April 16, 2024 • 32 mins
Love, loss, and the journey toward healing are often paths walked alone, but today, you're invited to walk with me, Kimberly Knight, as I open my heart about the twists and turns that have led me to newfound love and purpose. I recount the tale of my divorce, a story not unfamiliar to many, and the years that followed—juggling single motherhood, a career, and the care of aging parents. I also share the personal growth and quiet reflection that ultimately prepared me for a second chance at love and my happily, ever after.
I discuss the transformation that mentorship and guidance played in readying my heart for someone special and how a surprising last-minute message became the catalyst for a whirlwind romance.
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Here are some newlywed secrets no one talks about: https://apple.co/3UjJqgQ
I discuss the transformation that mentorship and guidance played in readying my heart for someone special and how a surprising last-minute message became the catalyst for a whirlwind romance.
Mentioned in the episode:
Dr. Alexis' Here Comes the Bride Episode - https://bit.ly/49QxTtV
Check out my brand new Love Labs: https://bit.ly/4aOESok
Celebrate Faith's sweet love story: https://apple.co/3xQgSmF
Enjoy Naomi's hysterical journey to the altar: https://apple.co/3QjK8IB
Here are some newlywed secrets no one talks about: https://apple.co/3UjJqgQ
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Position Podcast.
I'm your host, kimberly Knight,and today we're going to talk
about me.
So many of you met me on DrAlexis, here Comes the Bride
series and if you haven't had achance to check that out, the
link is in the show notes andyou can go and check that out.
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It is a good 30 minutes wellspent, right.
So let me know how you likethat.
But I also figured out thatmany of you heard the end of my
story, my happily ever after.
But you don't know about theonce upon a time.
So I want to tell you and sharewith you today how I got here.
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I married my high schoolsweetheart two weeks after
college graduation and I didn'tget a class ring, I got a
wedding band and I thought thatwas going to be it right, we
were going to be happily ever.
After the end, not quite 13years later, two children later,
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I found out that he had starteda family across town and was
spending what he told me wasworking overtime on his job was
actually spending it with them.
So, as you probably can guess,this was not conducive to
continuing to be married.
Conducive to continuing to bemarried.
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I filed for divorce.
At that time I was a divorceparalegal and I had to appear on
Friday in court in front of thejudge and all of the court
officers, the court reporter andthe other attorneys that I
worked with and had cases with,and then go back to work on
Monday.
And I wish I could tell you bythe time I went back to work on
Monday that I was healed andwhole and delivered and had been
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set free and that everythingwas peachy keen.
It was not.
I was embarrassed, I washumiliated.
That Friday they heardeverything, from our bedroom to
the bank account to, I mean,everything was on display,
everything he could do toembarrass me, he said and he
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shared even things that weren'tnecessary.
So I really, really took a hit.
I took a deep hit in my spirit,I took a deep hit in my soul
and it took me a long time torecover from that A long time.
I'm talking like a decade,because part of the reason it
took so long was that I didn'ttake time to heal Some of the
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time.
I really didn't have time toheal because I had so much going
on.
So I had to raise my twochildren.
They were very young, they weretwo and six.
At the time I had my dad, whowas I had to caretake him.
I've helped my mom for almosteight years and then he passed
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in February.
My mom was diagnosed in Augustand I caretake her for about
seven more years or so.
Then I was also working fulltime.
I needed a side hustle becauseI wasn't getting child support,
so I took on a side hustle.
I was teaching college, I wasleading ministries, I wrote a
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book, I wrote four digitalpublications.
I also went back to school andgot a master's degree and eight
certifications in coaching.
So and four of those, by theway, were with John Maxwell's
organization, and if you knowJohn Maxwell, you know he is the
leader of leaders, and if youare in a leadership position and
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you haven't checked out hismaterials yet, I'm going to
encourage you to do so.
I'll put the link to that inthe show notes as well.
I digress, but um, so I spentthat time well.
Right, I spent that time well.
But I also spent it unhealed,and I wish I had done more
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proactively to be healed sooner,because later on, as my
children began to get older, mydad passed, my mom was ill and I
knew that her time with us waslimited.
It's still kind of hard tothink of that and I just I
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didn't know what to do.
I didn't.
I knew what not to do.
Right, not to be.
Try not to be bitter and angry.
But yeah, I spent some time inbitterness.
I did, and the Lord had to dosome work in that.
I lived, I walked the walk right.
It said you got to be a goodgirl, you know, you're in
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ministry, people are watchingyou.
So did I walk that walk?
I did, and it sometimessometimes it was easier than
others and I'm going to come tothat.
But sometimes it was easierthan others.
Sometimes it was like I'm notgoing back.
But God kept me through all ofthat until I met my now husband,
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who's absolutely wonderful.
So I also went back, keptmyself busy.
They said be busy about yourfather's business.
So I did that and I was stillsingle and I was OK.
I was OK for the first decade.
I was just too busy.
I had too much going on to eventhink about a husband.
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I mean, I didn't even thinkabout it.
I was like this is just.
I'm going to raise these kids.
This is just where I am rightnow and I made that as a quality
decision for my life.
Now here's the other thing.
Some of you who are single momsare saying am I supposed to
wait until my children areadults before I start looking
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for covenant love?
No, everybody is different,everyone has a different story,
everyone has a different call,and you need to know what the
Lord is saying to you about yourtiming.
I just knew that I didn't haveenough to do all of these things
and take care of all of myresponsibilities and give my
romantic partner what he wouldneed in order to feel loved and
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supported.
So that was a decision I made.
I really just wanted to raisemy children without a lot of
complication, but that was forme, not necessarily you.
Okay.
So, that said, I spent thatfirst decade.
I was fine, I was busy, I wasdoing what I do.
Ministry was off the charts andyou know my children were doing
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pretty well.
You know, I mean they werehurting, but we survived and we
did what we had to do.
Then I get to around year 12-ishor so and I'm like what is this
going on here?
It is almost like my flesh saidexcuse me, did you forget me?
We're in our sexual peak.
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What are we doing here?
Why are we peaking and nothinghappening?
I remember sharing that with mypastor's wife and we were
cracking up.
But I was like, oh my gosh, I'min my sexual peak and my flesh
is like this girl is on fire.
And I couldn't figure it out.
So I did what every good churchgirl does when her flesh is on
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fire I fasted and I prayed and Icried out to the Lord.
I turned that plate down inconsecration.
I kiddy about until thisthing's going to go right.
It didn't go.
We're like six months in nowand now I'm like why can I not
get rid of this spirit of lust?
It just won't go.
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So I call him a spiritual mama.
And now I am on the floor intears because I'm like I don't
understand why this is going sowrong.
And what did I do?
And I've been walking this walkand I'm watching.
I didn't watch secular TV at allfor eight years.
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I didn't read fiction, excuseme, because I didn't want to
give myself those vainimaginations.
I knew my imaginations couldrun wild.
I'm a creative, so I was verycareful about what my ear gates
and eye gates took in.
I didn't listen to secularmusic at that time, so I was
really really very careful and Ididn't entertain men.
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So it wasn't like I was datingand I was struggling.
I was just at home struggling,I didn't know what was going on.
So I call her and you have toknow, when you have a spiritual
mom who really loves you andknows you, and you get on that
phone and you can finally tellthe truth.
It came out like this and Ijust and I just tried it, full
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blown, come apart, full blown,come apart, full blown, come
apart I just I couldn't, Icouldn't hold it in another
minute, right.
So, after hearing me go on andon and on and all the you know
and I'm talking about the uglycry with the yeah, I love this
woman of God and she's been myspiritual mother for maybe about
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25 years or so.
I love her because, after allof that and she hears all this
and almost like in her voice andI could hear, are you done?
She says to me I love this,honey.
That's not lust, you need ahusband.
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I'm going to pray for you.
What do you mean, woman?
You better not hang up thisphone.
That was it.
That was it.
She said.
I'm going to pray for you.
Can I tell you I wish I couldsay I was like, yay, husband,
here we go.
No, I wasn't.
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It took me about another year towork through what she said,
cause I was like, oh, is thatwhat this is?
Cause if that's what this is,I'm not sure I want one.
I'm being honest, and I said tofather what it really boiled
down to.
And when I tell you I went backand forth during this time to
figure this out, I'm telling youthe truth, because a
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double-minded man is unstable inall his ways.
So keep in mind, now I'm stillnot dating because I'm
double-minded.
I don't know what it is I want.
And at the same time, I'mpraying Lord, either kill this
desire or fill this desire.
I don't care which one you do,that's entirely up to you.
Kill it or fill it.
I just I don't want to be inthis angst anymore.
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I don't want to bedouble-minded anymore.
So that went on for a long time.
That went on for almost a yearor more.
But here's the thing I remembercoming to the conclusion Lord, I
don't want to get married justso I can have legal sex.
I mean, sex is great, want tohave it, but I don't want that
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to be the only thing that comesout of this marriage.
That comes out of this marriage.
If my marriage cannot serve akingdom purpose you can skip me
on this then, because marriageis work, marriage is ministry,
and marriage causes for you topour out in a way that you're
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not going to pour out into anyother relationship in your life,
and to a depth that you don'tpour out into any other
relationship in your life, andto a depth that you don't pour
out into any other relationshipin your life.
So, that being said, I was likeLord if you can't attach a
kingdom purpose to this, thenplease just kill the desire in
me and let me.
But here's what I don't want.
I don't want to be haunted byit.
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I want to make a sound decisionand then live into my decision.
To make a sound decision andthen live into my decision.
So I remember praying after thatand I literally heard you're
unnecessarily single.
Now I should say to you that Iwas fasting and praying now for
God to kill it or fill it atthis point.
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And then I'm also fasting andpraying for my future husband.
So I'm fasting and praying forhim to kill it or fill it.
I also fasting and praying formy future husband.
So I'm fasting and praying forhim to kill it or fill it.
I'm fasting and praying for myfuture husband.
Tuesday was my fast day for myhusband.
But I'm also telling him tokill it or fill it.
Still double-minded, stilldouble-minded.
And now I'm a little bit whinyabout it, because now I'm not
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even praying.
If I'm really, if I'm reallybeing honest, I'm not even
praying.
It's more like I don'tunderstand why I'm still single.
I don't understand why mendon't approach me, blah, blah,
blah, blah, blah.
I'm really whining, I'm notpraying.
And I guess God had you know.
He was at the point where hewas like that's enough, all
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right, let's wrap this up Oneday.
I'm, you know, I'm doing myprayer, wine, and he says to me
you're unnecessarily single,what You're unnecessarily single
?
You're unnecessarily single notbecause I don't want you to get
married, but because you're notprepared and positioned to be
married.
Oh, excuse me, sir, so sorry,please explain further.
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And then I began to understandthat there were things I didn't
know.
I didn't know how to talk to aman in a romantic relationship.
I knew how to minister.
I didn't know how to talk to aman in a romantic relationship.
I knew how to minister to oneand to how to be appropriate in
ministering to a man, right?
Only men that I knew were myfriend's husbands, and obviously
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you know I would speak to themdifferently than I would a
romantic partner.
I hadn't been around single mento know and no one had the
training to give me that right.
Because, as good Christiangirls, what do we do?
We avoid men at all costsbecause we don't want our
integrity to be compromised.
Well, listen, if the only peoplethat you're speaking to are
your male relatives, those youminister to, or your friend's
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husbands or your own sons, thenwhere are you getting the
information and the support youneed to speak to a man in a
romantic relationship and buildintimacy without sex?
I'll wait, I'll wait.
And I said to my spiritual momI'm sharing all this with her
and she says to me somethingthat made me roll my eyes at her
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.
Now I repented, but I did rollmy eyes.
She said you may have to buildwhat it is you're looking for
and I just like this, ma'am,please.
I was at that time I was alsothe singles minister, by the way
but she said you may have tobuild what you're, what it is
you're looking for.
And that year I also knew I wasnot going to be able to do this
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on my own and I also knew andthis is all by the spirit of God
that I was going to need somehelp.
You know it takes a village toraise children.
You've heard that proverb?
Right, it also is going to takea village to get you married.
You've heard that proverb?
Right, it also is going to takea village to get you married.
Just saying Because, quitefrankly, if you could have done
it on your own, it would havebeen done by now.
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Again, I digress.
I hired a coach.
My coach got me all the waytogether and I started dating.
I had more dates and interestOnce I learned how to speak to
men and how to navigate romanticrelationships.
I had more interest in myonline dating inbox than I could
possibly respond to.
Now here's something really,really interesting At the time,
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my then pastor's wife is the onewho told me to go online and do
some online dating.
Our youth pastor had metsomeone.
She met him.
They dated, got engaged,married and had their first
child in 18 months.
And she was like maybe youshould consider online dating
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and I will tell you, if she hadnot suggested it and endorsed it
for me, I probably wouldn'thave, because at the time I was
like I think it's unseemly for aminister to do that.
But can I tell you, I saw onthere so many people that I knew
in real life.
I'm talking like I would say,maybe 30% of the people that I
came in contact with onlinedating.
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I knew them in real life, indifferent spheres.
There was one man who had beenthe PTA president at my
daughter's school.
There was another who worked ata supermarket where I shopped
every single week.
As a matter of fact, the nextweek when I ran into him, I saw
him online.
I didn't, you know, I didn'tswipe the right way, the correct
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way.
I didn't choose to pursue thatrelationship or to pursue
anything with that man, but wesaw each other in real life.
We were like you're doing thattoo.
So all that shame and all thatkind of stuff kind of faded into
the background because Irealized there were a lot of
people looking for love anddidn't have any other space in
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place to do it but online, likeme, looking for love and didn't
have any other space and placeto do it, but online, like me.
So I started that online dating.
I had my coach.
She was working with me.
I was getting a lot of attention.
I was getting a lot ofattention, a lot as a matter of
fact.
I was getting so much attentionthat I was just enjoying my
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life.
Getting so much attention thatI was just enjoying my life.
Some of it oh, just wait forthe book, because everything
from the lightning strike toBishop Bizarro, I really am
writing a book about myexperiences because I think it's
going to give a lot of womenencouragement.
But, yeah, I had some verybizarre things.
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I had some very interesting andfunny things and I'm yeah, oh,
I can't wait, I can't wait toshare some of that stuff with
you, but anyway, so I'm goingthrough this online dating
experience and it's a mixed bag,right.
So I'm enjoying the attention,but I'm getting quantity but not
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necessarily the quality I waslooking for.
And the last straw for me wasBishop Bizarro, and I'm going to
tell that story in my book.
But he was a bishop.
I will not mention any names.
He had several churches andseveral.
I mean, he was a man of quality.
Right, he had several churchesand several.
I mean he was a man of quality,right, he had several
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investment properties, he hadthis great career.
He was, you know, bivocational.
He had this great career and he, you know, he led several
churches and he was reallyinterested in me and you know we
had great conversation.
I was like, hey, maybe thiscould be something right, child,
please it.
This could be something right,child, please.
It could not be something.
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His bizarre behavior when wemet in person was like yo, did
you just send yourrepresentative?
What are you doing?
We met and I'm like this man iscrazy, like oh my gosh.
Man is.
This man is crazy, like oh mygosh.
So this was the last straw forme, because I had had I had met
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a lot of nice men.
Some of them were good men.
They just weren't good for me.
Some of them were crazy.
At least one of them I almosthad to call the police I didn't
feel safe with.
And there's a whole myriad ofother things that I'm going to
cover.
Matter of fact, I think I'mgoing to host a class just for
good results in online dating,like how do you online date and
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stay safe and find a good manfor you?
I think I'm going to do that.
If you think I should do that,please let me know in the
comments, because I would loveto do that for you.
All right, so anyway, bishopPizarro was the last yes, that's
the name I gave him.
He was the last straw.
I was like I'm not doing this.
I'm not doing this, this is notfor me.
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If God wants me to be marriedonline, he'll tell me to go back
online.
I hear him clearly and I'llwait.
So I was relaying all this to mypastor's wife and she was like
okay, so we had our littlemeeting about some of the things
around the church that I neededto get done and I went home to
take down my profile and when Igot home, there was only one
email in the box.
Now, that was really rare,because I was like sometimes I
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had 10, sometimes I had 30,sometimes I had five, but I
never had one email in my boxsince I had been working with my
coach and I was like, oh, thisis a devil, he's trying to trick
me.
But curiosity got the best ofme and I read it anyway, and I'm
so glad I did, because thisman's email was so respectful
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and so well-written, I couldn'tresist.
I had to know more about thisman, and then I'll tell you the
truth, girls.
One of his pictures he had onhis academic regalia right the
toque and the robe with thethree stripes.
I said three stripes.
He's a doctor.
Oh, maybe he can conjugate averb yes.
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So I immediately sent him anemail.
Thank you so much for youremail and for reaching out.
I'm honestly going to take myprofile down in the next 24
hours.
If you are still interested andyou would like to have further
contact, please let me know.
And I gave him the email hereached out, but so fast he
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typed in the wrong email addressand when I went back in he was
like oh, you didn't respond.
So we were able to connect.
The first time we hadconversation he was like listen,
I don't want to be someone'sboyfriend.
I'm way too old to besomebody's boyfriend.
I want a wife.
Do you want to be a wife?
Okay, is he coming for me?
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Like that.
He's like you know, people inour age group want companionship
.
I don't want companionship, Iwant a wife.
I want my own wife, okay.
He says well, you know, I'mordained and I am ministering.
Are you okay with that?
And I'm like if you're okaywith a female in ministry,
because I had met a lot of menwho were not okay with that.
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That's not a problem for me,okay.
So he said, let's do this,let's meet for coffee this week,
because this was either on aSaturday or a Sunday.
We were going to meet the nextweek.
So he said but let's spend sometime getting to know each other
and whether or not we'recompatible for marriage, and if
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we are, we'll move forward, andif not, we'll bless each other
and go our separate ways.
Okay, and that's what we did.
So for the next six weeks we metin person.
We had three dates in the firstweek, which I got to tell you
is really phenomenal because wewere living in different states.
More on that.
And on top of that, by thethird date, he was like yeah,
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I'm going to marry you.
So I called him Pentecostalpimp to his face and he said no,
I'm sincere and I know thatthis will be good.
So I'm going to make you loveme, I'm going to be consistent
and I'm going to show you thatyou can trust me and then you
can love me and you will.
Awesome, and I did.
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Now I have to tell you beforethat there was this woman at my
church who I saw her, oh, by theway, and this and I cannot, I
cannot believe I forgot thisright, Because this was one of
the things that sealed the deal,to take away that double
mindedness.
I was in the mall with mychildren so I'm backtracking a
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little bit and going down theescalator was this couple from
my church who we just adored andthey had been married, I think,
like 60 years or something.
I mean like forever, forever.
And they were on the escalatorcatching a smooch oh my gosh.
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And my children and I were like, oh my gosh, that's so sweet.
I mean, it's like one of thosethings you didn't know whether
to look away or take it all in,like you didn't.
But I remember saying to her onthat Sunday I said I want that.
You all have been married allthese decades and you're still
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smooching on the escalator.
I want that.
And she said to me honey, youcould have that, I'll pray for
you.
So I had these two elder womenpraying for me.
Fast forward a few months.
While I'm doing this onlinedating thing, she comes to me in
the middle of the churchvestibule and you have to know
she's very petite, I don't thinkshe's five feet tall, but she's
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got a big voice Like she's sixfeet tall.
So in the vestibule she says tome hey, kim, are you even
dating yet, are you?
You're not getting married?
Where's the announcement?
So when she said, just likethat, where's the announcement?
I was like, okay, well, it'snot like.
You know, you can order it froma catalog.
You really just have to, youknow, do what you do.
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She's like something's notright.
God is on the throne and I'mpraying.
We should have had movement bynow.
Are you even trying?
Forget it, forget it.
So by now she's not eventalking to me, she's talking to
herself.
Just forget it, forget it.
I'm going back to the throne.
Two weeks later, in the samechurch, she says to me he's in
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another state.
So in front of everybody, noshame.
She says I call you in from theeast, the west, the north and
the south and I say give him upIf you have to take a train, a
plane, a bus, if you have towalk from Florida.
This is her exact words.
I'll never forget this.
You will come into her lifeimmediately.
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Two weeks later my husband'semail was in my inbox.
Y'all need some elders who canpray in your life.
I'm one of them.
Okay, so let's go back to thattime period.
I have now met my knight inshining armor my last name,
knight.
I have now met my knight inshining armor and we spent the
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first six weeks just exchanginginformation that people usually
would do on the backend right.
So we talked about our credit,we talked about our health, we
exchanged health reports, stdreports.
We talked about what we callthe good, the bad and the grace.
So what was good in our life,what was not so great in our
life and what would take graceto receive.
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We talked about all thosethings.
My spiritual mom said can y'alljust go to a movie?
Just go to a movie?
But we had all thesediscussions that people would
usually date for a long time andthen have on the back end.
We had them on the front end.
We talked about our future andwhat we wanted that to look like
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and what were our concerns andour fears for marriage and what
all needed to be navigated inorder for us to get there.
So we were very intentional andvery deliberate and I have to
tell you, looking back now, Iwas like, wow, we were intense,
but it helped us to walk intothe situation with our eyes wide
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open.
So, that said, we dated, gotengaged and married in eight
months because we had done thework right.
So I was 48 at the time and soI was 48, he was 57.
He was like what are we waitingfor?
He was 57.
He was like what are we waitingfor?
We've done the work, we've hadthe conversations ad nauseum
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right and let's get married.
Matter of fact, he wanted tomarry me in three months and
when I finally said yes, he waslike I took so long.
He's like I was slow, but Ineeded to hear from the Lord for
myself.
He said he had heard from theLord that he knew that I would
be a good wife for him, but Ihadn't.
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So during that time period, sofrom the third month until we
got engaged, at around monthfive or six, I was just saying
no.
I was like no, we were stilldating and you know and enjoying
each other's company and allthat good stuff.
But I was just saying no, I waslike no, we were still dating
and you know and enjoying eachother's company and all that
good stuff.
But I was just saying no andand I remember um saying to him
I know you heard the Lord, but Ihaven't.
And he knows what I need tohear in order to make a decision
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this big.
So until I hear from him, I'mnot moving.
I'm not moving on your say-so,I have to move on his say-so.
So we went through months likethis, right and the last day, we
used to go every Friday to aplace to watch the sunset and
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this Friday Father had given methe release to say yes, this
would be a good match for you.
Yes, he came to the park forsunset time to tell me he
couldn't take this anymore andhe was going to break up with me
.
And I came to tell him that Ihad gotten a release to marry
him.
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And what was really funny was,um, he said ladies first.
I don't know what would havehappened if he went first I
really don't but I went firstand I said I felt the leave of
the Lord to say yes and to marryyou.
And he just sat there like, ohmy gosh, I came to break up
Right.
So, naturally, after that wegot engaged and then that fall,
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we got married.
So we dated and got engagedfrom February to October.
By October we were married andthe rest is history, and this is
happily ever after.
So I am saying this to encourageyou, ladies that don't have
that fairy tale ending yet.
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I thought in my first marriageI would get that happily ever
after the end and I didn't.
But this second time, thissecond time is absolutely
wonderful and I want toencourage you because sometimes
we look at the end of someone'sstory, not knowing the beginning
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, and think it was just a smooth, easy path.
And it wasn't.
And there's so much more I'mgoing to share with you in the
podcast about how we navigatedthat.
Matter of fact, I think I haveone already that I'm going to
link in the show notes as well,about that newlywed season oh my
gosh, because people think it'sall passionate sex and yeah,
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well, it's some of that.
Get all you can and can't allyou get, hallelujah.
But there's also other thingsthat you have to navigate and
different things and how muchchanged and how people change
towards me, and it was just.
There's a lot to talk about.
So we're going to talk aboutthat in subsequent episodes.
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But I am saying this again toencourage those of you who think
that your story is too much foryou to be married and be in a
covenant relationship with yourhappily ever after, and it's not
.
I am here for those of you whoare single moms, who are too
this too old, too tall, too fat,too deep, too whatever.
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You think that if a man knewthis about you, that you would
be disqualified from marriage,and nothing could be further
from the truth.
So I am here as a representativeto say it happened for me and
it can happen for you, and Iwant to help you with that.
I can cut your learning curveand you will be hearing some
more from the brides that I havehad the opportunity to work
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with and I absolutely love theirspouses.
You'll be hearing more fromthem in this season, but you can
go back and listen to theirstories.
I do have interviews with themright before their weddings, so
we're going to get some recapsfrom them and catch up on their
newlywed life.
One of them has been marriedabout six months now and the
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other one is coming up on theirfirst anniversary.
So I can't wait to talk to themand in the meantime and in
between time, I'm going toencourage you to check out some
of the ways that you can workwith me and again I will leave
that link in the show notesUntil next time.
Be wonderfully blessed.
Welcome to the Position Podcast.
I'm your host, kimberly Knight,and today we're going to talk
about me.
So many of you met me on DrAlexis, here Comes the Bride
series and if you haven't had achance to check that out, the
link is in the show notes andyou can go and check that out.
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It is a good 30 minutes wellspent, right.
So let me know how you likethat.
But I also figured out thatmany of you heard the end of my
story, my happily ever after.
But you don't know about theonce upon a time.
So I want to tell you and sharewith you today how I got here.
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I married my high schoolsweetheart two weeks after
college graduation and I didn'tget a class ring, I got a
wedding band and I thought thatwas going to be it right, we
were going to be happily ever.
After the end, not quite 13years later, two children later,
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I found out that he had starteda family across town and was
spending what he told me wasworking overtime on his job was
actually spending it with them.
So, as you probably can guess,this was not conducive to
continuing to be married.
Conducive to continuing to bemarried.
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I filed for divorce.
At that time I was a divorceparalegal and I had to appear on
Friday in court in front of thejudge and all of the court
officers, the court reporter andthe other attorneys that I
worked with and had cases with,and then go back to work on
Monday.
And I wish I could tell you bythe time I went back to work on
Monday that I was healed andwhole and delivered and had been
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set free and that everythingwas peachy keen.
It was not.
I was embarrassed, I washumiliated.
That Friday they heardeverything, from our bedroom to
the bank account to, I mean,everything was on display,
everything he could do toembarrass me, he said and he
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shared even things that weren'tnecessary.
So I really, really took a hit.
I took a deep hit in my spirit,I took a deep hit in my soul
and it took me a long time torecover from that A long time.
I'm talking like a decade,because part of the reason it
took so long was that I didn'ttake time to heal Some of the
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time.
I really didn't have time toheal because I had so much going
on.
So I had to raise my twochildren.
They were very young, they weretwo and six.
At the time I had my dad, whowas I had to caretake him.
I've helped my mom for almosteight years and then he passed
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in February.
My mom was diagnosed in Augustand I caretake her for about
seven more years or so.
Then I was also working fulltime.
I needed a side hustle becauseI wasn't getting child support,
so I took on a side hustle.
I was teaching college, I wasleading ministries, I wrote a
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book, I wrote four digitalpublications.
I also went back to school andgot a master's degree and eight
certifications in coaching.
So and four of those, by theway, were with John Maxwell's
organization, and if you knowJohn Maxwell, you know he is the
leader of leaders, and if youare in a leadership position and
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you haven't checked out hismaterials yet, I'm going to
encourage you to do so.
I'll put the link to that inthe show notes as well.
I digress, but um, so I spentthat time well.
Right, I spent that time well.
But I also spent it unhealed,and I wish I had done more
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proactively to be healed sooner,because later on, as my
children began to get older, mydad passed, my mom was ill and I
knew that her time with us waslimited.
It's still kind of hard tothink of that and I just I
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didn't know what to do.
I didn't.
I knew what not to do.
Right, not to be.
Try not to be bitter and angry.
But yeah, I spent some time inbitterness.
I did, and the Lord had to dosome work in that.
I lived, I walked the walk right.
It said you got to be a goodgirl, you know, you're in
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ministry, people are watchingyou.
So did I walk that walk?
I did, and it sometimessometimes it was easier than
others and I'm going to come tothat.
But sometimes it was easierthan others.
Sometimes it was like I'm notgoing back.
But God kept me through all ofthat until I met my now husband,
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who's absolutely wonderful.
So I also went back, keptmyself busy.
They said be busy about yourfather's business.
So I did that and I was stillsingle and I was OK.
I was OK for the first decade.
I was just too busy.
I had too much going on to eventhink about a husband.
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I mean, I didn't even thinkabout it.
I was like this is just.
I'm going to raise these kids.
This is just where I am rightnow and I made that as a quality
decision for my life.
Now here's the other thing.
Some of you who are single momsare saying am I supposed to
wait until my children areadults before I start looking
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for covenant love?
No, everybody is different,everyone has a different story,
everyone has a different call,and you need to know what the
Lord is saying to you about yourtiming.
I just knew that I didn't haveenough to do all of these things
and take care of all of myresponsibilities and give my
romantic partner what he wouldneed in order to feel loved and
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supported.
So that was a decision I made.
I really just wanted to raisemy children without a lot of
complication, but that was forme, not necessarily you.
Okay.
So, that said, I spent thatfirst decade.
I was fine, I was busy, I wasdoing what I do.
Ministry was off the charts andyou know my children were doing
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pretty well.
You know, I mean they werehurting, but we survived and we
did what we had to do.
Then I get to around year 12-ishor so and I'm like what is this
going on here?
It is almost like my flesh saidexcuse me, did you forget me?
We're in our sexual peak.
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What are we doing here?
Why are we peaking and nothinghappening?
I remember sharing that with mypastor's wife and we were
cracking up.
But I was like, oh my gosh, I'min my sexual peak and my flesh
is like this girl is on fire.
And I couldn't figure it out.
So I did what every good churchgirl does when her flesh is on
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fire I fasted and I prayed and Icried out to the Lord.
I turned that plate down inconsecration.
I kiddy about until thisthing's going to go right.
It didn't go.
We're like six months in nowand now I'm like why can I not
get rid of this spirit of lust?
It just won't go.
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So I call him a spiritual mama.
And now I am on the floor intears because I'm like I don't
understand why this is going sowrong.
And what did I do?
And I've been walking this walkand I'm watching.
I didn't watch secular TV at allfor eight years.
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I didn't read fiction, excuseme, because I didn't want to
give myself those vainimaginations.
I knew my imaginations couldrun wild.
I'm a creative, so I was verycareful about what my ear gates
and eye gates took in.
I didn't listen to secularmusic at that time, so I was
really really very careful and Ididn't entertain men.
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So it wasn't like I was datingand I was struggling.
I was just at home struggling,I didn't know what was going on.
So I call her and you have toknow, when you have a spiritual
mom who really loves you andknows you, and you get on that
phone and you can finally tellthe truth.
It came out like this and Ijust and I just tried it, full
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blown, come apart, full blown,come apart, full blown, come
apart I just I couldn't, Icouldn't hold it in another
minute, right.
So, after hearing me go on andon and on and all the you know
and I'm talking about the uglycry with the yeah, I love this
woman of God and she's been myspiritual mother for maybe about
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25 years or so.
I love her because, after allof that and she hears all this
and almost like in her voice andI could hear, are you done?
She says to me I love this,honey.
That's not lust, you need ahusband.
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I'm going to pray for you.
What do you mean, woman?
You better not hang up thisphone.
That was it.
That was it.
She said.
I'm going to pray for you.
Can I tell you I wish I couldsay I was like, yay, husband,
here we go.
No, I wasn't.
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It took me about another year towork through what she said,
cause I was like, oh, is thatwhat this is?
Cause if that's what this is,I'm not sure I want one.
I'm being honest, and I said tofather what it really boiled
down to.
And when I tell you I went backand forth during this time to
figure this out, I'm telling youthe truth, because a
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double-minded man is unstable inall his ways.
So keep in mind, now I'm stillnot dating because I'm
double-minded.
I don't know what it is I want.
And at the same time, I'mpraying Lord, either kill this
desire or fill this desire.
I don't care which one you do,that's entirely up to you.
Kill it or fill it.
I just I don't want to be inthis angst anymore.
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I don't want to bedouble-minded anymore.
So that went on for a long time.
That went on for almost a yearor more.
But here's the thing I remembercoming to the conclusion Lord, I
don't want to get married justso I can have legal sex.
I mean, sex is great, want tohave it, but I don't want that
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to be the only thing that comesout of this marriage.
That comes out of this marriage.
If my marriage cannot serve akingdom purpose you can skip me
on this then, because marriageis work, marriage is ministry,
and marriage causes for you topour out in a way that you're
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not going to pour out into anyother relationship in your life,
and to a depth that you don'tpour out into any other
relationship in your life, andto a depth that you don't pour
out into any other relationshipin your life.
So, that being said, I was likeLord if you can't attach a
kingdom purpose to this, thenplease just kill the desire in
me and let me.
But here's what I don't want.
I don't want to be haunted byit.
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I want to make a sound decisionand then live into my decision.
To make a sound decision andthen live into my decision.
So I remember praying after thatand I literally heard you're
unnecessarily single.
Now I should say to you that Iwas fasting and praying now for
God to kill it or fill it atthis point.
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And then I'm also fasting andpraying for my future husband.
So I'm fasting and praying forhim to kill it or fill it.
I also fasting and praying formy future husband.
So I'm fasting and praying forhim to kill it or fill it.
I'm fasting and praying for myfuture husband.
Tuesday was my fast day for myhusband.
But I'm also telling him tokill it or fill it.
Still double-minded, stilldouble-minded.
And now I'm a little bit whinyabout it, because now I'm not
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even praying.
If I'm really, if I'm reallybeing honest, I'm not even
praying.
It's more like I don'tunderstand why I'm still single.
I don't understand why mendon't approach me, blah, blah,
blah, blah, blah.
I'm really whining, I'm notpraying.
And I guess God had you know.
He was at the point where hewas like that's enough, all
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right, let's wrap this up Oneday.
I'm, you know, I'm doing myprayer, wine, and he says to me
you're unnecessarily single,what You're unnecessarily single
?
You're unnecessarily single notbecause I don't want you to get
married, but because you're notprepared and positioned to be
married.
Oh, excuse me, sir, so sorry,please explain further.
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And then I began to understandthat there were things I didn't
know.
I didn't know how to talk to aman in a romantic relationship.
I knew how to minister.
I didn't know how to talk to aman in a romantic relationship.
I knew how to minister to oneand to how to be appropriate in
ministering to a man, right?
Only men that I knew were myfriend's husbands, and obviously
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you know I would speak to themdifferently than I would a
romantic partner.
I hadn't been around single mento know and no one had the
training to give me that right.
Because, as good Christiangirls, what do we do?
We avoid men at all costsbecause we don't want our
integrity to be compromised.
Well, listen, if the only peoplethat you're speaking to are
your male relatives, those youminister to, or your friend's
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husbands or your own sons, thenwhere are you getting the
information and the support youneed to speak to a man in a
romantic relationship and buildintimacy without sex?
I'll wait, I'll wait.
And I said to my spiritual momI'm sharing all this with her
and she says to me somethingthat made me roll my eyes at her
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.
Now I repented, but I did rollmy eyes.
She said you may have to buildwhat it is you're looking for
and I just like this, ma'am,please.
I was at that time I was alsothe singles minister, by the way
but she said you may have tobuild what you're, what it is
you're looking for.
And that year I also knew I wasnot going to be able to do this
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on my own and I also knew andthis is all by the spirit of God
that I was going to need somehelp.
You know it takes a village toraise children.
You've heard that proverb?
Right, it also is going to takea village to get you married.
You've heard that proverb?
Right, it also is going to takea village to get you married.
Just saying Because, quitefrankly, if you could have done
it on your own, it would havebeen done by now.
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Again, I digress.
I hired a coach.
My coach got me all the waytogether and I started dating.
I had more dates and interestOnce I learned how to speak to
men and how to navigate romanticrelationships.
I had more interest in myonline dating inbox than I could
possibly respond to.
Now here's something really,really interesting At the time,
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my then pastor's wife is the onewho told me to go online and do
some online dating.
Our youth pastor had metsomeone.
She met him.
They dated, got engaged,married and had their first
child in 18 months.
And she was like maybe youshould consider online dating
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and I will tell you, if she hadnot suggested it and endorsed it
for me, I probably wouldn'thave, because at the time I was
like I think it's unseemly for aminister to do that.
But can I tell you, I saw onthere so many people that I knew
in real life.
I'm talking like I would say,maybe 30% of the people that I
came in contact with onlinedating.
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I knew them in real life, indifferent spheres.
There was one man who had beenthe PTA president at my
daughter's school.
There was another who worked ata supermarket where I shopped
every single week.
As a matter of fact, the nextweek when I ran into him, I saw
him online.
I didn't, you know, I didn'tswipe the right way, the correct
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way.
I didn't choose to pursue thatrelationship or to pursue
anything with that man, but wesaw each other in real life.
We were like you're doing thattoo.
So all that shame and all thatkind of stuff kind of faded into
the background because Irealized there were a lot of
people looking for love anddidn't have any other space in
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place to do it but online, likeme, looking for love and didn't
have any other space and placeto do it, but online, like me.
So I started that online dating.
I had my coach.
She was working with me.
I was getting a lot of attention.
I was getting a lot ofattention, a lot as a matter of
fact.
I was getting so much attentionthat I was just enjoying my
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life.
Getting so much attention thatI was just enjoying my life.
Some of it oh, just wait forthe book, because everything
from the lightning strike toBishop Bizarro, I really am
writing a book about myexperiences because I think it's
going to give a lot of womenencouragement.
But, yeah, I had some verybizarre things.
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I had some very interesting andfunny things and I'm yeah, oh,
I can't wait, I can't wait toshare some of that stuff with
you, but anyway, so I'm goingthrough this online dating
experience and it's a mixed bag,right.
So I'm enjoying the attention,but I'm getting quantity but not
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necessarily the quality I waslooking for.
And the last straw for me wasBishop Bizarro, and I'm going to
tell that story in my book.
But he was a bishop.
I will not mention any names.
He had several churches andseveral.
I mean, he was a man of quality.
Right, he had several churchesand several.
I mean he was a man of quality,right, he had several
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investment properties, he hadthis great career.
He was, you know, bivocational.
He had this great career and he, you know, he led several
churches and he was reallyinterested in me and you know we
had great conversation.
I was like, hey, maybe thiscould be something right, child,
please it.
This could be something right,child, please.
It could not be something.
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His bizarre behavior when wemet in person was like yo, did
you just send yourrepresentative?
What are you doing?
We met and I'm like this man iscrazy, like oh my gosh.
Man is.
This man is crazy, like oh mygosh.
So this was the last straw forme, because I had had I had met
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a lot of nice men.
Some of them were good men.
They just weren't good for me.
Some of them were crazy.
At least one of them I almosthad to call the police I didn't
feel safe with.
And there's a whole myriad ofother things that I'm going to
cover.
Matter of fact, I think I'mgoing to host a class just for
good results in online dating,like how do you online date and
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stay safe and find a good manfor you?
I think I'm going to do that.
If you think I should do that,please let me know in the
comments, because I would loveto do that for you.
All right, so anyway, bishopPizarro was the last yes, that's
the name I gave him.
He was the last straw.
I was like I'm not doing this.
I'm not doing this, this is notfor me.
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If God wants me to be marriedonline, he'll tell me to go back
online.
I hear him clearly and I'llwait.
So I was relaying all this to mypastor's wife and she was like
okay, so we had our littlemeeting about some of the things
around the church that I neededto get done and I went home to
take down my profile and when Igot home, there was only one
email in the box.
Now, that was really rare,because I was like sometimes I
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had 10, sometimes I had 30,sometimes I had five, but I
never had one email in my boxsince I had been working with my
coach and I was like, oh, thisis a devil, he's trying to trick
me.
But curiosity got the best ofme and I read it anyway, and I'm
so glad I did, because thisman's email was so respectful
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and so well-written, I couldn'tresist.
I had to know more about thisman, and then I'll tell you the
truth, girls.
One of his pictures he had onhis academic regalia right the
toque and the robe with thethree stripes.
I said three stripes.
He's a doctor.
Oh, maybe he can conjugate averb yes.
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So I immediately sent him anemail.
Thank you so much for youremail and for reaching out.
I'm honestly going to take myprofile down in the next 24
hours.
If you are still interested andyou would like to have further
contact, please let me know.
And I gave him the email hereached out, but so fast he
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typed in the wrong email addressand when I went back in he was
like oh, you didn't respond.
So we were able to connect.
The first time we hadconversation he was like listen,
I don't want to be someone'sboyfriend.
I'm way too old to besomebody's boyfriend.
I want a wife.
Do you want to be a wife?
Okay, is he coming for me?
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Like that.
He's like you know, people inour age group want companionship
.
I don't want companionship, Iwant a wife.
I want my own wife, okay.
He says well, you know, I'mordained and I am ministering.
Are you okay with that?
And I'm like if you're okaywith a female in ministry,
because I had met a lot of menwho were not okay with that.
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That's not a problem for me,okay.
So he said, let's do this,let's meet for coffee this week,
because this was either on aSaturday or a Sunday.
We were going to meet the nextweek.
So he said but let's spend sometime getting to know each other
and whether or not we'recompatible for marriage, and if
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we are, we'll move forward, andif not, we'll bless each other
and go our separate ways.
Okay, and that's what we did.
So for the next six weeks we metin person.
We had three dates in the firstweek, which I got to tell you
is really phenomenal because wewere living in different states.
More on that.
And on top of that, by thethird date, he was like yeah,
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I'm going to marry you.
So I called him Pentecostalpimp to his face and he said no,
I'm sincere and I know thatthis will be good.
So I'm going to make you loveme, I'm going to be consistent
and I'm going to show you thatyou can trust me and then you
can love me and you will.
Awesome, and I did.
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Now I have to tell you beforethat there was this woman at my
church who I saw her, oh, by theway, and this and I cannot, I
cannot believe I forgot thisright, Because this was one of
the things that sealed the deal,to take away that double
mindedness.
I was in the mall with mychildren so I'm backtracking a
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little bit and going down theescalator was this couple from
my church who we just adored andthey had been married, I think,
like 60 years or something.
I mean like forever, forever.
And they were on the escalatorcatching a smooch oh my gosh.
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And my children and I were like, oh my gosh, that's so sweet.
I mean, it's like one of thosethings you didn't know whether
to look away or take it all in,like you didn't.
But I remember saying to her onthat Sunday I said I want that.
You all have been married allthese decades and you're still
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smooching on the escalator.
I want that.
And she said to me honey, youcould have that, I'll pray for
you.
So I had these two elder womenpraying for me.
Fast forward a few months.
While I'm doing this onlinedating thing, she comes to me in
the middle of the churchvestibule and you have to know
she's very petite, I don't thinkshe's five feet tall, but she's
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got a big voice Like she's sixfeet tall.
So in the vestibule she says tome hey, kim, are you even
dating yet, are you?
You're not getting married?
Where's the announcement?
So when she said, just likethat, where's the announcement?
I was like, okay, well, it'snot like.
You know, you can order it froma catalog.
You really just have to, youknow, do what you do.
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She's like something's notright.
God is on the throne and I'mpraying.
We should have had movement bynow.
Are you even trying?
Forget it, forget it.
So by now she's not eventalking to me, she's talking to
herself.
Just forget it, forget it.
I'm going back to the throne.
Two weeks later, in the samechurch, she says to me he's in
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another state.
So in front of everybody, noshame.
She says I call you in from theeast, the west, the north and
the south and I say give him upIf you have to take a train, a
plane, a bus, if you have towalk from Florida.
This is her exact words.
I'll never forget this.
You will come into her lifeimmediately.
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Two weeks later my husband'semail was in my inbox.
Y'all need some elders who canpray in your life.
I'm one of them.
Okay, so let's go back to thattime period.
I have now met my knight inshining armor my last name,
knight.
I have now met my knight inshining armor and we spent the
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first six weeks just exchanginginformation that people usually
would do on the backend right.
So we talked about our credit,we talked about our health, we
exchanged health reports, stdreports.
We talked about what we callthe good, the bad and the grace.
So what was good in our life,what was not so great in our
life and what would take graceto receive.
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We talked about all thosethings.
My spiritual mom said can y'alljust go to a movie?
Just go to a movie?
But we had all thesediscussions that people would
usually date for a long time andthen have on the back end.
We had them on the front end.
We talked about our future andwhat we wanted that to look like
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and what were our concerns andour fears for marriage and what
all needed to be navigated inorder for us to get there.
So we were very intentional andvery deliberate and I have to
tell you, looking back now, Iwas like, wow, we were intense,
but it helped us to walk intothe situation with our eyes wide
(27:08):
open.
So, that said, we dated, gotengaged and married in eight
months because we had done thework right.
So I was 48 at the time and soI was 48, he was 57.
He was like what are we waitingfor?
He was 57.
He was like what are we waitingfor?
We've done the work, we've hadthe conversations ad nauseum
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right and let's get married.
Matter of fact, he wanted tomarry me in three months and
when I finally said yes, he waslike I took so long.
He's like I was slow, but Ineeded to hear from the Lord for
myself.
He said he had heard from theLord that he knew that I would
be a good wife for him, but Ihadn't.
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So during that time period, sofrom the third month until we
got engaged, at around monthfive or six, I was just saying
no.
I was like no, we were stilldating and you know and enjoying
each other's company and allthat good stuff.
But I was just saying no, I waslike no, we were still dating
and you know and enjoying eachother's company and all that
good stuff.
But I was just saying no andand I remember um saying to him
I know you heard the Lord, but Ihaven't.
And he knows what I need tohear in order to make a decision
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this big.
So until I hear from him, I'mnot moving.
I'm not moving on your say-so,I have to move on his say-so.
So we went through months likethis, right and the last day, we
used to go every Friday to aplace to watch the sunset and
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this Friday Father had given methe release to say yes, this
would be a good match for you.
Yes, he came to the park forsunset time to tell me he
couldn't take this anymore andhe was going to break up with me
.
And I came to tell him that Ihad gotten a release to marry
him.
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And what was really funny was,um, he said ladies first.
I don't know what would havehappened if he went first I
really don't but I went firstand I said I felt the leave of
the Lord to say yes and to marryyou.
And he just sat there like, ohmy gosh, I came to break up
Right.
So, naturally, after that wegot engaged and then that fall,
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we got married.
So we dated and got engagedfrom February to October.
By October we were married andthe rest is history, and this is
happily ever after.
So I am saying this to encourageyou, ladies that don't have
that fairy tale ending yet.
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I thought in my first marriageI would get that happily ever
after the end and I didn't.
But this second time, thissecond time is absolutely
wonderful and I want toencourage you because sometimes
we look at the end of someone'sstory, not knowing the beginning
(30:08):
, and think it was just a smooth, easy path.
And it wasn't.
And there's so much more I'mgoing to share with you in the
podcast about how we navigatedthat.
Matter of fact, I think I haveone already that I'm going to
link in the show notes as well,about that newlywed season oh my
gosh, because people think it'sall passionate sex and yeah,
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well, it's some of that.
Get all you can and can't allyou get, hallelujah.
But there's also other thingsthat you have to navigate and
different things and how muchchanged and how people change
towards me, and it was just.
There's a lot to talk about.
So we're going to talk aboutthat in subsequent episodes.
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But I am saying this again toencourage those of you who think
that your story is too much foryou to be married and be in a
covenant relationship with yourhappily ever after, and it's not
.
I am here for those of you whoare single moms, who are too
this too old, too tall, too fat,too deep, too whatever.
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You think that if a man knewthis about you, that you would
be disqualified from marriage,and nothing could be further
from the truth.
So I am here as a representativeto say it happened for me and
it can happen for you, and Iwant to help you with that.
I can cut your learning curveand you will be hearing some
more from the brides that I havehad the opportunity to work
(31:36):
with and I absolutely love theirspouses.
You'll be hearing more fromthem in this season, but you can
go back and listen to theirstories.
I do have interviews with themright before their weddings, so
we're going to get some recapsfrom them and catch up on their
newlywed life.
One of them has been marriedabout six months now and the
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other one is coming up on theirfirst anniversary.
So I can't wait to talk to themand in the meantime and in
between time, I'm going toencourage you to check out some
of the ways that you can workwith me and again I will leave
that link in the show notesUntil next time.
Be wonderfully blessed.
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