relaxing and being yourself can improve results.
- Individuality is crucial in a world of conformity.
- Feedback is essential for personal growth and improvement.
- Letting go of control can lead to a more fulfilling life.
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Lachlan Stuart (00:00):
Welcome to the man that Can.
With Lachlan Stewart.
Today is a cool episode.
It's going to be about beyourself and don't overthink it.
Now, off the back of pretty muchthe last 50 solo episodes, I've
got feedback from people and Ialways watch my episodes and I
give myself feedback and one ofthe biggest things that I've
(00:21):
noticed was how stale and howmonotone that I speak when I'm
doing these episodes.
I tend to get so focused ontrying to deliver such a serious
, I guess, episode andinformation to help you
transform your life that I guessthe expression that I could
have, or even a bit of laughterand a few jokes that come in it,
(00:47):
which is how I would normallyspeak it, because I feel like,
if I have your attention, Idon't want to ramble.
I want to be very clear andconcise, which means cutting out
the humor, drawing it back, but, to be completely honest, I
think that's such an importantpart of what makes an episode
engaging.
So it's funny, right, how themost simple advice just be
(01:09):
yourself can be the hardest tofollow, and I'm sure you
experience it, I experience itand I'm pretty much talking to
myself right now around thatexact topic.
You have a unique way ofthinking, insights and
perspectives that you would loveto deliver, even just share
with friends and family.
And sometimes, especially aswe're growing and as we're
(01:31):
evolving, we fixate on an ideaor a goal and that becomes
everything that we want toachieve and, as a result of that
, we lose parts of ourselves totry and achieve this outcome.
And I think every outcome weachieve ultimately presents a
new problem.
It presents a new goal to worktowards where we can start
bringing back pieces ofourselves.
(01:53):
I guess my timeline would bewanting to earn money, wanting
to build a business, wanting toimprove my mental health,
wanting to improve my physicalhealth.
In order to do those and getthose to a point where I was
proud and I would look in themirror and go that's what I
aspire to be.
I'm on my own inspiration herethat you have to make a lot of
(02:15):
sacrifices in order to do that,and then there comes a point in
time where you're like thediscipline may be a little bit
too much.
How do I reintegrate other funor more enjoyable aspects while
still maintaining, if notimproving on, these results and
habits that I've currentlyestablished, and that becomes
the fun part.
So, when I did an Instagramreel the other day and my
(02:38):
brother-in-law, george, was likeI actually really enjoyed that
one and I was like what was itthat you enjoyed about it as
opposed to previous ones thatmaybe you don't watch?
And he just said you weretaking the Mickey bit.
You had a little bit of banter,but also more personality in it
.
That we know and we see behindthe scenes.
But maybe you take yourself tooseriously on the screen.
And I walked away from thatfeedback thinking why do I take
(03:02):
myself so seriously on thispodcast?
And even right now I'm doingexactly what this topic is about
, which is you're overthinkingit.
I'm thinking how am Iportraying myself?
How am I presenting myselfduring this episode?
Am I allowing my personality tocome through?
Or am I having a milliondifferent thoughts at once,
which tends to happen quitefrequently within my head?
(03:23):
Because I know there's a waythat I used to think about
things.
There's a way that I currentlythink about things and there is
a way that I would like to beable to think about things.
And all of those are part of ajourney and a part of a growth
process to continue helping mearticulate myself better,
process thoughts better, so thatI can be clear and concise
(03:45):
while still getting a pointacross that is valid and
valuable to you guys.
And so when I'm doing this,overthinking, I find it's some
of the most energy drainingexperiences of my life.
Right, it leaves me feelingdisconnected a lot of the time,
because when people are sayingthings, I'm thinking in my head
like on rapid fire how do I wantto respond, what is the most
(04:06):
appropriate way to respond andhow can I deliver that in the
most clear and concise way?
Because I used to ramble a lotand I probably still do, and the
idea in my head is I've watchedmany great speakers and
presenters who just have thisunique ability to be able to
tell a story, to be able to haveyou respond, walk out of a room
(04:28):
feeling something and wantingto create change, and that's
something that I aspire to have,and I believe that when you
listen to episodes like this oryou may watch content, whether
it's mine or other people thatyou enjoy that.
The inspirational beauty of themotivational content, the
beauty of the educationalcontent, is it takes you through
a range of emotions where youfeel the highs and you feel the
(04:50):
lows, but, most importantly, youwalk away having learned
something, having a newfoundlevel of awareness within your
own life around areas that youwant to improve upon.
And how could you do that,whether it is becoming more
serious in certain things ortaking yourself more seriously
in certain areas, or lift,easing up a little bit, having a
little bit more fun, a littlebit more play within your life.
(05:12):
And that's what I think thebeauty of social media and, more
importantly or morespecifically, podcast is,
because you get into the mindsof other people and I know for
myself, when I'm listening to apodcast or an audio, I'm
thinking about how that playsout in my life and identifying
the pros, the benefits, thegreat things, the things that
make happy.
And then the flip side of thatis the challenges that I've got,
(05:35):
the things that I need toimprove upon, and once again, I
go down that rabbit hole ofoverthinking.
But I think a big lesson thatI'm learning and why I'm going
to continue doing the solopodcasts is I believe it is a
great way to continue flexingthat muscle.
As soon as I finish thisrecording, I'll edit it, I will
watch it back and I will givemyself some feedback.
(05:55):
Was I presenting myself in away that I'm proud of?
What areas can I improve uponso that I can get to the or move
in the direction that I want tomove in.
And that is just goal settingin general.
But one of the most importantthings and I take this from the
feedback that George gave me isabout being yourself, so not
(06:15):
overthinking it too much.
And there's a point in manypeople's life where we
subscribed or adopt otherpeople's beliefs and way of
being, and there are certainscenarios where that's a good
thing to do and there are manywhere it's not so much of a good
thing to do because we become,I guess, someone just sitting up
there going control pace,control pace, control pace and
everyone becomes the same.
(06:36):
You just look at the wave ofKardashian-looking people out
there who've lost theirindividuality because they've
had all the plastic, surgeriesand everything to want to look
like a specific person, becausethey think that is what success
looks like or that is whatbeauty looks like.
And you're going to have yourown take on that what you think
(06:56):
is beautiful and what you don'tthink is beautiful.
But for me it's also theimportance of not allowing our
personality to fall into thattrait where you just regurgitate
what other people say.
You don't have your ownthoughts, you don't stand behind
or engage in the things thatyou want to engage in.
One of the examples I waswriting about this morning was
(07:17):
even pursuing fitness goals Inorder to achieve an outcome that
you haven't already achievedbefore, you have to make the
sacrifices I was talking aboutearlier, and so, for me,
training towards the 58marathons is plenty of
sacrifices.
I'm having to work with lessclients, I'm having to train
more, I'm having to prioritizesleep more, prioritizing eating
(07:38):
Now, some people love the eatingpart, not so much me but to be
doing those things, it's notgoing to be sustainable for a
long period of time.
So a lot of habits that I haddeveloped up until this point,
that had served me, that hadallowed me to maintain great
results in those areas, aregoing out the window, and I know
that for this brief, let's saysix-month period, I have to make
(08:02):
bigger sacrifices than I've hadto make in a long while.
My habits are going to bechallenged, which means my
identity is going to bechallenged, but it's going to
present an opportunity to grow,and that growth opportunity is
going to present me with a lotof feedback, which I can't yet
speak of because I haven't gonethere, but I'll be able to talk
about come probably April, oncethe dust has settled, and I'll
(08:26):
be able to think about how haveI presented myself?
What did I learn from that?
Which sacrifices am I proud of?
What were the biggest lessonsthat are going to help me
continue moving forward withinmy own life?
But if we go back, circle backaround, the overthinking gets in
the way for the fitness as well, and this is where I want to
link this in with fitness.
(08:46):
If you don't feel comfortableor confident within the gym,
it's very easy to get into thatoverthinking trap where you lose
the reason why you want to doit or why you feel you should do
it in the first place.
So much like I'm talking abouthere with podcasting and
communication and, I guess, evencontent creation, where I'll
overthink to the point where Iwon't take action or I don't
(09:06):
like the content that I'mputting out or I don't feel I'm
being as engaging as I could be.
It's very much similar forpeople who are wanting to get
into the gym, to the point whereyou know, hey, the goal is to
get into the gym because I wantto look better, I want to feel
better, I want to feel strong,but you may overthink it because
you go, oh, what's the rightprogram I need to get?
What supplements should I get?
(09:27):
What gym should I join?
What if people see me liftingthings incorrectly because I
don't feel comfortable there?
And you go into thisoverthinking mode where you
actually don't take any actionto move forward and improve
yourself.
And much like I'm doing here isthere's still a lot of work
that I have to do, much like weall do, and you can either allow
(09:48):
that to be the reason why youdon't take action.
So I could say, oh man, thatpodcast episode sucked, I was
very boring, I didn't delivermuch value.
I'm not going to do a podcastanymore, or you go.
That was boring, that wasn'tentertaining.
But here's some feedback formyself on areas that I can
improve.
Let's go, improve on that, andthat is what I tend to want to
(10:08):
do.
With the things that I'mcommitting to, much like, I hope
, the things that you feel youwant to commit to in your life.
You're giving yourself thatfeedback to be able to go hey, I
sucked there, but I want to bebetter, and this is what I
believe being better looks likeand this is what I believe I
need to do to get there.
Let's get to work.
And so, even though you maystill overthink things, you're
(10:31):
identifying what theimprovements need to be for
yourself.
You can then start makingprogress.
But, more importantly, along theway with that continued
reflection, you're going to beable to identify whether you're
being authentic or whetheryou're being genuine or whether
you're not.
I see it a lot within thepersonal development space and
I'm 100% guilty of it where Iwould read something back in the
(10:51):
day and this'm 100% guilty ofit where I would read something
back in the day and this wasprobably up until 18 months ago,
if I'm being honest I wouldread something in someone's
thought or someone's idea and Iwould use that as my own.
I'd never try to make sense ofit.
I would never understand whereit's coming from, how it applies
to my own life and how I canlink it to other things in my
life, to have my own genuinesorry, my genuine understanding
(11:14):
own thought, to be able to putout there and really explain
from multiple differentstandpoints.
And a lot of people are doingthat within their own life.
Same with training, withbusiness, with relationships
they're regurgitatinginformation that's already out
there without seeking tounderstand it.
So if you don't understandthings or you could not teach it
to someone, even with exercise,if you could not teach a
(11:37):
movement pattern, then I wouldrecommend learning how to do it.
And there are so many greatresources, so many great tools.
You've got YouTube, you can paycoaches, you can watch people's
social media channels.
All of these things can helpyou improve your ability to
coach.
And not saying because you needto be a coach or you want to be
a coach, but learning to teachthings or coach things shows
(12:02):
that you really understand theprocess of what it takes to
deliver the outcome or do thethings you want to do, and so
that's going to be a veryimportant thing there.
So I'm just going to check onmy notes here what else I have
or have not spoken about.
Here we go.
So one of the goals I guess thebig picture of being myself and
stopping overthinking things isto bring my personality back
(12:25):
into the content, the way that Iwould speak to other people, to
clients, to friends, to family,and I've developed this little
grounding technique.
So before recording, I've gotthis notes section on my laptop,
just on Apple Notes here, andwith that I practice warming up
my voice.
So my wife's got a singer orshe's got a singer.
(12:46):
She is a singer, she has avocal warm-up.
I've taken some of those thetongue stretch, the lip,
loosener things and doing someof those.
I rehearse the key points.
One of the reasons why I feellike I hadn't been able to
really get into what I wastalking about is because I was
writing my newsletter and then Iwas trying to read it almost
(13:06):
word for word, rather than justsummarizing the key points and
allowing myself to use theexperiences, the problems, the
processes and the benefits thatI know about to guide the
conversation, which is what I'mdoing, more so here today than
reading the newsletter that goesout every week word for word.
So that's been a lot better.
And getting into a playfulmindset.
There is a difference betweenneeding to be in a serious
(13:30):
mindset, needing to be in arelaxed mindset and a playful
mindset, and you can getyourself in those states by
changing your state and thatwill change the energy with how
you speak, how you show up.
So that's a cool little trick,but that helps me feel more
confident and less likely tooverthink in my delivery.
So that's one of the ones thatI'm really doubling down on, and
I would love to get yourfeedback on this episode and the
(13:53):
future episodes where I'm doingsolo conversations there.
So what else has we got?
That is good.
When I relax, show up myself,and that's another key point and
I think this speaks true to youguys as well is that when you
relax and show up as yourself,the results will speak for
themselves.
And the results, the exactfeedback you need to know
(14:14):
whether the habits that you have, the skills that you have, to
the level that you need toacquire or achieve those results
, or it's going to be theresults that prove, hey, I'm not
quite where I would like to beor where I need to be.
Let's get to work.
That's the beautiful thingabout honestly being yourself,
rather than trying to be achameleon or pretend to be
someone that you're not.
(14:34):
So if there's one message thatI hope you guys take away from
this one, it's that authenticityis the foundation of a
fulfilling life.
So when you let go of theoverthinking and simply just
show up, you enjoy the processmore and connect more deeply
with others, and you may see ita lot on social media now around
people being transparent,around what's really going on.
(14:55):
I saw a guy, andrew Papp, thatI follow on social media this
morning talking about how he hadto cancel a workshop in January
because he just wasn't sellingenough tickets for it.
And this guy has hundreds ofthousands of followers, someone
who has what looks like a greatbusiness from the outside, and
he was talking about hey, I wantto be transparent, because
people talk about the problemafter they've found a solution
(15:17):
for it rather than when they'regoing through it, which I think
was really cool to be able toconnect, because I'm like man,
I've been in that position aswell.
It's cool to hear someone thatI aspire to be like or be in
that position, talking aboutwhat they're actually going
through.
So that is a game changer.
What else is there?
That's it.
So, whether it's health, wealth, relationships, everything
(15:40):
improves when you stop trying tocontrol the outcome all the
time and start being yourself.
So here's to letting go,embracing the moment and
building a life that reflectsthe real you.
Thank you, guys for tuning inNow.
Over the next couple of weeks,you're going to see, I'm going
to be showing some of thefitness programs that I have
built and released and made overthe last couple of years.
(16:01):
Now, it's not going to beone-to-one coaching with me.
As I mentioned last week, I'mnot taking on any more clients
until the run is done.
I just don't believe I cancommit to delivering a great
experience while I'm training somuch and traveling so much, so
to bring back programs that havesuccessfully delivered results
to help them build strength toget their running better.
(16:22):
These are obviously separateprograms, but you can check them
out in the link in the bio andif there's one that grabs your
attention for 12 weeks,definitely give it a crack and I
look forward to seeing howthose programs help you build
your strength, your confidenceand understanding around
training for a better future.
My name is Lachlan Stewart.
As always, do something todayto be better for tomorrow.
Welcome to the man that Can.
With Lachlan Stewart.
Today is a cool episode.
It's going to be about beyourself and don't overthink it.
Now, off the back of pretty muchthe last 50 solo episodes, I've
got feedback from people and Ialways watch my episodes and I
give myself feedback and one ofthe biggest things that I've
(00:21):
noticed was how stale and howmonotone that I speak when I'm
doing these episodes.
I tend to get so focused ontrying to deliver such a serious
, I guess, episode andinformation to help you
transform your life that I guessthe expression that I could
have, or even a bit of laughterand a few jokes that come in it,
(00:47):
which is how I would normallyspeak it, because I feel like,
if I have your attention, Idon't want to ramble.
I want to be very clear andconcise, which means cutting out
the humor, drawing it back, but, to be completely honest, I
think that's such an importantpart of what makes an episode
engaging.
So it's funny, right, how themost simple advice just be
(01:09):
yourself can be the hardest tofollow, and I'm sure you
experience it, I experience itand I'm pretty much talking to
myself right now around thatexact topic.
You have a unique way ofthinking, insights and
perspectives that you would loveto deliver, even just share
with friends and family.
And sometimes, especially aswe're growing and as we're
(01:31):
evolving, we fixate on an ideaor a goal and that becomes
everything that we want toachieve and, as a result of that
, we lose parts of ourselves totry and achieve this outcome.
And I think every outcome weachieve ultimately presents a
new problem.
It presents a new goal to worktowards where we can start
bringing back pieces ofourselves.
(01:53):
I guess my timeline would bewanting to earn money, wanting
to build a business, wanting toimprove my mental health,
wanting to improve my physicalhealth.
In order to do those and getthose to a point where I was
proud and I would look in themirror and go that's what I
aspire to be.
I'm on my own inspiration herethat you have to make a lot of
(02:15):
sacrifices in order to do that,and then there comes a point in
time where you're like thediscipline may be a little bit
too much.
How do I reintegrate other funor more enjoyable aspects while
still maintaining, if notimproving on, these results and
habits that I've currentlyestablished, and that becomes
the fun part.
So, when I did an Instagramreel the other day and my
(02:38):
brother-in-law, george, was likeI actually really enjoyed that
one and I was like what was itthat you enjoyed about it as
opposed to previous ones thatmaybe you don't watch?
And he just said you weretaking the Mickey bit.
You had a little bit of banter,but also more personality in it
.
That we know and we see behindthe scenes.
But maybe you take yourself tooseriously on the screen.
And I walked away from thatfeedback thinking why do I take
(03:02):
myself so seriously on thispodcast?
And even right now I'm doingexactly what this topic is about
, which is you're overthinkingit.
I'm thinking how am Iportraying myself?
How am I presenting myselfduring this episode?
Am I allowing my personality tocome through?
Or am I having a milliondifferent thoughts at once,
which tends to happen quitefrequently within my head?
(03:23):
Because I know there's a waythat I used to think about
things.
There's a way that I currentlythink about things and there is
a way that I would like to beable to think about things.
And all of those are part of ajourney and a part of a growth
process to continue helping mearticulate myself better,
process thoughts better, so thatI can be clear and concise
(03:45):
while still getting a pointacross that is valid and
valuable to you guys.
And so when I'm doing this,overthinking, I find it's some
of the most energy drainingexperiences of my life.
Right, it leaves me feelingdisconnected a lot of the time,
because when people are sayingthings, I'm thinking in my head
like on rapid fire how do I wantto respond, what is the most
(04:06):
appropriate way to respond andhow can I deliver that in the
most clear and concise way?
Because I used to ramble a lotand I probably still do, and the
idea in my head is I've watchedmany great speakers and
presenters who just have thisunique ability to be able to
tell a story, to be able to haveyou respond, walk out of a room
(04:28):
feeling something and wantingto create change, and that's
something that I aspire to have,and I believe that when you
listen to episodes like this oryou may watch content, whether
it's mine or other people thatyou enjoy that.
The inspirational beauty of themotivational content, the
beauty of the educationalcontent, is it takes you through
a range of emotions where youfeel the highs and you feel the
(04:50):
lows, but, most importantly, youwalk away having learned
something, having a newfoundlevel of awareness within your
own life around areas that youwant to improve upon.
And how could you do that,whether it is becoming more
serious in certain things ortaking yourself more seriously
in certain areas, or lift,easing up a little bit, having a
little bit more fun, a littlebit more play within your life.
(05:12):
And that's what I think thebeauty of social media and, more
importantly or morespecifically, podcast is,
because you get into the mindsof other people and I know for
myself, when I'm listening to apodcast or an audio, I'm
thinking about how that playsout in my life and identifying
the pros, the benefits, thegreat things, the things that
make happy.
And then the flip side of thatis the challenges that I've got,
(05:35):
the things that I need toimprove upon, and once again, I
go down that rabbit hole ofoverthinking.
But I think a big lesson thatI'm learning and why I'm going
to continue doing the solopodcasts is I believe it is a
great way to continue flexingthat muscle.
As soon as I finish thisrecording, I'll edit it, I will
watch it back and I will givemyself some feedback.
(05:55):
Was I presenting myself in away that I'm proud of?
What areas can I improve uponso that I can get to the or move
in the direction that I want tomove in.
And that is just goal settingin general.
But one of the most importantthings and I take this from the
feedback that George gave me isabout being yourself, so not
(06:15):
overthinking it too much.
And there's a point in manypeople's life where we
subscribed or adopt otherpeople's beliefs and way of
being, and there are certainscenarios where that's a good
thing to do and there are manywhere it's not so much of a good
thing to do because we become,I guess, someone just sitting up
there going control pace,control pace, control pace and
everyone becomes the same.
(06:36):
You just look at the wave ofKardashian-looking people out
there who've lost theirindividuality because they've
had all the plastic, surgeriesand everything to want to look
like a specific person, becausethey think that is what success
looks like or that is whatbeauty looks like.
And you're going to have yourown take on that what you think
(06:56):
is beautiful and what you don'tthink is beautiful.
But for me it's also theimportance of not allowing our
personality to fall into thattrait where you just regurgitate
what other people say.
You don't have your ownthoughts, you don't stand behind
or engage in the things thatyou want to engage in.
One of the examples I waswriting about this morning was
(07:17):
even pursuing fitness goals Inorder to achieve an outcome that
you haven't already achievedbefore, you have to make the
sacrifices I was talking aboutearlier, and so, for me,
training towards the 58marathons is plenty of
sacrifices.
I'm having to work with lessclients, I'm having to train
more, I'm having to prioritizesleep more, prioritizing eating
(07:38):
Now, some people love the eatingpart, not so much me but to be
doing those things, it's notgoing to be sustainable for a
long period of time.
So a lot of habits that I haddeveloped up until this point,
that had served me, that hadallowed me to maintain great
results in those areas, aregoing out the window, and I know
that for this brief, let's saysix-month period, I have to make
(08:02):
bigger sacrifices than I've hadto make in a long while.
My habits are going to bechallenged, which means my
identity is going to bechallenged, but it's going to
present an opportunity to grow,and that growth opportunity is
going to present me with a lotof feedback, which I can't yet
speak of because I haven't gonethere, but I'll be able to talk
about come probably April, oncethe dust has settled, and I'll
(08:26):
be able to think about how haveI presented myself?
What did I learn from that?
Which sacrifices am I proud of?
What were the biggest lessonsthat are going to help me
continue moving forward withinmy own life?
But if we go back, circle backaround, the overthinking gets in
the way for the fitness as well, and this is where I want to
link this in with fitness.
(08:46):
If you don't feel comfortableor confident within the gym,
it's very easy to get into thatoverthinking trap where you lose
the reason why you want to doit or why you feel you should do
it in the first place.
So much like I'm talking abouthere with podcasting and
communication and, I guess, evencontent creation, where I'll
overthink to the point where Iwon't take action or I don't
(09:06):
like the content that I'mputting out or I don't feel I'm
being as engaging as I could be.
It's very much similar forpeople who are wanting to get
into the gym, to the point whereyou know, hey, the goal is to
get into the gym because I wantto look better, I want to feel
better, I want to feel strong,but you may overthink it because
you go, oh, what's the rightprogram I need to get?
What supplements should I get?
(09:27):
What gym should I join?
What if people see me liftingthings incorrectly because I
don't feel comfortable there?
And you go into thisoverthinking mode where you
actually don't take any actionto move forward and improve
yourself.
And much like I'm doing here isthere's still a lot of work
that I have to do, much like weall do, and you can either allow
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that to be the reason why youdon't take action.
So I could say, oh man, thatpodcast episode sucked, I was
very boring, I didn't delivermuch value.
I'm not going to do a podcastanymore, or you go.
That was boring, that wasn'tentertaining.
But here's some feedback formyself on areas that I can
improve.
Let's go, improve on that, andthat is what I tend to want to
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do.
With the things that I'mcommitting to, much like, I hope
, the things that you feel youwant to commit to in your life.
You're giving yourself thatfeedback to be able to go hey, I
sucked there, but I want to bebetter, and this is what I
believe being better looks likeand this is what I believe I
need to do to get there.
Let's get to work.
And so, even though you maystill overthink things, you're
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identifying what theimprovements need to be for
yourself.
You can then start makingprogress.
But, more importantly, along theway with that continued
reflection, you're going to beable to identify whether you're
being authentic or whetheryou're being genuine or whether
you're not.
I see it a lot within thepersonal development space and
I'm 100% guilty of it where Iwould read something back in the
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day and this'm 100% guilty ofit where I would read something
back in the day and this wasprobably up until 18 months ago,
if I'm being honest I wouldread something in someone's
thought or someone's idea and Iwould use that as my own.
I'd never try to make sense ofit.
I would never understand whereit's coming from, how it applies
to my own life and how I canlink it to other things in my
life, to have my own genuinesorry, my genuine understanding
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own thought, to be able to putout there and really explain
from multiple differentstandpoints.
And a lot of people are doingthat within their own life.
Same with training, withbusiness, with relationships
they're regurgitatinginformation that's already out
there without seeking tounderstand it.
So if you don't understandthings or you could not teach it
to someone, even with exercise,if you could not teach a
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movement pattern, then I wouldrecommend learning how to do it.
And there are so many greatresources, so many great tools.
You've got YouTube, you can paycoaches, you can watch people's
social media channels.
All of these things can helpyou improve your ability to
coach.
And not saying because you needto be a coach or you want to be
a coach, but learning to teachthings or coach things shows
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that you really understand theprocess of what it takes to
deliver the outcome or do thethings you want to do, and so
that's going to be a veryimportant thing there.
So I'm just going to check onmy notes here what else I have
or have not spoken about.
Here we go.
So one of the goals I guess thebig picture of being myself and
stopping overthinking things isto bring my personality back
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into the content, the way that Iwould speak to other people, to
clients, to friends, to family,and I've developed this little
grounding technique.
So before recording, I've gotthis notes section on my laptop,
just on Apple Notes here, andwith that I practice warming up
my voice.
So my wife's got a singer orshe's got a singer.
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She is a singer, she has avocal warm-up.
I've taken some of those thetongue stretch, the lip,
loosener things and doing someof those.
I rehearse the key points.
One of the reasons why I feellike I hadn't been able to
really get into what I wastalking about is because I was
writing my newsletter and then Iwas trying to read it almost
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word for word, rather than justsummarizing the key points and
allowing myself to use theexperiences, the problems, the
processes and the benefits thatI know about to guide the
conversation, which is what I'mdoing, more so here today than
reading the newsletter that goesout every week word for word.
So that's been a lot better.
And getting into a playfulmindset.
There is a difference betweenneeding to be in a serious
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mindset, needing to be in arelaxed mindset and a playful
mindset, and you can getyourself in those states by
changing your state and thatwill change the energy with how
you speak, how you show up.
So that's a cool little trick,but that helps me feel more
confident and less likely tooverthink in my delivery.
So that's one of the ones thatI'm really doubling down on, and
I would love to get yourfeedback on this episode and the
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future episodes where I'm doingsolo conversations there.
So what else has we got?
That is good.
When I relax, show up myself,and that's another key point and
I think this speaks true to youguys as well is that when you
relax and show up as yourself,the results will speak for
themselves.
And the results, the exactfeedback you need to know
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whether the habits that you have, the skills that you have, to
the level that you need toacquire or achieve those results
, or it's going to be theresults that prove, hey, I'm not
quite where I would like to beor where I need to be.
Let's get to work.
That's the beautiful thingabout honestly being yourself,
rather than trying to be achameleon or pretend to be
someone that you're not.
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So if there's one message thatI hope you guys take away from
this one, it's that authenticityis the foundation of a
fulfilling life.
So when you let go of theoverthinking and simply just
show up, you enjoy the processmore and connect more deeply
with others, and you may see ita lot on social media now around
people being transparent,around what's really going on.
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I saw a guy, andrew Papp, thatI follow on social media this
morning talking about how he hadto cancel a workshop in January
because he just wasn't sellingenough tickets for it.
And this guy has hundreds ofthousands of followers, someone
who has what looks like a greatbusiness from the outside, and
he was talking about hey, I wantto be transparent, because
people talk about the problemafter they've found a solution
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for it rather than when they'regoing through it, which I think
was really cool to be able toconnect, because I'm like man,
I've been in that position aswell.
It's cool to hear someone thatI aspire to be like or be in
that position, talking aboutwhat they're actually going
through.
So that is a game changer.
What else is there?
That's it.
So, whether it's health, wealth, relationships, everything
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improves when you stop trying tocontrol the outcome all the
time and start being yourself.
So here's to letting go,embracing the moment and
building a life that reflectsthe real you.
Thank you, guys for tuning inNow.
Over the next couple of weeks,you're going to see, I'm going
to be showing some of thefitness programs that I have
built and released and made overthe last couple of years.
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Now, it's not going to beone-to-one coaching with me.
As I mentioned last week, I'mnot taking on any more clients
until the run is done.
I just don't believe I cancommit to delivering a great
experience while I'm training somuch and traveling so much, so
to bring back programs that havesuccessfully delivered results
to help them build strength toget their running better.
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These are obviously separateprograms, but you can check them
out in the link in the bio andif there's one that grabs your
attention for 12 weeks,definitely give it a crack and I
look forward to seeing howthose programs help you build
your strength, your confidenceand understanding around
training for a better future.
My name is Lachlan Stewart.
As always, do something todayto be better for tomorrow.
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