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Ever found yourself trapped in the quicksand of past hurts, replaying the same scenes of regret? Join me, Steph, your mojo maven on Pocket Full of Mojo, as we embark on an emotional odyssey toward self-forgiveness and grace. In the heart of our thirteenth episode, "Lucky 13," we're unpacking a mantra that's a game-changer: "I give myself grace and forgiveness just as I give to others." Strap in for a soulful jaunt as we examine why forgiveness is not a gift exclusively reserved for others, but a crucial kindness we owe ourselves. With each word, each story, and each shared struggle, we'll navigate the healing avenues that could lead to your very own emotional glow-up.
This episode isn't just a talk; it's a transformative experience. As I divulge my own journey through the murky waters of blame and self-criticism, I'll guide you through the art of journaling, the peace of meditation, and the power of setting boundaries—all while extending that olive branch of compassion to our own hearts. If you've ever found it easier to forgive others than to look inward, this conversation is custom-made for your ears. Together, we'll shed the cumbersome weight of resentment and step into a lighter, more graceful existence, finding our mojo one act of self-forgiveness at a time.
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
Welcome to your new favorite podcast, pocket Full of
Mojo, where you're you and I'mSteph, and we tune in here to
tap into some mojo.
You see, I think I've crackedthe code to being happy.
I'm happy like every single dayand maybe not every day, all
day, but most of the day andwhat I've done is I've built
(00:34):
this cool tool shed of amazingstuff that helps me out of and
allows me to avoid getting intolife's more sticky and stressful
situations, and I'm not here togatekeep.
So settle in, take some notesand welcome to where your mojo
meets the road.
In today's episode, I'm goingto review our mantra for the
(00:59):
week and then we're going to diginto today's main topic, and
that topic is forgiveness andletting that shit go, and I know
you've got 11 billion podcaststo choose from, so I'm real glad
you're here.
So you stick around now and I'mgoing to make sure that you're
glad you did.
Let's get started with today'smantra and get tuned in, tapped
(01:24):
in and turned on.
Hello and welcome to Lucky 13.
This is the 13th episode ofPocket Full of Mojo and once
again, I'm Steph, I'm yourhostess, I'm your mojo maven and
I'm super pumped that you'rehere.
This is going to be a veryliberating episode, so let's get
(01:47):
right into it.
We're going to dig into today'smantra, and that is I give
myself grace and forgivenessjust as I give to others.
Ooh, okay, okay, lots of unpackhere.
I give myself grace andforgiveness just as I give to
others, which is to say, I donot offer others what I do not
(02:10):
offer for myself.
And that means, once again, myfriend, it starts with you, and
if you are struggling as I thinkmost of us are, to offer
someone else some forgiveness,then pivot from the window to
the mirror for a second.
Let's make it about you.
Let's make it about me.
Is there something that maybe Ineed to first forgive myself
(02:34):
for?
That will open up the door tothe possibility of forgiving
someone else?
I give myself grace andforgiveness just as I give to
others.
Let's zero in on grace for asecond.
We have been trained and taughtthat certain things have to
happen a certain way and that wehave to go through difficult
(02:57):
times with toil and stress andourselves and in our minds and
in our hearts.
Now, what if?
Like what if?
We took a beat, acknowledgedthat we're confronting something
difficult and are engaging in asituation that brings
resistance, and then we canmindfully and gracefully unpack
(03:18):
our thoughts and feelingswithout the stupid judgment and
the dumb stress and the crazytension, because we're going to
choose to act with grace andkindness even in the face of a
challenging moment like havingto forgive someone.
But this is where we learn howstrong we are.
I give myself grace andforgiveness just as I give to
(03:43):
others.
Hmm, fun fact about forgivenessyou don't need to involve the
other person.
No, seriously Like.
Forgiveness can happen withoutengaging with the other person
or the people, but can come froman act of self-reflection or
just reviewing the scenario andby making the choice, the
decision to when you're readyand you feel it's just and
(04:09):
serves your own liberation, canforgive the other person and
you'll immediately lose 20pounds off your shoulders.
If you've really done that workand I can say that there have
been people in my life who'vetaken a great deal from me and
have treated me worse than Icare to admit that I tolerated.
But when I look at the roadthat got us there and unpacked
(04:32):
all the pieces of the equationand I weighed my role in it
versus the toll the ire wastaking on my life forgiveness
was really the clearest path and, with a bit of journaling and
some meditating and some settingof some strong boundaries, I
really lifted the weight of thatstrain of that relationship and
(04:53):
the end of that relationshipthat all had on me and I was
free and I was now healing andno longer just tolerating that
hurt.
An emotional glow up.
If you will, I give myselfgrace and forgiveness just as I
give to others.
Maybe you're a people pleaser tothe degree that you're quick to
(05:16):
offer others forgiveness, butyou struggle to offer it
yourself.
You save and protect those thatyou love and keep in your
circle and instead you redirectthe blame and responsibility on
yourself just to keep the peace.
This mantra is a chance for youto take a beat, see how that
resonates with you and reallyask yourself do I offer myself
(05:39):
that same grace?
Do I forgive myself quicklywhen I fuck up?
How does that measure upagainst the people in my life?
Do I have a lot of situationswhere I'm having to forgive a
lot of people?
Are those the right people inmy life?
Look, forgiveness is a beast ofa topic and today we may just
scratch the surface, but anytime spent on a topic that helps
(06:02):
us treat ourselves with loveand kindness is even in the most
challenging situations.
It better equips us to go outinto the world with love and
healing in our hearts and shinemore light on the dark.
The heart is a complex andtricky place to navigate and
this by no means is a one anddone about forgiveness, just a
(06:25):
place to start on a topic thatoffers a lot of unique takes as
many as there are people onearth.
So stick around and let'sunpack this together, or at
least start.
I got you.
I give myself grace andforgiveness, just as I give to
others.
(06:48):
Forgiveness it's a word thatholds so much weight and yet
it's often easier said than doneFor people pleasers.
Anyway, the struggle to forgiveis real and can feel like an
uphill battle with a backpackand flip flops, and it's not
cute.
And because it's the path ofleast resistance or so we think
(07:11):
we hold on to grudges, we replaypast hurts and spend a lot of
time trying not to, and then theresentment starts to fester,
and it's not cute.
I mean, just look at the wordfester.
Does that sound like anythingworth doing?
That's going to benefit you, no.
So let's look at what happenswhen we hold on too long.
(07:32):
When we cling to anger andresentment, whether it's
justified or not, it's likecarrying around a stupid ugly
heavy burden that weighs us downand, quite frankly, I weigh
enough.
Thank you very much.
When we become trapped in acycle of negativity, unable to
move forward and fullyparticipate in the present
moment, these negative thoughtsare sneaky and have a way of
(07:57):
seeping into our day to day.
They can eventually startacting like a poison.
It poisons our perspectives andcan even impact our healthy
relationships.
Holding onto grudges not onlydamages our mental and emotional
well-being, but knowing that italso affects our relationships
with others means it's time tofigure out how we can do better.
(08:19):
How can we change the tune?
So what's the solution?
How do we break free from theclunky change of unforgiveness
and embrace the gorgeousliberating power of forgiveness?
Well, my friends, it startswhere everything starts
Awareness.
Simply by listening to thispodcast and feeling what is
(08:40):
coming up for you when we diginto this topic is a start down
that road.
What comes next is a bit ofreflection, followed by a shift
in perspective.
Stay with me.
Let's first look at whatforgiveness is not.
Forgiveness is not aboutcondoning the actions of other
people or excusing theirbehavior.
(09:02):
It's not an act of saying, oh,it's okay, and it's not an act
of tolerance.
You're not lowering your bar ofexpectation, nor are you caving
or surrendering to any power.
So if you've been hanging on tosome resentment in the fear
that you'll be participating inany of those things, you're good
(09:22):
to proceed with some forgiving.
So what is it then?
It's about releasing ourselvesfrom the prison of resentment
and, in actuality, reclaimingyour power.
Because check this out when weforgive, we actually let go of
the emotional baggage that'sweighing us down.
When we forgive, it's allowingus to move forward with a
(09:45):
renewed sense of freedom andinner peace.
That's the goal.
Forgiveness is an act ofself-healing.
That is the objective here.
But how do we go aboutforgiving, especially when the
wounds run deep?
Here are some practical ways toget some forgiveness happening
in your life.
(10:05):
Step one it starts with you.
Practice some self-compassion.
Start by extending compassionand kindness towards yourself.
Recognize that holding ontogrudges only hurts you in the
long run, and give yourselfpermission to let go of that
past.
Step number two reflect andrelease.
(10:28):
Take some time Time to reflecton the situation and how it
affected you.
What role did you play?
Did you tolerate somethinglonger than you should have?
Did you accept something thatin your life today you would no
longer accept?
This is a good time to go backand visit step one Forgive
(10:50):
yourself, be gentle withyourself.
This step is not aboutreassigning blame, but more
about taking the time to stepback, review all the information
and assess.
It's so important toacknowledge your feelings and
allow yourself to experiencethem fully.
(11:10):
Then, when you're ready,release those emotions, let them
go and make a consciousdecision to forgive.
Not too long ago, I did thisexercise with a situation that
came up in my life and I wasreally quite surprised with the
results.
I started thinking about thesituation and the person who was
(11:31):
involved and I was really ableto unpack everything that went
down.
It was like my rear view mirrorall of a sudden had 20-20
vision and I was able to reallygrieve the situation.
I uncovered a lot fromjournaling and meditating on the
situation and when I sayrelease those emotions, babe, I
(11:53):
mean I let it all go.
Feel the feelings.
I felt mad, I felt sad and Icried and I felt shame, and that
allowed me to feel it and honorthe process.
I really had underestimated howmuch I needed to forgive myself
and how much hurt I had beencarrying around with me.
(12:15):
And then all of a sudden butnot really all of a sudden I had
so much more clarity on thesituation and on the other
person's role and that broughtabout a whole bunch more
feelings to process.
So, by all means, what I'msaying here is take your time.
This may not be something thatyou can sit down and get off
(12:38):
your to-do list in an afternoon.
It's okay if it's a bit of aprocess, but the time you'll
save in the long run, clearingthe real estate that's taking up
in your mind that is priceless.
On to step number three settingsome boundaries.
Let's once again take some time.
(12:58):
To be super clear, forgivenessdoes not mean letting the other
person off the hook or allowingthem to hurt you again.
Forgiveness is not an eraser.
It's important to set healthyboundaries to protect yourself
and to prevent future harm.
Like most things, this startswith you.
(13:20):
No need for grand announcementsor press conference.
It's, first and foremost, theagreement that you make with
yourself.
You set the terms andconditions on how you want to
move forward, what feels right,what feels just, what terms
serve you and protect andpreserve a healthy and strong
(13:40):
relationship.
Sometimes this will mean thatthey're done and they've blown
it and there's no room for themin your life anymore.
And you know what?
If that's what you decide,that's perfectly fine, because
that is your choice.
It doesn't have to go to a voteor be decided on democratically
.
You decide.
Maybe it means that thefrequency or the conditions of
(14:03):
your relationship need to changea bit or just a little.
You'll know what to do when itfeels right.
But what's important withboundaries is that you
communicate them to the peoplethat it impacts and that you
stick to it.
It's up to you to hold the lineand move forward with
relationships that are healthyand serve you in a positive way,
(14:23):
which takes us to step fourFocus on the present.
Instead of dwelling on pasthurts, once you've done all that
other work, it's time to focuson the present moment and the
opportunities that it holds.
Hanging on to resentment,someone once said, is like
drinking poison and hoping it'llkill someone else.
(14:45):
I found this in a book it wascalled Surviving Betrayal by
Alice May, and it really stuckwith me and it helped give me
some perspective.
And when I found myself notactively forgiving people who
were poisoning my life and myexperiences.
It turns out that cutting themout of my life wasn't enough.
(15:05):
Turns out that was just theeasy part.
It was forgiving them thattruly set me free, and having
distance from them gave me thespace I needed to really firmly
plant my feet on the ground andstand tall in my convictions and
dig into some self-love, andthat was when I was able to
(15:25):
forgive them.
And finally, here's the mostimportant thing to remember
Forgiveness is a gift.
It's a gift that you giveyourself, and I'm going to say
that again this is all about you.
And this may actually be myfavorite part of forgiveness you
don't need the other person,you don't need the other person
(15:46):
to apologize or change in orderto forgive them.
Forgiveness is about releasingyourself from the gross, ugly,
stinky, sticky grip ofresentment and you're reclaiming
your power, power that belongsto you, power that was there all
along, just buried a bit.
(16:07):
So, my dear friends, Iappreciate that this is a really
big topic and that today wewere able to do some good work
at looking at the structure offorgiveness and hopefully, we
were able to shine some light onthe dark and equip you with
some tools that will help youlighten the load a bit.
I really encourage you to thinkabout the power of forgiveness
(16:30):
and how it can positively impactyour life.
So now that you're ready andwe've broken down the path up
the mountain and traded our flipflops for some proper gear,
you're all set.
Let go of the past, forgiveyourself, forgive others and
(16:52):
step into a future that's gotnothing but love and peace and
best for all.
That, my friends, is gorgeousinner freedom.
Thank you so much for tuninginto today's episode.
And remember forgiveness is ajourney and it's okay to take it
one step at a time.
Be kind to yourself and knowthat you are worthy of healing
(17:16):
and happiness.
So until next time, stayfabulous, keep spreading those
positive vibes and take care,lovelies.
Toodle-oo kangaroo.
Welcome to your new favorite podcast, pocket Full of
Mojo, where you're you and I'mSteph, and we tune in here to
tap into some mojo.
You see, I think I've crackedthe code to being happy.
I'm happy like every single dayand maybe not every day, all
day, but most of the day andwhat I've done is I've built
(00:34):
this cool tool shed of amazingstuff that helps me out of and
allows me to avoid getting intolife's more sticky and stressful
situations, and I'm not here togatekeep.
So settle in, take some notesand welcome to where your mojo
meets the road.
In today's episode, I'm goingto review our mantra for the
(00:59):
week and then we're going to diginto today's main topic, and
that topic is forgiveness andletting that shit go, and I know
you've got 11 billion podcaststo choose from, so I'm real glad
you're here.
So you stick around now and I'mgoing to make sure that you're
glad you did.
Let's get started with today'smantra and get tuned in, tapped
(01:24):
in and turned on.
Hello and welcome to Lucky 13.
This is the 13th episode ofPocket Full of Mojo and once
again, I'm Steph, I'm yourhostess, I'm your mojo maven and
I'm super pumped that you'rehere.
This is going to be a veryliberating episode, so let's get
(01:47):
right into it.
We're going to dig into today'smantra, and that is I give
myself grace and forgivenessjust as I give to others.
Ooh, okay, okay, lots of unpackhere.
I give myself grace andforgiveness just as I give to
others, which is to say, I donot offer others what I do not
(02:10):
offer for myself.
And that means, once again, myfriend, it starts with you, and
if you are struggling as I thinkmost of us are, to offer
someone else some forgiveness,then pivot from the window to
the mirror for a second.
Let's make it about you.
Let's make it about me.
Is there something that maybe Ineed to first forgive myself
(02:34):
for?
That will open up the door tothe possibility of forgiving
someone else?
I give myself grace andforgiveness just as I give to
others.
Let's zero in on grace for asecond.
We have been trained and taughtthat certain things have to
happen a certain way and that wehave to go through difficult
(02:57):
times with toil and stress andourselves and in our minds and
in our hearts.
Now, what if?
Like what if?
We took a beat, acknowledgedthat we're confronting something
difficult and are engaging in asituation that brings
resistance, and then we canmindfully and gracefully unpack
(03:18):
our thoughts and feelingswithout the stupid judgment and
the dumb stress and the crazytension, because we're going to
choose to act with grace andkindness even in the face of a
challenging moment like havingto forgive someone.
But this is where we learn howstrong we are.
I give myself grace andforgiveness just as I give to
(03:43):
others.
Hmm, fun fact about forgivenessyou don't need to involve the
other person.
No, seriously Like.
Forgiveness can happen withoutengaging with the other person
or the people, but can come froman act of self-reflection or
just reviewing the scenario andby making the choice, the
decision to when you're readyand you feel it's just and
(04:09):
serves your own liberation, canforgive the other person and
you'll immediately lose 20pounds off your shoulders.
If you've really done that workand I can say that there have
been people in my life who'vetaken a great deal from me and
have treated me worse than Icare to admit that I tolerated.
But when I look at the roadthat got us there and unpacked
(04:32):
all the pieces of the equationand I weighed my role in it
versus the toll the ire wastaking on my life forgiveness
was really the clearest path and, with a bit of journaling and
some meditating and some settingof some strong boundaries, I
really lifted the weight of thatstrain of that relationship and
(04:53):
the end of that relationshipthat all had on me and I was
free and I was now healing andno longer just tolerating that
hurt.
An emotional glow up.
If you will, I give myselfgrace and forgiveness just as I
give to others.
Maybe you're a people pleaser tothe degree that you're quick to
(05:16):
offer others forgiveness, butyou struggle to offer it
yourself.
You save and protect those thatyou love and keep in your
circle and instead you redirectthe blame and responsibility on
yourself just to keep the peace.
This mantra is a chance for youto take a beat, see how that
resonates with you and reallyask yourself do I offer myself
(05:39):
that same grace?
Do I forgive myself quicklywhen I fuck up?
How does that measure upagainst the people in my life?
Do I have a lot of situationswhere I'm having to forgive a
lot of people?
Are those the right people inmy life?
Look, forgiveness is a beast ofa topic and today we may just
scratch the surface, but anytime spent on a topic that helps
(06:02):
us treat ourselves with loveand kindness is even in the most
challenging situations.
It better equips us to go outinto the world with love and
healing in our hearts and shinemore light on the dark.
The heart is a complex andtricky place to navigate and
this by no means is a one anddone about forgiveness, just a
(06:25):
place to start on a topic thatoffers a lot of unique takes as
many as there are people onearth.
So stick around and let'sunpack this together, or at
least start.
I got you.
I give myself grace andforgiveness, just as I give to
others.
(06:48):
Forgiveness it's a word thatholds so much weight and yet
it's often easier said than doneFor people pleasers.
Anyway, the struggle to forgiveis real and can feel like an
uphill battle with a backpackand flip flops, and it's not
cute.
And because it's the path ofleast resistance or so we think
(07:11):
we hold on to grudges, we replaypast hurts and spend a lot of
time trying not to, and then theresentment starts to fester,
and it's not cute.
I mean, just look at the wordfester.
Does that sound like anythingworth doing?
That's going to benefit you, no.
So let's look at what happenswhen we hold on too long.
(07:32):
When we cling to anger andresentment, whether it's
justified or not, it's likecarrying around a stupid ugly
heavy burden that weighs us downand, quite frankly, I weigh
enough.
Thank you very much.
When we become trapped in acycle of negativity, unable to
move forward and fullyparticipate in the present
moment, these negative thoughtsare sneaky and have a way of
(07:57):
seeping into our day to day.
They can eventually startacting like a poison.
It poisons our perspectives andcan even impact our healthy
relationships.
Holding onto grudges not onlydamages our mental and emotional
well-being, but knowing that italso affects our relationships
with others means it's time tofigure out how we can do better.
(08:19):
How can we change the tune?
So what's the solution?
How do we break free from theclunky change of unforgiveness
and embrace the gorgeousliberating power of forgiveness?
Well, my friends, it startswhere everything starts
Awareness.
Simply by listening to thispodcast and feeling what is
(08:40):
coming up for you when we diginto this topic is a start down
that road.
What comes next is a bit ofreflection, followed by a shift
in perspective.
Stay with me.
Let's first look at whatforgiveness is not.
Forgiveness is not aboutcondoning the actions of other
people or excusing theirbehavior.
(09:02):
It's not an act of saying, oh,it's okay, and it's not an act
of tolerance.
You're not lowering your bar ofexpectation, nor are you caving
or surrendering to any power.
So if you've been hanging on tosome resentment in the fear
that you'll be participating inany of those things, you're good
(09:22):
to proceed with some forgiving.
So what is it then?
It's about releasing ourselvesfrom the prison of resentment
and, in actuality, reclaimingyour power.
Because check this out when weforgive, we actually let go of
the emotional baggage that'sweighing us down.
When we forgive, it's allowingus to move forward with a
(09:45):
renewed sense of freedom andinner peace.
That's the goal.
Forgiveness is an act ofself-healing.
That is the objective here.
But how do we go aboutforgiving, especially when the
wounds run deep?
Here are some practical ways toget some forgiveness happening
in your life.
(10:05):
Step one it starts with you.
Practice some self-compassion.
Start by extending compassionand kindness towards yourself.
Recognize that holding ontogrudges only hurts you in the
long run, and give yourselfpermission to let go of that
past.
Step number two reflect andrelease.
(10:28):
Take some time Time to reflecton the situation and how it
affected you.
What role did you play?
Did you tolerate somethinglonger than you should have?
Did you accept something thatin your life today you would no
longer accept?
This is a good time to go backand visit step one Forgive
(10:50):
yourself, be gentle withyourself.
This step is not aboutreassigning blame, but more
about taking the time to stepback, review all the information
and assess.
It's so important toacknowledge your feelings and
allow yourself to experiencethem fully.
(11:10):
Then, when you're ready,release those emotions, let them
go and make a consciousdecision to forgive.
Not too long ago, I did thisexercise with a situation that
came up in my life and I wasreally quite surprised with the
results.
I started thinking about thesituation and the person who was
(11:31):
involved and I was really ableto unpack everything that went
down.
It was like my rear view mirrorall of a sudden had 20-20
vision and I was able to reallygrieve the situation.
I uncovered a lot fromjournaling and meditating on the
situation and when I sayrelease those emotions, babe, I
(11:53):
mean I let it all go.
Feel the feelings.
I felt mad, I felt sad and Icried and I felt shame, and that
allowed me to feel it and honorthe process.
I really had underestimated howmuch I needed to forgive myself
and how much hurt I had beencarrying around with me.
(12:15):
And then all of a sudden butnot really all of a sudden I had
so much more clarity on thesituation and on the other
person's role and that broughtabout a whole bunch more
feelings to process.
So, by all means, what I'msaying here is take your time.
This may not be something thatyou can sit down and get off
(12:38):
your to-do list in an afternoon.
It's okay if it's a bit of aprocess, but the time you'll
save in the long run, clearingthe real estate that's taking up
in your mind that is priceless.
On to step number three settingsome boundaries.
Let's once again take some time.
(12:58):
To be super clear, forgivenessdoes not mean letting the other
person off the hook or allowingthem to hurt you again.
Forgiveness is not an eraser.
It's important to set healthyboundaries to protect yourself
and to prevent future harm.
Like most things, this startswith you.
(13:20):
No need for grand announcementsor press conference.
It's, first and foremost, theagreement that you make with
yourself.
You set the terms andconditions on how you want to
move forward, what feels right,what feels just, what terms
serve you and protect andpreserve a healthy and strong
(13:40):
relationship.
Sometimes this will mean thatthey're done and they've blown
it and there's no room for themin your life anymore.
And you know what?
If that's what you decide,that's perfectly fine, because
that is your choice.
It doesn't have to go to a voteor be decided on democratically
.
You decide.
Maybe it means that thefrequency or the conditions of
(14:03):
your relationship need to changea bit or just a little.
You'll know what to do when itfeels right.
But what's important withboundaries is that you
communicate them to the peoplethat it impacts and that you
stick to it.
It's up to you to hold the lineand move forward with
relationships that are healthyand serve you in a positive way,
(14:23):
which takes us to step fourFocus on the present.
Instead of dwelling on pasthurts, once you've done all that
other work, it's time to focuson the present moment and the
opportunities that it holds.
Hanging on to resentment,someone once said, is like
drinking poison and hoping it'llkill someone else.
(14:45):
I found this in a book it wascalled Surviving Betrayal by
Alice May, and it really stuckwith me and it helped give me
some perspective.
And when I found myself notactively forgiving people who
were poisoning my life and myexperiences.
It turns out that cutting themout of my life wasn't enough.
(15:05):
Turns out that was just theeasy part.
It was forgiving them thattruly set me free, and having
distance from them gave me thespace I needed to really firmly
plant my feet on the ground andstand tall in my convictions and
dig into some self-love, andthat was when I was able to
(15:25):
forgive them.
And finally, here's the mostimportant thing to remember
Forgiveness is a gift.
It's a gift that you giveyourself, and I'm going to say
that again this is all about you.
And this may actually be myfavorite part of forgiveness you
don't need the other person,you don't need the other person
(15:46):
to apologize or change in orderto forgive them.
Forgiveness is about releasingyourself from the gross, ugly,
stinky, sticky grip ofresentment and you're reclaiming
your power, power that belongsto you, power that was there all
along, just buried a bit.
(16:07):
So, my dear friends, Iappreciate that this is a really
big topic and that today wewere able to do some good work
at looking at the structure offorgiveness and hopefully, we
were able to shine some light onthe dark and equip you with
some tools that will help youlighten the load a bit.
I really encourage you to thinkabout the power of forgiveness
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and how it can positively impactyour life.
So now that you're ready andwe've broken down the path up
the mountain and traded our flipflops for some proper gear,
you're all set.
Let go of the past, forgiveyourself, forgive others and
(16:52):
step into a future that's gotnothing but love and peace and
best for all.
That, my friends, is gorgeousinner freedom.
Thank you so much for tuninginto today's episode.
And remember forgiveness is ajourney and it's okay to take it
one step at a time.
Be kind to yourself and knowthat you are worthy of healing
(17:16):
and happiness.
So until next time, stayfabulous, keep spreading those
positive vibes and take care,lovelies.
Toodle-oo kangaroo.
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