Welcome to the newly rebranded podcast- Married and Connected, where we explore the emotional dynamics of relationships and personal growth. In this episode, we unpack how we filter the words of those closest to us and why certain comments trigger emotional reactions. Drawing from Dr. Andrea Vitz's groundbreaking work on emotional sobriety, we explore actionable steps to reframe these filters and build healthier connections with our loved ones.
Whether you’re navigating challenges with your partner, parents, or children, this episode will provide insight, tools, and inspiration for emotional clarity and growth.
Key Topics Discussed
The Weight of Words
Why we put more emotional weight on comments from family members or partners. Examples of how emotional filters distort the true meaning of what we hear.What is Emotional Sobriety?
Insights from Dr. Andrea Vitz’s book The You You’ve Never Met. Emotional sobriety as the ability to separate feelings from external triggers.Common Emotional Filters and Triggers
The "Not Good Enough" filter, "Abandonment" filter, and "Over-Achiever" filter. How these filters are formed and manifest in relationships.Steps to Change Your Filters
Awareness: Recognize and journal your reactions. Identify the root cause: Understand the past experiences shaping your responses. Practice emotional sobriety techniques like mindfulness and reframing.Exercises for Couples
Listening without interruption. Gratitude journaling to reinforce positive interpretations. Weekly emotional check-ins to foster understanding and connection.Listener Action Items
Start journaling your emotional reactions to uncover hidden filters. Practice pausing before reacting to comments from loved ones. Try the couple exercises shared in this episode to enhance emotional sobriety together.Resources Mentioned
Dr. Andrea Vitz’s Book: The You You’ve Never Met Dr. Andrea Vitz’s TEDx Talk: Emotional Sobriety - The Key to Unlocking Your True Self Learn more about emotional sobriety: andreavitz.comJoin the Conversation
What emotional filters have you noticed in your life? Share your story with us on IG @Married.And.Connected, or send us a message to coaching@recognizingpotential.com
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